- 1. Solo Parenting:A Situationer Presented by Herald Cruz
family
2. My Family oitline 3. Outline of the Seminar
- Solo Parenting: A Situationer
- Solo Parenting: Victim Victor!
definition 4. Introduction The family is theHeartand theCenterof
the Filipinos. It is where faith, the Christian doctrine and the
Gospel values are learned and lived where love, justice, fraternity
and equality are experienced, nourished and cultivated. - (ECMI,
Organizing The Migrants Families, The Pastoral and Social Care of
Migrants and their Families, (Manila: CBCP-ECMI, 1995) p. 6) 3 3
consciousness 5. Happiness Index According to a recent survey
conducted by the NSCB , both Filipino men and women
rankedfamiliesas their primary source of happiness. Health ranked
second and religion ranked third. Income or financial security only
ranked 9th and politics
(http://thelivingrice.blogspot.com/2010/11/survey-says-family-is-no-1-source-of.html)
3 Lotto 3 6. I. Definition of Solo-Parenting
- Somebody who raises child alone: a parent who brings up a child
or children alone, usually because he or she isUnmarried ,Widowed ,
orDivorced .
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(http://encarta.msn.com/dictionary_1861734979/single_parent.html)
Expand 3 Us 3 7. I. Definition of Solo-Parenting 2.Single-parent
families can be defined as families where a parent lives with
dependent children, eitheraloneor in a larger household,without a
spouse or partner
.(http://family.jrank.org/pages/1581/Single-Parent-Families.html)
Alone more with dep 3 8. I. Definition of Solo-Parenting
3.Solo-parent families are now a vitalsubculturethat will have to
be accepted as a legitimate andVitalunit of society. (The
Solo-Parent Experience: A Growing Social Phenomenon, 1996 p. 9) Not
unusual 3 barney 9. My Familys Just Right For Me
- I have a friend who lives with his mom and dad, with his
brother and his sister too.
- They have a cat and a dog and a pet bullfrog, and I am really
glad they do.
10. My Familys Just Right For Me
- There's a girl I know who lives with her mom, and her dad lives
far away.
- Although she sees her parents just one at a time, they both
love her everyday.
11. My Familys Just Right For Me
- I know a boy whose new he just moved in, he moved from
Alabama.
- And the person whos the head of his family, is his loving, dear
ole grandma.
12. My Familys Just Right For Me
- A family is people and a family is love, that's a family.
- They come in alldifferentSizesand different kinds, but mine is
just right for me, yeah, mine isRightfor me.
Changing family landscape Not the typical 3 13. II. Reasons for
Solo-Parenting
- There are a number of reasons why we have this growing social
phenomenon and it is crucial that we understand these so that we
may be able toEmpathizewith them with the intention of helping
.
Enter the world compassion3 14. Reasons
- Divorce/Separation/Annulment
- Mutualagreement to separate
- Giving birth and not choosing to marry
- Raising the child ofRelative
- Solo parenting by unusual situation
Expanded solo care giver 15. Summary
passage 16. John 10:10
- He came that we might have life and live it to the
fullest.
17. III. Challenges of Solo-Parenting
- Everythingoccurring in the family, regardless of how carefully
hidden, impacts the children.Everything . ( R. Hemfelt and P.
Warren, Kids Who Carry Our Pain, p.70.)
Children cabatu 18. Grief
Ask which 19. Which is more painful?
- In death you know they are gone and you will never be with them
again. In divorce (especially if you still love the person)It rips
your heart out every second of every day ..... In death you can let
them go. (http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/451851 )
Case to case resiliency 20. Alone
- 2. Raising the child/children Alone
2 jobs 21. Nurture and Control balance 22. Outcast?
- 3. Facing social acceptability
. Pressure intra inter meta Quote 23. Negative Perception
- The reality I have seen over the years is usually a stressed
out, overworked, debt stricken woman who really had no idea
children cost so much in time, effort and
money.http://outcastsuperstar.blogspot.com/2010/04/rough-guide-to-single-moms-part-1.html)
Sweeping statements 24. Money Matters
- 4. Confronting economic concerns
Economic difficulties 25. Stress Multiplied
- Whether you are among that number because of divorce, or death,
or teen pregnancy, by choice, or other reasons,the life of a single
parent is one of stress.And when you consider the statistics, that
stress is often multiplied by financial concerns
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Stress multiplies 26. Family as a System
- Everybody affects every body
. Bowen 27. Stress Multiplied
- By definition, a family system functions because it is a unit,
andevery family member plays a critical, if not unique, role in the
system . As such, it is not possible that one member of the system
can change without causing a ripple effect of change throughout the
family system.
Affecting each other discuss 28. Discuss
- In your opinion and experience in the field,what do you think
are the common challenges facing solo-parents today?