What Are You Waiting For?Mentoring with a Mission
Answer the Following Questions:write in words, draw a picture of where you are or how you feel, express these answers in a way that means something to you1.)Take a moment and think about your life, are there any big questions or issues you are wondering or struggling with? What are they? Do you have life figured out ?
2.) Is there anyone outside of your family that you talk to about these things? What would it look like to be able to weekly share life with someone who has been there? Who do you talk to about these issues?
3.) If you had a relationship like this what would it look like? What type of woman would you like to meet with? What character qualities would you like her to have?
“Each of us fervently wants someone to see us exactly as we are, warts and all, and still accept us.”
-Larry Crabb Understanding People p 112
Thus, a “discipling” relationship is one in which a disciple helps another person to become more
obedience to Jesus in attitude, life-style and mission.Discipling p. 14
“Some people call it self-esteem. Others say self-worth. Whatever it is—it is the feeling of significance deep inside us that is crucial to our emotional, spiritual, and
social stability. Everyone wants to be happy and successful, and to regard himself or herself as a worthwhile human being. What’s so bad about that?”
-The Search For Significance student edition p. 5
“Spiritual formation, education of the heart, in other words, requires
something more than traditional Western forms of instruction. It requires a mentorship of the heart, a relationship
with a teacher of life who is able to convey . . . a way of life that is formed,
not merely instructions that are given. It requires a life shared by people who
have learned that spiritual music is sung in its own way. To educate the heart
requires learning that frees the imagination, prepares ears to listen,
focuses eyes to look with attentiveness; it requires an open heart.” (Reese & Anderson, Spiritual Mentoring, p. 17)
Mentor Defined someone who teaches or gives help and advice to a less experienced and often
younger personMariam Webster Dictionary
Keys Of Mentoring-involves focusing on Christ
-acceptance of one another
-spending time with others/building relationships
Keys Of Mentoring1) A guide; planning, leading, directing,
correcting, they should be positive, the mentor should provide motivation and encouragement
Keys Of Mentoring2) A resource; allowing their mentee to ask
questions without fear of ridicule, disappointment or belittlement. The mentor
should be the resource to the mentee concerning anything about their topic.
Keys Of Mentoring3) A support; communication, open availability,
encouragement, humor, trust, care, positive affirmation, gentle critiquing. Supports the
mentee in rethinking her learning
Keys Of Mentoring4) A connection; The mentor needs to be
connected with the mentee, her strengths, weaknesses, and stress level and level of
excitement.
Keys Of Mentoring5) An active participant. There should also be an active dialog between the mentor and the mentee. The communication between the two
participants must continually be two-way, allowing complete communication of ideas,
issues and collaboration.
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What Are You Waiting For?Add more questions
What are your next steps going to be?
What place does mentoring have in your life?
Is anything going to be different because you heard this today? What?
Mentoring: Teaching in Relationship
Countless women today long to be nurtured. They want the love and
acceptance of a mother or a mother-substitute. They want to feel the warmth
and security of an older woman’s approval. And Countless women of faith
throughout the world today are the embodiment of these and other virtues
that equip them to nurture younger women. But they don’t know how to do it.
Spiritual Mothering 18
Titus 2:3-53 Older women likewise are to be
reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young
women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-
controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own
husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled
Context Titus 1:10-11, 16“Of all the ways Paul could have commanded the women to combat the decadence of culture, he told them to invest their energies in training the younger women to live Christianly in their society.” Spiritual Mothering 42
“The Combination of spiritual maturity and life experiences qualify a woman to nurture a younger woman.”
“If you area Christian who is seeking to grow in the faith and to live obediently, then you are qualified for spiritual mothering.”spiritual mothering 47- 48
Mentoring1. Command from Paul for Older women who 2. Helps next generation to combat the lies of the world
3. Qualifications=spiritual maturity and life experience
4. Growing relationship with Christ.
What are you waiting For?How can you mentor?Who can you mentor?Do you have hindrances to mentoring? What are they?Do you think God is calling you to mentor currently? Why or why not? How will this change your life?