LOVE AND DATING
WHAT IS LOVE?
Love is a strong affection for another person.
TWO TYPES OF LOVE
Romantic love: is the exhilarating feeling, head over heels in love
Mature love: is long lasting, caring, and giving type of love
INFATUATION VS. LOVE Based on instant
desire
Physical
Lacks confidence and trust in the other commitment
Accepting of one another’s flaws
Based on sharing interests and ideas
Trusting and secure
WHY DO WE DATE? In our society dating leads to
engagement, marriage and children.
Dating is also a learning process. It provides us with experiences that help us better understand ourselves as well as others.
FUNCTIONS OF DATING Understanding of others
Understanding yourself
Providing companionship
Improving communication skills
FUNCTIONS OF DATING Learning to negotiate
Learning to be responsible
Evaluating personality traits
DATING There are many different types of dating
Each has their pros and cons
Formal dating: when one person invites another to planned event.
Informal dating: two or more people agree to meet and spend time together in a relaxed environment.
TYPES OF DATING Group dating: several boys and girls
spend time together, developing friendships with those in the group.
Pro/Con
Pair dating: a couple will develop a relationship with each other.
Pro/Con
Steady dating: is commitment to date only one person.
Pro/con
Double dating: can be good transition from group dating to pair dating.
Pro/con
Random dating: a person dates more than one person at a time.
Pro/con
HEALTHY VS. UNHEALTHY A healthy relationship should bring more
happiness than stress into your life.
Every relationship will have stress at times, but you want to prevent prolonged mental stress.
SIGNS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS Take care of yourself and have good self-
esteem independent of your relationship
Respect each other's individuality
Maintain relationships with friends and family
Have activities apart from one another
Are able to express yourselves to one another without fear of consequences
Feel secure and comfortable
Do not worry about violence in the relationship
Trust each other and be honest with each other
UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP At times all relationships will have some
unhealthy characteristics.
However, unhealthy relationships will exhibit these characteristics more frequently and cause you stress and pressure that is hard to avoid.
Put one person before the other by neglecting yourself or your partner
Pressure to change who you are for the other person
Worried when you disagree with the other person
Feel pressure to quit activities you usually/used to enjoy
WHERE AND WHEN SHOULD YOU SEEK HELP FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
DISCUSS IN GROUP.
Video on unhealthy relationships
Teen Dating Abuse Survivors - YouTube.mp4
ENDING A RELATIONSHIP Ending a relationship can be very
difficult and painful.
It is usually one sided- one person wants to move on and the other doesn’t
TIPS FOR ENDING A RELATIONSHIP
Realize your partner will feel hurt. There might be anger and resentment, but
remember time heals all wounds.
Change your dating patternsSpend time at places where your ex is not
for a little while. It will avoid confrontation and hurt feelings.
Recognize your feelings as normalFeelings of pain and loneliness don’t mean
you made the wrong decision.They are part of the grief process when it
comes to ending a relationship.
Emphasize other aspects of your lifeKeep yourself busy on other things. Learn a
new hobby. Reconnect with old friends.
DISCUSSION:IS IT OK TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE OVER THE PHONE, THROUGH TEXT, OR SOCIAL MEDIA?
TALK ABOUT IT WITH YOUR GROUP, THEN VOTE ON WHETHER YOU THINK IT IS OK OR NOT.
5 NON-NEGOTIABLES
What are 5 things a person must have for you to be in a relationship with them.
i.e. must be a non-smoker