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Type 2(Image Triad)

Twos are about love and other people and especially pride. Specifically twos are kind and gentle feeling

types who take pride in being considerate of others to feel worthy of being loved themselves. They take

pride in seeing people as people. They like people and want to feel closer to them. They take pride in

recognizing the importance of others...the "I"..."you"...and "me". They are receptive and responsive. They

have strong empathetic feelings and take pride in being sensitive and compassionate towards others.

They are attuned to what others might need. This can include people they hardly know or even in an

abstract capacity.

[note: Yes, but not always and not something I feel like I *have* to be. I pick and choose the people I do

these things for]

Simply being caring and compassionate isn't enough though. Twos are natural givers and handpick

themselves as the person to fulfill what others need. They feel drawn to be in a facilitating role where they

feel they can make a difference in people's lives. They take pride in considering all people important

especially the disadvantaged and the neglected. No one is left behind. They take pride in being willing to

get involved in roles that require getting in the trenches. They are drawn to being mentors and facilitators

and volunteer roles in general. A two whom no one notices does the thankless job of stocking shelves in

the back. Another two dutifully answers your questions and does whatever you ask. Another two greets

you warmly at the door and offers to show you around the place. Another two organized all the twos

together for the volunteer effort. While each of these twos are different fulfilling other people's needs gives

all of them a sense of pride.

Twos take pride in being strong enough to take care of themselves and not need help in addition to being

strong enough to assist others who do need help. Twos are image types and maintaining a sense of

dignity is central to the considerate of others persona they've cultivated. They don't need to "collect" for

the good they have done for others. They take pride in not being a burden on others and don't like

admitting they have problems to fix and needs to be met. They prefer to deal with their issues themselves

as people depend on them not the other way around. It is others that need help and not the two.

This twoish blindspot of others needing them more than vice versa is caused by their pride. They don't

see themselves well due to their other-directed self-image orientation. They can be uncannily skilled at

reading other people's emotional states and responding accordingly but often don't recognize their own

needs and underlying motives. While they take pride in their loved ones' being better off due to them they

need to be the main person in their lives. They need to feel essential to them in some capacity and have

a knack for accomplishing that. If they have acted on good intentions they have earned the right to be

loved and appreciated. If they go out of their way for others and get overlooked then they hurt a great


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deal. Even answering "no" is way better than not acknowledging their offer. They try to cover up the pain

with their pride in being a good person and that it's others' fault for not recognizing that.

In enneagram theory twos are feeling-gut-thinking in that order and pride themselves in being considerate

of others. They go with their feelings at the expense of looking at the cold hard realities of others and

seeing themselves clearly. Their biggest fear is being unworthy of love and no longer being essential to

others they care about. Being superego compliant types they justify being and existing in general by their

willingness to go out of their way for others and supress their ugly and aggressive tendencies. They are

tougher than the kind and gentle persona they project and being image types their self-image must be

protected at all costs. They take pride in their own humility by being self-effacing. They note others who

are more worthy. They also downplay themselves relative to others and say the kindness they displayed

was nothing major. They always seem to remember the special occasions about others especially

birthdays and anniversaries. Every good deed is an opportunity to score points with themselves over how

unselfish they are. They try so hard to be unselfish that they ironically become selfish in the process.

Living up to their "good" self-image also makes twos surprisingly perfectionistic about meeting their own

standards and expectations. It's really more about meeting their demands than the demands of others.

They willingly put themselves in positions where they enjoy being accountable to the bar they set forthemselves. Typical type two streams of consciousness are "Does it make me a bad person if I don't trust

him?"..."What will I think of myself if I don't live up to this? I have to do this!" Their shame at not meeting

their own expectations is a source of drive. Being image types the deeds they do equals who they are

and being superego compliant they have the hardest time forgiving themselves. They have a lot of pride

in being considerate so anything to the contrary is very difficult to swallow.

Like all image types twos cultivate a persona and confuse that with their true self. The more unhealthy a

two is the greater the disconnect and the greater their pride based on their false persona. They have

more pride in being self-effacing...kind...and gentle than actually being those qualities. This causes them

to overestimate how considerate of others they are and how much people should feel grateful for them.

They give to get to reaffirm their selfless identity even to the point of misprojecting other's needs. They

then guilt-trip..."after all I've done for you". Tell them they have ulterior motives like "You just want to do

this for me to claim credit for being a good person don't you" and heaven help you. Manipulating and

intrusive tendencies emerge that are at odds with their angelic self-image. Beneath their velvet glove is

an iron hand with a steely resolve. They like others having strings attached to them as it gives them a

veiled form of control. The more unhealthy they are the more strings attached they want so that others

can't easily sever their connections to them. It's all about keeping the strings attached even by becoming

victims themselves if necessary. Healthy twos in contrast have learned to use their thinking center to see

their pride for what it is. They've learned to seperate their character from their self -image. If they make a

mistake that goes against their self-image of being a good person they can release themselves from their

guilt and forgive themselves. They've learned to be comfortable with being selfish when it's called for.

They become helpful and supportive without needing that to score points with themselves.

2w1s are more about "being called to serve". They're the twos more likely to be drawn to community

service jobs and religious vocations. They are more likely to serve others purely out of principle. They

take pride in being willing to assist others at the expense of themselves. They are proud to make

sacrifices and accept the thankless jobs others don't want. They look to give up their time to benefit

people more than work with people directly. They are willing to toil anonymously in unglamourous roles

behind the scenes. They are willing to get their hands dirty with nothing to show for it. They take pride in

not thinking highly of themselves for their good deeds when they know they could. Seeing others better


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off is its own reward. That is what it truly means to serve people.

2w1s tend to be more introverted and less saccharine. Due to their one wing they are both more idealistic

and harder on themselves. They are also grittier and have more of a self-righteous streak. While they are

more restrained and appropriate they are also more fiercely independent. They are more self-referential

and less concerned with others expectations. They have a more internal system of scoring "virtue" points

with themselves.

2w1s pride themselves in being down-to-earth and in not needing attention. They take pride that they are

often overlooked and don't get the recognition they deserve. They take pride in being able to consider

others who are more deserving more worthy than themselves. They have an ego in not internally exalting

themselves for what they do. While they are proud to assist others without fanfare they stil l resent not

being given their due. They are prone to falling in love with their own tragedy of never getting the credit

that they deserve. When unhealthy they have a more veiled nature of controlling people compared to their

more effusive and domineering three-winged siblings.

2w3s are more about "seeking to help and inspire". They value openmindedness and view beingjudgemental as counterproductive. They have more of an obvious need to be needed and are naturals at

being the center of attention. They are more likely to host and organize things that others are interested

in. They're the twos more likely to be involved with more open and cooperative facilitating efforts like

charities and non-profit organizations. They take pride in being able to offer assistance where others want

help. They are as much about the relationships as the help efforts.

Unlike their one-winged siblings 2w3s are anything but invisible. They tend to be warmer and more

charming. They are more connective and upbeat. The more extroverted ones tend to be cloying and

tacky. Either way they are characters that have no problem standing out. Due to their three wing they are

both more results-oriented and naturally confident. They are more ambitious and competitive. They are

also smoother and more pragmatic as well as more expansive and effusive. They are less self-referential

and more likely to see interdependence as acceptable...even desireable. Although they set their own

expectations they are concerned with what others think of them enough to let that dictate their actions.

They have a more external interpersonally-based system of scoring "goodness" points with themselves.

2w3s pride themselves in being "just what the doctor ordered" for that person or situation. They take pride

in being naturals at helping others. They hold themselves in high-esteem. They have a more variable self-

image and are more adaptable. They have more of an ego in being an altruistic VIP. If they go out of their

way for someone and don't get appreciated they can become manipulative and bossy. When unhealthy

their style of controlling others tends to be more domineering and smothering compared to their more

restrained one-wing siblings.

2 vs 1: Ones are much harder on themselves than twos. Twos can think highly of themselves merely by

seeing themselves as considerate of others. Even when twos are self-critical...they have more of a pride

in being self-critical. Twos being image-center first won't hesitate to have outbursts of emotion, which

seems like a lack of self-control to the one.

2 vs 3: Twos being compliants feel they have to do something in contrast to threes who want to do

something. Twos despite being other-directed are really creating and meeting their own expectations.

2 vs 4: Fours are elitist and are very comfortable with that. Fours don't like it when twos trivialize the

complexity of their problems when a two says problems can be helped. Fours go out of their way to show


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they are not gentle while twos suppress that.

2 vs 5: Twos like people while fives range from apathy to being misanthropic. Twos feel a need to be in a

facilitating role for others while a five is very comfortable withdrawing from people.

2 vs 6: Twos tend to be much more certain and sure of themselves than sixes. Twos are the iron hand

beneath the velvet glove and are more formidable than they appear. Twos have pride that it is always

others that need their help and never the two.

2 vs 7: Twos are drawn to putting themselves in positions of assisting others where they have to live up to

their own expectations. Sevens don't like to put themselves in positions that would curtail their freedom.

2 vs 8: Twos suppress the sides of themselves that aren't gentle while eights wear their badassery on

their sleeves.

2 vs 9: Twos unlike nines have controlling tendencies. Twos also have much stronger egos and are more

formidable.


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Type 3(Image Triad)

Threes are identity-seeking image types who believe they have the potential to become someone

outstanding. Just as cream rises to the top so do they see it is their destiny to reach their potential. They

want, even need, to become "winners in life" in the broader sense of the term, ie a positive version of

anything but a "loser", to prove they have value and are valuable relative to others. A three is acutely

aware of their self-development and evolution as a person, "who they are" as a work in progress. They

have a deep-seated awe of themselves, of their journey, as well as their destination. They visualize

"fulfilling the story of them" and "finally making it". They are resilient and bounce back from setbacks by

detaching from their emotions and having a positive attitude. If they face failure or rejection they visualize

how their journey must continue and pull themselves together to get back on track. They won't let

circumstances get the best of them. They need to be moving forward otherwise they feel like they are

falling behind.

There is no type that is more aware of how they come across to others. They can seem confident and

self-assured on the outside yet have surprisingly fragile self-esteem on the inside. "Everyone loves a

winner and no one loves a loser" resonates with all types but particularly with type three. They need to

feel they are "winners in life" to feel they have sufficient self-worth to silence their internal voice of doubt.This causes a whole host of problems: focusing on becoming who they want to be instead of being who

they are, and confusing being who they are with doing what they do. They fear others being able to see

through them enough to discover they are not quite who they appear to be. This brings about deeper

fears of possibly being meaningless and worthless, and feeling they could be a loser beneath it all.

On a more subconscious level threes are aware of the inconsistencies in their self-presentation that are

caused by their efforts to find the right angle with others. They can be either very boring or very fun for

example. They may feel others are on the verge of seeing that they are not quite who they appear to be.

Without fully realizing it they hint to others that they are "not just anyone". They excessively let slip clues

like went to a good school, has a great sense of style, was good at soccer as a kid, has a great career,

how good they are at their hobby, etc. They subtly remind others of the interesting person they are or the

ideal person they are in the process of becoming. On a more conscious level they may even be

excessively forthright about certain weaknesses to look more professional or to be seen as more humble,

perhaps overcorrecting what feels "off" in themselves. Their body language reflects a very subtle

eagerness for one to mirror back to them how they are doing in real time to give them a sense of

direction. There's a lot on the line so they try their best to hit the right notes with people.

This combined with confusing who they are with what they do can cause more superficial threes to

confuse style with substance. They may have a checklist approach to self-definition and equate

themselves with their resume. Not surprisingly it may be hard for others to get close to the real them. In

extreme cases the disconnect between who they are and what they project can become so large that

once the three achieves everything they feel like a sham and their lives take a drastic turn to reflect that.

Most threes aren't like that however. On the upside threes are very good at holding themselves

accountable and aren't averse to putting in the hard work needed to become the person they have in

mind. In addition to being ambitious they tend to be more responsible and more adaptive than the

average person. While the more extroverted 3s are good networkers and salespeople, many 3s are

content to live their lives in private trying to become the best "them" they can be.

In enneagram theory 3s are image center primary which is said to be disassociated from their thinking

and instinctive centers. Much of the three fixation can be traced to excessive consciousness in their


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image or valuing center. That is precisely why threes are both the most aware of how they come across to

others and most aware of their value in the eyes of themselves and others. 3s being part of the 3-6-9

group have a very fundamental desire to find their place among people and the world. Their awareness of

how they come across to others makes them do that by becoming the best or most they can be. When

healthy they are able to get in touch with their real selves as they realize they don't have to trade in who

they are to become the person they want to be. Healthy 3s are excellent at inspiring others how to reach

their potential just as they have done.

The 3w2 version of outstanding is closer to something that's more w2 inclusive, accessible to everyone

and more mainstream. They are on average more sociable and are more about putting their best them

forward. They want to shine. The more extroverted 3w2s have a beaming brightness to them. As one

poster put it:

"It is far more about end product than process for me. I dont really need to appear to have taking no effort

whatsoever, though I hardly wish to lay out my every faltering baby step in my process for review. What is

more important is what you are, how you present, how you impress. It is about commanding that stage,

turning in a scintillating performance, dazzling them all so you are the one that gets remembered. Andsure it takes work to get there, to be that person. But thats just part of it all. That happens, but it is

nothing to dwell on, because of course you have to work hard, thats just part of the game, nothing

remarkable there, lets just look at what weve become."

The 3w4 version of outstanding is closer to something that's more w4 exclusive, more unique and

original, just out of reach and admired from a distance. 3w4s are more aloof, more melanchonlic and icy

cool. They tend to romanticize the hard work needed to get to top when no one was looking: "the dignity

that is in work"(Obama). They are about putting their best foot forward in a more professional dignified

manner. As one poster put it:

"The 3w4 romanticising of hard work is really the keen awareness of the image/reality dichotomy its

about everything you dont see the work it takes to appear as though there is no effort involved its

about knowing what it takes; that sense of bittersweetness every time someone gives you a compliment.

Its the secret you keep of everything youre not of how youve had to become, but that no one else will

ever know. Its the steely, gracious and enigmatic smile as you walk on stage, thinking about what its

taken to get here. Thats the 3w4 romanticism of hard work. That sense of being born with leaden feet,

but having overcome it with nothing but willpower and desire, to take to flight as though always born with

great and golden wings."

3 vs 1: Threes are much more natural at promoting themselves. No type finds it as difficult to toot their

own horn as a one.3 vs 2: Twos are compliant types that feel they have to do things. Twos also find it very difficult to forgive

themselves.

3 vs 4: Threes focus more on self-development while fours focus more on self-expression. Fours must

live out their emotional states.

3 vs 5: Threes are much more comfortable promoting themselves. Fives find it awkward to sell

themselves in any capacity.

3 vs 6: Unlike sixes, threes need to become someone outstanding.

3 vs 7: Threes focus much better than sevens and aren't as naturally spontaneous as sevens.


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3 vs 8: Unlike threes, eights are anything but apologetic and are comfortable with people not liking them.

Eights see themselves as animalistic while threes don't.

3 vs 9: Threes need to become someone outstanding. They are prone to overestimating their abilities

where they have their ego invested whereas nines tend to underestimate their abilities.


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Type 4(Image Triad)

Fours are image types who primarily identify with their feelings. They are moody and self-absorbed as

well as very sensitive. They are disdainful, hostile even, towards being "normal" or "common". On the

deepest of levels they are "different from others" and "true to themselves" and therefore significant,

special, and unique. They are honest with themselves about how feelings are central to their lives and

unlike twos and threes appear to wear their shame and vulnerability on their sleeve. Whether warranted

or not fours attach subjective significance to their feelings from which they strive to create an identity

embedded with their own stylistic signature that is their "personal statement" of who they are.

Their stylistic "personal statement" of who they truly are is the image that fours create and project to

others. It can be dramatically expressive, finely parisian, absurdly original, profoundly eclectic, or

something else that reflects the four's aesthetic sense of how to fully express themselves and their

opposition to normalcy. This eccentric, dramatic, or "weird" persona fours may take on can be a method

of countershame which serves to cover up the deep sense of shame fours hold for themselves and

transform it into an attack on the external world. To compensate for their shame and feelings of

defectiveness fours exhibit a subtle snobbery and elitism and see others as ordinary and trite. They feel

their outsider status, sophistication, aesthetic sensitivity, creativity, and personal insight place them abovethe "commoners". This is how fours feel authentic.

Holding fast to living out their stylistic "personal statement" ideal to stay "true to themselves" despite

seeming strange to others is how fours maintain being authentic. Their sense of being flawed,

misunderstood, and of not being seen for "who they really are" only reaffirms to them that they are too

different to live according to the terms and standards of normalcy as dictated by society. They were born

to be outsiders and in order to be true to themselves they must live out their outsider destiny. This the

very crux of the four's sense of identity and there is no type whose identity is as real to them as the four.

Fours are especially aware of their identity as a creative construct based on what resonates emotionally

with them. While they strive to be as true to themselves as possible they resonate most with an ideal

image that has unattainable depth and complexity. They perpetually fall short of their own personal ideal

which causes shame and increased self -consciousness over the rootlessness of lacking a stable identity.

This makes them constantly feel inadequate, defective, flawed, fustrated, melancholic, and envious of

others who are better off. To make up for the perennial sense of something essential missing inside

themselves they indulge in amplifying their emotions in each situation in the name of authenticity and

searching for meaning. They internalize and personalize their experiences to squeeze the emotional

juices out of each situation. They probe the darker sides of life and deepest depths of their psyche where

most people don't dare tread. They introspect and observe themselves far beyond the average person.

They feel they have a cretain richness in their lives that other lack, for others haven't seen what they've

seen, known what they've known, and felt what they've felt.

The four's picturesque inner landscape is equally rich if not richer, a vast and endlessly deep treasuretrove of murky nooks and crannies of emotional states to inhabit and indulge themselves in. They have a

wistful side and dwell on the bittersweet nostalgia of past memories. They also create their own "personal

story" filled with myth and metaphor and live it out as though it were as real as reality itself. Indulging their

imagination to live out their emotional states and allow themselves to feel intensely is necessary to feel

true to themselves. Part of their disdain for the ordinary has to do with feeling a need to amplify and

intensify their feelings as ordinary experiences rarely satisfy them. Hence fours often find practical

matters difficult.


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Such closeness with one's emotional states brings an aesthetic sensitivity most fours have in common.

Fours have a natural creative process that is necessitated by using their feelings to create an identity.

They are often associated with being artists in some sense even if they aren't in the literal meaning of the

word. They seek out the beauty in every experience. As fours are especially attuned to what gives light to

meaning they breathe new life into their experiences and transform them.

This need to live out and even amplify their emotional states makes for anything but a trite existence.

Fours can be paralyzed with self-hatred, and consumed with envy and even paralyzed with hatred for

others. While fours are self-loathing they want to be heard out and understood more than offered a

"patronizing" practical solution to their pain. They'd rather wallow in their suffering than have the depth of

their turmoil trivialized and thus their feelings marginalized and invalidated. The combination of belonging

to the reactive triad and being a feeling type means despite the four's fragility they can get hostile towards

the person who clearly doesn't understand them. One should beware as there is no type that can hone in

on another's emotional vulnerabilities and pierce others with their words like a venemous four. On the flip

side fours can be very devoted and supportive. They can be deeply empathetic and very in tune with their

partner's emotional states.

Thus fours tend to be high maintainence. They envy happy people and dream of finding that specialsomeone who can rescue them from their melancholy. This shows up especially in relationships as fours

hold their partners to high expectations. While fours are very accepting of a partner's quirks one should

expect to be tested constantly by their drama which is really a fear of abandonment due to shame over

their defectiveness. They are known for their "push-pull" behaviour where they share their deepest

darkest secrets with their partner and then recoil in shame at what they revealed. They preemptively

withdraw fearing their partner will seem them as irredeemably flawed and will leave them. If their partner

sticks with them the process repeats as long as the four fears abandonment.

In enneagram theory fours are feeling-thinking-instinctive in that order. They indulge in amplifying their

feelings at the expense of having a handle on the mundane aspects of real life. Their "difference from

others" and self-absorbedness pushes them away from others enough to cultivate difference-based ideal

self-images they can't achieve. This can set in motion a self-destructive cycle whereby they cling to their

arrogance that the masses lack the nuance to understand them. Being instinctive-last they are more

ungrounded than others and have a greater chance of sinking into despair and falling deep enough into

an abyss they can't recover from. They sincerely want to get healthy but don't want to give up their

overidentification with defectiveness and with it being an outsider, the source of their identity and fuel for

their fixation. They can get healthier by realizing that others suffer just as they do and that their personal

experiences aren't as different from others' as they make them out to be. They can start to accept and

embrace what they have in common with others and experience success relating to them. This will allow

them to understand that meaning and significance can be found outside uniqueness and with that greater

flexibility to create a more realistic identity they won't keep falling short of actualizing. Once they accept

the entirety of who they are they won't have to depend on amplifying their emotional states to live out an

idealized persona they can never be. With a more authentic self-perception comes increased self-lovewithout losing their insight and creativity and what makes them "them". They will be able to experience

the joy of living in the present without being chained to the past.

4w3s are theatrical, dramatic, and effete. Compared to 4w5s they are generally more ambitious and

competitive, and place a greater emphasis on appearing beautiful, desireable, and elite. They tend to feel

entitled and exempt. They are said to be divas and aristocrats as their three wing transforms their sources

of shame and defectiveness into art and expression, an aloof presentation that incorporates


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conventionally desireable elements into their style. They have a more glorious self-image and are more

inspiration-seeking. They feel a connection with the magical as if they're part of a special class of people

with secret powers. They are the outsiders who dream of magically returning to show others what they

missed. The magical overtones in their persona are reminders of that to themselves. Compared to 4w5s

they have more energy to keep up the act to get by in the world, but are also more likely to feel fake about

it afterwards. They balance a greater ability to wear different masks with greater shame over losing their

internal substance. They have an amorphous self-image that adapts to others but is in conflict with the

core 4 fixation which sees it as "inauthentic". They are less likely than 4w5s to call out others for not being

authentic for fear of pointing the finger back at themselves and their many contradictions.

4w3s are marked by multiple dichotomies due to types 3 and 4 being opposites in so many ways:

inferior/superior, being/becoming, self-conscious/confident, putting themselves down/glorifying

themselves, withdrawn/assertive, emotional/flatlined, reactive/cool-headed, mired in the past/focused on

moving forward, awkward/poised, fragile/resilient, easily discouraged/do whatever it takes, rejecting the

game/conquering the game. While they will put up countershame smokescreens to get your attention and

see if you are perceptive enough to see and accept the real them underneath, they may seem distant to

even close ones to keep up appearances. Ideally they'd have a rich emotional life without having the

ugliest parts of themselves exposed.

Underneath a 4w3's more fluid identity their 4ness gives them an awareness of something truer and

deeper within themselves that roots everything. Their 3 wing precludes people from seeing fully what is

inside them including even themselves. However they know their personal awareness anchor is there no

matter where their changeability takes them. They know on a deeper level their fluctuations stem back to

a single consistent essence. Still, they wonder if they are fooling themselves. Despite their consistent

underlying essence they lead an inconsistent life and wonder if they are being true to themselves. They

try to balance selling themselves out in the real world with hanging out amongst the "keeping it real"

crowd. They are more likely to go the distance in their career due to their three wing before their fourness

causes them to sabotage themselves. In extreme cases 4w3s totally give up on life after finally "making

it".

4w5s have a harsher edge than 4w3s and are the true outsiders of the enneagram. They tend to be more

intellectual and introspective. They are more likely to philosophize their inner reality. Many 4w5s have an

unflinching "this is me so deal with it" persona that's harder and crustier in comparison to 4w3s. They tend

to be absurdly original or profoundly eclectic. Either way they have a more "take it or leave it" attitude and

are more likely to direct a critical edge at others. Their persona serves more to redirect their shame away

from their vulnerable self behind it in contrast to the 4w3 whose more shapeshifting persona facilitates

relating to people. The more shame a 4w5 feels the more they implode, or in some cases amplify their

persona as a countershame response. As a result 4w5s are more likely to present a more bizarre and

even grotesque image in some instances that reflects their feelings of defectiveness combined with a

fascination for the macabre that their five wing brings.

4w5s have a great pride in staying "true to themselves no matter what" amidst what changes in the world

around them. They accept being isolated from others and are personally invested in their self-image

enough to stick with it through thick and thin. They are equally proud of suffering for their weirdness as

paying the price for being who they are only makes them feel even more authentic about themselves. It

illustrates how they are too complex to be understood by the unworthy who lack the perception to decode

their many layers to understand the real them.


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Suffering for their internal self-image serves to reinforce their authenticity. The more they suffer for it the

more they cling to their internal self-image and 4w5s wear their lack of compromise as a badge of honor

for being true to themselves. "I'm completely true to myself and no one can take that from me." They

mythologize their own personal tragedy. On the flip side being double-withdrawn they have less of a will

to deal with the world and feel more overwhelmed by it. Despite seeking meaning in everything they are

more likely to tend towards nihilism. Combine that with being even more true to themselves in response

to their suffering and they become more and more disconnected from the world. In a self-destructive cycle

the 4w5 holds his head high at never selling himself out like others, but ironically has little to nothing to

show for it since he's actualized his identity with futile concepts that have no basis in reality. A feeling of

hopelessness sets in and he withdraws from the world more permanently.

4 vs 1: Fours are indulgent whereas ones see that as a lack of self-control.

4 vs 2: Twos are other-directed while fours are more attuned to their own needs and self before others as

the self is their primary focus

4 vs 3: Fours sink or swim wherever their emotions take them while threes don't like to give free reign to

the expression of their emotions.

4 vs 5: Fours are in the feeling triad so feelings are their home base unlike fives who have to periodicallydetach from them to prevent from feeling overwhelmed.

4 vs 6: Fours are comfortable with their elitism as they just know they have insight and creativity others

lack. Sixes don't like it when people place themselves above others due to it being unfair.

4 vs 7: Sevens have a blind faith in the future working out for them unlike fours. Sevens are more future-

oriented and fours are past-oriented.

4 vs 8: Eights are the tough exterior with the marshmallow core underneath while fours are the opposite.

Eights avoid displays of emotional vulnerability while fours see the ability to live out their emotions as

desireable.

4 vs 9: Fours use separation to proudly affirm how different they are while nines fear being separated

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Type 5(Head Triad)

Fives are intellectually curious types who love to explore what interests them. They frequently indulge in

spending lots of time with what's impractical. While they put lots of effort into thinking about things they

have deceptively strong feelings however. They state their points dispassionately and insure what they

communicate is well thought out which make them seem less emotional than they really are.

Fives take it for granted they have an inherent ability to theorize and understand things more deeply than

others, something they'd never say openly. They are never quite "fully there" in their physical presence

however. Their sensitivity to emotional stimuli plus a lack of smoothness from their less developed

instincts always makes them removed to some degree to better handle situations. They withdraw from

their environment and detach emotionally from others to shut out intrusions in their time and space. From

the safety of their minds they can intensify their investment in their mental activities. They feel planning

sufficiently and knowing enough can enable them to survive and thrive in life despite being isolated. This

overuse of their thinking center to navigate an intrusive world from a distance causes them to be both

idiosyncratic in how they perceive reality and eccentric as others perceive them. This causes fives to

exhibit a certain quirky cleverness.

Fives are far more sensitive than they appear. Being fear types they tend to feel a crippling anxiety that's

usually only noticed by close family and friends. Behind their distant exterior often lurks feelings

threatening to overwhelm them. They prefer their privacy where they can immerse themselves in

whatever interests them. Their limitless curiosity causes them to be self-motivated to learn challenging

things and delve into subjects they truly enjoy, to the point of compulsion even. More than any other type

they are connisseurs of knowledge. As a result fives tend to have a few intellectual areas of interest they

have a deep understanding in which they take great pride in. Many fives withhold their knowledge just as

they withhold themselves however, hence the five stereotype of a reclusive expert that no one knows

about.

Fives see an interdependent world that desires too much from them. It's not uncommon to see them cut

out dead weight and live minimalistic lifestyles to separate themselves from the world. They feel people

want more of them than they have of themselves to give. They are affected by others easily and withdraw

because they don't believe they have what it takes to deal with other people's demands and expectations.

They are equally aware of being a burden on others and withhold both themselves and their emotions

from others. Expressing emotions can make them feel vulnerable as they fear that will backfire in front of

people who clearly don't understand them. They don't care for superficial small talk and limit themselves

to authentic people who do have the potential to understand them. At work they prefer to be given their

assignment then left alone. Even in relationships they may withhold parts of themselves and keep many

secrets. Simply put fives are fear types who are always wary of people or things that come with "strings

attached". Because their instinctive center is weakest they fear "giving their power away" would lead to

them being a "sitting duck."

This fear of being a "sitting duck" leads fives to focus on having power. They remove themselves from

external activity in order to feel they have enough mastery of the situation to navigate it from a position of

strength. They seperate what's important from what's irrelevant and have an unrelenting focus to get to

the bottom of things. They delight in "checkmating" others' points that aren't as well thought-out as theirs

along the way. Their intellectual curiousity for a subject is intense enough to eventually turn into mastery.

They imagine scenarios to understand the world well enough to anticipate reality. They feel powerful

trusting their own opinions over what society says. They think things are under control if they know

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They have delusions of grandeur that make them dream about how the world would be if they had the

ability to set things. They feel powerful knowing that others haven't thought about stuff as deeply as they

have and don't understand what they understand. This "claim" along with their borderline intellectual

overconfidence is a cover on a more subconscious level for their heightened sensitivity and inadequacy

though. It's one thing to create theories but quite another to put them into practice. They have trouble with

simpler things that most people can handle spontaneously. They know how odd they are and always feel

fundamentally apart from others.

In enneagram theory fives are thinking-feeling-instinctive in that order. This causes them to intensify their

efforts thinking up scenarios to anticipate and handle reality at the expense of being engaged in the real

world. Because they are instinctive center last it is easy for fives to become ungrounded and spin out of

control. They encounter new people in spontaneous situations and instead of acting naturally they detach

or "freeze" (a very minor form of shutdown) to intellectualize their emotions("How do I express this

emotion?") instead of using their feeling center to express their emotions(fear that could backfire on

them). Opportunities to reach out to others are missed and fives loses confidence in their ability to act

naturally around people. They spend more time alone with makes them more out of touch with the world.

This increases their loneliness and eccentricity which makes it even harder to relate to people, which

makes them withdraw and isolate themselves even further. Once a critical point is reached their cynicismand disdain for humanity accelerates. The scenarios their imagination comes up with to understand the

world become more disturbing and further removed from reality. Healthy fives though are able to both

fully participate in life and contribute to an interdependent society while also being able to give more of

themselves and handle greater degrees of emotional interdependency. Their greater engagement of life

allows them to be more in touch with reality and better at anticipating things.

5w4s are more fantastical and mythologize about how they aren't human. They are natural iconoclasts

and disidentification is central to their self-image. Seeing things the normal way that everyone else does

just seems "wrong" to them. They don't get as openly awed and apalled as their 5w6 siblings since

worldly reality often pales in comparison to the reality of their internal experience. They are both more

"cloaked" and also more emotionally immersing than 5w6s. They indulge in epic language to relive their

feelings as anything less would seem too trite for the richness and significance of their internal

experience. They tend to be less argumentative than 5w6s and would rather be convinced than convince

others. They are more sociable and whimsical than 5w6s and want to show you there's more to them than

meets the eye.

The 5w4 inner landscape has a certain richness that's both a blessing and a curse. From being both in

awe and terrified of just about everything they've contemplated their minds are anything but "normal" in

the way they perceive things. They think they will always know more about others than others will ever

know about them. They feel they are impossible to get to know and the most one can see is whatever

persona they exhibit. Similar to core fours they transform this into their own brand of elitism.

5w4s being iconoclasts force their way to the bottom of things to find meaning, safety with the known and

familiar be damned. They have a "counter" mentality in how they focus on the undersides and opposites

of things: "It was so dark it became light"..."that abhorrent yet fascinating person". Paradoxes, illusions,

the twists and turns of fate, and unexplainable phenomena are representative of "something" that

underlies and supercedes current reality and makes it richer. The unseen is more important than the

seen. What is intangible matters more than what is tangible. What isn't obvious matters more than what is

obvious. What is counterintuitive and fits is more aesthetic and elegant and therefore more significant

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be traced to something meaningful. When something is counterintuitive and makes sense it feels like a

deep insight that was divinely revealed to them, a rare and special treasure that shows itself once in a

blue moon. Something that's intuitive and makes sense is a dime a dozen that can only pale in

comparison.

5w4s tend to be more subjective than 5w6s. Their thinking process is less incremental and has more

"illogical leaps". They search for that one angle of looking at things that magically makes everything make

sense to them. They have a bias towards seeing underlying patterns that fit together aesthetically and

elegantly as more real and therefore closer to the truth. They see a plethora of nonrandom things that just

happen to line up towards a single conclusion as evidence of some "higher meaning" to support their

conclusion, or even an indication of fate. Such a lining up of tells amidst random chaos couldn't be

chance or random. There must be something there that isn't obvious but no less significant if not more so.

This makes 5w4s more likely to see things that aren't there than miss things that are there. They tend to

have occultic and esoteric areas of interest.

5w6s see themselves as being fundamentally apart from others due to their oddness. They aspire to be

one of society's foremost thinkers. They tend to be more awed at a world that never ceases to providethem with something to look into further. They are natural investigators who take the initiative to

enthusiastically debate and discuss with others how they see the world. They tend to be more self-

revealing and more emotionally detached than their 5w4 siblings. They have more of an uneasy truce

with their emotions. On average they less sociable than 5w4s. While they also think there is more to them

than meets the eye they feel more awkward about showing others this.

The 5w6 inner landscape is one of limitless curiousity, arguably the most of the eighteen subtypes.

They've thought a lot about the world and the nature of things with an unrivaled specificity. They've

seemingly thought about everything at one point or another from the complex to the simple. They've

looked further into things than most others. As a result they feel they have an understanding of the way

things are in the world that others don't. Others haven't examined things to the extent that they have.

They think most people don't understand them and aren't likely to put in the effort to do so.

5w6 aesthetics are rooted in what is tangible and more easily seen due to their six wing. They envision

being on the cutting edge of technological advancement as well as on the frontier of intellectual and

physical realms. They contemplate exploring where few have gone before and witnessing worldly

phenomena firsthand. They wonder what it's like to be inside the tiniest of probes observing life at the

cellular level, or to be safely suspended in the fabric of space-time far away amidst black holes and other

awesome anomalies of the cosmos. From these vantage points they are removed from the world of

people yet tethered to the furthest reaches of the universe. Their sense of being in touch with these

various frontiers beyond human experience has a highly intuitive and emotional aspect to it. There is a

certain nirvana that's connected with understanding these worldly phenomena which also serves as an

escape from reality. When they tap into that it feels empowering and feeds their tendency to think theyhave mastery over elements in the world. The more confident they are of their grasp of reality the more in

control they feel and the easier it is to take action in the world without hesitation.

5w6s tend to have more sequential and incremental streams of consciousness and lack the "illogical

leaps" of 5w4s. There is a process of gradual solidification to their reasoning that makes them natural

synthesizers of what they take into account. They tend to have a "one thing progresses to another" way of

coming to a conclusion that's generally more precise and easier to follow. They have bias against

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that is more "valid" and can withstand more scrutiny. They are more likely to see a bunch of things that

cluster as "coincidental" and not an indication of some higher meaning that they can't explain, unless they

can tie things in the cluster together in some way. They tend to not believe in fate. Much of life is random

and they accept that. They are more likely to miss things that are there than see things that aren't there

like their 5w4s siblings. They tend to be more methodical and analytical and gravitate to more structured

intellectual areas.

5 vs 1: Fives unlike ones don't need to adhere to standards that apply to everyone to think they are good

enough. Unlike fives the way ones are rational is tied to self-control. Ones find it easy to engage the world

while fives find it draining. Fives don't need to obey the rules while ones are complient to the rules.

5 vs 2: Twos like people and feel a need to be in a facilitating role for others while fives are very

comfortable withdrawing from people.

5 vs 3: Threes are much more comfortable promoting themselves. Fives find it awkward to sell

themselves in any capacity.

5 vs 4: Fives periodically feel overwhelmed by their emotions and have to detach from them while fours

are at home in their emotions and can't amplify them enough.

5 vs 6: Fives are naturally curious types and love knowledge for its own sake. They are oblivious toprocedures and policies in power structures. Unlike sixes their first instinct is to intellectualize their

emotions.

5 vs 7: Fives like to operate at some distance from the enviornment while sevens move the enviornment

closer to them. Fives have a limited amount of themselves while sevens have lots of energy. Sevens are

naturally spontaneous.

5 vs 8: Eights don't periodically feel overwhelmed by their feelings. Instincts are an eight's strength while

being a five's weakness.

5 vs 9: Fives are attracted to examining what makes them uncomfortable whereas nines don't like to

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Type 6(Head Triad)

Type six is the most "human" enneagram type and arguably the most authentic in that respect. All

enneagram fixations are coping strategies to deal with the world and the six gestalt is most representative

of the struggles of humanity throughout its history. More than any other type the life story of a six is about

"coming into their own".

Sixes are head types that view the world as inherently unpredictable. They feel they came into an

everchanging world without blueprints that account for the vagaries of life and have to play catchup. They

see the danger that lurks just around the corner and need to figure out how to either remove it or cope

with it, as well as find some backup through allies or something else out there that's a strong enough

foundation. They have a base state of unrest they may not be aware of but their anxiety is visible to

others. Their worst fear is to come to the horrible realization that they put trust in the wrong people and

find out the basis of everything they believe in is a lie. Simply put sixes fear being "uprooted" so they

construct a strong enough mental framework and/or support system of people to navigate life with to

prevent that from happening.

This means making sure as many things are as "clear" to them as possible. Due to their elevatedwho?/what?/when?/where?/why?/how? and "what if?" head center cognition they notice and assess

seemingly everything and then some. They want to find out if a way of thinking is legitimate. They want

points to be unambigious and motives to be transparent. They want to see who knows what they are

talking about and who is trustworthy. They want to be able to intuit where you are coming from and where

you are going with this. Clear intentions are a sign of honesty and no hidden agenda and bring about

parity and therefore fairness. Fives naively downplay motives and are ignorant of procedures and policies

within power structures. Sevens blindly rely on the future and think they can have their cake and eat it

too. Sixes however refuse to take anything for granted until it passes their smell test. They have a

heightened awareness of catastrophic scenarios and worry the rug will be pulled out from underneath

them when they see bad things happen to innocent people. Heaven forbid any of these things should

happen to their loved ones. They have little faith things will work out on their own and are natural "what's

plan B" people. They feel compelled to anticipate and figure out how to cope with potential problems as

they know what could happen if they don't.

How sixes cope ranges from avoidance(phobic) to aggressively facing their fears head

on(counterphobic). Due to their head center ambivalence sixes alternate between susceptibility and

suspiciousness towards authorities and systems. They can instantly shift from fearful to aggressive and

vice versa. There is no type that exhibits contradictory behaviour like a six. On a less conscious level they

are on the lookout for someone or something worthy of trusting. On a more conscious level they keep a

watchful eye out for who or what is most definitely not. They are very aware of when things are unfair or

uneven between people. They sense who has power and who is likely to abuse it as they often see

themselves as the underdog. This is frequently enhanced by the perception of being mistreated by

authority figures during their formative years. Sixes may appear as devils advocates, skeptics, BSsniffers, self-doubters, pseudo-sevens, or something else but they all test for clarity and certitude and

have an underlying state of unrest. Ironically they are often less unsettled during a real crisis since their

mind doesn't have the time to blow things out of proportion. Even though the real source of anxiety is

inside themselves it would be nice for things in life to be more clear.

Sixes see the world as inherently unpredictable so they feel they must be prepared and have a minimum

amount of certainty in their lives. Just as they are consistently loyal to who and what they believe in, the

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in friends and family instead of more external things like systems and authorities. They form strong

friendships and come across as genuinely honest and down-to-earth. They like people who are authentic

and dislike smooth-talkers. They can be selflessly supportive and stay loyal even to those who are no

longer worthy. Betrayal is the worst violation of trust so there's no way they'd let people close to them

hang out to dry. If people have managed to earn their trust(not an easy task due to their testing) it's only

fair they stick by them in bad times as well as good. In an uncertain world one must hold onto the few that

are worth it. It's hard to find people who are honest and dependable and who also do what they say they

will do. True respect must be earned and those close to them have earned it.

Being able to earn their way in the world is also important. They value resourcefulness and contingency

planning, and find satisfaction in earning the fruits of their labors. They believe in a merit-based system

where each person is treated fairly and proportionally to how they deserve to be treated. They respect

people who are deserving and don't like it when people get to where they are unfairly. As long as working

hard and playing by the rules is fairly rewarded they accept their circumstances. They hold themselves to

their own standards despite how unpredictably difficult the world is so all they ask for is a fair shot in life.

They intend to be treated fairly and for things to be okay as long as they follow the rules.

Sixes favor spelled-out rules that make things more out in the open and fair for everyone. They feel thembeing responsible and following the rules despite how difficult things can be should count for something.

Add to that they are already hard on themselves and they often feel justified in making excuses when bad

things happen. While they doubt their decision-making it's not their fault the world's so unpredictably

difficult. If they follow the rules it's not their fault if things don't work out. If they are responsible and things

go wrong it's not their fault. If they don't stick their necks out no one can blame them for anything. They

may criticize themselves to avoid criticism from others. They may even sabotage their success to avoid

standing out and being a target for criticism. In their mind if you saw how difficult things are for them you'd

see things from their perspective. Their enhanced head center cognition causes their superego to feel

overburdened with constant self-criticism. They struggle to meet what they think is demanded of them

due to believing the only way of being okay is to be loyal and follow the rules. They fear not being able to

do anything right and that imminent punishment and criticism is just around the corner. They are looking

for how to be or how to act. They want to be good and rule abiding, not deviant or culpable.

In enneagram theory sixes are head center primary at the expense of their feeling and instinctive centers.

Being in the center of the head triad they may not be fully aware of their anxiety because they're so used

to it. Excess cognition in a six's primary thinking center can be compared to being inside the "eye of their

hurricane". By looking at types five and seven outside the eye sixes are reminded of the full extent of

"thinking triadness" in themselves. Head types especially sixes have lots of

who?/what?/where?/when?/why?/how? cognition. This is the root of their underlying anxiety and the

enviornment merely exacerbates it. The head center also has to do with the focus, distractability, and

scatteredness, as well as motor and tempo. It contains the most hamster-wheeling and vascillating

energy of the three centers. Type six has the most head center energy and there is no type that has as

much ambivalence as a six. While all head types overthink to predict and protect themselves from theworld, sixes are the types most prone to "thinking so much they fake themselves out" and turning to their

superego to resolve their cognitive dissonance.

Sixes excessively try to use their head center to nagivate life. The mental framework they construct for

themselves is really a form of "shorthand" to map life's numerous contradictions to that their overactive

who?/what?/when?/where?/why?/how? and "what if?" cognition burdens them with(anxiety by definition).

By mapping to this internal shorthand they can be certain that at least most of what they conclude will be

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way of looking at things intact. They reject information to the contrary to protect the way of thinking they

are loyal to. On a deeper level they know their defense mechanisms reduce anxiety via clarity but distort

reality. They yearn to be able to get in touch with their "quiet mind" so that they can "just know" how

things really are.

When this "shorthand" gets taken far enough it becomes "projection". They may see a person act in a

certain way and based on their history project that person had such and such motivations behind that

action. On a more subconscious level delving into further analysis could cause cognitive dissonance so

they go for the answer that is most "clear" to them. This may be what they would do if they were in their

shoes or what "side" or group that person appears to be most aligned with. If a person supported

something politically they might be more inclined to project that person has the same belief system of

others that had the same yes/no position on that issue. Due to projection sixes are prone to confusing

what's clear to them with what the truth is. In order to find out if what's clear to them is not correct they

have to go against their way of thinking before they have "proof" so there's internal resistance to going

down that murkier mental path. This is most obvious in their implicit bargain with the world: how it's "clear"

that they will be okay if they are loyal and follow the rules. To "realize" one may be screwed even if they

follow a particular set of rules is to open a pandora's box of possibly never being safe no matter what.

This may be more correct but is anything but nice and clear.

Sixes are the most likely types to believe in Murphy's law: "whatever can go wrong will go wrong".

Unhealthy sixes are very programmable due to their head center being "short-circuited". They succumb to

their anxiety and either become sheep..."I can't cope so you do my thinking for me since you are

authorities"...and/or excessively project their insecurities onto others. Healthy sixes have learned to

access their "quiet mind" to manage their fears and put them into perspective. Once they have mastered

their internal anxiety they can become pillars of strength without losing their gift for being "human". What

was "us vs them" is now the courage to fight for something bigger than themselves. Healthy sixes like Joe

Gibbs have a talent for leading while remaining "one of the guys". More than any other coach he made

the redskins a family centered around "core redskin values" where no player was unfairly above another.

Winning three different superbowls with three average quarterbacks was a testament to his ability to get

the most out of his players.

6w5s want answers to account for unknown circumstances more than support or guidance. They look

more for predictability as they are especially aware of what doesn't make sense around them. Their five

wing causes them to be do-it-their-selfers with respect to how they look at things. They are more likely to

stick to their views than try out dif ferent views at others' suggestions like 6w7s. They are more precise in

their communication and are often serious and focused thinkers. They are more analytical and tend to be

strategic problem solvers. They focus more on precedent, what has worked that can possibly be adopted.

They tend to put credence in structured systems of knowledge that make sense of how things are.

Structure also makes it easier to function in real life since they keep their distance similar to fives. They

prefer to know the rules so they can go about their business without being interfered with. They alsoprotect themselves by withholding just enough to make sure they don't get hurt emotionally.

6w5s tend to distrust the outside world more and see it as dangerous. They fear trusting the wrong

person or ideology and being led along like a pawn, or worse, being betrayed. They are constantly on the

lookout for whatever doesn't seem quite right. They have a nose for what is rotten underneath and aren't

flattered by smooth-talkers. They have more of a bunker mentality and don't like being an easy target.

They are tighter and more coiled. They are more closed off and snap at others easier. They are more

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about looking towards others for support and advice and instead put lots of pressure on themselves to

make up the difference. They care more about their pipelines to the world being severed than losing

support from people. They constantly imagine worst case scenarios as how could one not with everything

that goes on in the world. They tend to be natural skeptics and devils advocates. They are more wary and

guarded as well as more cynical and sarcastic. They have conditioned themselves to expect the worst as

few things are more painful than being blindsided. While they want to know what you are thinking it's

more to have everything being open and concrete than them needing help. They see flattery as fake and

don't want to be patronized. They'd rather be called out than given undeserved reassurance. If a person is

too accomodating they wonder what the catch is.

6w5s want to find the whole truth in a situation. They question and test anything and keep track of every

inconsistency. They focus on resolving discrepancies. They are natural private investigators in how they

are skilled at sussing out others. They concentrate on what people say and especially the way they say it:

tone, body language, speech patterns, attitude, etc. They may not always intuit correctly but that's a small

price to pay when the alternative is naively ignoring what can go wrong out there. They get nervous if

others aren't as forthcoming as they are. They want to know what others are thinking especially if they

ask so many questions without explaining where they are coming from. They feel they must know others'

intentions to feel at ease. They don't believe in having things sugarcoated for them so negative feedbackis better than no feedback.

6w5s are vigilant types who see themselves as underdogs and view the powerful with suspicion. They are

vigilant and have a heightened awareness of whose or which "side" someone is on. They are very aware

of when things are unfairly uneven between people and feel compelled to bring attention to that "abuse of

power". The danger of leaving this unchecked is too big to be ignored. This passion often makes them

follow politics but can apply to their everyday lives as well. They feel entitled to have their opinions be

acknowledged and respected just like anyone else's. If someone unfairly marginalizes them by arrogantly

claiming to know them better than they know themselves they feel justified to call out the cliques and

mutual admiration societies behind it all. They don't see any hypocrisy since they are all about goodwill

and open with their shortcomings. They don't see themselves as attackers nor do they wish to alienate so

they are surprised others may see them like that. When they are wrong they can seem paranoid. When

they are right their vigilance combined with their relatability gives them a dimension to effect change even

eights don't have.

6w7s are more insecure and look for guidance and support from others. They look for people who can

supply them with the bearings necessary to handle life's obstacles. They are more self-questioning and

doubt their ability to find security in the world on their own. They tend to "weigh" their opinions with others.

They interact with what's around them to make sure they are on the right track. They are more open and

quicker to trust others. They are enthusiastic and friendly. They are less likely to say unequivocally they

are right and others are wrong. When they challenge people they rarely employ a sustained scrutiny like

6w5s do. They go out of their way to show they aren't threatening which 6w5s often consider weakness.Being tough and protective yet flexible and openly vulnerable makes them endearing and likeable. They

have a talent for rallying others around them when they bring attention to someone being mistreated.

6w7s are less focused and more distractable than 6w5s. They have a disorganized all-over-the-mapness

with how they get all their ideas out. They are not as worried about being imprecise as they feel relieved

just to be able to empty everything they were considering out of their hyperactive mind. They hurredly put

down their thoughts as fast as they can for fear of leaving something about like jotting down their dreams

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be on the safe side as they are never quite certain about things. While 6w7s are more scattered than

6w5s they can come up with creative ideas that may be missed by more structured thinking.

6w7s want everything around them to fit nicely with their constructed safe reality. They want to be happy

and content in addition to finding something strong and stable. They externalize their ambivalence and

exhibit more contradictory behavior than 6w5s. They trust either too little or too much, rarely just right.

When they find safety they mistrust it as too good to be true and give off mixed signals which in turn

makes others uneasy with their unpredictability. Their contradictory traits and hamster-wheeling stem

from doubt of themselves which drives their need for loyalty. They have push-pull tendencies from both

not wanting to feel dependent on others and also not wanting to alienate them. They want to be

independent with a safety net. They aren't sure how others feel about them and periodically need to be

the center of attention for fear of being abandoned. They are more like divas with their flair for the

dramatic. They fear being unable to cope in life and are more likely to have a victim mentality. Unlike

6w5s the last thing they want is distance. They are more demonstrative but also more masochistic and

self-hating. Even if they are wrong they just want someone to be on their side and not be judgemental.

Reassurance is most effective and therefore easiest to trust. They also want empathy and understanding.

Honest criticism can come later once they have stopped overreacting and cooled down. In the meantime

they want others to work things through with them. If they locate the source of anxiety within themselvesinstead of their enviornment they start to feel grounded.

6w7s are more awed and apalled than 6w5s. They are more easily startled. They vascillate between

feeling excited and catastrophic thinking. They are most prone to thinking so much they fake themselves

out. When their thinking center is "short-circuited" they think they are more rational than they really are.

Their cognition can cause them to feel different about others from one moment to the next, as well as fear

others feel equally ambivalent about them. They can swing from very nice to very challenging and vice

versa. They are more hamstrung by their anxiety and frequently feel "something just came over them".

When there is hardly any danger they are surprised at how much of what is buried inside them comes

out. They want badly to quell their hyperactive mind from hamsterwheeling through harmful future

scenarios but nothing seems to stay reliable or predictable long enough to relax with. They are like

children who are gripped by fear of their own shadows and are grateful for anyone who can set them free.

When there is serious danger paradoxically everything is clear and they become calm. Going in they are

anything but confident but coming out they are often surprised and proud of their bravery.

6 vs 1: Ones have a life-long mission to self-improve themselves and tend to be very certain in their

convictions. Ones equate repressing themselves with being more worthy. Sixes find it much easier lying

to protect loved ones as they don't have a transcendant view of morality like ones.

6 vs 2: Twos are more confident and self-righteous. Twos being enablers are naturally parental while

sixes are natural team players. Twos repress what is at odds with their gentle self-image whereas sixes

repress themselves to fit in.

6 vs 3: Threes think it is their destiny to become someone outstanding whereas sixes aren't as naturallyconfident in their abilities. Threes keep their eye on the ball while sixes are prone to getting stuck in

contingency planning.

6 vs 4: Fours are naturally elitist and sixes aren't. Sixes don't romanticize being different like fours do.

6 vs 5: Sixes focus much more on motives and intentions. Fives look before they leap emotionally. Sixes

don't romanticize isolation and don't have delusions of grandeur like fives do. In contrast to fives, sixes

orient themselves towards practical application of knowledge.

6 vs 7: Sixes don't have the blind faith in the future and themselves that sevens have. Sixes are much

more self-conscious than sevens. Sixes are much more naturally responsible. Sixes are compliant types


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with a strong superego influence.

6 vs 8: Eights like to feel grand and sixes don't. When the desire for clarity and the desire to avoid

weakness conflict the six will choose for former and the eight the latter.

6 vs 9: Sixes see nines as not alert enough while nines see that sixes need to chill out. Sixes have a

heightened desire for things to be clear and communicated effectively while nines will be fine with

explanations that "sort of" make sense due to their more elastic cognition. Nines find it easier to gloss

over discrepancies. What is okay to a nine has a very wide latitude.


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Type 7(Head Triad)

Sevens are gluttonous fun-loving types who believe in experiencing what they want in life without

restrictions or obligations. They want a lot and are gnawed by their wants enough to see them as needs

so they "need" that juicy steak and "need" that vacation. They take care of their stuff themselves and

aren't a burden on anyone so why shouldn't they be entitled to a good life? These natural optimists have

a hard time accepting the stark reality that the world isn't as accomodating as they would like. Being head

types they understand that but sevens are sevens so understanding something and coming to grips with

something are two different things.

Sevens have a blind faith in the future working out for them. Their jumping-the-gun streams of

consciousness cause them to distort the future as being just around the corner. If they keep their options

open a little longer they are sure to get what they want. They also frequently believe they can have their

cake and eat it too. They enthusiastically plan out rosy scenarios in their mind. The future hasn't yet made

the details apparent that might show their optimism is misplaced, nor does it make demands on them or

slow them down like people in the present do. They feel if they keep moving and anticipating they can

stay one step ahead of being bogged down by all that. It goes without saying they don't sweat the small

stuff and are always on the lookout for shortcuts that would get them to their happier more fulfilling futurefaster.

Sevens have addictive personalities. They tend to be adventurous, impulsive, exciting, and enthusiastic.

The more common sensing-perceiving sevens tend to be focused on more physical gluttony and are the

typical party animals. The less common intuitive seven is no less addictive but has as much a need for

mental stimulation as a need for physical stimulation. All sevens need the potential for a more fulfulling

life more than anything. They need something better in their future to look forward to. The one thing a

seven wouldn't relate to in a million years is contentment and a lack of wants.

With their monkey minds sevens tend to be mentally agile and versatile enough to quickly pick up the

basics of many things. They frequently have a wide range of intellectual interests and can converse about

anything. They tend to find it difficult to focus however and are easily destracted by the temptations in life.

More importantly they often overestimate their abilities and confuse what they know with true mastery.

More than any other type they tease others with their unrealized potential.

Between experiencing the fullness of life in the present and restlessly thinking up rosy future scenarios

their mind is in high gear and their attention is diverted. On a more subconscious level coming to grips

with sobering realities in the present and unflattering things about themselves is put on the back burner.

Wants are reframed as needs and real inner needs are neglected. Emotional pain is seen as

unpleasantness and avoided. These potentially painful feelings are compartmentalized and take awhile to

hit home but when they hit they hit hard. On a more conscious level the seven primarily fears being

trapped or stuck in a rut. Being bored or deprived from experiencing life triggers "rut" fears. Sevens find it

much easier to acknowledge that they fear a "rut" than they fear "pain". The fear of being stuck or trappedin a rut conveniently relegates the fear of emotional pain to a more subconscious level in the fear queue.

Sevens are image center last which makes them shameless, insensitive, and cocky. Like eights they don't

see how they come across to others well. Sevens move the enviornment towards them to accelerate their

mental gears to distract themselves. Fives in contrast remove themselves from their enviornment to deal

with things from a position of strength. Sevens are unprententous and young at heart. Don't let their

youthful energy fool you though. Sevens have one of the stronger egos. Should they face obstacles these

resilient types have confidence that they'll land on their feet...and they do.


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Sevens are naturally egalitarian. They don't like playing power games and would rather just be concerned

with themselves. They are grateful for their "lucky" lot in life which makes them fun to be around. They

tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. While sevens generally aren't nitpicky of others' minor flaws

they often underweight or even overlook major ones.

In enneagram theory 7s are thinking-instinctive-feeling in that order. Their default emotion is fear and their

principal defense mechanism is distraction. They accelerate their thinking center mental gears to escape

the need to come to grips with inner issues in their feeling center. They conjure up potential rosy

scenarios, crazy schemes, exciting ideas, and creative ways of looking at things. They use all that to keep

mental activity high enough to keep their mind off coming to grips with unflattering inner issues,

unpleasant feelings, and sobering realities. It's much like running around to keep their kite in the air. Once

it's time for follow-thru, examining the details brings them closer to reality which is a drag: the

sticktoitiveness needed for that job training, that having a website business means having to cold-call to

get customers, having to get up at 5 am for that job you thought you wanted, that cute girl sure is clingy.

Once details are involved the grass isn't as green on the other side so the seven finds new grass starting

from the mental realm and repeats the process.

On a smaller scale sevens may engage in wordplay or other shameless nonsensical "crazy funny"

behaviour to distract themselves simply because they got the "itch" to discharge their excess head energy

into their enviornment. Many sx-firsts think they have more seven in them than they do because sx is a

probing deeply energy to squeeze the most out of an experience while sevenness is about staying in

motion to keep their kite in the air to avoid coming to grips with inner issues and feelings.

Unhealthy sevens are completely hedonistic and have no focus in life. They are childish and

irresponsible. They have an insatiable desire for one thrill after another. They are complete slaves to their

passions. More importantly they are proud of it all. They are proud of being totally free. When they start to

get healthy they come to feel a deep regret over the unfinished chapters in their lives they can never do

over again. These are the same unfinished chapers caused by them mindlessly skipping from one thing

to another. When sevens realize true happiness comes from their journey(coming to grips with

unflattering stuff inside them and others along the way) not the destination(future focus)...they learn to

commit to sticking stuff out and following thru and can take pride in what they have genuinely

accomplished in life(as opposed to doing the minimum to get by)...they can finally escape from chasing

their tail. Only then can they find true satisfaction.

7w6s are less grounded and more visibly anxious. They are more manic. They are much more prone to

bipolar personality disorder. They are mercurial and endearing. They tend to be more amiable and

friendly. They are natural peter pan types who never grow up. They are the more childlike side of seven.

They are more creative and fantastical. They are more excited about life and never stop dreaming. They

have an attitude of wide-eyed wonderment towards the world. They are prone to blurring the distinctionbetween fantasy and reality. They are much more "pie in the sky" thinkers. They believe in "potential" and

that is a big theme in their lives. They believe in potential in others and pockets of potential in the world.

They believe the "holy grail" is out there somewhere and it's just a matter of finding it. They are more

likely to chase their own tail. They lack the pragmatism and realism of their seven-wing-eight siblings.

7w6s feel more of a need to "check in" with others. Their six wing gives them a need to establish

"solidarity" with people they care about. They care about how they are seen. The dense party animal

stereotype offends them more. They don't like to be taken for granted as someone who is happy all the


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time and doesn't have problems. They want to be seen as someone who has depth of personality. They

want to be seen as someone who is also "human" and can relate to how you are feeling. Their six wing

causes them to be awed and apalled. They have more highs and lows. They have a good-natured sense

of humor and are more natural entertainers. They tend to be funny more than they are characters.

7w6s tend to fear getting "trapped" in a rut as opposed to stuck in a rut. Their six wing makes them more

likely to feel defeatism and despair. They admit to themselves the rut has "got" them in some way. They

can see the walls closing in and becoming more trapped if they don't do something.

7w8s are more grounded and show less signs of anxiety. They tend to have less mood swings but bigger

tempers. They can be pushy and belligerent. They are realistic and pragmatic. They are more aggressive

and competitive than their six-winged siblings. They are more territorial and acquisitive. They tend to be

more interested in worldly success than chasing a dream. They believe in what's possible not the holy

grail. They simply persistently play the hand they are dealt the best they can. Their philosophy is similar

to that Kenny Rogers song: "gotta know when to hold them when to fold them when to walk and when to

run".

7w8s are the badboy/badgirl side of seven. They don't feel a need to "check in" with others. Their eight

wing makes them less openly vulnerable. They relate to others from a position of strength as opposed to

establishing solidarity. They assume people don't like them until they do so they don't need validation.

Misconceptions of what a seven is don't really bother them personally. They don't care about how they

are seen like their six-winged siblings. They value freedom more and are much more independent. They

want the strings attached between them and others kept to a minimum. Their eight wing makes them

more even-keeled. It takes more to excite them or make them depressed. They are more insensitive and

have more of a "shocking" sense of humor and tend to be funny characters more than they have funny

material.

7w8s tend to fear getting "stuck" in a rut as opposed to trapped in a rut. Their eight wing causes them to

see a rut as annoying and something that ticks them off but doesn't have any power over them. Once

they're out of the rut everything will be back to normal so no big deal.

7 vs 1: Sevens don't believe in restricting themselves like ones do.

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