To love or not to love

to love or

not to love

human beings seem to learn only by two major life forces: pain and love

Why we constantly continue our pursuit of love?

Love is rooted in the human nature. Love is a natural goal that can be accom-plished and can be learned. Love is a drive, a necessity, an escapable need. Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.

Love is a human unavoidable attribute. The real essence of love is..

the process of love

ATTRACTION

ATTACHMENT

LOVE

Antecedents of love

To love yourself you must: 1. know yourself2. meet yourself

what are my qualities and skills? what are my virtues and vices? what are my dark sides?

Be sure that everybody has dark sides. Don’t be afraid of your dark sides. Accept them.

Know yourself - who am I

Dive into your abyss! Only the descent into the hell of self-knowledge can pave the way to godliness

(Immanuel Kant, 1724-1804)

Try to understand the reasons why you behave as you do.

Evaluate correctly the role of the others and yours in shaping who you are now.

Forgive them, forgive their errors, forgive if they were absent, neglectful or aggressive or if they did not fulfill your needs.

Forgive yourself.

Know yourself - why am I so

The process of self-knowing is risky and dangerous, albeit necessary.We cannot remain always children…(Freud). We have to go out of the cave.

To love yourself you must - meet yourself

self-knowledge1. the time dimension2. the silence dimension3. the desert dimension -

loneliness4. the emptiness dimension

- freedom dimension5. the nature dimension -

body dimension

The major knowledge is linked

inextricably to love

(Paracelsus, 1493-1541)

don’t be afraid to be happy…