Teen Living. List traits you would like for a future spouse to have. Once you have a list of 5- 10, I want you to think of 2 or 3 “deal breakers”

3.01 Factors that affect relationships

Teen Living

List traits you would like for a future spouse to have.

Once you have a list of 5-10, I want you to think of 2 or 3 “deal breakers” or things that would end a relationship immediately….such as gambling, infidelity, abuse, and so on.

Bell Work

“Dirtiest Man in the World”

THE DIRTIEST MAN IN THE WORLDOh I'm Dirty Dan, the world's dirtiest man, I never have taken a shower. I can't see my shirt—it's so covered with dirt. And my ears have enough to grow flowers.But the water is either a little too hot.Or else it's a little too cold.I'm musty and dusty and patchy and scratchyAnd mangy and covered with mold.But the water is always a little too hot,Or else it’s a little to cold.I live in a pen with five hogs and a hen And three squizzly lizards who creep in My bed, and they itch as I squirm, and I twitch In the cruddy old sheets that I sleep in.If you looked down my throat with a flashlight, you'd noteThat my insides are coated with rust.I creak when I walk and I squeak when I talk.And each time I sneeze I blow dust.

The thought of a towel and some soap makes me howl, And when people have something to tell me They don't come and tell it—they stand back and yell it. I think they're afraid they might smell me.The bedbugs that leap on me sing me to sleep,And the garbage flies buzz me awake.They're the best friends I've found and I fear they might drownSo I never go too near a lake.Each evening at nine I sit down to dine With the termites who live in my chair. And I joke with the bats and have intimate chats With the cooties who crawl through my hair.I'd brighten my life if I just found a wife,But I fear that that never will beUntil I can find a girl, gentle and kind.With a beautiful face and a sensitive mind,Who sparkles and twinkles and glistens and shines—And who's almost as dirty as me.

By: Shel Silverstein

A. Family, friends, and peers B. Self-concept C. Stress D. Dating

1. Healthy 2. Unhealthy

E. Sexual abstinence  

Today we’re going to learn about…

D. Dating

1. Healthy 2. Unhealthy

Group dating, random dating, or steady dating

Learn to give and take Interact without

pressure You can be yourself They enhance YOU! Help you grow as a

person. (You attract what you GIVE, not what you WANT)

Causes problems between you and parents or friends

Possessive Abusive Pressure you to do

things you don’t want to do

Puts you down Not infatuated!

Let’s see what kind of dater you are.◦ Take the quiz in your packet to find out what kind

of dater you are…

Dating Attitudes

The only way to prevent pregnancy 100% of the time is by practicing abstinence and sustaining from sex.

If you use any other method, you may become pregnant.

There are 101 other things you can do besides sex. Like…

E. Sexual abstinence

3.02 Youth parentingTeen Living

Fill in the chart below with your opinion of the Pros and Cons of Parenting. Try to list at least 5 for each.

Fill in the chart on your notes:

PROS CONS

KWL Know - Want to Know - Learned

1. Write 5 what things you know about teen pregnancy in column labeled “Know”.

2. Write at least three things you “Want To Know” about teen pregnancy in the second column.

3. When we are finished, we will write what we “Learned” in the third column so don’t fill that out yet!

Parents must provide for a child physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, and also give guidance. Parents usually take care of these needs but grandparents, older siblings, sitters, and child-care workers also perform acts of parenting.

What is Parenting?

Nutritious meals Proper clothing Adequate rest Safe environment Exercise and fresh air Medical and dental care Proper hygiene

Physical Needs – Must see that a child has:

Instruction at home Toys, books, learning tools Trips, outings Musical, athletic, lessons Public or private school classes

Mental Needs – Must help the child acquire facts, skills, and concepts by:

Love A sense of security Attention Comfort Support

Emotional Needs – Must give the child:

 Other family members A best friend A group of children People of differing ages, races, or ethnic

backgrounds

Social Needs – Must provide opportunities for the child to learn to get along with:

Right from Wrong Values Goals Safety Rules Good citizenship

Guidance – Means teaching the child:

*Physical*Social

*Emotional*Financial*Future

COSTS OF TEEN PARENTING:

Greater risk of premature birth Greater risk of lower birth

weight◦ Can cause problems like cerebral

palsy or mental retardation Poor nutrition can cause the

baby to be born underdeveloped

Physical

Pregnancy puts a lot of stress on the body◦ Teen are still growing and need

proper rest, food, and energy for themselves.

Teen moms have a greater risk of developing:◦TOXEMIA - a build-up of toxins in

the blood ANEMIA - a lack of iron which

leads to fatigue, weakness, etc

Physical Cont.

Giving up activities with friends◦ Parties◦ Prom◦ Trips and Vacations◦ Going out to eat or to the movies

Social

Putting off a career due to having to quit school to earn money to take care of the baby or to make child support payments.◦ Parents are legally responsible for their child until

the child is age 18 Not starting college due to pregnancy or

child support Dropping out of high school due to

pregnancy or child support

Future

Teens might feel isolation, despair, and frustration

Babies have emotional needs too◦ Need to be loved, held, read to, played with,

cared for Teens may not be emotionally mature

Emotional

◦ Extreme jealousy◦ Resenting partner for spending time away from

them◦ Temper Tantrums◦ Lacking patience◦ Unsympathetic◦ Lacking self-control◦ Lacking self-confidence◦ Lacking a degree of selflessness

Signs of emotional immaturity:

Prenatal doctor visits are a necessity and cost every time you go, which can be

every week. Physical needs for baby

◦ Formula◦ Furniture◦ Diapers◦ Car Seat◦ Clothes◦ Toys

Financial

Lost opportunities due to pregnancy or child:-Scholarships-Jobs

Children who constantly hear fighting and arguing can grow up to be insecure and very nervous.

Other Important Facts

◦ Become teen parents◦ Be abused and neglected

Abuse can be physical, emotional, or sexual Neglect is failure of a parent, guardian, or other

caregiver to provide for a child’s basic needs physically, emotionally, or mentally

◦ Live in poverty The younger the parents are, the more likely they are

to live in poverty

Children of teen parents are more likely to:

◦ Teen parents who do not have a job or money saved up can seek assistance from Social Services.

THERE IS HELP AVAILABLE:

◦ Smoking Can cause premature birth and asthma

◦ Alcohol – wine, beer, liquor Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS or FAE)

◦ Drugs of ANY kind Aspirin Over the counter Illegal Substances

◦ X-Rays Dental or bone scans

Pregnant women must avoid:

Alcohol in a pregnant woman's bloodstream circulates to the fetus by crossing the placenta and interferes with the ability of the fetus to receive sufficient oxygen and nourishment for normal cell development in the brain and other body organs.

FAS/FAE: Fetal Alcohol Syndrome/Effects - #1 cause of retardation

Only 32 percent of teen mothers get their high school diplomas Teen mothers: Educational attainment by age 30

High school diploma

No high school diploma68%

32%

National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy. (1997). Whatever Happened to Childhood? The Problem of Teen Pregnancy in the United States. Washington, DC: Author.

The children of teen mothers are at greater risk of abuse and neglect.

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Children born to teenmothers

Children born to oldermothers (age 20-21)

Reported child abuseincidents per 1,000childrenFoster care placementsper 1,000 children

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2918

National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy. (1997). Whatever Happened to Childhood? The Problem of Teen Pregnancy in the United States. Washington, DC: Author.