REAL TALK: SO YOU CALL YOURSELF A ‘MENTOR’? MENTOR ING INSTITU TE @ THE FLORIDA STAT E UNIVERSI TY 1
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PROGRAM DESCRIPTION
This interactive discussion will strive to create a space for us as mentors to candidly evaluate the effectiveness of our practices as well as develop a network within the college community to maximize our overall outreach. 2
AGENDA
• Introduction - Program Description and Agenda Review
5 minutes
• Icebreaker – Who’s Real and Who’s Not 10 minutes
• The 3 C’s: Key Mentoring Concepts• Connection 15 minutes• Communication 15 minutes• Commitment 15 minutes
• Practice & Application 10 minutes
• Closing 5 minutes
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SAFE SPACE
A place where anyone can relax and be fully self-expressed, without fear of being made to feel uncomfortable, unwelcome, or unsafe on account of biological sex, race/ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender identity or expression, cultural background, age, or physical or mental ability; a place where the rules guard each person's self-respect and dignity and strongly encourage everyone to respect others.
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ICEBREAKER
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MENTORSHIP QUIZ
How are student truancy rates effected by a positive mentor/mentee relationship?
•A. 27% increase•B. 41% increase•C. 52% decrease•D. 64% decrease
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truancy - any intentional unauthorized or illegal absence from compulsory schooling
ANSWER #1
According to a Proctor & Gamble study, research shows that youth who spend time with a caring adult mentor regularly for at least one year are 52% less likely than their peers to skip a day of school.
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MENTORSHIP QUIZ (CONT.)
How does a positive mentor/mentee relationship effect the youth and illegal drug use?
•A. 58% less likely•B. 46% less likely•C. 34% less likely•D. 22% more likely
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ANSWER #2
According to a Pew Public/Private Ventures Study, after 18 months with mentors, results indicated the boys and girls were 46 % less likely to use illegal drugs.
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MENTORSHIP QUIZ (CONT.)
Presently, how many youth remained underserved in the mentoring gap?
•A. 6 million•B. 12 million•C. 15million•D. 18 million
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Mentoring Gap – the number of young Americans who need or want mentoring but are not are in formal, high-quality mentoring relationships.
ANSWER #3
According to MENTΩR National Mentoring Partnership 15 million young people still need mentors.
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MENTORSHIP QUIZ (CONT.)
How does a positive mentor/mentee relationship affect teen pregnancy rates?
•A. 18% decrease•B. 35% decrease•C. 67% decrease•D. 98 % decrease
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ANSWER #4
According to the California Mentor Foundation surveyed 124 mentor programs with 36,251 mentors and 57,659 mentees. The survey showed that 98% deterred from teen pregnancy.
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MENTORSHIP QUIZ (CONT.)
What percentage of college graduates reported a mentor as instrumental in the employer selection process?
•A. 40%•B. 55%•C. 60%•D. 75%
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ANSWER #5
According to Mentors Management results indicate that 60% of college and graduate students listed mentoring as a factor for selecting an employer after graduation.
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REFLECTION QUESTIONS
• What were some of your reaction to the statistics?
• How can you use these data to make the most impact with your mentee?
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CHECK YOURSELF
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COMMUNICATION
According to Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary a process by which information is exchanged between individuals through a common system of symbols, signs, or behavior; a verbal or written message; information transmitted or conveyed
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LET’S TALK ABOUT IT
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COMMUNICATION REFLECTION
• What are some of the techniques you liked the best?
• What is something you would have done differently?
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ISSUES AFFECTING YOUTH TODAY
• Peer pressure• Drugs/alcohol• Poverty• Family• Academics• Bullying• Self - Esteem
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COMMITMENT
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SO YOU CALL YOURSELF A ‘MENTOR’?
• Gender
• Race/Ethnicity
• Socioeconomic Status
• Religion
• Political Affiliation
• Location
• Education
• Culture
• Organizational
• Other, etc.
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• Man• Black• Christian• College Educated• Working Class• Tutor• Alpha Phi Alpha• AmeriCorps
Programs (Jumpstart Tallahassee)
• Big Brother• Kollage
Dance Troupe• Independent• Miami-WADE
County• FSU Seminole
JOERY’S LIST
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THREE
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• Connection• Communicati
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I AM “MENTOR” STATEMENTS
I AM PATIENT,
I AM FIRM,
I AM HONEST,
I AM UNDERSTANDING,
I AM WORKING ON BEING A BETTER COMMUNICATOR,
I AM LOYAL,
AND I AM A MENTOR!
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REAL TALK: SO YOU CALL YOURSELF A ‘MENTOR’?
Joery Francois
The Mentoring Institute @ The Florida State University
The Center for Leadership and Social Change
Senior
B.A., English Editing, Writing, & Media
B.S., African-American Studies
FSU C. A. R. E. Trio Pre-Collegiate Programs, Mentor
Jumpstart Tallahassee, Volunteer Coordinator
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