Help the Care Giver discover blockages Emotions Attitudes That may be inhibiting their effectiveness Help the Care Giver recognize conduits New or different.

Help the Care Giver discover blockages Emotions Attitudes

That may be inhibiting their effectiveness Help the Care Giver recognize conduits

New or different approaches Tools—including Faith and uniquely Christian

methods That may dissolve blockages and allow the

care giving process to continue to a conclusion

A. The Caring Relationship B. Spiritual Nature of the Caring

Relationship C. Direction of the Caring Relationship D. Care Giver’s Feelings about the process E. Care Giver’s Skills F. Care Giver’s Personal Growth G. Care Receiver’s Situation H. Possible Mental Health referral

Listen to the answers Don’t listen for the answers (there are no right

answers) The responses contain clues that suggest the

next question(s) Check your own attitude as you

question/listen Loving support is the best attitude No judgment No witch hunts No need to make a point

What is my attitude? Be aware at all times

What is my reason for asking this question? You don’t need to volunteer this but you must be

aware of it Imagine that it is Jesus who you are questioning

What emotion(s) am I feeling as I ask? Why? What is the source of that emotion?

Ownership I sense, I feel, I need, I am Avoid “you” Avoid “why”

I can be more effective These people are trying to help me in that “I” focused responses

I am I feel I sense I will

Look inside yourself at all times What am I feeling? Why?

There is no magic in the Focus Questions They are a good place to start The Sets provide a good way to organize

and direct efforts Any question that you would ask Jesus is

appropriate The Care Giver should never doubt that

we are completely focused on his/her best interests as well as those of their care receiver.

Our goal is to become more like Christ every day

Secondarily, we want to help others become more like Christ every day

What are the qualities of Christ that we want for ourselves? Loving Assertive Courageous in Faith …

I want to grow I want you to grow We’ll grow together when we

Commit Trust Love Believe Give