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Bad Listening HabitsEfective Listening
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Introduction:Bad listening is common, but is seldom reallyintended.
The way that it efectively works is that we allinto the thoughtless re!eating !atterns ohabits.
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"ichols, #. $. and L.%. &tevens '()*+ .
Are you listening?"ew -ork, c$raw/Hill.
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(. Calling the SubjectDull
Bad listeners o ten 7nds a sub8ect too dry anddusty to command their attention and they usethis as an e9cuse to wander of on a mentaltangent.
$ood listeners may have heard a do en talks onthe same sub8ect be ore, but they ;uickly decideto see i the s!eaker has anything that can be o
use to them.
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The key to good listening is that little three/letter word use.
$ood listeners are si ters and screeners.
They are always hunting or something !racticalor worthwhile to store in the back o their mindto !ut to work in the months and years ahead.
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3. Criticizing theSpeaker
ost bad listeners to 7nd ault with the way as!eaker looks, acts, and talks.
$ood listeners may make a ew o the same
criticisms but they ;uickly begin to !ay attentionto what is said, not how it is said .
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% ter a ew minutes, good listeners becomeoblivious to the s!eaker=s mannerisms or his>her
aults in delivery.
They know that the message is ten times asim!ortant as the clothing.
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?. Getting Over-stimulated
Listening e@ciency dro!s to ero when the listenersreact so strongly to one !art o the !resentationthat they miss what ollows.
%t the Aniversity o innesota, they think this badhabit is so critical that, in the classes where theyteach listening, they !ut at the to! o everyblackboard the words:
'ithhold evaluation until comprehensionis complete (( hear the spea)er out*
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It is im!ortant that we understand the s!eaker=s!oint o view ully be ore we acce!t or re8ect it.
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0. Listening Only F rFacts
It is im!ortant to listen or acts but almostwithout e9ce!tion it is the !oor listeners who saythey listen or acts.
They do get acts, but they garble a shockingnumber and com!letely lose most o them.
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$ood listeners listen or the main ideas in as!eech or lecture and use them as connectingthreads to give sense and system to the whole .
It isn=t necessary to worry too much about actas such, or acts have meaning only when!rinci!les su!!ly the conte9t.
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*. !rying ! Outline"verything
$ood listeners are e9ible.
They ada!t their note taking to theorgani ational !attern o the s!eaker.
They may make an outline, They may write a summary They may list acts and !rinci!les C
but whatever they do they are not rigid about it.
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D. Faking #ttenti n The !ose o chin !ro!!ed on hand with ga e79ed on s!eaker does not guarantee goodlistening.
$ood listening is not rela9ed and !assive at all.It=s dynamic it=s constructive it=s characteri edby a slightly increased heart rate, ;uickercirculation o the blood, and a small rise inbodily tem!erature.
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It=s energy consuming it=s !lain hard work.
The best de7nition o the word attenti n is aFcollection o tensions that can be resolved only
by getting the acts or ideas that the s!eaker istrying to convey.F
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+. ! leratingDistracti n
6oor listeners are easily distracted and mayeven create disturbances that inter ere withtheir own listening e@ciency and that o others.
They s;uirm, talk with their neighbors, or shuGe!a!ers.
They make little or no efort to conceal theirboredom.
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$ood listeners try to ad8ust to whateverdistractions there are and soon 7nd that theycan ignore them.
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. Ch sing Only $hat%s"asy
ten we 7nd the !oor listeners have shunnedlistening to serious !resentations on radio ortelevision.
There is !lenty o easy listening available, andthis has been their choice.
The habit o avoiding even moderately di@culte9!ository !resentations in one=s ensure/timelistening can handica! anyone who needs to uselistening as a learning tool.
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). Letting "m ti n-Laden$ rds Get &n !he $ay
It is a act that some words carry such anemotional load that they cause some listeners totune a s!eaker right out: such as, a@rmativeaction and eminist/they are 7ghting words tosome !eo!le.
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I we knew what these words were, we couldring them out into the o!en, discuss them, andget them behind us.
It=s so oolish to let a mere symbol or somethingstand between us and learning.
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(4. $asting the Di'erential(et)een Speech and !h ught
Speed2e s!eak at an average rate o (3* words !er minute inordinary conversation.
% s!eaker be ore an audience slows down to about (44words !er minute.
How ast do listeners listenJ
r, to !ut the ;uestion in a better orm, how many wordsa minute do !eo!le normally think as they listenJ
I all their thoughts were measurable in words !er minute,the answer would seem to be that an audience o any si ewill average 044 to *44 words !er minute as they listen.
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Here is a !roblem.
The diferential between the s!eaker at (44 words
!er minute and the easy thought s!eed o thelistener at 044 or *44 words !er minute is a snareand a !it all.It lures the listener into a alse sense o securityand breeds mental tangents.
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However, with training in listening, thediference between thought s!eed and s!eechs!eed can be made a source o tremendous!ower.
Listeners can hear everything the s!eaker saysand not what s>he omits saying they can listenbetween the lines and do some evaluating asthe s!eech !rogresses.
To do this, to e9!loit this !ower, good listenersmust automatically !ractice three skills inconcentration:
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#nticipating the ne*tp int.
$ood listeners try to antici!ate the !oints as!eaker will make in develo!ing a sub8ect.
I they guess right, the s!eaker=s words rein orce
their guesses.I they guess wrong, they=ll have to do somethinking to discover why they and the s!eaker
ailed to agree.
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In either case, their chances o understandingand remembering what was said is nearlydouble what it would have been i they hadsim!ly listened !assively.
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&denti+ying supp rtingmaterial.
$ood listeners try to identi y a s!eaker=ssu!!orting material.
% ter all, a !erson can=t go on making !oints
without giving listeners some o the evidence onwhich the conclusions are based, and the bricksand mortar that have been used to build u! theargument should be e9amined or soundness.
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,ecapitulating.2ith the tremendous thought s!eed that everyonehas, it is easy to summari e in about 7ve secondsthe highlights covered by a s!eaker in about 7veminutes.
2hen the s!eaker sto!s to take a swallow o wateror walks over to the blackboard to write somethingor even takes a dee! breath, the e9!eriencedlistener makes a mental summary.
Hal a do en summaries o the highlights o a 7 ty/minute talk will easily double the understanding andretention im!ortant !oints in a talk.
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%rthur #obertson'())0 .
Listen for Success , Irwin.
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D. Body language that signals disinterest
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Larry Barker and1ittie 2atson '3444 .
Listen up: How to ImproveRelationships, Reduce Stress, and Be
ore !roductive "y #sing the !owerof Listening, &t. artin5s 6ress
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Irritating Listening Habits(. Interru!ting the s!eaker
3. "ot looking at the s!eaker
?. #ushing the s!eaker and making him eel thathe5s wasting the listener5s time
0. &howing interest in something other than theconversation
*. $etting ahead o the s!eaker and 7nishing herthoughts
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D. "ot res!onding to the s!eaker5s re;uests
+. &aying, M-es, but NO as i the listener has madeu! his mind
. To!!ing the s!eaker5s story with MThat remindsme NO or MThat5s nothing, let me tell youaboutNO
). Korgetting what was talked about !reviously(4. %sking too many ;uestions about details
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1ey issues:Lack o res!ect or the s!eaker
&tuck in own head tra!!ed by own thoughts
Hearing only what is su!er7cially said missingthe real meaning
$eneral ignorance about social !oliteness