Brain States: Learning to Read Children’s Behaviors A Conscious Discipline ® Presentation Presented by: Belinda Lorch, CDCI BrainBridge Connections ® with Conscious Discipline ®
Brain States: Learning to Read Children’s BehaviorsA Conscious Discipline® PresentationPresented by: Belinda Lorch, CDCIBrainBridge Connections®
with Conscious Discipline®
Sound familiar?
“Mom, she’s touching me!”“I HATE math!”
“Why do I have to unload the dishwasher?”“He took my doll!”
“I never get to do anything fun!”“Aaaaaaaaaaaaa! Moooooooom!”
“You’re the worst mom in the world!! I hate you!”
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Survival State
S.T.A.R.Stop
Take a deep breathAnd
Relax
You’re safe. Breathe with me.
You can handle this.
Emotional StateEmotional State• COMPLAININGCOMPLAINING
“Moooomm, when are we going to get there”
• JUDGMENTJUDGMENT“She always get to sit in the front”
• BLAMINGBLAMING “He is touching me”
•Namecalling, Whining and Tattling
Developmental Age 15 months-4 years old
Emotional State
Executive State (Problem Solving)
• Attention- sustain in spite of distractibility
• Time Management• Organization• Planning/Prioritization• Working Memory- hold info in
memory while doing tasks• Impulse Control- think before you
act• Flexibility- revise plans• Empathy- see from another’s point
of view• Metacognition- observe self• Goal Achievement- follow through• Task Initiation
• Child does not start assignments (dilly dallies) and is not finished
• Child is constantly off task; in that time disrupts others
• Child hits, pushes, grabs in his interaction with others
• Child is verbally abusive to others & disrespectful to teacher
These skills are only accessible when the child is responding from their executive state
When you feel stressed you lose access to
Pre-Frontal Lobe Skills
Children who have A.D.D. = 20% less of these skills to begin with.
Frontal Lobe Development
• Just before age 2 – development begins• 4 ½ - 8 – Big growth spurt• 11-12 – Another growth spurt• Teen (13 – 16) – Offline• 18 – 19 – Frontal Lobe comes back online• 25 – Fully Matured!!
Life comes at us through our
Limbic System