Positivity Place - How to Make Your 2010 Resolutions a Reality

Positivity Place

Making Living With Passion and Purpose routine

Agenda: 1.What is Positivity Place

2.How to make Your New Year Resolutions Actually work

3.Networking

Positivity Place

Because Living With Passion and Purpose should be routine…

Difference between resolutions and commitments

Resolutions = wish list

Commitments = must do list

What are you going to commit to this year?

Are the goals you have your true goals?

What would I do if I could not fail?

3 things you need to reach any goal

•Clarity

•Focus

•Motivation

The Power of Clarity and Focus

Activate Your Internal Navigation System

Reticular Activating System (responsible for what you notice)

How To Gain Clarity and Focus?

Choose up to two areas of primary focus for the year:

•An area in your life (career, health, finance, business, spiritual, family, friends, love, recreation, personal growth)

•A skill (communication, writing, public speaking, dancing, swimming, running, etc)

•An aspect of yourself you want to cultivate/strengthen (self-love, being sociable, confidence, charisma, productivity, organization, discipline, having integrity, responsibility, etc)

Define as clearly as possible your goals for each area:

Questions to answer to gain clarity:

When I Get There, What Do I Want to Experience?

What features do I want to include?

How would I feel when I get there?

How do I know if I’ve achieved my goal?

What is my current reality?

What needs to change in order to turn my current reality into my future wanted reality?

Don’t worry about “how”.

Get clear on “what”.

Internal vs. external goalsInternal goals are what will motivate you to reach your external goals.

Questions to ask to elicit internal goal:

Why do I want to achieve this?

How would I feel once I get there?

What is the root emotion I want to experience?

Who else would benefit from it?

Plan it.

Looking backwards what are the steps I know I need to take?

What is the next step that I need to take to get to my goal?

Don’t allow the dark staircase to scare you

Just take the next stair that is lit

Subconscious mind doesn’t like pain.

•If there is too much pain associated with reaching the goal your mind will sabotage you

•Your action plan should include the idea of pleasure.

•Link the steps you have to take to as much pleasure as possible.

•Don’t envision “hard work”, visualize the steps and smile.

•Give up the phrases “I have to”, “I need”, “I should”, say-“I decide”.

Define the costs of not making it

What are the long term costs of not making it?

Visualize

Visualize your goal as if it came true already

Use your root emotion while visualizing.

Set aside 7-10 minutes a day to visualize

Review•Set a time for yourself every day/week to sit down and review your goals

•Reviewing engrains your goals into your brain more and activates your Internal Navigation System even more.

•Plan your review time

Take the next step

Remember, one brick at a time.

Action Steps1.Ask yourself what you would do if you could not fail

2.Get rid of resolutions. Actually commit to your goals

3.Choose 1-2 areas to focus on this year

4.Define your Vision and your goals for each area. Get as clear and specific as possible

5. Think of your “what”, don’t worry about “how”.

6. Find your internal goals that will motivate you by asking “why” questions.

6. Make a plan (if you don’t know all the steps, just figure out what the next step is).

7. Associate as much pleasure as possible with reaching the goal and taking the steps to reaching it.

8. Define the costs of not making it. 9. Visualize.

10. Review your goals every day focusing on your root emotions.

11. Commit to taking the next step.

Networking5 things to remember while networking:

•Have the attitude of: “How can I help you?”

•Connect with as many people as possible

•Let them know what is the best way to follow up with you – FB, Twitter, email, LinkedIn etc.

•Actually follow up and connect