Written by, Darren Tagliarini Behavior Specialist

Written by, Darren Tagliarini Behavior Specialist www.thebehaviorguy.com

7 Weeks to

Week 1 EXPECTATIONS

Follow directionsListen to each otherDo your best work

THIS WEEKS TOPIC:

SETTING A GOAL AND RESPONSIBILITY

Week 1SET A GOAL

This goal will start every lesson as you

review what the child’s goal is and

their progress on that goal

Give one copy to child’s teacher to complete before session 1.Assist student with completing the same document during session 1 then discuss and

create a goal to work on as you compare teacher/student perceptions (Doc 1)

Discuss teacher Perception Survey and assist student with

creating a goal to work on.

(10-15 minutes)

1. Do you do your work at your desk without bothering others a. yesb. noc. sometimes2. Do you remember to bring home the supplies that you need every day?a. yesb. noc. sometimes3. Is your desk neat and tidy or is it messy?a. neatb. messyC. sometimes neat

4. Do you sometimes forget things?a. yesb. noc. sometimes5. Are you having your best year of school?a. yesb. noc. sometimes6. Will you be ready for the next grade?

a. yesb. no c. maybe

Discuss as a group

Parents give points for each job your child completes this week.

Send home for group

homework

Week 2 EXPECTATIONS


THIS WEEKS TOPIC:

GOOD LISTENING SKILLS

SEND ANOTHER Teacher Perception

Survey and assist discuss progress with student FROM PREVIOUS

WEEK.

Ways to be a better listenerLet’s read some ways that people can be better listeners. Some of the ideas are good, some are great and some are not so good. It is up to you to circle

which are which!

1. Stop what you are doing and look at who is talking

2. Keep doing what you are doing but listen

3. Write down what the teacher is saying4. After the directions were read….ask a friend what

they are doing5. Look at the teacher and raise a hand if you missed something

6. Walk to the teacher’s desk and ask a question while she is talking

7. Put your head down and listen

Good idea- Great idea- Not so good



8. Read a book

9. Write down some notes

10. Stop what you are doing and look at the speaker


Good idea- Great idea- Not so goodGood idea- Great idea- Not so good





ACTIVITY

Week 3 EXPECTATIONS

THIS WEEKS TOPIC:

SELF CONTROL


STOPS

THINKS

AND THEN MAKES THE BEST DECISION you CAN.

When you do the right thing you’ll feel proud and when makes a

mistake he learns and tries not to make that same mistake twice.

Self control is doing the right thing EVEN when the adults aren’t looking.

ACTIVITY

STOP AND THINK

Here are some situations where a person could use their self control.

Let’s find out what you think they should do

1. A boy drops five dollars and can’t buy his lunch

2. The teacher leaves the room for several minutes and leaves no work to complete

3. Friends come over to play and ruin your toys

4. Your parents send you to bed early

5. You leave school and forget your books

6. Your teacher is absent and you have a substitute and she doesn’t know what to do

7. You lose a favorite toy and think someone stole it

8. You are told to stop playing to eat dinner but you want to finish your game

9. You are late for school and you run down the hall

10. You get a bad grade in school

Here’s the situation What would you do?

Counselor and student can work together to fill in responses

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Week 4 EXPECTATIONS

THIS WEEKS TOPIC:

SHOWING RESPECT


What are some ways you show respect in school?

What are some ways you show respect at home?

RESPECTFUL OR NOT?Circle one

A boy wants to play with a game, so he invites a friend to play but does not allow anyone else to join, even though several kids ask to play and the game is for

several players.

There is a new student in class who has dirty pants on. Several of the kids laugh and make fun of him.

A girl in class has a nice new shirt on and one of the girls in class tells her she looks nice.

The teacher asks a question of a boy in class and he gets it very wrong. Another boy leans over to him and says “Nice try”

A girl in class has brought a toy to share and she let’s everyone take turns seeing it and playing with it

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Week 5 EXPECTATIONS

THIS WEEKS TOPIC:


Handling Anger

SEND ANOTHER Teacher Perception

Survey and assist discuss progress with student FROM PREVIOUS

WEEK.

Complete and

discuss.

I can talk calmly even when I am angry

I have hurt people’s feelings when I have been angry

• 10. Tell someone you are angry• 9. Walk away • 8. Yell, scream, punch or cry into a pillow• 7. Draw or paint how you are feeling• 6. Tear or crumple up papers and old magazines• 5. Take time and think• 4. Talk to yourself in the mirror about your problem• 3. Listen to music• 2. Think of the consequences of losing control • 1. Accept things and move on

Awareness: Choose to be aware of your body’s anger signs. They tell you when you are getting angry.

• Sweaty hands• Cold feet• Red face or ears• Clenched fists• Fast heart beat• Mean, terrible thoughts

Calm Down: As soon as you feel your warning signs use the calming strategies that you have learned.• Sit and Breathe deeply• Count to ten• Walk away• Accept it• Laugh it off• Stop and think of the consequences

Express yourself: Let someone know how you feel in a calm way.

Talk it out, draw or write it out but be sure to let it out no need to scream and shout.

Week 6 EXPECTATIONS

THIS WEEKS TOPIC:


Handling Conflict

I will read a sentence to you and you tell me if it is a choice you can or can not make.

1. I will be taller tomorrow.I can’t chose

2. I like strawberry ice-cream better than vanilla.

I can chose

We have a choice when we get angry…let’s play

4. I like strawberry ice-cream better than vanilla.

3. I can play with a friend on Tuesday and not on Wednesday.

6. I can leave the room and go home anytime during the day.

5. I can take my books home from class.

7. I can go the video store and pick a movie from the kids section.

I can’t chose

I can chose

I can chose

I can’t chose

I can chose

9. I can lose control and make bad choices.I can chose

8. I can work on my anger and control it..I can chose

10. I can be a better person and make the world a better place.

I can chose

HOW TO WORK OUT CONFLICTS(Fairly and Peacefully)

1. STOP . . .before you lose control of your temper and make the conflict worse.

2. SAY . . .what you feel is the problem. What is causing the disagreement? What do

you want?

3. LISTEN . . .to the other person's ideas and feelings.

4. THINK . . .of solutions that will satisfy both of you.

If you still can't agree, ask someone else to help you work it out.

Have you ever started working on a project with a

friend and gotten into a disagreement? What caused

the disagreement?

How did you feel? What did you say or do?

Why is it important to settle conflicts peacefully? What can happen if you don't?

Are there some conflicts that can't be resolved?

play fair throw trash out the window be polite

do kind things for others hurt animals help your family

tell lies call children bad names push ahead in line

do what you say you will do be kind to pets make good choices

fight pick up trash be rude

be thoughtful be mean to others ignore adults

talk when the teacher is talking share follow the rules

give up when things are hard finish your work tease others

Circle the words that describe what you try to do. Put an "X" on the ones you try not to do.

Start at top left and move to right

Week 7 EXPECTATIONS

THIS WEEKS TOPIC:


Review and Close

REVIEW ALL TEACHER PERCEPTION SHEETS OVER PAST 6 WEEKS

REVIEW AND DISCUSS ALL LESSONS

We talked about responsibility in our first meeting. What does being responsible mean?

We talked about being a good listener. How can you be a better listener?

How can you show self control?In the following places

Cafeteria

Art Class

Classroom

At Home

What is a good way to handle your anger?

Does everyone get angry?

What does the word conflict mean?

Why are conflicts important and how do we solve them peacefully?

What did you learn from our time together?

Remember these Ways to Keep a Positive Self Esteem

• Develop daily positive self statements• List the things you are good at:• Learn to identify your needs and feelings and

express them to the appropriate individuals daily.• Know the people you can go to for assistance• Complete tasks and achieve goals• Share your success and accept positive feedback• Setting goals and completing them helps build our self

esteem.• Make a list of 5 goals that you would like to complete. Then

select one goal to work on.• Think of ideas and ways to complete that goal.

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