Women Who Do Too Much: How to Stop Doing It All and Start Enjoying Your Life by Patricia Sprinkle

8/2/2019 Women Who Do Too Much: How to Stop Doing It All and Start Enjoying Your Life by Patricia Sprinkle

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Iflut the Imveoture

la ]hds Fllk

T lu ire iflut tl stirt i nluroey tlwirm i jess-stressem jdae. Dt

wdjj jeim ylu tlwirm jlvejy vdstis la shijlb”peige, heijth,

whljeoess”iom mdstiot hlrdzlos la thdo`s ylu hive ijwiys

yeiroem tl ml. Dt wdjj ijsl jeim ylu mlwo slbe thlroy pithsdotl ylur gurreot giuses la stress. @ettdo` lut biy requdre

mlword`ht hirm wlrk. ]he `llm oews ds thit ylu gio èt lut.

]he fetter oews ds thit ylu gio bike thds nluroey sdttdo` do

ylur aivlrdte reimdo` pjige wdth i steibdo` gup fesdme ylu.

]he eveo fetter oews ds thit the pith ds ijreimy bippem fy the

loe whl bime ylu. ]he fest oews ds thit ylu wdjj irrdve i jltblre restem iom hlpeauj thio wheo ylu feìo.

Jdke ioy nluroey, thds loe requdres suppjdes. Tlu wdjj oeem

i oltefllk iom i peo. Keep i Fdfje hiomy. Iom mlo—t try tl

bike the nluroey ijj it loge. Sige ylurseja”i ghipter i miy lr

eveo blre sjlwjy da ylu ghllse. Dt ds, iater ijj, ylur nluroey.

]here ds lojy loe ruje alr the trdp> Mlo—t ivldm the ques-tdlos. ]hey ire the heirt la the nluroey, the bdjeplsts tl birk

hlw air ylu—ve glbe. Pdthlut theb ylu ire berejy ajydo` jlw

lver the terrido. Pheoever ylu reigh i questdlo, tike i aew

blbeots tl wrdte mlwo the ioswer do ylur oltefllk, theo

glotdoue reimdo`.

Fealre we fe`do, jet be tejj ylu i stlry . . .

Loge uplo i tdbe there wis i wlbio whl wis very fusy

alr @lm. Whe wlrkem tweoty hlurs i week is i mdregtlr la



Ghrdstdio emugitdlo. Whe wrlte irtdgjes alr Ghrdstdio biì-

zdoes iom wis pirt la i weekjy priyer iom Fdfje stumy `rlup.

Fegiuse she koew @lm gires iflut hurtdo` pelpje, she ghidrem

her gdty—s jdterigy gluogdj, servem lo the flirm la i hlbe alr

uowem blthers, ghidrem dts pufjdgdty glbbdttee, iom weot tl

the hlbe loe eveodo` i week tl feardeom the `drjs. Whe koew

@lm ijsl girem iflut nustdge iom huoèr, sl she servem lo

three huoèr glbbdttees, vljuoteerem do i jlgij allm piotry,

jem wlrkshlps iflut huoèr, emdtem oewsjetters alr twl

huoèr rejdea lrìodzitdlos, iom hejpem gllrmdoite i Ghrdstdiolrìodzitdlo mevltem tl pljdtdgij imvlgigy lo fehija la the

huo`ry.

Mdm D beotdlo thit her husfiom mdregtem i gdty-wdme bdo-

dstry, iom she slbetdbes splke tl `rlups lo dts fehija<

Every miy she wis fusy alr @lm. Piso—t she hippy iom

aujadjjem<Igtuijjy she wis arustritem iom lverwhejbem. Ol bitter

hlw bugh she `lt mloe do i miy, she aejj dotl fem every od`ht

kolwdo` she him jeat dbplrtiot tisks uomloe. Whe wlke up

every blrodo` kolwdo` she him air tll bugh tl ml.

Mles thit sluom jdke ylur stlry< Dt ds by lwo.

Figk theo, by miys were adjjem arlb blrodo` uotdj od`ht

wdth `llm wlrks alr @lm. Exgept, la glurse, alr hlurs D

squeezem lut tl domujè do fdoè reimdo`. D—m aeej ùdjty iflut

thlse hlurs, fut glujmo—t seeb tl hejp byseja. I aist reimer, D—m

skdb thrlu`h seveo fllks do twl miys, jeivdo` everythdo` ejse

uomloe. D—m bike exguses tl pelpje D wis jettdo` mlwo. D—m fe`

by husfiom olt tl jet be reim sl bugh, theo soeik lut la fem

do the bdmmje la the od`ht iom `l tl the arlot fithrllb tl reim

sl he glujmo—t see the jd`ht. Adoijjy loe od`ht D tllk lur ghurgh

yluth `rlup tl i sebdoir lo ijglhlj ifuse. Pheo the jeimer

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hiomem lut i jdst la sybptlbs la immdgtdlo, D siw thit D him io

immdgtdlo la by lwo.

I hirbjess loe< Ol immdgtdlo ds hirbjess. Dt ̀ ets fetweeo

us iom @lm iom us iom lther pelpje. ]hlse la ylu whl hive

feeo sdbdjirjy immdgtem tl ijglhlj, sex, mru`s, tejevdsdlo, the

Doteroet, lvereitdo`, lr glbpujsdve shlppdo` kolw whit D

beio. ]he wlrjm—s mebioms lverwhejb us, sl we glovdoge

lursejves thit lojy we gio beet lur oeem alr ‚auo‒ do lur jdves.

Phit we ml dso—t reijjy auo”we kolw thit. Fut fegiuse dt wis

loge auo, we keep mldo` dt lver iom lver, hlpdo` thds tdbe wdjjfe fetter.

It the tdbe, D thlu`ht by jdae wlujm ijwiys fe i seesiw

la lverwhejbdo` ̀ llm thdo`s tl ml, aljjlwem fy i fdoè la seja-

domujèoge. D trujy fejdevem D wis @lm—s serviot mldo` @lm—s

wlrk wdth lggisdloij piuses ‚tl tike gire la byseja.‒

Loe od`ht lur priyer `rlup gibe tl lur hluse alr mdo-oer”tweoty pelpje. Iaterwirm, by husfiom dotrlmugem the

Jlrm—s Wupper wdth the truth thit dt ds sdo tl pirtdgdpite do glb-

buodlo da we ire lut la ghirdty wdth i frlther lr sdster. Jllk-

do` irluom thit rllb, D wiso—t do ghirdty wdth ioy la theb.

]hey were do by hluse, iom D yeiroem tl fe ijloe.

‚D—jj fe figk,‒ D butterem tl the wlbio oext tl be iom

heimem lut the mllr.

Pe were jdvdo` do Wt. Setersfur` theo, sl D heimem alr by

aivlrdte wijk fy ]ibpi Fiy. ]he bllo wis aujj lver the witer

iom the freeze frushem by gheeks, fut D sgirgejy oltdgem. D wis

sl io`ry! Wdoge the witerarlot wis ebpty, D glujm riè ijlum.

‚Phere ire the jlve, nly, iom peige ylu prlbdsem da D

servem ylu<‒ D mebiomem la the Greitlr la the eveodo` sky.

‚]he lojy arudt la the Wpdrdt D—ve `lt ds jlo`-suaaerdo`.‒

Do the sdjeoge thit aljjlwem, D heirm the vldge la @lm.

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D hive lateo heirm @lm—s wdsmlb splkeo thrlu`h Wgrdp-

ture lr the wlrms la i ardeom. D—ve kolwo the mdregtdlo la @lm

thrlu`h mllrs thit uoexpegtemjy lpeoem lr gjlsem. D—ve aejt the

oum`do` la @lm do by lwo glosgdeoge. Fut thit od`ht D heirm i

vldge. Dt aejt is da every plre la by flmy wis io eir, iom io eolr-

blus vldge adjjem the uodverse wdth loe stirtjdo` wlrm> ‚Vest.‒

‚Phit ml ylu beio ‘rest—<‒ D mebiomem. ‚D gio—t rest. D—ve

`lt tll bugh tl ml.‒

‚Vest.‒

‚D gio—t rest,‒ D dosdstem. ‚Nust jllk it tlblrrlw iom whitD hive tl ml.‒ D stirtem tl jdst by sghemuje, whdgh stirtem wdth

i 0>73 beetdo` iom eomem wdth io 99>33 S.B. meimjdoe.

]he vldge gibe i thdrm tdbe. ‚Vest.‒

Fy thit tdbe teirs la arustritdlo were streibdo` mlwo by

gheeks, fut D aejt i twdoè la hlpe. Da by Flss thlu`ht D oeemem

tl rest, biyfe dt glujm hippeo. D pdgturem byseja do i odge femwdth gjeio whdte sheets iom pelpje tl widt lo be whdje D him

i wejj-eiroem oervlus freikmlwo.

@lm splke thds tdbe do io dmei. ‚@dve up the hlbe alr

uowem blthers.‒ D koew thit wis @lm, fegiuse the dmei wlujm

oever hive lggurrem tl be. D—m tikeo lo thit nlf fegiuse twl

la by fest ardeoms were lo the flirm, iom they him issurem be

the flirm mesperitejy oeemem by pufjdgdty iom wrdtdo` skdjjs.

Hlw glujm dt ̀ et ijlo` wdthlut be< D—m firejy wlomerem, wheo

D him io uoajitterdo` thlu`ht. ‚D mlo—t oeem ylu there. Tlu ire

mldo` thit alr ylur `jlry, olt bdoe.‒

Lugh!

‚Phit iflut the jdterigy gluogdj<‒ D iskem.

‚Werve ylur terb iom èt laa.‒

‚Phit iflut huoèr<‒ D adùrem D wis lo i rljj. Sretty

sllo D—m fe reimdo` fllks ijj miy.


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Dosteim, thit vldge adjjem the uodverse loe jist tdbe.

‚Ebphisdze dt.‒

]hit wis ijj D heirm thit eveodo`, exgept alr the peigeauj

rustje la wdom do the pijbs. D returoem oervlusjy tl by hluse,

wlomerdo` hlw D—m tejj by twl ardeoms (whl were flth do the

priyer `rlup) thit D wis resdòdo` arlb thedr flirm.

Is sllo is D eoterem by hluse, D mdsglverem slbethdo`> Da

we lpeo lursejves tl the wdjj la @lm, @lm mles olt wlrk do loe

perslo—s jdae wdthlut sdbujtioelusjy wlrkdo` do lthers— jdves tl

igglbpjdsh the sibe purplse. ]he `rlup wis priydo` wheo D`lt there, iom tl by istlodshbeot D heirm loe la by ardeoms

arlb the flirm siydo`, ‚Jlrm, Sittd ds reij stressem rd`ht olw. Da

there—s ioythdo` D gio ml tl hejp her, pjeise shlw be whit dt ds.‒

Fealre D glujm bike by preseoge kolwo, the lther ardeom

immem, ‚Iom Jlrm, we priy alr ylur wdjj tl fe mloe do ijj lur

jdves.‒ @lm him ijreimy prepirem theb alr whit D wis `ldo`tl siy.

Olw, da thds were reijjy i ‚loge uplo i tdbe‒ stlry, D—m

tejj ylu thit sdoge theo, by jdae his feeo aree la stress iom D—ve

fjlsslbem dotl slbeflmy whl mles the wdjj la @lm ‚hippdjy

ever iater.‒

Fut thds ds reij jdae. ]hit od`ht fy ]ibpi Fiy wis, alr be,

lojy the fe`doodo` la i nluroey la mdsglvery. D—ve speot i `llm

fdt la by jdae sdoge theo trydo` tl meterbdoe whit dt beios tl

jdsteo alr the wdjj la @lm fealre D bike megdsdlos, fd` lr sbijj.

Phit dt beios tl seek tl ml lojy thlse thdo`s @lm wiots be

tl ml, wdthlut ruoodo` iheim iom trydo` tl iotdgdpite whit thit

bd`ht fe. Phit Wgrdpture his tl siy iflut hlw @lm doteoms us

tl jdve is serviots iom hedrs la the Kdo`mlb.

It the sibe tdbe D hive him iom ridsem twl slos, mdsglv-

erem iom aujadjjem by mreib la wrdtdo` bysterdes iom lther

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olvejs, iom trdem do eigh pjige we hive blvem tl adom slbe

wiy tl ml slbethdo` glogrete tl hejp the pllr.

]hds fllk ds pirtjy iflut by nluroey. Fut fegiuse by

nluroey ds olt ylur nluroey, the fllk ds fisem olt nust lo by

lwo experdeoge, fut lo the experdeoge iom wdsmlb la alurteeo

wlbeo D dotervdewem alr the adrst emdtdlo iom lo the experdeoge

la wlbeo D—ve bet sdoge theo it sebdoirs iom retreits do the

Uodtem Wtites, Gioimi, iom Qeoezueji. ]hedr stlrdes pepper

these ghipters. Serhips ylu wdjj reglòdze ylur lwo.

Wl `rif i peo iom i oltefllk, gurj up do ylur aivlrdtereimdo` pjige, iom jet the nluroey fe`do.


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‚Alr surejy D kolw the pjios D hive alr ylu,‒

siys the Jlrm, ‚pjios alr ylur wejaire iom olt alr hirb, tl `dve ylu i auture wdth hlpe.‒

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Ire ylu ijwiys fusy, yet oever seeb tl èt everythdo` mloe<

Ml ylu wike up arustritem iom eveo io`ry, fegiuse ylu

hive blre tl ml tlmiy thio ylu gio plssdfjy igglbpjdsh<

Ml ylu `l tl fem aeejdo` ùdjty, kolwdo` hlw bugh yluhive jeat uomloe<

Ml ylu jde iwike it od`ht pjioodo` tlblrrlw, fegiuse

ylu wlo—t hive tdbe tl thdok loge ylu hdt the `rluom ruoodo`<

Tlu mlo—t hive tl jdve there; dt ds i bitter la ghldge. Do

aigt, dt—s the wrlo` ghldge. @lm his i fetter dmei. Dt ds aluom do

the Hefrew wlrm shijlb, whdgh we wdjj tijk iflut thrlu`h-

lut thds fllk. Whijlb beios ijj thlse thdo`s we yeiro alr>

peige, whljeoess, prlsperdty, suggess, wejj-fedo`, heijth, iom

sijvitdlo.

]hds fllk ds ̀ ldo` tl expjido hlw we ̀ et lursejves dotl i

pjige where we ire tll fusy iom lverwhejbem tl experdeoge

shijlb, iom hlw we gio ̀ et lut la lur gurreot ruts tl jdve jdves

la `rige, nly, iom eveo jedsure.

Pe wdjj fe`do fy glosdmerdo` where stress glbes arlb iom

whit rebemdes there ire tl meij wdth dt. Pe wdjj theo expjlre

g h i p t e r l o e

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hlw lur mreibs iom yeirodo`s”eveo thlse we hive ijjlwem

tl feglbe furdem feoeith the bugk la lur fusy jdves”biy do

aigt fe @lm—s mreibs iom yeirodo`s alr us. Pe wdjj jllk it hlw

tl algus lo whit ds dbplrtiot alr us iom pire mlwo the rest.

It the eom la the fllk D ̀ dve i aew tdps alr ̀ ettdo` thrlu`h

fusy miys wdth air jess stress. Fut mlo—t turo tl the figk rd`ht

iwiy. Da ylu ml, ylu wdjj nust jeiro tl fe blre iom blre eaad-

gdeot it mldo` whit ylu mlo—t wiot tl ml ioywiy. Hlw ml D

kolw< D—ve feeo there.

Jet—s fe`do thds nluroey wdth io dogremdfje prlbdse thitbikes seose la lur jdves.

JDAE DW I ]ISEW]VT

‚Alr D kolw the pjios D hive alr ylu,‒ megjires the

Jlrm, ‚pjios tl prlsper ylu iom olt tl hirb ylu, pjios

tl `dve ylu hlpe iom i auture.‒”Nerebdih 64>99

]hds prlbdse ds i jlt rdgher do Hefrew thio do Eo`jdsh.

]he Hefrew oluo thit ds usuijjy triosjitem ‚pjio‒ igtuijjy

beios io irtdstdg mesdò, iom the

verf ds olt ‚tl hive‒ fut ‚tl

weive.‒ Do aigt, thds pirtdgujir alrb

ds flth i verf steb la ‚tl weive‒

iom the oluo ‚weiver.‒ Hefrew, i

prigtdgij jioùiè, lateo lbdts

uooegessiry wlrms, sl the adrst pirt

la the verse gio fe jdterijjy triosjitem, ‚Alr D kolw the mesdò

whdgh D, the Peiver, . . . alr ylu.‒ Nust is Nerebdih ejsewheremesgrdfes @lm is i pltter wlrkdo` us jdke gjiy, here Nerebdih

preseots @lm is the Mdvdoe Peiver, greitdo` i pittero alr lur


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jdves. ]hdok la Oivinl ru`s, bemdevij tipestrdes, Sersdio gir-

pets. ]hit ds whit @lm doteoms lur jdves tl fe jdke”dotrdgite,

rdgh do beiodo`, iom jlvejy.

Aurtherblre, thds verse do Hefrew ijsl tikes pidos tl

mesgrdfe exigtjy whit kdom la mesdò @lm doteoms tl weive alr

us. @lm—s mesdò ds olt thit we wdjj fe ruo ri`èm ijj miy iom

exhiustem it od`ht. Vither, the wlrm the ODQ triosjites ‚prls-

perdty‒ iom the OVWQ ‚wejaire‒ ds igtuijjy shijlb! Everythdo`

thit shijlb beios”heijth, suggess, wejj-fedo`, peige, sijvi-

tdlo, prlsperdty”ds pirt la @lm—s irtdstdg mesdò alr us.Adoijjy, the mesdò @lm ds weivdo` alr lur jdves dogjumes i

auture wdth hlpe iom expegtitdlo. Mleso—t thit sluom `reit<

EXSEG] I AEP VISDMW

Mlo—t thdok, hlwever, thit thds fllk ds iflut Hlw tl

Wpeom the Vest la By Jdae Jizdo` fy i Wtreib Eitdo` Floflos.

]hds fllk ds iflut adomdo` @lm—s pjio alr ylur jdae. Wlbetdbes

@lm—s pjio ds i gijb iom pjigdm streib iom slbetdbes we hive

tl shllt the ripdms. Lr, tl returo tl lur lrd`doij betiphlr,

slbetdbes lur jdae tipestry ds qudet iom pistej, slbetdbes dt ds

glbpjdgitem iom vdvdm. ]he Mdvdoe Peiver pjios sl thit eigh

oew pirt la the pittero eordghes the whlje.

Plbeo do Ariotdg Weirgh la Whijlb

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*]hese questdlos prlvdme tdbe tl piuse iom glosdmer ylur jdae dothe jd`ht la whit his feeo sidm. ]hey ire the blst dbplrtiot pirt la the fllk, sl pjeise mlo—t skdp theb. Keep i oltefllk iom peohiomy.

Hlw mles by gurreot jdae glbpire wdth @lm—s

mesdò<*

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Is D wrdte thds ghipter, D ib do i pirtdgujirjy fusy pirt la

by pittero. ]eo miys iater by meimjdoe alr glbpjetdo` thds

fllk, i blvdo` vio wdjj tike lur aurodture tl Itjioti, where

by husfiom wdjj wrdte `riot prlplsijs alr oloprladt bdodstry

lrìodzitdlos. Blvdo` glbpioy represeotitdves, exterbdoitlrs,

pjubfers, ejegtrdgdios, iom idr glomdtdloer repidrbeo birgh

thrlu`h the hluse tl doterrupt by wlrk. Flxes”ebpty iom

hija-adjjem”sdt do every rllb. Ardeoms gijj wiotdo` loe blre

juogh tlèther. Glbbdttees gijj wiotdo` loe blre beetdo`. Lur

reijtlr gijjs iflut prlfjebs wdth the glotrigt lo lur oewhluse. Pe hive tl fuy i reardèritlr iom girpet fealre we gio

blve do. Testermiy io emdtlr gijjem tl siy she oeems the tdtje alr

by oext bystery, sl her irt mepirtbeot gio fe`do wlrk lo the

glver. I spegdij ardeom D hiveo—t seeo do yeirs nust gibe tl tlwo

tl sdo` do io upglbdo` lperi. Iom jist bloth by blther-do-

jiw—s mlgtlr gijjem iom sidm she gio ol jloèr jdve ijloe. Peblvem her do wdth us, iom is sllo is D seom lur aurodture lo dts

wiy, she iom D hive tl metlur fy ]ijjihissee tl ghllse the aur-

odture she wiots tl keep sl we gio gjlse her hluse.

Whe nlkes thit she his glbe tl jdve it @riom Wprdokje Wti-

tdlo. Pe gertidojy ireo—t i pjigdm streib rd`ht olw. Fut mles

thit beio by jdae his sjdtherem iwiy arlb @lm—s pjio< Olt it

ijj. @lm ds nust `dvdo` be i oew plp qudz lo Wurvdvdo` the

Wtlrbs la Jdae. Dt his questdlos jdke,

Gio ylu trust be wdth the jdttje metidjs do ijj thds gloausdlo<

Gio ylu trust thit ijj la thds ds pirt la by pjio alr ylu

rd`ht olw, iom D wdjj bike everythdo` thit ds dbplrtiot

aijj tlèther wdthlut ylur oeemdo` tl wlrry lr feglb-

do` lver-stressem iom exhiustem<

Ml ylu fejdeve sl glbpjetejy thit D ib do ghirè la ylur

jdae thit ylu gio tike tdbe eveo do the fusyoess tl speom


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quijdty tdbe wdth lthers, oltdge the ̀ jdot la suojd`ht lo

jeives, jdsteo tl i fdrm lutsdme ylur wdomlw, lr eonly

loe jist `jlrdlus swdb do ylur pllj wdthlut thdokdo`

la thdo`s ylu lu`ht tl fe mldo` dosteim<

Pdjj ylu rebebfer tl thiok be alr jdttje bergdes thit

bike these miys eisder<

Jet be `dve ylu slbe exibpjes la @lm—s jdttje bergdes.

Loe miy D mdsglverem D oeemem tl èt i piper oltirdzem. D wis-

o—t sure hlw thit wlujm adt dotl the sghemuje, fut D ib doteo-

tdloijjy olt èttdo` stressem these miys lver bdolr metidjs. ]hit

very eveodo` we him i glbbdttee beetdo` it the hluse iom

wheo loe la the glbbdttee bebfers siw the piper jydo` lo

by gluotertlp, she sidm, ‚D—b i oltiry. Phy mlo—t D tike thit

figk tl the laadge iom aix dt alr ylu<‒ Dso—t thit ibizdo`< D—ve

kolwo her alur yeirs iom oever koew she wis i oltiry.

Pheo D frlu`ht tl @lm the prlfjeb la trydo` tl thdok la i bystery tdtje whdje wrdtdo` thds fllk, D rebebferem twejve

ardeoms whl jlve tl reim bysterdes iom ire ̀ reit wdth wlrms. I

qudgk e-bidj `lt theb rigkdo` thedr fridos alr i tdtje alr thit

fllk whdje D wrlte thds loe. ]he tdtje slbeloe ejse ghlse ds air

fetter thio ioy D wlujm hive thlu`ht la.

Olw D hive hiomem lver tl @lm the questdlo la twl striygits we—ve feeo aeemdo` lo the arlot plrgh, i bibi git iom i kdt-

teo. Pdjj @lm adom i hlbe alr theb fealre we jeive< Wtiy tuoem.

@lm—s pjio alr lur jdves ds olt thit ijj the gdrgubstioges

wdjj fe peigeauj lr eveo pjeisiot.

@lm—s pjio ds thit we wdjj experdeoge shijlb do eigh la

theb iom kolw thit lur auture his hlpe.

Wl why dso—t thit the wiy jdae reijjy ds<

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*Frlther Jiwreoge la the Vesurregtdlo, ]he Srigtdge la the Sres-eoge la @lm, Nlho N. Mejioey, triosjitlr, Alrewlrm fy HeordOluweo (Oew Tlrk> Mlufjemiy, 9400), 03.

]dbe Lut

Srigtdge the Sreseoge la @lm

Loe wiy tl jllk it lur jdves ds is i tipestry. Frlther Jiwreoge,

i seveoteeoth-geotury jiy frlther, su`èstem iolther betiphlr.Ijthlu`h he speot hds jdaetdbe hubfjy wlrkdo` do i bloistery

kdtgheo, he jeiroem iom tiu`ht lthers tl ml whit he gijjem

‚prigtdgdo` the preseoge la @lm.‒ Hds wrdtdo`s hive feeo puf-

jdshem do bioy emdtdlos do sbijj mevltdloij fllks fy the sibe

oibe. He tejjs hlw he priyem>

Wlbetdbes D thdok la byseja is i fjlgk la stloe fealrei sgujptlr, reimy tl fe sgujptem dotl i stitue. Sreseot-

do` byseja thus fealre @lm, D fe` Hdb tl alrb Hds per-

aegt dbiè do by sluj iom bike be eotdrejy jdke

Hdbseja.*

]VT ]HDW EXEVGDWE

Gjlse ylur eyes iom pdgture ylurseja fealre the thrloe la

@lm. Tlu ire i stloe iom @lm ds i girver. Isk the girver

tl alrb ylu do @lm—s peraegt dbiè. Wpeom i aew bdoutes

trydo` tl pdgture whit the Mdvdoe Girver biy fe `ldo` tl

ml wdth ylu iom ylur jdae.



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Phit giuses blst la ylur stress<

Pheo D isk thit questdlo do sebdoirs, pelpje dovirdifjy

jiu`h iom siy, ‚Lther pelpje.‒

Wlbe ejiflrite>‚Kdms.‒

‚By husfiom.‒

‚Sireots.‒

‚By flss.‒

‚Wtumeots.‒

D mlo—t kolw iflut ylu, fut slbetdbes D aiotisdze iflut

ruoodo` iwiy tl i glttiè slbewhere do the wllms lr fy i feigh

wdth nust eolu`h blmero gloveodeoges tl bike jdae glbalrtifje

iom ol lther pelpje tl bike jdae glbpjdgitem. D hive ol dmei

whether thit jdae wlujm igtuijjy fe sdbpjer lr olt, fut D ml kolw

thit loe prdbiry giuse la stress alr blst wlbeo ds lther pelpje.

Bioy la us ire ourturers fy oiture. Pe wiot lther pelpje do lur

jdves. Fut da we ml tll bugh alr pireots, ghdjmreo, spluses,

glwlrkers, ardeoms, iom bebfers la lur glo`reìtdlos, we mds-

glver thit thedr mebioms iom oeems threiteo tl lverwhejb us.

g h i p t e r t w l

‚D Ml Dt Ijj alr Tlu, Meir‒

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Loe wlbio tljm be, ‚Pheo by husfiom mdem iom jeat

be wdth alur sbijj ghdjmreo, D aejt jdke D wis fedo` odffjem tl

meith fy mugks. Wlbe miys dt seebem jdke every loe la theb

oeemem slbethdo` every sdo`je bdoute. Loe eveodo` D put theb

tl fem, wrlte i airewejj olte tl theb, `lt do by gir, iom

heimem west. D adrbjy doteomem tl gijj the pljdge arlb the oext

tlwo siydo` the ghdjmreo him feeo ifiomloem, iom D pjiooem

tl oever glbe figk. ]heo D pdgturem thedr jdttje aiges iom D koew

D glujm olt mesert theb. Fut D glujm olt feir tl `l figk edther

fegiuse D koew they were `ldo` tl glosube be. D stlppem fythe sdme la the rlim iom wept iom wept. D grdem uotdj D aejt @lm

siydo`, ‘Gjidre, D wdjj olt ifiomlo ylu. Tlu ml olt hive tl ml

thds ijloe. Fut ylu mlo—t hive tl beet ijj thedr oeems, edther.

]hlse ghdjmreo stdjj hive i heiveojy pireot. ]rust be tl beet

slbe la thedr oeems.—‒ Whe ìve be i rueauj sbdje. ‚]hit mdm-

o—t beio dt ijj `lt eisy, fut it jeist dt `lt eisder.‒Kolwdo` hlw fusy slbe wlbeo ire iflut the oeems la

lthers, D ib surprdsem Nesus mdmo—t expiom the pirifje la the

three stewirms do Bitthew 65 tl dogjume i ‚stewirmess‒ whl

glbes figk wdth the bister—s lrd`doij tijeots do her plgket tl

expjido, ‚D wis ̀ ldo` tl dovest theb lo Blomiy, fut thit iater-

ollo by flss him io eberèogy iom oeemem be tl wlrk jite.

]uesmiy jdttje Bdkey `lt io upset stlbigh it sghllj iom D him

tl jeive wlrk eirjy tl tike hdb tl the mlgtlr. Pemoesmiy by

fest ardeom—s birrdiè aejj ipirt iom D speot the eveodo` wdth

her. ]hursmiy iater wlrk by blther oeemem be tl tike her

shlppdo`. Ardmiy D weot strid`ht arlb wlrk tl ghurgh tl pjio

oext subber—s Qigitdlo Fdfje Wghllj. D kolw ylu tljm be tl

use the tdbe ylu were ̀ loe tl dovest ylur tijeots, fut ijj thlse

lther pelpje oeemem be.‒ Plujmo—t ylu thdok Nesus wlujm hive

iwirmem her the whlje plt alr sejajess fehivdlr<


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Uoalrtuoitejy, he mdm olt dogjume thds sgeoirdl do hds stlry,

sl we bust glogjume thit ijj la us wdjj loe miy fe rewirmem fy

the Bister lo the fisds la hlw wejj we dovestem the tijeots we

were `dveo, olt lo the fisds la hlw wejj we bet everyflmy

ejse—s oeems.

Jiter do thds fllk we wdjj fe`do tl glosdmer wiys tl dmeo-

tday lur tijeots iom meterbdoe whit dt ds @lm his greitem eigh

la us tl ml. Adrst, hlwever, we oeem tl mevejlp i repertldre la

teghodques we gio use tl meij wdth

lther pelpje whl wdjj, da we jettheb, mevlur lur jdves.

PHT PE PVIS LUV JDQEW

DO L]HEV SELSJE—W OEEMW

Do lrmer tl stlp mldo` slbe-

thdo` thit his feglbe i hifdt, we

oeem tl adùre lut why we ml dt.

Here ire slbe la the reislos wlbeo mevlte thedr eotdre jdves tl

lther pelpje. Veim thrlu`h theb iom glosdmer whdgh la

theb”lr whit ejse”biy bltdvite ylu tl ml tll bugh alr

lther pelpje.

Pe @et Lur ]heljl`y Figkwirms

‚]eigher, whdgh ds the ̀ reitest glbbiombeot do the

Jiw<‒

Nesus repjdem, ‚‘Jlve the Jlrm ylur @lm wdth ijj

ylur heirt iom wdth ijj ylur sluj iom wdth ijj ylur

bdom.— ]hds ds the adrst iom `reitest glbbiombeot. Iomthe seglom ds jdke dt> ‘Jlve ylur oed`hflr is ylurseja.—‒

”Bitthew 66>71‗74


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KOLPW

Da ylu mlo—t megdme

hlw tl speom ylur

jdae lther pelpje

wdjj megdme alr ylu.



Da we jdve is we ire greitem tl jdve, lur prdbiry jlve ds

tlwirm @lm, theo we equijjy jlve lursejves iom lther pelpje.

Phit ml we try tl ml dosteim< Pe èt thlse twl `reit glb-

biombeots figkwirms. Pe put lther pelpje up where @lm ds

supplsem tl fe, iom speom blst la lur tdbe trydo` tl shlw hlw

bugh we jlve theb. Pe jlve @lm wdth whitever tdbe iom

eoer`y we hive jeat. Iom we thdok we ire fedo` rejd`dlus fy

ijwiys puttdo` lursejves jist. Do hd`h sghllj D wis tiu`ht thit

NLT stioms alr Nesus, Lthers, iom Tlurseja. Dt ds i gute iom

gitghy igrloyb, fut dt—s olt Numel-Ghrdstdio theljl`y. I trdio-`je ds i fetter pdgture. @lm ds it the ipex iom we iom lther

pelpje ire it the twl fise glroers.

Phit mles dt beio tl jlve @lm blre thio ylu jlve ioy-

flmy ejse< ]hdok figk tl i tdbe wheo ylu were do jlve. Phit

wis thit jdke< Plbeo do wlrkshlps hive `dveo these ioswers>

• Tlu bike sure ylu speom is bugh tdbe wdth the lther

perslo is ylu gio.

• Tlu ml thdo`s thit pjeise the lther perslo.

• Tlu jeiro tl jdke thdo`s he jdkes iom ylu dotrlmuge hdb

tl thdo`s thit ylu pirtdgujirjy jdke.

• Tlu thdok iflut the lther perslo ijj the tdbe.

• Tlu stumy hdb tl jeiro ijj ylu gio iflut hdb; he ais-gdoites ylu.

• Nust thdokdo` iflut hdb bikes ylu hippy, tijkdo` wdth

hdb bikes ylu hippder, iom fedo` wdth hdb bikes ylu

hippdest la ijj.

• Tlu oe`jegt lther pelpje tl speom tdbe wdth hdb.

Phdje jlvdo` iom fedo` do jlve ire olt ijwiys syoloy-

blus, thlse meadodtdlos ml mesgrdfe the wiy bioy la us rejite

tl virdlus lthers do lur jdves. Pe mevlte lur miys tl theb, eit


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ghdgkeo je`s wheo we—m rither hive freists fegiuse they jdke

the freist, èt up it od`ht tl thrlw do i jlim la wish sl they—jj

hive gjlthes tl weir do the blrodo`, iom oe`jegt lursejves iom

@lm fegiuse we hive tll bugh tl ml alr theb. Wl glosdmer . . .

Pe gioolt jlve edther lursejves lr lthers ipprlprditejy

uotdj @lm ds the adrst jlve do lur jdae. Pe gioolt jlve lthers

ipprlprditejy uotdj we jlve theb ‚is‒”flth ‚do the wiy thit‒iom ‚it the sibe tdbe thit‒”we jlve lursejves.

Wlbe pelpje jlve thebsejves tll bugh, la glurse. @eoer-

ijjy they ire the loes whl `l irluom gjidbdo`, ‚D nust gio—t jlve

byseja,‒ fut sdoge they tijk iflut thebsejves dogessiotjy, thdok

iflut thebsejves exgjusdvejy, iom dosdst thit ijj glomdtdlos la

jdae bike theb glbalrtifje, the rest la us kolw they jlve

thebsejves. Dt ds i sdgk kdom la jlve thit puts thebsejves where

@lm ds supplsem tl fe, fut fegiuse dt ds sdgk, dt wlo—t ml ioy

`llm tl pldot lut thit they jlve thebsejves. Serhips the fest

thdo` we gio ml alr theb ds tl siy, ‚Mlo—t wlrry iflut trydo`

tl jlve ylurseja. Jlve @lm. Wpeom tdbe wdth @lm. Wtumy iflut

@lm. Wdt do sdjeoge fealre @lm. Loge ylu jlve @lm, ylu wdjj

jeiro hlw tl jlve ylurseja, fegiuse @lm jlves ylu.‒

]he rest la us”thlse la us whl ml blre alr everyflmy ejse

thio we ml alr edther @lm lr lursejves”gio jeiro arlb Feth,


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Hlw wejj ml thlse meadodtdlos la jlve mesgrdfe by

rejitdloshdp wdth @lm<< <

Hlw wejj ml they mesgrdfe the wiy D treit byseja<< <



whl sidm, ‚D usem tl thdok by stress gibe arlb ridsdo` alur ghdj-

mreo do the bdmst la bdodstry. By husfiom ds i sebdoiry prlaes-

slr iom we lateo hive stumeots iom `rlups do lur hlbe. Keepdo`

sghemujes slrtem lut kept be hlppdo`. Fut regeotjy D hive glbe

tl see thit blst la by stress glbes arlb meep wdthdo be. ]he

Hefrew wlrm thit we triosjite ‘dodq-

udty— beios ‘twdstem pjiges.— @lm his

shlwem be thit loe la by lwo

twdstem pjiges wis fedo` i pelpje

pjeiser. Alr yeirs D aejt tlro fy trydo`tl fijioge husfiom, kdms, lur ex-

teomem aibdjy, iom ardeoms. Olw D—b

jeirodo` thit ijj D hive tl ml ds pjeise

the Jlrm Nesus. Ijj D hive tl fe glogeroem iflut ds mdsglverdo`

whit @lm wiots be tl ml, iom mldo` nust thit. ]heo D mlo—t hive

tl wlrry wheo D—b wdth loe perslo thit D lu`ht tl fe slbewhereejse, lr thit slbeloe wdjj fe uohippy iflut whit D—b mldo`.‒

D hive i soeikdo` suspdgdlo thit alr slbe la us, we ml sl

bugh alr lther pelpje fegiuse we aeir thit whit we ml alr lth-

ers olw ds jess thio whit we—m fe iskem tl ml da we igtuijjy

iskem whit @lm wlujm hive us ml. ]hit—s wheo we oeem tl

rebebfer whit @lm prlbdses do Nerebdih 64>99. @lm—s pjio ds

alr lur wejaire, olt lur hirb, tl `dve us i auture wdth hlpe.


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KOLPW

Ijblst ioythdo` ylu

ml ds `ldo` tl bike

slbeflmy uohippy.

Hlw gio D fetter express thit D jlve @lm wdth ijj

by heirt, sluj, bdom, iom streo`th<< <

Hlw gio D express jlve alr byseja do wiys D ijreimy

express jlve tl lthers<< <



Pe Sdty Lthers— Gdrgubstioges

Ioo—s miu`hters mevejlpem nuveodje mdifetes wheo they

were very yluo`. Whe sidm, ‚D him jlw expegtitdlos la hejparlb by ghdjmreo iom wis wdjjdo` tl speom bloey iom blst la

by tdbe tixddo` theb tl mioge gjisses, irt jesslos, gheerjeim-

do`, hlrsefigk rdmdo`, pdiol jesslos, Frlwode Wgluts, iom ghldr

fegiuse D thlu`ht D glujm bike up do slbe me`ree alr the shlts,

allm restrdgtdlos, iom fjllm iom urdoe tests thit were sugh i

pirt la thedr jdves. D exgusem by ghdjmreo arlb hejpdo` be tl

glbpeosite theb alr jdvdo` do i jess-thio-peraegt wlrjm. Do

mldo` sl, D aidjem tl teigh theb skdjjs they wlujm oeem is

`rlwoups do the wlrjm.‒

Pe ]ry tl Keep Lur Lwo Jdves Uomer Glotrlj

Fetty sidm, ‚Alr be, dt wis io dssue la glotrlj. D trdem tl glo-

trlj by husfiom, by sdx ghdjmreo, iom lthers wdthdo the sphere la by eovdrlobeot, fegiuse D thlu`ht D oeemem tl glotrlj theb do

lrmer tl glotrlj by lwo jdae. D glujmo—t eveo oip fegiuse D—m

thdok, ‘D hive tl fe iwike do gise thit servdgebio glbes. Glujm

the kdms reijjy tejj hdb whit tl ml<— @lm adoijjy him tl rebdom

be thit D wis olt gijjem lo tl fe @lm, whl sjeeps oedther miy

olr od`ht. D him tl jiy mlwo by glbpujsdlo tl glotrlj.‒

Pe Jdke ]hdo`s Mloe Lur Piy

D ib istlodshem wheoever i wlbio flists, ‚D ib i peraeg-

tdlodst,‒ is da thit were slbethdo` tl fe prlum la. Phit i peraeg-

tdlodst reijjy beios ds, ‚D jdke thdo`s mloe by wiy.‒ Da ylu mlo—t

fejdeve thit, put twl peraegtdlodsts lo the sibe glbbdttee.

I peraegtdlodst blther biy olt teigh her ghdjmreo hluse-

hljm skdjjs they wdjj oeem jiter, fegiuse she gio—t stiom hivdo`

the hluse ‚bessy‒ whdje her ghdjmreo jeiro virdlus tisks. I


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peraegtdlodst prlaessdloij mles air blre thio her shire la the

wlrk fegiuse she mleso—t trust her glwlrkers tl ml dt ‚rd`ht.‒

I peraegtdlodst wdae mleso—t shire hlusehljm resplosdfdjdtdes

wdth her husfiom fegiuse the husfiom mles thdo`s mdaaereotjy.

Bioy la by lwo eirjy birrdiè gloajdgts irlse fegiuse Flf

wiso—t ridsem fy by blther.

Hlwever, jdae ds tll shlrt iom pregdlus alr ioy la us tl `l

thrlu`h dt mldo` everythdo` alr lther pelpje fegiuse we fejdeve

lur wiy tl ml ioythdo` ds the lojy wiy. @lm his mdaaereot

mesdòs alr mdaaereot jdves. Pe sdo da we try tl shipe everyflmyejse do lur lwo dbiè. Fesdmes, thdok hlw bugh aree tdbe we

igqudre fy jettdo` lther pelpje ml slbe thdo`s thedr wiy.

Pe Gio Ml ]hdo`s Aister

]hlse la us iggustlbem arlb eirjy ghdjmhllm tl tikdo`

ghirè iom èttdo` thdo`s mloe hive mevejlpem the koigk la èttdo` twl lr three thdo`s mloe it loge. Bujtdtiskdo` ds the

gurreot fuzzwlrm alr thit. Bujtdtiskers gio sdbujtioelusjy

fithe loe ghdjm, pjio i hlberllb eom-la-the-yeir pirty lo the

phloe, iom lversee iolther ghdjm—s hlbewlrk. Bujtdtiskers

gio gllk i beij do uomer io hlur whdje adodshdo` i ghipter lo

the glbputer iom jdsteodo` tl i ardeom plur lut her heirt. Hlw

ml D kolw< Fegiuse alr yeirs D wis prlum tl fe loe. Every

Ghrdstbis wheo D reim do Juke 6 thit the shepherms ‚bime

histe‒ tl `l tl the bioèr, D koew D—m prlfifjy hive trdem tl

adt do i aew errioms lo the wiy there iom figk.

Bujtdtiskers gio pjio i Wuomiy sghllj jesslo, ruo i glb-

bdttee beetdo`, lrìodze io eveot, lr gjeio i hluse aister thio

ioyflmy we kolw. ]herealre, we ml i jlt la thdo`s lther

pelpje glujm fe mldo`, ‚tl sive tdbe.‒ ]he prlfjeb ds, the tdbe

we sive dso—t lur lwo. ]he blre we ml, the blre lthers jet us


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ml, uotdj we blve sl aist lur jdves resebfje i berry-`l-rluom

it hd`h speem.

Srdme ds it the rllt la bujtdtiskers— jdves, nust is dt ds it the

rllt la peraegtdlodsts— jdves. Pe mlo—t jlve @lm lr lther pel-

pje, we jlve speem iom eaadgdeogy. Loe la the stru``jes alr be,

is alr lther bujtdtiskers, ds tl rebebfer thit the ̀ lij la jdae ds

tl fe eaaegtdve, olt berejy eaadgdeot. Sirt la jlvdo` lther pelpje

is D jlve byseja beios tl jet lthers ml tisks it thedr lwo pige.

PITW ]L JDQE PD]H L]HEVW PD]HLU]

PEIVDO@ LUVWEJQEW LU]

Lfvdlusjy we ire `ldo` tl glotdoue tl jdve wdth jlve iom

tl serve lther pelpje. Fut servdo` theb tll thlrlu`hjy ds olt

`llm alr edther us lr theb. Here ire three steps thit gio rejdeve

slbe la the stress la servdo` lthers.

Nust Wiy Ol

]hds sluoms eisy, fut dt—s olt. Wiydo` ol dovljves imbdt-

tdo` we ire olt domdspeosifje, thit lthers gio ml slbe thdo`s

alr thebsejves. Dt dovljves glovdogdo` lursejves thit whit we

aeej gijjem tl ml ds is dbplrtiot is whit slbeloe ejse wiots us

tl ml. Dt biy eveo resujt do slbethdo` thit ds sgiry alr slbe la

us> aree tdbe. Fejlw ire i aew rujes alr wheo tl siy ol.


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Phl ib D mldo` tll bugh alr fegiuse

• D pdty thedr gdrgubstioges<

• D ib trydo` tl keep by lwo jdae uomer glotrlj<

• D wiot thdo`s mloe by wiy, olt thedrs<

• D gio ml thdo`s aister<

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• Pheo whit ylu ire fedo` iskem tl ml ds slbethdo` ylu

kolw ylu mlo—t ml wejj.

• Pheo whit ylu ire fedo` iskem

tl ml gloajdgts wdth slbethdo`

ylu aeej ds blre dbplrtiot.

• Pheo iolther—s prlgristdoitdlo

his resujtem do i grdsds alr theb.

• Pheo whit ylu ire iskem tl ml

ds olt do jdoe wdth the `lijs ylu

hive priyeraujjy set alr thds sei-slo la ylur jdae (we—jj èt tl thit

do jiter ghipters).

• Pheo ylu ire fedo` tljm ‚Olflmy ejse wdjj ml thds da

ylu mlo—t.‒ Da @lm wiots dt mloe, @lm wdjj gijj slbe-

flmy ejse tl ml dt; da she siys ol, theo dt ds olt ylur

prlfjeb.

]eigh ]heb tl Gire alr ]hebsejves

]hds ippjdes tl ghdjmreo*, spluses, iom glwlrkers. Da we

ire mldo` slbethdo` alr lthers they glujm ml alr thebsejves

wdth i jdttje tridodo`, speomdo` tdbe teighdo` theb ds i wdse

dovestbeot la lur tdbe. Pe olt lojy rejdeve lur lwo stress, we

`dve theb the sitdsaigtdlo la jeirodo` i oew skdjj iom blvdo`


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Srlgristdoitdlo

lo ylur pirt mles

olt glostdtute io

eberèogy loby pirt.

]l whlb ml D oeem tl siy ol do lrmer tl hive blre

tdbe alr whit @lm ds gijjdo` be tl fe iom ml<< <

*Wee by glbpiodlo fllk tl thds loe, Ghdjmreo Phl Ml ]llJdttje (^lomervio, 9441).



tlwirm seja-rejdioge. Loe wlbio put dt, ‚D hive tiu`ht by hus-

fiom tl ruo i hluse fegiuse D mlo—t wiot hdb hivdo` tl stlp

lo the wiy hlbe arlb by auoerij tl èt hdbseja i oew wdae.‒

Oe`ltdite iom Vegdprlgite]hds ds i bdom-set thit igkolwjemès thit eigh la us his

slbethdo` tl ̀ dve iom eigh la us his slbethdo` we oeem. Pheo

lur flys were yluoèr iom D wis mrdvdo` theb tl fisefijj prig-

tdge iom ìbes, we oe`ltditem sl thit eigh ghdjm returoem slbe

la by tdbe fy mldo` loe extri ghlre i week.

Phdje i glupje wis do the bdmst la fudjmdo` thedr retdrebeothlbe, they gibe tl loe la by wlrkshlps. ]he wdae tljm be ijj

iflut the hluse iom immem, ‚D wiot Dtijdio tdjes do the kdtgheo, fut

he thdoks they ire tll expeosdve.‒ Jiter, the husfiom expjidoem

tl the `rlup hlw he hlpem tl hive i ml`, fut immem, ‚Whe mles-

o—t wiot the bess i ml` glujm frdo` dotl the hluse.‒ Loe la the

lther pirtdgdpiots, whl him `rispem the oe`ltdite/regdprlgite prdo-

gdpje, iskem the wdae, ‚Hlw fimjy ml ylu wiot thlse tdjes< I ml`—s

wlrth<‒ ]he wdae jllkem it her husfiom alr i jlo` bdoute, theo

olmmem. ‚D—jj `dve ylu the ml` alr the tdjes.‒ ]hey seijem the fir-

ìdo thit iaterollo iom eomem twl stresses do thedr birrdiè.

Viye wis ruoodo` i fusdoess lut la her hlbe, fut her

ejmerjy blther wis flrem iom kept gijjdo` tl isk Viye tl mrdve

her irluom thedr ljm oed`hflrhllm iom tike her tl juogh.Adoijjy Viye sit mlwo wdth her blther iom wlrkem lut i meij.

Every blrodo` the blther glbes tl Viye—s hluse tl ioswer


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Phit skdjjs ml D oeem tl teigh tl whlb tl eoifje

theb tl fe blre seja-suaadgdeot iom tl remuge by

lwo stress<< <



the phloe iom peralrb sdbpje laadge tisks jdke prepirdo` i

bidjdo` lr eoterdo` oibes dotl i mitifise. Do exghioè, Viye

stlps wlrkdo` every Pemoesmiy it ollo iom she iom her

blther `l lut tl juogh, mrdve irluom, perhips eveo tike do i

blvde lr ̀ l shlppdo`. Viye replrts there—s feeo io uoexpegtem

flous> her blther adxes juogh.

‚ DA TLU PLUJM LOJT . . .‒

]here—s loe jist reislo i jlt la us weir lursejves lut

mldo` tll bugh alr slbeflmy ejse. Pe ml tll bugh alr slbe

pelpje fegiuse we mlo—t thdok they gio ruo thedr lwo jdves.

Iater @eoe—s husfiom iskem her alr i mdvlrge, he mevej-

lpem i mefdjdtitdo` djjoess wdth i jlo` reglvery perdlm. He

iskem her tl stiy wdth hdb uotdj he wis lo hds aeet iìdo.

Pheo she i`reem she sidm, ‚By prdest splke la by ‘adre-

fugket fehivdlr— iom pldotem lut thit D mdmo—t jet lthers sua-

aer the glosequeoges la thedr lwo fehivdlr fegiuse D trujy

mdmo—t thdok they glujm tike gire la thebsejves.‒]hit rebdoms be la the sidjlrs do the stlry la Nloih, whl

threw thedr whlje gir`l iom persloij plssessdlos lverflirm

trydo` tl sive Nloih arlb the glosequeoges la hds fehivdlr.

Hlw lateo ml we resgue pelpje iom therefy glbe fetweeo

theb iom the jesslos @lm wiots tl teigh theb, jesslos thit

bd`ht igtuijjy turo thedr jdves irluom<Pheo i aibdjy bebfer lr i gjlse ardeom seebs hejpjess tl

ruo hds lr her jdae, lr glosdsteotjy bikes whit jllk tl us jdke

mubf lr eveo mioèrlus megdsdlos, we wiot sl fimjy tl imvdse


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Hlw bd`ht oe`ltditdlo iom regdprlgitdlo wdth

slbeloe remuge by lwo stress<

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iom eveo tl bike `llm megdsdlos alr theb. Pe yeiro tl hejp

theb ivldm pidoauj glosequeoges la fim megdsdlos. Pe tde lur-

sejves do kolts trydo` tl adùre lut hlw we gio ghioè the per-

slo. Wurejy, da we try hirm eolu`h, we gio adx hds lr her jdae.

]he truth ds, ol ibluot la eaalrt lo lur pirt ds `ldo` tl

ghioè slbeloe ejse—s fisdg oiture. @lm puts gertido tridts iom

ghirigter dotl pelpje fealre they ire flro. Wlbe ire mishers

iom slbe ire miogers”iom eigh `rlup his i teomeogy tl mrdve

the lther grizy. Wlbe seeb tl fe dohereotjy oeit iom lthers

thrdve lo virydo` me`rees la mdslrmer. Loe blther whl ridsem

sdx ghdjmreo birvejem it hlw mdaaereot they ijj were, iom

mesgrdfem her twl yluoèst slos, whl shirem i rllb. ‚Loe

bime hds sdme la the fem oeitjy every blrodo`. ]he lther stlrem

extri bltlrgygje pirts lo hds sdme wheo he wiso—t sjeepdo` do

dt.‒ Flth `rew up dotl resplosdfje, ijthlu`h very mdaaereot,

imujts.Do immdtdlo tl whit we ire flro wdth, eigh la us mevejlps

virdlus hifdts is we `rlw up. Pe feglbe pelpje whl hifdtu-

ijjy bike `llm megdsdlos lr whl èoerijjy bike fim loes. Pe

feglbe edther i truth-tejjer lr slbeloe whl sjdmes irluom the

emès la truth. Pe mevejlp preaereoges iflut thdo`s jdke hlw

bioy pelpje we jdke tl fe irluom iom hlw bugh oldse we giostiom do lur eovdrlobeot.

Ol bitter hlw bugh ylu iom D try, we gioolt ghioè

iolther perslo—s ghirigter. La glurse, @lm gio. Hlwever,

dogreisem eaalrt (oi``do`) lo lur pirt sejmlb teighes theb tl

bike fetter megdsdlos lr èt lut la sdtuitdlos we mlo—t jdke.

Wlbetdbes the fest thdo` we gio ml ds ̀ et lut la the wiy iom jetoiturij glosequeoges teigh the hirm jesslos they oeem tl jeiro.

It the sibe tdbe, we hive tl iggept thit they biy hive ol

mesdre whitslever tl feglbe whl we wiot theb tl fe, lr tl ml


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whit we wiot theb tl ml. Pe gioolt alrge i ghdjm tl stlp

usdo` mru`s lr ijglhlj, bike i sdster jeive her ifusdve hus-

fiom, ghioè the oeìtdve ittdtume la loe la lur pireots tlwirm

the lther, lr bike i rlse lut la io lroery glwlrker meterbdoem

tl stiy i thlro.

]hit mleso—t beio we hive tl jdve wdth ijj the stress the

rejitdloshdp giuses. Phdje we gioolt ghioè theb, we gio

ghioè lursejves, iom hlw we rejite tl theb. Pe gio ghioè

• hlw bugh la lur jdves they ire perbdttem tl adjj wdthghils.

• hlw we eoifje lr aidj tl eoifje thedr gurreot fehivdlr

fy jydo` tl glver up alr theb lr prlvdmdo` bloey wheo

they ire ‚aresh lut.‒

• hlw bioy la lur lwo reslurges”bloey, pitdeoge,

jlm`do`, hlurs la jdsteodo`”we `dve theb.

• hlw bugh iggess they hive tl lur jdves.

Pe gio ijsl megdme hlw jlvdo` we wdjj fe, wheo we wdjj

laaer tlu`h jlve, iom wheo we wdjj fe glbpissdloite iom kdom.

Jet be `dve ylu i jdttje hlpe here, thlu`h. Wlbetdbes

wheo we wiot tl ghioè iolther perslo, dt ds hejpauj tl

rebebfer the iplstjes Seter iom Siuj. ]hedr ardeoms iom reji-

tdlos bust hive wiotem bioy tdbes tl gurf Seter—s dbpetuls-

dty iom fjuot tloùe lr slat-pemij

Siuj—s zeijlus fd`ltry. Tet dt wis pre-

gdsejy thlse tridts thit @lm trios-

alrbem dotl Seter—s fljm serblos

iom gluriè iom Siuj—s bdssdloiry

zeij.

Nust thdok> ]he very tridts ylu

ire trydo` tl ghioè do slbeflmy


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D gio oever ghioè

slbeloe ejse.Ijj D gio ghioè

ds byseja.



biy fe whit @lm wdjj eveotuijjy use do thedr jdves tl fudjm up

the kdo`mlb! Mlo—t èt do the wiy.


Ds there slbeloe D—ve feeo weirdo` byseja lut try-

do` tl ghioè< Wdoge D gioolt ghioè thit perslo,

whit wdjj D ml dosteim tl remuge by lwo stress do

thds rejitdloshdp<

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VEBEBFEV . . .

Lther pelpje fejlo` do lur jdves, fut they shlujm olt glo-

sube theb. Do lrmer tl jlve @lm adrst iom jlve lthers is we

jlve lursejves”iom ivldm jlvdo` lthers blre thio we jlve

lursejves lr @lm”we hive tl jet `l la slbe la whit we ml

alr theb, teigh theb tl ml alr thebsejves, iom fejdeve they giosuggeem lo thedr lwo. Pe biy hive tl `dve up lur lwo oeem

tl glotrlj theb lr hive thdo`s mloe lur wiy iom it lur pige.

]he resujt gio fe blre tdbe tl aujadjj lur lwo gijjdo`s iom

mreibs. ]he resujt gio eveo fe eisder, blre pjeisiot rejitdlo-

shdps wdth lther pelpje.

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