Who Are You? Your "Civil identity" and....

Equally Yoked

““Hook Up”Hook Up”Cultural/Casual

1. A specific time when two people meet to join in – together-for a mutual event, or,…

2. …two individuals from diverse backgrounds form a cheap/easy intimate relationship, or...

3. …an epiphany moment - a time - when a certain couple are shaking hands and realize/discover together that they are ‘equallyoked.’

- Slang Dictionary/Urban Words

“Endogamy”Endogamy means, “In-marriage” – and

is when an individual according to his/or her own social customs1… …(comment: this may be more like a community health principle, such as, a social mores or even an actual religious ‘law’)….

….marries an another individual within his or her own cultural2 “Social group”*.

*Note; a “Social group” may be a village, a tribe, a sect or cult, a geographic region, or a de facto ‘Civil identity’, etc.

- Sociocultural Anthropology

Who are Who are You? You?

PersonalityPersonalityand

Gender

Sexoror

““Social Identity”Social Identity”A person’s sense of belongingness to a collective of

identified important identified social groups such as; * Citizenship: a Nation* Property: Deeds and co-ownership in Real estate

* e.g., vacation homes, office buildings, land, and may include motor homes, RVs, cars, boats, planes, etc.

* Profession: in a trade, vocation, skill, craft boards or union organizations, an actual member of, etc

* Education: Credentials, degrees, diplomas, certifications, ‘Grad’-documentation of schools successfully attended.

* Religious or Political Affiliations: Title in religious organizations or Card carrying political party memberships.

* Socio-economic class: Amount of money in bank, in stocks and bonds investments, in bank notes and certificates.1,2,3

- Social Psychology

““Equally Yoked”Equally Yoked”The term 'Equallyoked' (also, equally yoked)

an adverb:“Equally” - means “alike” 1, in a “balanced”

manner, “the same” or to “the same” degree of, etc a verb:

“Yoked” - means (Latin jungere 'to join‘) 2, something fastened around the neck to join together, burdened with.

in history:May have evolved from synonyms, with

meanings, such as: Equitably, Fairly, Justly3

Sentence: “They were an ‘equally yoked’ couple from families of just ordinary means.”

- Word Meanings: Etymology

“Equally YokedEqually Yoked” The term “Equally yoked” (also, ‘equallyoked’)

probable came about from the Holy Bible – wherein Jews marrying Jews, Muslims marrying Muslims, Christians marrying Christians, etc, etc, etc.1

It is more than that - it is a social phenomena that exists in all multicultural societies, i.e., peoples of the same de facto ‘civil identity' bonding and marrying one another.2

The best reasons3 for ‘equally yoked’ marriages are: * self- esteem, * religious beliefs, and * preserving the integrity of the family identity, * abiding in good social mores and *community (psychosocial) health.

- Word Origins/Philosophy, and Sociology 101

“Civil Identity”

- Ethnicity: - Religion: - Race:- Color:- Age: - Gender: -Sex: - Marital Status:

- Ethnicity: - Religion: - Race: - Color: - Age: - Gender: - SexSex: - Marital Status:

‘de facto’ (in fact, in reality)

personalitypersonality

“Civil Identities”

- Ethnicity: Native-American

- Religion: Christian - Race: Indian- Color: Dark Red Complexion

- Age: 27- Gender: Male- Sexual orientation:

Heterosexual- Marital Status: Single

- Ethnicity: Native-American

- Religion: Christian

- Race: Indian- Color: Medium Red Complexion

- Age: 22- Gender: Female- Sexual orientation:

Heterosexual- Marital Status: Single

- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

Examples:Examples:

1, 2

““Social Mores”Social Mores”The term ‘Social Mores‘* refers to….

“Social” meaning - to associate in a social way, i.e., “folkways”, socializing, socialization 1,

“Mores” - concerns that of moral codes, mental health values, standards, spiritual ideologies 2.

*Also, customs, proper conduct/etiquette, health behaviours/norms, healthy lifestyle. 3

Use in a Sentence: “Their family abided in good social mores that reflected their sense of integrity.” 4

- Word Meanings: Etymology

adjective

plural noun

““Sexual Orientation”Sexual Orientation” Biological orientation: The natural innate

neuroendocrino-physiologic-programming of the hetero-sexual genders.1

Psychological preconditioning: Any mental/emotional sexual orientated event, e.g., engrained memory of a sexual encounter in childhood; sex in an observed media event; an actual witnessed live account of sex2; a sexual violation of social mores; or a fanaticized mental ‘picture’ of healthy sex (a sexual encounter for pure pleasure). 3

Social conditioning: Any familial or other social sexual experience, e.g. friendships in school, neighborhood, church, out in the community-that physically effected and/or mentally affected psychological preconditioning.4

Sexual preference: a complex sexual orientation comprising of biological, psychological, and proper social patterns as the predilection for personal sexuality.1,2,3,4

- Concepts in Psychotherapy 400/ Intro to Physiological Psychology/ Biology 101

““Bonding”Bonding”v. is a biopsychosociocultural process of forming

interpersonal attachments between a couple. It’s proper activation and development is based on quality social mores.

1. A sharing (mutual participation in) of an event that ties an ‘equallyoked’ couple together – as in such it fostering a more meaningful interpersonal relationship.

2. It is as ‘coupling up’ - with an SoP (Significant other Persons) for a closer relationship – neurochemcial engraining into the memory banks the ‘face’ of the SoP.

3. Similar to the true bonding between mother and child, trust and security develops within an ‘equally yoked’ relationship-which further strengthens the ties, e.g., ‘equallyoked couple’ family members, friends, and other trusted circles.

-- Neuropsychology: Bonding & Social Mores

““Equallyokedtarians”Equallyokedtarians”Pronounciation: “Eek quel ee yoak‘d tar ee ins” 1. Definition: - are any individuals who by

choice, i.e., purposefully choose to bond with and marry another of the same (or nearly the same) ‘Civil identity’*, within any culture are ‘Equallyokedtarians’-couples ‘equallyoked’.2

* Recall: a ‘Civil identity’ - describes a collective of features about a person’s present: ethnicity, political party affiliation, race and color complexion, religious membership, disability/ handicap, age group/generation, proper sexual orientation, and marital status.3

-- Intro. to Social Psychology

Any couple who are ‘equally yoked’

Coupling up….Coupling up…. Nonequallyoked

- Couples who do recognize equallyokedtarianism as a social mores and yet for their own ulterior motives still choose to violate social mores as a ‘rash’ option.1

Unequallyoked- Couples who are naïve, thus inadvertently

demonstrate opposition to equallyokedtarianism-a ‘social’ mores.2

Anti-equallyoked– Couples who are a bit mentally/emotionally disturbed

and are deliberately active against proper socialization, contrary to equallyokedtarianism and social mores,3

-- Intro. to Social Psychology

…in a ‘hook up’ culture

..a Social Phenomena....a Social Phenomena..– A couple (usually a heterosexual

dyadic) who are of very similar or the same ‘civil identity.’ 1

– Any couples who are bonded together and who are of the ‘same’ or ‘very similar’ civil identities2…

– A marital couple who marries 3- with their backgrounds related to their ‘civil identities.’

Sociology 101:Social Phenomenology

-- Intro. to Marriage, Family, & Child Psychology

Dyadic-Dyadic-Social Social PsychologyPsychology

Equallyokedtarians are of interest to psychologists because they represent a dyadic group of the same ‘civil identity’ 1

Couples who primarily choose to bond and marry together ‘because’ they are the ‘same’ or ‘very similar’ civil identities among other reasons-may contribute to marital longevity -staying together for a lifetime if evidenced.2

The measured ‘self esteem’ of individuals of a marital couple who marries with backgrounds related to their ‘civil identities’ are worthy marital satisfaction studies.3

-- Marriage, Family, & Child Psychology

““Un-equally Yoked”Un-equally Yoked”1. Inequitable -

- Unjust, an injustice.2. Iniquitous -

- Unrighteous, a sin.3. Inequality -

- Unfair, imbalanced.1

- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies- Biblical, Moral, and Doctrinal Studies

II Corinthinans 6:14-II Corinthinans 6:14-1818

““Soul-mates”Soul-mates” A couple who experience their very first

sexual encounter together and their baby is born out of that union are “Soul-mates”1 for life and if,..

..a couple who bond with each other, falls deeply in love and is the happiest they have ever been with each other are “Soul-mates”2 and if,…

..a couple who are ‘married’ and truly “equallyoked” are “Soul-mates.”, i.e., of the ‘same’ or ‘very similar’ “civil-identities.” 3

- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology- Marriage, Family, and Child Psychology

““Life Partner”Life Partner” A “Life Partner” refers to a lifetime,

romantic and very close “mate”. A couple who are truly ‘life partners’ are ‘equallyoked’.1

It is true that ‘life partners’ usually develop strong platonic relationships as a mutual serious long term goal together.2

‘Life partners’ may based their relationship on moral/or immoral grounds whether married/ monogamously or can be individuals such as divorcees/celibate.3

- Intro. to Social Psychology- Intro. to Social Psychology

““Equally-yoked” PrinciplesEqually-yoked” Principles On the Same Page: Love Mapping. Nurturing: fondness and admiration. Face-to-face: in total sincerity. Sharing: in each other’s personal power. Co-solving: solvable-problems and

overcoming any gridlock/barriers. Creating: communication with shared

meanings as valuable moments.

-- Marriage & Family Therapy Marriage & Family Therapy

..a Public Health Issue..a Public Health Issue As a Public Health Issue, Equallyokedtarianism as

a social mores – is a phenomena observed amongst the most conservative segments of a multi-cultural society.1

Marriage Family and Child Psychology addresses the Self-esteem of the individuals who are (or aren’t) equallyoked as an important issue in mental health/ emotional health/ and naturally, self-preservation, as well as of the integrity of their family identity.2

As a Civil Rights issue, justice of the peaces-as civil servants who perform marriage ceremonies attaching a signature may be held responsible as attesting to the competence (or incompetence, e.g., drugs abuse) of the individuals present while performing marriages considering community (psychosocial) health matters.3

- Introduction to Public Health- Introduction to Public Health

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