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Ephesians 4:15

While continually speaking the truth . . .

Ephesians 4:15

While continually speaking the truth in Love . . . {for the other person’s benefit}

Colossians 3:12

“Clothe yourselves, as

the chosen of God, holy and permanently

loved with intestines of tender mercies”

Colossians 3:12

“Clothe yourselves, as

the chosen of God, holy and permanently

loved with responses of tender mercies”

God’s Anger Management

Psalm 30:5 For His anger is but for a moment, His favor is for a lifetime; Weeping may last for the night, But a shout of joy comes in the morning.

Unhealthy Communication

Leaves People in the Dark

How To Be Biblically Angry

• Share the feelings

• Share the thoughts

• For the other person’s benefit

• Trusting God

Hurts Are Important

Hurts reflect Hurts reflect your deepest your deepest values! They values! They define who you define who you are!are!

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To deal with people in a patronizingly superior manner

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Don’t let it lead to sin! Don’t wake up with it! Don’t give devil a foothold! Don’t use it to justify wrong! Don’t speak inappropriately! Don’t hurt the Holy Spirit! Don’t get bitter!

Ephesians 4:26 - 29

Get Angry Enough

To Become ACTIVE! (28)

To EDIFY! (29b)

Ephesians 4:26 - 29

The Spirit of ForgivenessEph. 4:30 Stop

grieving the Spirit 4:31

Let all bitterness, wrath . . be put away from you,

4:32 Be kind, tender hearted, forgiving

Spirit is Present PERMANENTLY

Spirit takes away HATE

We cooperate by FORGIVENESS

Don’t Blow Snow

• Communicate• What you Feel• What you Think• And Forgive

Don’t Hang Onto Hurt

• Learn the art of forgiving

• Allow the Holy Spirit to work Eph. 4:30-31

• Just like GOD 4:32

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