What Makes a Marriage Work

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What Makes aWhat Makes a

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Making MarriageMaking MarriageWork!Work!Making MarriageMaking MarriageWork!Work!

Many people seem uncertain about theMany people seem uncertain about the

value of marriagevalue of marriage

Many struggle to build a qualityMany struggle to build a quality

marriage that works!marriage that works!

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Making MarriageMaking MarriageWork!Work!Making MarriageMaking MarriageWork!Work!

Knowing how to survive in a maritalKnowing how to survive in a marital

relationship is a challenge for manyrelationship is a challenge for many

peoplepeople 72% cohabitate before marriage

38% divorce (800,000 families affected each year)

23% of all children are born outside of marriage

Many marriage and families are impacted by addictive

behaviours, abuse, affairs and abondment

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What the ExpertsWhat the ExpertsSay!Say!What the ExpertsWhat the ExpertsSay!Say!

Its being in love!Its being in love! E

motional attachmentA love that involves passion, intimacy, commitment

Its being satisfied and fulfilledIts being satisfied and fulfilled Emotional satisfaction

The key is communicating

Its being partnersIts being partners Having shared ideals and goals

Togetherness

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Stay on good terms with each other, held

together by love...Honour marriage, andguard the sacredness of sexual intimacy

between husband and wife.Hebrews 13:1,4 TM

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Jesus CommentsJesus Commentson Marriageon MarriageJesus CommentsJesus Commentson Marriageon Marriage

the largeness (maturity) of marriagerequires a certain aptitude and grace.

Matthew 19:11,12 TM

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Connectionmutual attraction and acceptance

Commitmentmutual commitment and loyalty

Closenessmutual companionship and intimacy

3 Components ofMarriage (Gen 2:18,24)3 Components ofMarriage (Gen 2:18,24)

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Disconnection

loss of passion, desire, respect

Disloyaltyloss of empathy - deception, denial, blame

and shame

Distanceloss of community and intimacy -defensiveness, withdrawal, negativity,

distorted identites

The Ideal of

MarriageDistorted (Gen 3:1-16)

The Ideal of

MarriageDistorted (Gen 3:1-16)

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the largeness (maturity) of marriage

requires a certain aptitude and grace.Matthew 19:11,12 TM

Jesus CommentsJesus Commentson Marriageon MarriageJesus CommentsJesus Commentson Marriageon Marriage

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in the new life of Gods grace youre

equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals

so your prayers dont run aground.1 Peter 3:7 TM

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A call for partnership and equality in

marriage

Recovering Gods intended plan and

blessing for marriage

Marriage is seen as a gracious gift

A Radical NewParadigmA Radical NewParadigm

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Grace - the motivating power to

change the way we treat each other

Grace - the energy that makes yourmarriage work

A Radical NewParadigmA Radical NewParadigm

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Grace inspires both of you to:

1. Be responsive to each others needs

- be present, listen, connect

- communicate effectively

- be considerate and caring

2. Be totally committed to each other

- be invested in the relationship

- show loyalty and dedication

How GraceInfluences yourMarriageRelationship

How GraceInfluences yourMarriageRelationship

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3. Honour and respect each other

- accept differences

- resolve conflict

- build esteem

4. Treat each other as equals- work as a team (partnership)

- no power games

- experience intimacy and companionship

How GraceInfluences yourMarriageRelationship

How GraceInfluences yourMarriageRelationship

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Be compassionatethe grace of helping and healing Be humble

the grace of modesty and respect

Be a blessingthe grace of affirmation and encouragement

A Summary of the

New Life ofGods Grace(1 Peter3:8,9)

A Summary of the

New Life ofGods Grace(1 Peter3:8,9)

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