Using Growth Mindset to Maximize Your Children's Potential

GROWTH MINDSET A Parenting

Approach:Introduction

Shona Schwartz S2 Training and Development [email protected]

Google, Feb. 16th. 2016

Have you ever said….

Fixed vs. Growth Mindset Fixed Growth

Intelligence and ability is innate. People are either smart or not. They are born with talent.

Intelligence and ability is developed through effort. Intelligence can be improved. Talents can be learned.

Traits: ● Blames others● Ignores feedback● Gives up● Avoids challenges ● Sees effort as a waste of time

Traits: ● Takes responsibility● Accepts critique and feedback● Persists ● Accepts challenges ● Sees effort as a path to improvement

The science behind mindset

(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t4np5wLAhWw)

We need to strengthen our brain’s pathways for all learning!

“I think I can, I think I can, I think I can!!”

MAXIMIZING our children!

Our intentions… -Enjoy learning

- Work hard

-Confidence and feel good

-Succeed

-Independent

-Infinite opportunities

Raising children with a growth mindset:

Process over Product

Don’t protect from failure

Discipline: analysis and growth

The harm in praise Research studies

Problem with ‘go to’ phrases… “You learned that so quickly….you’re so smart!”

If I don’t get it I’m not smart?

“ Wow, you did so well without even studying much, you’re brilliant!”

If I study I’m not brilliant?

“ Gorgeous drawing! You’re the next Picasso!”

Oh no… I better only do things I’m ‘good at’

1) Process Vs. Product Growth mindset:(On process) Fixed mindset: (On product) I see you’re struggling to keep your room clean. What about trying…. (brainstorm)

Stop being so lazy!!

I’m proud that you didn’t procrastinate You’re so smart, you’ll do great.

I’m sorry you were frustrated, what can you do different next time?

Math isn’t your thing, it’s OK

I noticed that you put in a lot of effort to work collaboratively with others

You’re the smartest one in the group

It always takes lots of practice to learn new things

Here, I’ll do it for you

Give it a try- here’s an idea of a way to do it No one in our family was ever good at that

Let’s work together to get to know each other…

Such a stubborn baby

Instead of praise try…

2) Don’t protect from failure!

-Scenario of Elizabeth: Dweck pg.

180

DO NOT: - Protect kids from

failure.

DO: - Analyze failure and

support improvement

3) Discipline: Discipline:

The purpose: To teach.

DO NOT TEACH:

Children who break rules are punished and shamed

DO TEACH:

Think through issues. Always Think:

“Am I judging and punishing you or am I helping you think and learn”

What Growth Mindset is NOT:

Talent = Effort + Persistence Effort = product/outcome The Spectrum!

The Challenges…

1) Time

2) Change ourselves!

3) Support of others

4) Reality

Maximize Our Child!