Unit II – Chapter Five Child Development. * Distinguish among different kinds of relationships * Analyze factors that influence relationships * Describe.

Unit II – Chapter Five

Child Development

Relationships andDating

*Objectives

*Distinguish among different kinds of relationships

*Analyze factors that influence relationships

*Describe ways to build and maintain strong relationships

*Identify characteristics of unhealthy relationships

*Examine the reasons and methods of ending a relationship

*Explain reasons for dating different people before getting married

*Provide guidelines for responsible dating relationships

*Kinds of Relationshi

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*A relationship is the connection you have with another person

*Relationships vary in three basic ways:

*Their degree of closeness

*Their purpose

*Their form

*Relationships can also be described as close or casual

*Influences on Relationships

*Roles and Expectations

*An expectation is a want or need that a person hopes will be met in the relationship

*Example: children expect their parents to take care of them and parents expect children to follow the rules and listen

*Differences in expectations can sometimes lead to conflict – create an example in your notes

*Influences on Relationships

*Self-Esteem

*High self-esteem gives you the confidence to meet new people and have new experiences

*High self-esteem also helps you steer clear of relationships that may harm you

*When people do not feel accepted, their self-esteem is likely to be low

*Sometimes people in this situation act like they do not care what others think of them

*EVERYONE has personal strengths that deserve to be recognized and celebrated

*Make it a habit to give sincere compliments throughout the day

*Qualities in a Strong Relationship

*Understanding

*Tolerance

*Dependability

*Communicate

*Honesty

*Acceptance

*Patience

*Flexibility

*Respect

*Empathy

*Commitment

*Humor

*Which Quality is Most Important?

*Maintaining a Relationship

*Pay attention – keep in touch

*Participate – participate in activities with the important people in your life

*Plan Ahead – keep a planner to avoid conflicts

*Enjoy Meals Together – eat meals as a family as often as possible

*Harmful Relationships

How do I know if I am in an unhealthy

relationship?

If he truly cared for me, he

would never threaten,

pressure or ask me to do

something that is against my

values.

*Unhealthy Relationships

Physical Abuse

Controlling Behavior

BullyingIrresponsible Behavior

Illegal Activity

Dishonesty Isolatio

n

*Unhealthy Relationships

*If you feel isolated, you feel separated and cut off from everyone but one person

*Inadequate means failing to meet an expectation. If you feel you are not good enough for someone, it is time to move on

*A person who feels dependent relies too much on someone else for their own happiness. It is far better to be with someone who encourages you to act independently

*People who are vulnerable are especially open to physical or emotional harm or are easily persuaded by pressure.

*Ending a Relationship

*Reasons for ending a relationship include:

*It may be unhealthy

*Have outgrown the relationship

*Nothing left in common

*Not well-matched

*Someone moves

*Ending a Relationship

*Ending a relationship is never easy

*It is best to make a clean-cut, do not drag the process out, that is unhealthy for all involved

*If you feel you need to explain the reasoning, try to avoid making “you” statements

*Example: Instead of saying, “You’re boring,” try, “I don’t think we have much in common.”

*Respect the person you are ending the relationship with – you are helping to create their self-concept

*Responsible Dating

*Starting a Relationship

*Going out with different people

*Improves interpersonal skills

*Practices give and take

*Multiple experiences help you understand yourself better as a person

*Going out with a variety of people will help you discover the characteristics you will want in a permanent partner

*Responsible Dating

*Going out as a group

*Avoid pressure that comes with going out as a couple

*Group dating makes it easier to get comfortable

*Responsible Dating

*Going out as a couple

*Practice relating to a person one-on-one

*Does not mean you have a serious relationship

*Many teens go on casual dates with multiple people

*May decide to date exclusively

*Being a couple helps people get to know each other well

*Creates a sense of security

*Responsible Dating

*Family Rules

*Some parents do not allow their children to date on person exclusively

*Concerns include:

*Limits opportunities to meet new people

*Might lose sight of long-term goals, like education

*Parents often have rules about what you can do and where you can go on a date

*Concerns include:

*Drug and alcohol abuse

*Unsafe driving

*Sexual pressures

Even if you do not agree with their

dating rules, remember that

their purpose is to protect you

*Responsible Relationships

*Dating can be fun, but it has a serious side

*You need to establish boundaries, or limits in a new relationship

*Plan ahead so you are prepared to handle situations that may arise

*Personal Responsibility

*Healthy dating relationships:

*Practice responsibility and respect for themselves and their partners

*They stay true to each other’s rules and values

*They follow personal and family values

*Their mutual goal is to enjoy each other’s company

*Communicate

*Going out on the date

*Talk about where you will go

*How will you get there and back?

*What are you going to do?

*Who will pay?

*When will you be back home?

*If you agree on the details beforehand, there will not be any uncertainties.

*It also sets expectations for the date, which fit within your boundaries

*Three Components of a Relationship

*Intimacy – the first component; being close to someone and sharing personal things with them

*Passion – the second component; strong emotional feelings that move you to express them physically, verbally, etc.

*Commitment – the third component; promising to be true and faithful to that person

*Sexual Responsibility

*Media often sends the message that sexual activity is an expected part of any dating relationship

*THIS IS NOT TRUE

*Although it seems a private matter, it often does not stay that way

*Reputations suffer, self-esteem can be damaged and you may lose your self-respect