Today's Woman September 2012

omanWToDAy’sI n s p i r e • E n c o u r a g e • I n f o r m

September 2012 C E l E b r a t I n g 2 0 Y E a r s

FallBe more professional w Talk on a daTe w find new friends

Places To Go This

Way to Go Woman!

How To:

Today’s Woman

Septe

mber

2012 a

rtic

les

Contentsabout This Issue 6By anITa oldham

Eve*olution supplement page 53

4 sEpTEmBEr 2012

Power

STYLe

weLLNeSS

CoNNeCTIoNS

I am Today’s Woman 10By lucy m. prITchETT Survival SkillS: Improving one Thing at a Time 12By marIE BradBy Fake it till You Make it: Build your personal Brand 14By JEssIca smITh Give a speech Without Fear 18By alExas GrEGory make moving Easier 18By alExas GrEGory navigate a networking Event 20By paTrIcIa hussunG Impress a First date 20By TIFFany WhITE 20 Things 22By anITa oldham Way to Go Woman! 28By carmEn BroWn play like a Girl 34By caThy ZIon looking Back 36By Taylor sTauGas

cool Women 40By TIFFany WhITE hot spots 44By carmEn BroWn 13 Inspirations 50By holly GrEGor I’m a snob 52By mEGan sEckman light Bite 60By mElIssa donald organic Food 62By chEryl sTuck keep It To yourself 66By BoB muEllEr 8 Things not to miss 68By GIoIa paTTon and TIFFany WhITE Just ask Joyce 72By JoycE oGlEsBy Fix Your FlawS: Broad shoulders 74By TIFFany WhITE

4052

12 14

6 sEpTEmBEr 2012 Today’s Woman

Just as Good as

Cola

Fake It!Who wants to be fake? No one I know has that trait

on their list of goals. We all want to own the real

thing, want to be the real thing, and strive to know the real

thing. Our theme this month is Fake It Until You Make It.

There is a big difference between being fake and Faking It

Until You Make It. The latter can be a display of your

maturity level: Realizing we need to act a certain way

even when we feel something different. We use our

maturity to keep us from running from an uncomfortable

situation, yelling at a co-worker when we feel thwarted,

keeping quiet instead of confronting someone when you

feel hurt, or digging a hole and crawling into it when we

say something embarrassing. We can also don a bravery

coat to face up to situations that make us cower inside.

It doesn’t mean you are fake. It means you are strong and

are striving to be something besides what you feel at the

moment. So, Fake It and grow yourself into a better woman!

— Anita Oldham

About This

Issue

8 sEpTEmBEr 2012 Today’s Woman

Volume 22 8 Number 9

C E l E b r a t I n g 2 0 Y E a r s

Zion publications, llc9750 ormsby station road, suite 307, louisville, ky 40223phone: (502) 327-8855 • Fax: (502) 327-8861www.iamtodayswoman.com

subscriptions are available by sending $18 to the above address for 12 monthly issues.Today’s Woman magazine is published monthly by Zion publications llc and distributed free to the people of metropolitan louisville and

southern Indiana. circulation 50,000 guaranteed. The opinions expressed herein are exclusively those of the writers and do not necessarily reflect the position of the publisher. Today’s Woman magazine does not endorse or guarantee any advertiser’s product or service.

copyright 2012 by Zion publications llc with all rights reserved. reproduction or use of editorial or graphic content in any manner is prohibited without permission from Zion publications llc.

Today’s Woman is published monthly by:

For advertising information in Today’s Woman, call (502) 327-8855.

BBB raTInG oF

RepRInts ARe AvAIlAble!Call (502) 327-8855, ext. 10, or email us at

[email protected] with details and specifics.

oPhoto: Chet White

MakeuP: Lorie karnes, Blades Salon & Spa

LoCation: Dress & Dwell

o

Cov

erOn Our

Sometimes you find what you’re

looking for in the most unexpected places. After featuring our office administrator

Kaitlyn Tew in our Hot Spots fashion shoot, we discovered — by

accident — that she’d be the perfect person to use on this month’s cover, and she’s cool.

Flip to page 40 to find out about the hot spots and the women

we featured.

— Tiffany White

PuBLiSheR Cathy S. Zion

[email protected]

eDitoR anita oldham

[email protected]

SaLeS DiReCtoR Cheryl Suhr

[email protected]

aCCount exeCutive teri hickerson

[email protected]

SenioR aDveRtiSing DeSigneR

april h. [email protected]

aSSiStant eDitoR/DeSigneRJessica Smith

[email protected]

ContRiButing eDitoR Lucy M. Pritchett

aSSiStant eDitoR tiffany White

[email protected]

oFFiCe aDMiniStRatoR kaitlyn tew

[email protected]

MakeuP aRtiStholly oyler

CiRCuLation ManageRW. earl Zion

StYLiSt Wendy anguiano

[email protected]

PhotogRaPheR/FooD WRiteR Melissa Donald

[email protected]

SenioR Page & gRaPhiC DeSigneR

kathy [email protected]

aDveRtiSing DiReCtoRSusan allen

[email protected]

aCCount exeCutiveRose helm

[email protected]

aLexaS [email protected]

PatRiCia [email protected]

taYLoR [email protected]

inteRnS:

Today’s Woman10 sepTember 2012

AGE: 36

HomEtown: LouisviLLE

nEiGHBoRHooD: shepherdsville

HousEHoLD: Husband, Brian; son, Gavin, 9

by Lucy M. Pritchett / Photo: MeLissa donaLd

I am Today’s Woman“Energetic and Outspoken

RHONDA HeDges ~ Principal at Alfred Binet school in Louisville

~

/ MakeuP: hoLLy oyLer

School daze:I have been principal at alfred binet school for eight years. The school, which is part of the Jefferson County school system, has about 100 students, from ages 5 through 21 years old, with multiple disabilities. eighty percent of them fall somewhere along the autism spectrum and have a wide range of ability levels. We teach the three r’s, but the curriculum is also built around social and job skills.

Works:Very full days from 6:30 a.m to 5 p.m.

Stays organized:This year I am trying something new. I have binders filled with plastic page protectors, and I store phone messages and notes in the sleeves. and, I love post-It notes. I designed my own To-do lists.

Lives:We live in a log home that we built ourselves. It sits on 11 acres that we share with my parents. We call it “The Compound.”

A great idea:I had the students’ parents come in on the sly, and we created a video for our teaching staff. The parents had a chance to thank the staff and tell them how much they and the school have meant to the lives of their children. We showed it to the staff — surprise! — on the last day of school and gave each teacher a copy.

Another great idea:I am working with seven Counties services, our pTa, and the staff to create training videos for our students’ parents. The videos highlight strategies for dealing with a child at home based on what we do during the day at school. my plan is to have a new one to send home to the parents every two months.

Shopping:I love shopping for school supplies: highlighters, unlined index cards, and crayons — the box of 24 is the best. I love the smell of elmer’s glue. and, of course, a new lunch box.

Shares her home with:a cat, sarah; a brittany spaniel, scooter, and a Lab, black Jack. We also have five nubian goats: Hazel, Wendy, Velvet, phoebe, and addie.

Listens to:Whatever is on the radio. I don’t have much preference in music.

Last purchase:I bought season tickets to the broadway series for my mom for mother’s day. Going to plays is something we will do together.

Like a bulldog:I am passionate to a fault. If it is an injustice, I won’t let it go. ever.

right now, I am advocating for the over-18-year-old population with mental disabilities. There is no crisis stabilization center in Louisville or Kentucky where they can find psychiatric services and medication stabilization.

Her secret:I am a closet fiction writer. I have short stories and novels hidden away. I don’t show them to anyone.

Has too many:Clothes. I am a huge consignment store junkie, especially sassy Fox.

Has too few:Hours to myself.

Snack:I love Jelly belly jelly beans. I like mixing the flavors to get a new flavor. There are recipes on the box, and I experiment as well.

On the Web:I like looking at pinterest. It is mindless eye candy.

Teaches her son:be kind to everyone.

The world would be a better place...If people were more accepting of differences in others.

12 sepTember 2012 Today’s Woman

Survival Skills: Improving One Thing at a Time

by Marie Bradby

photo: Melissa DonalD

Peggy HeuserTwelve years ago, registered nurse

Peggy Heuser and surgeon husband Dr. Louis Heuser founded the Heuser

Clinic, a fitness and wellness center, to combat preventable diseases and improve people’s health and fitness.

“Without your health, you are nothing,” says Peggy, chief operating officer of the clinic. “You can’t work, you can’t play, you can’t enjoy life. We take our health for granted until we get sick. Good nutrition and effective exercise are the front line of defense.”

Peggy and Louis are lifelong athletes. Louis was a pole vaulter in college. Peggy was a competitive swimmer from age 5 until her freshman year of college. She broke the state record in the 50-meter freestyle during her teen years.

In Louis’s prior career as a surgeon, he watched his patients get sick, gain weight, and become poor candidates for surgery and prone to complications after surgery. The couple also began to see morbidly obese children. So, in 1999, they started an exercise program for children, beginning what would become the Heuser Clinic. Now, Peggy has taken on a new challenge by pursuing a degree as a nurse practitioner.

The clinic now has two locations in Louisville: 2040 Metal Lane and 12101 Sycamore Station Place.

“We are a medical facility,” Peggy says. Serving up to 700 patients, the clinic provides exercise and fitness classes led by exercise physiologists at both facilities, as well as onsite classes at numerous corporations and schools in the area. The clinic’s consultation and nutrition education programs are covered by many health insurance plans.

Peggy says exercise is a big part of fitness, but so is normalizing body functions such as blood pressure, heart rate, and blood work such as glucose and lipid panels. “We are a facility that helps people get well and stay well,” she says. “We teach the scientific principles of nutrition and exercise: how food works with and not with your body.”

There is a science of exercise, Peggy says. Effective exercise results in a changing body composition: more muscle mass, more strength, and better metabolism. And that’s what she’s working to see more of.

“Our population is dying from the lack of exercise and the food choices we make,” Peggy says. “We want to empower people so that they will take better care of themselves.”

Here is Peggy’s advice on achieving fitness and wellness:

Rule #1: Keep upgrading your exercise and nutrition plan. “You can’t walk around Seneca Park and call that effective exercise. It’s a good way to start,

but you can’t just stay right there. If you’re walking in your neighborhood and it’s all flat, move to the parks and walk the hills. Then, if you can, start walk-jogging. You can use a heart rate monitor. Try to hit 90 percent

of your heart rate max with every jogging episode, and then you slow down and walk and recover.

If you can’t jog, you can join a gym and use the ellipticals, bikes, and cross trainers — non-

weight-bearing equipment — to work your body without hurting your joints.

“If you don’t upgrade, you’re going to plateau. Then you’re going to quit. So walk, then walk faster.

“Every time you make a choice of food, upgrade it. If you start eating more salads, even made with iceberg lettuce, then begin integrating greener lettuces. Suddenly, you sit down to a bowl of raw

spinach and chopped kale. You can’t do any better. Or, if you’re eating potato chips,

go to baked, and ultimately, have fruit or a salad and stop the chips altogether.”

Rule #2: Build exercise into your daily routine. “Take the stairs. If you’re going to the grocery store, don’t look for the closest [parking] spot. Find the spot that’s farthest away.”

Rule #3: Build up your muscle mass. “Your muscles are what burn the calories that you eat every day. If you don’t exercise and you take elevators a lot and ride in your car, your muscles are going to be really small, which means you will burn less than 1,200 calories a day. The average American eats 3,000 calories [a day]. This is why Americans are so fat — we’re eating more than we’re burning. We don’t realize that our burn comes from our muscles. We have people walking all over town, but they’re not lifting any weights and their muscle mass is going away, which means their metabolism is going with it. So, if you don’t burn many calories, then you can’t eat many calories.”

Rule #4: Eat foods from the perimeter of the grocery store. “Select fresh fruits, vegetables, whole grains, healthy oils, fish, and meats. Avoid boxed and packaged foods, hydrogenated oils, and high fructose corn syrup. Also, stop eating fast food.”

Rule #5: Watch your portions. “You can get fat eating healthy if you eat way too much food and you’re not very active. The average person probably only needs 2,000 calories a day.”

14 sepTember 2012 Today’s Woman12 September 2012 today’S Woman

What is your personal brand?”

Peggy Stevens, founder and president of Peggy Noe Stevens & Associates Image Branding

and Experiential Marketing, smiles tantalizingly across from me, a teacher coaxing an answer out of a student.

I stare at her, stumped.She explains further: “If someone asked,

‘What is the brand Jessica?’, what would you say? You can easily describe brands such as Coca-Cola or Nike, but what about your brand? What do people experience when they experience you?”

It’s a question I’ve admittedly never thought about before, but one I’ve learned has major implications on my career and life. It’s also a question that Peggy, a Louisville native and resident of Anchorage, discusses in her new book, Professional Presence: a Four-Part Guide For Building Your Personal Brand, just released in June.

“Your brand is your image,” Peggy writes in her book. “Each word you speak or gesture you make delivers an

impression, good or bad. No matter where you are in your career life cycle, you are... forming a brand that will be the foundation for your success or failure.”

Companies don’t hire solely on résumés anymore, Peggy told me. “Soft skills” — speaking, interacting with others, and managing your appearance — are what can truly strengthen your brand and take you to the next level of a career.

“Soft skills make you the whole package,” she says. “It really makes a difference because you have the professional presence to go with your résumé.”

I bought Peggy’s book after attending her book signing, and I set out to create my personal brand. As a 2012 college graduate who’s just started a career, I need all the help I can get.

Maybe you’re like me. Or maybe you’ve been in the job market for years. Whoever you are, polishing the skills used to build a strong personal brand can set you apart from the crowd – and help you be the woman you want to be.

Peggy breaks down the foundational elements of building your brand into four parts.

Part 1 - Protocol“Protocol” is knowing how to behave

in a business setting. A strong brand is built by positive, productive experiences with that brand. So, how do others experience your poise and etiquette in business? Do you speak confidently and audibly, and do your gestures match your words? Do you arrive on time? Do you RSVP promptly to events?

I’ve failed all three of those questions before, as well as many more of the situations Peggy presents. I particularly realized I tend to speak quietly and add filler laughs between sentences, which makes me sound girlish and unsure of myself.

Though small, these things matter. People notice how you speak, show respect for others, and use manners.

And they make decisions about you — about your brand — based on those experiences. It’s not because of a judgmental personality; it’s simply human nature.Part 2 - Personal

The “Personal” aspect of building your brand involves your appearance and how you handle your personal life.

Whether you know it or not, you’re constantly projecting an image. An experience. What do you represent?

BUILD YOUR PERSONAL BRANDby JeSSica Smith

“

till youFake it

Make it

o PAGE

14

2012 sepTember 15www.iamtodayswoman.com / www.facebook.com/todayswomanmagazine / @todayswomannow

16 sepTember 2012 Today’s Woman14 September 2012 today’S Woman

Does your appearance show a confident, professional brand? Since I am no expert on corporate dress, Peggy recommended I first decide what impression I wanted to give. I then took an inventory of my wardrobe, deciding what fit and what matched that impression. I now hear Peggy’s voice in my head each morning: “Dress for the job you want, not the job you have.”

How you manage your personal life also affects your brand. It was after letting this fact sink in that I realized I had no real goals or life direction. Growing up in a rural town of 2,300, I was always a big fish in a small pond. I was blessed to have most things just fall into place for me. And I was treating my future career the same way — just hoping things would turn out how I wanted. I wasn’t being proactive or owning my life: I was still acting like a kid.

Determining my own goals and aspirations for both my career and personal life — actually writing them down — has helped me realize where I am, where I’m going, and how I’m going to get there. You can do the same. Take responsibility for your own life. Decide what is and isn’t working for you, and deal with it accordingly.

Part 3 - ProfessionalThe “Professional” building block of your

brand deals with your professional skills. How you present a message and participate in meetings will either strengthen or weaken your brand. One mistake women tend to make in this area is not finding a voice, Peggy says. Women need to make themselves visible by wisely speaking up during meetings, attending company events, and networking in the community.

I don’t give formal presentations at my job, but I do talk on the phone and attend meetings. One thing Peggy said that has stuck with me is that whether you are presenting before a board of directors or simply meeting with your boss, you need to communicate clearly. Show confidence in your message. Remember, you were chosen for your job or the opportunity to present because you know your material.

Part 4 - PeopleHow you deal with people is the final

foundational element of building your brand. The key, Peggy says, is letting others see a consistent you. Be authentic, but do so positively, finding value in everyone. How can you exceed expectations and leave someone

thinking positively about your brand?“Putting the right people behind you,

in front of you, and alongside you will carry you to success,” Peggy writes. Each interaction and relationship counts.

Putting it all togetherPeggy says the big idea behind it all is self-

awareness, and as I’ve evaluated and set goals to build my personal brand, I’ve reached the same conclusion. It takes time and care to build a brand. But realizing you have that power will set you on the right path to success.

“These are easy things to do, but they make all the world of difference,” Peggy says.

To learn more about building your personal brand, check out Peggy’s book, available at peggynoestevens.com, on Amazon.com, or at Barnes and Noble bookstores ($21.95). You can also attend Peggy’s upcoming Professional Presence workshops in downtown Louisville beginning in October. Register for one of four seminar dates at peggynoestevens.com.

Your Gestures: peggy suggests demonstrating various gestures in the mirror so you can see what others see when you speak or listen. do you make facial expressions that can be misunderstood, such as eye rolling or smirking? do you convey openness and confidence?

Your appearance: “Women can give their look more vibrancy with the use of basic makeup,” peggy writes. She suggests visiting a professional to learn what works for you instead of attempting a trial-and-error process. I met with makeup artist amber Cox at dillards in the mall St. matthews for a facial and an update on using makeup to my advantage. It was not only helpful and fun — it was free!

communicatinG with transparencY: though the theme of this month’s magazine is “Fake it till you make it,” and there is something to be said for practicing and polishing, peggy stresses the importance of authentic transparency and positivity in your interactions with people. maintain your composure at all times, but be truthful and be yourself: posing and subterfuge result only in confusion.

runninG a meetinG: “Choose your meetings wisely,” peggy writes. “Could it be handled instead through an email, a lunch date, or a conference call?” Identify the objectives of the meeting. Give your participants a heads-up on the agenda so they can come prepared. Control your time by keeping a “parking lot” list for issues that take you away from the agenda. Come back to those issues at a later time.

here are more specific tips from peggy’s book to help you build a strong personal brand:

till youFake it

Make it

o PAGE

12

16 September 2012 today’S Woman

till youFake it

Make it

GIVE A SPEECH WITHOUT FEAR

MAKE MOVING EASIER

by aLeXaS GreGory

by aLeXaS GreGory

iving a speech isn’t easy. Having to speak in front of others is a common fear. What if you lose your train of thought?

Or freeze up altogether? Not to worry. By preparing beforehand and remembering a few simple tricks to keep your cool, you can give a flawless presentation.

“When I prepare my speech, I type it like a report and read it over and over. I’ll break it down into bullet points on one page,” says Sarah Johnson, a member of Humana’s Toastmasters group. Toastmasters is a nonprofit organization that helps develop public speaking and leadership skills.

Johnson also says she practices in front of her mirror and with her mentor, another Toastmasters member, who gives her critical feedback. She warns against using

notecards because they can get shuffled and out of order.

Susan Crocker, president of Toastmasters Expressers, has similar ways of preparing, but she also times her speeches so she doesn’t end up saying too little or too much about her topic.

“Organization is key,” Crocker says.Once you’ve practiced

and the moment has come to deliver your speech, don’t lose your cool. If you mess up, keep going. If you recover and continue on, the audience will likely forget the mistake.

“If you have a strong topic, an effective speech, and a good conclusion, they’ll forget about any missteps,” Johnson says.

And remember, you’re the only one giving the speech, so only you know when you’re messing up.

“My mess-ups usually involve my mouth moving faster than my brain,” Crocker says.“The best thing to do is take a moment and pause. Your audience will wait for you to gather your thoughts.”

Standing in front of your audience can be daunting. If you get a chance, Johnson recommends trying to mingle with your

audience beforehand so you can get a feel for what type of group they are.

Some final advice: “Be true to yourself,” Crocker says. “It makes you more

credible in front of everyone, and it’s usually more interesting”.

Johnson adds, “Breathe. People get so scared they speak too fast and hold their breath. Breathing keeps you calm, and when you stop and take a breath, it gives you a chance to think.”

G

oving into a new neighborhood can be a major adjustment for anyone. There’s the feeling of

excitement of moving to a new place and a sense of adventure, but there’s also the feeling of uneasiness when you’re trying to figure out where you fit in with your new neighbors.

“We had some neighbors who reached out to us,” says Angela Hagan, who moved from Old Louisville to Indian Hills about a year and a half ago. “Folks wanted to come and introduce themselves.”

Stacy Tackett says about her neighbors on Trinity Road, “The first time we went there, three of our neighbors brought us welcoming gifts. We were overwhelmed with kindness.”

Hagan was involved in the Central Park West Neighborhood Association before she moved, but her new neighborhood has volunteers who plan events to get everyone out and socializing. They host

a Fourth of July walking parade, fall cookouts with live music, and other holiday gatherings for Halloween and Christmas.

Hagan believes the best way to get acquainted with new neighbors is to get out of the house. “I’ll have to admit, it’s a lot easier when you have children, but having a hobby like running or gardening gets you on the streetscape outside of your house,” she says. “It’s a natural way to meet people.”

If you are making the transition from one neighborhood to the next, talk to neighbors and get the scoop on what type of neighborhood you’re moving into. “Pick a neighborhood based upon your family’s specific needs,” Tackett says. “Make sure you know the neighborhood well before you move into it.”

Knowing the area you’re moving into can make the adjustment easier for you and your family.

M

IF YOu MESS uP, KEEP gOINg. THE AudIENCE

WILL LIKELY FORgET THE MISTAKE.

18 sepTember 2012

Today’s Woman18 September 2012 today’S Woman

START

NAVIGATE A NETWORKING EVENT

IMPRESS A FIRST DATEIMPRESS A FIRST DATE

by trICIa HUSSUnG

by tIFFany WHIte

P

F

“repare, prepare, prepare,” is Catherine Chapman’s advice when it comes to networking and public speaking. She should know — she’s the president of Louisville’s branch of Femfessionals, a women-only networking company.

When networking situations arise, it is easy to be intimidated. Remember these tips to navigate your next networking event with ease.

irst date jitters are a big hump to get over when you are trying to portray yourself as a good catch. But if you let go

of insecurities, your big night will be a success.

Show Yourself Some LoveEmily Domeck, 28, who is in a

relationship, and newlywed Alexandria Pruitt, 26, say being comfortable with yourself is imperative to curbing your nervousness on the first date. “It is all about confidence,” Alexandria says. Wearing a nice outfit and hairstyle are great ways to boost your self-esteem. And don’t knock the power of positive affirmations. “Tell yourself: ‘I’m a smart, confident, sexy woman, and I have a lot to offer,’” Alexandria says. “If you keep telling yourself that, then you will exude this, and it makes you more attractive to your partner.”

Honesty is another important component that can enhance your desirability. Alexandria says dishonesty about who you really are puts more pressure on you to maintain a fake image. “You have to put everything out on the table and let him know this is who you are…either you like it or leave it,” Alexandria says.

Location is EverythingWhen meeting for the first time, Emily

suggests choosing a place that has a loud atmosphere to fill in those awkward moments of silence the two of you may experience. Her top picks are Chuy’s Mexican Restaurant and the Bluegrass Brewing Company.

What to SayBoth Alexandria and Emily say engaging

in a reciprocal conversation will make your partner feel like you have a genuine interest in getting to know him. “As long as you are asking questions about the other person, your conversation will never die,” Emily says. They suggest not talking about money, religion, ex-boyfriends, politics, or future family plans. “Those are taboo questions that can make a girl look like she has too much baggage,” Emily says. “Keep the conversation light.” Instead, ask about his hobbies, musical taste, and family.

The next time you’re preparing for a first date, try these methods, but remember not to set your expectations too high. Your main goal, aside from meeting the right person, should be to have fun.

“The most important thing to do at a networking event is to be yourself,” Chapman says. “Smile and be friendly.”

Chapman recommends getting the guest list ahead of time so you can decide who you want to connect with.

“Set a goal for the event, such as, ‘I will meet three new people tonight and learn about them,’” Chapman says. “If you have a plan and focus on achieving it, it reduces the anxiety of trying to ‘sell’ yourself to others.”

Chapman recommends complimenting someone on her outfit as a good way to start conversation, and she stresses the importance of seeking out someone you don’t know.

“No one ever seems to want to talk first, so most people will be glad that you took the lead,” she says. “If you make genuinely getting to know them the goal, then the conversation should take care of itself with little effort.”

Finally, Chapman says women should look at networking as a chance to connect with and promote other women rather than as a source of anxiety: “Networking is an opportunity for women to help one another build relationships and a support system,” she says.

You can find out more about Chapman and Femfessionals at www.femfessionals.com/FemCities/Louisville.htm.

till youFake it

Make it

Love your shoes!

today’S Woman20 sepTember 2012

o PaGe

24

W

hy 2

0? B

ecause w

e are 20 years old!

20 Happenings, news, celebrations, and tidbits that caught Today’s Woman’s

eye this month.by anITa oLdHam

4

5

1


things

“I know my palate was weird,” melissa says. “I wouldn’t hesitate eating boiled beets with salt, pepper, and butter, pickled beets made from homegrown beets from grandma’s garden, and even beet greens sautéed with oil and then drizzled with apple cider vinegar. What can I say? I love beets.” even if you aren’t a beet lover, she swears you will love her recipe of roasted beets on page 58.

“It’s amazing that I am still alive today. Who knew one could live off of Kellogg’s cereal, lima beans, and beets?”

says Food Writer melissa donald.

Do You Look Like Princess Di? If you do or if you want to make an effort to look like her send us a photo (to [email protected])

that could be included in our October issue. Enter August 30-September 13. One winner will be chosen to be included in a special photo shoot and win tickets to the Frazier History Museum’s special 7,500-sq.-ft. exhibit about the late Diana, Princess of Wales. Check out details at www.facebook.com/todayswomanmagazine.

On Labor Day, find music and food — local bands and Food Trucks — between 7th and 8th

Streets in front of the Kentucky Museum of Art and Craft from 4pm to 10pm.

Tickets are $13/advance purchase at http://streetruckus-dandeacon.eventbrite.com

3My tMCDownload the MytMC app to your phone and put in Today’s Woman when you sign up. the app shows you coupons for the area you are currently in — how convenient is that?

Have you heard that Fashion Week

is coming to Louisville on October 17-20?

We’re excited! Check it out —

www.waterfrontfashionweek.com

ph

oto

: Ma

rio

te

sti

no

Get Ready for Fashion Week!

mailto:[email protected]

http://www.facebook.com/todayswomanmagazine

http://www.facebook.com/todayswomanmagazine

http://streetruckus-dandeacon.eventbrite.com/

http://www.waterfrontfashionweek.com/


Get Ready for Fashion Week!


11

o PaGe

22

o PaGe

26

8

121213

6 7Do you know about Women 4 Women? it is an organization that helps women in this community. Find out more at this year’s women 4 women Annual Luncheon featuring Jean Chatzky, author and financial editor for nBC. the luncheon is on september 13, noon to 1:30, Galt House East, Grand Ballroom. Register online at www.w4w.org

The Last One This YearOn September 19 don’t miss the last WFPK

Waterfront Wednesday Concert Series at Louisville Waterfront Park.

Jeans Turn Into Insulation?Give your used blue jeans to Denim for a Difference, a denim recycling program that the UK College of Agriculture is doing with Cotton, Incorporated. The program takes the used jeans and converts them into natural, cotton fiber insulation that is used when building homes for Habitat for Humanity in areas hit hard by natural disasters. Donate jeans at Margaret’s Consignment, 2700 Frankfort Avenue.

9 yyyyyyyyDon’t You Want to Walk Over 2nd street Bridge?

you can at 2012 Kentuckiana Heart Walk on september 22.

www.heart.org/kentuckianaheartwalk

10Congratulations to Paula wahl, the new County engineer, making her the first female to hold the job in Jefferson County. Wahl manages the division responsible for the development plan review and permit process, and oversees development plans from initial site plans to final construction, ensuring all guidelines and requirements are followed, along with many other responsibilities.

“i am honored and excited to hold this position during this time when we are undertaking major changes to the Land Development Code and updates to transportation planning efforts in our community,” says Paula wahl.

PAinT PArTy!

From the photos, this experience looks and sounds crazy. Write to us if you go, because we want the inside scoop. DAYGLOW is an eclectic party for adults 18 and older that features popular DJs, soaring aerial acts, stilt-walkers, contortion acts, fire shows, and cannons to deliver the famous “Paint Blast.” DAYGLOW will be at Broadbent Arena at the Kentucky Expositon Center on September 28. Visit www.dayglowtour.com

Gamble on YourselfYou could try a Customized ‘Blackjack’ Aromatic Facial at

Horseshoe Southern Indiana’s new spa, Indulge. That is one of the many services available at the new full-service day spa

owned by Valerie Brooks Tate and Jason Tate.

Actors Theatre of Louisville+

Edward Leeowner of 610 Magnolia

and farm-to-table pioneer

New Downtown Restaurant=

www.w4w.org

http://www.heart.org/kentuckianaheartwalk

http://www.heart.org/kentuckianaheartwalk

o

26 sepTember 2012

15o PaGe2

4 14

19New Family Membera couple of months ago, I told you that I was searching for a dog to join our family. We found Fred, a shepherd mix, at the derby City dog rescue. We are all getting attached and trained (I am not sure who is training who!). He loves trying to rip the noisemakers out of stuffed toys, so the stuffing is flying. Go to www.petfinders.com to find a dog you can rescue.

i Think We Should GoThe alley Theater will host the First princess bride experience, a festival honoring the cult-classic film, Princess Bride, on september 29.

• renaissance music• Costumed characters• Themed food and drink from the movie• 8:30 p.m. screening of the film• staged reading of the film at 4 p.m. • Fencing reenactment of the movie’s famous

sword-fighting scene.

admission is $15 for adults and $10 for senior citizens and children aged 3-14 (free for ages under 3). www.thealleytheater.org.

PANDORA PRODUCTIONsseason Debut: Musical Drama, Kiss of the Spider WomanSeptember 13; Henry Clay TheatreUpcoming highlights: Naked Boys Singing, Velma&

Louise’s Holiday Balls,Contact: www.PandoraProds.org LOUIsvILLe ORCHesTRAseason Debut: Gala concert, FanfaraSeptember 8; The Kentucky CenterUpcoming highlights: Brian Stokes Mitchell, Halloween

SpooktacularContact: www.louisvilleorchestra.org ACTORs THeATReseason Debut: Romeo & JulietSeptember 4, Actors TheatreUpcoming highlights: Long Days Journey into Night,

DraculaContact: www.actorstheatre.org PNC BROADWAY seRIesseason Debut: WickedSeptember 12, The Kentucky CenterUpcoming highlights: Beauty and the Beast, Jersey BoysContact: www.louisville.pncbroadway.com

The Arts Season is HERE!

author Todd patkin recommends trying to react to setbacks with dignity, composure, and even optimism for the future — even if you’re tempted to lash out or vent your frustrations.

“When you choose to react to mistakes in a healthy way, you’ll speed up the healing process for yourself,” he promises. “I always remember UCLa basketball coach John Wooden’s admonition that

no one should be able to tell after a game whether you won or lost from your mannerisms, and I definitely think his advice was right on the money. strive to become not only a better loser, but also a better winner. both are characterized by humility, empathy, and the knowledge that no one is perfect.”

Todd patkin is the author of Finding Happiness: One Man’s Quest to Beat Depression and Anxiety and — Finally — Let the Sunshine In.

16

Gilda’s Street DanceSeptember 29, 5:30-8 p.m.

Rogers St., between Baxter Ave. and Bishop St. All are welcome to this free, family-

friendly street dance, featuring live music, contra (country) dancing, food trucks and more.

No prior contra dancing experience is necessary to participate.

www.gildasclublouisville.org

17 (l-r) Austin Hughes and Jack Bowling will be playing the roles of gravediggers in the 1890s

The Second Annual STORIES BEHIND

THE STONES The Historic Fairview Cemetery

Tour contains stories about some of the largest funerals in the

history of New Albany as well as stories about grave robbers. September 21 and 22. The one-hour tours

will begin every 15 minutes between 6 and 9 p.m. Tickets: $10/adults and $5 children. Call Patty Hughes,

812.945.7601 or www.facebook.com/newalbany200.

18There will be so many ideas generated in Louisville from september 19 to 22 that we should feel them buzzing in the air. Go to IdeaFestival to hear about how higher education could change, how Finland has great schools, how regenerative medicine will work in the future, and end it all with nuLu Festival on saturday afternoon. Check out www.ideafestival.com for full list of events and speakers.

Fake it until you make it.

20iDEAS!

http://www.Petfinders.com/

http://www.thealleytheater.org/

http://www.PandoraProds.org/

http://www.louisvilleorchestra.org/

http://www.actorstheatre.org/

http://Louisville.pncbroadway.com/

http://www.gildasclublouisville.org/

http://www.facebook.com/newalbany200

http://ideafestival.com/





I still miss it. It’s been almost a whole month with no Olympic Games to watch. No more jumping up and down as another woman snares a gold medal. Wasn’t it amazing?It was truly the Women’s Olympics. It was the first time every

country with a team sent at least one woman to the Olympics. It was the first time women outnumbered men in representing the United States. It was the first time women took home more medals than men — 58 for women and 45 for men — and nearly double the number of gold, but who’s counting?

It’s no coincidence that 2012 marks the 40th anniversary of Title IX, which banned discrimination in federally-funded educational programs, including sports, and opened up opportunities for young women in athletics.

In 1972, there weren’t even Olympic competitions for women’s basketball, soccer, polo, rowing, boxing, or judo. In 2012, the U.S. women won gold medals in all of these.

But the celebration transcends the medals they proudly wear around their necks. These female athletes who brought us such joy showed us so much more.

Commitment — Without fail, every competitor gave 100 percent commitment to their pursuit: Hours of practice every day for years.

sacrifice and suffering — Each competitor gave up time with family and friends to train with the best. In training and competitions, they experienced not just physical pain but emotional pain as they tried over and over to reach a new level.

Focus — The mental concentration and stamina that each one had to develop in order to excel as they did is a feat in itself. To continue to focus on the singular goal of winning with all the distractions around is mind-boggling.

unselfishness — The majority of medals won were in team sports, requiring everyone to yield to another for the good of the team: A life lesson well learned.

top-level Fitness — There were no medals resting on the bellies of the obese — with the possible exception of a few weight lifters. It speaks to the obvious advantages of exercise and healthy eating habits.

Every four years, there is a burst of energy around exercising and sporting activities after we watch the Olympics. Girls sign up for gymnastics or recommit to soccer practice. Let’s also hope they remember the other traits that these remarkable young women taught us…traits that will make them not only better athletes but better students, leaders, neighbors, employees, and individuals.

Let’s strive to play like a girl.

Play Like a girlby CaTHy ZIon / pUbLIsHer


20Celebrating1991 — 2011

Years/looking back

Congratulations on 20 Years

MEDIA SPONSORS:

WAVE 3 and The Max 102.3

CONtRIbutINg SPONSOR:

Blades

by TayLor sTaUGas

Throughout Today’s Woman magazine’s 20 years, we have put the spotlight on interesting and strong women in our area.

Our September issue in particular showcases young women in our community who make a difference and inspire those around them. Some of these ladies have gone face to face with danger, while others use their talents to inspire and help those in need. They are all valued heroes in our community, and we applaud them for being who they are. 2006Back in 2006 at the age of 21, Jamie Brown, a University of Kentucky graduate, was chosen for an internship with the Supreme Court. It was the first time in 30 years that a UK graduate was chosen for the position. During the application process, Jamie had to compete with hundreds of applicants from Harvard and Yale, making her odds of being chosen seem grim. Jamie not only became a representative for Kentucky, but she also became a role model, showing everyone that “you should follow your dreams, even when they seem out of reach.”

2007In our 2007 issue, we had the pleasure of interviewing Kara Reeder, a Krav Maga Trainer. Krav Maga is a form of self-defense that developed in Israel for the military. Kara had the guts to start training in martial arts during high school, and she has continued. She helps women realize how strong they are, and that with training, they can find their true potential for physical strength. 2011Alyssa middleton from our 2011 issue rose above her frightening past to become a successful entrepreneur.

With threats on her life from an abusive ex-boyfriend, Alyssa had to move away from her home, change her name, and cut ties with most of her family and friends. As hard as it is to reinvent yourself, especially while living in fear, Alyssa overcame her hardships and started a family and a new career. Vintage Body Spa became Alyssa’s new venture, inspired by her daughter’s allergies and eczema. Alyssa then launched Behind the Curtain, an initiative that donates a portion of her sales and products to nonprofit organizations that help women escape abuse.

PH

OTO

: EW

A W

OJT

KOW

SK

A

WHAT SHE DOES Kara Reeder is training to fight. In addition torunning three miles a day, she trains to compete in Muay Thai,which is kickboxing with the reputation of being one of thehardest sports in the world because it also incorporates the use of elbows and knees.

Kara trains at least two hours per day, six days a week, andparticipated in her first competition in June, in Iowa.

HOW SHE GOT STARTED In high school, Kara’smother inspired her to be active in tennis,gymnastics, and field hockey, but Kara wantedsomething more unusual. “I liked watchingmartial arts movies, and I didn’t know anyonetaking martial arts, so I thought ‘why not?’”She went on to earn a second degree blackbelt in Tae Kwon Do and won a gold medalin the 1993 Junior Olympics.

About three years ago, Kara was intrigued whena friend told her about Krav Maga, a self-defense system that was developed in Israel for its army. “It’s along the lines of street fighting,” Kara said. “There are no rules — anything goes.”

Kara now trains others,teaching Krav Maga atthe Core ModernTraining Center. But shewanted more challengeand formal competition,so she also began takingclasses in Muay Thai.

BENEFITS “A lot of femalesdon’t see themselves as strongor don’t realize how strongthey are.This training has shown me that I am a lotstronger than I thought I wasphysically. I’m not concerned aboutgetting hurt…bruises will go awayand they’re not that big a deal. Itdoesn’t feel like working out to me.It’s fun and very social—not a chore likegoing to the gym —and it’s the bestworkout I’ve ever had.”

ADVICE “Do it. It’s a great challenge andanyone can do it.Take that risk and put yourselfout there.”

2 0 0 7 S E P T E M B E R 47w w w . i a m t o d a y s w o m a n . c o m

Kara Reederfitness

by Cheryl Stuck

Kara ReederAGE: 30

Krav Maga Trainer at CoreModern Training Center

Editorial Assistant atNarrowCast Group

TWOM0907Wellness 8/17/07 2:30 PM Page 47

Today’s Woman

oPAGE

34

he makes natural beauty, spa, and baby products that are certified Kentucky Proud — but this local entrepreneur didn’t come to Louisville looking for new possibilities — she came here to hide.

“You need to go underground, to disappear,” the woman said over the phone. It was the probation officer for her abusive ex-boyfriend calling to let her know that despite 18 months in jail, he was still threatening her life.

The relationship, she says, was “nightmarish.” She knew he was capable of and willing to carry out his threats.

The woman hearing those words no longer exists — she heeded the advice, moved out of that state, changed her name, and cut all but five very close friends and immediate family members from her life. She had to, to save her own.

Last year, more than seven years after the old her ceased to exist, Alyssa Middleton was living a new life here in Kentucky, with a family, career, and joy. Then one day she opened an email she thought had been sent by her husband, only to discover it was him. He had found her. He wanted her to hear his side. She owed him, he wrote.

The emails continued. He proved he’d really found her by revealing her new name, giving her new address, even describing things about her life that only someone watching would know.

But this isn’t a story about a victim of domestic violence, nor is it about a woman living her life underground and afraid.

This story is about a survivor who has taken that old life and turned it into something beautiful — with a loving husband, two great kids, work she’s passionate about, and a simple purchase that has changed the course of her life forever and one she hopes will allow her to help other women dealing with abusive partners or attempting to pick up the pieces after their escape.

“I want to be an example that life goes on,” Alyssa Middleton says over a bowl of minestrone soup at Ghyslain on Market. “There will always be bumps in life —and some are much bigger than others — but nothing can’t be overcome or turned into a positive.”

A new baby and a new path is born About five years into her new identity, and before

he had found her again, Alyssa and her husband welcomed a precious little baby girl named Alaina. Soon they discovered she arrived with allergies and eczema. The pediatrician prescribed a steroid cream, advising Alaina’s parents that she may need it for life.

Having a relative with various skin ailments they attribute to long-term steroid cream use, Alyssa sought out a more natural option.

Soon she found something that worked — Wherever Body Cream by Vintage Body Spa, at the time available online through etsy.com or at craft fairs throughout the region. A short time later, Alyssa learned that the Covington, KY woman who owned the business was selling it.

“I came home and told my husband that we are not losing this cream, it works that well. We’re buying the company!”

Alyssa laughs as I ask what her husband thought of that declaration.

“He knows I’m determined and motivated, so he quickly agreed.”

It was daughter Alaina’s skin sensitivities that lead to Alyssa buying and expanding Vintage Body Spa.

Stor

y an

d ph

otos

by

Barb

ara

Mac

Dona

ldCa

tCh

Sigh

t o

f th

e Be

auti

ful

32 sEPTEmBER 2011

S


Years/looking back

36 SEPTEMBER 2012 Today’S WoMan

Professional Connections CalendarYour go-to spot for professional networking and career-building opportunities around Louisvillepresents

All listings are on a per month basis. To list your meeting free of charge in the calendar, email us your meeting date, time, location, a contact phone number, and website to [email protected], call 502.327.8855 ext. 14 or fax to 502.327.8861. Deadline for inclusion is five weeks prior to issue date (example: July 25 for September issue). We will confirm receipt of your changes.

BPW- Business and Professional Women- New AlbanyEvery 3rd Monday • 5:30 p.m.Culbertson West904 E. Main Street New AlbanyAnn Windell 812.282.9310

BPW- Business & Professional Women- River CityEvery 2nd Wednesday • NoonLunch and Program noon-1pmThe Bristol-Downtown614 West Main Street502.499.4420, [email protected]

CBPW- Christian Business & Professional WomenEvery Second Thursday • NoonHurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneChristine Ward 502.931.2918 [email protected]

EWI- Executive Women International- KentuckianaEvery 3rd Tuesday • 5:30 p.m.Contact for info & reservation Dotty [email protected]

The Heart Link NetworkEvery 1st Wednesday • 6:30 p.m.Inverness at Hurstbourne Condos1200 Club House DriveBarbara Madore 502.377.8625www.40222.theheartlinknetwork.com

IAAP- International Association of Administrative Professionals- LouisvilleEvery 2nd Thursday • 6 p.m.Location Varies – See Website for Details.www.iaap-louisville.org

Legal Secretaries of LouisvilleEvery 3rd Tuesday • 11:30 a.m.Bristol Bar & Grille614 West Main StreetAlice Harris 502.595.2310 #[email protected]

MLWPC- Metropolitan Louisville Women’s Political CaucusEvery 4th Monday • 5:30 p.m.Olmsted Bistro at Masonic Homes3701 Frankfort AvenueSherry Conner [email protected]

NAWBO- National Association of Women Business OwnersEvery 3rd [email protected]

National Association of Women in ConstructionEvery 2nd Monday • 5:30 p.m.Call for meeting locationPatty Stewart 812.288.4208 #121

Network NowEvery 2nd Friday • 11:30 a.m.Hurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneLee Ann Lyle [email protected]

NIA Women’s RoundtableEvery 4th Friday • 8:30 a.m.NIA Center2900 West Broadway – 3rd floorSuzanne Carter [email protected]

Southern Indiana Women’s Networking GroupEvery 3rd Wednesday • 11:30 a.m.Holiday Inn-Lakeview505 Marriott Drive * ClarksvilleEmail Lisa Stinnett for RSVP: [email protected]

WIN- Women in NetworkingEvery 2nd Wednesday • 11:15 a.m.Oxmoor Country Club9000 Limehouse Lane

WIN- Women in Networking IIEvery 3rd Wednesday • 11:30 a.m.Holiday Inn – Hurstbourne1325 S. Hurstbourne ParkwayKim Fusting [email protected]

WIN- Women in Networking IIIEvery 2nd Tuesday • 11:30 a.m.Hurstbourne Country Club9000 Hurstbourne Club LaneCharlaine Reynolds [email protected] ORStephanie Riggle 502.554.4753stephanie.riggle@ grannynannies-ky.comwww.win3louisville.com

WIN- Women in Networking IVEvery 3rd Tuesday • 11:30 a.m.Corner Café9307 New LaGrange RoadAmanda Smith [email protected]

WIN - Women in Networking VEvery 2nd Thursday • 11:30 a.m.Buca di Beppo2051 S. Hurstbourne ParkwayLee Ann Lyle [email protected] www.win5networking.com

WOAMTEC-Women On A Mission To Earn CommissionEvery 2nd and 4th Wednesday 11:30 a.m.Edesia Gardens10212 Taylorsville RoadCharlene Burke 812.951.3177www.woamtec.com

Women’s Business Center of KY – funded in part by a cooperative agreement with the SBA

Every 1st Fri. Roundtable • 8:30 a.m.Location – TBASharron Johnson 502.566.6076 #[email protected]/womensbusinesscenter.html

Women’s Council of RealtorsEvery 3rd Thursday • 11:30 a.m.Wildwood Country Club5000 Bardstown Rd.Lynda Minzenberger [email protected]

ZONTA- Advancing the Status of WomenEvery 1st Thursday • 6:00 p.m.Logan’s Steakhouse5005 Shelbyville RoadJoyce Cain 502.339.8682membership@zontaclubof louisville.com

— This is an Advertisement — Today’s Woman38 sepTember 2012

2012 sepTember 39www.iamtodayswoman.com / www.facebook.com/todayswomanmagazine / @todayswomannow 2012 SEPTEMBER 37www.iamtodayswoman.com / www.facebook.com/todayswomanmagazine / @todayswomannow

Sponsored by:

40 september 2012 today’s Woman

Have you ever met someone who exuded coolness? You can’t quite put your finger on it, but there’s something she has that makes her stand out in a special way. We talked to few women who fit this description and asked them what it takes to be cool.

By Tiffany WhiTe / PhoTos: Melissa DonalDCool Women

Emily DigenisAge: 46

Job: Chief Financial Officer at Kentucky Aesthetic and Plastic Surgery and practicing attorney

Spotted At: Work the Metal

WhAt MAkeS A WoMAn Cool:

“Confidence, feeling good in her own skin. As I grow older, I have found inner peace and wisdom in knowing not to fret over the small stuff. I appreciate my family and retail therapy.”

Becky Ruby SwansburgAge: 33

Job: Chief Marketing Officer at Stonewood Financial

Spotted At: La Coop Bistro


“Being her own self, being into her own things.”

Katheryn M. Lynn and son BrooksAge: 28

Spotted At: Westport Village


“Someone who has a sense of who she is and what she likes to wear and what she feels comfortable with.”

2012 september 41www.iamtodayswoman.com / www.facebook.com/todayswomanmagazine / @todayswomannow

today’s Woman42 september 2012

Cool Women

Karen YatesAge: 51

Job: Executive Assistant, Appriss

Spotted At: The Summit


“Staying young at heart. Exercise is very important and staying involved with your children.”

Michelle YatesAge: 24

Job: Quality Assurance Analyst, Appriss

Spotted At: The Summit


“Independence, self-respect, always having self-confidence, being compassionate towards other people.”

Mary NguyenAge: 25

Job: Licensed Professional Counselor (under supervision)

Spotted At: Heine Brothers in Westport Village (Mary, a native of Tulsa, OK was visiting with friends in Louisville when we met her).


“Her faith, personal abilities, and caring heart. It doesn’t necessarily matter what she wears on the outside, but how she dresses herself inside. The most beautiful thing on a woman is her smile.”

2012 september 43www.iamtodayswoman.com / www.facebook.com/todayswomanmagazine / @todayswomannow

Today’s Woman44 september 2012

Marcee LaHueMArCEE iS WEAring: Chan Luu dove cami,

$42; Escobar earrings, $38; Chan Luu bracelet, $249; Peace of Cloth skinny pants, $184; Camelia

top,$129; Escobar pendant necklace, $88; Chan Luu gold necklace, $259; Chan Luu bead

necklace, $169; Sofft Scafati shoes, $99. All items available at Boutique Serendipity, 1301 Herr Lane, 502.423.0058. LOCATiOn: Hillbilly Tea

Hot Spots

“At my heart, I’m a hillbilly,” says hillbilly tea owner, karter louis. “My idea of a good time is sitting on the porch, drinking tea.”louis opened hillbilly tea over two years ago in downtown louisville where he spent his childhood. Since then, the restaurant

has tripled in capacity and expanded into retail and catering. based on ingredients that are native to the Appalachia area, the menu changes each season and includes dishes that are cooked with tea. the restaurant, like many in louisville, supports the farm-to-table concept, serving as much natural food as possible. louis farms an acre of land that allows him to control the quality of the produce served.

“hillbilly tea actually started as a joke about 10 years ago,” he says. After returning to Washington d.C. from a trip back to louisville, louis talked with his partner, Chef Arpi, about opening a restaurant that would be centered on America’s tea culture — he used hillbilly after seeing it on a billboard while driving. he had experience with restaurants in San Francisco and Chicago and wanted to come back home to louisville.

louis says it was surreal opening the restaurant in his hometown and, with such a successful venture, he and Chef Arpi are now developing plans to expand hillbilly tea to other cities. they are working to open restaurants in brooklyn, n.Y. and nashville, tenn. Its unique dishes and fresh concept are sure to make hillbilly tea a cool place to go wherever it expands.

A PLAce to drink teA: HiLLBiLLY teA

By CArMEn BrOWn PHOTOS: CHET WHiTE

MAKEuP: LOri KArnESSTyLing: WEndy AnguiAnO

46 september 2012

Hot SpotsIf you are looking for a fresh idea for a night out, check out Uptown Art

Uncorked. the staff provides simple step-by-step instructions and all the supplies you will need to create a lovely painting. You can browse through the gallery on their website, www.uptownart.com/louisville, and see different paintings you can try. Classes are offered each night at 7 p.m., and soda, wine, and other beverages are available for purchase. A similar business is opening in the St. Matthews area called pinot’s palette (www.pinotspalette.com)

don’t worry if you don’t consider yourself an artist. “Many people come in and think they could never paint anything,” says kelly Rains, manager and teacher of Uptown Art. “by the end of the night, they say ‘I never knew I could do that’ and take home something they’re proud of.” the staff often offers new painting classes to keep customers interested. paint-your-pet and paint-your-wine-glass are two new classes that have been very successful. the studio offers a party atmosphere and assistants walk around each class to make sure each person receives the necessary instruction.

kelly says that the highlands neighborhood was the perfect place for the studio. “our business fits here because we’re surrounded by art,” she says. “people in the community appreciate us and are willing to try something new. everyone is an artist in their own way.” Uptown Art Uncorked just celebrated its one-year anniversary and, with so many offerings in a non-intimidating environment, it is sure to celebrate many more. Make sure to grab a friend and stop by.

A PLAce to PAint: Art As A Fun nigHt out

kelly rains (far left)

Patricia Hussung (left)

Alexas gregory (far right)

LOCATiOn: uptown Art uncorked

A PLAce to PAint: Art As A Fun nigHt out

Hot Spots

48 september 2012

2012 september 49

A PLAce to sHoP: cLotHing & HoMe dÉcor

dress & dwell gives customers the ability to shop for clothing and contemporary home décor with a vintage flair. Storeowner Amanda gibson has a background in apparel merchandising and interior design, so her boutique is a product of her love for both. She chose the store’s location because of the regrowth of Historic new Albany and the charm of the buildings. Amanda also loved the support that people have for the local community. “We’re excited and thrilled about how quickly word got out and how many repeat customers we have,” she says. Those customers like one-of-a-kind clothing and home items. dress & dwell also carries locally made jewelry.

Celebrating year one of her business, Amanda is already giving back. in August, she hosted a Southern Belle-themed fashion show, “Burlap, Boots, and Brooches,” to benefit the national Multiple Sclerosis Society. She hopes to continue forming partnerships with local nonprofits for future fashion shows. The recent success and notoriety has helped gibson form a vision for what dress & dwell can become. “We hope to expand our location so we can increase our inventory,” she says. “Also, we want to use Facebook for online retail and to reach more customers.” The stylish and elegant clothing and home décor makes this one boutique you have to visit!

kaitlyn tewKAiTLyn iS WEAring: dV by dolce Vita dress, $126; Ada Leather Belt, $78; rosegold Sideways Cross necklace, $62; Orange Wrap Bracelet, $22; Triple Chain & Tortoise Bracelet, $30; gold Chain & Orange Leather Wrap Bracelet, $38; Sideways Cross Bracelet, $16; Stool, $80; Olive Bucket, $42; Boxwood Balls, $32-$68; garden Stake Chalkboard,$12. All items available at dress & dwell 138 E. Spring Street, new Albany 812.725.7566.LOCATiOn: dress & dwell

Mary Beck grew up on a dairy farm in Ohio, the youngest of

five. in addition to her two brothers and two sisters, her friends were the farm animals. When it was time for Mary to start school, she remembers feeling overwhelmed to leave her safe surroundings. “i was scared,” she recalls. “i cried every time the bus came.”

in being around other kids for the first time, Mary experienced inequality, something new and uncomfortable. One of her earliest memories is picking teams for games or sports. “The small kid with the glasses was always picked last,” she says. “i had a sense this was wrong.”

While attending college at the university of dayton, Mary was given a project to create a business concept and market it. This was when Pepperdinkle and Pals was born. Mary’s inspiration was Pepperdinkle, the dog she grew up with on the farm. She wrote a story about him and brought life to him in the form of a stuffed animal. Her idea was to use her farm animal friends to teach children that everyone has feelings, so be kind to one another...no matter what a person looks like.

With encouragement from her husband, richard, Mary recently brought her barnyard friends to life.

She created a cast of characters that includes Pepperdinkle, Bad Cat, Mechanic Cat, Shake rattle And roll, and Pig Little.

“Shake rattle And roll was one of our milk cows,” Mary says. “She hated to come in to get milked. We had to push her into the barn and she shook the whole time. Mom named her.”

Pig Little was the runt of the litter, Mary says, and got nudged out by the other piglets nursing with their mother.

“We fed her,” Mary says. “She became my pet pig. She was like a dog and followed me wherever i’d go.”

Through Pepperdinkle and the other farm animals, Mary has developed a program to teach acceptance and kindness kids in the classroom.

“i feel this is one of my biggest purposes to share in life,“ Mary says.

For more information on how to get this program into your child’s school, contact Mary Beck at: [email protected].


inSPirATiOnS

By holly GreGor / PhoTos By Melissa DonalD MArY Beck

HEr

13 Things That Inspire Mary:

1. Mom and Dad are my rock. They reared me to be strong and stand on my own two feet. They continuously give love and support to everyone around them. To meet my mother is to meet the closest thing to an angel here on earth. As for my dad, he’s a bit on the ornery side. 2. My husband Richard, who encouraged me to start this business. He is a great leader and teacher, having coached and developed many successful people throughout his career. He is one of the most giving people i know. 3. My Bernese Mountain dogs, Boulder and Bianca. i have raised this breed for more than 16 years. i admire how they wake up each morning ready to go. They bring me love, joy, and contentment. 4. Our home. We moved here six years ago. When i first saw this place ,it was absolutely magical. We have a natural spring that runs along the property and feeds into a large pond where i raise Koi fish. it’s so peaceful watching over the fish and surrounding wildlife. We spend most of our down time relaxing on the back patio. 5. University of Louisville sports. i admire the energy, commitment, and athletic ability that the athletes put forth. i get so excited for game time and spending time with friends. go Cards! 6. Dale Hollow Lake. it is one of god’s most beautiful creations and one of the most pristine lakes in the country. The grandkids are always ready for a little toss around in the inner tube with grandpa. 7. Fred Bond. Fred was one of my best guy friends. We worked together at a restaurant when i was younger. We used to sit around and think up ideas of what we wanted to do with our lives. i wanted to do something that i enjoyed, something meaningful. Fred and i came up with the name Pepperdinkle and Pals. 8. Frank Lloyd Wright. He likes to blend his houses with nature. Our house is like a Frank Lloyd Wright ranch-style house. 9. Friends. My friends are all so different. Just like the animals i grew up with on the farm, my friends have wonderful qualities that we need in this world…i love that! 10. Tennis. i picked up tennis three years ago after not playing since i was a senior in high school. All the girls i play with are different, yet we all get along. 11. The kids I read Pepperdinkle and Pals to. They hear the lessons, and then when they see Pepperdinkle in the classroom (a person dressed in a life-size costume), they go nuts! That’s the kind of stuff that keeps me going. 12. My childhood memories. Starting at age 5, i gravitated toward kids who were made fun of. i want kids to know judging others isn’t nice. 13. The animals I grew up with on the farm. They continue to inspire new lessons of acceptance.

11

13

1

6

11

910

4


Call her a connoisseur or an enthusiast. you can even call her a geek. But whatever you do, don’t call Lori Beck, co-owner of Holy grale and The Beer Store, a beer snob.

Semantics — whatev’. Own that snob, sister. “We care about every minute inch of the process in which beers are served,” Lori says. “There is a responsibility in

cleaning the lines, applying the appropriate temperatures and glassware for each beer. it takes time, awareness, and a certain privilege in being educated about beers from all over the world. Some people might consider that snobbish — i call it appreciation, connoisseurship.”

See what i mean?Beck has a background in art curatorship and applies the principles of art appreciation to craft beer. Holy grale’s

mid-morning light reflects off the spotless array of glassware, a Belgian painting, and deep wooden surfaces during our interview. i’m instantly transported to Europe. The snob factor is as heady as the brews poured here, but it’s also what defines this place from just another bar. Beer snob? i have a new goal.

“i started drinking at an early age and was always the one with the good beer,” says Beck of her passion. Her education began at Cumberland Brews, where she later worked. “Malt and hops would perfume the room,” she says. “The pivotal moment was when they took me to the great American Brew Festival in denver. We devoted each day to a different style. i saw that Cumberland was connected with a larger culture. it was overwhelming but began my journey of education (much of which occurred at rich O’s in new Albany): how it’s made, how to talk about it. now, beer has taken me all over the world.”

So how does a budding beer enthusiast talk about beer without looking like an idiot? Because that’s what snobbery is really about — knowledge and the confidence to demand a standard with the appropriate vernacular. i’d never describe the beer i guzzle with the verbiage “hops perfuming the room,” but Beck says to start with what you like and don’t like. give your beer-tender a reference. A knowledgeable beer (sn---) enthusiast will guide you to suit your tastes. The goal is to be able to appreciate all beer styles at some point.

Craft beer is separate from mass-produced beer by its quality and process. it is made in smaller batches with seasonal products, so realize that your new favorite beer will come and go. Because craft beer is unpasteurized, it is also packed with nutrients and should be sipped, not slammed (that advice was for me).

“There are nights when there are more women than men at the bar,” Lori says. “The beer industry is dominated by men, but in Louisville, women appreciate beer. getting drunk isn’t the fun part. That’s not the goal. i think women see the fun in building a passion, developing confidence and a hobby. using beer to guide your travels in Europe is a lot more exciting than a monotonous tour. it’s like art — who knows where it will take you?”

Snob or not, Beck is confident and cool. And isn’t being a beer snob much better than being a beer slob? Cheers.

The Beer SnobI’M A SNOB

Photos by Melissa DonalD

I’m A Snob About… will be an ongoing column.

By MeGan seckMan

Like many moms, medical assistant Janie Sparkman, 37, does a lot for her kids. She is a devoted mother to Todd, 19, and Travis, 13, and she works full time.

Finding time to do something for herself was difficult, but last spring, she did.

She had breast augmentation surgery. “After having two kids, my breasts had lost their fullness,”

she said. “I have never been well endowed. My mom and sister are. I have always wanted to be.”

She is not the only one seeking this type of surgery after having kids.

“Most of my augmentation patients are in their thir-ties,” said Dr. Terry McCurry, Sparkman’s plastic sur-geon. “They’ve finished having children and want to do something nice for themselves.”

Dr. McCurry, who is part of the team of surgeons with Uni-versity Surgical Associates (USA) Plastic Surgery, explained that sometimes the hormonal changes that occur with pregnancy reduce the size of the breasts from what they once were. For other women, their breasts never developed in proportion to the rest of the body.

“Most of our breast augmentation patients seek this sur-gery to improve their self-confidence,” he said.

Sparkman is very happy with her results. “My breasts are beautiful! They look very natural. Doing this

has really boosted my self-esteem,” she said. “Dr. McCurry did a great job. He really cares for his patients, and he is skilled in cre-ating minimal scarring. He is a wonderful surgeon all around.”

For Dr. McCurry, this level of service is the standard for his practice. His patients’ needs always come first. While he performs a wide variety of plastic surgery procedures, breast augmentation is among the most common.

He brings a unique perspective to his cosmetic surgery practice at USA because not only is he a board-certified plastic surgeon, he also is a faculty member in the Division of Plastic Surgery at the University of Louisville. As an academic sur-geon, he stays at the forefront of plastic surgery techniques.

“Our patients benefit from the advancements we achieve in our research,” McCurry said. “Thus our patients are afforded the latest, most innovative treatments available.”

For Sparkman, this meant getting the results she wanted. When she went in for surgery on a Friday afternoon, she was a size B cup. When she returned to work on Monday, she was a size D cup.

“I had no major pain. My advice for others who want to have the procedure done is don’t give up. I would recommend Dr. Mc-Curry to anyone considering this procedure or any other type of cosmetic surgery,” she said. “He answered all my questions - even in the middle of the night. He makes his patients feel so comfort-able. I would do it all over again. I feel so good about my body.”

University Surgical Associates

Dr. Terry McCurryUSA surgeon

502.595.6629 g USAplasticsurg.com

DOWNTOWN401 E. Chestnut Street

Ste. 790Louisville, KY 40202

EAST ENDOld Brownsboro Crossing

Norton Medical Plaza, Ste. 200Louisville, KY 40241

JANiE BEfOrE

JANiE AfTEr

Getting healthy is more fun and easier when you do it with someone. Sisters Debbie Reiss and Terri Bauer both are members of the HMR Healthy Solutions

Program at Baptist East/Milestone Wellness Center and have had great success.

Two years ago when Debbie, 58, retired, she decided that her number one goal was to get healthy. She had high blood pressure and cholesterol, as well as hypothyroidism. Since Debbie and her husband, John, joined the program, she has lost 78 pounds and no longer has high blood pressure or high cholesterol. John has lost 50 pounds.

“My favorite thing about HMR is that it’s not a diet,” Deb-bie says. “You actually relearn how and what to eat. You are never hungry. It boosts your metabolism by eating often and you eat food that is good-tasting, as well as good for you.”

Terri had not been successful with other weight-loss programs, but she noticed the huge improvement in the way Debbie and John looked and felt.

“I began the program because of the success I saw with Debbie and John,” says Terri, 50, who joined the program a year later. “I would eat a plate of food that was loaded with calories, and they ate twice as much food, but with very few calories. They made smarter choices than I did. I didn’t under-stand they were eating to live and not living to eat, and they were satisfied and happy.”

Terri could barely make it up the basement stairs with a load of laundry, and admits her breathing sounded like a freight train. Since joining Healthy Solutions, she has lost 90 pounds, and shortness of breath is a thing of the past. Since she changed her eating habits, her husband, Greg, has even lost 10 pounds. Terri says joining the program was the most important decision she has ever made for herself and that she feels and looks better than she has in 20 years.

For these two sisters and their husbands, Healthy Solutions provided what they needed for healthy lifestyle changes.

Kristin Brill, HMR Healthy Solutions Program Director, explains, “We teach behavioral modification with the focus on

long-term lifestyle changes, including complete nutrition, in-creasing vegetables and fruits, drinking more water, increasing exercise and eating frequently. Our goal is to improve health by helping you not only lose weight, but most importantly, protect the weight that you lose by providing long-term sup-port after weight loss.”

Two programs are available — In-Clinic Class support or an At-Home Self-Directed option. Both have had extensive research and produce excellent results in weight management. The focus is staying full and satisfied with a variety of foods.

Try the free weekly program orientations at the Baptist East Wellness Center to see how this could be a good fit for you.

Milestone Wellness Center

DEBBIE BEforE TErrI BEforE

DEBBIE (L) AND TErrI AfTEr

750 Cypress Station Dr. Louisville, KY www.baptistmilestone.com g (502) 896.3900 x124

— A D V E R T I S E M E N T —

SMART

STYLES

Chick • A • D’s

Have a BOO-tiful Halloween at Chick • A • D’s! Indoor and outdoor decorations available.

Come see the newest origami earrings from Julie at OriJami: delicate cranes, multicolored flowers, even fleur de lis designs are all part of her latest creations. One of a kind and in all of our stores.

A Taste of Kentucky

Mall St. Matthews by the Women’s Dillard’s502.895.2733

Downtown in the Aegon Center400 West Market Facing 4th St.502.566.4554

Located on Old Main Street in Middletown

11728 Main Str. Louisville, KY 40243

502.245.9525

www.chickads.net

Check us out on Facebook!

Locally owned by Karen Long

Experienced and qualified tutors for all ages and all subjects.

Set the stage for high achievement. Help your child start the new school year right with a customized, in-home tutoring program from Tutor Doctor. We provide: • the same tutor every time• improved study and organizational skills• time savings, no waiting around learning centers

Call today for a free consultation. 502.693.3668 • www.tutorlouisville.com

Tutor Doctor

“We make house calls!”


2012 JUNE 61

STYLE CALENDAR

— A D V E R T I S E M E N T —

My Bel Amour

Children’s Boutique

Visit My Bel Amour NOW for the latest clothing styles and hottest trends

for kids this fall!

11701 Main St. MiddletownShop online at mybelamour.com

502.653.6119

A Taste of KentuckySeptember 1-30Two locations, one-of-a-kind jewelry502.895.2733

Sophie’s Fine Yarn ShoppeSeptember 1-30Call for our class schedule.502.244.4927 • sophiesfineyarn.com

Tutor DoctorSeptember 1-30“We Make House Calls!502.895.2733 • www.tutorlouisville.com

My Bel AmourSeptember 1-30Shop Online: mybelamour.com 502.653.6119 • 11701 Main St. Middletown

Olivia & CompanySeptember 1-30Mention this ad and receive an additional 10% off any 1 item! • 502.426.4046

Chick • A • D’sSeptember 7-8Middletown Festival502.245.9525

Sassy Fox ConsignmentsThursdays – Sept. 6, 13, 20, 27Join us for Wine & Discounts 4-8 p.m.502.895.3711

Sophie’s Fine Yarn Shoppe

Visit, browse, and let us assist you with all your knitting and crocheting needs.Our shop is conveniently located in the Stonefield Square Shopping Center next to the Fresh Market.

Open 7 days with a wide selection of yarn and accessories.

Classes available.

10482 Shelbyville Road502.244.4927 • www.sophiesfineyarn.com

Sassy Fox

Consignments

Available at more than 100 Kentuckiana locations, including:

JayC Food StoresKroger

LiquorBarnPanera Bread

YMCA

View online in its entirety atwww.iamtodayswoman.com

Specializing in women’s name-brand and boutique/designer clothing and accessories from casual to formal.

Fashion forward without spending a fortune!

150 Chenoweth LaneSt. Matthews502.895.3711

Olivia & Company

Fall Merchandise has arrived!

We have the latest fall fashions from New York, Los Angeles, Canada & Europe. Now introducing: Goody Two Shoes

From your hat to your shoes, Olivia & Co. has you covered!

4903 Brownsboro RoadPreviously Karen of Course502.426.4046

Roasted Beets and CaRRots and GaRliC — oh, My!

liGht BiteINGREDIENTS1 bunch of beets — about 4 large

beets with greens if possible3 medium-sized carrots3 large cloves of garlic sliced in half

lengthwise1½ Tbsp fresh rosemary — chopped,

or 2 tsp dried rosemary1½ Tbsp olive oilsalt and pepper to taste

Preheat oven to 425 degrees.Wash beets and greens (if

greens are available). Cut off the greens where the stem meets the top of the beet. Set aside the greens.

Peel the beets with a vegetable peeler or small pairing knife. I peel beets like I do an apple by going around the beet. Slice beets to about 1/8 of an inch in thickness. Place on a cookie sheet.

Peel and slice the carrots into ¼-inch rounds. Separate the skins from the garlic cloves and slice each clove in half. Place all on the cookie sheet with the beets.

Drizzle the olive oil and apply the salt and pepper to the vegetable mixture and coat well.

Place in the oven for 15 minutes.In the meantime (if you are

brave and if you have the beet greens), cut off the stem from the leafy greens and place the leaves on top of each other. Roll the entire stack of greens into a cigar shape and slice through the stack about every ½ inch and set aside.

Once the first 15 minutes of roasting is complete, remove the cookie sheet and stir the vegetables. Place back in the oven for another 12 minutes. Remove after 12 minutes and add the shredded beet greens. Stir everything together and place back in the oven for another 5 minutes.

Remove from oven and serve immediately. Oven temperatures may vary, so watch your cooking times.

If you desire, drizzle with about 2 tsp of balsamic vinegar and stir together. I like the taste of this dish without the vinegar, but for those who are trying this for the first time, give it a try.

Today’s Woman60 sepTember 2012

I know what you all are thinking. ‘Beets! Oh, how I love beets!’ Right? OK, I’m probably wrong on this one. Even if you dislike beets, I bet you will like them roasted.

stoRy, Food stylinG, and PhotoGRaPhy By Melissa donald

2012 sepTember 61


Advisory group members are: Margie Beeler • Susan Boddy • Christie Bollinger, RN • Sherrice Bond • Kim Broecker • Jennifer Brown • Linda Burry • Kimberly Carpenter, DC • Tamella Buss Cassis, MD • Holly Clark • Stacy Cohen, RN • Diane Collins, RN • Pat Cooke • Funmilayo Dixon • Laurie Duesing • Kelly Davis Fleenor • Tanya Franklin, MD • Julie Garrison, MBA • Carol Graham, MD • Dawn Hayden • Pam Hayden, RN • Mary Haynes • Gretchen Houchin • Mary Jennings • Alexis Karageorge, MD • Dee Jay Kelly • Tomiko Coates Kiefer • Diane Kissel • Kristi Jedlicki Levenhagen • Melissa Little • Sean Maguire, MD • Geri Manning • Lisa Mattingly • David McArthur • Anne McReynolds • Tara Morris • Maria Munoz • Tina Nuttall, MBA, FACHE • Denise Orwick, RPh • Betsy Paulley • Mae Pike • Leesa Richardson, MD • Ticonna Roberts • Cheryl Scanlon • Rhonda Sigler • Burke Stephens • Rebecca Terry, MD • Myrdin Thompson • Deborah Tuggle • Lannette VanderToll • Jessica Walker • Marine Walls • Janie Biagi Watts • Cenia L. Wedekind • Anthony Westmoreland, RPh • Cathi Wiley • Kathy Wilkinson • Debbie Williams • Allison Young, LMT

By Cheryl Stuck

oPAGE

64

Do you care about pesticides and fertilizers that leach into the food you eat? The President’s Cancer Panel, which was created in 1971 to find environmental causes for cancer, recommends eating produce without pesticides to reduce your risk of

getting cancer and other diseases.The panel recommends washing conventionally grown produce to remove residue.

But you should be aware that while washing can reduce the pesticides you eat, it can’t completely eliminate them.

In 2010, the panel released a 240-page report called “Reducing Environmental Cancer Risk: What We Can Do Now.” The report urged President Barack Obama to “remove the carcinogens and other toxins from our food, water, and air that needlessly increase health care costs, cripple our nation’s productivity, and devastate American lives.”

The report also warned that “many known or suspected carcinogens first identified through studies of industrial and agricultural occupational exposures have since found their way into soil, air, water, and numerous consumer products. Some of these chemicals have been found in maternal blood, placental tissue, and breast milk samples from pregnant women and mothers who recently gave birth. Thus, chemical contaminants are being passed on to the next generation, both prenatally and during breastfeeding.”

The Environmental Working Group, which is an organization of scientists, researchers, and policymakers, says that eating certain types of organic produce can reduce the amount of toxins you consume on a daily basis by as much as 80 percent.

Is the Price of Organic Foods an Issue?

What is organic food, anyway?

According to the United States Department of Agriculture (USDA), organic meat, poultry, eggs, and dairy products come from animals that are given no antibiotics or growth hormones. Organic food is produced without using most conventional pesticides, fertilizers made with synthetic ingredients or sewage sludge, bioengineering, or ionizing radiation.

Organic food can be produced with certain synthetic ingredients, but it must adhere to specific standards regulated by the USDA. Animals on organic farms eat organically grown feed, aren’t confined 100 percent of the time (as they sometimes are on conventional farms), and are raised without antibiotics or synthetic growth hormones.

You can look for the USDA Organic label wherever you shop.

Organic Food

dePends nO

Yes

www.iamtodayswoman.com / www.facebook.com/todayswomanmagazine / @todayswomannow 2012 sepTember 63


Our Today’s Woman of Wellness panel talks about organic foods:

oPAGE

62

“I am a believer in the ‘Dirty Dozen’ List and try to purchase these foods in the organic section of the supermarket. Any time one can limit exposure to pesticides, chemicals, hormones, antibiotics, and food colorings, I believe they reduce their risk of future health problems.

“I buy organic apples, strawberries, blueberries, grapes, bell peppers, and all greens, including spinach and lettuces. I try to buy chicken that has not been treated with hormones or antibiotics and salmon that has not been treated with orange food coloring.

“I buy my organic foods at Whole Foods and Kroger in the organic section. I grow my own tomatoes, cucumbers, bell peppers, and zucchini.”ALExIS KARAGEORGE, M.D. and owner of Louisville Concierge Medicine, PLLC

“I do buy organic food products as much as possible. You can pay more for the organic food products now or pay a greater cost with your health later. I purchase all organic fruits and vegetables, whether they are fresh or frozen. I never buy canned vegetables. They are too processed to be nutritious. Costco has a fantastic variety of organic options. My husband and I put out a small garden each year. We plant tomatoes, zucchini, bell peppers, and cantaloupe.”RHONDA SIGLER, Marketing Manager at State Farm Insurance

“In our business, we make it a priority to use as many organic ingredients in our treats as possible. Specifically, we use organic peanut butter and an organic cane juice. In my personal life, I try to purchase organic produce when cost allows.”MELISSA LITTLE, Co-Owner, Little Eatz, LLC

“The Dirty Dozen” and “The Clean 15” are lists of foods that help consumers know when they should buy organic and when it is unnecessary. These lists were compiled using USDA data based on the amount of pesticide residue found in non-organic fruits and vegetables after they were washed using high-power pressure water systems.

Conventionally grown fruits and vegetables on The Dirty Dozen list tested positive for at least 47 different chemicals. When buying produce on the “dirty” list, you would be wise to choose organic.

The Dirty Dozen:

ApplesCelery

PeachesStrawberries

Domestic blueberries Imported nectarines Sweet bell peppers

Spinach, kale, and collard greensCherriesPotatoesGrapesLettuce

The produce on “The Clean 15” bore little to no traces of pesticides and is safe to consume in non-organic form.

The Clean 15:Onions

AvocadoSweet cornPineapples

MangosSweet peasAsparagus

Kiwi Cabbage

EggplantsDomestic cantaloupe

WatermelonsGrapefruit

Sweet potatoesMushrooms

You can check out full lists of foods affected by chemicals on the Environmental Working Group’s website at www.foodnews.org.

Would You Like to Join Our Wellness

Advisory Group?We are looking for readers who have interest or

expertise in the area of wellness and want to take part in a monthly survey. If you are interested, send an email to [email protected]

and tell us why you want to be a part of our Wellness Advisory Group.

http://www.foodnews.org/


bob mueller is senior director of mission & stewardship at Hosparus, the community hospices of louisville, southern Indiana, and Central Kentucky. He has three books available: Look Forward Hopefully, The Gentle Art of Caring, and his latest, Create a Better World. Find bob online at www.bobmueller.org and email him at [email protected].

Keep It To Yourself by Bob Mueller

Success depends partly on

your deftness of tongue and partly on knowing

the caliber of the

opposition.

Perhaps the hardest thing for anyone to do is to learn when to speak and when to remain silent. How many times do we blurt out a comment and regret it as soon as it is out of

our mouths? You can dig your own grave with your tongue, or you can make great advances with it.

It all depends on what you say, to whom, and when you say it. My mom used to always tell me to “keep it to myself.” My dad would say, “A passenger should not criticize the driver.”

It is really, really hard to keep it to ourselves. The trouble with smart people is that they think they know best for everyone else. Even though they might not have done the actual job they are criticizing, they know they could do it better, given the chance. What’s even worse: Stupid people who think they are smart behave the same way. How do you know if the critic is bright or not? Keep quiet and listen. Sooner or later, the lunkheads will reveal themselves.

Therein lies the crux of the matter. If you really do know how to do something better than the incumbent, you have various options on how to demonstrate it. You could become that person’s right-hand woman and inveigle yourself gradually into the position. You could issue a challenge and go hand-to-hand to upset the incumbent (this is the Cosa Nostra way). You could muster allies and overwhelm the misguided person with the forces of reason and numbers. You could wait for the person to fail and then step into the breach after demonstrating your superior abilities.

It’s so easy to fall into the trap of giving advice to someone with a problem that you often don’t realize you are meddling. If a friend’s mother is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, you might want to launch sympathetically into a long description of your own parent’s similar affliction and the agony of placing her in a care facility. And if the friend elects to hire day caretakers in her mother’s own home instead of an institution, you might express your sense of the foolishness of the idea. But the friend has decided that her mother would fare better at home and at lower cost than a nursing home. You can’t tell your friend that she is in denial, or that she must face the inevitable.

Adults weigh their decisions and act accordingly. They decide what is best for them, and if their decisions don’t jive with your views, stop being so critical. They

face their own consequences that you don’t, so mind your own business and keep it to yourself.Your choice of action depends on the thickness of your skin and skull and on what you think

you will gain. Success depends partly on your deftness of tongue and partly on knowing the caliber of the opposition. Just one caveat, though: if you stick your nose into someone else’s affairs, you might end up with a nosebleed.

mailto:bobmueller%40insightbb.com?subject=From%20a%20Today%27s%20Woman%20Reader



Diana: A CelebrationFrAzier History MuseuM This 7,500-sq.-ft. exhibition

about the late Diana, Princess of Wales, explores the life and humanitarian work of one of the 20th century’s most remarkable women. The former Diana Spencer’s life is presented through nine galleries containing 150 pieces, ranging from her royal wedding gown and 28 designer dresses to family jewels, heirlooms, personal mementos, paintings, rare home movies, and photos. Averaging 100,000 visitors at past venues, this blockbuster exhibition comes to the Frazier directly from the Althorp Estate in England, the Spencer family’s 500-year-old ancestral home, where it is on display every summer. WHen September 15-January 13 WHere Frazier History Museum, 829 West Main St tiCkets $21.50 for adults, $19.50 for seniors (60+) and $10 for children (4-14) ContACt 502.753.5663 or www.FrazierMuseum.org

— Gioia Patton

If you would like to include your event in our upcoming issue, send it to [email protected]. Please include a hi-res jpeg image (photo should be 300 dpi at 4x6 size). We must receive your information at least 6 weeks in advance. No phone calls, please.

THIS MonTH8THInGS

noT To MISSBy GIoIa PaTTon and

TIffany WHITe

continued on page 34

32 June/July 2012 www.todaysfamilymag.com 444 todaysfamilyeveryday.com 444 www.facebook.com/todaysfamily 444 @todaysfamilynow

Louisville Bats GamesTake the family to see Louisville’s home baseball team play ball and enjoy the extra fun they offer including the kids inflatable Fun Zone, entertainment acts, and fireworks.

WHEN~ June & July — all month long (times vary depending on game)WHERE~ Louisville Slugger FieldCOST~ $7-$11CONTACT~ www.batsbaseball.com or 855.228.8497

School’s Out Science Camps Summer 2012The Louisville Science Center is offering a variety of science-themed summer for all ages. Camps run a week at a time per theme. Your kids will learn about animals, get-ting messy with science, discovering space, exploring prehistoric times, and design-ing with LEGOs.

WHEN~ now through August 17WHERE~ Louisville Science CenterCONTACT~ www.louisvillescience.org or 502.561.6100 ext. 6111

Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor DreamcoatThe Biblical saga of Joseph and his coat of many colors comes to life. Joseph, his father’s favorite son, is a boy blessed with prophetic dreams. When he is sold into slavery by his jealous brothers and taken to Egypt, Joseph endures a series of adven-tures in which his spirit and humanity are continually challenged. Set to a myriad of musical styles from country-western and calypso to bubble-gum pop and rock ‘n’ roll.

WHEN~ June 8-June 17 (times vary depending on specific performance)WHERE~ The Kentucky CenterCOST~ adults: $29.75 and students and seniors: $24.75CONTACT~ www.kentuckycenter.org or the box office 800.775.7777

o f e v e n t s

CALENDARGo to

www.TodaysFamilyEveryDay.com Parents, win prizes, find recipes, and learn what is going on with family-related events in the Louisville area.

Take center stage as a Today’s Girl!

Today’s Family magazine is accepting entries for an essay contest for the Today’s Girl award, which will be given to three girls in different age groups (ages 7-8. 9-10, and 11-12). The personal essays should be less than 300 words and should answer the question,

“WHiCH AmERiCAN GiRl dO yOu HAvE THE mOST iN COmmON WiTH ANd WHy?”

The essays should be written by the girl and be in the girl’s voice. Essays will be judged on content, originality, and the girl’s level of community involvement.

each winner will receive 2 tickets to the American Girl

Fashion Show Tea. Winners will also be featured in Today’s Family magazine.

DEADLINE: AUGUST 31, 2012

Give Us Your Comments About:• Saving for college • Family vacations• Summer activities • Best family pets• Parenting regrets

Win One of These Giveaways:• Indianapolis Family Fun Package• Summer Fun with Shrek and Friends

at Gaylord Opryland• Holiday World & Splashin’ Safari• Atlantis Waterpark• Galt House Christmas in July• Kart Kountry• Homearama

www.TodaysFamilyEveryDay.comAlso, follow the latest on Twitter

@TodaysFamilyNow

1#

Each Step CountsGather your friends, family, or co-workers together to participate in the Walk to END Alzheimer’s. Your involvement will help raise funds for the Alzheimer’s Association and benefit research efforts.WHen September 8, 8:30-11:30am WHere Great Lawn at Waterfront Park ContACt 502.451.4366

Gaslight FestivalThe eight-day event features a long list of activities and attractions including: a motorcycle rally and car show, golf scramble, 5K run/walk, parade, balloon glow, children’s playground, live entertainment, and art booths.WHen September 9-16 WHere Jeffersontown Gaslight Square tiCkets Free ContACt 502.267.1674

Help End HungerYou could provide food for destitute families by participating in the annual Hunger Walk which generates funds for Dare to Care Food Bank. The 5K walk/run includes refreshments and activities for kids.WHen September 9, 1-5pm WHere Festival Plaza @ Waterfront Park Fee $25 ContACt 502.966.3821

Think Beyond BigMove your way of thinking outside your comfort zone at the annual IdeaFestival. You’ll meet expert thinkers who’ll show you how innovation and imagination are effectively being used in science, the arts, design, business, film, technology, education, and more. WHen September 17-21, 7:30am-10pm WHere Location varies tiCkets All Access Pass, $450; Student, $199; Day Pass, $125 ContACt www.ideafestival.com

Be empowered Attend the Women 4 Women luncheon featuring Jean Chatzky, author and financial editor for NBC.

WHen September 13, 12-1:30pm WHere Galt House East (Grand Ballroom)tiCkets $75, www.w4w.org.

2#

4#Romeo and JulietACtors tHeAtre oF LouisviLLe One of the most famous love stories of all time, this masterpiece by William Shakespeare concerns two star-crossed lovers from bitterly feuding families who risk everything to be together. It is directed by Louisville

native, YPAS graduate, and New York Drama Desk nominee for Outstanding Director, Tony Speciale. The New York Times has praised Speciale in the past for his “propulsive staging” of Shakespeare classics, earning the director a reputation for lively and exciting adaptations. Speciale’s ATL production promises to attack Shakespeare’s masterful coming-of-age story with the same fervor, shining the light on themes that speak straight to today’s headlines: bullying, peer pressure, and absentee parenting. WHen September 6-26, various performances. *Audio Described performance: September 16 @2:30pm. *Sign Language performance: Sept. 25 @ 7:30pm. WHere ATL, 316 West Main St. tiCkets Starting @ $24 ContACt 502.584.1205 or www.Actorstheatre.org

— Gioia Patton

#3

today’s Girl Winners reveALeDYour daughter might be a Today’s Girl winner, but you’ll need to attend the American Girl Kick-Off event sponsored by the Children’s Hospital Foundation, to find out if she’s one of the three winners. The winners will be featured in Today’s Family magazine and model in the American Girl Fashion Show.WHen September 14, 6-7:30pm WHere Barnes & Noble @ The Summit tiCkets Free ContACt 502.629.5437 or HelpKosairChildrensHospital.com.

http://www.FrazierMuseum.org

mailto:Calendar%40iamtodayswoman.com?subject=From%20a%20Today%27s%20Woman%20Reader

http://www.ideafestival.com/

http://www.w4w.org/

http://HelpKosairChildrensHospital.com/

www.iamtodayswoman.com 2012 september 69


7#

8#

6#5#

OktoberfestOktoberfest gives guests an authentic snapshot of German culture. Eat German food, shop for items sold by German vendors, and listen to live music. WHen September 21-22, 4pm-midnight WHere German-American Club ContACt 502.451.3100

Fall into Fabulous Fashion ShowGet a preview of some of the fall fashion trends at the Fall into Fabulous Fashion Show hosted by The Younger Woman’s Club of Louisville.WHen September 27 @ 7pm WHere Ice House tiCkets $45 in advance; $55 at the door; $85 limited VIP ContACt www.ywclouisville.org

Twilight Tour of Cave Hill CemeteryLearn about the landscape features, art, and architectural elements of Cave Hill Cemetery while riding on a rustic hay wagon.WHen September 29, 5:30-7:30pm WHere Cave Hill Cemetery tiCkets $35 Benefits Cave Hill Heritage Foundation ContACt 502.451.5630

Fall Antiques MarketThe show will feature country furniture, formal furniture, art, textiles, books, porcelain, sterling silver, and jewelry from 80 professional antique dealers. Attendees will also be able to tour the historic house museum.WHen September 30, 10am-4:30pm WHere Historic Locust Grove tiCkets Adults $6, children $3ContACt www.locustgrove.org

Forget Me Not Ministries 6th Annual Benefit Dinner & Silent Auction Proceeds from the event go toward improving the lives of impoverished and abandoned children in Romania.WHen October 6 WHere Geis Activity Center, St. Mary’s of the Knobs Catholic Church (3303 Martin Road; Floyds Knobs, Ind.) tiCkets Adults, $15; children (6-12), $7.50; children under 5, free.

AFTER

BEFORE

Carrie underwood Multi-platinum-selling recording artist and country music’s reigning queen, the Grammy award winner burst onto the scene in 2005 after winning the popular TV series American Idol. With 11 No. 1 hits on the Billboard Hot 100 Charts, including Wasted, Before He Cheats, and Jesus, Take the Wheel, Underwood has been recognized in almost every outlet of the entertainment world, including the American Music Awards, the Golden Globes, and the Academy of Country Music. She was also named Country Music Association’s Female Vocalist of the Year and is a two-time ACM Entertainer of the Year. This past

spring, Underwood released her fourth studio album, Blown Away, with tracks including her most recent hit single, Good Girl. WHen September 22 @7:30pm WHere KFC Yum! Center, 1 Arena Plaza tiCkets $42.50, $52.50 and $62.50, at the box office, or all Ticketmaster outlets, or the Kentucky Exposition Center. — Gioia Patton

Family Fun at French Lick is on the WayGo to www.todaysfamilyeveryday.com to enter the Family Fun For All Giveaway! You’ll win a great getaway

package for a family of four to French Lick Resort which includes accommodations, breakfast, horseback riding, golf, and other activities your family will love. Enter now through September 22.

WickedPnC BroADWAy in LouisviLLe Long before Dorothy ‘drops

in’, two other girls meet in the Land of Oz. One, born with emerald-green skin, is smart, fiery, and misunderstood. The other is beautiful, ambitious, and very popular. Wicked tells the story of their remarkable odyssey, and how these two unlikely friends grow up to be the Wicked Witch of the West and Glinda the Good. The musical is based on the best-selling 1995 novel by Gregory Maguire, with music and lyrics by Stephen Schwartz (Godspell, Pippin)

and book by Winnie Holzman (My So Called Life, Once And Again and thirtysomething)WHen September 12-30, various performances WHere Kentucky Center, 501 West Main St. tiCkets Starting @ $47.75 ContACt the box office in person, 502.584.7777, www.BroadwayinLouisville.com, or www.TicketMaster.com. Group Sales for 15 or more, contact Hilda Davis, 502.569.3060 — Gioia Patton

this Could Be You! Are you ready to change your life? If so, Today’s Woman wants to guide you toward a permanent healthy lifestyle in our “Ready

To Change Your Life?” weight loss challenge. Send your personal story (less than 500 words) including your specific goals, age, and current weight. Other subjects you should include in the essay: 1) Are you willing to commit and devote time and energy into three or more months of physical training at least four days a week? 2) Are you motivated enough to work on your own when needed? 3) Are you willing to remove soda and other unhealthy foods from your diet and replace

them with vegetables and other healthful foods? 4) Are you ready to stop making excuses? Send your essay to [email protected] and put “Ready to Change Your Life” in the subject line by November 18.

http://www.ywclouisville.org/

http://www.locustgrove.org/

http://www.todaysfamilyeveryday.com/


2012 september 71www.iamtodayswoman.com


By Joyce oGleSBy

Just Ask JoyceQ:

“i have been married for 23 years and have stayed in the marriage because of our children. our youngest is now a high-school senior. My husband has been involved with a married woman for six years; i’ve known about it for five. We have not been intimate for 10 years. should he decide to stop his affair, i’m not sure i would ever be able to love him intimately again. so, if there is no love in my heart, why am i having second thoughts about a divorce? shouldn’t this decision be easier given his years of infidelity? And, what will i do? i have limited skill sets.”

Joyce: you’re a better woman than I am, that’s for sure! I applaud you for your perseverance of a commitment that you made and your obvious sacrifice as a mother. However, sometimes we do more damage to our children in how we model marriage and how we portray what is acceptable behavior within the four walls of a home.

your marriage began its demise at least four years before the affair. not knowing the history surrounding that season in your marriage, suffice it to say sexual maintenance is vital in warding off temptation. Whereas there are exceptions to every rule, a breakdown in intimacy exacerbates other issues marriages encounter.

Here are some considerations in which to develop a plan for your life:

It’s decision time: does he stay or go? His heart is clearly with someone else, and he has given you just cause to divorce both scripturally and according to the laws of the land.

If he stays, fix your marriage. decide you will learn to love your husband again, and give him reasons to love you again. If you attempt this, he may decide to exit.

Have a tranquil heart-to-heart talk with him. “Why have you stayed? did you stay for the kids? What are your intentions?” While you’re digging, find out what went wrong with your marriage: When did he stop loving you? Why? could he ever love you again? does the family legacy mean anything to him? Be honest with yourself. It is the only way you will ever know if there’s a glimmer of a chance for reconciliation.

Should this decision be easier? you will need to decide

if there is any love left in your heart for this man. If there is, I believe you will be hard-pressed to restore it without sexual intimacy.

Go back to school — noW! on his dime. Start cramming and get yourself a skill for which you can make a decent living.

find out what the domestic court provides for you, as states vary in their provisions for the offended party in divorce. Most states are no-fault, but you should be entitled to half of what you have acquired together. Make sure you protect yourself and discover what those assets are and what might have been hidden from you.

Get your Plan B in place and start eliminating the fear that keeps you hostage to a painful marriage. once you get your confidence in place for your future, you’ll elevate your chances of being more attractive to those around you. More importantly, you will become someone you can believe in, and that has the potential to take you beyond your expectations.

every marriage can be saved. The secret is to have two willing parties. If you are a woman of faith, tap into the lord’s strength and wisdom. I have seen the worst of marriages reunite. let your children see a different kind of resolve in you. you have forfeited much on their behalf, and they will appreciate your sacrifice someday, if they don’t already. now, it’s your turn to take control of your life. do it with grace, do it with haste, but do it.

change your family life noW! Write Joyce oglesby, family-life fitness Pro, at [email protected]. I’m here to help!

Q:

oN

LIN

e

(Go to www.iamtodayswoman.com to read Joyce’s answer to this question.)

“i want a friend! Don’t get me wrong, my husband is a great man and we have fun together, and we talk about things. But i long for a friendship with a female. i’ve had friends, but they seem to come and go. nothing ever lasts. i feel like i’m being a good friend, but then when i try to keep something going, it usually disappears before it ever gets off the ground. What is so wrong with me that i can’t keep a friend? it makes me sad when i see women in church, at the mall, or in a coffee shop sharing time together, and i’m left thinking, ‘Why can’t i have that?’ i really try hard, but i keep getting pushed aside.”


2012 september 73www.iamtodayswoman.com


Fix Your FlawsBy Tiffany WhiTe • PhoTos Melissa DonalD

“Having the right neckline is important,” Tracy says. If you have broad shoulders, Tracy suggests you avoid wearing crewnecks because they create a horizontal line across the neck and visually broaden the shoulders. Tunics, like the one Jacquelyn is wearing, have the opposite effect because they narrow the appearance of the shoulders and break up the bust line.

Jacquelyn scanlan thought she’d have to settle for wearing baggy shirts and blouses to accommodate her broad shoulders and large chest, but stylist Tracy Varga (Tracy image Consulting, 502.418.3023), gave her tips on

choosing clothing that would make her upper body look smaller.

Jacquelyn IS WearInG: Jones of new york top, $109; not your daughter’s Jeans, $120; cole Haan wedge shoe, $168

MakeuP: angel fulkerson, stylist, makeup artist, Wild Strawberry Hair & nail Studio (104 Bauer avenue 502.897.9453)

BEFORE

AFTER

Today's Woman September 2012

Documents

todays woman magazine

g e i n f o r mseptember

r sfallbe

r szion publications

todays womanvolume

todays womanjust

todays womanseptember

better woman