The Precious Component in Marriage

THE PRECIOUS COMPONENT IN

MARRIAGE

We live in a world where the word

‘TRUST’ is a rare commodity and

especially in marriage.

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This week alone I have talked to

some 5 spouses that are really

hurting as a result of mistrust in

their marriages. Some of them have

even parted ways and this gave me

a concern.

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What happened to two people that

loved each other so much to the

extend of getting married and within

a short spell of time, they cannot

want to be together again.

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As I listened to these spouses, I

realized that TRUST in their marriages

had been eroded. They are really

hurting and it is a common saying:

Hurting people hurt people.

The Bible is so clear on the marriage

institution. We have to have total

commitment and trust to each other as

we have become one flesh.

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Jesus emphasizes God’s desire

within marriage when he says “For

this reason a man shall leave his

father and mother and be joined to

his wife, and the two shall become

one. So they are no longer two but

one."

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Our Lord makes it clear that this

relationship is the highest human

relationship possible in life. Two

unique people with more differences

than similarities begin blending their

lives and becoming one flesh -- that is

what marriage does.

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• It is a process, not a single production. The word is in the future tense … they are BECOMING one.

• It is a pilgrimage, not a one month performance.

• It is intended to be a public portrayal, not a private predicament.

• It is life-long covenant, not a short-time contract.

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Trust is a critical requirement for

any relationship. We learn we can

trust someone, and share our lives

with them, because they do what

they say they are going to do. We

learn to trust someone because

they say what they mean and mean

what they say. They are trustworthy.

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Trust is the foundation that holds a

marriage up. If you agree to honor

and respect what is important to

your spouse, he/she will trust you

with his/her feelings and thoughts.

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If you don’t seem to understand the

importance of honouring an

agreement, and the importance of

protecting trust with your spouse,

there cannot be a relationship. Your

marriage will not succeed.

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Every marriage needs trust

A happy marriage rests

on unquestioned trust. If you want a

fulfilling marriage, you must know

how to create this kind of trust.

Most couples think of trust

exclusively in terms of being

sexually faithful, which is essential,

but there's more to it.

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Trust that you will be sexually

faithful.

Without sexual fidelity marriage

becomes unworkable. Keep your

commitment to remain sexually

faithful.

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Trust that you will not harm, reject or

control one another.

Trust thrives in an atmosphere of

safety and security. Hurting one

another, either physically or verbally,

and then rejecting one another, creates

fear which undermines trust that leads

to breakup in your marriage.

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Trust that you love one another without

ulterior motives.

You and your spouse need to feel sure

you are loved for yourself and not

some ulterior motive. That includes

your looks, your money, your family;

your partner needs someone to feel

superior to or be a buffer against being

alone and lonely.

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Trust that you will not abandon one

another in the face of anger, conflict

and disagreements.

Anger, conflict and disagreements

are inevitable. Don’t threaten your

spouse.

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Trust that you will keep each other

and your marriage a top priority.

Spouses trust that they mean it

when they promise to love, honour

and cherish one another.

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Don't take each other for granted,

neglect your relationship or

consistently give too much time and

energy to other things and people.

You can break that trust.

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Remember every day what is really

important in your life. Keep your

priorities clear. Make your spouse and

your marriage a priority.

Do not negate your part in your

marriage.

You are equally needed as you are

very important.

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Trust isn't given unconditionally. You

have to be trustworthy to receive

trust.

Trust and truth go hand in hand. That

is why deception of any sort is the

biggest trust killer.

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There is no such thing as a white lie.

Being honest with your spouse

includes telling the truth about where

you were, whom you talked to, what

you said and where you spent money.

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Many marriages have been saved

because both spouses committed to

being honest, even if it involved

painful truths.

Trust can be built and rebuilt, and

couples can enjoy the intimacy that

comes from being secure in each

other's love.

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Marriages can succeed if trust is part

of the precious component that is to

be esteemed highly.

We can minimize the hurts in marriage

by being trustworthy with ourselves,

resources and even our relationships.

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We can make a change in our marriages

by being trustworthy and building more

and more trust. Marriage must succeed.

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