The Lifecycle of Bullying: Why Kids Bully and What We can Do to Help them Stop? Debra Pepler Melissa Institute - Scientific Board York University & The Hospital for Sick Children
Dec 28, 2015
The Lifecycle of Bullying:
Why Kids Bully and What We can Do to Help them Stop?
Debra PeplerMelissa Institute - Scientific Board
York University &The Hospital for Sick Children
Objectives
Highlight emerging research on the development and desistence in bullying.
Discuss what we as adults can do to promote healthy relationships and healthy development for children and youth who are involved in bullying their peers.
What is Bullying?
Bullying is a relationship problem that requires
relationship solutions:
• Those who bully are learning to use power aggressively to control and distress others• Those who are victimized become trapped in an abusive relationship.
Understanding Developmental Pathways of
Children who Bully
Girls’ and Boys’ Bullying Trajectories
Pepler, Jiang, Craig, & Connolly, 2008, Child Development
Individual Risk Factors for Bullying in Late Elementary &
High School
Children who bully exhibit problems with:
• Moral disengagement
• Physical aggression
• Relational aggression
Relationship Risk Factors for Bullying in Late Elementary & High
School
Children who bully have problems in their relationships with parents and friends:
• Parental trust• Parental monitoring• Parental conflict
• Friends who also bully• Conflict with peers• Susceptibility to peer pressure
What Happens for Those Youth who Desist in
Bullying?
These youth have accomplished the developmental tasks for social competence and social responsibility.
They are no longer:
• Morally disengaged
• Physically aggressive
• Relationally aggressive
What Happens for Those Youth who Desist in
Bullying?
These youth have developed better relationships with parents and are no longer different than the non-bullying youth:
• Trust with parents
• Parental monitoring
• Parental conflict
What Happens for Those Youth who Desist in
Bullying?
These youth have also developed better relationships with their friends:
They no longer are high on:
• Friends who also bully
• Conflict with peers
However, they are still somewhat high on:
• Susceptibility to peer pressure
What has Happened for Those Youth who Desist in
Bullying?They have developed relationship skills that
are essential for healthy relationships:• Physical• Social• Emotional• Behavioural• Cognitive• Moral
Their relationships have also improved: -- a bi-directional process
What Happens for Those Youth who Persist in
Bullying?
BULLYING
DatingAggression
SexualHarassment
Gang/ DelinquencyAggression
MaritalAbuse
WorkplaceHarassment
ChildAbuse
ElderAbuse
Developmental Pathways of Power and Aggression
in Relationships
We can Do to Help them Stop?
Nature and Nurture!
Some children are born with biological challenges….
These work together with the environments in which they grow up (i.e., their relationships) to shape their development.
Healthy Development depends on
Healthy Relationships
Emerging research on:• Epigenetics: changes in gene expression• Brain architecture and activity• Family, peer, and other relationships• Societal factors
Relationships Matter for Gene Expression
The “operating system” for genes is built over time through:
• Positive experiences, such as exposure to rich learning opportunities.. or
• Negative experiences, such as stressful life circumstances
Experiences leave a chemical “signature” on genes, which can be temporary or permanent
• These experiences affect how easily the genes are switched on or off.
Relationships Matter for the Brain through Genes and
ExperiencesThe brain adapts to the experiences that a child has..
If the child has positive experiences, the brain adapts positively for learning, memory, and regulation
If the child has stressful experiences, the brain adapts negatively, with too much or too little response to any stress.
As the brain develops, the gene expression adapts as well, leading to further
positive or negative
brain development
What Does This Have To Do With The Role Of Adults?
Children experience their world as an environment of relationships.
• Relationships are important throughout development
• Relationships affect all aspects of development – intellectual, social, emotional, physical, behavioral, and moral.
Adults are responsible for
the quality of children’s
relationships
Relationships are the “active ingredients” of the environment’s influence on healthy human development.
Relationships engage children in the human community in ways that help them define who they are, what they can become, and how
and why they are important to other people.
National Scientific Council on the Developing Child
Working paper #1. Young children develop in the environment of relationships
Other Relationships are Important Too!
The relative importance of relationships with parents, other caregivers, other adults, and peers changes with development.
All these relationships are central to children’s development of social competence and social responsibility.
Growth-promoting relationships are based on the child’s continuous give-and-take with a human partner who provides what nothing else in the world can offer – experiences that:
• are individualized to the child’s unique personality style
• build on his or her own interests, capabilities, and initiative
• shape self-awareness• stimulate the growth of his or her heart and
mind.
National Scientific Council on the Developing Child
Working paper #1. Young children develop in the environment of relationships
What can we do to promote healthy relationships for all children and youth?
Child’s or youth’s relationships with family, peers, adults, & community
Child or youth’s needs, strengths,challenges
© Promoting Relationships and Eliminating Violence Network, 2007
Bullying is a Relationship Problem that Requires Relationship
Solutions
Back to the Brain for a Moment
Research on the brain activity of children referred and treated for aggressive behaviour problems
James Stieben and colleagues
Marc Lewis and colleagues
Developmental Perspective
What relationship skills is this girl lacking?
Relationship Perspective
• How do this girl’s peers relate to her?
• How do adults relate to her?
• What do you imagine her family life might be like?
What might we do to promote healthy development for this girl through adolescence and into
adulthood?
Developmental Perspective Intervening to support a girl’s needs,
strengths, challenges
Scaffolding• Metaphor to describe adults’ role in anticipating and providing ever-changing, individualized
supports to allow children to rise about their normal level of performance (tailored coaching).• Can be programmatic, such as social skills training, or moment-to-moment.
Relationship Perspective Intervening to promote positive
and discourage negative relationship experiences
Social Architecture• Metaphor to describe how as adults, we are
responsible for creating safe and inclusive contexts for children and youth and discouraging negative relationship dynamics.
What SOCIAL ARCHITECTURE could you create for the girl in the video to ensure she is in healthy relationships and not engaged in
unhealthy relationships?
Promoting Positive Relationships for Children
and Youth …The change starts with us!
Strategies for Building Healthy Relationships
Healthy relationships strategies require:
• Awareness of potential problems
• Catch problem EARLY; ongoing support
• Communication among adults, between students and adults, between home and school, etc.
• Support for the most vulnerable children and youth.
• Systems Change, Social Architecture, Scaffolding, andSelf-Awareness
It Takes a Village to Raise A Child
Bullying is a relationship problem that requires relationship solutions in all of the places where children live, learn, play and work.
Partnerships for Social Responsibility
Counselors and school leaders can partner with teachers, parents, community organizations, and police to: – Put necessary developmental
supports in place (scaffolding)– Organize peer experiences to reduce
bullying and other antisocial behaviours (social architecture)
– Develop community-wide prevention programs
– Divert youth from troubled pathways
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