The Journey May 2009

InspIrIng WomanJill Gerland

InspIrIng Young WomanRenya Santana

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Contents M AY 2 0 0 9

Your HomeAt HoMe: outdoor Furniture 10

LAndMArks: tHe BAiLeY HoMe 12

HoMesteAd: rentAL House 12

in tHe kitcHen: GriLLinG 14

siMpLe soLutions: econoMize And orGAnize 16

LAndscApinG: tHe perFect perenniAL 17

Your communItYGivinG BAck: pineYwoods MAkeover reveAL 19

AnGeLinA countY cHAMBer oF coMMerce 21

nAcoGdocHes countY cHAMBer oF coMMerce 23

cALendAr 25

pLAces And FAces 27

FeaturesinspirinG YounG woMAn: reYnA sAntAnA 33

inspirinG woMAn: JiLL GerLAnd 35

Your lIFeHALL oF FAMe HuBBies 39

prettY BABies 40

pArentinG: otc druG ABuse 41

weddinG dAY: eMiLY And BriAn Beene 42

GirLs Group: AMericAn AssociAtion oF universitY woMen 44

reLAtionsHips: A woMAn AFter God’s own HeArt46

Your BodYFitness 101: return tHose unused cALories 48

FAsHion & BeAutY 50

woMen’s HeALtH: LAser HAir reMovAL 52

Your resourcetHe review 54

JourneY MArket 55

Business spotLiGHt MerLe norMAn 56

educAtion witH eMiLY Fun ideAs For suMMer 57

wALLet consiGnMent 59

pArtinG Advice 60


First of all—HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY to all Mothers! There is bond between mothers regardless of what country you live in, your socioeconomic status, or your age; a mother is always a mother. We share that bond we all felt carrying our baby in the womb, the heartbreak we feel when our babies cry, or the feeling we get when we kiss them goodbye. Whether your baby is 4 months, 14, or 40—they are always your baby.

From the day my first child was born, I have heard, “enjoy it while you can; it goes by so quickly.” A piece of me understands that because with every passing year, I think to myself, “where did the time go?” Then there is another piece of me at the end of a long day of picking up the same baby doll, filling up another sippy cup, washing and wiping hands, changing clothes, putting on pj’s, and laying the kids down to sleep, that realizes—oh, I didn’t even brush my teeth, change clothes, shower, or eat today! That piece of me wonders if will these days ever end? I go back to all the words of wisdom from those who have already passed this stage, “enjoy it while you can; it goes by so quickly.” I wouldn’t trade the toys and sippy cups or missed showers and meals for anything.

I stumbled across the title of a book that really solidified my thoughts on motherhood. The book was titled, “A Jewel in His Crown.” It hit me like a ton of bricks. Yes, someone cares. God does. He has given us a special treasure that belongs to Him. We have one of the most important roles that can ever be given. Yes, you might get a hug and kiss from the kiddos (which I might say does make a crazy day much better) and even kind words of appreciation from your husband (which makes a crazy day GREAT!), but the most important piece of our day is knowing that we are “A Jewel in His Crown.” Our reward is neither now nor here.

Even with all my free time from missed showers, I still have not had a chance to read the book. I am very anxious to read it because the parts I flipped through are wonderful words of encouragement for mothers, women, friends, your role as an aunt or family member, a businesswoman, and the list goes on. In her book, author Priscilla Evans Shirer says, “In our lives the Lord blesses us by placing different people in different seasons to give us what we need at those particular times. He uses their weaknesses and strengths to remind us of what He expects of us.”

Mothers are placed in someone’s life for a reason we may never know. I wanted to share a time that really stands out to me. Last summer, I took the kids swimming by myself for the first time as an official mother of “three”. I was already really nervous. Brodie was only nine months old, and Bosten (3) and Brynn (2) were still really needy in the water. We entered the pool grounds with me pushing Brodie in a stroller, floats on both my arms, the swimbag filled to the brim in one arm—and we were set! We were in a baby pool, so it was not as bad as I am making it sound. It is just that feeling of worry that something could go wrong and you only have two hands and three children. You may not remember, but last May and June was filled with unexpected and sudden rains. The days would be beautiful sunshine, then BAM! Rainstorm! Well, on my adventuresome outing with my three children, guess what? Yes-- BAM! Rainstorm! I thought to myself, “You have got to be kidding me!” I immediately began loading Brodie up in the stroller, Brynn and Bosten were crying, and it was chaos! I was initially thankful we had the big beach towels; but soon realized that once they were wet, they feel 100 pounds each. The kids were freezing because they jumped out of the pool and their towels are soaking wet, and they were still screaming; all the while I was trying to load up all the pool toys and bags and get the floats back on my arms. I looked up and all the sweet little moms of one and lifeguards were covered under the pavilion watching us. Then one mom came out, picked up Brynn, and ran her under the pavilion. Then she came back for Bosten. What a lifesaver and an angel. She knows who she is and to this day I am so grateful. We all finally made it to safety and waited until the rain slowed down enough to get loaded up and HEAD HOME!

The point of this story is that was one day that I will never forget. Mainly because I am probably the only person in history soaking wet in the middle of a rainstorm from sweat, but also because the kindness of the mother and friend who helped me really means a lot. As mothers we relate. We have a secret language. Sometimes you do not have to say anything at all to help another mother, to let her know you care, to let her know she is loved by God.

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editor, staff writers, account executives for lufkin and nacogdoches,

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any of these positions, please send your resume to [email protected]

NEW LOcaTIONSthe Journey is now distributed to more locations around east texas.

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PROJEcT BOxonce you read this month’s inspiring woman feature, you will be

moved by Jill gerland’s story. she has a passion for her ministry and

we want to give back what we can. you can drop off purse Kleenex or

small hand lotions at any huntington

state bank location. empty arms

gives all the moms through their

ministry a care basket and these

are some of the items they include.

the Project box will be at the

nacogdoches branch and the main branch in lufkin, but if you take

your items to any huntington state bank location, they will collect

your items. this will be a great way to let women know the Journey

readers care for them. thank you again for being so willing to help our

fellow neighbors. Questions send an email to [email protected].

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Yes, this really is a coined term! I am so happy to finally be have an actual name for something I knew existed all along. I have been telling my husband for years that shopping is not just my excuse to get out of the house and spend money- it honestly helps me relieve stress.

However, he has never quite understood my reasoning as he says shopping has the total opposite effect for him. (Men!)

Well ladies, we now have an actual definition to validate ourselves. Wikipedia says, “Retail therapy is shopping with the primary purpose of improving the buyer’s mood or disposition.” And what husband wouldn’t love for their wife to come home in wonderful mood?

Personally, I think it is good to occasionally reward or affirm yourself with a purchase. (Honey, don’t roll your eyes. We can discuss the definition of “occasionally” later.) Shopping can mean different things to different people at different times. We go to the store to fill basic needs: food, shelter, and clothing. We also go to feel better about ourselves by doing something concrete: buying the perfect outfit that helps us display a professional image and ace a job interview; selecting that special card so we can connect with family and friends; or purchasing a vacation that will help restore our sanity and overall wellness.

For those of us who enjoy the pleasures of the whole shopping experience, shopping is therapy. Our advertisers would love to be a part of your “therapy sessions”. The Journey is honored to have such a wide variety of advertisers featured in the magazine. This month we have even added “Journey Market” as an outlet for small, home-based businesses to advertise. As you read through the issue this month, please take a minute to notice the businesses who make The Journey possible each month. You may be surprised at all the wonderful resources we have right here in East Texas. Let’s take advantage of those resources and relieve some stress at the same time.

Your personal retail therapist,

Director’s ChairRETaIL THERaPY

“Retail therapy is shopping with the primary purpose of improving the buyer’s

mood or disposition.”- Wikipedia -

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Your Home

wisteria hideaway bed and breaKfast lufKin, texasPhoto by lisa crow


This month I want to focus on helping you find information and advice about furniture for the outdoors. There are many types and differences. This article will help you narrow down your choices and decide what is best for your way of outdoor living.

Indoor furniture cannot be used outdoors due to the elements of the weather. Therefore, outdoor furniture is especially designed for the outdoors. The two main differences between outdoor and indoor furniture is in design and material. The design of outdoor furniture is typically simple, with particular attention to weather resistance. For

example, many outdoor tables and chairs have holes or slits so that water will not build up and wind can blow through. This design is usually not incorporated for indoor furniture. Another important difference is in the use of material. Outdoor furniture is usually made of material that will resist corrosion and decay from the weather. These materials can be metal, plastic, or some durable woods. Garden furniture, also called patio furniture, is a type of furniture specifically designed for outdoor use. It is typically made of weather resistant materials like cedar, teak, wicker, wrought iron, aluminum, or stainless steel.

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steel and aluminum won’t warp or come unglued, and aluminum offers the advantage of being rust-proof. aluminum

is a lightweight and easily molded metal that will not rust. it was first used in the early 1960’s, when it was made from

extruded, hollow-core tubing. these pieces are very lightweight and portable and are mainly used for lawn furniture.

2. STEEL & aLUmINUm

teak outdoor furniture is one of the most attractive, weather resistant, and longest lasting type of outdoor furniture

available. on top of that, it’s almost maintenance free and made from a renewable resource.

4. TEak

natural wicker furniture is made from rattan, a tropical climbing palm, or bamboo, a large tropical grass. by contrast, all

weather wickers are woven from resin, a synthetic material that can be formed into narrow, vine-like pieces that look like

natural materials.

1. WIckER

cedar outdoor furniture has a natural resistance to rotting, cracking, and warping, leaving just the natural beauty of the

wood. cedar is also resistant to fungus, so the only color properties of this outdoor furniture will be the natural weather-

ing of the wood to a silvery gray.

3. cEdaR

wrought iron furniture is an elegant yet affordable way to liven up your deck and patio area. wrought iron has been used

for centuries in furniture and decorating.

5. WROUGHT IRON

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outdoor furniture | words by samie montes

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Light-Up Mom’s LifeWhether you are redecorating an entire room or simply trying to give an older room a facelift, do not make the common mistake ofoverlooking your lamps. Lightingis crucial in the overall ambienceyou achieve when you are finished.Too many times, we find our clientsrelying on ceiling light as theirprimary light source, when thetruth is, that is normally the worstlight of all. Ceiling light casts harshshadows and does not highlight therichness of the colors in your fabrics, rugs and accesso-ries. So, never attempt a make-over without analyzing your lighting.

Lamps are going to make or break your room. You can spend hundreds or thousands of dollars on redecorat-ing and if you use old or outdated lamps, or worse yet, no lamps at all, you virtually waste your time and money. Too many times, lamps are an afterthought. When you buy a new outfit, don’t you also buy new shoes? C’mon now, let’s be honest! Well, lamps are the same thing, only for your home. Julie does a magnificent job of selecting lamps for our store. I have always marveled at her ability to find these great looks time and time again. Then, I realized that she puts as much importance on the shade as on the lamp itself. A bad shade can kill a beautiful lamp while a great shade can make a bad lamp look pretty good. Amazing! So the point is this, when you are looking for the perfect lamp, be sure it has the perfect shade. The shade will set the mood of the room by its shape, its color and the amount of light it lets escape.

This Mother’s Day, when you are looking for something original and meaningful, put a little light in her life with a new lamp (or two) for her room. It is something Mom will enjoy for many years to come. We can help you find the perfect lamp. It’s what we do.

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lAndmArksthe bailey’s house

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For most people, there is a special feeling when you think back to your childhood home. When thinking about your home, you often close your eyes and think back to those carefree days when you were young or special memories

shared with your siblings. For Paula Allen Bailey, that is what this project was all about.

In 1950, Paula’s parents, Frances and Elbert Allen built their family home. The total cost for the project was $2000. As the family grew, the home grew. The home started as a two bedroom, two bath home. The Allens raised four children in the home: Johnny Wayne, David Keith, Jerry Gene, and Paula Ann.

Then in 1978, Mrs. Frances Allen passed away; it was Paula’s senior year in high school. Paula said, “I really tried to think of ways to update or remodel the home. The whole family kept the tradition of Sunday lunch together.” A couple years later, Paula married, andm eventually, her father moved out of the home, as well. The house became a rent house for eighteen years. “We had some good renters and there were some bad,” said Bailey.

Twenty-nine years after moving out of her family home, Paula and John David Bailey have settled back in. They looked at trying to remodel the home twenty years ago, but once they saw the electrical wiring, along with many other unthinkable projects ahead, they decided they would build another home. “Now twenty-two years later, here we are working on the

project that we said we would never do!” Paula exclaimed. This was a huge family effort and not a simple task. They

started tearing down sheetrock and pulling up carpet in 2003. The family completely took the house down to the subflooring

and 2x4 studs. Before a contractor could even come in, there was a lot of work to be done; most, if not all, was done by Paula and her three extremely dedicated, hardworking children. Everyone around her knew how important this home was to her and wanted to help. “I know my husband said we could take on this huge project because he knew what it meant

to me and how important it was. John David is a great husband.” It took the Baileys five years from beginning to end to reconstruct a new home. Paula says, “We had three children and were supporting two in college. We would save a little and complete another portion of the home. Save a little more, and work on another piece.”

Most importantly, Paula is now back in her childhood home. She says that she sits back and thinks, “I am finally here.” Everything about it brings her back to her childhood days. It is on the same land, so it all looks very reminiscent of days gone by. “I look out and think, ‘there is where my swing set used to be. That is where my brothers and I would play.’”

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HomesteAdhow to buy your first rental house | words by t real soileau

It is easy if you have a few thousand dollars to put down. When I started in the rental business, I got my first property with a package deal. It was two trailers and a duplex. The duplex only had the top occupied and the bottom was not livable. I fixed the bottom of the duplex and made it a four unit property(two trailers and a duplex). Now it brings in about $800-900 per month. Not bad for starting out!

The first step is to do research and keep an open eye for

opportunities. It is also believing that you can do it without any objections, excuses, or letting any obstacle get in your way. If you put your mind to it, you can do it. The next step is to find your property. There are a lot of websites that want to help you to do this. It is very affordable (and free most of the time).

How do you buy your first rental property? After you find about 10 different properties, you want to go look at them. I go and look at them by myself before talking to the dealer or owner. I look under the house for termite damage. I also look in the windows to see what the inside looks like. Another method of finding a good deal is to look for houses that do not have the yard kept up and look like no one lives in them.

The next step is to take the leap of faith and make a decision. I always recommend multi-unit buildings because if you have someone that leaves, you still have income coming with several renters.

Another step is to create signs that say, “I buy houses any shape, form, or fashion”. Put these out if your local authorities allow you to. The next step on how to buy your first rental property would be to put in a bid. I usually try to get property at about 35% below market value. This is possible for people that absolutely need to get out of their properties. When it comes to negotiation, one of the best tricks to say is, “This is all I can afford.” It works wonders.

Now you want to get the bank to believe in your product(the product is you and your deal). If the house will pay for itself, then the bank will gladly do it. I have a strong relationship with my bank. So when I walk in, they know I bring business and good business.

Those are a few steps on how to buy your first rental property!

tls is an investor, business builder, and infopreneur.

he has 20 rental units, 2 businesses, and still in his

twenties. for more of his financial freedom techniques

visits two of his websites.

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In tHe kItcHentis the season for grilling | words by anna lee

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May is full of outdoor fun and activities…. baseball, softball and soccer games, golf tournaments, Memorial Day weekend, and graduations. It’s time to find the grill, clean the racks, and start planning those outdoor grilling menus. Although grilling can be a fun and relaxing activity, we need to make sure that the food we are preparing will be safe and enjoyable for everyone to eat.

Warm weather is the prime time to get out and enjoy cooking in the outdoors, but warm weather also provides prime temperatures for bacteria to grow, which causes food borne illnesses. A few simple guidelines for grilling food safely are provided by the United States Department of Agriculture Meat and Poultry Hotline and Texas AgriLife Extension:

Wash hands and food surfaces often when working with foods, especially meat, poultry, and seafood. The outdoor “chef” and other kitchen helpers should make sure that they wash their hands with warm soapy water before and after handling foods. Also, wash cutting boards, utensils, and dishes with warm soapy water before and after preparing raw and cooked meat, poultry, and seafood. Remember to wash hands and surfaces between preparing different food items (this avoids cross-contamination).

Other cross-contamination suggestions – keep raw foods (ex: uncooked meat) separate from ready-to-eat foods (ex: lettuce and pickles); always use a clean plate or platter for cooked meat, poultry, and seafood food items.

When thawing foods, the safest method is to thaw in the refrigerator. Microwaving is another safe method for thawing foods, but the food item must be cooked as soon as thawing is complete.

Be sure to cook meat, poultry, and seafood to the proper internal temperatures. Use a clean food thermometer to measure the internal temperature of the food item. To measure temperature, insert thermometer into the center part of the meat or poultry (not touching any bone).

Roasts and steaks - 145°.Poultry and hotdogs - 165°. Ground meat and pork -160°. Fish - 145° or until the flesh is opaque and separates easily with a fork.

Leftovers - 165°.

Remember to refrigerate perishable foods quickly. Perishable and prepared foods should be refrigerated or frozen within 2 hours or sooner. If the temperature where the foods are being prepared/served is 90° or higher, the food items will need to be refrigerated or frozen within 1 hour.

For more information on proper food handling procedures outdoors and indoors, please contact your County Extension Agent or visit www.foodsafety.gov, fcs.tamu.edu, or www.fsis.usda.gov/Food_Safety_Education

5 tbsp unsalted butter

2 tbsp key lime juice

salt and pepper

4 (6-oz.) salmon filets

cooked pasta or rice

Prepare grill by lightly oiling grill grate over medium-high heat.

in a small saucepan, melt butter and add lime juice. salt and

pepper the salmon filets modestly on both sides. Place filets

onto grill, brush half of lime butter over salmon. grill salmon

for 2 to 3 minutes per side for medium-rare. drizzle remaining

lime butter over salmon before serving. serve with pasta or

rice.

GrIlled sAlmon wItH key lIme ButterreciPe from the deen brothers of food networK

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1 red bell pepper, sliced

1 green bell pepper, sliced

1 yellow bell pepper, sliced

1 onion, sliced

1/2 cup parmesan cheese

italian dressing

spray grill plate with nonstick cooking spray. Place sliced

vegetables on grill plate. set grill plate on grill and cook over

medium-high heat for 8-10 minutes or until slightly tender.

once vegetables are done, transfer them into serving bowl.

sprinkle parmesan cheese over vegetables and mix. Pour ital-

ian dressing over vegetables and stir until all vegetables have

a light coating of dressing.

GrIlled ItAlIAn VeGetABles

1 1/2 lbs ground lean chuck

1 (2-oz.) piece monterey Jack cheese, cut into 4 cubes

4 tsp. finely chopped pickled jalapenos

guacamole (see below)

4 hamburger buns

divide chuck into 4 pieces and shape into balls. take your

thumb and make an indention in the middle of each ball. fill

each indention with 1 cube of cheese and 1 tsp of jalapenos.

form the meat around the cheese and pepper to form a

burger patty. season with salt and pepper. grill patties until

done. remove from grill and place on hamburger buns. top

meat with guacamole.

guacamole recipe:

1 avocado

2 1/2tsp lemon juice

1/3 cup diced tomato

3 tbsp. minced onion

1/4 tsp. ground cumin

2 tbsp. chopped fresh cilantro

combine all ingredients.

GuAcAmole HAmBurGers


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sImple solutIons economize and organize

Victoria Pericon is a family lifestyle expert who appears on national morning shows as Savvy Mommy. She has some tips to help you S-T-O-P and take a different approach to organizing and economizing your household this year.

Swap Stories (And Clothes) - If a trip to the mall isn’t in the budget, organize a “Frock Swap” with your friends to exchange the clothes that their kids have outgrown for new-to-you outfits for yours.SToss it (in the recycling bin) – Instead of throwing away old papers, magazines and mail, reduce the clutter by recycling it. If your area doesn’t offer a recycling program, but your employer does, bag up your paper items and take them to work to toss them. TOrganize – Drawer organizers work wonders for corralling smaller items. If your family runs through batteries, consider buying rechargeable batteries. A good charger will keep them all together, preferebly one which charges a combination of sizes and is actually stylish enough to sit out on a desk or counter. OPurge Unused Toys – As your kids get older, the number of neglected toys can really pile up. Resale shops are a great option. Or you can donate to a local charity or children’s center.P

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top 10 reasons the daylily is the perfect perennial

1. suitable for all types of landscapes

2. available in a wide range of colors, shapes and

sizes

3. can be planted anytime of the year in the south

4. able to survive with very little care

5. adapts to different soils and light conditions

6. blooms from late spring to fall

7. able to tolerate drought when necessary

8. very few diseases and pests in most gardens

9. they multiply, multiply, multiply

10. daylilies will add color to your garden for years

to come

lAndscApInGthe Perfect Perennial | words by rivers carr

Tips Courtesy of Lillie Lu’s Garden580 Landrum Rd. Lufkin, TX


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On the night of the reveal, Lynne Thorne still had an element of surprise waiting for all her guests. Lynne was radiant and full of excitement when she was “revealed” on April 25 to a crowded room at Shelly’s Bakery.

Lynne says, “I am happy and sad about tonight. Happy because the night has finally arrived and I get to share it with my family. But I am sad because I

will not see everyone who has helped me through this process.” Lynne’s mother came from Maryland to share the special night with her.

Most of the Dream Team came to welcome Lynne inside the bakery. Lynne is overwhelmed by their generosity, but Dr. Robert

Lehman said, “It was our honor to take this journey with you and thank you for allowing us to walk along side you.”

After a few remarks from Dr. Robert Lehman, Mrs. Kathy McGough read a proclamation from the

mayor declaring it Lynne Thorne day.

Also sharing the evening with Lynne were the past two makeover winners: the first winner, Rene White, and last year’s recipient, Terri Thompson Sayler. They looked just as radiant as Lynne. You can see they still have the same joy and smile on their faces as they

did on their special night.

The first makeover winner, Rene White, is still doing great and is still very excited about her “new self.” She

works very hard to maintain what has been given to her. Since her reveal, she has dropped three dress sizes. Rene wants to keep it up the momentum. She plans on joining

clogging lessons in the coming weeks.

Last year’s makeover recipient, Terri Thompson- Sayler, says, “The hardest part is keeping everything up, mainly working out. Not because I don’t want to, but because it is hard to always work it into my schedule.”

Terri looks as beautiful from the night she was revealed. She said that making that time to workout has paid off and it is always worth it in the end. “The

best part about post makeover was when I was there when Lynne had her temporary dentures put in. That was really special to share that moment

with her because it was a turning point for Lynne.”

All three of the ladies are so thrilled to have gone through this experience; and extremely grateful to the professionals who helped them

along the way.

GIVInG BAckPineywood maKeover reveal

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if you are interested in the 2009 Pineywoods make-

over, the dreamteam is accepting applications now

through July 31st. for more information, contact

lehmann eye center 936-569-8278 or pick up an ap-

plication from any member of the dreamteam.

Lufkin Livingston San Augustine Memorial Specialty HospitalVisit us online at memorialhealth.org

“Picture Perfect”with Thomas Duncan, MD - East Texas Eye Associates

Images by Becki - Photography

The Paper Castle - Scrapbooking

Attend our Free seminAr

“Rested & Refreshed”with Mary Jones, RRT, RSPGT

Memorial Sleep Center

Let’s Go TravelVacation and Travel

Wednesday, May 27, 2009Noon – 1:00 p.m.

Medical Staff Meeting Room

Lunch provided

Seating is LimitedRSVP to Melissa Wheeler at 936.631.3099 or

[email protected]

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AnGelInA countycHAmBer of commerceleadershiP lufKin

Leadership Lufkin produces citizens that have goals for improving our community and are qualified to help a community reach its goals. Class members are exposed to many volunteer o p p o r t u n i t i e s

throughout the year and are encouraged to “graduate into leadership” instead of graduating from leadership. It is also about growth— growth in leadership and teamwork skills, and growth in both personal and professional self.

leadershiP tomorrow

Leadership Tomorrow was developed for high school juniors and is hosted by the Chamber. The program mirrors the Leadership Lufkin program. Students in the program have the opportunity to learn about Angelina County

firsthand and to explore opportunities that exist for their futures in this area.

Volunteers joined forces to Keep Angelina County Beautiful. The Don’t Mess with Texas Trash Off was held on April 4, 2009. To learn more about Angelina Beautiful Clean, contact Amanda Anderson at 936-63CLEAN


AnGelInA countycHAmBer of commerceuPcoming events

May 5-6

Angelina County Science & Tech Fair George H. Henderson, Jr. Exposition Center – (936) 634-6644

This annual event allows 6th-12th graders to compete in science and technology-related competitions. Competitions include Catapult, Eggonaut Rocket, Egg-Car-Go, Eggstraction, Invention, and Life Science.

May 13

Annual Expo Anniversary Party George H. Henderson, Jr. Exposition Center – (936) 637-3976

This Party is an annual event that raises funds necessary for the maintenance and upkeep of the Expo Center. The evening’s activities include a reception, gun raffle, bucket raffle, silent auction, live auction, and steak dinner.

June 6

Neches River Rendezvous Neches River – (936) 634-6305

Held each summer, the Neches River Rendezvous is a scenic 10-mile trip down the Neches River. It’s a family-oriented canoe trip complete with shuttle service and a hamburger lunch. Registered participants enjoy a lunch and receive an official Neches River Rendezvous t-shirt. We invite you to come experience the beauty, challenge, and pleasure of the Neches River!


The Center For SightThursday, March 26th

Lufkin Cash NowWednesday, April 15th

East Texas Professional Community Credit Union Thursday, March 26th

recent ribbon cuttings

Affinity Center Wednesday, April 1st.

WalgreensThursday, April 9th

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tastiest festival in texas

The 20th Annual Texas Blueberry Festival, presented by Brookshire Brothers, is from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m., Saturday, June 13, in historic d o w n t o w n N a c o g d o c h e s . Admission is free, and Keep N a c o g d o c h e s Beautiful makes the festival a litter-free event.

Start your day with hot blueberry pancakes made right before your eyes. Wander further to enjoy more than 100 arts, crafts and food booths, and other treats for the eyes including the Deja Blue Classic car show, a collection of historic photos, and Honda Goldwing motorcycles. Climb aboard a shuttle for a free ride to The Blueberry Place to pick your own berries fresh from the bush.Tons of fresh, sweet blueberries from Hayter’s Mill Creek Farm will be available at the festival. Watch pets of all kinds dressed in their finest blues while tapping your toes to live music on three stages. Compete in blueberry pie eating contests, horse shoes and washer tourneys, a 42 tourney and a children’s costume contest. The Bob Murphey Storytelling contest is back, and Brookshire Brothers will judge the best blueberry pies in the nation.For the younger crowd, a giant inflatable bounce park, the Too Blue Petting Zoo with pony rides, and the Big Blue Mural will be waiting for the kids.

leadershiP class ready to graduate

The 2008-09 Leadership Nacogdoches class members began the program in September 2008 with a two-day retreat at Piney Woods Conservation Center in Broaddus. Every month since then, they have attended full-day meeting sessions and

explored a different area of Nacogdoches County including city and county government; public and higher education; public safety; healthcare; and community services for people with disabilities. For a state government session, the class traveled to Austin for a three-day trip and met with Senator Robert Nichols, Representative Wayne Christian, and other elected officials and state agency representatives.After the Community Services for People with Disabilities session led by Kathy Strong and Nancy Jones Berry, class member Sharon Brewer said, “Every month I think Leadership can’t get any better and every month it does! Yesterday was very enlightening, inspiring, and humbling. I don’t think I will ever forget it.”Before the graduation ceremony on May 14 at Hotel Fredonia, the class will unveil their finished class project - the renovation of the Nacogdoches County Senior Center recreation and media room. “The Nacogdoches Senior Center is a terrific resource for our community, and our class is working to raise awareness of the programs and enhance the services provided to area seniors,” said class member Michele Peck. “Class fundraising efforts have netted generous donations from supporters in Nacogdoches and Lufkin, and we’re excited to provide a new popcorn machine and create an updated entertainment space for the Center.”

For more inFormation visit:www.texasblueberryfestival.com

nAcoGdocHes countycHAmBer of commerce


nAcoGdocHes countycHAmBer of commercemay ribbon cuttings:

3:30 p.m., Thursday, May 7Edward Jones – Heather Harris1105 N. University Dr., Ste. 103Heather Harris, financial advisor, (936) 564-2327. New business location. Open house: from 3 to 7 p.m.

11:45 a.m., Friday, May 8 Nacogdoches County Senior Services CenterLeadership Nacogdoches class project 621 Harris St.

11:30 a.m., Tuesday, May 12 Main Street Salon & Spa4909 North St., Ste. 208Julie Daniel, owner, (936) 715-0050.New business location.

10:30 a.m., Friday, May 15 Posados Cafe1315 North St.Cedia Vaught, general manager, (936) 560-2940.

4:30 p.m., Thursday, May 28 Nirvaana Medispa3500 North St. Ste. 2Kavita Vyas, MD, (936) 559-9100.Tour new business during the Open House from 4 to 7 p.m. and enjoy refreshing beverages and hors d’oeuvres.

visit us on tHe Webthe nacogdoches county chamber web site is also a great place to find a commu-

nity event online calendar (submit your events, too), links to the shop nac first and

nacblog sites and more! visit: www.nacogdoches.org


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5-6Angelina County Science & Tech FairThis is an annual event for students in grades 6-12 in Angelina County to compete in various science and technology related events. There is no charge to participate or attend this event. May 5th will be the day students check-in their projects. May 6th will be competition day. www.angelinascienceandtech.com

7Senior Citizens Carnival11:30-2:30. Huntington First Baptist Church. 702 N. Main Street, 936.422.4311.

National Day of PrayerThe City of Lufkin along with local churches will be hosting the National Day of Prayer Ceremony in the Lufkin City Hall Atrium beginning at noon on Thursday, May 7, 2009.Lufkin City Hall Atrium Lance Moore. Contact: 936-633-0297 or [email protected]

8Unison Christian Singles Meets the second Friday of every month at 7pm at Jubilee Christian Center, 1801 Durst St. in Nacogdoches. This is not a dating service, this is a place for Christian singles to fellowship with other Christian singles in the area. (No children please, no daycare provided) We can be contacted at [email protected]

8-9Sandyland Bluegrass ReunionNacogdoches, 936-569-1179

9Fajita Fly InAircraft pilots from all over the area fly in to Angelina County Airport to visit with friends and eat fajitas for a $5.00 donation. Young Eagle Flights are also hosted at this time. These flights are offered free of charge and are made possible

through the generosity of EAA member volunteers. Angelina County Airport 830 Airport Road (off Highway 59) Diboll 936-225-0422 or [email protected]

Dr. Bill Shelton’s Totally Awesome Fishing AdventureRegistration is $200 per team (one or two man teams). Every fisherman registered will be in a drawing for a bass boat donated by Bass Pro Shops. Official tournament time is 6am-3pm (teams must be in weigh-in line no later than 3pm). Tournament will take place at Cassels Boykin Park. Trailering is allowed. Cassels Boykin South from Lufkin on Hwy. 69, East on Texas 147 from Zavalla, go four miles on FM 3123, turn left. More info contact Lindsey Mott: 936-639-7613 or [email protected]

12Bed and Breakfast TourCelebrate Nacogdoches’ Colorful History, 8:30 a.m. - 1:30 p.m. Tours start at the Visitors Center, 200 E. Main. $15 reservation deadline May 7. 1-888-OLDEST-TOWN

1326th Annual Expo Party Activities will begin at 6:30 p.m. with a reception and silent auction. The silent auction will continue until 7:30 p.m. when the steak dinner begins. The night’s events will also include door prizes, raffles, and silent, along with live auctions. The Expo Anniversary Party is an annual event, with proceeds going to the maintenance and upkeep of the Exposition Center. Contact Lyndee Matthews. 936-634-6644 or [email protected]

16-17Trade Days, Dawn to DuskLoop 224

16 SFA Spring Graduation

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16Great American Bake SaleBaskins Dept Store

Farmer’s Market8 a.m., 107 Pearl Street.

8th Annual Garden Tour 8 a.m. to 1 p.m. Gardens of Louise & Jeff Amidon, Mary & Andrew Moore, Cyndi and Steve Kullback, Diana and John Kristynik, Kandee & Tim Allen. Tickets are $15.00 per person and available at: Cyndi’s Visual Images, 1018 W. Frank, Savvy the Agency, 317 E. Frank or by calling (936) 637-3233 Proceeds benefit Louis Bronaugh Park (Spirit of America Garden located behind City Hall ) *Many Thanks to our 2009 Garden Tour Sponsors Lufkin Industries & Morrison Supply

17“Be My Baby”Presented by Lamp-Lite Theatre. 2 p.m., Old Tyler Road and Loop 224. 936-564-8300

21Wet-n-Wild Whistle TimeThe Texas Forestry Museum invites all Kids’ Club members to attend our Wet -N- Wild Whistle Time Party. Everyone will have an opportunity to get wet and have fun while we wash the Texas Forestry Museum’s Train. If you are not a Kids’ Club member, you may come and join at the event. Yearly memberships are only $5.00. Contact David Young 936.632.9535 or [email protected]

22 - 23“Be My Baby”Presented by Lamp-Lite Theatre. 2 p.m., Old Tyler Road and Loop 224. 936-564-8300 23Pine Knot Music Co-op. 8:00 p.m., Millard’s Crossing, 6020 N. Street.

23Farmer’s Market8:00 a.m., 107 Pearl Street

25Memorial Day

27Women’s Power LunchMemorial Health System of East Texas. Medical Staff Meeting Room. Lunch provided. Topic - “Rested and Refreshed”Speakers - Memorial Sleep Lab - Mary Jones, RRT, RSPGT - Pam McGilvra - travel. Contact: Melissa Wheeler 936-632-6784, or [email protected]

June 1-5ECO CAMPAngelina Beautiful/Clean will once again bring ECO CAMP to the children in our area. This week is a great way to promote environmental awareness. ECO CAMP 2009 will be held from 9 a.m. to 12 noon at the First Presbyterian Church on Janeway. Children ages 4 years old to 4th grade will learn about litter prevention, recycling, and beautification. Contact Amanda Anderson 936 634-6644 [email protected]

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naCoGdoCHes County aGriCulture appreCiation banquetMarch 31, 2009Hotel Fredonianacogdoches, texas

plAces And fAces

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Junior leaGue oF luFKin sprinG marKetApril 24-25, 2009Civic Centerlufkin, texas

ashley gonzales, Joshua moore, brittany logan Kyle compton, anna lavrent, dr. baker Pattillo, todd staples, clay cooper, lane Jacobs

eddie melasky, doris melasky, todd staplessteve melasky, stan melasky

John boyette, todd staples, cheryl boyette lynnelle mcelroy, barry hughes, tom havard, todd staples, brent hughes, randy lowery

dr. dale Perritt and todd staples

bob sitton and louie gohmert Karen tucker and Kelly daniel gloria mcdonald and brenda redder

nicki ashby cindy neal brenda sullivan

studio 319 lereigh mason, melissa mason, cyndi ricksevonne nerren, rebecca allen,mert Pate, stacy lucas

sue gagliaredi and amy Jo roland


rodeoApril 22-25, 2009George H. Henderson expo Centerlufkin, texas


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Karen gibbs, Peggy officer, Jan selmanteresa hopson, diana balderas

diva niGHtApril 1, 2009vFW Halllivingston, texas

rogene Pedigo and friend

beverly miller

dr. richard ruckman and deborah ruckman

business aFter FiveMarch 26, 2009the Center For sightlufkin, tx

robert and Judy montgomery the center for sight staff

Karen gibbs, Peggy officer, Jan selmanteresa hopson, diana balderas

lori wright, connie byronlinda thompson, teresa hopson

pineyWoods maKeover reveal partyApril 25, 2009shelly’s bakerynacogdoches, tx

lynne thorne and family dream team with lynne thorne

wendy windham, terri thompson-saylerdebbie tompkins

carla redfield, shelly brophy, lynne thorneJinx Premble, sharon roberts

dr. caster, terri thompson-sayler, dr. aaron Polk rene white, and Kathy mcgough

carla redfield and Kathy lehmann

beverly miller sydney murphy and teressa langston

ciao bella day spa


HealtHCare netWorKinG assoCiationApril 2, 2009lufkin, texas


passionate pursuitApril 2, 2009Hotel Fredonianacogdoches, texas

anna middlebrook and alex berry

lauren gaudette, linda snellPatti Pustka, luciana barr

anna middlebrook and melinda malloycrystal bradsher, linda howardanna middlebrook

lori Pruitt, alex berry, marty blairsally blair, anna middlebrook

linda howard and melinda malloy Kelly Parker, Patti Pustkashelley locke

aBout tHe pHotograpHer: Lisa Crow is a certified Wedding Consultant and the owner of Special Events in Lufkin. Special Events is a comprehensive events consulting company that specializes in distinctive weddings and unique events. With over fifteen years of event management and planning experience, Lisa combines creativity and style with enthusiasm and professionalism. To better assist their clients, Special Events offers a full range of invitations and announcements, including the popular photo invitations, and also, event photography. Lisa and her husband Steve have two adorable daughters, Reagan & Cailyn. For more information, or to view and purchase event pictures, go to www.specialeventstx.com or call 936-676-0467.

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debbie stevens, dennis stevensmelanie turner, Janet allen

convoy savvy band

robert crow, bradley wilsonKim luna snyder, lisa hale

alive aFter FiveApril 16, 2009texas state opticalnacogdoches, texas

texas state optical staff barabara holl, mark holl,scarlett sloane

charles thomson, robby lynnmatt Kubas, Joanna temple

toni rhodes and christine crain

christie deekard, bobby budwellmelanie vardeman, Kim luna snyder

gregg nichols, ron collinsJonathan Polk

corinn rudis and medora boone

st Cyprians baKe oFFApril 14, 20094th and 5th Gradelufkin, texas

medora boone and max mccarty 5th Grade

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Features

“There is no greaTer journey in life Than moTherhood.”

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Inspiring Young Woman


there are many young men and women who work and

go to school in lufkin and nacogdoches, but at the end of

the day make the commute back home. reyna santana is

in that category. she grew up in center, texas. once she

graduated from high school, she started her college career at

angelina college. now, she has

transferred to sfa.

reyna possesses many

qualities that make her an

inspiring young woman.

Persistence is one of her

strongest traits, as was shown

during the communities cinco

de mayo. according to one

of the founding members and

board member roy reyes,

“communities is part of the

name because our event is for

all of the communities that

make up east texas.” reyna is

a perfect example; traveling

back and forth from center.

reyna got involved with the

event because a friend of hers

competed the previous year.

each contestant applies for the

contest and the rules are set.

the finalists are chosen based

on the rules and where they

place in the contest.

marissa guerrero, board member that oversees the

contest, describes renya as, “a go-getter. when the

competition started last year she was attending angelina

college and drove to lufkin from center almost everyday.

shortly after the competition started, she was involved in a

car accident. she was not hurt, but without a vehicle, she

struggled a bit. she also had a part-time job. needless to say,

she had a bumpy start. she then formed a team of friends

and family and began working....hard. she broke the record

in money raised. i was really impressed. she overcame

obstacles, including discouragement from some in her town.

i’m very proud of her. she knows her goals and she’s making

them a reality.”

reyna sold a total of 8, 819 tickets at $1 each. because

of her phenomenal success, she won first place and close to

$5000 in scholarship money.

reyna says that this event is

important because it gives

young hispanics who are

smart and have potential the

support they need to continue

their education. “i wanted to

get involved, regardless of if i

won or not. i knew this was a

great cause and i was focused

on the money i was raising for

scholarship, versus trying to

win,” says santana.

this particular cinco de

mayo event has been in place

for thirteen years, with the

queen’s contest for eleven

years. the purpose of the event

is to raise as much money as

possible with a majority of the

funding going to scholarships.

a smaller portion goes to other

non-profits around the county.

“none of this would be possible

without the sponsorship of brookshire brothers. they have

sponsored this event for years and we are so blessed to have

their support. with their donation, we are able to buy the

raffle tickets and the computers we raffle off. we are grateful

that they partner with us for the betterment of our youth,”

says guerrero.

in the last ten years, communities cinco de mayo has

given over $178,000 in scholarships; $39,500 in 2008. reyna

is looking forward to rolling up her sleeves and being involved

again this year.

Reyna Santana Inspiring Young Woman

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Inspiring Woman


after the birth of our son, Joseph, Jonny and i knew we

wanted at least one more child. unfortunately, wanting a child

and having a child are two different things. it took four years of

unexplained infertility before we found out we were expecting

a baby girl. we were thrilled! after all the wait and frustrations

and tears, we were finally having another baby! tears of joy

turned into tears of sorrow when, at 28 weeks, it was discovered

that our baby girl had trisomy 18, a fatal genetic abnormality

that affects 1 in 3,000 live births. gracie had a heart defect,

was missing a kidney, had growth retardation, and a 2-corded

umbilical instead of the typical three. these were all markers

for the disorder. it was devastating news and life as we knew it

would never be the same.

there were so

many unknowns. the

information about t18 was

very grim. most babies

die before birth or live only

a few days. less than 10%

survive their first year.

there was very little hope

of gracie having any kind

of life on this earth. still,

we prayed for the lord

to heal her, knowing that

he was in control of the

situation. if he healed her,

we’d praise him. if he took her to heaven, we’d praise him.

we were in a place of complete dependence on his grace and

mercy.

the news traveled quickly and so many people were

praying for our family and for gracie. it was amazing to see

how much everyone cared for this little life that had everything

going against her. my prayer during the pregnancy was for just

one breath. i so much wanted gracie to be born alive, even for

just one breath. i know god put that in my heart because he

gave us so much more.

on april 21, 2004, gracie beth gerland was born. she

weighed only 3 lbs. 6 oz., but she was a fighter! the nursing

staff was prepared for her to die quickly after delivery, but

we were all amazed when she started breathing on her own

and i heard her cry! we rejoiced in her birth and prayed for

guidance. we learned how to care for gracie’s special needs

with the help of hospital staff and home healthcare. we could

not take her home until Jonny and i both could feed her with

an oral tube since gracie’s sucking reflexes weren’t developed

enough to take a bottle. after 3 days, we went home with our

baby girl.

once at home, gracie would have good days and bad

days. since she had a terminal disorder, hospice became

involved and offered

support and expertise. she

required oxygen and heart

medication for congestive

heart failure. she would go

into respiratory distress on

several occasions and her

heart would stop beating.

it was torture seeing her

suffer and being so helpless,

but we still knew that god

was in control and that he

loved her. i believe that

he allowed us to see the

suffering so that we could

let her go when it was time.

we felt the prayers of so many people, and gracie’s testimony

was spreading throughout the community. this little baby had

such a purpose of showing us god’s love. this tiny, frail baby

girl with her head full of dark, wild hair was on a mission to

teach us how to fully depend on god. he answered my prayer

of one breath. i was grateful. now, my prayer was to be present

when she passed from this earth. i knew the time was coming,

but i don’t think a parent is ever ready to see their child die. on

June 6th, just 6 and a half weeks after her birth, gracie went to

be with the lord, and i was holding her.

i’ve wondered why god answered some of my prayers, but

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not the prayers for healing my daughter completely and i’m

reminded of the scripture in isaiah 55:8-9, “for my thoughts

are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways. as the

heavens are higher than the earth, so

are my ways higher than your ways

and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

god did heal gracie, but he chose to

do it in heaven and not on earth. he

also allowed us an opportunity to

witness countless miracles during her

short life. he taught us about his love

and mercy, his grace and compassion.

for that, i will forever be grateful for

gracie’s life and the opportunity to be

her mom.

since gracie’s death, we suffered

four miscarriages. we gave up the

dream of having another child and

prayed for peace. god answered that

prayer and then surprised us with

a little firecracker named Jolie. she’s a joy and possesses

so many qualities of her big sister. one day, we will share

gracie’s story with her.

Q&A:Tell us about yourself?

i grew up right here in east texas and with the exception

of a few years after i got married, i’ve been here all my life. i

graduated from central high school and s.f.a. my husband

is Jonathan, who is the director of the history center in

diboll. we have two beautiful children, Joseph is 11 and Jolie

is 2. i am a stay-at-home mom for the most part. i work as an

independent insurance agent along with my dad for Kendrick

insurance. Jonathan and i have been married for 14 years.

we met at denman avenue baptist church, where we are still

members.

How did the Empty Arms Ministry begin?

it really began out of a need to help other women who have

lost an infant. the idea came out of prayers to find a way to

honor gracie’s life. the lord just laid it on my heart to minister

to others through a care basket that contained some of the

resources i encountered and used during my grief. i seem

to always do things the hard way, so these resources would

be a short cut for others. mainly it was to let families know

that they were not alone in their grief. now, the ministry is

a part of denman avenue baptist church

and is supported by the membership and

community.

Why is Empty Arms important to you?

2 corinthians 1:4 says, “…that we can

comfort those in any trouble with the

comfort that we ourselves receive from

god…” i believe that when you are going

through a valley in your life, god truly

wants to use that experience to not only

draw you closer to him, but to reach out

and minister to others who have similar

needs and hurts.

What message do you want to get out to

the community?

what i would like to express to

others is that there is hope after losing a child. i miss gracie

everyday and am very aware of the hole in my heart, but i cry

with hope and faith that i will see her again one day. that

hope is through Jesus christ.

How can people get involved?

we have a separate account through denman avenue

for money given which is used solely for empty arms. this

money is used for the care baskets and shipping costs when

we mail baskets. these baskets are free of charge and we will

deliver them to any address. we also deliver them to hospitals

and funeral homes. care baskets include bereavement books

and resources; pamper items and a new testament bible.

website: www.dabconline.org click on “women’s ministry”,

then “empty arms ministry.”

The Journey will be collecting purse size Kleenex and hand lotion as our Project Box for the month of May. You can drop these items off at any Huntington State Bank lo-cation. These will be used for the care baskets. This will be a great way for our community to touch the hearts of hurting mothers.


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Joey RoweI have been married to my husband Joey for 17 years. He is a wonderful husband and father. We have 2 little girls, Macie-Jo and Makala. My husband works hard every day for me and the girls. Our oldest daughter is disabled, she was born with a partial #2 chromosome deletion. This was not something that any parent expects, but we thank God every day for our Angel. It has not been easy on either of us, but Joey has been my rock. No matter what the situation is, he stands strong for all of us. He is the strongest man I know. I thank god every day for giving us such a wonderful man. He provides for us, he protects us, and he loves us unconditionally. Joey Rowe, husband to Angie and father to Macie-Jo 8, and Makala 4.

Sal SotoSal is the best husband and father anyone could wish for. He is truly the love of my life and brings laughter and fun to our marriage and into our home. He works so hard to provide for us and still manages to plan fun trips for the family and be spontaneous! We are best friends and I am truly blessed to have him as my partner in life. We were high school sweethearts and reconnected 12 years later. I got lucky in that I “inherited” his two daughters and we now have twin sons together.

Sal Soto, husband to Lisa and father to Sara 17, Nicole 14, Ryder and Ace 22 months.

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I consider myself to be a really informed mom. I know my teenager’s whereabouts most of the time, I have a curfew in place and I’ve warned him about sex, drugs, and alcohol. He’s a good kid. I know his friends and their parents. When I see a program about sexting or choking or read about alarming rates of teen sex, I take the time to talk to my teen about the problem. But I must have missed the story about kids abusing over-the-counter cough and cold medicine.

Imagine my surprise when the school nurse called to say my child was nauseous and disoriented. They thought he had bought some pills. What were they saying? We rushed to the school. The principal found the boy who sold my son drugs and they think he took eight Triple C’s. My son was acting confused; it was unlike anything I had ever seen.

We rushed straight to our pediatrician who sent us to the emergency room. This healthy kid, who’d never seen the inside of a hospital since birth, was prepped for an IV, blood was drawn, and he was connected to a monitor for his heart rate, oxygen levels, and blood pressure. Making this visit one he would hopefully remember forever, he was required to drink charcoal slurry that looked like thick, black paint. After several hours, we were released and I would begin my online research right away.

A quick google of “Triple C drug” shocked me. I discovered pages and pages of stories about teenagers getting high on the over-the-counter drug Coricidin or other cough and cold products containing DxM (dextromethorphan). Triple C is not illegal. The tiny red pills are stocked on open shelves and relatively inexpensive, making them attractive to young people, especially when compared to illicit drugs. The medication is available without a prescription because, when used properly, it’s safe and effective.

Triple C is also called robo, skittles, red devils and tussin. It’s common for teen abusers to first take them eight at a time. Side effects include confusion, dizziness, double or blurred vision, slurred speech, impaired physical coordination, abdominal pain, nausea and vomiting, rapid heart beat, drowsiness, numbness of fingers and toes, and disorientation. Teens describe different “plateaus” ranging from mild distortions of color and sound to visual hallucinations and “out-of-body,” feelings of detachment from the environment and self, sensations, and loss of motor control.

So far, this story has a happy ending. Our son is remorseful, knows what he did was stupid, and he’s being punished for his actions. I’m actually grateful for the terrible reaction to the drugs and the hard lesson this experience taught.

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Brian and EmilyJanuary 3, 2009

Brian and Emily were introduced through an old roommate. Brian would always come over to visit and hang out with his good friend, Emily’s roommate. Emily says, “One night I started small talking with him and the rest is history. So, for the record, I approached him.” She knew she had a crush, but Brian would never come talk to her, so she had to make the first move.

They officially began dating April 20, 2007. Almost a year later, on April 19, 2008, they went to Brian’s family’s home. All of his family were getting together for a crawfish boil. Emily had no idea what was going on and Brian asked her to go outside. That day, he got down on his knees and asked her to be a permanent part of his family and to marry him. “It was perfect! It was the day before our one year anniversary and I was able to show the ring off to his family a few minutes later,” said Emily.

Nine months later, they made it official. January 3, 2009, they were married. The Beene wedding was a true celebration. Emily is the youngest of eight children and comes from a large family. It was hard having to narrow down their list for the wedding party because of all their family and long list of friends from childhood. Her sister, Meredith Tibbetts, was the matron of honor, best friend from childhood Kati Killebrew was maid of honor, and then bridesmaids were a mix of friends from high school and college: Chelsi Swafford, April Stone, Jennifer McKee, Lindley Domingue, Bethany Lange, Celine Tan, Yully Toro, and Rachel Graham. Flower girls were cousins Kate and Mary Allison Hegi, and nieces

Madeline Pond and Kami Counts. Ring bearer was nephew Drew Tibbetts. Brian’s best men were his two brothers Andy and Bradley Beene and his groomsmen included Emily’s

brother, Alden Pond, his friends: Jason Cardwell, Jeremy Burk, Ryan Novak (the match maker), Phillip Lejune, Sam Arnold, Levi Hendrix, Kent Brown, and Andrew Moss. Ushers were Neil Hobbs, Ryan Crowley, and Michael Smith.

The day was a special day to Brian

and Emily. They were surrounded by people who love and adore them.

Now, they plan for Brian to finish his degree in nursing at SFA. Emily graduated from SFA in 2007 and is now working at Hotel Fredonia. Brian plans on pursuing a degree for a CRNA, while Emily hopes to one day use her Fashion Merchandising degree and own her own boutique.

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Girls GroupThe American Association of

University Women had its first meeting in 1881. The Association was created as a catalyst for change for women and girls. The Nacogdoches branch AAUW began in 1931. Since then, ladies involved with AAUW have worked to recognize women who have made an impact in their community, while strengthening the future for young girls. They also have continued a commitment to conduct programs each year to highlight the economic, political, and social status

of women and girls.According to Donna Christopher, Nacogdoches AAUW President,

“AAUW was founded in 1881, when popular wisdom held that higher education impaired women’s health. Our first research debunked that misconception.” The women involved with AAUW believe in breaking down barriers for women in all fields. There are two main events sponsored by these ladies: The Woman of the Year Awards Banquet, and Expanding your Horizons Math & Science Conference for Middle School Girls.

The Association serves as a way to support and celebrate women advancing in their studies, careers, and communities. This year, the AAUW held the 25th Woman of the Year Awards Banquet. The banquet chooses one very special Woman of the Year, along with four honorees in the field of education, art, sports, and business. Each of these women excels in their field , and also serves as a leader and role model for change in the community.

Margie Tipton, who will receive the Woman of the Year award, is a former owner of Tipton Ford, has been a teacher and administrator at NISD and SFA, and is a member of numerous committees and boards. As local Chapter Chairman of the American Red Cross, she has been instrumental in directing the good care Nacogdoches has given storm refugees.

Julia Ballenger, education honoree, is Associate Professor of Secondary Education & Educational Leadership at SFA. Her doctoral degree is from UT Austin. She has served as teacher, principal, TEA official, E.J. Campbell Distinguished Professor, and has received numerous awards and committee appointments.

Juanita Finkenberg, arts honoree, is Coordinator of SFA Employment Wellness Con-nection, Lecturer in the School of Theatre, and artistic

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director of Real Women Dancing. She has choreographed and performed at SFA, Lamp-Lite, Tyer & Co. Dance, and Motor Dance Co., and worked with Junior Forum, Millard’s Crossing, and Friends of the Arts.

Debbie Humphreys, sports honoree, is Head Coach of the SFA Volleyball Team. Her career record is 484-217 in 21 seasons, all at SFA, with seven SLC Championships, and an SLC record of 62 consecutive regular season conference victories. The team’s four NCAA tournament

appearances include a first round win in 2006, beating U. of Alabama. Kim Luna Snyder, business honoree, is Senior Vice President of

Citizens 1st Bank and Past Chairman of the Chamber of Commerce. Her banking career began in 1985 at Timberland Savings & Loan, and continued at Citizens 1st Bank after its purchase of the S&L in 1991, except for July 2001 to March 2004, when she worked for a Chicago bank.

Eloise Adams joined AAUW because of the recognition of wonderful women like this year’s honorees. All the women that are a part of AAUW are college graduates and speak first hand in encouraging junior high girls to set ambitious career goals.

“This February, we had a hugely successful 15th annual Expanding Your Horizons Career Conference for middle school aged girls in our area. The conference, which emphasizes careers requiring a background in science and math, involved hands on activities for 600 girls provided by 35 presenters sharing information about their careers,” said Christopher.

It is inspiring to know there are women in our community, building up other women and encouraging young women to aspire to great things.

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relAtIonsHIpsa woman after god’s own heart | words by Kathryn greene

Mother’s Day is celebrated in the month of May. It is a time that we as mothers look forward to being honored by our children. It is also a time that we think about our own mothers and the influence they have had on our life. My thoughts on this Mother’s Day are about all mothers – the young, the middle age, the older - all age groups of mothers. As a young mother, what would be the best thing you could do to be what your children need? As a mid-lifer, what would be the best thing you could do to deal with this season of your life? As a senior adult, what can you do to be a good mentor, a sweet grandmother, and a good example to the generations that will follow behind?

I thought of David who is one of the most prominent figures in the history of the world, as well as a very prominent Bible character. Even Jesus Christ is often referred to as the son of David. In the early period of his life, David is mentioned as a man after God’s own heart (I Samuel 13:14). I thought… would that not be the greatest legacy that I could leave for those who will follow behind? What does it mean to be a “woman after God’s own heart”?

I believe that a woman after God’s own heart would love God, love her neighbor, and love herself:

l. To love God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with your entire mind. That means that you are to love God with your entire being: with all your passion, in the way you relate to God through your prayers, and in the way that you think. God is to be first! When we are in love with Him, all the other things in our life will have their rightful place.

2. To love your neighbor means to love others. When you get your mind off of yourself and begin ministering to others, you find that life is much more fulfilling. God did not make you to be self-centered and only thinking of your wants and

needs. God designed us to have a heart like His – a heart that loved us so much that He gave His Son to be a sacrifice for our sins so that we could be reconciled to Him. How much love do I have? Do I care enough about my neighbor to find out their name, carry them a dessert, or even pray for them? Do I

show my love for my husband by sacrificing my desires to meet his needs? Do I love my children by showing them they are important – more important than my job or my schedule?

3. I am to love others as I love myself. As a counselor, one of the main issues that I find that women have is that they do not love their self. If I don’t love myself, how can I love anyone else? My self-image is to be based on how God sees me: “I am deeply loved, fully pleasing, and totally acceptable and accepted by God. There has never been another person like

me nor will there ever be. God has made me an original, one of a kind, a special person.”* When I accept that I am loved, then I can love others with the love I have experienced.

There are some blockages to having a heart like God. If you have experienced doubts, temptations, personal inconsistencies, losses, abuse, unresolved conflict, or any emotional baggage, you will block the ability to experience a heart like God. If you are not able to resolve these issues, I encourage you to see a counselor that can assist you in facing your past. Once you have faced your past, you can then let go of it and embrace the present as well as the future. If you have a heart full of bitterness, it is impossible to have love coming from that same heart. Once you experience healing of your hurts, then you are freed to give and receive love the way God made you.

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fItness 101return those unused calories | words by dr. Kim archer

If only we could return our unused calories to the customer service desk at Wal-Mart or auction them off on eBay! Excessive calories contributing to weight gain and health related diseases could disappear with a simple return. Unfortunately, when it comes to weight management, individuals don’t have this option, so relying on a healthy diet and regular physical activity becomes the main method of calorie exchange.

The universal principle for weight loss from fat is exactly the same for elite athletes as it is for grandmas: increase energy (physical activity and/or exercise); decrease food intake (energy consumed), or a combination of both. Studies have compared the effects of dietary restriction only, exercise only, and dietary restriction and exercise combination interventions on body composition changes (fat and lean mass). Research reveals that the long-term effectiveness of weight-loss is better accomplished with dietary restriction and exercise combination interventions (Stiegler & Cunliffe, 2006).

A sensible weight loss goal is to strive to lose 1 – 2 pounds of fat per week. A pound of fat equals approximately 3,500 calories, so by eliminating 500 calories from the diet each day of the week, an individual can successfully achieve their weight loss goal. To put 500 calories in to perspective, a person could remove the following food choices daily: 12 oz can of Mountain Dew (170 kcals), 1oz bag of Lays Potato Chips (150 kcals), and one Natural Valley’s Granola Bar (180 kcals) OR one cup of Ben & Jerry’s American Pie Ice Cream (500 kcals) .

Exercise plays a vital role in body composition, lending

itself to weight loss or weight gain. Exercise creates a caloric expenditure that promotes a caloric deficit resulting in loss of weight and fat while maintaining lean muscle mass. Individuals are sometimes disappointed to find their hours devoted to exercise have resulted in limited changes on the weight scale. It is important to remember that regular weight scales can’t tell the difference between fat and lean muscle weight, therefore body composition becomes the best indicator of overall health (Dunford & Doyle, 2008).

There are several factors that come in to play when calculating the exact number of calories used during physical activity such as age, weight, fitness level, environmental c o n d i t i o n s , metabolic rate, body composition, and mode of activity. With a multitude of factors to consider, most calorie-burn

figures and exercise equipment figures are “rough estimates” based on metabolic equations. It has been reported that exercise equipment may under or over estimate actual calorie burn by 10 to 30 percent (Heaner, 2009). According to Dr. Wilkinson (2003), Medical Director at Cooper Institute for Aerobic Research, figuring the precise calorie sum can be complicated, but as long as the exercise machine requires a body weight to be entered, results may be off by 10%.

The American College of Sports Medicine (ACSM) position stand for “Appropriate Physical Activity Intervention Strategies for Weight Loss and Prevention of Weight Regain for Adults” recommends that adults should participate in a minimum of 150 minutes/week of moderate-intensity physical activity to prevent weight gain and reduce risk factors for chronic diseases (2009). The ACSM also notes that dietary restrictions in combination with physical activity

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will promote increased weight loss compared to dietary restrictions alone. ACSM also recommends the following for adults looking to lose weight, prevent weight gain, or maintain weight loss:

Prevent – Weight GainParticipating in 150 – 250 minutes/week of moderate intensity physical activity can prevent weight gain. Participating in > 150 minutes/week of moderate intensity physical activity can result in reasonable weight loss.

Weight Loss Participating in 150 – 250 minutes/week of moderate intensity physical activity can result in reasonable weight loss. Participating in > 250 minutes/week of moderate intensity physical activity can result in significant weight loss. Dietary restrictions in combination with physical activity will promote weight loss compared to dietary restrictions alone.

Weight Maintenance After Weight LossParticipating in > 250 minutes/week of moderate intensity physical activity can prevent weight re-gain.

Moderate intensity physical activity is defined as physical movement that increases your heart rate while still carrying on a conversation (examples: walking, jogging, riding a bike, spinning, or step aerobics) (Donnelly, Blair, Jakicic, Manore, Rankin, & Smith, 2009).

Dedication to obtaining an ideal body weight starts with managing personal calorie exchange activities. Regular exercise and calorie portion control must become necessary activities such as taking a bath or brushing your teeth. If you are tired of looking at those same unused calories, then it is time to return them!

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Scarf DeSignwords by chucK watKins & Katherine Pierson

1. Side tie high on shoulder with a square scarf2. Drape both ends of the scarf over your shoulders then

bring both ends forward; make the ends uneven and poof out the neck.

3. Fold scarf in half, wrap the doubled scarf around your neck, and pull the ends through the loop.

4. Wrap the scarf around your shoulders, making sure it’s over your shoulders and covering the backs of your arms. Then tie it loosely to the side.

5. Place scarf around your ribs, then tie in a tight knot in the back.

6. Wrap scarf around your neck and knot the scarf loosely at your neck, twisting it to the side.

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faShion anD beautyWe all dream of looking really great in our clothes. However,

the dream doesn’t usually last that long. We start to think about money, our thighs, our busy schedule, and we decide that looking good is for the rich and thin. But there are plenty of women who are on a budget and have a less than perfect body that look wonderful everyday. They have just learned a few tricks to make the most of what they have and how to disguise their flaws. You, too, can learn the same tricks.

Looking good in your clothes involves more than just wearing what you like, it takes strategy. By using color, fit, pattern, and proportions you can draw the eye to or from whatever area you want. If you hate to go up a size and wear you clothes too tight, it can make you look bigger than you are. The same is true for clothing that is too big; it creates a sloppy appearance. Dressing in one color from head to toe can actually make you appear slimmer. If you have a bigger tummy and wear, for example, a white blouse with black pants, you will call attention to the problem spot. By wearing the same color on the top and bottom, the eye glides right over the trouble spot. Remember that darker shades absorb light, thus having a slimming effect. If you have a small bust with a larger rear and hips, you can draw the eye away from your bottom by wearing darker pants and a lighter top. Vice-versa, if you have a larger bust and small rear and thighs, you would wear a dark top and lighter bottom.

Even though dark colors can make you look slimmer and lighter, brighter colors can do the opposite, but you can still include vivid colors in your wardrobe. Just put the lighter or brighter colors near the part of the body that you want to call attention to.

Start with these tips. Go shopping; take a look at your body, determine what you like about it and what you would like to camouflage. Take different colors of tops and bottoms in the dressing room with you. Really pay attention to how your body looks and how you can change where your eye goes just by using color techniques. You can look great in your clothes.

(A) Clothes that are too tight can create a bigger appearance. Jeans that are a size too small will likely cause a “muffin top” effect. A tight-fitting shirt only accentuates the problem area more. Moving up a size in clothes can often be a good thing for your figure. Remember, no one sees the number on the inside tag except for you!

(B) Clothes that are too big create a bigger appearance. While bigger clothes are often comfortable, they tend to look sloppy and unflattering for your figure. Also, be leery of bright, bold designs. They can be distracting and overwhelming on all body types.

(C) Choosing outfits that are all the same color creates a slimming appearance. The eyes flow effortlessly down the body without being drawn to one area. Pairing a colored pair of shoes with a solid outfit actually draws the attention down and away from a problem area. Black is always a perfect choice for looking slimmer!

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Traditional hair re-moval methods such as shaving provide only temporary results. La-ser Hair Removal is a cosmetic breakthrough and provides a more permanent form of hair removal. Electrolysis is

the only other form of permanent hair removal and it treats only one hair follicle at time, which is not practical for large areas. Laser Hair Removal is a fast and effective way of re-moving hair and is great for covering larger areas.

It helps greatly with razor burn, ingrown hairs, stubble and removes the dark shadows which occur if the hair is very dark, after shaving. It can also aid with the healing of skin, if hair prevents this from happening.

Hair must contain some brown or black pigment in or-der for the laser to be effective: blonde, white, grey, or light

red hair will not be targeted by the laser. Treatments are comfortable. Using the gentle power of laser, the follicle is targeted and causes a thermal injury when the hair is in its active growing phase. Not all hairs are in the active phase at the same time, therefore multiple treatments are necessary. Besides hair pigment, skin pigment is another critical and limiting factor when considering treatments.

Other considerations before treatment include medica-tions, coarseness and color of hair, and depth of suntan. It is important to discontinue waxing, plucking, and depila-tory creams for a period of time before treatment. Four to six treatments at one month intervals are usually necessary. There will be noticeable improvement of texture, density, and color of hair throughout the treatment process.

A consultation and test spot is preferable before any treatment. Pricing varies depending on which area is treated.

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scarfChoose a colorful scarf to add a little flavor to your wardrobe. Scarves are a must have accessory this summer. Choose one to fit your lifestyle and personality. Buckle has various colors and prints to choose from. Buckle is located in Lufkin Mall.

Personalized notesJulia D. Azar makes a beautiful gift for graduates, teachers, friends, and, of course, for Mother’s Day. You can personalize them with names or buy them for the fun, bright prints. They come in two sizes of cards with envelopes or a notepad.

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Many young girls think they wan to play makeup and hair “when they grow up.” You also hear young ladies say they would like to own their own shop or boutique. For Amy Jo Roland she has had the opportunity to keep all of her dreams as a little girl alive.

Amy Jo Roland was born and raised in Lufkin. At the age of seventeen she started working for the Lufkin Merle Nor-man as a Beauty Advisor and Nail Technician. Amy Jo stayed there for four years. She later transferred to the Henderson store where she eventually became the Studio Manager. Af-ter a year in that position she said, “as a Studio Mangager it allowed me to see how successful I could become by owning a Merle Norman Cosmetic franchise.” Once Amy Jo gave it some thought, she decided to purchase the Henderson fran-chise in October 1997.

The next year, she met the love of her life, Toby Roland. They married in June 1998. She eventually moved back to Lufkin and would commute back and forth to Henderson. Once their son Bayley came into the picture, Amy Jo decided to sell her franchise so she could spend more time with Bay-ley. She later started working again at the Lufkin Merle Nor-man location. Then after a few months of working in 2000,

the opportunity presented itself for her to purchase the Lufkin Franchise.

Today, almost sixteen years after her first day working as a beauty advisor, Amy Jo still loves what she is doing. “I have known since I was a little girl that I wanted to do something in the beauty industry. I remember in Children’s Church the teacher went around the room asking all the children what they wanted to be when they grow up and I remember being asked that question and I said a Beautician. I am not a Beauti-cian but I am in the Beauty Industry. All I can say that I have been truly blessed.”

Amy Jo Roland has been the owner of the Lufkin Merle Norman for nine years. Anyone who has had the privilege of walking in her store knows Amy Jo’s heart. Many of her cli-ents are now some of her closest friends. It has always been a highlight that her sisters and friends, when she was younger would always come to her for hair, makeup, and fashion ad-vice. Now, she is living out her passion. “I enjoy giving some-one a makeover and seeing the result by the expression and confidence that shows. I could not see myself any where be-sides at Merle Norman,” says Roland.

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educAtIon wItH emIlyfun ideas for summer | words by emily ParKs

I cannot believe that this school year is already coming to an end! With that comes the task of entertaining the kids. I hope these ideas will help keep your child’s mind sharp while having some fun!

MathBake together.Talk about measurements, fractions (part of a whole), and time. Try out this easy, yummy recipe:

CHoColATE oATMEAl No-BAkEs:

½ cup margarine2 cups sugar½ cup baking cocoa½ cup milk

Cook in saucepan over medium heat, stir-ring occasionally. The mixture needs to boil about 3 to 5 minutes. Drop about 1 teaspoon of mixture into a cup of cold water. When

it sticks together to form a soft ball, it is ready. Remove from heat and add, stirring until combined:

½ cup creamy peanut butter1 teaspoon vanilla3 cups oatmeal

Drop onto buttered wax paper by heaping teaspoons-full. Cool for about 30 minutes.

Flashcard funUse pre-made flashcards or make some with index cards. You can use any math operation (+,-,x,÷)--whatever is appropri-ate for your child’s level of learning. Line up the cards in rows with the answer side down. Then take turns matching 2 cards with the same answer. Battle This is a 2-player game. Each player gets his/her own deck of cards. Hold the deck face down in your hand. Both players flip their top card over on the table at the same time. The first player to add the value of the two cards together and shout out the answer wins both of the cards. The player that gets all the cards wins. Try it with multiplication, too.

Go shoppingEither at the grocery store or mall. Talk about money, per-cents, calculating discounts, and balancing a checkbook.

ScienceGo to the zoo.Actually read the information provided about the animals. Discuss whether the animals are carnivores, herbivores, or omnivores. Talk about why animals have certain color skin/fur and their habitats.

Go on a nature walkIdentify various types of plants, trees, birds, bugs, etc. Take a piece of paper and a pencil/crayon and make rub-bings of various types of tree bark.

Plant flowers and plantsTalk about what plants need in order to survive. Identify the various parts of a flower. Take care of the plants together and measure the growth.


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Do an experimentComplete the scientific method together:

• Question or statement of project• Hypothesis-What do you think is going to happen?• Materials used• Specific steps needed• Observations during the actual experiment• What actually happened• Summary of why the experiment had the outcome

Here is an experiment I thought would be fun:This activity is probably best done outside in the middle of an abandoned field, or better yet, on a huge lawn.

1. Carefully open a bottle of soda. Position the bottle on the ground so that it will not tip over.

2. Unwrap the whole roll of Mentos. The goal is to drop all of the Mentos into the bottle of soda at the same time (which is trickier than it looks). One method for doing this is to roll a piece of paper into a tube just big enough to hold the loose Mentos. You’ll want to be able to position the tube directly over the mouth of the bottle so that all of the candies drop into the bottle at the same time.

3. Don’t drop them into the bottle just yet! Warn the spectators to stand back. Okay, you’re going to drop all of the Mentos into the bottle at the same time and then get truckin’ (move out of the way... so long... bye-bye... hasta la vista!)

4. It’s just like fireworks on the 4th of July. The specta-tors erupt, of course, in a chorus of ooohs and ahhhs. Someone yells out, “Do it again” and you do.

Social StudiesFind historical markersYou won’t have to go too far to find some around your town. I am sure you and your child will be amazed at the history that went on around you many years ago!

Make a family treeOn a map, locate where each person on the tree was born. Look in an encyclopedia or on the Internet to discover fun facts about the year each person was born.

Make a timeline of your child’s lifeInclude pictures and hang the completed timeline in his or her room. Put milestone moments on the timeline: day and year born, first steps, first tooth lost, the day your child asked Jesus into his/her heart. (My 3rd graders created a timeline as an assignment and the only criteria was to put the day he/she was born at the beginning, 3rd grade at the end, and 5 events in the middle. The one timeline that will always stick out in my mind was one that was obviously made by the stu-dent with little or no parent help-which is how I preferred projects. One of the events had a cross drawn above the time-line and the date and words “The day Jesus came into my heart.” written below it. It really touched me!)

Language ArtsWrite a bookThis can be an all-summer project. Write about the places you go or the things you do throughout the summer. Add pic-tures or illustrations. It doesn’t have to be fancy. This can be done in a spiral notebook.

Go to the libraryMost libraries have activities and events throughout the sum-mer. Check out your local library’s website for information.

Read, read, read!Take this down time to read books that really peak your child’s interest. Share a book that you enjoyed when you were growing up. Read a book that was made into a movie; then watch the movie and compare the two.

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your wAlletconsignment = cash | words by crystal williams

Many of us are tired of hearing about stimulus this and stimulus that; tax cut this and tax cut that…we want get on with our lives. Our goal is to figure out a way to stay focused and make a little extra cash in these hard times.

Most of us moms know that dressing our little girls and guys can be super expensive but super fun all at the same time! If you don’t know someone to pass them down to, what do you do with all those cute outfits? What do you do with all of those toys and shoes that are in perfect condition? What about that toddler bed that your little one outgrew? The answer is right up the street from you!

Consignment is the perfect option for any mom that has an abundance of out-grown clothing, toys, and furniture that are still in great shape. Simply put, consignment is a no-hassle garage sale just for kid’s items of all sorts! Unlike a garage sale, there is no weather to contend with, no tables and racks to rent, and no time spent sitting and having to bargain with deal-hunting shoppers. You, as the consignor, just sign up with a consignment shop, or find a consignment sale and the rest is fairly simple. You prepare the clothes and drop them off where you want them sold. The shop owner markets and promotes for you and in return, you get 40% of the sale price (on average).

There are many consignment shops available in our area, so find one that fits you and get going on making some extra money. All it takes to become a consigner is a little time to prep your clothes before you drop them off.

There is also a community wide consignment sale coming to East Texas. The Diboll Civic Center is playing host to the first of two seasonal sales. The Twice as Nice Consignment Spring Sale is May 15th and 16th. It is also a fantastic place to shop for great deals on name brand, gently used outfits and accessories. An option offered at the Twice as Nice Consignment Sale is that you may donate any of your unsold items to the Pregnancy Help Center in Lufkin once the show is over. The staff will even take care of it for you--all you have to do is pick up your cash and leave your clothes for the staff to donate for you.

In this economy, we all need to be frugal and thrifty. Consigning, whether at a shop or yearly sale, is a great way to clean out those overstuffed drawers and closets and also make a little extra spending money.

To find out more, you can visit online at twiceasnicesale.blogspot.com or call 936-829-4888.


I know there are a lot of women like me: mom, wife, friend, PTO officer, Sunday School teacher, a full time job, and the list goes on. There are times I want a day to myself or even a few hours to myself—nothing on the agenda, no plans, just get in the car and relax! Every time I do decide to have a girl’s night or get out for a few hours, I always feel guilty. I feel guilty for leaving my husband with the kids and for not being with the family. Then on top of that, my husband tries to hurry me- asking me, “How long will you be gone?” or “What time will you be back?” So the minute I leave, I feel like the clock is ticking which only adds stress to my time and does not make that time relaxing. My question is should I feel guilty? Is this normal?

Guilty FeelingsLufkin, Texas

Parting Advice:

Dear Guilty,Yes, it is probably normal to feel guilty, but certainly not feelings based on truth. I encourage you to create a “word” picture to use with your husband to help him understand your need to have a break. “Word” pictures paint a picture in their minds using stories that help them identify with your point – thus they are more inclined to receive correction and change their behavior. For example, just suppose that your husband likes to hunt. You may tell him that you feel like his favorite gun that he uses everyday and he never takes time to clean it, because he is so focused on hunting. One day the gun misfires and he realizes that it has been a long time since it was cleaned. You may say, “I feel like that gun! I am misfiring because I have had no time to get a manicure, pedicure, new make-up, or just have time to ‘think’. I need a

break!” He will understand what you are talking about!

Kathryn GreeneLufkin, Texas

Dear Guilty Feeling,I could’ve written the same question! Yes, I feel guilty too for taking time to myself or for doing/buying things for myself, and, yes, I think it is normal. Something about us moms -- we put ourselves last. Should we feel guilty? No. We all need time to ourselves, and I’ve realized that I’m a better mom, wife, employee, domestic engineer, etc. when I have some “me” time. We need to recharge our batteries. My advice is to keep having your girl time or your “me” time and if you must, schedule it and tell your husband that you are doing x, will be gone x, and not to call

unless it’s an emergency.

Tricia CainNacogdoches, Texas

Dear Exhausted!I would say that your guilty feelings are coming from exhaustion. Are they Normal – YES, good – NO! Just reading your job description caused my head to spin as I visualized this ‘thoroughly modern mom”. It

made me wish I could stand on a mountain and shout to moms: “STOP, RELAx, TAKE A BREATH”! IN A FEW HOURS TODAY WILL BE FOREVER GONE! Today’s society attempts to dictate that every mom be a SUPERMOM! Being a wife and a mom is a full time job …..Add to that another full time job, and immediately you are on overload. You should not feel guilty. However I would recommend that you prayerfully make an analysis of (prioritize) your responsibilities. Remember time in the Word of God and in prayer are priorities. Then discuss the results with your husband, commit to spend some time together in prayer each day

as you seek the solution.

Sandra NicholsNacogdoches, Texas

Dear Guilty Feeling:No one can tell you how you should feel, but we all need time away and you’re a better mom, wife, employee and volunteer for that me-time. First, talk to your husband about your needs and let him know that you want his support. Make your night out fun for everyone -- create a Dad’s night with movies and popcorn or send them out for pizza and ice cream. And when he asks “What time will you be back?” Just smile and

say “Later, Honey!”

Suzy Childers Lufkin, Texas

Dear Guilty,I wish that I had the answer to this question. I am this person. I guess it is normal for moms to feel this way. I can’t think of anything that I would rather do with any “freetime” then spend it with my husband and children. We seem to always be in such a rush and going in so many different directions that I feel guilty

about any me time.

Trecia JohnsonNacogdoches, Texas

The Journey May 2009

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