The Importance of Manners in ISLAM Mohamed Atallah 04 Dec, 2010 Elementary Course on Islam 2010 Organized by: Dawah Committee of Kowloon Masjid.

The Importance of Manners in ISLAM

Mohamed Atallah04 Dec, 2010

Elementary Course on Islam 2010Organized by: Dawah Committee of Kowloon Masjid

Do you know?

• Do you know how Islam spread to places like Indonesia, Malaysia, Kenya, Tanzania, Uganda, Nigeria, North Europe, etc?

• Do you know what was the main mission of the Prophet Muhammad PBUH?

• Do you know why the Muslim nation is today lagging behind other nations?

• Do you know what is a key factor for nations to prosper?

Listen to this story…

• A man came to the Prophet PBUH and told him that, O Messenger of Allah PBUH, there is a lady who is known for performing a lot of prayers, fasting and charity however she harms her neighbors by her tongue, so the Messenger said

SHE’S IN HELL FIRE!

Bankrupt?

"Do you know who is the one who is bankrupt?"

'The bankrupt is the one who has no money and no possessions.' He said, 'Among my Ummah, the one who is bankrupt is the one who will come on the Day of Resurrection with prayer and fasting and Zakah (to his credit), but he will come having insulted this one, slandered that one, consumed the wealth of this one and shed the blood of that one, and beaten that one. So they will all be given some of his hasanaat, and when his hasanaat run out, before judgment is passed, some of their sins will be taken and cast onto him, then he will be cast into the Fire.'"

Hypocrisy!• The Prophet PBUH said, there are 3

characters if to be found in someone then he’s a HYPOCRATE! Even if he fasts, prays, performs Hajj and Ummrah and says I’m a Muslim…

Whenever he talks, he tells a lie..

Whenever he makes a promise, he breaks it.

Whenever he makes a covenant he proves treacherous.

THE IMPORTANCE OF MANNERS IN ISLAM

The 2 Extremes!

Good MannersOR

Worship*

*(Prayers, Fasting, Hajj, Charity)

Manners & Worship

PRAYERS

• ر� ك� ن� م� ن ك�ٱ ر� آ ك� ن� ك� ن ٱ ر� ك� ى� ك� ن� ك� ك� ك� ك��ل ٱ ��ك �ر�"And establish regular Prayer: for Prayer restrains from

shameful and unjust deeds" [29:45]

Manners & Worship

CHARITY

• ك� ر ن! ر� ك#ي ك% م� ك� ن! م& م� ك� ك' م� ة) ك* ك+ ك, ن! ر� ر �ك- ن. �ك/ ن� ر. ن0 م1• "Take alms of their wealth, wherewith thou mayst purify

them and mayst make them grow" [9:103]

Manners & Worship

HAJJ

• ك. ك� ك2 ك� ن ٱ ر4ي ك5 �ك+ ر6 ك7 ك�ل ك9 م:- م4 ك7 ك�ل ك; ك4 ك> ك� ك4ل 2�ك ك� ن ٱ ��ك ر� ر4ي ك= ك� ك4 ك�� ك4 ت< ك. م@- Aن .�ك ت� م� Bن �ك/ 2�م ك� ن ٱ Cم @�ك ٱ Cم ن� ك@ Aن Dك ر� ني ك1 ن� ر. �ن م@- Aك ن� ك�

• "For Hajj are the months well known. If any one undertakes that duty therein, Let there be no obscenity, nor wickedness, nor wrangling in the Hajj. And whatever

good ye do, (be sure) God knoweth it." [2:197]

Manners & Worship

FASTING

When any one of you gets up in the morning in the state of fasting, he should neither use obscene language nor do

any act of ignorance. And if anyone slanders him or quarrels with him, he should say: "I am fasting, I am

fasting." (Muslim, 2563)

Quranic verses that shows the strong link between manners & worship

د� ل�ح� ق� ف� م ن�ون� أ� ك� ٱل�م�ؤ� -Fم ر� Aن .�م ر- Gن @�ك ٱ ر� ك� ن! م& ك� D0ر �ك ك�ٱ �ك -Aم Bر ك1 ن! ر� ر� ك� ك,ل ر4ي ن! م& ك� D0ر �ك ٱ"The believers must (eventually) win through, Those who

humble themselves in their prayers, Who avoid vain talk." [23:1-3]

ة ك�. كHل �ن م- ك* �ك م@- ر& Iك � م! م� Jك Kك ك1 �Lك �ر� ك� ة ن-ن ك& ر= ن> ك/7 ٱل ى� ك@ ك� �ك م�- ن� Dك ك� D0ر �ك ٱ ر� Nى ك� Oن ��ك ٱ Pم Jك ر� ك�"And the servants of (God) Most Gracious are those who

walk on the earth in humility, and when the ignorant address them, they say, "Peace!"" [25:63]

�ك م�� �آ ك� Dم ن! م& ك� D0ر �ك ٱ �ك م&- Hك ن! ر� ر� ك� ك,ل ك�� ن! م& ك� D0ر �ك ٱ ك� ك@ي ك� م� ن@ ك Qت Dن ك- ٱل�م�اع�ون� و�ي�م�ن�ع�ون�ك4So woe to the worshippers, who are neglectful of their prayers, those who (want but) to be seen (of men), But refuse (to supply) (even) neighborly needs." [107:4-7]

Selections of some of the manners that the Prophet PBUH has taught us

• Making peace among people.• Feeding ones wife.• Being good to neighbors.• Guarding secrets.• Politeness in speech.• Etiquettes: Guests, relatives &

speech.• Treating servants.• Being humble.• Selflessness (Ethaar)

Making peace among PEOPLE

"Doing justice between two men is charity, and assisting a man to ride an animal or to load his luggage on it is

charity; and a good word is charity, every step which one takes towards the mosque is charity, and removing harmful things from the way is charity." [Bukhari]

Feeding ones WIFE

"You will never spend anything seeking thereby the Face of Allah, but you will be rewarded for it, even (the food) that

you put in your wife’s mouth“ [Bukhari 56]

Being good to NEIGHBORS

"By Allah, he is not a believer! By Allah, he is not a believer! By Allah, he is not a believer." It was asked, "Who is that, O Messenger of Allah?" He said, "One whose neighbor

does not feel safe from his evil." [Bukhari].

Guarding SECRETS

"The most evil of the people to Allah on the Day of Resurrection will be the man who consorts with his wife

and then publicizes her secret." [Muslim]

Politeness in SPEECH

"It is also a charity to utter a good word." [Bukhari]

Etiquettes: GUESTS, KINS & SPEECH

“He who believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him show hospitality to his guest; and he who believes in Allah and

the Last Day, let him maintain good relation with kin's; and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him

speak good or remain silent." [Bukhari]

Treating SERVANTS

"Anas (the servant of the Prophet PBUH) says: "I served the holy Prophet for ten years. He never said 'Uf

(expressing dissatisfaction), nor did he ever ask me why I did this or did not do that. [Muslim]

Being HUMBLE

"He who observes humility God will make him so exalted that, ultimately, he will attain the highest grade in

Paradise.”

Selflessness (Ethaar)

It means, giving preference to others over yourself and considering their happiness and welfare before your own. For example:

When Omar Ibn-Al-Khattab was dying after being struck by Lo’lo’a Al-Majoosi, he asked his son to go to Aisha (RA) and tell her, “Omar

Ibn-Al-Khattab, and don’t tell her Amir Al-Mo'mineen for I am not so any more, tell her Omar Ibn-Al-Khattab is requesting your

permission to be buried beside his friends (the Prophet (PBUH) and

Abu-Bakr (RA)) in her room. She replied, “I wanted that place for myself, but I shall offer it to Omar”.

The rewards & blessings of having good manners

1. Pleasing Allah SWT

2. Being close to the Prophet PBUH on the Day of Judgment.

3. Paradise.

4. Heavy deeds in the scale on the Day of Judgment.

5. Being amongst the best in the world.

1. Pleasing Allah SWT

The Prophet PBUH said "Allah is beautiful and loves beauty, and He loves noble manners (ma'ali) and He

hates, he despises lowly characteristics."

2. Being close to the Prophet PBUH on the Day of Judgment

"Those of you who will be closest to me on the Day of Judgment will be those who have the best manners."

"And the people who are the most hated by me and the ones who are the furthest from me in the Hereafter are

those who have the worst manners”.

3. Paradise

"Someone asked the Prophet PBUH, "What is the one characteristic that will cause the most amounts of people to enter Paradise?" The Prophet PBUH responded, "To

have the taqwa (fear) of Allah and to have good manners."

4 .Heavy deeds in the scale on the Day of Judgment

""The heaviest aspect, the heaviest matter [that will help a believer] that will be in the Meezaan (scale), on the scales on the Day of Judgment, is good manners."

5. Being amongst the best in this world

• "The best blessing that a person can be given in this life is manners."

• "Mankind has not been given anything better than good manners."

• "The people (or the Mu'mins) who have perfected their eman (faith) most perfectly, are those who are best in manners.“

• "The best of the Mu'mineen (the believers) are the ones who are best in their manners.“

• "The best of you are those of you who are best to their wives."

The Prayer of the Prophet PBUH

• The Prophet PBUH used to supplicate: "Allahumma inni a`udhu bika min munkaratil-akhlaqi, wal-a`mali, wal-ahwa`i (O Allah! I seek refuge in You from undesirable manners, deeds, and aspirations).''[At-Tirmidhi]

• "O Allah, as You have beautified my image, so beautify my morals"

Can a person really change / improve his manners / behaviors?

• Definitely, and the biggest proof are the companions of the Prophet Muhammad PBUH.

HOW??• Choose the right companions.• Accept criticism and work on improving.• Know the importance and the blessings of

having good / perfect manners. • Follow the footsteps of our beloved Prophet

Muhammad PBUH, whom Allah SWT says about him in the Quran "And indeed, you are upon a noble conduct, an exemplary manner" [68:4]

JAZAKOM ALLAH KHAYRAN

- May Allah SWT reward you all -

Mohamed Atallah

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