The Hidden The Hidden Addictions Addictions YEDEM & Believers Network Club GHANA
Dec 15, 2015
What do all addictions have in common?
An escape of feelings
Avoiding real anxieties in life
By
disengaging from reality
Lack of control
A sense of lackA sense of lack of control that can not be of control that can not be overcome by reason aloneovercome by reason alone
The attachmentThe attachment becomes too strong in a becomes too strong in a way that surpasses reason and logicway that surpasses reason and logic
Destructive and unhealthy behavior
Eventually harms the body, mind and spirit.
Erodes balanced living
Denial
• Denial of the control of addiction or destructive consequences
• Initial denial has to be broken for a person to recover
Personality Types in Hidden Addictions
• Self seeking: have personal problems and anxieties, they tend to search for some activity to relieve the anxiety, the activity acts as a tranquilizer e.g. addictions to worry and helping the needy
• Thrill seeking: are driven by excessive need for excitement and stimulation to escape monotony e.g. thrill seeking sex and excessive game playing
• Self deficient: suffer from low self esteem, look for self mastery to prove self worth: e.g. sex addiction and workaholism
Personality Types in Hidden Addictions
• High conforming: need to follow the crowd, copy others and must be with people. They feel miserable if left alone and need the assurance of others, lack self direction and the ability to affirm their own actions: they search for company to stabilize their insecurities e.g. codependency
• Socially isolated: loners, avoid getting close to other people, are not sure of themselves, avoid responsibility of relationships and intimacy. They for being known for what they are. They seek comfort in isolation e.g. TV and computer addiction
• Self punishing: these people derive pleasure from pain. They search for pain to resolve neurotic guilt. They are aware of their inadequacies and failures: e.g. addiction to rage and resentment, devotion to duty
Characteristics of Workaholics
• The Workaholic is not free: he is compelled by inner forces to be working excessively. Usually these forces are not understood.
• The workaholic depends entirely on his work as a source of self esteem: Without working, workaholics see themselves worthless. They have no social life.
The Workaholic
• The workaholic is totally immersed in work: no room for:– Recreation– Hobbies– Community interest
He constantly thinks about work even before going to bed or while driving or during a family visit.
He experiences weekend depression!
The Workaholic
• The Workaholic has a neurotic need to work: nothing done seems good enough!
• The Workaholic can have multiple addictions: e.g. food, money and sex
• The Workaholic is isolated, self centered, lacks intimacy, self destructive and dishonest.
• The Workaholic usually suffers from psychological and physiological problems as well as spiritual poverty.
The Workaholic’s Family
Workaholism affects the whole family, and makes it dysfunctional while there is no bottle to blame!
The Workaholic’s Family
The legacy of Adult Children of Workaholics (a mere continuation)• Perfectionist Workaholics• Self - Critical• High levels of Anxiety• Outwardly focused• People – pleasers• Parents before their time
Treatment
• Break the Denial
“deriving our identity and self-esteem from what we do; keeping overly busy; neglecting our health, relationships, and spirituality; seeing everything as work-related; having no desire to do anything (work avoidance or burnout); procrastinating; postponing vacations and rest; doing unnecessary work; worrying; perfectionism; avoiding intimacy; being controlling. All these are ways we cope with the pain of having lost our sense of being and of not feeling good enough”. From Workaholics Anonymous