Teaching Children Good Manners, Grace, and Courtesy Cathleen Haskins www.montessoriwise.com
Feb 22, 2016
Teaching Children Good Manners, Grace, and
Courtesy
Cathleen Haskinswww.montessoriwise.com
Table and Food Manners
Language for Respect
and Kindness
Social Manners
Teaching Methods• Direct Teach• Role Play• Real Life Situations• Puppetry• Modeling• Songs and Poems• Picture Books
Table and Food Manners
• Language• Skills
Table and Food Manners
Saying yes please, orno thank you
• Teacher to assistant, “Would you like to have a cracker?”
• Assistant, “Yes please.”
• Pause and repeat, this time assistant replies, “No thank you.”
• Offer each child a cracker.They reply with yes please, or no thank you.
Table and Food Manners
Wait foreveryone to be served before youbegin eating.
Table and Food Manners
May I have... • Make sure your mouth isn’t full
• Raise your hand
• Say, “May I have (another apple slice), please.”
• Don’t forget, “Thank you.”
Table and Food Manners
Using a napkinAt the table:• Give each child a napkin• Invite children to place
napkin on lap.• Demonstrate how to use
by dabbing the corner ofthe mouth.
• Return napkin to lap.• When finished, place napkin
next to plate.
Cloth vs. Paper Napkins
Or This
Table and Food Manners
Mirrors for self checking
Table and Food Manners
Chewing with your mouth closedNot talking while chewing food
• At snack assistant asksthe teacher, who has food in her mouth, a question.
• Teacher points out she is eating and waits until she is done to reply.
• Explain to children.
Table and Food Manners
Feeling full
• Place utensils and napkin on plate or table.
• “That was delicious, but now I’m full.”
• “I am satisfied, thank you.”
Table and Food MannersBurping etiquetteCircle Time/Role Play
• Take a sip of water.
• Force yourself to burp,covering your mouth.
• Say, excuse me.”
(About giggling…)
Table and Food Manners
Removing food crumbs from the table
Crumbing Activity
Elbows off the table
Fingers off the food
Ask for something to be passed
For reaching is so rude.
New School Table Manners
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CcZYQt1gUhY
Award-WinningElizabeth Verdik
Toddler Board Book
Carrie Finn
3-5 years
Karen Lefranc
5-8 years
Mike Nawrocki
2-6 years
Stan & Jan Berenstain
3 years and up
Aliki
3 years and up
Norman Bridwell
3 years and up
http://www.amazon.com/Excuse-Me-Lisa-Kopelke/dp/0689851111/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1334001686&sr=1-3
Language for Respect and Kindness
Teaching children
to affirm oneanotherGive children an opportunity to affirm eachother. Make time for affirmation sharing.
“I like the way you do that.”
“You’re a good friend.”
“ You are so helpful (kind, generous, peaceful).”
Language for Respect and KindnessWhen someone mayneed help:
“Are you Okay? Can I help you?”
About repetition.
Language for Respect and KindnessWhen someone is havingtrouble or is sad:
“What’s wrong?”
“Is there anything Ican do to help?”
• Teach the word compassion.
Language for Respect and Kindness
When a child wants to join an activity:
“May I join, please?”
Language for Respect and Kindness
When the answer is no: “Not right now,thank you.”
“Maybe anothertime.”
“I’d rather be alone, thanks.”
Language for Respect and Kindness
Asking for a turn
“May I have a turn, please.”
Waiting for a response
Language for Respect and Kindness
When a child needs assistance:
“Can you please help me?”
Language for Respect and Kindness
When you didn’t hear something:
“Excuse me?”
“Pardon me?”
Language for Respect and Kindness
When a child has returned after beinggone“I missed you.”“Everybody missed you.”“I’m glad you’re back.”“It’s better when you’re here.”
Language for Respect and Kindness
Encouraging gentleness:
With a young child, stroke their arm and say softly, “Gentle, gentle please.”
Demonstrating with a small animal works well to teach this lesson.
Tone of voice.
Language for Respect and Kindness
Speaking softly
• Silence Game• Use a Radio or CD Player
Language for Respect and Kindness
Lending (or sharing) something:
“Would you like to borrow (my book, this toy)?
“Yes, that would be nice.”
After receiving the item, “Thank you.”
Language for Respect and Kindness
Asking for something back
“Are you finished with my book?”
“May I have my book back, please.”
Language for Respect and Kindness
Showing Regret or Remorse:
• Look the person in the eye.• Speak slowly“I’m really very sorry.”“What can I do to make it up to you?”
Language for Respect and Kindness
Asking for the teacher (adult’s) attentionwhen he is busy:
• Is the teacher with someone?• Is the teacher working on something?• Stand nearby, but not too close.• Wait until the teacher gives eye contact.
Teaching about eye contact
Language for Respect and Kindness
“I’m sorry to interrupt, but …”
Language for Respect and KindnessWhen another child is busy:• Is the child with someone?• Is the child working on something?• Stand nearby, but not too close.• Wait until the child turns and gives eye
contactto speak.
“Excuse me…”
Social MannersBlowing your nose:T
• Pull tip of tissue to get a tissue from the box.
• Fold tissue in half.
• Cover nose and blow.
• Fold tissue and dab nose.
• Throw tissue in bin.“Today I’m going to show you how to blow your nose.”
Social MannersSneezing and
coughing:• Look away and down.
• Move away from food.
• Cover mouth with tissue and cough.
• Dispose of tissue.
• Or, sneeze into elbow.“Today I’m going to show you how to sneeze.”
Social MannersDealing with gas:
Simply say, “Excuse me.”
Or, move away if you can.
Social MannersPolite yawn: Cover your
mouth.
Use a quiet
voice.
Social MannersPutting others first/after you:
“After you.”
Social MannersAsk or answer aquestionin circle time:
• Stay seated.
• Make no sound.
• Keep your hand below• You head.
Social MannersLining up:
“As quiet as a deer in the woods.”
“Be like a butterfly.”
Social MannersClosing a door quietly:The teacher stands at the door, and whispers the children's names. When the child hears his name being called, he will rise up and go to the door and open the door as silently as he is able.
Social MannersClosing a drawer carefully:You will need a small chest of drawers.Invite children to listen and watch closely.
• Place both hands on knobs and gently pull open.• Put both hands, fingers flat, against the open• drawer.• Push gently and slide the drawer back in.