Taleem & Tarbiyyat Workbook 2017 2019

Taleem & Tarbiyyat Workbook

2017 – 2019

Prepared by the Taleem & Tarbiyyat Departments Lajna Ima’illah - USA

Sadr Lajna Ima’illah – USA Saliha Malik

National Secretary Taleem Mubarika Shah

Taleem Committee

Akavish Khan Fareeha Haroon Amtul Mujeeb Chaudry Salima Ahmed Attiya Salik Bushra Sultana Nudrat Salik Mabroor Jattala

National Secretary Tarbiyyat Aziza Rahman

Tarbiyyat Committee

Bushra Salam Bajwa Mabroor Jattala Fauzia Qureshi Mubarka Sadiq

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Lajna Ima’illah-USA Taleem & Tarbiyyat Workbook

2017 – 2019

Table of Contents

Page TALEEM WORKBOOK Taleem Program Summary 3 Etiquettes for Reading the Holy Qur’an 7 Taleem Program Quarter 1 April/May/June 2017 9 Quarter 2 July/August/September 2017 18 Quarter 3 October/November/December 2017 29 Quarter 4 January/February/March 2018 40 Quarter 5 April/May/June 2018 50 Quarter 6 July/August/September 2018 58 Quarter 7 October/November/December 2018 69 Quarter 8 January/February/March 2019 81 Taleem Appendices

Appendix A – Salat with Split Word Meanings/Translation 94 Appendix B – Life After Death and Islamic Teachings 102

References & Sources to Complete Workbook 105 Acknowledgments 105 TARBIYYAT WORKBOOK Tarbiyyat Program 2017-2019 109 Implementation of Syllabus and Workbook 109 References and Reading Material 110 Tarbiyyat Program Quarter 1 April/May/June 2017 111 Quarter 2 July/August/September 2017 120 Quarter 3 October/November/December 2017 130 Quarter 4 January/February/March 2018 140 Quarter 5 April/May/June 2018 150 Quarter 6 July/August/September 2018 160 Quarter 7 October/November/December 2018 171 Quarter 8 January/February/March 2019 181 Etiquettes and Guidelines 191

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Taleem (Education) Program “Rabbe Zidni Ilma” O my Lord! Increase me in my knowledge. (20:115)

The goal of the Taleem program is to enhance and improve the religious knowledge of Lajna USA through mutual collaboration and religious education programs at local and national levels. This is a program that meets the learning needs of Lajna of all age groups.

AREAS OF FOCUS HOLY QUR’AN Nazirah: Learn correct reading and pronunciation of the Holy Qur’an with translation by implementing the following:

In general meetings, review Tilawat with translation and revision of Holy Qur’an recitation & rules.

Encourage one-to-one teaching at local levels.

Encourage Lajna members to participate in online Nazirah classes.

Study of the Holy Qur’an: The Workbook provides focused study for small groups, during Halqa meetings and at home, with questions on Surah Al-Nisa’ with commentary. Memorization of Holy Qur’an Prayers: Memorize the Holy Qur’an from:

Selected verses identified in the Workbook.

Learn split-word translation of verses provided in the Workbook.

SALAT Learn split-word translation of Salat

and understand the deeper meaning of each part of the Salat wording and position.

Increase knowledge of Salat and Ibadat (prayers) using various resources including Friday sermons and information provided in the Workbook by the Taleem Department.

AHADITH Present Ahadith in the meeting as provided in the Workbook, related to the topic of verses recited.

BOOKS OF THE PROMISED MESSIAHAS

Malfoozat or writings of the Promised Messiahas related to the Hadith topic should be read in the meetings.

Books of the Promised Messiahas should be read in book clubs, individually or by other methods of choice.

GENERAL ISLAMIC KNOWLEDGE

Assigned Books: The assigned books for this program are:

1. The Will by The Promised Messiahas, Hazrat Mirza Ghulam Ahmad

2. Noah’s Ark (Kashti-e-Nuh) by The Promised Messiahas, Hazrat Mirza Ghulam Ahmad

Modules: Special selected topic for the module is provided for each quarter. These topics are based on Shura proposals and subjects that are related to the verses or identified based on Majalis needs.

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SPECIAL ACTIVITY Seerat-un-Nabi Jalsa: The month of October will be designated as Seerat-un-Nabi month for Lajna. All Lajna Majalis are requested to plan and hold Jalsa Seerat-un-Nabi during this month. Special meetings and activities should be held to learn and celebrate our beloved Prophetsaw. Invite non-Ahmadi and non-Muslim guests to this special meeting/Jalsa. Majalis may hold these activities in any month of this quarter.

ANNUAL TALEEM TEST The Annual Taleem test is a requirement according to the Lajna constitution. All members must participate in the test, which is designed to reinforce the learning achieved during the year.

50% questions on the Holy Qur’an from the Workbook 25% questions on the Ahadith 25% questions on the assigned books

ACHIEVEMENTS IN SECULAR EDUCATION The Taleem department encourages members to accomplish outstanding achievements in secular education. Members are also encouraged to apply for the Ahmadiyya Talent Awards that are organized by Jama’at for students or professionals who have excelled in their studies and/or have achieved outstanding success in their professional fields. The application submission is during the month of March, and awards are given at Jalsa Salana USA.

OVERVIEW OF QUARTERLY TALEEM PROGRAM

Quarter #1 April – June, 2017 Quarter #2 July – September, 2017 Holy Qur’an: Surah Al-Nisa’, Nazirah, translation & short commentary of Verses 1- 11. (Note: one month of the Taleem program is reduced due to Ramadhan). Hadith & Mulfoozat: Hadith from the Workbook, and present topic-related Mulfoozat in the meeting. Salat: Continue learning translation at home, read Workbook information in meeting. General Knowledge: Read ‘The Will’ pages 1 to 20 at home and may discuss in meeting as planned by local Sadr. Memorization: Holy Qur’an prayers with translation from the Workbook. Special Activity/Module: Special program on Importance of Ramadhan and revision of Ramadhan related prayers.

Holy Qur’an: Nazirah, translation & short commentary Surah Al-Nisa’ Verses 12-19. Hadith & Mulfoozat: Hadith from the Workbook, and present topic-related Mulfoozat in the meeting. Salat: Continue learning translation at home, read Workbook information in meeting. General Knowledge: Read ‘The Will’ pages 21 to end at home, may discuss in meeting as planned by local Sadr. Memorization: Holy Qur’an verses with translation, from the Workbook. Special Activity/Module: Speech competition on the following topics: Islamic Laws of inheritance support women’s rights and a healthy society OR Rights and status given to women by Islam.


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Quarter #3 October – December, 2017 Quarter #4 January – March, 2018 Holy Qur’an: Nazirah, translation & short commentary Surah Al-Nisa’ Verses 20-26. Hadith & Mulfoozat: Hadith from the Workbook, and present topic related Mulfoozat in the meeting. Salat: Continue learning translation at home, read Workbook information in meeting. General Knowledge: Read ‘Noah’s Ark’ at home from pages 1 to 17, may discuss in meeting as planned by local Sadr. Memorization: Prayers from the Workbook with split word translation. Special Activities/Module: 1) Hold Jalsa Seerat-un-Nabisaw with invited guests. Address the topics of Peace and Liberation of Women.

Holy Qur’an: Nazirah, translation & short commentary Surah Al-Nisa’ Verses 27-36. Hadith & Mulfoozat: Hadith from the Workbook, and present topic related Mulfoozat in the meeting. Salat: Continue learning translation at home, read Workbook information in meeting. General Knowledge: Read ‘Noah’s Ark’ at home from pages 19 to 44 as planned by local Sadr. Memorization: Prayer from the Workbook. Special Activities/Module: How the Holy Qur’an defines equality of women and men and their roles and responsibilities. Annual Taleem Test

Quarter #5 April – June, 2018 Quarter #6 July – September, 2018 Holy Qur’an: Nazirah, translation & short commentary Surah Al-Nisa’ Verses 37-46. (Note: one month of the Taleem program is reduced due to the month of Ramadhan). Hadith & Malfoozat: Hadith from the Workbook, and present topic-related Mulfoozat in the meeting. Salat: Continue learning translation at home, read Workbook information in meeting. General Knowledge: Read ‘Noah’s Ark’ at home from pages 45 to 55 as planned by local Sadr. Memorization: Prayer from the Workbook. Special Activity/Module: Conduct workshop or Quiz on Ramadhan.

Holy Qur’an: Nazirah, translation & short commentary Surah Al-Nisa’ Verses 47-60. Hadith & Malfoozat: Hadith from the Workbook, and present topic-related Mulfoozat in the meeting. Salat: Continue learning translation at home, read Workbook information in meeting General Knowledge: Read ‘Noah’s Ark’ at home from pages 56 to 73 as planned by local Sadr. Memorization: Prayer from the Workbook. Special Activity/Module: Speech competition on the topic of choice related to current affairs about women and children.


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Quarter #7 October – December, 2018 Quarter #8 January – March, 2019 Holy Qur’an: Nazirah, translation & short commentary Surah Al-Nisa’ Verses 61-77. Hadith & Malfoozat: Hadith from the Workbook, and present topic-related Mulfoozat in the meeting. Salat: Continue learning translation at home, read Workbook information in meeting. General Knowledge: Read ‘Noah’s Ark’ at home from pages 73 to 99 as planned by local Sadr. Memorization: Prayer from the Workbook. Special Activities/Module: Hold Jalsa Seerat-un-Nabisaw. Arrange special activities during the month of October to learn and understand the life and characteristics of the Holy Prophetsaw.

Holy Qur’an: Nazirah, translation & short commentary Surah Al-Nisa’ Verses 78-92. Hadith& Malfoozat: Hadith from the Workbook, and present topic-related Mulfoozat in the meeting. Salat: Continue learning translation at home, read Workbook information in meeting. General Knowledge: Read ‘Noah’s Ark’ at home from pages 99 to 139 as planned by local Sadr. Memorization: Prayer from the Workbook Special Activities/Module: How to protect ourselves from Hypocrisy OR How to be strong in faith OR Societal pressures and how to stand against them. Annual Taleem Test

LEARNING THE HOLY QUR’AN

"The best among you is the one who learns and teaches the Holy Qur'an"

(Sahih Bukhari) Lajna is offering classes for learning to read the correct pronunciation of the Holy Qur'an on a website that has been setup by the Jama’at with trained Lajna teachers. You can register for these classes through the Lajna website at: http://www.lajnausa.net/web/learn-correct-pronunciation You can get information about online Holy Qur'an classes for learning translation, which are organized by the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community, Department of Taleem-ul-Qur'an. These classes are helpful for reading the Holy Qur'an (in Arabic) with correct pronunciation and understanding the meaning. Please visit www.alfurqan.us to get more information and/or register yourself.

Mubarika Shah | National Secretary Taleem | 703-968-9109 | [email protected]


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ETIQUETTES FOR READING THE HOLY QUR’AN Be physically and spiritually clean.

“That this is indeed a noble Qur’an; In a well preserved book; Which none shall touch except those who are purified” (56:78-80)

We should be physically clean and, preferably, perform wudū before its recitation. Also to fully absorb the blessings of the Qur’an and to understand its real meanings, one should be spiritually pure, clean and sincere in one’s beliefs.

Recite the following prayer before reciting the Holy Qur’an. The Holy Qur’an directs us to say Ta’awwudh before reciting the Holy Qur’an: a‘üdhu billähi minash-shaitänir-rajïm “Seek refuge with Allah from Satan the rejected.” (16:99)

Remain silent and listen when the Holy Qur’an is recited.

"And when the Qur'an is recited, give ear to it and keep silence, that you may be shown mercy." (7:205)

Handle the Holy Qu’ran respectfully.

We should not place the Workbooks or any written pages of the Holy Qur’an on the floor or in a dirty place. We should always have the utmost outward respect for the words of Allah.

Recite the Holy Qur’an at dawn.

Daily recitation is preferred at dawn. The Holy Qur’an states: “And the recitation of the Qur’an in Prayer at dawn. Verily, the recitation of the Qur’an at dawn is specially acceptable to God.” (17:79)


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TALEEM PROGRAM 2017 - 2019

“Rabbe Zidni Ilma” O my Lord! Increase me in my knowledge. (20:115)


TALEEM PROGRAM

Quarter 1

(April, May, & June 2017)

ACTIVITIES FOR THE QUARTER

Special Note: Due to Ramadhan activities, the Taleem program has been reduced for this quarter. During this special month, effort should be made to increase our personal Ibadaat through fasting, extra Nawafal and reading of the Holy Qur’an. The program for two months has been provided. It will be the choice of the local Majlis to select which 2 of the 3 months to cover this program. Special Activity/Module - Special program on the Importance of Ramadhan and revision of Ramadhan related prayers. Refer to the Taleem section of the Lajna website for resources. Book Reading – Read pages 1 to 20 of ‘The Will’. Response Prayer - Memorize the following:

When the Imam recites the second verse of Surah Al-A`laa,

لاoالاعلی ك سم رب سبح ا

sabbi hisma rabbikal a’la Glorify the name of thy Lord, the Most High (87:2)

we should dutifully say:

سبحان ربی الاعلی

sùbhāna rabbi yal ā’lā

Holy is My Lord, the Most High! Memorization - Memorize the following prayer from the Holy Qur’an (2:128)

oانت السميع العليم ك ان طا تقبل منا ربن Rabbanā taqabbal minnā ’innaka ’anta- sSamī ‘ul ‘Alīm

‘Our Lord, accept this from us; for Thou art All-Hearing, All-Knowing’


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April 2017

Holy Qur’an Read the following verses 1 to 6 of the 1st Ruku of Surah Al-Nisá with translation and answer the questions below.

[4:1] In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.

[4:2] O ye people! fear your Lord, Who created you from a single soul and created therefrom its mate, and from them twain spread many men and women; and fear Allah, in Whose name you appeal to one another, and fear Him particularly respecting ties of relationship. Verily, Allah watches over you.

[4:3] And give to the orphans their property and exchange not the bad for the good, and devour not their property with your own. Surely, it is a great sin.

[4:4] And if you fear that you will not be fair in dealing with the orphans, then marry of women as may be agreeable to you, two, or three, or four; and if you fear you will not deal justly, then marry only one or what your right hands possess. That is the nearest way for you to avoid injustice.


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[4:5] And give the women their dowries willingly. But if they, of their own pleasure, remit to you a part thereof, then enjoy it as something pleasant and wholesome.

[4:6] And give not to the foolish your property which Allah has made for you a means of support; but feed them therewith and clothe them and speak to them words of kind advice.

Introduction of Surah Al- Nisá This Surah is appropriately entitled Al-Nisá (The Women) because it deals mostly with the rights and responsibilities of women and their status in society. The previous Surah, Surah Al-Imran was mostly about the Christian faith. In this Surah, however, there is a comparison of the detailed teachings of the two religions, Islam and Christianity. Special reference is made to the progress and domination of Christianity in the Latter Days. In the Latter Days, Christianity claimed superiority over Islam on the basis of its teachings related to women. However, a simple review of this Surah clearly establishes the fact that Islamic teachings are infinitely superior to those of Christianity. This Surah is the first in divine revelations to safeguard the rights of women. The subject of orphans is closely related to women; therefore, special instructions are provided in this Surah to safeguard their rights. This Surah also has a special connection with the previous Surah, which concluded with the advice given to Muslims to be patient. The Surah gives indications of upcoming wars resulting in large numbers of widows and orphans. Guidance and solutions to difficulties arising from wars are also provided, such as permission to have more than one wife in order to take care of widows.


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Hadith

a) Narrated by Hazrat Abu Hurairahra: Said the Holy Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be on him): “In marrying a woman, a man’s choice of a spouse is determined by the consideration of her wealth, her family and her physical beauty and her religious piety, but thou shouldst make thy life happy, prosperous and successful, by choosing a spouse on account of her religious piety, otherwise thy hands will ever remain in dust.” (Bukhari; Forty Gems of Beauty p.81)

b) Narrated by Hazrat Abdullah bin Abi Aufara: Said the Holy Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be on him): “I swear by the Being who holds the life of Muhammad in His hands that no woman shall be deemed to have done her duty by her God unless she has done her duty to her husband.” (Ibn Majah; Forty Gems of Beauty, p.90)

c) Umm Salamah relates that the Holy Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be on

him) said: “If a woman dies and her husband is pleased with her she will enter Paradise.” (Tirmidhi; Gardens of Righteous/Riyadh As-Salahin, p.69)

Read Malfoozat or writings of the Promised Messiahas on the same subject as these Ahadith

Holy Qur’an Recitation Rules

Marks/Signs of Pausing during Tilāwat The various signs in the Holy Qur’an used for stop or pause while reciting the Holy Qur’an are presented in the next few quarters. These rules and the description of each rule are taken from the books Tahsīnul-Qur’ãn and and Ta’limul-Qura’n. In the Holy Qur’ān, a circle “O” represents the end of a verse and is called an Āyã, meaning “evidence”. If there is a sign(s) on top of an Āyã, the reader can either stop or continue according to the sign. Sometimes the signs are on top of each other and the top sign must be given preference. Yet again, the value of Āyã must not be ignored.

Pause Mark Mark Name What to do in Tilãwat 0, O, ﴾﴿

(Ãyã sign) Stop at the end of a verse. Pausing at the

end of a verse was the Sunnah of the Holy Prophetsaw. Wasl (joining) is also allowed.

Tahsīnul-Qur’ãn - For further detail please see page 75-89: https://www.alislam.org/quran/Talim-ul-Quran.pdf


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Summary of Surah Al-Nisá Verses 1 – 6 The Surah begins with the subject of creation of human beings from a single soul. Allah has provided mates for each other from the same species. In relation to the creation of humans, the subject of marriage is also discussed. The key to a successful marriage is Taqwa (righteousness), being honest with each other and having fear of God when dealing with relations. The Surah enjoins men and women to treat one another with kindness. After describing the rights and responsibilities of husbands and wives, it proceeds to emphasize the need of protecting future generations by safeguarding the rights and interests of orphans. April 2017 Questions 1. Why did the Holy Prophetsaw make it his practice to recite the first verse of Surah Al-Nisá at

the time of Nikhah?

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2. What is meant by “and of its kind created its mate” in verse 2 of Surah Al-Nisá? How is this related to a well-known Hadith about the creation of women from a rib?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ 3. What are the conditions and historical facts behind the concept of polygamy (having more

than one wife) in Islam?

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Salat Points 1. The purpose of the creation of man is to worship Allah. Allah says in the Holy Qur’an “And I

have not created the jinn and the men but that they may worship Me.” (Chapter 51; Verse 57)

2. Prayer is the essence of Salat and without praying, the heart cannot be melted towards Allah. Salat is not a performance; it is not to be superficial and should be said with devotion and sincerity. (Translation from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)

3. Salat is to be offered at its appointed time. Salat must be performed with purity of heart,

humility and submission, devotion and concentration, and deference. (Translation from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)

May 2017

Holy Qur’an

Read the following verses 7 to 11 of the 1st Ruku of Surah Al-Nisá with translation and answer the questions below.

[4:7] And prove the orphans until they attain the age of marriage; then, if you find in them sound judgment, deliver to them their property; and devour it not in extravagance and haste against their growing up. And whoso is rich, let him abstain; and whoso is poor, let him eat thereof with equity. And when you deliver to them their property, then call witnesses in their presence. And Allah is sufficient as a Reckoner.


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[4:8] For men is a share of that which parents and near relations leave; and for women is a share of that which parents and near relations leave, whether it be little or much — a determined share.

[4:9] And when other relations and orphans and the poor are present at the division of heritage, give them something therefrom and speak to them words of kindness.

[4:10] And let those fear God who, if they should leave behind them their own weak offspring, would be anxious for them. Let them, therefore, fear Allah and let them say the right word.

[4:11] Surely, they who devour the property of orphans unjustly, only swallow fire into their bellies, and they shall burn in a blazing fire.


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Hadith

a) Hazrat Sahl bin Sa’dra relates that the Holy Prophetsaw said: “I and the guardian of the

orphan will be in the Paradise close together like two fingers,” and the Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) demonstrated it by closing his two fingers together. (Muslim; Hadeeqa tus Salahin, p.680-681)

b) Hazrat Abu Hurairahra, relates that the Holy Prophetsaw said: “The most perfect of believers in the matter of faith is he whose behavior is best; and the best of you are those who behave best towards their wives.” (Tirmidhi; Gardens of Righteous/Riyadh As-Salahin, p.68)

c) Hazrat Abu Hurairahra, relates that the Holy Prophetsaw said: “He who exerts himself on behalf of widows and the indigent is like one who strives in the cause of Allah”, and the narrator thinks he added: “and like the guardian who never retreats, and like the one who observes the fast and does not break it.” (Bukhari and Muslim, Gardens of Righteous/Riyadh As-Salahin, p.68)



Marks/Signs of Pausing during Tilāwat Pause Mark Mark Name What to do in Tilãwat

.Compulsory to stop here (Mīm) م

.Better to stop but not compulsory (’Tã) طTahsīnul-Qur’ãn - For further detail please see page 75-89: https://www.alislam.org/quran/Talim-ul-Quran.pdf

Summary of Surah Al-Nisá Verses 7 – 11

The matters discussed in these verses have a special bearing upon social order. Special emphasis on the care and good treatment of orphans continues in more detail. Guardians are warned to protect the money of orphans until they are mature enough to take care of it by themselves. Special warnings are given to the guardians of orphans to take care of them with kindness and to not devour their property. Islamic Laws of inheritance and the general principle of social equality of man and woman are introduced in these verses. Both man and woman are entitled to a suitable share in property. Muslims are also reminded to take care of poor distant relatives who legally have no rights in inheritance.


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May 2017 Questions 4. How does Islam safeguard the rights of orphans as described in Verses 7 to 11?

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5. Which verse establishes the Islamic Law of inheritance and what general principal is

described in this verse?

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Salat Points

1. The significance of saying Salat is given in the Holy Qur’an: “Surely, Prayer restrains one

from indecency and manifest evil; and remembrance of Allah, indeed, is the greatest virtue.” (Chapter 29; Verse 46)

2. Upon hearing Iqamah (call for start of congregational prayer), the worshipers are to straighten their rows. Ensure that there are no gaps in the rows, stand shoulder to shoulder and your feet should be in a straight line. The Holy Prophetsaw was very particular about the straightness of rows. (Translation from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum & Salat—Muslim Book of Prayers)

3. Lines originate from the center of a row since the aim is to stay centered behind the Imam.

(Translation from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)


Quarter 2

(July, August, & September 2017)


Special Activity/Module – Hold a speech competition on the following topics: Islamic Laws of inheritance support women’s rights and a healthy society Rights and status given to women by Islam.

Book Reading - Read pages 21 to the end of ‘The Will’. Response Prayer - Memorize the following:

At the end of Surah Al-Ghashiah, after the Imam recites,

oثم ان علينا حسابهم oهم ان الينا اياب inna ilianā iyābahum – thumma inna ‘alainā hišabahum

Unto Us surely is their return; Then, surely, it is for Us to call them to account. 88:26-27

the following is recited:

يراالهم حاسبنا حسابا يس allahumma hāsibnā hišaban yasīrā

O Allah, bring me to account with leniency!

Memorization - Memorize the following prayer from the Holy Qur’an (2:129)

يتنآ ة م ربنا و اجعلنا مسلمين لک و من ذر رنا و ا ص سلمة لك امحيم انك جمناسکنا و تب علينا اب الر oانت التو

Rabbanā wa-jʿalnā muslimaini laka wa-min dhurriyyatinā ʾummatan m-muslimata laka wa-arinā manāsikanā wa-tub ʿalainā ʾinnaka ʾanta t-tawwābu rrahīmu

Our Lord, make of us submissive to Thee and make of our offspring a people submissive to Thee. And show us our ways of worship, and turn to us with mercy; for Thou art Oft-

Returning with compassion and Merciful.


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July 2017

Holy Qur’an

Read the following verse 12th of the 2nd Ruku of Surah Al-Nisá with translation and answer the questions below.

[4:12] Allah commands you concerning your children: a male shall have as much as the share of two females; but if there be females only, numbering more than two, then they shall have two-thirds of what the deceased leaves; and if there be one, she shall have the half. And his parents shall have each of them a sixth of the inheritance, if he have a child; but if he have no child and his parents be his heirs, then his mother shall have a third; and if he have brothers and sisters, then his mother shall have a sixth, after the payment of any bequests he may have bequeathed or of debt. Your fathers and your children, you know not which of them is nearest to you in benefit. This fixing of portions is from Allah. Surely, Allah is All- Knowing, Wise.


Hadith

a) Hazrat Saeed bin Zaidra narrates that he heard the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) say: “Whosoever wrongfully seized a handful tract of land shall be punished for the equivalent of seven tracts of land on the day of judgement.” (Muslim, Translated by Taleem Department)

b) The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “A testator can leave by will no more than one-third of his property to other than his lawful heirs.” (Bukhari; 5 volume commentary of Holy Quran, p.500)

c) It is related that when a Companion of the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be

upon him), named Sa’d bin Rabi’a, died in the Battle of Uhud leaving two daughters and one widow, his brother took away the whole property, leaving nothing for the two daughters. Thereupon the widow of Sa’d went to the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and said, “Here are the two daughters of Sa’d. Their uncle has taken the whole of his property and has left nothing for them.” The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) told her to wait till God should decide the matter. Then verse 4:12 was revealed and the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) called upon Sa’d’s brother to give two-thirds of Sa’d’s property to his daughters and one-eighth to their mother and keep the rest for himself. (Tirmidhi & Dawud; 5 volume commentary of Holy Quran, p.502)


Holy Qur’an Recitation Rules Marks/Signs of Pausing during Tilāwat

Pause Mark Mark Name What to do in Tilãwat

.Jīm Permissible to stop or continue ج

.Zã Proposed stop. Permitted to stop here زTahsīnul-Qur’ãn - For further detail please see page 75-89: https://www.alislam.org/quran/Talim-ul-Quran.pdf

Summary of Surah Al-Nisá Verse 12

The basic structure of the Islamic Law of inheritance is explained in Verses 12 and 13, combined with the last verse of the Surah. Islam prescribes suitable shares for all near relatives in the property of a deceased person without distinction of sex or order of birth. Children, parents, husbands and wives are the principal heirs who, if alive, get suitable shares in all circumstances, other relations having a title only in special cases. A male has been given double the share of a female because he has been made responsible for the maintenance of the family.


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July 2017 Questions 6. Explain the Islamic structure of inheritance as provided in Verse 12 of Surah Al-Nisá.

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ 7. According to the Islamic Law of inheritance, a male shall have equal to two shares of a

female. Explain the philosophy of this divine wisdom as related to Verse 35 of this Surah.

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Salat Points 1. According to the Holy Prophetsaw, Salat is the pinnacle of the spiritual life of the believer. It is

the highest form of Divine worship. The Holy Prophetsaw is further reported to have observed: Prayer brings the believer into communion with his Lord. (Salat – The Muslim Prayer Book. Available at alislam.org)

2. If there is only one worshipper in addition to the Imam, he should stand on the Imam’s right side. If there are two, they should stand together behind the Imam. (Urdu Translation Namaz Mutrujum)

3. Talking or any distracting activity is not permitted near individuals saying prayers. Nothing

should distract the attention of the individual from the prayer, even recitation of Holy Qur’an aloud. This must be especially observed in the mosque while people are saying Sunnah. Frivolous and business conversation is prohibited in the mosque. (Urdu Translation Namaz Mutrujum)


August 2017

Holy Qur’an Read the following verses 13 to 15 of the 2nd Ruku of Surah Al-Nisá with translation and answer the questions below.

[4:13] And you shall have half of that which your wives leave, if they have no child; but if they have a child, then you shall have a fourth of that which they leave, after the payment of any bequests they may have bequeathed or of debt. And they shall have a fourth of that which you leave, if you have no child; but if you have a child, then they shall have an eighth of that which you leave, after the payment of any bequests you may have bequeathed or of debt. And if there be a man or a woman whose heritage is to be divided and he or she has neither parent nor child, and he or she has a brother or a sister, then each one of them shall have a sixth. But if they be more than that, then they shall be equal sharers in one-third, after the payment of any bequests which may have been bequeathed or of debt, without prejudice to the debt. This is an injunction from Allah, and Allah is All-Knowing, Forbearing.


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[4:14] These are the limits set by Allah; and whoso obeys Allah and His Messenger, He will make him enter Gardens through which streams flow; therein shall they abide; and that is a great triumph.

[4:15] And whoso disobeys Allah and His Messenger and transgresses His limits, He will make him enter into Fire; therein shall he abide; and he shall have an humiliating punishment.

Hadith

a) Narrated by Hazrat Abu Saeed Khudrira that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah

be upon him) said: “Allah ta’ala will enter those deserving of paradise into heaven. He shall graciously enter in paradise whosoever He wishes. Those deserving of hell shall be entered into hell. Then He shall say: Watch! If you find a grain of faith in a person take him out of hell. So they will be taken out.” (Muslim; Translated by Taleem Department)

b) “So strict was the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) in these matters (V4:13) that he refused to perform the funeral service of the man whose debts were likely to remain unpaid.” (5 volume commentary of Holy Quran, p.504)


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c) Abu Hurairahra narrates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Allah Ta’ala says that He has prepared such blessings for his pious people that no eye has ever seen them nor an ear ever heard them nor have they ever occurred to a human being.”(Bukhari Vol-6, p.83; Translated by the Taleem Department)



Marks/Signs of Pausing during Tilāwat


.Sãd Permitted to stop here if needed ص

Quf Here a pause is made. The reader may قف observe a pause.


Summary of Surah Al-Nisá Verses 13 – 15

The subject of inheritance distribution continues in these verses. Detailed information addressing various scenarios is given. For explanation of the distribution, please refer to the Five Volume Commentary.

August 2017 Questions 8. According to Islamic Law, which family members are the basic recipients of inheritance?

__________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________


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9. What should be done before the distribution of inheritance as mentioned in the last section

of Verse 13, “… without intent to cause injury to any one”?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________________________

Salat Points

1. The Holy Qur’an mentions false-hearted worshipers: “So woe to those who pray, But are unmindful of their Prayer. They like only to be seen of men,…” (Chapter 107; Verse 5-7).

2. If a person is late to congregational prayer, the latecomer should join in the congregation in the position in which he or she finds them. For example, if they are prostrating, he should join the congregation in prostration. When the Imam ends the congregational prayer, the latecomer should go into qiyam position without saying the salutation and complete the remaining rak'aat of his prayer individually. (Salat – The Muslim Prayer Book. alislam.org)

3. If a person enters the mosque and knows that Asr prayer is being offered and has not

offered Zuhr prayer, then they should not join the Imam and say Zuhr prayer first. If someone enters the mosque and does not know which prayer is being offered, then they should join the Imam. If after the ending of Salat, they find out that it was Asr prayer and have not offered Zuhr, then they should offer Zuhr prayer right away because it was missed unknowingly. The same applies to Maghrib and Isha’a prayers. (Salat – The Muslim Prayer Book. alislam.org)


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September 2017

Holy Qur’an Read the following verses 16 to 19 of the 3rd Ruku of Surah Al-Nisá with translation and answer the questions below.

[4:16] And those of your women who are guilty of lewdness — call to witness four of you against them; and if they bear witness, then confine them to the houses until death overtake them or Allah open for them a way.

[4:17] And if two men from among you are guilty of it, punish them both. And if they repent and amend, then leave them alone; surely, Allah is Oft-Returning with compassion and is Merciful.

[4:18] Verily, Allah undertakes to accept the repentance of only those who do evil ignorantly and then repent soon after. These are they to whom Allah turns with mercy; and Allah is All-Knowing, Wise.


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[4:19] There is no acceptance of repentance for those who continue to do evil until, when death faces one of them, he says, ‘I do repent now;’ nor for those who die disbelievers. It is these for whom We have prepared a painful punishment.

Hadith

a) Abu Hurairahra narrates that the Holy Prophetsaw said: “If a believer were truly aware of the

extent and intensity of God’s punishment, he would lose all hope of attaining paradise. And if a believer knew the overwhelming mercy of Allah, he would never despair of paradise.” (Muslim; Selected Sayings of the Holy Prophet of Islam, p.9)

b) “Repentance of sin means that one should never revert to it.” (Wisdom of Holy Prophet, p.42) c) Hazrat Mohammad bin Sireenra narrates a long hadith that includes the admonition that

chastity and truthfulness are better and everlasting in contrast to adultery and falsehood. (Conditions of Bai’at and Responsibilities of an Ahmadi by Hazrat Mirza Masroor Ahmad, Khalifatul Masih Vatba, p.28)





Sak’tah Stop for about one second but without breaking سکتۃ breath

Waqfah Stop without breaking breath for more than one وقفۃ second.



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Summary of Surah Al- Nisá Verses 16 to 19

Surah Al-Nisá describes the laws and regulations to establish a healthy society related to marriage and inheritance. After the description of inheritance laws in the previous verses, these following verses deal with how to improve the moral condition of society and to mend the ills committed by weak humans. Islamic teachings are for the reformation of human beings and for the improvement of their moral and spiritual condition. They guide us how to reform those who commit improper conduct. These verses condemn the improper relation of women with each other and the men with each other, as these relations break the fabric of a healthy society.

September 2017 Questions 10. What is meant by “Fahisha” in Verse 16? What guidance is provided to deal with women

who commit “Fahisha”?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ 11. When is repentance not accepted as mentioned in Verse 19?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

Salat Points 1. The Holy Prophetsaw said if someone knowingly forsakes Salat, he openly commits Kufar

(deny the existence of God). (Katabul-Salat).

2. Passing in front of someone who is praying is prohibited. An individual with a dire need may pass in front of someone offering the prayer if there is significant distance between him and the person praying; this distance is generally considered about the length of 2 rows. Also in an emergency if there is not enough distance, then the person passing may place an object, such as a cushion, between himself and the person offering Salat. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)

3. Prayers may not be offered at the following times: 1) during the rising of the sun, 2) when

the sun is at its zenith, 3) after Asr prayer till sunset, 4) during the setting of the sun, and 5) after Fajr prayer till sunrise. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)


Quarter 3

(October, November, & December 2017)

ACTIVITIES FOR THE QUARTER Special Activity/Module – Hold Jalsa Seeratun-Nabisaw with invited guests. Address the topics of Peace and Liberation of Women. Book Reading - Read pages 1 to 17 of ‘Noah’s Ark’. Response Prayer – Memorize the following:

At the end of Surah Al-Teen, when Allah asks

باحكم الحكمين اليس Alaisallahu bi ahkamil hakimin

Is not Allah the Most Just of judges? (95:9)

We agree and say:

من الشاهدين ذلك انا علی بلی و balā wa anā ‘alā dhālika minashshāhidin

Yes! I am among witnesses on this point

Memorization - Memorize the following prayer from the Holy Qur’an (2:251)

طoا وانصرنا على القوم الكافرين اقدامن ربنآ افرغ علينا صبرا وثبت

Rabbanāʾafrighʿalainā ṣabran wa thabbit aqdāmanā wa nṣurnā ʿalāl qawmil kāfireen

‘O our Lord, pour forth steadfastness upon us, and make our steps firm, and help us against the

disbelieving people.’


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October 2017

Holy Qur’an

Read the following verses 20 to 23 of the 3rd Ruku of Surah Al-Nisá with translation and answer the questions below. Note: It is recommended to read the Five Volume Commentary to fully understand the meaning of the subject covered in these verses.

[4:20] O ye who believe! it is not lawful for you to inherit women against their will; nor should you detain them wrongfully that you may take away part of that which you have given them, except that they be guilty of a flagrant evil; and consort with them in kindness; and if you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing wherein Allah has placed much good.

[4:21] And if you desire to take one wife in place of another and you have given one of them a treasure, take not aught therefrom. Will you take it by lying and with manifest sinfulness?

[4:22] And how can you take it when one of you has been alone with the other, and they (the women) have taken from you a strong covenant?


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[4:23] And marry not those women whom your fathers married, except what has already passed. It is a thing foul and hateful and an evil way.

Hadith

a) Narrated by Hazrat Jabirra: Said the Holy Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be on him): “Best of you is one who is best in his treatment of his wife and I am the best of you in the treatment of my family.” (Tirmidhi; Forty Gems of Beauty, p.86)

b) Narrated by Hazrat Ibn e ‘Abbasra that the Holy Prophet (may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “O believers! It is not lawful for you to force yourself to become heirs of women; and that you torment women (wives) with the intention of taking away from them what you have given to them.” He narrates that when a person died, the Arabs would become heirs of his wife. They would marry the widow, or marry her off to someone they wished to or not allow her to remarry. In short, they inherited the widow more than her actual relatives. That is when this verse (V4:20) was revealed. (Bukhari; Translated by the Taleem Department. The translated text is part of a long narration.)

c) “Hazrat Abu Hurairahra relates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon

him) said: “Let no man entertain any rancor against a Muslim woman. Should he dislike one quality in her, he would find another which is pleasing.” (Muslim; Woman in Islam, p.32)



Pause Mark Pause Mark What to do in Tilãwat

.Sãd, Lãm, Yã It is better to continue here صـلے

.Sãd, Lãm, Continuation is better here صل Tahsīnul-Qur’ãn - For further detail please see page 75-89: https://www.alislam.org/quran/Talim-ul-Quran.pdf


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Summary of Surah Al-Nisá Verses 20 to 23

Women owe a great debt to the Holy Qur’an because no other scripture has given them the high status that the Qur’an has given to them. Nikah is a sacred covenant between a man and a woman, and a man must respect and faithfully fulfill his responsibility to his wife. Both men and women are at the same level in regards to social rights. The Quran, not only lays down her irrefutable rights, but also exhorts men to overlook the weaknesses and shortcomings of their wives and to treat them with kindness and benevolence, even if they are not pleased with them.

October 2017 Questions 12. Do women have a right to seek separation from their husbands (i.e., Khula)? What are the

conditions under which a woman can exercise this right?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ 13. What are the responsibilities of a man in the situation of a divorce?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

Salat Points

1. The Holy Prophet Muhammadsaw said that if a person performed ablution at home and headed to the mosque to offer obligatory prayers, he would be rewarded according to the number of steps he takes to reach the Mosque. One step would remove one of his sins, the next would elevate his (spiritual) status. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 20, 2017)

2. The Promised Messiahas recommended that one should fold one’s hands above the navel area during Salat. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 27, 2017)

3. Qura’nic prayers should not be recited in Ruku and Sajdah. It was not the practice of the

Holy Prophetsaw. These are positions of extreme humility and Qura’nic verses have an exalted status. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 27, 2017)


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November 2017

Holy Qur’an

Read the following verse 24 of the 4th Ruku of Surah Al-Nisá with translation and answer the questions below.

[4:24] Forbidden to you are your mothers, and your daughters, and your sisters, and your fathers’ sisters, and your mothers’ sisters, and brother’s daughters, and sister’s daughters, and your foster-mothers that have given you suck, and your foster-sisters, and the mothers of your wives, and your stepdaughters, who are your wards by your wives unto whom you have gone in — but if you have not gone in unto them, there shall be no sin upon you — and the wives of your sons that are from your loins; and it is forbidden to you to have two sisters together in marriage, except what has already passed; surely, Allah is Most Forgiving, Merciful.


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Hadith

a) It is narrated by Ibn ‘Abbasra that a virgin girl came to the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and said that her father had married her with someone but she did not like him. The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) gave her the option to maintain that marriage or reject it. (Abu Dawud; Islamic Teachings on Ideal Family Life, p.24)

b) It is narrated by Anasra that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was on a journey … when he said to Anjashah (the person driving the camel), “Slow down, there is fragile load (women) on the camels.” (Muslim; Islamic Teachings on Ideal Family Life, p.33. The quoted text is part of a longer hadith.)




.Qãf Pause is better than continuation ق

Lã لا Do not stop and start from here. If a pause is made it is essential to recite from the previous

word(s) meaningfully. Tahsīnul-Qur’ãn - For further detail please see page 75-89: https://www.alislam.org/quran/Talim-ul-Quran.pdf

Summary of Surah Al-Nisá Verse 24

The Holy Qur’an is the perfect code of Law and contains everything essential for human being’s physical, moral and spiritual well-being. The Quranic Laws are in perfect harmony with human nature. Islam established the respect of women and of relations, which were totally disregarded in most societies due to women being considered a weaker gender.


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November 2017 Questions 14. Islam honored women by declaring certain relations sacred. List these sacred relations as

covered in Verse 24 (and in previous verses).

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

15. Islam has given clear guidance regarding sacred relationships. Are there similar teachings

found in any other Holy Scriptures?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

Salat Points

1. The Holy Prophetsaw said, “shall I not tell you something with which Allah Almighty removes sins and elevates (spiritual) status.” The companions implored him to tell. The Holy Prophetsaw said, “by performing ablution properly despite not feeling up for it, and by setting off for the mosque from afar and by waiting for the next Salat after offering one.” This keeps a person detached from sins and turns his focus towards piety. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 20, 2017)

2. The Promised Messiahas said that (in congregational Salat) though the Salat is acceptable

without the worshipper reciting Surah Fatihah, Salat becomes superior if the worshipper silently recites Surah Fatihah with the Imam. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 27, 2017)

3. During congregational Salat, the worshippers should not perform any movement ahead of

the Imam. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)


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December 2017

Holy Qur’an Read the following verses 25 and 26 of the 4th Ruku of Surah Al-Nisá with translation and answer the questions below.

[4:25] And forbidden to you are married women, except such as your right hands possess. This has Allah enjoined on you. And allowed to you are those beyond that, that you seek them by means of your property, marrying them properly and not committing fornication. And for the benefit you receive from them, give them their dowries, as fixed, and there shall be no sin for you in anything you mutually agree upon, after the fixing of the dowry. Surely, Allah is All-Knowing, Wise.


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[4:26] And whoso of you cannot afford to marry free, believing women, let him marry what your right hands possess, namely, your believing handmaids. And Allah knows your faith best; you are all one from another; so marry them with the leave of their masters and give them their dowries according to what is fair, they being chaste, not committing fornication, nor taking secret paramours. And if, after they are married, they are guilty of lewdness, they shall have half the punishment prescribed for free women. This is for him among you who fears lest he should commit sin. And that you restrain yourselves is better for you; and Allah is Most Forgiving, Merciful.

Hadith

a) Hazrat Abu Hurairahra narrates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “No man should send in an engagement proposal where there is already a proposal under consideration of his (Muslim) brother, until it is decided whether his brother is going to solemnize the marriage or abandon the proposal.” (Bukhari; Hadeeqa tus Salahin p.394-395. Translated by the Taleem Department)


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b) The Holy Prophet of Islam (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has said: “The most blessed woman is one whose wedding does not involve too much expense.” (Wisdom of the Holy Prophet, p.8)

c) Sa’ad ibn Abi Waqqas relates in the course of a long hadith that the Holy Prophet (peace

and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Whatever you might spend, seeking thereby the pleasure of Allah, will have its reward, even that which you put in the mouth of your wife.” (Bukhari and Muslim; Women in Islam, p.33)





◌◌ Follow the upper mark when two or more marks of Waqf appear together.

Mu’ãniqa ؞ ۔۔۔۔۔ ؞Three Dots

Stop either at the first three dots or at the second.



Guidance in relation to marriage and women’s rights continue in these verses. These verses clarify the major misconception related to women who are prisoners of war. Islam has condemned slavery explicitly, and the Qur’an lends no support to the view that Islam has allowed concubines. Women, who took part in a war waged to destroy Islam and deprived themselves of their own freedom, are still treated with dignity. If these women become Muslims they can be married lawfully with dowries. No relationship between a man and woman, even a master and a bondwoman, is allowed in Islam without marriage. December 2017 Questions 16. What is meant by “Mā Malakat Aimãnukum”? Describe the Islamic teachings pertaining to

female prisoners of war.

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17. While establishing women’s rights, the Holy Qur’an even protects the rights of bondwomen or handmaids (a common custom in the old days). Describe these rights as mentioned in Verse 26.

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

Salat Points

1. Congregational Salat has 27 times more reward than personal Salat. The Promised

Messiahas said that the rationale behind putting more reward in congregational prayers is that it creates unity. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 20, 2017)

2. Tayyamum can be performed only when water is not available or when water cannot be used due to illness. It is essential to perform Ablution (Wudhu) before each Salat unless you are already in a state of Wudhu. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)

3. While prostrating in Sajdah, worshippers should try to keep toes pointed towards the Qibla,

and the toes should be anchored to the ground. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)


Quarter 4

(January, February, & March 2018)

ACTIVITIES FOR THE QUARTER Annual Taleem Test - The Taleem test is a required part of our program as directed in the Lajna Constitution. This is an open book test of the subjects and material covered in the Taleem Program and it helps to reinforce what we learned during the year. Special Activity/Module – Cover the topic “How the Holy Qur’an defines the equality of women and men and their roles and responsibilities” in any type of activity. Book Reading - Read pages 19 to 44 of ‘Noah’s Ark’. Response Prayer – Remember the following – Wherever the Holy name of Prophetsaw comes while reciting the Holy Quran or any other time it is mentioned, the following should be said:

عليه وسلم صلی Sallallahu alaihi wasallam

Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him

The name of the Holy Prophetsaw has been mentioned four times in the Holy Quran (3:145. 33:41, 47:3 and 48:30). Where there is the mention of paradise one should pray:

ك اللهم ادخلنا فی رحمت allāhummad khilnā fi rahmatika

O Allah! Admit us to it with your Mercy

One should say Ãmín in a loud or low voice, upon reciting or listening to similar supplicatory verses of the Holy Qur’ãn. Memorization - Memorize the following prayer from the Holy Qur’an (3:148)

ربنا اغفر لنا ذنوبنا واسرافنا في امرنا وثبت اقدامنا وانصرنا على oالقوم الكافرين

Rabbanā ghfir lanā dhunūbanā wa-ʾisrāfanā fī ʾamrinā wa-thab`bit ʾaqdāmanā wa nṣurnā alal- qawmil-kāfirīn

‘Our Lord, forgive us our errors and our excesses in our conduct, and make firm our steps and help us against the disbelieving people.’


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January 2018

Holy Qur’an

Read the following verses 27 to 30 of the 5th Ruku of Surah Al-Nisá with translation and answer the questions below.

[4:27] Allah desires to make clear to you, and guide you to the paths of those before you, and to turn to you in mercy. And Allah is All- Knowing, Wise.

[4:28] And Allah wishes to turn to you in mercy, but those who follow their low desires wish that you should stray far away.

[4:29] Allah desires to lighten your burden, for man has been created weak.

[4:30] O ye who believe! devour not your property among yourselves by unlawful means, except that you earn by trade with mutual consent. And kill not yourselves. Surely, Allah is Merciful to you.


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Hadith

a) This Prayer was recited by the Holy Prophetsaw “O Allah, instill Your fear in my soul, purify it

as You are the best of those who purify. You are its Master and Guardian.” (Muslim; Treasure House of Prayers, p.110)

b) “O Allah, I beg You to grant me guidance and Your fear. I beg for Your chastity and contentment.” Hazrat Abdullahra relates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) generally used to recite this prayer. (Muslim; Treasure House of Prayers, p.110)

c) Hazrat Abu Hurairahra relates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of allah be upon

him) said: “A strong believer is better and more loved by Allah than a weak one. Out of all good things, desire that which is most beneficial for you. Keep imploring Allah for help and do not give up. Should you be afflicted in any way, do not say: Had I only done this and that things would have turned out so and so; but say only: Allah so determined and did as He willed. The phrase: Had I only, opens the gates of evil conduct.” (Muslim; Gardens of Righteous/Riyadh As-Salahin, p.29)


Holy Qur’an Recitation Rules Marks/Signs of Pausing during Tilāwat One should prostrate where Sajdah (prostration) is described in the verses of the Holy Quran such as 7:207, 13:16, 16:51.


As’sjdah السجدة

Offering Sajda is the Sunnah of the Holy Prophetsaw (for this prostration it is not necessary to be in state of Wudū or to face Qiblah)



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Allah desires all Muslims to be strong in faith. He wants us to exercise self-control, without which it is easy to deviate from the path of moral decency. The reason why God has revealed the Law is that man by nature is weak, and cannot himself find out the ways of spiritual advancement. Islam refutes the Christian doctrine of Atonement, which rejects the Law (Shari’at) on the ground of human weakness. Islam declares human weakness to be the very reason for the revelation of the Law, so it may help humans to fulfill their high destiny.

Guidance is provided in dealing with financial/business transactions and with earning money lawfully. The clause, Kill not yourselves, makes it clear that acquiring wealth by unlawful means is like bringing about your own moral death. ‘Kill not yourselves’ may also imply to the banning of suicide, the physical death.

January 2018 Questions 18. What is meant by “…man has been created weak”? How has Allah lightened the burden on

mankind and blessed humanity?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

19. What are ‘unlawful means’ to acquire wealth as mentioned in verse 30? Explain how it

relates to ‘And kill not yourselves’.

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

Salat Points

1. The Promised Messiahas said that for the (acceptance of) the prayer “Pray unto Me; I will

answer your prayer,” (40:61) a truthful soul is required. If the soul is devoid of humility and humbleness, then saying such prayers is no more than [repeating lines in] a parrot-fashion. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 20, 2017)

2. It is not Sunnah to raise your hands to pray (dua) after each Salat. (Sunnah is an act performed by the Holy Prophetsaw) (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)

3. In emergency situations, worshippers are allowed to discontinue their Salat, (say Assalamo-

aliakum to end the prayer). They can resume it again where left off, when the situation has been resolved, (start with Allah ho Akbar when resuming the prayer). (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)


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February 2018

Holy Qur’an Read the following verses 31 to 34 of the 5th Ruku of Surah Al-Nisá with translation and answer the questions below.

[4:31] And whosoever does that by way of transgression and injustice, We shall cast him into Fire; and that is easy with Allah.

[4:32] If you keep away from the more grievous of the things which are forbidden you, We will remove from you your minor evils and admit you to a place of great honour.

[4:33] And covet not that whereby Allah has made some of you excel others. Men shall have a share of that which they have earned, and women a share of that which they have earned. And ask Allah of His bounty. Surely, Allah has perfect knowledge of all things.

[4:34] And to every one We have appointed heirs to what the parents and the relations leave, and also those with whom your oaths have ratified a contract. So give them their portion. Surely, Allah watches over all things.


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Hadith

a) Hazrat Umarra narrates the following while he was addressing from the pulpit: ‘I heard the Holy Prophet (may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) saying the following: ‘Deeds are determined by intentions alone. Man will only get that which he really intends. The migration of the one who truly intends to migrate towards Allah and His messenger will lead him to Allah and His Messenger. But whoever keeps worldly objects in view will only get worldly objects.”’ (Selected Sayings of the Holy Prophet, p.1. The translation is part of a long hadith of narrations.)

b) The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Allah grants respite to the oppressor, but when He seizes the oppressor He does not let him go.” (Wisdom of Holy Prophet, p.68)

c) The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is reported to have said:

“Whosoever kills himself with a weapon, will be brought on the Day of Judgment with the said weapon in his hand and will be thrown into the Fire wherein he will abide. And whosoever kills himself with a poison will be thrown into the Fire, with that poison in his hand, where he will continue to take it.” (Kathir; 5 volume commentary of the Holy Qur’an, p.516)



Marks/Signs of Pausing during Tilāwat Pause Mark Rule Examples

Sukūn

If the letter has sukūn over it, no change takes place on stopping.

Kuwwirat = رت ک ط و

will be read Kuwwirat = رت کوTahsīnul-Qur’ãn - For further detail please see page 75-89: https://www.alislam.org/quran/Talim-ul-Quran.pdf


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After providing guidance regarding earning lawfully in previous verses, it is pointed out in these verses that committing anything forbidden by God is a sin. If a person avoids doing those things, which seem difficult to give up, he will be able to get rid of other sins as well. Guidance is provided to pray for Allah’s bounties and not to pray for the very thing that another person possesses. However, we should pray for “the like of that” another person possesses. Both men and women get what they earn and deserve, so we should not wish evil for others but should strive and pray. This is the way to succeed in life and to win the pleasure of God.

February 2018 Questions 20. Define the term ‘grievous’ sins as described in Verse 32. How does the Holy Qur’an classify

sins?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ 21. How does Verse 33 establish equality between men and women?

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Salat Points 1. The Promised Messiahas said that one may achieve a higher status of spirituality through

congregational prayers as human beings have the capacity to absorb another person’s spiritual enlightenment. Therefore, congregational prayers are essential to accept the influence of piety. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 20, 2017)

2. The Holy Qur’an 4:104 says, “Verily, Prayer is enjoined on the believers (to be performed) at fixed hours”. We should make every effort to perform Salat at its prescribed time.

3. If a believer forgets to say his prayers at the prescribed time, then he/she must say those prayers, as soon as he/she remembers. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)


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March 2018

Holy Qur’an Read the following verses 35 and 36 of the 6th Ruku of Surah Al-Nisá with translation and answer the questions below.

[4:35] Men are guardians over women because Allah has made some of them excel others, and because they (men) spend of their wealth. So virtuous women are those who are obedient, and guard the secrets of their husbands with Allah’s protection. And as for those on whose part you fear disobedience, admonish them and leave them alone in their beds, and chastise them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Surely, Allah is High, Great.

[4:36] And if you fear a breach between them, then appoint an arbiter from his folk and an orbiter from her folk. If they (the arbiters) desire reconciliation, Allah will effect it between them. Surely, Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware.


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Hadith

a) Narrated by ‘Abdullah bin Umar that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Surely the whole world is a provision, and there is no greater provision of the world than a pious woman.” (Ibn Majah; Islamic Teachings on Ideal Family Life, p.18)

b) It is narrated by Hassan that the sister of Hazrat M’aqal bin Yassarra got divorced by her

husband and kept away from her till the end of her period (‘iddat’). At this her husband proposed to her again but Hazrat M’aqalra did not agree. Then the verse V2:233 was revealed. (‘Prevent them not from marrying their husbands, if they agree between themselves in a decent manner.’ V2:233) (Bukhari)

c) Usamah ibn Zaid relates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)

said: “I am not leaving a more harmful trial for men than women.” (Bukhari and Muslim; Gardens of Righteous/Riyadh As-Salahin, p.69)



Use of Shadda

The sign ( ) is called (تشديد) tashdid. the sign over a letter denotes that the letter doubled. A letter with tashdid contains a quiescent and vowel-bearing letter. For example رب rabban is in fact رب ب rab-bun. So to pronounce a letter with tashdīd, first the voice will be settled on it then it will be read with its short vowel. Consequently the letter will be strengthened and will be pronounced firmly. For further detail please see page 113: https://www.alislam.org/quran/Talim-ul-Quran.pdf


Islam places great emphasis on the family unit. It provides the laws to establish a home with the best environment to nourish a family. It describes the role of a man and a woman in the running of a household to establish a strong family unit. Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Awwalra, explaining Verse 35, said that men should be protectors of their wives and should take care of them because God has granted them such abilities. He further said, men are caretakers of women and women are caretakers of men.


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Men are warned that they may take action to reform the unjust behavior of their wives but they should not exceed or be vindictive. If they think they are high and above their wives, then they should know there is One Who is High and Great above all and He shall call husbands to account for any improper use of the qualified authority given to them over their wives. If differences arise between husband and wife, there should be an effort on both sides of the parties to reconcile them. Islam does not leave any avenue unexplored to bring about reconciliation before allowing them to sever the tie of marriage.

March 2018 Questions 22. What is meant by ‘Qawwãmūn’ and why are men given this status?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

23. How does the Holy Qur’an direct men to handle grave misconducts of their wives while still

protecting their rights?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

Salat Points

1. The Promised Messiahas said that when a person breaks ties with everyone except Allah by making an effort and by beseeching His blessings, then Allah descends His love upon him. And when such love of Allah Almighty descends upon a person, then his sins burn into ashes. After this, the pleasure in Salat is permanently achieved. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 20, 2017)

2. Travelers have the option of either saying a shortened Salat or a complete Salat when visiting a Muslim religious center such as Mecca, Medina, Qadian, Rabwah, or the place where the Khalifa is. This option also applies when an individual visits a place that she considers a second home such as their parents’ or in-laws’ home. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum).

3. While riding in a car, bus, train, or airplane, travelers are not required to face towards the

Qibla because their direction while in travel may change. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)


Quarter 5

(April, May, & June 2018)

ACTIVITIES FOR THE QUARTER Special Note: Due to Ramadhan activities, the Taleem program has been reduced for this quarter. During this special month, effort should be made to increase our personal Ibadaat through fasting, extra Nawafal and reading of the Holy Qur’an. The program for two months has been provided. It will be the choice of the local Majlis to select which 2 of the 3 months to cover this program. Special Activity/Module – Conduct workshop or quiz on Ramadhan. Book Reading - Read pages 45 to 55 from ‘Noah’s Ark’. Response Prayer – Memorize the following - In Surah Al-Rahman (55:14) after the words:

بن oفباي الاء ربكما تكذ

fabi ayyi ālāi rabbikumā tukadhdhibān Which, then, of the favors of your Lord will you twain deny, O men and Jinn? one should say:

We deny none of Your favors, O our Lord Memorization - Memorize the following prayer from the Holy Qur’an (25:75)

اجعلنا للمتقين اماما ة اعين و يتنا قر oربنا هب لنا من أزواجنا وذر Rabbanā hab lanā min ʾazwājinā wa-dhurriyyātinā qurrata ʾaʿyunin wa-jʿalnā li-lmuttaqīna

ʾimāmā ‘Our Lord, grant us of our wives and children the delight of our eyes, and make us a model for

the righteous.

ب ياربنا ن نعمتك نكذ لا بشيئ م

lā bi shayi’im minni’matika nukadhdhibu yā rabbanā


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[4:37] And worship Allah and associate naught with Him, and show kindness to parents, and to kindred, and orphans, and the needy, and to the neighbour that is a kinsman and the neighbour that is a stranger, and the companion by your side, and the wayfarer, and those whom your right hands possess. Surely, Allah loves not the proud and the boastful,

[4:38] Who are niggardly and enjoin people to be niggardly, and conceal that which Allah has given them of His bounty. And We have prepared for the disbelievers an humiliating punishment,

[4:39] And for those who spend their wealth to be seen of men, and believe not in Allah nor the Last Day. And whoso has Satan for his companion, let him remember that an evil companion is he.


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[4:40] And what harm would have befallen them, if they had believed in Allah and the Last Day and spent out of what Allah has given them? And Allah knows them full well.

[4:41] Surely, Allah wrongs not any one even by the weight of an atom. And if there be a good deed, He multiplies it and gives from Himself a great reward.

[4:42] And how will it fare with them when We shall bring a witness from every people, and shall bring thee as a witness against these!

[4:43] On that day those who disbelieved and disobeyed the Messenger will wish that the earth were made level with them, and they shall not be able to conceal anything from Allah.


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Hadith

a) Hazrat Anas bin Malikra narrates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “One who wishes to have a long life and bountiful provisions, should treat his parents well and develop the habit of kindness towards kindred.” (Masnad Ahmad, Hadeeqatus Salahin p.422; Translated by Taleem department)

b) Hazrat Mohammad bin Jabeer bin Mut’aamra states that his father told him that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) that one who breaks ties with his kindred shall not enter in Paradise. (Muslim, Vol 13, p.217; Translated by Taleem department)



Marking a stop or pause during Tilāwat Pause Mark Rule Examples

Hamzah with Double fathah

If the last letter is Hamzah with double fathah, one of the fathah changes to an alif.

Nisāan = ط نسآء will be read

Nisā’ā = نسآءا For further detail please see page 75-89: https://www.alislam.org/quran/Talim-ul-Quran.pdf


Muslims were advised in the previous verse to be kind to their wife. In these verses, Muslims are directed towards showing kindness so comprehensive as to include in its scope the whole of mankind, from parents who are the nearest to strangers who are the farthest removed. No good deed done even by a disbeliever goes unrewarded. Rewards are of two kinds, firstly the direct result of the act and secondly winning the pleasure of Allah. Humans are exhorted to do good deeds from the goodness of their heart and Allah promises rewards.


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April 2018 Questions 24. How does Verse 37 guide us to expand the reach of our kindness and compassion?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

25. Does Allah differentiate between believers and disbelievers when it comes to rewarding

good deeds? How does Verse 41 describe Allah as the most Just and most Compassionate/Merciful?

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Salat Points 1. Promised Messiahas further explains: “Establishment of Salat and its punctuality are very

important. It should become so important that it turns into an unbreakable habit and the thought of turning towards Allah becomes prevalent. After this, the time gradually comes when a person inherits light and pleasure in complete isolation.” The person is cut off from worldly ties and turns towards Allah and then he finds pleasure and delight in prayers. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 20, 2017)

2. Salat is the highest form of prayer. It is mandatory on the rich and poor, men and women, and young adults. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)

3. Anyone who hears the Adhan should repeat the same, phrase by phrase, after the Mu’azin

has recited them but when the Mu’azin says the words Hayya alas-Salat and Hayya alal falah, the person hearing the Adhan should say La hawla wa la quwwata illa billa-hil aliy-yil Azeem which means: There is neither might nor any power except with Allah. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)


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June 2018


[4:44] O ye who believe! approach not Prayer when you are not in full possession of your senses, until you know what you say, nor when you are unclean, except when you are travelling along a way, until you have bathed. And if you are ill or you are on a journey while unclean, or if one of you comes from the privy or you have touched women and you find no water, then betake yourselves to pure dust and wipe therewith your faces and your hands. Surely, Allah is Most Indulgent, Most Forgiving.

[4:45] Dost thou not know of those who were given a portion of the Book? They buy error and desire that you too may lose the way.


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[4:46] And Allah knows your enemies full well. And sufficient is Allah as a Friend, and sufficient is Allah as a Helper.

Hadith

رسول قال قال ◌ فاتک بن خريم عن : صلى الله عليه وسلم فی سبيل ة نفق من أ نفق )ترمذی ۔(ضعف ئة سبعما ه ب ل ت ک

a) Khuraim ibn Fatikra relates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “He who spends in the cause of Allah has his reward seven hundred times.” (Tirmidhi; Words of Wisdom by Dr Karimullah Zirvi et al, p.233

b) The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is reported to have said: “If a man is sleepy then he should not say his Prayers till the state of sleepiness has left him.” (Bukhari; 5 volume commentary p.524-525)

c) “A man should not say his Prayers when he is hungry and the food has been placed before

him.” (Bukhari; 5 volume commentary p.525)



Marking a stop or pause during Tilāwat

Pause Mark Rule Examples All last signs

All last signs on the last letter always change to a sukūn.

Fihi = ط فيہ

Will be read Fih = فيہ Shuhadā’a = ط شهدآء

will be read shuhadā = شهدآء malakūn = ط ملک

Will be read malak = ملک For further detail please see page 75-89: https://www.alislam.org/quran/Talim-ul-Quran.pdf


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Salat is the highest form of supplication. It is performed in a condition of purity and in a state of alertness. Ablution is ordinarily necessary for prayer, yet Islam being a perfect religion allows ‘tayammum’ to be substituted in place of ablution in certain exceptional cases. Those who turn to Allah, then Allah becomes their friend and He is sufficient as a friend.

June 2018 Questions 26. Describe the conditions that fall under “Sukara” making one unfit/inept for Salat.

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ 27. Under what circumstances is “Tayammum” allowed? How can it be performed?

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Salat Points 1. The Promised Messiahas once said that laziness only occurs when a person does not know

the importance of Salat and he gives more importance to someone other than Allah. If he has complete faith in Allah, then how is it possible that he displays laziness? (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 20, 2017)

2. Salat should be performed when one is in an active and alert state and not when one is

drowsy. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum) 3. When offering the Qadha prayer, one omits all the Sunnah prayers except for the Sunnah

prayers of Fajr. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)


Quarter 6

(July, August, & September 2018)

ACTIVITIES FOR THE QUARTER Special Activity/Module – Speech competition on the topic of choice related to current affairs about women and children. Book Reading - Read pages 56 to 73 of ‘Noah’s Ark’. Response Prayer – Memorize the following – When one listens or reads this verse in Surah Al-Waqi’ah (56: 75)

العظيم ك فسبح باسم رب

fasabih bi’ismi rabbikal azīm So glorify the name of they Lord, the Great

One should say:

سبحان ربی العظيم

Subhanna rabbiyal azīm Holy is my Lord, the Great

Memorization - Memorize the following prayer from the Holy Qur’an (20:26-29)

ر لي امري لاoرب اشرح لی صدری ن لساني لاoويس لاoواحلل عقدة م

لا oيفقهوا قولي

Rabbish raḥ lī ṣadrī wa yassir līī ʾamrī waḥlul ʿuqdata(n) mi(n) lisānī yafqahū qawlī

‘My Lord, open out for me my breast, And ease for me my task, And loose the knot of my tongue, That they may understand my speech’.


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July 2018

Holy Qur’an


[4:47] There are some among the Jews who pervert words from their proper places. And they say, ‘We hear and we disobey,’ and ‘hear thou without being heard,’ and ‘Ra‘ina,’ screening with their tongues what is in their minds and seeking to injure the Faith. And if they had said, ‘We hear and we obey,’ and ‘hear thou,’ and ‘Unzurna,’ it would have been better for them and more upright. But Allah has cursed them for their disbelief; so they believe but little.

[4:48] O ye People of the Book! believe in what We have sent down, fulfilling that which is with you, before We destroy some of the leaders and turn them on their backs or curse them as We cursed the People of the Sabbath. And the decree of Allah is bound to be carried out.


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[4:49] Surely, Allah will not forgive that any partner be associated with Him; but He will forgive whatever is short of that to whomsoever He pleases. And whoso associates partners with Allah has indeed devised a very great sin.

[4:50] Dost thou not know of those who hold themselves to be pure? Nay, it is Allah Who purifies whomsoever He pleases, and they will not be wronged a whit.

[4:51] Behold, how they forge a lie against Allah! And sufficient is that as a manifest sin.

Hadith

a) Narrated by Hazrat Abu Bakr Siddiqra said the Prophet of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him): “Shall I apprise you of the three great sins?” We said, “Aye, O Prophet of Allah.” He said: “Hearken! The biggest sin is setting up equals to Allah and then disobedience of parents and neglect of duty to them,” and, leaving the cushion he was leaning against, and sitting up in a roused manner, he said with great force, “Hearken! and lying,” and he repeated it so many times that we wished he had left it off at that and not strained himself so much. (Bukhari; Forty Gems of Beauty, p.72)


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b) Ubadah Bin Nasi narrated that he heard the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) say that, “I fear about shirk and their secret desires in my ummah.” I asked, “O Prophet of Allah, will your people be involved in shirk after you?” The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) responded, “Yes, even though my people will not worship the sun and the moon, the idol and the stone, they will suffer from ostentations in their actions and they will be prey to their hidden desires. One of them will start the day fasting but then he will come across a desire and he will break the fast and indulge in his desire.”(Ahmad Ibni Hanbal; Conditions of Bai’at & Responsibilities of an Ahmadi by Khalifatul Masih Vatba, p.16-17)



Pause Mark Rule Examples Round tā changes to hā

When taking stop or pause in recitation the Round tā changes to hā

quwwatan = ة ط قو will be read

quwwah = ه قو

For further detail please see pages 75-89: https://www.alislam.org/quran/Talim-ul-Quran.pdf

Summary of Surah Al-Nisá Verses 47 to 51 The Jewish people in Medina could not bear the progress of Islam and tried different ways to stop its advancement. These verses reveal the intentions of the Jewish people and methods they adopted to damage Muslims and their faith. Two prophecies are contained here regarding the Jews. If they do not change; God will destroy their leaders, or God will curse them as He did to the people who were disrespectful of the Sabbath. Strong warnings are given about Shirk. There are two types of Shirk, which are common even among present day Muslims. The apparent shirk, such as the love of saints and offering of food and prayers at their tombs. The hidden shirk, such as loving or trusting in a thing or being, as one should love and trust in God. July 2018 Questions 28. Describe the behaviors and the lies that the Jewish people of Medina designed/coined to

harm the Holy Prophetsaw.

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29. Define “Shirk” and its grave punishment as mentioned in Verse 49.

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

Salat Points 1. The Holy Prophetsaw once asked, “if there was a river at a person’s door and he took a bath

in it five times a day, can you believe that any dirt would be left on his body.” His companions replied, “O Prophet of God, of course there will not be a trace of dirt left.” At this, the Holy Prophetsaw said, “That is the parable of the five prayers by which Allah removes sins and eliminates weaknesses.” (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 20, 2017)

2. A woman can lead prayers in a women’s only congregation. She should stand in the middle

of the first row among the other women, not ahead of the first row. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)

3. A woman can say Iqamat among a women’s only congregation or at home with her family’s

congregational prayers. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)


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August 2018


[4:52] Dost thou not know of those who were given a portion of the Book? They believe in evil things and follow those who transgress, and they say of the disbelievers, ‘These are better guided in religion than those who believe.’

[4:53] They it is whom Allah has cursed; and he whom Allah curses, thou shalt not find for him a helper.

[4:54] Have they a share in the kingdom? Then would they not give men even so much as the little hollow in the back of a date-stone.

[4:55] Or do they envy men for what Allah has given them out of His bounty? If that is so, surely, We gave the Book and Wisdom to the children of Abraham also and We also gave them a great kingdom.

[4:56] And of them were some who believed in him; and of them were others who turned away from him. And sufficient is Hell as a blazing fire.


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Hadith

1. Hazrat Abu Musara narrated that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon

him) said, “The honest Muslim trustee who spends (sometimes he said “who gives") what he is commanded to do and he gives that in full with his heart overflowing with cheerfulness and he gives it to one to whom he is ordered, he is one of the givers of charity.” (Muslim; Hadeeqatus Salahin, p.664)

2. Hazrat Abu Hurairahra narrates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Beware of envy for envy devours good works as fire devours fuel.” (Abu Dawood; Hadeeqatus Salahin, p.814)



Pause Mark Rule Examples Last letter is blank alif but the letter before it has double fathah

If the last letter is blank alif but the letter before it has double fathah, one fathah is dropped and alif becomes active

raqīban =ط رقيبا will be read

raqībā = رقيبا For further detail please see pages 75-89: https://www.alislam.org/quran/Talim-ul-Quran.pdf


The Jewish people were given the Book and Wisdom and a great Kingdom. The coming of a great prophet was prophesied in the Book but they denied knowingly. They declared that God would not raise any prophet as they needed none. They preferred disbelievers compared to Muslims who reject and abuse the Prophets of God. The words, ‘thou shalt not find for him a helper’, contains a prophecy regarding the miserable condition to which the Jews were to be reduced. The whole world has witnessed how remarkably this prophecy has been fulfilled during the ages. The same situation applies to the present day Muslims. They are denying the Promised Messiahas due to worldly gains and lack of spiritual insight.


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August 2018 Questions

30. What was the extent of the Jewish people of Medina’s hatred towards the believers?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ 31. List some examples of Shirk.

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

Salat Points 1. The Holy Prophetsaw said that when a person stands for Salat, all of his sins are brought up

and put on his body; and when he bows down for Ruku and Sajda, they fall off his body. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)

2. Prophet Muhammadsaw has said that children should be told to pray when they turn seven.

Once they turn 10, if need be, Salat can be enforced with strictness. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 20, 2017)

3. The Promised Messiahas said that bear this in mind that to bow before anyone except Allah

is similar to cutting ties with Allah. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 20, 2017)


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September 2018

Holy Qur’an


[4:57] Those who disbelieve in Our Signs, We shall soon cause them to enter Fire. As often as their skins are burnt up, We shall give them in exchange other skins that they may taste the punishment. Surely, Allah is Mighty, Wise.

[4:58] And those who believe and do good works, We shall make them enter Gardens through which streams flow, to abide therein for ever; therein shall they have pure spouses; and We shall admit them to a place of pleasant and plenteous shade.

[4:59] Verily, Allah commands you to make over the trusts to those entitled to them, and that, when you judge between men, you judge with justice. And surely excellent is that with which Allah admonishes you! Allah is All-Hearing, All-Seeing.


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[4:60] O ye who believe! obey Allah, and obey His Messenger and those who are in authority among you. And if you differ in anything among yourselves, refer it to Allah and His Messenger if you are believers in Allah and the Last Day. That is best and most commendable in the end.

Hadith

a) Hazrat Abu Hurairahra narrates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon

him) said, “The world is a prison for a believer and paradise for a non-believer.” (Muslim; Waqf-e-nau syllabus, p.49)

b) Hazrat Abu Hurairahra narrates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon

him) said, “Allah, the Blessed and the Exalted, would gather people. The believers would stand till the Paradise would be brought near them.” (Muslim; Hadeeqatus Salahin p.845-846)




Pause Mark Rule Examples Last letter is blank alif but the letter before it does not have a fathah

If alif in the end is blank but the letter before it does not have a fathah, then this alif will be silent

tahtadū = طا تهتدو will be read

tahtadū = تهتدو For further detail please see pages 75-89: https://www.alislam.org/quran/Talim-ul-Quran.pdf

Summary of Surah Al-Nisá Verses 57 to 60 These verses warn of the severe punishment to those who knowingly deny signs of Allah. Muslims are again given the glad tidings of authority and domination. They are guided to entrust authority to such persons who possess the necessary qualifications to rule. Authority or power to rule has been here described as a ‘trust’ of the people in order to point out that, truly speaking, it belongs to the people and is not the birthright of any particular individual or dynasty.


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Attention is also drawn to a heavy responsibility of Muslims to the very important matter of electing their Chief or Khalifa. They are warned to be honest, avoid personal liking or nepotism and not fail in this trust. The Khalifa or the ruler is to be elected, and people must vote for one best fitted for the office. Head of the Muslims or people with authority are enjoined to use their authority equitably and well. Those who are in authority must be obeyed. It is pointed out that obedience to authority properly constituted by Law is in reality obedience to God and His Messenger.

September 2018 Questions 32. What is meant by ‘trust’ in Verse 59, and what responsibility is put on the shoulders of

Muslims? Who has the power to rule in an Islamic society?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ 33. Describe the Islamic concept of “obedience”. Who should one follow and obey in case of

differences or disputes?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

Salat Points

1. When people face hardships, they turn their attention to Allah and Salat for prayer. But when

their wishes are fulfilled and their hardships pass, many become less committed to prayers. The Promised Messiahas said that, regardless of whether they are facing hardship or prosperity, the worshippers must always resolve to try for such pleasure and delight in prayers that can make them intoxicated. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 20, 2017)

2. Prayer area should be clean and clear of distractions. One should not pray in front of pictures of humans, animals, or impertinent scenery. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)

3. Clean and appropriately covering clothes are proper attire for Salat. Wearing see-through or

extremely tight garments are not appropriate for women. Hair, forearms and legs must be covered properly as part of modesty. (Pathway to Paradise)


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Quarter 7

(October, November, & December 2018)

ACTIVITIES FOR THE QUARTER Special Activity/Module – Hold Jalsa Seerat-un-Nabisaw. Arrange special activities during the month of October, to learn and understand the life and characteristics of the Holy Prophetsaw Book Reading - Read pages 73 to 99 of ‘Noah’s Ark’. Response Prayer – Memorize the following – When one listens or reads this verse in Surah Al-Mursalat (77: 51)

oفباي حديث بعده يؤمنون Fabi ayyi hadíthim ba‘dahū yu‘minūn

In which word then, after this, will they believe?

one should say:

آمنا با āmannā billāhi

We believe in Allah Memorization - Memorize the following prayer from the Holy Qur’an (23:119)

احمين ب اغفر وارحم وانت خير الر oر

Rabbi ghfir warḥam wa-ʾanta khairur Rāḥimīn

‘My Lord, forgive and have mercy, and Thou art the Best of those who show mercy.’


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October 2018

Holy Qur’an


[4:61] Dost thou not know of those who pretend that they believe in what has been revealed to thee and what has been revealed before thee? They desire to seek judgment from the rebellious, although they were commanded not to obey them. And Satan desires to lead them far astray.

[4:62] And when it is said to them, ‘Come ye to what Allah has sent down and to His Messenger,’ thou seest the hypocrites turn away from thee with aversion.

[4:63] Then how is it that when an affliction befalls them because of what their hands have sent on before them, they come to thee swearing by Allah, saying, ‘We meant nothing but the doing of good and reconciliation?’


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[4:64] These are they, the secrets of whose hearts Allah knows well. So turn away from them and admonish them and speak to them an effective word concerning their own selves.

[4:65] And We have sent no Messenger but that he should be obeyed by the command of Allah. And if they had come to thee when they had wronged their souls, and asked forgiveness of Allah, and if the Messenger also had asked forgiveness for them, they would have surely found Allah Oft-Returning with compassion and Merciful.

[4:66] But no, by thy Lord, they are not believers until they make thee judge in all that is in dispute between them and then find not in their hearts any demur concerning that which thou decidest and submit with full submission.


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Hadith

صلى الله عليه وسلم ◌ هريرة عن ابی من أطاعني ۔ قال : قال رسول ، ومن يطع الامير فقد أ ، ومن عصاني فقد عصى طاعني فقد أطاع

) ة۔ ( مسلم کتاب الامارومن يعص القامير فقد عصاني

1. Hazrat Abu Hurairahra narrates that the Holy Prophetsaw said, “He who obeys me obeys Allah and he who disobeys me disobeys Allah, and he who obeys my appointee obeys me, and he who disobeys my appointee disobeys me. (Bukhari; Hadeeqatus Salahin p.617)

2. Hazrat Ibn-e-Umarra states that the Holy Prophetsaw said, “Whoever holds back from

obedience of Allah will meet Allah the Almighty on the Day of Judgement in a condition that he would have no valid argument or excuse. And who dies in a condition that he has not taken pledge with the Imam of the time would die the death of ignorance and apostasy.” (Muslim; Conditions of Bai’at and Responsibilities of an Ahmadi, by Hazrat Mirza Masroor Ahmad, Khalifatul Masih Vatba)



Pause Mark Rule Examples Last letter is blank ya and the letter before it has a double fathah

If the last letter is blank ya and the letter before it has a double fathah, ya will become silent and the double fathah changes to the vertical fathah

ḍuḥan =ط ضحی Will be read

ḍuḥā = ضحی

For further detail please see page 75-89: https://www.alislam.org/quran/Talim-ul-Quran.pdf

Summary of Surah Al-Nisá Verses 61 to 66 The subject of obedience, as it is the foundation of any successful system, continues in these verses. Hypocrites are weak in faith and have a hard time obeying authority. They are more attracted to rebellious thoughts. These verses emphasize that a prophet is sent by Allah and to all those whom he is sent to must obey him. Inference can be made from this statement that as Messengers are obeying the commandments of Allah similarly the followers must obey him and his representatives.


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October 2018 Questions 34. Why does the Holy Qur’an direct the Holy Prophetsaw and Muslims to treat hypocrites with

kindness despite them instigating mischief against Islam?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ 35. Explain the important point emphasized in Verse 66. How can it maintain solidarity among

the Muslim community?

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Salat Points 1. Salat is the minimum standard of remembrance of God, without which one cannot maintain

spiritual life. There can be no guarantee of a glorious future for the Jama’at unless those who observe Salat today bring up their future generation steeped in the observance of Salat. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih IVrh Friday Sermon: July 22, 1988)

2. Somebody asked the Promised Messiahas whether a Rakat should be counted if one joins in

Ruku during congregational prayer. The Promised Messiahas said that his personal inclination was that there is no prayer without Surah Fatihah as it is Umm-ul-Kitab; but if one gets late despite trying and joins in Ruku, his Rakat would be counted as this is stated in Hadith. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 27, 2017)

3. The Promised Messiahas said that offering Salat behind any person who issues proclamation

of disbelief pertaining to the Messiah of the time is not allowed and is haram (not pure). (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 27, 2017)


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November 2018

Holy Qur’an


[4:67] And if We had commanded them, ‘Kill your people or leave your homes,’ they would not have done it except a few of them; and if they had done what they are exhorted to do, it would surely have been better for them and conducive to greater strength.

[4:68] And then We would have surely given them a great reward from Ourself;

[4:69] And We would surely have guided them in the right path.

[4:70] And whoso obeys Allah and this Messenger of His shall be among those on whom Allah has bestowed His blessings, namely, the Prophets, the Truthful, the Martyrs, and the Righteous. And excellent companions are these.

[4:71] This grace is from Allah, and sufficient is Allah, the All-Knowing.


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Hadith

ه ی بعد ا لا نبي قولوا خاتم الانبياء ولا تقو لو ◌ ة عائش عن

a) It is narrated by Hazrat Aishah that she said, “Say that he (Holy Prophetsaw is Khataman Nabiyyyin but do no say that there will be no Prophet after him.” (Hadeeqatus Salahin, p.956)

b) The Holy Prophetsaw is reported to have said, “There is no Mahdi except Isa.” (Ibn e Majah;

Welcome to Ahmadiyyat, p.279)

c) The Holy Prophetsaw is reported to have said, “If Abraham (hissaw son) had lived long, he would have been a prophet.” (Ibn e Majah; 5 Volume Commentary, p.2126)

d) The Holy Prophetsaw is reported to have said, “Abu-Bakrra is the best of men after me except

that a prophet should appear.” (Kanzal Immal; 5 Volume Commentary, p.2126) Read Malfoozat or writings of the Promised Messiahas on the same subject as these Ahadith



Pause Mark Rule Examples Last letter is blank ya but the letter before it does not have a double fathah

If the last letter is blank ya but the letter before it does not have a double fathah, there will be no change on making stop.

abā =ط ابیwill be read

abā = ابی



The subject of obedience has been discussed in the previous verses. These verses describe Allah’s bounties on true obedient followers. Verse 70 describes the high spiritual level a person can achieve through complete obedience to Allah and His commandments that are presented by the Holy Prophetsaw. Allah granted a special honor to the Holy Prophetsaw that has not been given to any other prophet. The followers of other prophets can achieve spiritual levels mentioned in the verse except one. The highest spiritual level of Prophethood (Al-Nabiyeen) can be attained only by the true follower of the Holy Prophetsaw through utmost obedience to him, and attained with profoundest love for him. We Ahmadis witnessed this high status granted to the Promised Messiahas who achieved this highest spiritual rank of Prophethood through perfect obedience to the Holy Prophetsaw.


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November 2018 Questions

36. What is meant by “kill your people” in Verse 67?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

37. Describe the avenues of spiritual progress open to Muslims and how this can be achieved.

What rank did the Promised Messiahas attain?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

Salat Points 1. The Promised Messiahas said that it is not forbidden to pray for your needs in your own

language. Salat cannot be pleasurable unless there is special attentiveness in it and special attentiveness of heart is not achieved until there is humility. Humility, in turn, is achieved when a person understands what he says. Therefore, passion and humility can be created by imploring in your own language (after conventional prayers). But your language should not replace Salat as Allah has kept a special blessing in the traditional words of Salat. (Hazrat Khalifatul Masih Vatba, Friday sermon, January 20, 2017)

2. Once the congregational Prayer has begun, one should not commence with Sunnah and

Nafl Prayer. If someone is already engaged in Sunnah Prayer when the Imam starts the Prayer, and he finds himself in the middle of a row formed for the congregational Prayer, he should terminate his Prayer immediately and join in the congregation. If he is offering his Sunnah or Nafl Prayer away from the Prayer Service and he thinks that he can join in the congregation without losing much of the first Rakat, he may complete his Prayer; otherwise he should terminate his Prayer and join in the congregation. (Salat – The Muslim Prayer Book. alislam.org)

3. One must walk gracefully to join the Salat and not run, even if the Prayer has already

started. (Subject taken from Salat – The Muslim Prayer Book. alislam.org)


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December 2018

Holy Qur’an


[4:72] O ye who believe! take your precautions; then either go forth in separate parties or go forth all together.

[4:73] And among you there is he who will tarry behind, and if a misfortune befall you, he says, ‘Surely, Allah has been gracious to me, since I was not present with them.’

[4:74] But if there comes to you some good fortune from Allah, he says, as if there were no love between you and him, ‘Would that I had been with them, then should I have indeed achieved a great success!’


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[4:75] Let those then fight in the cause of Allah who would sell the present life for the Hereafter. And whoso fights in the cause of Allah, be he slain or be he victorious, We shall soon give him a great reward.

[4:76] And what is the matter with you that you fight not in the cause of Allah and of the weak — men, women and children — who say, ‘Our Lord, take us out of this town, whose people are oppressors, and make for us some friend from Thyself, and make for us from Thyself some helper?’

[4:77] Those who believe fight in the cause of Allah, and those who disbelieve fight in the cause of the Evil One. Fight ye therefore against the friends of Satan; surely, Satan’s strategy is weak!


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Hadith

بن عمرو بن العاص : أربع ان رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال عن عبد نهن كانت فيه کا نت من كن فيه كان منافقا خالصا، و من خصلة م

نفاق حتى يدعها : إذا اؤ تمن خان ، واذ حدث كذب ، فيه خصلة من ال ۔( مسلم) وإذا عاهدا غدر، وإذا خاصم فجر

a) Hazrat Abdullahra bin 'Amri bin Al’aasra narrates that the Holy Prophetsaw said, "There are

four qualities which, if they are found in a person, prove him a thorough hypocrite. If a person has one of them, he is entrusted with hypocrisy, until he gets rid of it. These are: When he entrusted with something he embezzles, when he talks he lies, when he promises he breaks his promise and when he contends he reviles. (Muslim; Hadeeqatus Salahin, p.832; Gardens of Righteous p.140)

b) Hazrat Imran bin Hasseen relates the Holy Prophetsaw promised my father (who was a

polytheist) that if he accepted Islam, he would teach him two beneficial prayers. When my father became a Muslim, he reminded the Holy Prophetsaw of his promise. The Holy Prophetsaw taught him the following prayers: “O Allah, pour forth piety in my heart and save me from the evil of myself.” (Tirmidhi; Treasure House of Prayers, p.133-134)



There is a small letter ن called nūn qutnī. If it is between two verses, one may or may not stop while reciting such verses. There are two options:

1. When ن nūn qutnī is read: If a stop is not made, nūn qutnī will give its sound and the blank alif becomes silent.

بين ان ابان اقتلوا يوسف ◌ ا لفی ضلل م ن

inna abānā lafi dalālimmunbīni niqtulū yūsufa

2. When ن nūn qutnī is not read:

If a stop is made, nūn qutnī will drop but the blank alif over it becomes effective and I’rāb of the next active letter is given to this alif.

بين اقتلوا يوسف ◌ ان ابانا لفی ضلل م

inna abānā lafi dalālimmunbīn uqtulū yūsufa

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In these verses Muslims are warned to be always vigilant and on their guard. They are to protect themselves and the weak, and their religion. Thus signifying that Muslims only fought wars to protect their religion. December 2018 Questions 38. Describe the two characteristics/traits of hypocrites identified in Verse 73.

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ 39. How does Verse 76 provide proof that Muslims never initiated hostilities?

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Salat Points

1. During Prayer, one should concentrate fully on one’s Prayer and remove all other thoughts from one’s mind. (Salat – The Muslim Prayer Book. alislam.org)

2. When the Imam is reciting Surah Fatihah loudly, the other worshippers should repeat it silently, verse by verse, during the short interval between the verses after the Imam has recited those verses. (Salat – The Muslim Prayer Book. alislam.org)

3. It is essential that every member of the congregation takes care not to cause disturbance to

other worshippers. When the Imam is reciting the Holy Qur’an, we should listen and not recite loud with him even in lower tone.

“When the Quran is recited, listen carefully to it in silence, that you may be shown mercy.” (7:205)

Holy Prophetsaw, said: ‘Do not recite the verses of the Quran after the Imam, except the recitation of Sura Fatihah as Sura Fatihah is an integral part of the Salat’. (Salat – The Muslim Prayer Book. alislam.org, Note the last word is corrected to ‘Salat’, in the book it is ‘Saint’ and looks like a typo)


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(January, February, & March 2019)


Annual Taleem Test – The Taleem test is a required part of our program as directed in the Lajna Constitution. This is an open book test of the subjects and material covered in the Taleem Program and it helps to reinforce what we learned during the year. Special Activity/Module – Hold a workshop or question/answer session on one of the following topics: How to protect ourselves from Hypocrisy How to be strong in faith Societal pressures and how to stand against them.

Book Reading - Read pages 99 to 139 of ‘Noah’s Ark’. Response Prayer – Memorize the following – It has been ordained to seek forgiveness at various occasions in the Holy Quran. For instant in Surah Al-Baqarah: 2:200, Al-Hadid: 57:53 and Al-Nisa: 4:107.

استغفر ا و ان ا ط حيما جoكان غفورا ر

wastagh fi rillāh, innallāha kāna ghafu rarrā hīmā And ask forgiveness of Allah. Surely, Allāh is Most Forgiving, Mercifull

One should say:

استغفرا

Astaghfirullāh I seek forgiveness of Allah

Memorization - Memorize the following prayer from the Holy Qur’an (28:25):

oرب اني لمآ انزلت الي من خير فقير

Rabbi ʾinnī li-māā ʾanzalta ʾilayya min khairin faqīr

‘My Lord, I am in need of whatever good Thou mayest send down to me.’


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January 2019

Holy Qur’an


[4:78] Dost thou not know of those to whom it was said: ‘Restrain your hands, observe Prayer and pay the Zakat?’ And when fighting has been prescribed for them, behold! a section of them fear men as they should fear Allah, or with still greater fear; and they say, ‘Our Lord, why hast Thou prescribed fighting for us? Wouldst Thou not grant us respite yet a while?’ Say, ‘The benefit of this world is little and the Hereafter will be better for him who fears God; and you shall not be wronged a whit.’

[4:79] Wheresoever you may be, death will overtake you, even if you be in strongly built towers. And if some good befalls them, they say, ‘This is from Allah;’ and if evil befalls them, they say, ‘This is from thee.’ Say, ‘All is from Allah.’ What has happened to these people that they come not near understanding anything?


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[4:80] Whatever of good comes to thee is from Allah; and whatever of evil befalls thee is from thyself. And We have sent thee as a Messenger to mankind. And sufficient is Allah as a Witness.

[4:81] Whoso obeys the Messenger obeys Allah indeed; and whoso turns away, then We have not sent thee as a keeper over them.

[4:82] And they say: ‘Obedience is our guiding principle;’ but when they go forth from thy presence, a section of them spends the night scheming against what thou sayest. Allah records whatever they scheme by night. So turn away from them, and put thy trust in Allah. And sufficient is Allah as a Disposer of affairs.

Hadith

عجبا : صلى الله عليه وسلمقال قال رسول الله ابن سنان ◌ عن صهيبلأمر المؤمن إن أمره كله له خير وليس ذالك لأحد إلا للمؤمن إن

اء شكر فكان خير ا له وإن اء صبر فكان أصابته سر أ صابته ضر )۴٢ (مسلم رياض الصالحين جلد اول صفحہ خير ا له

a) Hazrat Suhaibra ibn Sinan narrates that the Holy Prophetsaw said, “Wondrous is the case of a believer; there is good for him in everything, and it is so for him alone. If he experiences something agreeable, he is grateful to God and that is good for him; and if he experiences


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adversity, he is steadfast and that is good for him because he earns merit for his steadfastness.” (Muslim; Conditions of Bai’at and Responsibilities of an Ahmadi, Hazrat Mirza Masroor Ahmad, Khalifatul Masih Vatba, p.94)

b) Hazrat ibn-e-Abbasra has related that I was once riding with the Holy Prophetsaw. Hesaw said, “My dear child, I am going to teach you a few things: Keep Allah in mind, He will safeguard you; Keep Allah in mind, you will find him nearby. When in need, ask only of Allah; if you need help, ask Him alone for help. Remember, if the whole world joins together to benefit you, it can do nothing to benefit you, except if Allah wishes and decrees it for you. And if they all join to hurt you, they can do nothing to hurt you, except if Allah decrees the harm for you. The pens have been stored away and the ink has dried.”(Tirmidhi; Conditions of Bai’at and Responsibilities of an Ahmadi, Hazrat Mirza Masroor Ahmad, Khalifatul Masih Vatba, p.96)



Many reciters of the Holy Qur’an make mistakes in reciting the following words. Please learn this part carefully.

Correct Incorrect

anʻamta ʻalaihim انعمتا عليهم anʻamtā ʻalaihim انعمت عليهم ṣirāṭalladhīna ṣiraṭalladhīna صراط الذين صرط الذين razaqnāhum رزقنهم razaqnahum رزقنهم

و اناا ليہ راجعون انا innā lillāhi wa innā ilaihi rājiʻūn

و ان اليہ راجعون ان inna lillāhi wa inna ilaihi rājiʻūn


Hypocrisy is another key topic covered in Surah Al-Nisa. The verses recited describe the characteristics of hypocrites. In the early days of Islam, as well as today Muslims living in Christian dominant countries sometimes fear Christian criticism of Islam and adopt attitudes that make them weaker in faith and hypocritical in their practices. These verses also explain the relationship between obedience and hypocrisy. It is difficult for a hypocrite to follow the commandments of a prophet with conviction. They find excuses for their refusal to follow and obey. As a result, they attribute any challenges in their way to obedience to the Prophet. These verses make it clear that if one encounters difficult times, it is largely due to one’s inability to make the most of their God given faculties. Allah is the most powerful and everything in the universe follows His decree.


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January 2019 Questions 40. Describe the key characteristics of a hypocrite as given in Verses 78 & 79.

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ 41. According to Verse 80, why are achievements of a person attributed to Allah, and failures

attributed to mankind?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

Salat Points

1. The Holy Prophetsaw has said: No servant of Allah humbles himself for the sake of Allah, but Allah thereby brings about his Raf’a (Raf’a means “to raise”). It does not mean that Allah will lift him bodily to heaven, but that Allah will exalt his status before Him. (Salat – The Muslim Prayer Book. Available at alislam.org)

2. If after ablution, one puts on clean socks and keeps them on, then it is not essential to wash

one’s feet when one performs ablution again for the following 24 hours. Instead, during ablution one should wash one’s hands and after shaking off the excess water, should pass hands over both feet (on top of the socks). This should be considered alternative to the washing of feet. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)

3. During Vitr prayers, Du’a-e-Qunoot is offered in the third Rakat, after Ruku. If someone

forgets to recite Du’a-e-Qunoot at this time they can recite it in between the two Sajdas. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)


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February 2019

Holy Qur’an


[4:83] Will they not, then, meditate upon the Qur’an? Had it been from anyone other than Allah, they would surely have found therein much disagreement.

[4:84] And when there comes to them any tidings whether of peace or of fear, they spread it about; whereas if they had referred it to the Messenger and to those in authority among them, surely those of them, who can elicit the truth from it, would have understood it. And had it not been for the grace of Allah upon you and His mercy, you would have followed Satan, save a few.

[4:85] Fight, therefore, in the cause of Allah — thou art not made responsible except for thyself — and urge on the believers. It may be that Allah will restrain the might of those that disbelieve; and Allah is stronger in might and stronger in inflicting punishment.


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[4:86] Whoso makes a righteous intercession shall have a share thereof, and whoso makes an evil intercession shall have a like portion thereof; and Allah is Powerful over everything.

[4:87] And when you are greeted with a prayer, greet ye with a better prayer or at least return it. Surely, Allah takes account of all things.

[4:88] Allah is He beside Whom there is none worthy of worship. He will certainly continue to assemble you till the Day of Resurrection, about which there is no doubt. And who is more truthful in his word than Allah?

Hadith

النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال رجل أ لی قال جاء ◌ عن أبي موسى

جل يقاتل لير ی مکانہ فمن کر والر جل يقاتل للذ جل يقاتل للمغنم والر الر فی سبيل من قاتل لت قال هي العليا، فهو في سبيل كون كلمة

(بخاری ) a) Abu Musa Asha’ri has related that the Holy Prophetsaw was asked, “which of the three strives

in the cause of Allah: one who fights in order that he should display his bravery, or one who fights out of a feeling of indignation, or one who fights in order to show off?” The Holy Prophetsaw replied, “He who fights so that the word of Allah be exalted, is the one who strives in the cause of Allah.” (Bukhari Vol 5, p.173; Gardens of The Righteous, p.2)


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b) Hazrat Anasra relates that the Holy Prophetsaw said, “Allah says When a servant of Mine advances towards Me a foot, I advance towards him a yard, and when he advances towards Me a yard, I advance toward him the length of his arms spread out. When he comes to Me walking, I go to him running.” (Bukhari; Ahmadiyya Gazette USA, July 1994)


Holy Qur’an Recitation Rules In the Holy Qur’an at the beginning of some of the chapters, after ( certain letters are given (بسم which are in fact abbreviations of certain words. These letters are called ( مقطعات) muqatta’āt. Each letter is read separately and their pronunciation is governed by following rules. 1. A letter bearing Madda ) ◌ ( is read by its original name with prolonged sound. 2. A letter with vertical Fathah ( ◌ ) is pronounced accordingly to the sign.

For example

muqatta’āt Meaning مقطعات

م ال alif lām mīm I am Allāh, the All-Knowing

alif lām mīm sād I am Allāh, I know and I المص explain



In continuation of the discussion of hypocrites and their failure to come forward to fight in the way of Allah, these verses discuss individual responsibilities. These verses emphasize that each individual including the Holy Prophetsaw is answerable to Allah for his own deeds. The duty of Holy Prophetsaw and his successor is to defend Islam and urge others to follow suit. However, if someone intercedes on behalf of another person or recommends another person (in the context of fighting in the way of Allah) he will be responsible/answerable for his recommendation. The person interceding will receive a reward in line with righteousness of his recommendation.


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February 2019 Questions 42. What is the commandment and responsibility given to the Holy Prophetsaw in Verse 85?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ 43. What are the consequences of making a recommendation as described in Verse 86?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

Salat Points

1. The Promised Messiahas said: Salat is nothing but presenting oneself before God Almighty,

and it is a combination of praising God and an attempt at the expiration of one’s sins. One who does not keep these purposes in view derives no benefit from Salat. (Al-Hakam, May 31, 1903)

2. God, the Self-Sustaining, does not need our prayers. Prayers are a means by which

humans can purify their spirit to enable them to become closer to God. Humans need to pray to God to improve their moral condition and to become useful human beings. God has made humans capable of continuous development and spiritual evolution; prayers are a mode of reaching higher spiritual levels. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)

3. Muslims are required to listen to the Friday sermon attentively. Any type of conversation

during the Friday sermon is prohibited. The Holy Prophetsaw did not approve of a person telling others to refrain from conversation while the Imam is delivering his sermon. In unavoidable circumstances, a gesture by hand or with a finger can be made to draw the attention of someone to stop talking. In case the Imam asks something during the sermon, then he should be replied to. (Salat-The Muslim Prayer Book, alislam.org)


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Holy Qur’an Read the following verses 89 to 92 of the 11th and 12th Ruku of Surah Al-Nisá with translation and answer the questions below.

[4:89] What has happened to you that you are divided into two parties regarding the hypocrites? And Allah has overthrown them because of what they earned. Desire ye to guide him whom Allah has caused to perish? And for him whom Allah causes to perish thou shalt not find a way.

[4:90] They wish that you should disbelieve as they have disbelieved, so that you may become all alike. Take not, therefore, friends from among them, until they emigrate in the way of Allah. And if they turn away, then seize them and kill them wherever you find them; and take no friend nor helper from among them;


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[4:91] Except those who are connected with a people between whom and you there is a pact, or those who come to you, while their hearts shrink from fighting you or fighting their own people. And if Allah had so pleased, He would have given them power over you, then they would have surely fought you. So, if they keep aloof from you and fight you not, and make you an offer of peace, then remember that Allah has allowed you no way of aggression against them.

[4:92] You will find others who desire to be secure from you and to be secure from their own people. Whenever they are made to revert to hostility, they fall headlong into it. Therefore, if they do not keep aloof from you nor offer you peace nor restrain their hands, then seize them and kill them, wherever you find them. Against these We have given you clear authority.


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Hadith

قال لا تمنوا لقاء العدو فأ ذا صلى الله عليه وسلمان النبی ةعن ابی ہرير (مسلم)لقيتمو هم فاصبروا۔

a) Hazrat Abu Hurairahra relates that the Holy Prophet saw said, “Desire not an encounter with

the enemy, but when you meet the enemy be steadfast.” (Muslim Vol 9, p.117; The Gardens of the righteous p.228)

b) The Holy Prophetsaw used to pray, “O Allah, I seek your protection from dissention, hypocrisy

and bad qualities.” (Abu Dawud; Treasure House of Prayers, p.135) Read Malfoozat or writings of the Promised Messiahas on the same subject as these Ahadith


In the Holy Qur’an at the beginning of some of the chapters, after ( certain letters are given (بسم which are in fact abbreviations of certain words. These letters are called ( مقطعات) muqatta’āt. Their pronunciation is governed by following rules.

1. Blank alif here is not silent. It is read by its original name (ا) as alif. 2. A letter with Shadda ( ) combines the letter that comes before it according to common

rules. For example:

muqatta’āt Meaning مقطعات

alif lām rā I am Allah who is All-Seeing الر

-tā sīm mīm Benignant, All-Hearing, All طسم Knowing God



The hypocrite Bedouin tribes outside of Medina posed a great danger to Islam. Believers are warned against internal disagreements and disputes on how to treat these tribes. The Holy Quran guides the believers to cut their social ties with hypocrites. Friendship or any association with hypocrites could cause great harm to Islam. The two tribes referenced here did not have any treaty of alliance with the Muslims and played a double game when it came to fighting. These verses alert Muslims about the danger of division among themselves because of the hypocrites. Unity and brotherhood is so important that guidance has been given in the Holy Quran that disputes should not cause discord among the Muslims. These verses enforce the basic teachings of Islam to establish peace through pacts and treaties and Islam does not tolerate the breach of these pacts and treaties.


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March 2019 Questions 44. What divided the believers into two groups as mentioned in Verse 89? What guidance do

Verses 89 and 90 provide regarding hypocrites?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ 45. Under what conditions are Muslims allowed to fight as described in Verse 92?

__________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________ __________________________________________

Salat Points

1. Prostration is a posture of utmost humility, submission and helplessness in which a supplicant pours their heart before God Almighty and asks for His forgiveness. (Translated from Urdu Namaz Mutrujum)

2. The prostration position called Sajdah should be done properly. The hadith is: When you prostrate before God, you should place your limbs on the ground in the correct manner. In no way should you spread your arms on the ground like the front legs of a dog when it sits. (Musnad Ahmad bin Hanbal, vol. III, p.279; Al-Maktab-al-Islami Li-Taba’awal-Nashr, Beirut.)

3. When the Imam says Allahu Akbar and leads the congregation into Sajdah, the knees

should touch the ground first and then the head. In this posture, the knees, hands, nose and the forehead of the worshipper should be touching the ground. The head should be placed on the ground between the two hands. The arms should be away from the ground and away from one’s sides. The abdomen should be kept away from the thighs. (Salat – The Muslim Prayer Book, The Method of Offering Prayer, alislam.org)

(Note: Physical limitations may hinder us in following these positions. We should try to pursue these as much as possible. Our main goal is humility and full concentration towards Allah during Salat, and these positions help us to accomplish this goal).


TALEEM APPENDICES

APPENDIX A- SALAT WITH SPLIT WORD MEANINGS/TRANSLATION

Niyyah

wal’ ardha fataras–samaawaati lil’ladhi wajhi’ya Wajjah’tu

and the earth created the heavens towards Him

(who) my full

attention I have turned

l’mushrikeen min anaa wwamaa Hanifan

who associate partners with Allah

among those I am and not

being ever inclined to Him

Wajjah’tu wajhi’ya lil’ladhifataras –samaawaati wal’ ardha hanifanwwamaa anaa minl’mushrikeen

I have turned my full attention towards Him, Who has created the heavens and the earth, being ever inclined (towards Him), and I am not among those who associate

partners with Allah.

Thana

-smuka watabaaraka- wabihamdika Allaahum’ma Subhaa’naka

is Thy name and blessed and with all Praise O Allah Holy Art Thou

Ghairuka ilaa’ha walaa Jad’duka wata'alaa

except Thee worthy of worship and there is none is Thy State and exalted Subhaa’nakaAllaa hum’mawabihamdika watabaaraka-smuka wata'alaajad’duka

walaaIlaa’haghairuka Holy art Thou, O Allah, and all praise is Thine; blessed is Thy name and exalted is Thy

state and there is none worthy of worship except Thee alone.

Ta'awwudh

Rajeem Minashshaitaanir Billaahi A'oodhu

the accursed from Satan with Allah I seek refuge A'oodhubillaahi minashshaitaa nirrajeem

I seek refuge with Allah from Satan, the accursed.


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Surah Al-Fatihah

Raheem Rahmaanir Bismillaahir the Merciful the Gracious In the name of Allah

Bismillaa hirRahmaanir Raheem In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.

'aalameen Rab’bil Lillaahi Al hamdu

of all the worlds Lord belongs to Allah All praise Al hamdu lillaahi rab’bil'aalameen

All praise belongs to Allah, Lord of all the worlds.

nasta'een iy’yaaka wa na 'budu Iy’yaka

do we beseech for help Thee (alone) and do we worship Thee (alone) Iy’yakana 'buduwaiy’yaakanasta'een

Thee alone do we worship, and Thee alone do we implore for help.

al-mustaqeem Siraat Ih’dinaa’s right (that is) the path Guide us in

Ih’dinaa’ssiraat al-mustaqeem Guide us in the right path.

'alaihim an 'amta alla’dheena Siraat upon whom Thou hast bestowed Thy blessings of those the path

Siraatalla’dheena an 'amta'alaihim The path of those upon whom Thou hast bestowed Thy blessings.

-Ra heem ar-Rahmaanir

the Merciful the Gracious Ar-Rahmaanir-Ra heem

The Gracious, the Merciful.

Deen Yaumi’d Maaliki

of Judgment Day Master of Maalikiyaumi’ddeen

Master of the Day of Judgment.


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dhua’alleen wa la 'alaihim ilmagh’doobi Ghair

have gone astray and nor

(of those) upon whom

have incurred Thy displeasure not of (those)

ghairilmagh’doobi'alaihimwa la dhua’ alleen Not of those who have incurred Thy displeasure, nor of those who have gone astray.

Tilawat of the Holy Qur’an After Surah Al-Fatihah (Surah Al-Ikhlas)

-Raheem Rahmaanir Bismillaahir

the Merciful the Gracious In the name of

Allah BismillaahirRahmaanir Raheem

In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.

Walamyoolad Lamyalid us-Samad Allaahu

nor is He begotten He begets not The Independent and

Besought of all Allah Allaahu us-Samad Lam yalid walamyoolad

Allah, the Independent and Besought by all. He begets not, nor is He begotten.

kufuwan 'ahad. walamyakullahu like unto Him and there is none

Walamyakullahu kufuwan 'ahad. And there is none like unto Him.

Rukoo

Ahad -Allaahu huwa Qul

the one Allah He is Say Qul Hu wallaahu Ahad

Say, He is Allah, the One.

al 'Azheem Rabbiyal Subhaana the most Great is my Lord Holy

SubhaanaRabbiyal Al 'Azheem Holy is my Lord, the Most Great.

Akbar Allaahu Great Allah is

Allaahu Akbar Allah is the Greatest.


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Tasmee

Fih mubaarakan tayyiban kathiran hamdan hamd walakal Rabbanaa

full of blessings pure (that is)

abundant the praise the praise and

Thine is Our Lord Rabbanaa walakalhamd hamdankathiran tayyiban mubaarakan fih

O our Lord, and Thine is the Praise. The Praise which is abundant, pure and full of blessings.

Sajdah

Yal 'a'laa Rabbi Subhaana

the Most High my Lord Holy is Subhaana Rabbi yal 'a'laa

Holy is my Lord, the Most High.

Prayers between Sajdah

ب ر

wahdinee Warhamnee ghfir-lee Rabi

and guide me and have mercy on me forgive me Oh Allah

warfa’nee Warzuqnee wajburnee wa 'aafinee

and raise me up (in status) and provide for me and make good my

shortcomings and grant me

security Rabigh-fir-lee warhamnee wahdinee wa 'aafinee wajburnee warzuqnee warfa’nee

O Allah, forgive me, and have mercy on me, and guide me, and grant me security, and make good for me my shortcoming, and provide for me, and raise me up.

hamidah Liman 'Allaahu Sami praises Him him who Allah Hears

Sami'Allaahu limanhamidah Allah hears him, who praises Him.


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At-Tashah-hud

wat-tayyibaat was-salawaatu Lillaahi Attahiyyaatu

and all financial sacrifices

and all the physical worship is due to Allah All verbal worship

nabbeeyyu ayyuhaan- 'alaika Assalaamu

Prophet Oh upon Thee Peace be

assalaamu Wabarakaatuh Allaahi warahmatu-

Peace and His blessings of Allah and the mercy

is- saaliheen Ibaadillaahi- wa 'alaa 'alainaa the righteous servants of Allah and on be on us

Attahiyyaatu lillaahi was-salawaatu wat-tayyibaat assalaamu'alaika ayyuhaan-nabbeeyyuwarahmatu- allaahi wabarakaatuh assalaamu'alainaa wa 'alaaIbaadillaahi- Is-

saaliheen All verbal and physical acts of worship and financial sacrifices are due to Allah.

Peace be on you, O Prophet, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings. Peace be on us and on the righteous servants of Allah.

wa ash-hadu il'llallahu ilaaha al’laa Ash-hadu and I bear witness except Allah worthy of worship that there is none I bear witness

waRasuluh 'abduhu Muham’madan an’naa

and His messenger His servant Muhammadsaw is that Ash-hadu al’laailaaha il'llallahu wa ash-haduan’naa Muham’madan'abduhu warasuluh

I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship except Allah and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and His messenger.


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Durood

waa 'alaa Muhammadin 'alaa sal’li Allaahumma and upon Muhammadsaw upon bless Oh Allah

'alaa sal’laita kamaa Muhammadin aa’li Upon Thou didst bless as Muhammadsaw the People of

Majeed Hameedum in’naka Ibraaheema aa’li waa 'ala Ibraaheema

the Exalted

the Praise worthy

Thou art indeed

Abrahamas

the people of and upon Abrahamas

Allaahummasal’li'alaa Muhammadin waa 'alaaaa’li Muhammadin kamaasal’laita'alaa Ibraaheema waa 'ala a’liIbraaheema in’naka Hameedum Majeed

Bless, O Allah, Muhammad and the people of Muhammad, as Thou didst bless Abraham and the people of Abraham. Thou art indeed the Praiseworthy, the Exalted.

‘alaa baarik Allaahum’ma upon prosper Oh Allah

Kamaa Muhammadin aa’li wwa 'alaa Muhammadin

As Muhammadsaw the people

of and upon Muhammadsaw

aa’li wwa'alaa Ibraaheema 'alaa baarak’ta

the people of and upon Abrahamas upon Thou didst prosper

Majeed Hameedum in’naka Ibraaheema

the Exalted the Praiseworthy Thou art indeed Abrahamas Allaahum’ma baarik‘alaa Muhammadin wwa 'alaa aa’li Muhammadin kamaabaarak’ta 'alaa

Ibraaheema wwa'alaa aa’li Ibraaheema in’naka Hameedum Majeed Prosper, O Allah, Muhammad and the people of Muhammad as Thou didst prosper Abraham and the people of Abraham. Thou art indeed Praiseworthy, the Exalted.


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Concluding Prayers from the Holy Qur’an

Wwa hasanatan fid’dunyaa aa’tinaa Rab’banaa And good in this world grant us Our Lord

na’ ghfir lee Rab’banaa du 'aa wataqab’bal Rab’banaa forgive me Our Lord Prayer accept my Our Lord

Salaam

Allah Warahmatu ‘alaikum As’salamu Allah and mercy of be upon you Peace

As’salamu‘alaikumwarahmatu Allah Peace be on you and the Mercy of Allah.

adhaban’naar Wwaqinaa hasanatan filaakhirati

from the torment of Fire and shield us Good in the hereafter Rab’banaa aa’tinaa fid’dunyaa hasanatanw wa fil aakhirati hasanatanw waqinaa

’adhaban’naar Our Lord, bestow on us good in this world and good in the Hereafter and shield us from

the torment of the Fire.

dhur-riy’yati wamin Salaati muqimas- j 'alnee Rab’bi

my children too and observing prayer

constant in make me My Lord

ul ‘hisaab Yaqumu yauma lil-mu'mineena wa waliwaliday’ya Reckoning will take place the day the believers and and my parents Rab’bi j 'alnee muqimas-salaati wamindhur-riy’yati rab’banaawataqab’bal du 'aa Rab’banaana’

ghfir lee waliwaliday’ya walil-mu'mineena yaumayaqumul ‘hisaab My Lord, make me observe Prayer and my children, too. Our Lord, bestow thy Grace on me

and accept my Prayer. Our Lord grant forgiveness to me and to my parents and to the believers on the Day of the Reckoning.


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Du'aQunoot

wanu’minubika Wanastaghfiruka nasta‘ eenuka in’naa Allahum’ma

and we believe in Thee and we ask Thy forgiveness

beseech Thy help

we O Allah

-khaira ‘alaikal- wanuthnee ‘alaika wanatawakkalu

in the best manner Thee and we praise Thee and we trust in

ma(n)y yafjuruka wanatruku wanakhla‘u walaanakfuruka wanashkuruka

Who disobeys you and forsake him

and we cast off

and we are not ungrateful

and we thank Thee

nusal’lee Walaka na‘budu iy’yaaka Allaahum’ma do we pray and to Thee alone do we serve Thee alone O Allah

Wanarjoo wanahfidu nas‘aa Wailaika wanasjudu and we hope for and present

ourselves we rush And towards Thee and we prostrate

ourselves

‘adhabaka in’na ‘adhabaka wanakhshaa Rahmataka

Thy chastisement for surely Thy chastisement and we fear Thy mercy

Mulhiq bil-kuffari

Overtakes the disbelievers Allahum’ma in’naa nasta‘ eenuka wanastaghfiruka wanu’minubika wanatawakkalu ‘alaika wanuthnee‘alaikal-khaira wa nashkuruka walaa nakfuruka wa nakhla‘u wa

natrukuma(n)y yafjuruka Allaahum’ma iy’yaaka na‘budu walaka nusal’lee wa nasjudu wa ilaikanas‘aa wanahfidu wanarjoo rahmataka wa nakhshaa‘adhabaka In’na‘adhabaka bil-

kuffari mulhiq O Allah! We beseech Thy help and ask Thy forgiveness and believe in Thee and trust in

Thee and praise Thee in the best manner; and we thank Thee and we are not ungrateful to Thee, and we cast off and forsake him who disobeys Thee. O Allah! Thee alone do we

serve and to Thee alone do we pray and we prostrate ourselves; and we rush to Thee and present ourselves, and we hope for Thy mercy and we fear Thy chastisement, for surely

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APPENDIX B –

LIFE AFTER DEATH AND ISLAMIC TEACHINGS

In response to a question about life after death Khalifa tul Masih IV, Hazrat Mirza Tahir Ahmadrh

presented the following answer; “When we die, we will not lose consciousness in the sense of a soul which separates from the body. The soul, which is an enigma for scientists, is of such a nature that when it parts from the body, the body chemistry immediately begins to decay and returns to its

constituent substances with no more sense left in the body at all.

According to Islam, it is true that in the case of other animals when the body dies, life ends. In the case of humans, when life ends the body dies, not the soul…. In case of humanbeings the word soul (rooh) is used and this has developed to a degree that it has the capability of becoming an independent entity in itself, a spiritual form, which can live after the separation. What is the nature of that form? We don’t know much about it, but this much, at least, the scientists have discovered is that energy bundles can survive as energy bundles. Previously, they used to rubbish the belief in souls, but they now admit that what they have discovered leads us to the possibility of some sort of human energy living in an organized form as separated from the physical existence of man.

In the first appearance before God, it will be adjudged briefly, and it will know from then on in which direction it is going to develop… we have some experience about the soul, here (in this world), which can lead us to believe in a phenomenon which may occur after our death. This is experienced in two ways. One way is through the dreams. In dreams, things happen which appear to be real, but they defy the natural laws of our daily experience. We can walk through walls; we can see things of the past; we can experience being in countries, which we have never visited and yet feel, during the dream, as if everything is real…. As one is dreaming, one really believes that things are exactly as they are happening in any physical form, yet nothing is created. Something like that will happen to the soul but this event will have a quality, not exactly the same, but similar to that of our new identity within our dreams.

Every Soul Shall Taste of Death

(Chapter 3; verse 186)

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Death and Funeral Prayer

Time of Death

• When it seems that someone is approaching his time of death, the recitation of Surah Yaaseen (Ch. 36 of the Holy Qur’an) is recommended.

• The reason for this choice is that the topics dealt with in this Surah are of a nature which alleviate the suffering of the person concerned and give him a kind of spiritual comfort.

• One should also recite, in low but audible tone, the Takbeer, and Kalima Shahadah near the person concerned.

First Response/Prayer

• Once the person dies, all those who are present and all who come to know of the death later, should recite: Transliteration: Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji ‘un.

• Translation: "Indeed we are for Allah and it is to Him that we return" (Holy Qur’an, 2:157).

Funeral Prayer

• There is no Ruku or Prostration in the Funeral Prayer. • Funeral Prayer in absentia can also be offered for a deceased

person, especially for prominent people or in a case when few Muslims have offered the original Funeral Prayer.

• To offer a Funeral Prayer for a Muslim is obligatory for the body of all Muslims. It is called ‘Fardh-i-Kifaya’.

• Thus if only a few people offer the Funeral Prayer they are deemed to have done it on behalf of all Muslims. The rest of the Muslim Community is therefore absolved from the obligation of performing the Funeral Prayer.

Burial • After the funeral, the body is taken to the cemetery for burial

without any delay.

Mourning

• Islamic teachings emphasize on practicing patience and remembering Allah during the mourning period.

• Condolences must be offered to those related to the deceased. • It is commendable for the near and dear ones, or neighbors, to

provide meals to the bereaved family for one time at least. • One must not give in to any superstitions. • Generally, the bereavement period is for three days; however, for

widows, the prescribed time period is four months and ten days to allow women to emotionally and spiritually recover from the loss.

• Ahmadi Muslims do not observe "Qul" (third day of death) or "Chehalm/Chaliswah" (fourteeth day of death) or follow any other superstitious practices.


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Performing Funeral Prayer (Namaz-i-Janaza)

1. Allahu Akbar to start the prayer

The Imam commences the Prayer by saying Allahu Akbar, i.e; Allah is the Greatest, loudly. The followers say the same in a low tone. The Imam and the followers recites Thanaa and Sura Fatiha silently.

2. Allahu Akbar without raising hands

Imam then says Allahu Akbar without raising his hand. The followers say Allahu Akbar too but in a low tone and recite Durood silently.

3. Allahu Akbar without raising hands

Imam says Allahu Akbar for the third time audibly without raising hands. The followers say Allahu Akbar too but in a low tone and the recite Janaza prayer silently. May say prayers for the deceased and for the family in their own language.

4. Allahu Akbar to end the prayer

Imam says Allahu Akbar for the fourth time and turning his face towards the right says Assalamo Alaikum wa Rahmatullah, and turning his face towards the left repeats the same to mark the end of the Prayers and followers do the same.

Funeral (Janaza) Prayer

ر نا و ي بنا و صغ ئ تنا و شاهد نا و غاي نا و م حي لهم اغفر ل لا ۔ ١علی منا فا حيہ تہ يي لهم من اح لا طرنا و ذکر نا و انثناي کب

سلام و من توف ط ان يم علی الا منا فتوفہ ہ يت الا ۔و لا تفتنا بعده لهم لا تحرمنا اجره لا

Transliteration: Allahumaghfir lihayyinā wa mayyitinā wa shahidinaā wa ghaibinā wa saghirinā wa kabirinā, wa dhakarinā wa unthana. Allāhumma man ahyaitahu minnā fa ahyihī ‘alal Islami, wa man tawaffait-tahū minnā fa tawaffahū ‘alal-Iman. Allahumma lā tahrimnā ajrahū walā taftinnā ba’dah.

Translation: O. Allah, forgive our living ones and our deceased ones and those of us who are present and those who are absent, and our young ones and our old ones and our males and our females.

O Allah those of us whom Thou grantest life, keep them firm on Islam, and those of us whom Thou causest to die, cause them to die in the faith. Deprive us not, O Allah, of the benefits relating to the deceased and subject us not to trial after him. (Ibn Maja Kitabul-Janaiz, Bab-ud-Dua fis-Salati alal janazah page 107).


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References & Sources to Complete Workbook: THE HOLY QUR’AN (Arabic Text with English Translation & Short Commentary) edited by Malik Ghulam Farid, published under the auspices of Hazrat Mirza Tahir Ahmad (RA), Islamabad, Surrey, UK, 2002. The Holy Qur’an with English Translation (Five-Volume Commentary), Published under the auspices of Hazrat Mirza Tahir Ahmad (RA), Islamabad, Surrey, UK, 1988. Qur’an-e-Karim, The Holy Qur’an with Urdu Translation, Introduction of Chapters And Brief Expanatory Notes. Translated by Hazrat Mirza Tahir Ahmad, Khalifatul Masih IVra Basics of Religious Education, Third Edition (Revised), Compiled by Sheikh Abdul Hadi, Published by Ahmadiyya Muslim Jama’at, Canada, Islam International Publications Ltd., Islamabad, Surrey, UK, 1997. Treasure House of Prayers, First Edition, Compiled by Hafiz Muzaffer Ahmad, Translated by Bushra Ishrat Sheikh, Published by Zafar & Sons, Qadian, Printwell, Amritsar, India, 2006.

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www.alislam.org IMPORTANT NOTES:

1. The Arabic text in this Workbook has been copied from alislam.org. We apologize and seek forgiveness of Allah for any unintentional human errors.

2. All Holy Qur’an questions and summary points were derived from THE HOLY QUR’AN (English Translation & Short Commentary) edited by Malik Ghulam Farid, which is also available at www.alislam.org. Some answers may be found in the English Five-Volume Commentary available at: http://www.alislam.org/quran/tafseer/guide.htm?region=E1

***Special Acknowledgments***

Title Page Prepared by Nusrat Mahwish Shahid Response and Memorization Prayers Compiled by Shahida Nasar Holy Qur’an Portions Prepared by Sumra Zafar Based on www.alislam.org

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TARBIYYAT PROGRAM

2017 – 2019

‘SUFFICIENT FOR US IS ALLAH, AND AN EXCELLENT

GUARDIAN IS HE.’ (Holy Qur'an 3:174))4)Q 3

O Lord! Accept this from us; for you are All Hearing, All Knowing

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CONTENTS

1. TARBIYYAT PROGRAM 2017-2019…………………………………1092. IMPLEMENTATION OF SYLLABUS AND WORKBOOK…….….109 3. REFERENCES AND READING MATERIAL……………………….1104. TARBIYYAT WORKBOOK QUARTERS: ………….……..…111 - 190

QUARTER SECTION 1 SECTION II SECTION III

QUARTER 1 TAQWA ISLAMIC CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE

ACCEPTANCE OF PRAYER

QUARTER 2 TARBIYYAT OF CHILDREN

GOOD AND EVIL CONSEQUENCES OF LACK OF PURDAH

QUARTER 3 WOMEN’S RIGHTS

SOCIAL ILLS GIVING IN THE WAY OF ALLAH

QUARTER 4 SELF-REFORMATION

INTERNET USE –TARBIYYAT OF CHILDREN

MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS

QUARTER 5 KINDNESS TO PARENTS

EETIQUETTES OF SALAT

SALAT

QUARTER 6 STEADFASTNESS LIFE HEREAFTER MARRIAGE AND MATCHMAKING

QUARTER 7 OBEDIENCE HEAVENLY DEEDS TARBIYYAT OF CHILDREN

QUARTER 8 ZAKAT ANDD WASIYYAT

AVOIDING DIVORCE

TRUTHFULNESS

5. ETIQUETTES AND GUIDELINES: ………………………………..191

Etiquette of SalatGuidelines for Purdah and ModestyEtiquette for Rishta Na’ata (spouse selection process)

Etiquette of Wedding CelebrationsGuidelines for Tarbiyyat of Children


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TARBIYYAT PROGRAM 2017-2019

TARBIYYAT PROGRAM THEME AND FOCUS - ‘Sufficient for us is Allah, and an excellent Guardian is He.’ (Holy Qur'an 3:174)Almighty Allah has promised in the Holy Qur'an that He will amply reward those who sincerely obey His commandments, and protect them from all harm and loss. Therefore, an Ahmadi Muslim woman has the assurance that when she adheres to the commands of Allah and the Holy Qur'an,she will surmount whatever hurdles and trials the world may throw in her way.

The Tarbiyyat program for 2017-2019 focuses on the guidance provided by the Holy Qur'an, the Holy Prophet (saw), the Promised Messiah (as) and the Khulafa on several important aspects of spiritual and family life, and incorporates recommendations from the National Lajna Majlise Shura 2016 proposals:

Tarbiyyat of Marital IssuesSocial injustices: Islam’s responseObligations of financial sacrifice and its spiritual benefits

IMPLEMENTATION OF TARBIYYAT SYLLABUS AND WORKBOOK

Local Sadrs and local Tarbiyyat Secretaries should implement the following program:

a. Current sermons of Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (aba): Each month, a Lajna meeting should include an activity based on current sermons which enhances understanding of the sermons, e.g. discussion of main points, summary, short quiz, etc.

b. Tarbiyyat Workbook:

Each quarter consists of three sections on different topics, including one compulsory section which must be done in a general meeting where there is maximum attendance. The compulsory section and at least one other section should be covered each quarter. The sections may be covered in any order during the quarter, so the local Tarbiyyat Secretary may schedule the compulsory question when most convenient. Members should read the material provided in each section thoughtfully before coming to the meeting.Workshops, panel discussions or other interactive means of members’ participation should be used to answer the related questions.


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COMPULSORY SECTIONS TO BE CONDUCTED IN GENERAL MEETINGS:

QUARTER SECTION TOPIC

QUARTER 1 SECTION II ISLAMIC CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE

QUARTER 2 SECTION III CONSEQUENCES OF LACK OF PURDAH

QUARTER 3 SECTION III GIVING IN THE WAY OF ALLAH

QUARTER 4 SECTION III MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS

QUARTER 5 SECTION I KINDNESS TO PARENTS

QUARTER 6 SECTION III MARRIAGE AND MATCHMAKING

QUARTER 7 SECTION III TARBIYYAT OF CHILDREN

QUARTER 8 SECTION III TRUTHFULNESS

REFERENCES AND READING MATERIAL

Conditions of Bai'at and Responsibilities of an Ahmadi by Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (aba) Paradise under your Feet, A Handbook for Ahmadi Mothers – Lajna Ima'illah USAGarments for Each Other, Sermons of Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (aba) on Marital Harmony – Lajna Ima'illah USAWay of the Seekers by Hazrat Khalifatul Masih II (ra)Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) by Munavara GhauriIslam on Marital Rights by Sheikh Mubarak Ahmad Daughters of Eve – Lajna Ima'illah USAThe Philosophy of the Teachings of Islam by Hazrat Mirza Ghulam Ahmad (as)The Essence of Islam, vols. 1 & 2 by Hazrat Mirza Ghulam Ahmad (as)Introduction to the study of the Holy Qur'an by Hazrat Khalifatul Masih II (ra)Life of Muhammad by Hazrat Khalifatul Masih II (ra) The Wisdom of the Holy Prophet (saw) by Chaudhry Zafrullah KhanIntroduction to Financial Sacrifice – Anjuman Tehrike-Jadid

Friday Sermons Archive www.alislam.org

Presentations on Marriage on MTA www.alislam.org/v/k-Marriage.html

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All Majalis should cover compulsory Section II and at least one more.

CURRENT FRIDAY SERMONS: APRIL, MAY, JUNE 2017SECTION I: TAQWA II: ISLAMIC CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE (COMPULSORY) III: ACCEPTANCE OF PRAYER (RAMADAN)

SECTION I – TAQWA

EXCERPT FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 03/06/2015 - Taqwa (Righteousness)

'O ye who believe! Fear Allah; and let every soul look to what it sends forth for the morrow. And fear Allah; verily Allah is Well-Aware of what you do. And be not like those who forgot Allah, so He made them forget themselves. It is they that are the rebellious.' (59:19-20)

Generally speaking, the root cause of every immorality or sin lies in not making any effort to avoid it by considering such action unnecessary, although this very carelessness leads to bigger sins. Aperson gradually forgets virtues and the standards that are expected of a believer. Fear of God diminishes and a person's belief in the Hereafter also weakens. In practice, a person becomes distant from the requisites of faith. The aforementioned Qur’anic verses draw attention to this subject. A person is reminded not to be merely concerned with the interests, comforts and connections of this world but his/her main concern should be the Afterlife, one's level of faith and adopting righteousness. Accountability in the Hereafter should be pivotal to a person's concerns and this alone will lead to true moral development. A person will progress spiritually when he/she is conscious of what one sends forth for the morrow.

Elucidating the Qur'anic verse 59:19, the Promised Messiah (as) wrote: 'O those who believe, fear God and each one of you should look to what you have sent forth for the Hereafter. And fear God Who is Well-Aware and All-Knowing and looks at your practices. That is, He knows and distinguishes very well and thus will never accept your defective practices.' (Tafseer by the Promised Messiah, Vol. IV, p. 338)

This needs to be understood and appreciated. A person should abide by righteousness and keep an eye on his/her practices and pay attention to those matters which will adorn one's morrow and not consider this world as everything, as non-believers do. Hazrat Khalifatul Masih I (ra) said that God has given us the principle for success in this world and the next, and that is to be concerned for the next life. This principle adorns one's life in this world as well as the next world. In order to prepare for the Hereafter one has to start here and now.


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…. Hazrat Khalifatul Masih I (ra) said that one should have faith that God is watching over whatever one does. If a person believes that the One who rules over him is the All-Knowing and All-Aware, Who sees and punishes every kind of wickedness, ineptitude and sloth, a person would take due action to avoid punishment. This is the kind of faith that one should instill. If a person does not act with integrity, even in worldly matters one's earnings will not be acceptable and lawful. The Qur'anic verse 59:19 has great significance by drawing attention to one's morrow.

We need to instill the belief that God watches every act of ours and we also need to instill the belief that every kind of deception, no matter how insignificant we may consider it to be, or any sloth or indolence on our part is not liked by God. By asking believers to look for what one sends for the morrow, God has commanded us to abide by righteousness in family matters, in business matters and in matters of national and international scope.

A person may think that worldly matters have no connection with faith, but a believer is asked to abide by righteousness. At times people take certain steps in order to avoid worldly loss but it should be remembered that any step that is advantageous through deception distances one from faith and belief. And gradually one drifts away from religion and from God. Thus, one should be aware of the consequences of everything one does, as God watches over everything that we do. We should not need to rely on a questionnaire from one of the auxiliary organizations to ascertain this. In fact, we should hold ourselves accountable on a personal level. If we do something with good intention and do it to seek the pleasure of God, then we have the promise of multiple rewards from God. If our intention behind an action is not so good, we should be aware that we may incur Divine punishment. If everyone keeps this in mind when fulfilling their obligations, the general level of righteousness in the Jama'at will be enhanced and it will be evident for all to see. The department of Tarbiyyat will not need to be involved, nor will the office of Amoore ‘Amma, nor any other department. Thus, we should continuously examine ourselves and make efforts to safeguard ourselves against satanic attacks.

Indeed, the Holy Prophet (saw) said that Satan flows in the veins of every person like blood, even his own, but his Satan had become Muslim. When we are unwell, we may have an infection which has entered our blood stream. Initially, we may not even be aware of the illness and at an early stage even doctors cannot pinpoint an illness that has entered our blood stream. Nowadays virusesabound, causing widespread illness. However, the most rampant and dangerous ailment these days is spiritual sickness. A person does not even know when and how Satan enters the blood stream. At least with a physical ailment, a person is alerted by some symptoms and seeks medical help. However, this is not so with a spiritual ailment. A person’s near and dear ones notice signs of spiritual ailment and try to advise him or her, but those who have reached the later stages of spiritual disease regard their advice as erroneous. Indeed, satanic attacks and spiritual ailments are far worse and far more dangerous than physical ailments because people are not prepared for the cure. This is why true believers should take precautionary measures before any such attack can take place. We need constant practice and treatment in order to safeguard ourselves because


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spiritual ailments are rampant. We should remember that a true believer is never without fear of God.

When the Holy Prophet (saw) awoke during the night he would pray and supplicate with great humility and tenderness of heart. Hazrat A’isha (ra) put it to him that God had indeed granted him forgiveness, why then did he supplicate so humbly? The Holy Prophet (saw) replied that his salvation was solely due to the Grace of God and he needed to ever turn to God. Now, if someone like the Holy Prophet (saw) practiced so much humility and fear of God, who (among us) can say that he is not in need of seeking God's blessings? We need to be constantly attentive, we need to constantly abide by righteousness, we need to constantly self-reflect, we need to constantly seek God's mercy and we need to be constantly mindful of safeguarding our faith as explained in the Qur'anic verse: “And be not like those who forgot Allah, and whom He has consequently caused to forget their own souls. It is they that are the rebellious.” (59:20)

The spiritually sick do not deem themselves to be ill. In fact, when their sympathizers try and make them better they think it is the sympathizers who are not well. This results in nothing but ruination. Generally speaking, a person forgets God in three ways. Firstly, there are those who do not believe in the existence of God, and there is a large number of people these days who do not. These people are apparently educated and use the media and the internet to poison the minds of the young and the vulnerable. Secondly, those who do not have true belief in an All-Powerful God. These people do believe in the existence of God as the Creator and believe that the entire cosmos operates with God's power. Thirdly, there are those who are so immersed in worldly matters that they have forgotten God. They may offer Salat or pray when they remember, but are not focused on the fact that Salat is obligatory for true believers. Those who forget God ultimately reach a stage of moral and spiritual decline and have no inner peace. They are very prompt in identifying worldly comforts and God makes them forgetful towards Him.

Righteousness demands one to lead life in accordance with the commandments of God and this includes looking at the consequence of everything one embarks upon and having firm belief that God is watching over everything one does.

SECTION I ACTIVITY

In this sermon, Huzoor (aba) says that we should not need to rely on a questionnaire from one of the auxiliary organizations to ascertain our level of righteousness and that we should be accountable at a personal level.Discuss and devise some practical ways that allow us to ascertain our level of Taqwa in different aspects of our lives – in school, at home and at work. What criteria can we use in assessing our levels of righteousness and how can they help us to progress?


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PERSONAL TARBIYYAT EXERCISES

Recite Surah Al- Fatihah at least seven times a day.Before sleeping, reflect on how many of your actions were truly mindful of Taqwa during the day.

SECTION II – ISLAMIC CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE (Compulsoryin general meeting)

EXCERPT FROM FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 11/10/2006 – Marital Disharmony and Friction

Islam has given us beautiful teachings to strengthen our family relationships and establish an environment of love and affection. One is surprised by and feel sorry for those people who entangle themselves in the net of their own egos, and make plans to create disorder in not only two homes, but two families, and sometimes, even a whole generation. May Allah have mercy on them! The wisdom behind the announcement of the Islamic Nikah, where a man and a woman are tied into a new relationship, is that they consent that they shall be most heedful in abiding by the Divine commandments that are recited at the time. They will strive to act upon the commandments of those Qur’anic verses which are being recited at the time of the Nikah, so they can mold their lives according to those teachings.

So, the first admonishment of these Qur’anic verses is to adopt Taqwa and follow righteousness. They agree to act upon the advice given at the time of the Nikah; they are giving the acceptance of the engagement under these commands. Therefore, in reality, if they have true love and fear of their dear Lord in their hearts, who fulfills their desires and needs, not only at the time of their creation, but before that, then they will only do those works which can please Him and, as a result of this, they will be recipients of His blessings. Husband and wife are linked to each other by a covenant. If they promised to fulfil each other’s rights at the time of their Nikah, then it is their responsibility to further beautify this relationship, and to care for each other’s relatives.

They should also remember that if they care for each other’s sentiments and feelings, are respectful towards each other’s relatives, then those who seek to create splits in relationships will never be successful. Always remember that sometimes they are influenced by the society and the surroundings. If their foundation is based on Taqwa, then Allah will always protect them from these satanic attacks. If their relationship is based on trust and if they follow Taqwa, then the inciter, no matter how close they are to them, will not succeed. The inciter will only get one answer: the husband will say that he knows his wife very well and the wife will say that she knows her husband very well. There must be some misunderstanding. They should resolve this issue right away. If a stranger goes up to one’s wife and tells her rumors about her husband and then tells the


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wife not to mention him in any way because he doesn’t want to be questioned; And he then goes to the husband and tells him more rumors about his wife and also repeats not to mention him for the same reason:(clearly) one who says something in private and does not want his name to be mentioned to anyone is only lying and trying to create problems and a split between the couple. If someone has sympathy for others, and they want to resolve the issue, then they should utter such words which may strengthen their relationship.

Therefore, both husband and wife should stay firm on Taqwa, pray for their mutual relationship to grow stronger and to have regard and respect for each other’s relatives. If there is an issue, no matter who created it, the husband and wife should clear it up by talking to each other with love and affection, so that the culprit’s lies will be exposed. Letting the issues fester creates nothing but hatred, rifts in relationships and broken homes. At times when they are not following the path of righteousness and have no fear of Allah in their hearts, men make dreadful allegations against their wives, either by coming under influence of others, or the society, or in pursuit of a second marriage. If the need for a second marriage is warrantable, then they may go ahead, but if the sole aim is to get rid of the wife and hope she may seek Khulla so that if they have not yet paid the Haq Mehrthey may avoid it, then it is a petty and mean ploy. In such instances the Qadha board should ensure that the Haq Mehr is paid to the women. The laws of these countries also hold them accountable for other expenses.

ADDRESS TO LAJNA IMA’ILLAH AT JALSA SALANA UK, 7/23/2011- Taqwa and Marriage

Therefore, while a Momin tries his best to fulfil his pledge made with his God, he also tries his best to fulfil the pledge made with mankind. As I said yesterday as well, without discharging dues of mankind, the standards of discharging the dues of Allah cannot be attained. Cracks begin to appear in it too and once a crack appears in a utensil it gradually increases in size. Thus, fulfilling of the dues of mankind is also very important and in this instance the dues of husband and wife on each other are very significant. Their significance is for the betterment of society and the next generation. Therefore, it is a huge responsibility for a true Momin to fulfil them.

The reason Allah the Exalted has drawn attention to the dues of husband and wife and the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) selected these verses for the time of Nikah is so that husband and wife discharge each other’s dues while staying firm on Taqwa. Then alone would they be able to fulfil the trusts of Allah the Exalted and the pledges of faith in a proper manner as well as the trust and pledges of society. Thus, every Momin and Momina and every Ahmadi man and woman should remember that their covenants will only be fulfilled when they will try and fulfil the basic due of every relationship.

While Allah the Exalted has created holy matrimony to facilitate each other’s comfort, it is also a means of procreation of mankind. From it will ensue that generation, which, if brought up well through Tarbiyyat, becomes the guarantor of peace within society. Physical gratification and continuation of race alone are not the only objectives, for this is found in even animals. Allah the Exalted has created Man as the most eminent of all creation and this entails some requisites. For


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mankind, there is also mental gratification in this. This is why the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) has said that compatibility should be kept in mind in matrimonial matches. Compatibility involves many things such as, family and education, but this is also used as an excuse not to go ahead with a match and to break it. If one adopts Taqwa, such excuses are not made; on the contrary, right decisions are made. Relationships provide mental gratification as well as spiritual gratification. Empathy between husband and wife considerably promotes mental, spiritual and educational Tarbiyyat of the next generation. A man and woman who lay the foundation of a family in fact lay the foundation of a society; they lay the foundation of either making a nation good or bad. Therefore, there is great need to reflect on this.

…. Therefore, matrimonial matters and fulfilment of relationships outwardly appears to be a worldly matter but for a believer the world is also his or her faith. Indeed, an Ahmadi believer,man or woman, has to and should live his or her life in the manner that would fulfil his or her pledges. Only then will they become recipients of blessings and will be fulfilling the pledge that an Ahmadi makes with the Imam of the Age, the Promised Messiah (as) after entering the Jama’at in the form of the pledge of allegiance (Bai'at). Our girls and women should also be mindful that their foremost obligation is to abide by Taqwa and seeking the pleasure of Allah. Marriage, too, is to seek the pleasure of God and for the continuation of pious progeny.

SECTION II ACTIVITY (Compulsory – to be done in general meeting)

Conduct a workshop on the Islamic concept of marriage. Divide the membership into 3 groups:unmarried, newly married (1-5 years) and married (6 years and more). Ask the following questions:For all groups:

What is the Islamic concept of marriage and how does it differ from a non-Islamic society’sconcept of marriage?In what ways are they the same?

Unmarried group:How will you give preference to Islamic teachings of marriage over societal practices when you get married?

Newly married (1-5 years)What challenges have you encountered in your marriage which stem from the pull of society? How do you deal with them?

Married (6 years and more)What qualities have you had to develop in yourself to maintain your marriage and obey Allah’s commands? How are you going to pass knowledge of the Islamic concept of marriage to your children/future children?


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Resolve to change a habit of yours which you know annoys your spouse just to please Allah.Frequently recite the prayer “Our Lord, grant us of our wives and children the delight of our eyes, and make us a model for the righteous” (Holy Qur'an 25:75).

SECTION III – ACCEPTANCE OF PRAYER

EXCERPT FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 3/4/2016 – Pearls of Wisdom

What is required for attainment of spirituality, closeness to God and acceptance of prayer is to keep an eye on one's own actions and to reform and improve them: To self-analyze, to keep an eye on one's worship of God and to abide by all commandments of God and to correct one's thoughts and intellect. God states that He is near and He listens to prayers of the supplicant. Thus, if one does not feel that God is near and does not experience acceptance of prayers, then somewhere along the way something is deficient in the human effort.

The Promised Messiah (as) used to say that there are two kinds of beggars. One type of beggars call out and take whatever is given to them; if nothing is given they call out two or three times and then move on. The second kind of beggar cannot be turned away unless he gets what he begs for.These kinds of beggars are very few.

Hazrat Musleh Maud (ra) said that he remembered a beggar used to come to the door of the Promised Messiah (as) and would not move until the Promised Messiah (as) stepped out and gave him something. At times, he used to ask for a fixed amount of money and if less was given he would simply not accept it. Many a time the Promised Messiah's visitors used to make up the amount he asked. On days when the Promised Messiah (as) was ill and did not go out he would sit there until such time that the Promised Messiah felt better and stepped out. The Promised Messiah (as) used to say that in terms of acceptance of prayer, it is important that one is like the second type of beggar and keeps on asking and does not stop until such time that an act of God proves that prayer about a specific matter should be ceased. For example, these days the sex of an unborn baby can be determined and, in the latter part of pregnancy, it can be determined with considerablecertainty. To continue to pray in such a situation for a baby boy [if it's a girl] is against the act of God. Indeed, prayer can be offered to be blessed with a baby boy in the future. At times, God discloses His will and to continue to pray against God's will in such a situation is discourteous.

It should also be remembered that planning and prayers go side by side. One should plan and then pray with resoluteness as this attracts God's Grace. It is very important that we also plan and take practical steps along with praying for something. The Promised Messiah (as) used to say that to


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pray without planning is wrong and the prayer of such a person is thrown back on him because to pray and not plan is against the law of God. It is tantamount to testing God and it is contrary to the dignity of God that man should test Him.

POINTS FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 9/28/07 – Conditions for Acceptance of Prayer

The first condition is to have a certainty about the existence of God; that He is the Lord of all the worlds and Master of everything and that by virtue of His quality of Rububiyyat(quality to sustain and nurture) He provides for all living things and all qualities culminatein Him.

The second condition is not only to have certainty that there is a God but to have complete faith in Him and to be desirous to seek Him and to seek union with Him.

The third condition is that although it is our firm belief that all prophets are from God, to understand that acceptance of prayer is now associated with the Holy Prophet (saw).

The fourth condition is that our supplication to Allah is to seek His pleasure, along with a desire to seek Him. Allah says when one makes an entreaty in order to meet Him, one will find Him near.

The fifth condition is to try to avoid all sins. The most fundamental and important prayer is a prayer for avoidance of sin and purification of self. Once this prayer gains acceptance and one is truly pure in Allah’s eyes, then one does not even need to pray for all one’s needs and wants as they are met by Divine design.

The sixth condition is to give precedence to faith over worldly matters.

The seventh condition is to continually seek to improve oneself in spiritual and practical terms.

The eighth condition is that one’s prayers should not be for anything that is not within the laws and boundaries set by Allah.

The ninth condition is to always be mindful to pray not only in times of trouble and hardship but to remember Allah in good and prosperous times also.

The tenth condition is to avoid hastiness and to never tire of praying.

The eleventh condition is to inculcate tenderness, angst and lamentation in one’s supplications in order to seek a high standard of prayers. Indeed, the Promised Messiah (as) advised one to assume the helpless crying of a child when making supplications to Allah to attract His mercy.


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SECTION III ACTIVITY

Resolve to establish Salat firmly after mindful ablution and to improve your performance of Salatthrough concentration on each posture; offer each Salat on time, in congregation as often as possible. Put this resolve into practice throughout the month of Ramadan so that it becomes a permanent part of your worship.


Memorize as many Qur'anic prayers as possible during Ramadan.

“Our Lord, we have heard a Crier calling us unto faith, ‘Believe ye in

your Lord,’ and we have believed. Our Lord, forgive us, therefore, our errors and remove from us our evils, and in death number us with the

righteous. (Holy Qur'an 3:194)

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QUARTER 2: JULY-AUGUST-SEPTEMBER 2017

All Majalis should cover compulsory Section III and at least one more.

CURRENT FRIDAY SERMONS: JULY, AUGUST, SEPTEMBER 2017 SECTION I: TARBIYYAT OF CHILDREN II: GOOD AND EVIL III: CONSEQUENCES OF LACK OF PURDAH (COMPULSORY)

SECTION I – TARBIYYAT OF CHILDREN

EXTRACT FROM ADDRESS TO LAJNA AT JALSA SALANA CANADA DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 10/08/2016

… Progress of education systems and new inventions have enlightened the minds of people, but at the same time have rendered them spiritually dead. This includes even Muslims, when they follow corrupt scholars they become spiritually lifeless.

The Holy Prophet (saw) gave us a warning that this time would come, but at the same time he also gave us the glad tidings that at the time of spiritual decline and disorder, heightened worldly desire and forgetfulness of Islamic teaching, Allah Almighty would send His servant, who would be subservient to the Holy Prophet (saw), to revive the spiritual dead.

We are fortunate to have accepted this messenger, the Promised Messiah (as) and the Imam Mehdi (as). We have entered into a covenant with him and we proclaim that under his guidance we willoverturn all the attacks of Satan. We pledge that every time Satan distracts us we will try to save ourselves and seek the blessings of Allah. We will give precedence to our religion over all the worldly matters.

Therefore, you cannot thank Allah enough for this blessing. The gratitude should not be expressed only through lip service by saying, “Alhamdulillah, we are grateful to Allah for being Ahmadi.” Real gratitude means to understand your responsibilities. This is the foremost obligation of an Ahmadi girl and an Ahmadi woman because not only does she have to protect herself from the attacks of Satan but she must also protect her next generations.

It is a woman who carries her baby in her womb. It is in her lap that a child is reared and nurtured. It is a woman who trains her child in such manner that they learn the difference between right and wrong before being exposed to the outside environment. A true Ahmadi Muslim woman teaches her children the high moral standards of Islam as well as teaching them their duty to worship Allah. An Ahmadi Muslim woman teaches her children the purpose of being an Ahmadi Muslim from an early age. It is not an easy task to raise children with this tarbiyyat and it is a great challenge in today’s corrupt society. It is a huge responsibility of every Ahmadi Muslim woman.


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Those of you, who are present right now, have immigrated here because you were deprived of religious freedom in your own countries. Some of you came here for a better future. Others were oppressed in some other way. Those men or women who have come here for religious freedom, I hope now cannot even imagine giving precedence to worldly matters over their faith. Even those who did not come on religious grounds, men or women, must never throw their religion behind their backs.

In other words, no true Ahmadi Muslim will give precedence to worldly matters over their religious belief. However, when we look around and observe some of the actions, we see that in spite of their pledge to give precedence to religion over worldly matters, the majority of them do not follow the commandments of Allah the Almighty.

Therefore, if our women do not act in accordance with Allah’s commands, their children will also follow their bad example. The mothers who set good examples for their children from early age and use wisdom in their children’s upbringing, will raise children who come home and share everything with them. These mothers are able to give their children correct Islamic teachings. The outside negative atmosphere will not influence children of such mothers and they will refrain from vices, even in their youth.

On the other hand, there are mothers who do not take an interest in their children’s concerns right from an early age, and mistakenly assume that their child is too young and is not going to learn anything bad. Others are either indifferent or too strict, so that if their children say something wrong, they force them to be quiet with the result that the children will stop sharing anything further with them. Once these children get to the age of 14-15 years old, they tend to prefer the outside environment more than their home environment. They begin to love this world more than their religion.

I am not saying that men are absolved of this responsibility. Surely fathers are responsible too. Sometimes in spite of mother’s best efforts, it is the father’s actions that spoils the children. Therefore, it is the responsibility of the fathers as well. Children spend more time with mothers; therefore, Islam places the primary responsibility of their pious upbringing on mothers.

The responsibility to raise morally good children is not an easy responsibility especially in this corrupted society where, in the name of progress Satan has equipped the world to attract children’s attention. When these children watch other children getting involved in certain activities, especially around the age of 12 or 13, they become restless. Therefore, the moral training that a mother provides is not ranked any lower than a Jihad. That is why, when a woman asked the HolyProphet (saw) that as women stay at home and raise children, would they get a reward equal to men when they go for Jihad, the Holy Prophet (saw) replied, “Absolutely, that is your Jihad and its reward is just like going for Jihad.”

So, can you see, how much reward is given for the good upbringing of children and how beautifully the Holy Prophet (saw) made women understand their status?


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ADVICE FROM HAZRAT AMMAN JAN (RA) FOR MOTHERS from Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) by Munavara Ghauri

Be punctual and conscientious in the observance of the obligatory daily prayers. Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) would usually perform her ablutions and be ever ready in a clean state to commence her prayers, once she had heard the Adhan.

Employ yourself usefully with the remembrance of Allah Almighty. Even whilst doing household chores one can still engage in this form of worship, as Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) did throughout her life.

Show fortitude and courage during the trials of life, never forgetting to thank AllahAlmighty for bestowing His Blessings upon us. Those who love Allah Almighty the most, never get depressed.

Read or listen to the recitation of the Holy Qur’an daily. Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) would ask her children/grandchildren to read the Holy Qur’an/Ahadith/the books of the Promised Messiah (as), or small moral stories to her. This would improve their religious knowledge, public speaking, confidence and literacy.

Give complete obedience to the Khalifah of the time. Even as a grown woman in her forties with the exalted status of being the spouse of a prophet, Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) would still obtain Hazrat Khalifatul-Masih I’s (ra) permission before leaving Qadian.

The Tarbiyyat of the eldest child is especially important. If one concentrates on developing good habits in the first child, the rest of the siblings usually copy this behavior and benefit.

Emphasize the importance of telling the truth to one’s children. As Hazrat Khalifatul-Masih IV (rta) related, Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) did not stress anything more greatly than “developing a revulsion for deceit” in her children.

Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) took care to speak honestly and courteously with everyone, regardless of their rank or age.

One should try to instill the habit of obedience to parents in children. If children learn the importance of obedience, then it is reasonable to overlook their smaller acts of mischief.

Openly express faith in one’s children. This develops their confidence and self-esteem. Parents should tell their children to pray for various things from an early age, in order to develop this essential habit in them.

Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) encouraged her children to say “Salam” when they awoke, and when they returned from school.

Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) guided her eldest daughter that she should always wish good for others and never harbor a grudge or take revenge, even if ill-treated. She reassured her that Allah Almighty bestows goodness Himself on such people.


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SECTION I ACTIVITY

Use an interactive activity (workshop, panel discussion, discussion) to answer the following questions:

In the address delivered by Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (aba) at the Jalsa Salana Canada,Huzoor (aba) mentions some aspects of a mother’s behavior which greatly affect thetarbiyyat of her children. What are these aspects and what are the ways in which theypositively or negatively affect tarbiyyat of children?

Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) advised mothers to show complete obedience to the Khalifa ofthe time. How does this influence tarbiyyat of children?


Pray for your children in at least one sajdah in every SalatHave a special family dinner at least once a week during which every family member hasa chance to share their news, plans and problems.

SECTION II – GOOD AND EVIL

EXTRACT FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 3/20/11 – Good and Evil

'O ye who believe! follow not the footsteps of Satan, and whoso follows the footsteps of Satan should know that he surely enjoins immorality and manifest evil. And but for the grace of Allah and His mercy upon you, not one of you would ever be pure, but Allah purifies whom He pleases. And Allah is All-Hearing, All-Knowing.' (Holy Qur'an 24:22)

Allah Almighty has told us that Satan does not leave you alone even after you accept belief and have faith. This is why even Muslims can apostatize. It is only by the special grace of Allah Almighty that man is saved from satanic attacks. At the end of the aforementioned verse, Allah Almighty assures that He is All-Hearing. If man resolutely calls on Allah Almighty and turns to Him and supplicates, Allah Almighty sees that man is sincere and He generates strength of belief in that person which safeguards him from satanic attacks. Satan says that apart from Allah Almighty's sincere people everyone would follow him; therefore, believers should employ their wisdom to reflect on how to become sincere servants of Allah Almighty. Avoiding immorality and manifest evil cleanses one spiritually with the grace of Allah Almighty and one who is cleansed by Allah Almighty is purified.

Satanic attacks are gradual, introducing a small evil with the thought that it is only a minor evil. However, this minor evil becomes the catalyst for a bigger sin, leading a person to lose his sense of right and wrong without realizing what he is doing.


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Allah Almighty says that for purification, man must protect himself from evil with resolve and consistency. Once he is in Allah Almighty's protection, that resolve and consistency are still needed to stay firm on piety.

Answering the question which is sometimes asked as to why Allah Almighty created Satan and let him be so audacious, the Promised Messiah (as) explained that everyone acknowledges that there are two pulls; the pull of good and the pull of evil. When drawn by evil thoughts man turns to evil and when attracted by good thoughts man turns to good. Sometimes man does evil and then turns to do good. These dual strengths are found in everyone. Allah Almighty has named the inclination to good as Angels or the Holy Spirit and the inclination to evil as Satan. Each person has both these capacities and the reason Allah Almighty put both these capacities in man is so that man can do good works and be deserving of reward. If man was created with only the capacity to do good, piety would not have been anything unique for him. Now that man has to choose between the two inclinations of good and evil, he is recompensed accordingly for choosing between good and evil. All religions accept the dual existences of Satan and Angels. And any person who does not desist from evil himself becomes a Satan.

In answer to the question as to why Allah Almighty does not punish Satan, the Promised Messiah (as) said the Holy Qur'an tell us that Allah Almighty has appointed a time to punish Satan. Many satanic natured people have been punished by Allah Almighty while many others will be punished in the future.

The Promised Messiah (as) said Satan incites towards falsehood, cruelty, injustice, passion, killing, hypocrisy and arrogance. Whereas Allah Almighty invites towards patience, devotion to Allah Almighty, sincerity, faith and spiritual prosperity. In spite of numerous incitements of Satan, the blessings of having a pious nature takes man towards Allah Almighty.

…. At times Satan makes people follow him via implanting pious thoughts. Some people cannot differentiate between what is from Allah Almighty and perhaps what is a figment of one's self or is a satanic implant, like revelations. Angels motivate good and Satan incites to evil. What is from Allah Almighty is pleasurable and grand and hits the heart hard like iron. As it is stated: 'Verily, We are charging thee with a weighty Word.' (73:6) Figments of one's imagination and satanic motivation are one and the same thing. A person is accompanied by two powers, Angels and Satan. Angels motivate good and Satan incites to evil. These two powers cannot be denied. Light and darkness exist side by side. If we do not have knowledge of something it does not mean it does not exist as there are thousands of wonders apart from the universe we know.

…. Explaining the concept of hidden sin, the Promised Messiah (as) said man experiences difficulties due to his own faults and not because of Allah Almighty. Some people appear very pious and people are amazed to see them in difficulties. In actual fact, their difficulties are borne of their covert or hidden sins. It is through Allah Almighty's compassion that others do not know of a man's hidden sins. Just as some illnesses are very evident while others are so hidden that even the patient is unaware of them. Similarly, man's inner sins cause his ruin.


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Cleansing and purification of self is like bringing a death upon oneself. Unless all low morals are abandoned, purification of self cannot take place. Everyone has some element or the other of evil in them and unless it is eradicated, Satan continues to attack.

The Promised Messiah (as) said that a true Muslim is one who aspires to be a manifestation of Prophets of Allah Almighty. The Companions of the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) understood this mystery and followed it thus that they followed the blessed model of the Holy Prophet to such perfection that nothing of their own selves remained. They were completely devoted to Allah Almighty and to adopt the blessed model. Unless this kind of devotion and obedience is inculcated, it is pointless to claim to be a follower. It should be remembered that until such time that Allah Almighty descends on one's heart and His Signs are apparent in one, Satan's interference will continue.

SECTION II ACTIVITY

Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (aba) says ‘that Satanic attacks are gradual, introducing a small evil with the thought that it is only a minor evil. However, this minor evil becomes the catalyst for a bigger sin, leading a person to lose his sense of right and wrong without realizing what he is doing.’

Discuss the statement and give examples of small evils that we may commit during a typical day which can lead to a bigger sin. How can we guard ourselves and our families from Satan’s attacks?


Recite Istighfar at least 70 times a day, following the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet (saw).

Recite the prayer of Hazrat Adam (ra) - ‘Our Lord we have wronged ourselves; and if Thouforgive us not and have not mercy on us, we shall surely be of the lost.’ (7:24)

SECTION III – CONSEQUENCES OF LACK OF PURDAH(Compulsory in general meeting)

EXTRACT FROM ADDRESS TO LAJNA AT UK IJTEMA DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 11/19/ 2006

Huzoor (aba) said, “The Promised Messiah (as) says that people are insisting on relaxation of ‘Purdah’ and follow Europe but this is not at all appropriate. This freedom of women is the root cause of evil and disobedience. Just ponder over the moral condition of those countries where this kind of freedom is tolerated. If you see a rise in the level of their purity and chastity as a result of this freedom, then we will accept that we are wrong. However, it is clear that when man and woman have reached their full strength and there is freedom of association, how dangerous their relationships will be. Casting evil glances and being overcome by carnal desires is in man’s nature.


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Then if despite ‘Purdah’ some succumb to evil deeds and become disobedient, one can imagine what can happen where freedom prevails.”

Hazrat Khalifatul Masih II (ra) has stated in this regard that the ‘Purdah’ according to the Shariah, that is proven from the Holy Quran, is that a woman’s hair, neck, and face up to the front of her ears should be covered. This instruction can be adopted in different countries according to the local dress and circumstances. He stated that all parts of the body except the hands are included in the ‘Purdah’.

Hazrat Khalifatul Masih III (rh) has stated, during an address to the Norway Lajna, “I ask thosewomen who feel that it is not necessary to observe ‘Purdah’ that what favor have they done to Islam by abandoning the ‘Purdah’? Today some seek permission to do away with ‘Purdah’. Tomorrow they will seek permission to skinny dip in the sea and to lay bare on the beaches. Later they will seek permission to bear children out of wedlock. I will tell them that they should be prepared to feel the fire of Hell. They should mend their ways before Allah Almighty’s wrath overtakes them.”

Hazrat Khalifatul Masih IV (rh) said, “I felt that ‘Purdah’ is disappearing from many places in the world as if it never existed and people do not realize what horrible consequences they are facing as a result of this. Parents are driving their generation towards hell fire due to their carelessness and there is no one who cares for them. This situation is rapidly deteriorating throughout the world. It occurred to me that if Ahmadis do not immediately stand up in defense of Islam then the situation will reach a point from which there is no return. There are those women who have to venture outside to work but they go out with full makeup. What has makeup to do with the performance of your duties?”

He also said, “Women think that in this society, where ‘Purdah’ is being discarded, if they meet their friends with their veils or scarves, their friends will call them backwards, foolish, or mad and say that this age is beyond ‘Purdah’. And this also troubles the men. They forget that dignity and respect for others comes from one’s own character and the dress has no value in the worldly honor. A person with moral character is given respect. We should learn to respect ourselves first.”

Again, he said, “The girls being brought up in this country (England) are confused about the hair on their head. They think that covering your head is a backward thing to do. Therefore, they take a step towards Allah half-heartedly and not happily. They are, in fact, saying that, O’ Allah Almighty accept us as we are. We are wearing a scarf but in a manner that is similar to a Jew who is covering a very small portion of his head with a small flat cap. So please accept this incomplete step that we have taken towards you. If you do everything for the sake of Allah, then this is entirely inappropriate. Remember that the most beautiful part of a woman’s features is her hair, specially, when they are hanging in front of her face. I have noticed some girls that when they put their scarves on they do so in a manner that causes their hair to dangle in front of their faces. You should ask yourself, do I care more for my Lord, or for other people?”


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EXTRACTS FROM ADDRESS TO LAJNA AT JALSA SALANA CANADA DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 10/8/16

Some of the commandments of the Holy Qur’an pertain specifically to women. Their purpose is to establish a high status for women. Every Ahmadi Muslim woman and girl should keep this in mind. One example is purdah. It was not the Promised Messiah (as) or his Successors who imposed this command. This is a commandment of the Holy Qur'an, given by Allah Almighty. Allah has emphasized the significance of purdah and explained the logic behind it in many verses of the Holy Qur'an. Allah Almighty has clarified its importance in terms of the demands of today’s world, because nowadays when this command is brought to a girl’s attention, she calls it an obsolete and outdated tradition. In fact, I have been told that in one developed country, some mothers who came from Pakistan to join their families were forced by their children to remove their head-coverings. It appears that men are more prey to inferiority complexes in these countries. They tell their wives that it is dangerous to observe purdah in this country and that the police could take them away. These mothers who have been observing purdah all their lives, are now taking it off from fear of the police.

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) said that modesty is a part of a woman’s faith. According to this hadith, if she has no modesty, then her faith is incomplete. Then the Holy Qur’an says that you should hide your beauty, “…. except that which is apparent thereof.” This includes, your stature or your physique, thin or heavy build. When Allah gave the command of purdah, He said that women should wrap themselves in large chadors (sheets) to hide their bodies. The burqa was only invented by women later on for their own convenience, although now it is falling prey to fashion and innovations. Some burqas are plain but some others are adorned with beads and embroidery. In other words, the purdah that was established to avoid inviting unwanted glances is now being used to attract attention. It does not stop there, as some women wear burqas or coats that are so tight, that instead of hiding their embellishments, they highlight them.

This is not purdah. There is also a new trend of strangely shaped, triangular and flared burqas and of wearing burqas with all the buttons open. And underneath these, short shirts with tight jeans, shortened trousers or shalwars are worn. This trend is prevalent in Pakistan and I believe it is here too. All this makes a joke of purdah, a mockery of the commandment. The same is true when a scarf or hijab neither covers the hair nor the face. New-convert Muslim women express concern and criticize that proper purdah is not being observed by women who are born Muslim, as their hair is not covered.

Allah Almighty tells you to wrap your coverings in such a way that your face should not be exposed. The minimum purdah that the Promised Messiah (as) has elucidated is that your forehead should be covered, hair should not be exposed in the front or back, the chin and the sides of the cheeks should be covered. This is the requirement, provided that no make-up is worn. If you want to keep your face exposed, then it must be without makeup. This should provide a solution to those who complain that they have a hard time breathing if they cover their face. Then there are some who cover their heads properly, but they wear jeans with short, tight shirts. In addition, there is


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another fashion in Pakistan, and it may have traveled here as well, that the shalwars or trousers have long slits at ankle level that expose bare legs while walking. I hear about these issues through complaints that come to me, although I have not seen them myself because no one comes in front of me like that. Ahmadi women and girls should avoid all this impropriety. I have not stopped you from wearing jeans, as long as you wear at least a knee-length shirt over them.

…. If you disregard this command, then not only will you become naked and unprotected, but you will also become negligent about all the responsibilities that you have towards the upbringing of your children. And when children observe that their mother is acting contrary to the commandments of the Holy Qur’an, it will have a very deleterious and damaging effect on them.

Therefore, not only does an Ahmadi Muslim woman have to fortify her belief system and increase her faith, she also has to strengthen her practices. We should try to instill the image of hijab, purdah and modesty in our girls and women. If there is any hesitation, then mothers have to remove it. If their attention is not brought towards their modesty by the time they are 11 or 12 years old, girls will not be able to grasp this concept when they are grown up. Therefore, an Ahmadi mother has to work even harder to instill these teachings of Islam and the Holy Qur'an in her children in this society where they are exposed to every vulgarity in schools. A sense of modesty should be developed in children from the ages of five to seven years old. Here in the West, children are taught subjects that cause restlessness in them in the early grades.

Some of you may have had the thought cross your minds that while Islam has so many commandments, is the command of purdah the only one that will fulfill our responsibilities? Is it the only thing that will bring about the victory of Islam?

Remember that no commandment is insignificant. Yesterday, during the Friday Sermon I pointed out how should we behave from the perspective of the Promised Messiah (as). If I see a weakness spreading in our community due to the influence of this society, I have to bring your attention towards it. That is the reason why I am reiterating, that whatever the aspirations of others may be, let them be. An Ahmadi’s aspiration, however, should be “to vie with each other in good deeds.” This is what the Holy Qur’an has taught us. We have to lead this world, not go by its fashions or trends. You have to make sure that the fashion you adopt is within the boundaries that Allah has set for us. Fashion is not forbidden as long as it stays within the boundaries set by Allah. Adopt only the fashion that suits your status. Set such an example that the world begins to follow you.

SECTION III ACTIVITY (Compulsory in general meeting)

Many Lajna 15-25 and older Lajna members still appear to either misunderstand or casually ignorethe importance of Allah Ta'ala’s command of purdah, in spite of the explanations and constant exhortations of the Promised Messiah (as) and all his Khulafa.

Conduct a workshop to examine this statement. Divide the membership into groups according to age: Lajna 15-25, Lajna with young children and Lajna with older children. Ask each group to discuss and answer the following:


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Give reasons why some women consider the command of purdah to be less important thanother commands of Allah?

What is ‘incomplete’ purdah as opposed to ‘minimum’ purdah? Does observing‘incomplete’ purdah satisfy the requirement of pleasing Allah?

The Khulafa warn that when mothers do not pay attention to purdah and hayaa, they areaffecting the faith of the future generations. What do you think this means in practicalterms? What kind of seemingly harmless activities could lead a non-purdah observing girlor woman away from her faith?

Ask one or two purdah observing Lajna members from each group to briefly describe theirown experience of observing purdah or guiding their daughter towards purdah.


Read the etiquettes of purdah presented in the workbook and discuss with your family(husband, sons and daughters). Explain the importance of purdah to your children.

Resolve not to let your head covering slip down when out of the home. Find ways to makeit secure.

And they uttered not a word except that they said: ‘Our Lord, forgive us our errors and our excesses in our conduct, and make firm our steps and help us against the disbelieving people.’

(Holy Qur'an 3:148)

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QUARTER 3: OCTOBER- NOVEMBER- DECEMBER 2017


CURRENT FRIDAY SERMONS: OCTOBER, NOVEMBER, DECEMBER 2017SECTION I: WOMEN’S RIGHTS II: SOCIAL ILLS III: GIVING IN THE WAY OF ALLAH (COMPULSORY)

SECTION I – WOMEN’S RIGHTS

EXTRACTS FROM ADDRESS TO LAJNA AT JALSA SALANA GERMANY 2016 DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA)

“Today there is much debate in the world concerning the rights of men and women. Whereas people are hugely expressive regarding these rights, the fact is overlooked by the world that there should be certain boundaries assigned to them. There is a need to classify where the distinction lies between men and women as humans in their physical and innate capabilities and faculties. Where should there be uniformity in the rights of men and women, and where should variances in their rights be made due to their different constitutions? And why differentiate between the rights of men and women in that case? Is it to establish the superiority of men? Is it to make women feel that they are the weaker species? Is it to take an unjust advantage of women? If the rights of men and women are established on such a basis, then that would most certainly be an injustice and cruelty against women.

… Certainly, critics of Islam may indeed object that they do not find the Muslim countries of today implementing these rights fully, or they are failing to implement the majority of them. However, the allegation of denying women’s rights cannot be pinpointed to the teachings of Islam. Nobody can allege that Islamic Laws usurp the rights of women. Nobody can justifiably raise the objection that the Law-Bearing Book [the Holy Qur’an] that Muslims take pride in and that covers every aspect of law and gives the best solutions on every aspect of life for Muslims, eliminates the rights of women. If anyone raises this objection, it is completely wrong and unjust. It is entirely correct that there is a difference between secular and Islamic philosophy in distributing the rights between men and women. Islam is a religion based on human nature that assigns rights according to the intrinsic disposition of man and woman, according to their respective capabilities. We can explain this in the following way, that is, just as Allah Almighty has divided humankind into two categories, of men and women, He has similarly divided their responsibilities into two categories. Therefore, the establishment of rights in Islam is naturally done with consideration of these differences.

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detail at the [2016] UK Annual Convention Address to the ladies, undoubtedly the rights of men and women are absolutely equal where mutual similarities exist between men and women, such as in terms of the rewards for their actions and numerous other matters. Where there are variances in the rights of men and women, the necessary reasons and factors that formed the basis of these differences in rights have been explained.

… Although Islam says there is a difference in the physical makeup of men and women and also in their responsibilities, in terms of intellect, just as man has been given intelligence, woman too has been given intelligence. Just as men has been commanded to acquire education, women have also been commanded to educate themselves. As such, Allah the Almighty has granted equal capabilities and means for both men and women to progress and advance. He has granted them both intellect, so that they utilize their wisdom and activate their mental faculties and strive to excel one another. Men cannot claim that they have exclusively been granted intelligence and only they can utilize it to advance. Nor can a woman profess that only she has been given intellect and she alone can progress with it. Allah the Almighty has given a mind, brain, wisdom and knowledge to both men and women to procure knowledge and insight. No man can say that a woman’s intellect has reached a peak beyond which she cannot progress and that only men can develop their intellect beyond a certain degree. Similarly, language and the ability to speak have been given to both men and women. If men can become great orators and have the potential to demonstrate such abilities, then women too can become just as good orators – and they are!

… We similarly see that Allah the Almighty has given some body parts equally to men and women such as hands and limbs. Yet nobody can deny that Allah the Almighty has made the strength and power of the limbs and nerves of men and women different. In other words, men have been given more strength and women less. For example, in terms of stress, men have a greater endurance to bear stress as compared with women. There was a survey in the United Kingdom which discovered that as a result of travelling to and from work, women suffered from four times more mental and emotional stress compared to men. Thus, when Allah the Almighty says men are stronger than women, it means they have stronger nerves and the ability to endure and bear stress. Thus, domestically, in resolving major issues and solving problems that may arise, men should show greater endurance and patience. Although this differentiation in the ability to bear stress and in nerves exists, women’s rights have still been preserved. Men have been told that, as they are stronger, they have greater responsibilities to control their emotions, as they can take a greater burden.

… On the one hand, women commuting to work face four times greater stress as compared to men. On the other, when required, women have been given great emotional and mental fortitude, firm resolve and the ability to bear stress. In the case where women are required to fulfil certain responsibilities, her ability to bear stress and tolerance is far greater than a man’s and, in certain situations, a woman’s patience and tolerance is far superior to his. A general example of this is in the upbringing of children where women bear the child crying at night and will wake up several


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times to breastfeed the infant. No man can compete with a woman in this respect. Some men are so cruel that they start hitting a child when it cries for even a short while.

… When faced with caring for a child, even the most primitive of women prove to be far more accomplished and intelligent than even the wisest of men. This is because Allah the Almighty has instilled this patience in the very nature of women according to her responsibilities. There may be some exceptions to this among men who may display this patience in certain circumstances. However, generally speaking, men do not have nearly as much patience as women.

… Hence, Allah the Almighty has differentiated the nature of man and woman and has divided their responsibilities accordingly. So, it is complete ignorance to claim that in every single task men and women should be equivalent, or that their roles should be reversed. Considering the demands that are now being raised on a daily basis, it is not unlikely some will start to say that their roles should be reversed and men should be doing the role of women and vice versa. In fact,people, have already started making such demands.

… Generally in the world, women have been treated cruelly by men and men have tried to establish their superiority over them in all matters. Now, in reaction to the injustices perpetrated against them, women have demanded to be treated equally to men in every single matter. This has been an incorrect approach by both genders, which needs to be reformed. We Ahmadis, who act upon the true teachings of Islam, must rectify this mistaken approach.

SECTION I ACTIVITY

Conduct an interactive activity to discuss the following:

What are the rights given by Allah to women and how do they define an Ahmadi Muslim woman?Why has Allah Ta'ala differentiated the roles of men and women? Does this affect their equality?In what ways do some women find this hard to accept and what are the consequences of such an attitude and / or behavior?


Recite Darood Sharif on the Holy Prophet (saw) in gratitude for championing the rights you enjoy today.Have a discussion with your sons and daughters about the rights of women and teachyour sons how to behave chivalrously towards all their female relatives.Tell a non-Muslim friend/neighbor/teacher about the rights Islam has given you.


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SECTION II – SOCIAL ILLS

EXTRACTS FROM ADDRESS TO LAJNA AT JALSA SALANA RABWAH DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH III (RH) 12/20/1965

In the Holy Qur’an, there are a number of things that Allah Almighty has commanded us to refrainfrom pursuing, namely actions that rob us of our precious time and fritter it away. I am going to mention some of these to my sisters. Allah Almighty says:

“O ye who believe, enter not houses other than your own until you have asked leave and saluted the inmates thereof. That is better for you, that you may be heedful. And if you find no one therein, do not enter there until you are given permission. And if it be said to you; go back; that is purer for you. And Allah knows well what you do.” (24:28-29)

The first of these is that if a sister comes to your house to visit you and you are engaged in some good work, tell her without embarrassment that you cannot see her at that particular time. Because if you have more regard for your visiting sister and disregard the command of Allah Almighty, then how will you answer to Him for this behavior? He has, in fact allowed you to decline to see visitors when you are busy and thus safeguards your time. Why would you not avail of this facility, rather than being guilty of negligence in doing useful good work? Moreover, those who come to visit are commanded to depart without feeling hurt or grumbling and complaining if permission to enter is declined.

… Another matter that robs us of our time is unseemly curiosity. Some men and women are always busy collecting material with which to find fault with their brothers and sisters and are on the lookout for mistakes or faults of others to gossip about. One woman visits another and asks her, “Sister, have you heard about such and such? Do you know what has happened?” Now, one should ask this woman, “Whatever has happened, what concern is it to you?” She should take care of herself instead of worrying about others. Allah Almighty has stated in the Holy Qur’an:

O ye who believe! Avoid most of suspicions, for suspicion in some cases is a sin. And spy not, nor back-bite one another. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his brother who is dead? Certainly, you would loathe it. And fear Allah, surely, Allah is Oft-Returning with compassion and is Merciful. [49:13]

In other words, do not spy out of curiosity and strive not to find flaws and shortcomings of others.

… A Hadith of the Holy Prophet (saw) states that Hazrat Gabriel said to him that if the angels were allowed to worship and to do good on the earth, they would have covered up the sins and shortcomings of the Muslims. In short, the Divine order is to not expose the sin of others, even if it comes to your knowledge, nor waste your time in search of finding others’ faults.

There is a very stern directive of the Holy Prophet (saw) regarding this and I want to present it before my sisters at this time. Listen to it carefully and make a solemn resolve right now that you will not indulge in finding others’ faults from now on. The Holy Prophet (saw) said;


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“Hearken! I enjoin you, do not cause trouble to believers; do not malign them nor be constantly on the lookout to catch their weaknesses. If anyone of you seeks to uncover the weaknesses of the believers, Allah Almighty will be after him and pursue his weaknesses and defaults, even though he might have committed them in the privacy of his home, and He will humiliate and defame him.”

So if every one of us desires that Allah Almighty continues to cover up his weaknesses and let his mistakes and defaults remain unexposed and that He envelop him under His mantle of Mercy and Forgiveness, then none of us dare do otherwise to others. How can we dare to implore Allah Almighty to forgive us, cover and conceal our shortcomings, while we ourselves roam in the entire neighborhood and city to explore others shortcomings and faults? If this were the case, Allah Almighty would surely respond thus to our supplications, “Why do you come and ask Me for something that you do not like for your brothers and sisters?”

The third thing that robs us of our time is the habit of backbiting. Some people start talking ill of others in their gatherings instead of talking about virtue and goodness. Backbiting means talking about someone’s shortcomings in a manner that is not conducive to any spiritual benefit. For instance, a person has a certain weakness and another tells him, in private, that he perceives this particular weakness in him and says, “If I am right, then try to mend your ways.” Now this, too, is talking about somebody’s weakness but it is constructive and beneficial because a sister’s attention is drawn to self-reformation and there is no maligning of her character. On the other hand, if her weakness was mentioned at a social gathering only to malign her and no spiritual benefit was attained thereby, then it is backbiting. Allah Almighty has forbidden this. He says: “And spy not,nor back-bite one another.” (49:13)

Allah Almighty has commanded women in particular to shun such behavior which is disapproved, disliked and offensive. He says, “So virtuous women are those who are obedient, and guard the secrets of their husbands with Allah’s protection.” (4:35)

The expression has several meanings, the details of which I do not wish to elaborate [at this time]. However, I do want to draw the attention of my sisters to one meaning of it, namely, that when some of their sisters are absent from a gathering, the believing women keep guard over their own weaknesses and mistakes and take utmost care not to utter anything that would deface or disgrace their sister.

The expression ‘guard the secrets” indicates that the believing women who are given to praying to Allah and carrying out good deeds, always enjoy His protection. The words contain a subtle hint:if you “guard the secrets” you too will be protected by Allah Almighty. If you cover up your sister’s faults and imperfections, Allah will cover up yours too. If you guard and protect other sisters’ honor and good name, He will protect and guard yours. If you speak well of your sisters and create a good and pious environment, then Allah Almighty will inspire your sisters to speak well of you and create a good and pious environment around themselves.


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EXTRACT FROM ADDRESS TO LAJNA AT JALSA SALANA GERMANY DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 08/24/2003

It has been stated in the fourth Condition [of Bai’at] that one should not cause harm to another person whether by one’s hand or one’s tongue or through any other means. I will now explain this Condition of Bai’at.

From the saying of the Holy Prophet (saw) that I have presented before, you should focus on the words ‘do not be jealous.’ Jealousy ultimately develops into enmity. A person who has jealousy in his heart always wants to harm the person of whom he is jealous. Jealousy is a type of disease that while it causes harm to the other person, it also consumes the person who is jealous. It gives rise to many other petty feelings of spite, such as why the other person has a better business, or more wealth or more talented children. In the case of women, jealousy may arise because of someone’s better jewelry.

Even in religious matters—where good deeds must be appreciated and where people should try to move forward in rendering service to the religion—efforts are made to place obstacles in the way of those who are rendering religious service by making accusations against them so that they, too, are deprived of performing service to the religion.

Then the Holy Prophet (saw) admonishes us not to quarrel with each other. Quarrels take place over petty matters. To give an example, sometimes an officer-holder on duty warns a child who has been mischievous in a gathering that if he were to do it again he would be dealt with firmly or be corrected. The parents, sitting nearby, immediately roll up their sleeves for a fight, and the person performing the duty is put down in a terrible way. Through this action of theirs, they not only broke a condition of Bai’at and spoiled their good manners, they also banished respect for theorganization of the Jama’at and the distinction between good and bad from the minds of their next generation.

Then we are directed not to have enmity towards each other. Enmities start from petty matters. Hearts are filled with spite and malice. Some people are always on the lookout for an opportunity to avenge them, while the instruction is not to have enmity with, nor malice for, anyone. Once a Companion (ra) humbly asked the Holy Prophet (saw) to give him simple, but unforgettable advice in a few words. The Holy Prophet (saw) advised him to ‘shun anger’ and then again he said, ‘shun anger.’ When you keep in mind that you should shun anger, then malice and spite will go away automatically.

Another habit of ‘injuring or harming someone, or making another person’s deal go sour’ is to overbid on a contract concluded by the other. In this saying, we have been asked to desist from such actions. A higher price is offered to acquire a thing only to bring the other person’s business down while no personal gain is achieved from such a bid. This also applies to proposals for marriage. Ahmadis should keep that prohibition in mind.


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Then the admonishment is not to oppress anyone, not to think degradingly of anyone, nor to denigrate anyone. An oppressor never achieves nearness to Allah. How can it be possible that, on the one hand, one would enter into a pledge of allegiance with the one appointed by Allah to win His favor and, on the other, would oppress people by snatching their rights? It is a common practice in our villages not to give brothers their rights, not to give sisters their share of inheritance simply because they have been married into a different family, lest the property move out of the family. There are those that oppress their wives, those that do not respect their rights, and there are wives who do not respect the rights of their husbands.

SECTION II ACTIVITY

Conduct an interactive activity which covers the following:

What is the effect of each negative behavior mentioned in the Khulafa’s addresses on the person perpetrating it and on the victim against whom it is directed?What is the long-term effect of such behaviors on our children and on our community?Hazrat Khalifatul Masih III (rh) directed Lajna members more than 50 years ago that social visits should be limited in order to preserve our time for religious activities. Discuss how we can follow this directive today, especially in view of the present modesof communication and socializing e.g. social media, smart phones etc.


Reflect over your thoughts and actions on any given day and strive to remove any rancoror ill-feeling you may have in your heart for anyone. Pray to Allah for help in this.Anytime you feel jealous or envious of someone, think of a blessing that Allah has bestowed on you, and strive to be grateful.Recite Istighfar abundantly.

SECTION III – GIVING IN THE WAY OF ALLAH (Compulsory in general meeting)

EXCERPT FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 11/06/2015 - Sacrifice - A Prerequisite to Seek Love of God

'Never shall you attain to righteousness unless you spend out of that which you love; and whatever you spend, Allah surely knows it well.' (3:93)Every believer wishes to attain Divine nearness by doing good and God draws the attention of believers in the aforementioned verse that if you wish to do good to seek God's pleasure, then remember that doing good requires sacrifice: sacrifice of that which one loves, which benefits one,


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which brings one comfort, which in one's eyes is a source to improve the future of one's children. Man has always loved wealth and God has stated that gold, silver, property, crops, orchards are dear to man and he feels pride over them.

In this day and age, when technology has not only brought the world together but has also increased personal desires through a capitalistic financial system, regardless of whether an individual has copious means or not. These wishes have reached a fever-pitch, to have access to every luxury item wherever in the world it is available; this is particularly so in the developed world. If, God Forbid, the situation in the developed world was to deteriorate or they faced war, the people here would be in an unthinkable state.

People living in the deprived and under-developed world are also aware of these amenities and apart from the very under-privileged, the inclination of middle-income people is to get hold of the latest merchandise. Materialism is at its very height. In such an atmosphere, sacrificing one’s wishes and comforts appears to be a strange phenomenon for a normal worldly person, who would consider it an outdated view. Possibly he would consider helping the needy or giving to charity but would deem it preposterous to spend out of what is most dear to him by crushing one's own wishes for another or for faith.

The world does not know that even in this day and age, there are people who aspire to Al Bir (righteousness) and who are restless to be of benefit to others. They try to do good by establishing high standards of sacrifice of life and property in order to spread religion and spread goodness.Their actions enrich them in obedience and they do not pay heed to the things that are most dear to them, they only care that they are obedient to God. A large part of the world does not know who these people are. Indeed, these are the people who have joined the true and ardent devotee of the Holy Prophet (saw) and, in joining him, they have gained insight into what piety truly means. They have tried to seek light and guidance from those luminous columns of light who sought direct beneficence of the Holy Prophet (saw) in order to attain righteousness.

When the verse 'Never shall you attain to righteousness unless you spend out of that which you love…' was revealed, a Companion, Hazrat Abu Talha (ra), who was a wealthy inhabitant of Medina and the owner of many date orchards, offered to give his finest orchard of which he was very fond and which was close to the Prophet's Mosque and was visited by the Holy Prophet (saw). He offered the Holy Prophet (saw) his finest piece of property for the sake of God.

Such luminous stars were the Companions! The Promised Messiah (as) has cited their example numerous times and has explained the teachings of the Holy Qur'an to impart insight into attaining piety and to impart levels of sacrifice. He said it was essential to follow the example of the Companions.

The Promised Messiah (as) said: 'No one can claim to do good by spending what is useless and unserviceable. The doorway to piety is narrow, therefore be heedful that no one can enter through it by spending what is useless because the direction is: 'Never shall you attain to righteousness unless you spend out of that which you love…' Unless you spend what you hold dearest and most


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cherished, you cannot attain the rank of being a beloved and a dear one of God. How can you be successful if you do not want to endure pain and not want to adopt true piety? Did the Companions attain their status without any sacrifice? Much expense and difficulties are endured to achieve a worldly title, an ordinary title which cannot give peace and tranquility of mind. Think then, would the title of 'may Allah be pleased with them', which brings inner peace and tranquility and is a sign of pleasure of the Noble Lord, have been achieved just like that? The fact is that the pleasure of God Almighty, which is the source of true happiness, cannot be attained unless temporary pain is endured. God cannot be deceived. Blessed are those who do not care about painto attain Divine pleasure because a believer finds the light of eternal happiness and comfort after temporary pain.' (Report Jalsa Salana 1897, p. 79)

EXCERPT FROM ADDRESS TO LAJNA AT JALSA SALANA QADIAN DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH IV (RH) 12/27/1991

I will put before you some instances of financial sacrifice. I cannot speak for all the Lajna chapters of India but I can say about Lajna Qadian that, by the grace of God, they show incomparable examples of financial sacrifice. The Qadian chapter is poor but I have always found that whenever there is a new scheme, the ladies and young girls take part in it with such zeal and fervor that sometimes I feel like stopping them and saying, “You do not have the capacity for it.” It is a fact that despite having feelings of joy, I worry about them. Then I think that it is the concern of the One that they are making the sacrifice for. He is indeed aware of it and He knows how much to reward them. He, with His grace and bounty will confer spiritual and worldly wealth on their future.On one occasion, when I had urged for contribution for centers, in every household Ahmadi girls were giving up their meager savings by smashing their money boxes against walls. They offered whatever few pennies or little coins they had saved for themselves, for the sake of their faith. How benevolent is our God and how majestic! Sometimes He rejects millions that are offered at his feet without love and ardor, disregards them as if they have no value. On the other hand, if a humble and sincere person submits his scant savings with utmost love and affection, He accepts it with great love and affection, like you would accept the gift from your beloved and kiss it. God has His own way of kissing, and I know for sure that in this sense he would have surely kissed their meager savings. Of course, this expression does not literally apply to God, but the Holy Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has talked about God in a similar way several times, like ‘God smiled in heaven when He saw this.’ Similarly, Hazrat Musleh Mau’ud,may God be pleased with him, once narrated that the hospitality of one of his Companions was such that God also started to ‘smack’ His lips in heaven, meaning that just as people eating delicious food openly smack their lips sometimes, God also started to smack His lips upon seeing that sight of hospitality. So, in this very sense, I am sure God ‘kissed’ these small sacrifices and appreciated them. This appreciation by God will change the little girls’ destiny for the better. He will not only convert their homes into paradise, but also change them into homes bestowing


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paradise. Hence this is the second aspect of paradise that is under your feet, and remains associated with your feet.The purpose is to not only guard your children from negative influence, but also to nourish themspiritually. I have noticed in birds that when their offspring are young, the birds themselves startbecoming lean. In several birds the male and the female both pick food for their babies and feed them morsels in their beaks all day. They themselves get weaker but keep sacrificing for the young ones. So, you have to put the morsels of spiritual food in your children’s mouth. If you teach them these ways of sacrifice, they will start to find pleasure in them right from childhood and will never want to give up this habit.


Conduct a workshop on giving in the way of Allah. Divide the membership into 2 or more groups according to your attendance (groups should not be more than 12-15 members). Ask each group to answer the following:

Name all compulsory and voluntary chandas. State their amount, their purpose and when instituted and by whom.What does spending in the way of Allah mean to you?When was the first time you gave a donation that really meant something to you?Share personal stories of blessings of financial sacrifice e.g. the first time you made a donation that made you feel good, or examples of how Allah fulfilled your pledges and your needs.


Examine your spending habits - do you spend money on coffee / snacks or on eating out regularly? Donate that amount to sadaqat or a chanda scheme.Place a sadaqat jar in a prominent place. Encourage your children to donate a small amount daily or weekly and to be regular in this. Talk to them about pleasing Allah through financial sacrifice.

And say, ‘My Lord, forgive and have mercy, and Thou art the Best of those who show mercy.’ (Holy Qur'an 23:119)

Lajna Ima'illah USA Tarbiyyat Program Taleem & Tarbiyyat Workbook January, February, March 2018 2017 – 2019 Quarter 4

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QUARTER 4: JANUARY – FEBRUARY – MARCH 2018


CURRENT FRIDAY SERMONS: JANUARY, FEBRUARY, MARCH 2018SECTION I: SELF-REFORMATION II: INTERNET USE-TARBIYYAT OF CHILDREN III: MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS (COMPULSORY)

SECTION I – SELF REFORMATION

EXTRACT FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 07/22/2016 – Pearls of Wisdom

Sometimes, some people express great concern that the status of their virtue and goodness does not remain constant all the time and are very much worried about it. This is a very good thing from the point of view that a person should undertake self-analysis: that one’s state of piety is low orthe dedication and zeal one had in the prayers has declined. One should analyze the reasons leading to such a condition and should try to cure and improve it so that it should not remain like that for long. Sometimes it’s not that one is bad but it is a matter of just piety or less piety, or good or less goodness, and such conditions come and go.

A Companion came to Holy Prophet (saw) and said, “O Prophet of Allah, I have become a hypocrite. When I sit in your company, my condition is totally different and when I go elsewhere my condition is different. That is to say that the condition of piety and purity of heart is not the same as it was when I was in your company.” The Holy Prophet (saw) said that actually this is the condition of a 'Momin' (believer) and that you are not a hypocrite. So it was the impact of the Holy Prophet's (saw) company and his spiritual power that impressed the people in his company. The pious people who sat in his company became very pure hearted and sat there to learn and to increase the standard of their relationship with Allah Almighty. When these people left the Holy Prophet's (saw) company their standard used to go down slightly. But this Companion had devotion and fear of Allah and so become very concerned that his piety had decreased and that he might become a hypocrite.

When a person has piety, he gets help from prayer and Istighfar, seeking forgiveness from Allah and paying attention to self-reformation. Hazrat Musleh Maud (ra) relates that the Promised Messiah (as) would talk about the fact that the good health of most children is due to their mother’s concern. If the child has the minutest problem, the mother immediately recognizes it, with the result that she takes care of the treatment and the child is saved from adverse effects of the disease. However, sometimes mothers only get to know of their child's adverse health condition when the disease has become dangerous. Thus, this particular concern of the mother is very good for the health of the child. Likewise, the concern in one's consciousness that one particular spiritual


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problem may lead to dangerous levels is good and rewarding. For example, if there a decrease in spirituality, prayers, or good deeds, and the person is concerned about their diminishing levels and is concerned about going away from the remembrance of Allah, then this consciousness and concern is very useful.

The Promised Messiah (as) said that a person like this is prepared and ready to combat the point of danger and to protect himself from the danger of losing spirituality. In fact, the people who advance in good deeds and who take care of their condition according to the will of God, are the ones who worry about their spiritual health and any decrease or slackness in their prayers, just like a mother with her child. Their condition may not be due to a certain sin or weakness on their part, nor become prolonged and beyond cure.

The companions of the Holy Prophet (saw) were so fortunate that whenever they became worried about their own condition, they would seek his company and cure themselves through the spiritual power of the Holy Prophet (saw). But when we are concerned about losing our spiritual connection with God, we must adopt the method of worship, prayers and Istighfar and try to cure ourselvesthrough this. Concern and worry of losing spirituality is far better than carelessness which at times can take a person away from God, and then slowly and steadily away from the religion and make him/her an incurable spiritual patient. So there is need to pay attention to this.

EXTRACT FROM WAY OF THE SEEKERS BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH II (RA) – Strengthening One’s Will

1. Let the external conduct be put in accord, even artificially, with what is desired internally, thus inducing a corresponding inner reaction. The first remedy, therefore, is that he who suffers from a default should artificially induce the corresponding quality; this would equip him with that quality.

2. Concentrating attention on the virtue you want to acquire. This is essential for success. All thinking should flow in one direction only and every concept beside that should be obliterated from the mind.

3. Constant exercise of will power. Determination that an action embarked upon will be continued regardless of any obstacles that might be encountered.

4. The fourth measure to strengthen the will and to remove the obstacle in its way is to launch an all-out attack on the very first day against the fault that has to be got rid of.

5. One should cultivate the habit of practicing the virtue which one is seeking to acquire; and should cultivate the opposite of that which one seeks to discard. For instance, if one is apt to lose one's temper one should cultivate urbanity.

6. The habit of thinking and reflection should be cultivated and haste should be eschewed. This would provide a safeguard against evil habits. Such habits take advantage of haste and retreat before reflection and deliberation.

7. When it is resolved to do or not to do something, all the pros and cons should be deliberated upon systematically so that a complete picture is impressed upon the mind.


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This would facilitate the doing of that which is desired and the discarding of that which should be eschewed.

8. Occasionally that which is lawful and desirable should be voluntarily given up so that the habit of acting against one’s wishes may be cultivated. For instance, a person who suffers from the habit of stealing and is unable to discard it, should on occasion refrain from that which is lawful and desirable. He should sometimes keep awake when he wants to sleep, or abstain from eating something he much desires to eat.

9. One should examine one's ego repeatedly like a physician who checks on his patient over and over again.

10. One should aim high and not be content with anything less. He who aims at the highest achieves something worthwhile, and becomes the master of his ego.

11. Besides all this is recourse to prayer. When one's own effort fails, one needs external help. The first stage is one's own effort which is internal help. The external help one should invoke is Divine help. One should make one's own effort and also pray to God for help. One should supplicate that one is trying to do whatever one can; but one can succeed only if God helps one.

SECTION I ACTIVITY

Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (aba) says when we are concerned about losing our spiritual connection with God, we must adopt the method of worship, prayers and Istighfar and try to cure ourselvesthrough this.

Conduct an interactive activity which includes the following:

What are the signs and symptoms of losing our spiritual connection with God?The companions of prophets sought their company to enhance their own spirituality. What means do we have today to do likewise?Discuss each of the eleven points provided by Hazrat Khalifatul Masih II (ra) to strengthen our will for self-reformation. How can they be put into practice in daily life?


Analyze the level of your worship after every Salat and resolve to improve the next one.Regularly recite Tasbeeh (SubhanAllah, Alhamdolillah, Allaho Akbar) with full concentration and understanding after every Salat and teach your children to do the same.


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SECTION II – TARBIYYAT OF CHILDREN-INTERNET SAFETY

Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (aba) has warned about giving young children cell phones in an address to Atfal:

“There is a widespread problem here of children demanding their parents to buy them mobile phones. Some are only just 10 years of age and say that they should have a mobile phone. Are you doing some sort of business? Or are you are doing some kind of work in which information is required to be accessed every minute? When asked, they reply “we need to call our parents.” If needed, your parents will call you themselves. If your parentsare not worried, there is also no need for you to worry, because phones can also lead to bad habits. Through phones, some people contact children directly and then tempt them and incite them into bad habits and involve them in indecent activities. So, the mobile phone is also a very harmful thing, due to which children lose all good sense and get involved in wrongdoings, so avoid this.” (Address by Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (aba) at Khuddam Ijtema, Germany on 17 September 2011)

SAFETY ON THE INTERNET from ‘Paradise Under Your Feet’ by Lajna Ima'illah USA

Parents are careful about their children’s safety around the house and will tell them when they are young not to speak to strangers and not to wander off on their own. They are vigilant when they are playing outside with the other children in the neighborhood. They make sure that they get on the school bus safely and that they get off and arrive home safely. But when the same children are on the Internet, all the boundaries are ignored and they become exposed to dangers that are not apparent to adults. It is absolutely mandatory for parents to take matters of their children’s safety online very seriously and they must seek help if or when they are unable to understand the technicalities.

The following online safety tips can help parents prepare their family for life in a wireless world:

Think homework is only for children? Guess again. Technologies, software programs, appsand services are constantly being introduced and updated. Always study and (whereverpossible) go hands-on with new developments to help yourself, and your children, to stayahead of the curve.

If parents do not have a lot of time to study the hottest new gadgets or social networks, theycan get a crash course on the Internet by visiting popular technology news or reviewswebsites, or simply by conducting an online search (for example, “How to Password ProtectYour PC”) to educate themselves.

Numerous software makers such as McAfee, Symantec, and Trend Micro offer child-friendlyapps, software programs and child-friendly web filters. But they are no substitute for positiveparenting: Parents should impart healthy computing habits, educate children about online


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dangers, and encourage them to come to them with questions about suspicious content,individuals or situations.

Many popular devices and operating systems come with built-in parental controls, which canregulate access to the Internet, online shopping and even the systems themselves. Parentsshould take advantage of these features as a helpful first line of defense, and be sure topassword-protect their settings (hint: do not use birthdays, first names or other easily-guessedcodes).

Keep screens out of children’s bedrooms and limit usage of connected devices to sharedhousehold areas, so that usage (and usage habits) can be monitored and regulated.

Children must be taught that private information should never be shared on the Internet:addresses, birthdays, phone numbers, ages, locations, school names and other personaldetails should never be posted online.

Parents must make children aware that access to personal data should be strictly limited,including photos, videos and status updates on popular social networks like Facebook andGoogle+, by controlling privacy settings.

Parents should be concerned about the ways in which children can potentially connect andinteract online. They can use the built-in features of software programs and hardware devicesto disable the Internet connectivity or digital purchases, and restrict interactions to pre-approved friend lists.

Parents must warn their children about posting potentially offensive, embarrassing orcontroversial content, as it will come back as trouble. All material posted online lives onforever for prospective employers, significant others or college recruiters to see on theInternet. Teach your children that they can never be too careful, or too polite.

Teach children that it is never safe to post photographs of themselves online. Photos can beeasily altered and be sent to anyone.

Parents should discuss safe online spending and allowance levels with children beforeproviding them access to digital storefronts or programs which offer in-app or in-gamepurchases. If you do decide to allow your children to buy virtual or real-world goods, prepaidcards may help you avoid the surprise of unexpectedly hefty bills.

SECTION II ACTIVITY

Conduct an interactive activity and include the following:

Invite one or more Lajna 15-25 members to give a presentation on the types of social media/apps etc. that they use, explaining how they work, their purpose, the advantages and dangers etc.


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Follow this with a discussion or question and answer session on what kind of internet activity and communication is appropriate for Ahmadi youth and children to use, especiallykeeping purdah in mind.


Turn OFF your cell phone as soon as you enter the mosque; better still, leave it in the car.Share an ‘electronic free’ day with your family at least once a month. Spend the time in an outdoor family activity.Download the MTA (Muslim Television Ahmadiyya) app and watch one program a day.

SECTION III – MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS (Compulsory ingeneral meeting)

THE PROMISED MESSIAH (AS) SAID:

Husbands and wives should have the relationship of real, truthful friends. The first witness to a man’s good character and relation to Allah are these women. If they do not have good relations with them, then how is it possible they have good relations with Allah? The Holy Prophet (saw) has said, “One who treats his wife well is the best among you.” (Malfoozat, Vol. 3, Page 300-301)

EXTRACT FROM FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 4/3/2009

Allah says in the Holy Qur’an:

“They are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them.” (2:188)

The Holy Qur’an uses the word “garment,” which means a source of cover for your body, as a source of adornment and protection from extreme weather. So, it is the responsibility of both the husband and wife to cover up the faults of their mutual relationship. Similarly, when a man or a woman makes a pledge to the contract of marriage, then they must make their utmost effort to tolerate each other. They should cover up the faults and shortcomings of each other, and avoid bickering over petty little matters. The attitude and appearance of an Ahmadi married couple should be complimentary and they should be a role model for others.

… Both husbands and wives can cover up the faults and shortcomings of each other if they suppress their anger and have fear of Allah in their hearts. This is the reason Allah Almighty has drawn attention in the Holy Qur’an towards the term ‘garment of righteousness (Taqwa)’.


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EXCERPT FROM FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 7/2/2004

Huzoor (aba) said:

“Hazrat Abdullah bin Umar (ra) relates that I heard the Holy Prophet (saw) say that each one of you is a guardian and each one will be asked about his responsibilities. The Imam(leader) is a guardian and he will be asked about his responsibilities. Man is a guardian over his family and will be asked about his responsibilities towards them. Woman is a guardian over her husband’s household and she will be asked about her responsibilities. A servant is a guardian over his master’s wealth and he will be asked about these responsibilities. The narrator says that he recalls that the Holy Prophet (saw) also said a man is a guardian over his father’s wealth and he will be asked about these responsibilities. He said, each one of you is a guardian and will be asked about your responsibilities.” (Sahih al-Bukhari 893, Book 11, Hadith 18)

Different classes of people are mentioned in this narration who are guardians in their own sphere, but because I am talking about men at this time so I want to give a little explanation. It has become a custom for men to say they have responsibilities outside of the house and they are busy in their business and jobs, so they cannot pay attention to the home and watching children is the responsibility of women. They should remember that as men and head of the family, they are responsible to keep an eye on the household. A man should fulfil the rights towards his wife and children. He should spend time with them, even if it is only on the two days in the weekend. He should ensure they are connected with the mosque and encourage them to participate in Jama’at activities. He should arrange some recreational programs and should also take interest in their activities so they can share their problems with him like a friend. He should talk to his wife and children about their problems and should help solve these issues; this is the only way he can have the status as head of the family.

… The Holy Prophet (saw) advised husbands and wives to find good in each other. He said that if you find faults in each other, or do not like some habits, you may like some other of their habits that you will admire. Adopting selflessness, those good things should be kept in mind to keep a friendly and reconciliatory atmosphere at home. This advice is for both husband and wife. If both keep control on their emotions, then those petty small fights which are always happening in the homes will stop, and children will not be distressed. Sometimes these petty matters become very painful, and one is left wondering if there are some people in this world who are worse than animals.

The morals stated by Hazrat Khadijah (ra) for the Holy Prophet (saw) are the ones that should be found in a human being, especially in a man, which can lead to the establishment of a pure society. That is, he fulfills obligations of kinship and treats his relatives well and takes care of their needs, and takes away their troubles. Sila Rehmi (fulfilling obligations of kinship) has vast meanings. It gives some rights to the relatives of the wife as they are for the man’s relatives. It is just as


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important to extend Sila Rehmi to them as to the relatives of the man. If you adopt that habit and establish Sila Rehmi with both sides, then arguments or fights will not happen in such homes.

… The men who have eyes on the wealth of women should remember that it is their responsibility and they have no right on their wife’s money; they are responsible to fulfil the expenses of their wives and children. Even if they have to work as a laborer, it is their duty to take care of the household. If they work hard and pray, God will bless them with prosperity.

EXCERPTS FROM ADDRESS TO LAJNA AT JALSA SALANA GERMANY DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 9/03/2016

… Sadly, even amongst some Ahmadis, there are men who consider women inferior. There are several and not just a few women, who tell me verbally and in letters, that after marriage their husbands want them to cut off all ties with their families. As wives, they have to listen to everything their husbands say and no longer keep in contact with their own relatives, to the extent that their husbands prevent them from even meeting their own parents. They tell them to only communicate with the husband’s relatives. Some husbands transgress to a degree that, as I have said, they not only stop their wives meeting their own relatives and parents, but also insult their wives’ families and thus inflict mental torture and emotional pain on their wives. They fail to understand that women also have feelings and possess hearts. In some areas of our culture and country there is still ignorance and sometimes those who come to the West continue with their ignorant ways. They completely neglect the feelings of women.

I will say that at times the mothers-in-law are the cause of this injustice. They forget their own feelings when they were treated badly by their husbands. If they were mistreated by their own husband who, spurred on by his mother, denied them their basic rights and kept bad relations with her relatives, then this should have led them to treating their own daughters-in-law kindly and compassionately. However, as I have said, ignorance rears its ugly head and mothers-in-laws contrarily display a harmful response by initiating quarrels.

… Islam requires justice and fairness in every matter and it gives all people their rights. Although I have briefly discussed this in my address to the ladies at the UK Annual Convention (Jalsa Salana), it seems that in some matters, especially the eastern mind-set, culture and traditions greatly dominate over what religion actually teaches. Religious teaching is pushed behind and they give their own cultural thinking precedence. Thus, your mentality should be in line with the teachings of Islam and you must fulfil the rights of one another. A husband should fulfil the rights of his wife, and the mother-in-law should fulfil the rights of her daughter-in-law. A daughter-in-law should fulfil the right of her mother-in-law and also the husband. If all are fulfilling the rights of one another, nobody will ever be able to raise an allegation against the teachings of Islam of usurping the rights of others.

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women who act unfairly. However, when a woman’s rights are being completely fulfilled, then I do not think that any woman would ever act unjustly.

Sometimes, worldly people ask me, “What should be done to establish peace in the world and how can we make this society a completely peaceful one?” I often give them the following reply, which is generally appreciated by them. I say that in order to establish peace, every single person must understand their individual responsibilities and strive to fulfil them. Instead of demanding your own rights from others, you should give greater attention to fulfilling the rights of others. Give more heed to giving rights to other people. When every single person strives to fulfil the rights of other people in this way, then nobody’s rights will be usurped. This indeed is the teaching of Islam.

The role of a daughter-in-law can be difficult if everybody does not cooperate and act considerately. When a person’s rights are not being usurped, then unless they are insane, they will not unnecessarily persist in demanding things. A woman should look at her responsibilities and how she can best fulfil them, including mothers-in-law, daughters-in-law and daughters. Men should also be mindful of their responsibilities, how to discharge them and how they can best fulfil these rights. Once this happens, quarrels and fights in the home will dissipate.

If women are granted their due rights, then they will cease demanding to be given their rights. If women consider that the upbringing of their children is a primary responsibility that Islam has given them and their foremost duty is to raise their child, then instead of working unnecessarily,or spending pointless time with friends, they will give greater attention to the upbringing of their child. Not only will they be raising their child properly, but also by raising him as a good citizenthey will in fact be developing the child into an active and beneficial member of the nation. The good upbringing of a child for the sake of his country and for the [Ahmadiyya] Community makesthat child into an excellent and useful individual.

… Both men and women should look at their responsibilities in a household and work together as a unit rather than quarrelling and fighting over small issues that can be solved or prevented.


Conduct a workshop, panel discussion or interactive presentation which covers the following:

What are the reasons for appointing the husband as a ‘guardian’ over his wife and family?What should be the conduct of husband and wife towards each other within this command and how does it lead to marital harmony?What is the most important principle that a mother-in-law should follow in her behavior to her married son and daughter-in-law?Think of at least three situations where friction can occur between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and discuss how they can be resolved. For example: A mother-in-law notices several housekeeping / hygiene issues which bother her during a visit to her newly-married son’s home because it is not the way she has always done things for her son, or how she runs her own home. She shares some of her displeasure


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with her son, which embarrasses him and in turn, makes him rather irritable with his wife. The wife senses the tension and feels like a failure and also feels resentment towards both mother and son.How could the mother-in-law have handled this differently?


Focus for a fixed time on one thing that really irritates you about your spouse. Work on how you can find another way of looking at it or reacting to it.Focus on the qualities you appreciate in your spouse and make an effort to let your spouse know you are grateful to Allah and to him/her for this blessing.Call your mother-in-law/daughter-in-law at least once a week and say something appreciative to them.

And those who say, “Our Lord, grant us of our spouses and children the delight of our eyes and make each of us a leader for the righteous.” (Holy Qur'an 25:75)


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QUARTER 5: APRIL – MAY – JUNE 2018

All Majalis should cover compulsory Section I and at least one more.

CURRENT FRIDAY SERMONS: APRIL, MAY, JUNE 2018SECTION I: KINDNESS TO PARENTS (COMPULSORY) II: ETIQUETTES OF SALAT III: SALAT

SECTION I – KINDNESS TO PARENTS (Compulsory in general meeting)

EXCERPT FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 7/26/2013

The second commandment is about kindness to parents. The sequence of these directives is natural because after God it is the parents who look after us and nurture us. God has stated: ‘Thy Lord has commanded, ‘Worship none but Him, and show kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age with thee, never say unto them any word expressive of disgust nor reproach them, but address them with excellent speech.’ (17:24) Parents of educated and level-headed peoplesometimes send complaints that not only do the children not pay the dues of their parents, but theyare in fact unfair to them. Sisters write in that even brothers raise their hands to the parents,especially in matters of property settlement. If parents manage property settlement in their lifetime the offspring turn nasty. These examples are also found among us and parents are left dispossessed. In this country adolescents turn to rudeness in the name of freedom. Generally speaking, after a certain age, youngsters are considered independent here, but freedom here pays no attention to the degree of seniority; this is in fact ignorance. The beautiful teaching of Islam is to not express any disgust to parents, rather, to repay their kindness with kindness although it is never really possible to repay the kindness of parents.

The beautiful teaching of Islam provides the prayer: ‘My Lord, have mercy on them even as they nourished me in my childhood.’ (17:25). This, indeed, should be our standard. This prayer can be said for parents even after they have departed from this world for elevation of their status in the Hereafter.

The Promised Messiah (as) said: ‘God has commanded that you do not worship anyone save Him and are kind to your parents. Rububiyyat (Divine quality to sustain and nurture) is a wonder! A baby does not have any kind of strength and his mother takes great care of him in that state and the father gives the mother support in her undertakings. Out of His sheer grace, Allah the Exalted has provided two sources of support for the fragile creation and has placed a ray of love in them out of the luminosity of His love. However, it should be remembered that parents’ love is limited


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and God’s love is real. Unless hearts are inspired by Allah the Exalted, no person, be he a friend, a peer or a ruler, can love another. It is the secret of the perfect Rububiyyat of God that parents love their children so much that they bear all kind of pains most sincerely while caring for them, so much so that they do not even hesitate to die for the life of their child.’

‘…never say unto them any word expressive of disgust nor reproach them, but address them with excellent speech.’ That is, do not speak offensively to your parents and do not say something to them which does not respect their position. This verse is addressed to the Holy Prophet (saw) but in reality, the message is intended for the Ummah because the parents of the Holy Prophet (saw)had passed away in his childhood. This directive has a hidden message, which a wise person can decipher, that here the Holy Prophet (saw) is addressed and is being asked to respect his parents and keep their status in view in everything he says to them, so how much more should others respect and regard their parents! And this is what the second verse also refers to: ‘Worship none but Him, and show kindness to parents…’. that is, your Lord has commanded that you worship Him alone and are kind to your parents. This verse enjoins those who worship idols that idols are nothing and idols do them no favors; they (the idols) did not create them and did not look after them in their infancy. If God wished to warrant the worship of another save Him, He would have asked parents to be worshipped because they sustain and nurture on a worldly level and everyone, even birds and beasts, protect their young ones in their infancy. Therefore, after God’s Rububiyyat,they [parents] have Rububiyyat too and the strength of this Rububiyyat also comes from God Almighty.’ (Translated from Tafseer of the Holy Qur’an, Vol. 3 pp. 59 – 60)

EXCERPT FROM ‘ABSOLUTE JUSTICE, KINDNESS AND KINSHIP’ BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH IV (RH) p.369 - The Rights of Parents upon their Children

The Quran very strongly admonishes children to treat their parents not only with justice but with kindness: And We have enjoined on man concerning his parents - his mother bears him in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning takes two years - Give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final return.' (31:15)

The following tradition by Abu Hurairah (ra) is quoted in relation to this Qur’anic admonishment:Three times the Holy Prophet (saw) declared, 'may his nose bite the dust, may his nose bite the dust.' (This is an Arabic phrase which is used to indicate that the person about whom one is talking has been disgraced and failed in his life.) The Companions inquired 'O Messenger of Allah! Whois that person?' The Holy Messenger (saw) indicated in response that he is the one who found his parents in old age and failed to earn paradise by treating them with utmost kindness. (Sahih Muslim)

Once, a young Bedouin complained in a tactless manner to the Holy Prophet (saw) that his father wanted to misappropriate his wealth. The Holy Prophet (saw) answered him in the same style but not in the same stern and crude tone. Judging him to be hard of heart, the Holy Prophet (saw) told him to go back and reminded him that, 'you and all your prosperity belong to your father and what your children earn, that will belong to you, eat it with pleasure.' (Musnad Ahmad bin Hanbal) No


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son can genuinely allege that his father is misappropriating his wealth. The father has a right to use the income of his son as though it were his own. On the other hand, the son is not permitted to consume the earnings of his father as he likes.

This appears to be unjust, but if you ponder over it in depth you will come to the conclusion that it is as it should have been. The way a father loves his son, the son cannot love him in the same way and to the same extent. This is so because the son is the future of the father, but the father is the past of the son. Very soon his own future appears before him in the form of his own family whose interest he prefers to that of his father. An honest observer will conclude the same by critically examining any society anywhere in the world. Of course, there are exceptions to the rule, but exceptions always prove the rule. Again, the father is one but the sons can be many. If each son enjoys the freedom to treat the father’s wealth as he likes, the entire family would fall apart. See now how the Islamic teaching is in accord with human nature and the Holy Prophet (saw)explained it as such. Parents have a right on their children’s earnings, and when they grow old, whatever the child spends on them is not to be considered as an act of charity but as his duty. He should not think that he is bestowing any favors.

EXTRACT FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 01/16/2004

The Holy Prophet (saw) instructed to show kindness and to maintain all ties of kinship with one’s mother even if she is involved in shirk (associate partners with Allah) and that the way to exercise benevolence towards parents even after they have passed away is by praying for them, by seeking forgiveness for them, by fulfilling their promises and by practicing benevolence towards their relations and friends. Huzoor (aba) related the extraordinary esteem and goodwill the Holy Prophet (saw) showed to his foster parents and spoke of how he would stand up and lay out his cloak for them to sit on. Huzoor (aba) commented that by stark contrast, the current regrettable practice of some young children is to remain seated regardless of elders having nowhere to sit, even their parents do not ask them to vacate the seats. Huzoor (aba) said the beautiful teachings of the Holy Prophet are for implementation and we ought to put them in practice.

SECTION I ACTIVITY (Compulsory in general meeting)Conduct a panel discussion with a panel of 3 or 4 members consisting of: e.g. a Lajna 15-25, a mother with younger children, a mother with older children, a senior member, and discuss the following:

There appears to be a general lack of respect for parents and the older generation today in Western culture. Is this having a similar effect on the children and youth of our Jama’at?If so, how is this expressed at home, at school and in the mosque/meeting place?What is the parent’s role in teaching respect to children?What advice can be given to improve respect to elders and behavior in general?


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Go out of your way to help an elder at the mosque/meeting, home, school or work.Encourage the habit in yourself and in your children of saying ‘As-Salamo ‘Alaikum’. Say ‘salam’ each time you enter a room where your family members are; teach children the correct response: ‘Wa’Alaikum As-Salam’Tell parents the ways in which you appreciate them. If you don't live nearby, call them every day.Pray for your parents in every Salat.

SECTION II – ETIQUETTE OF SALAT (Ramadan)

POINTS FROM FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 1/27/2017 – Etiquette of Salat

Rafa yadain (raising your hands to ears) in every Takbeer: it seems that the Holy Prophet (saw) practiced rafa yadain at some point but then gave it up. The Promised Messiah (as) followed the practice of the Holy Prophet (saw) more frequently. Saying ‘Amin’ bil jahr (out loud) is also a practice proven from Ahadith and can be followed.Reciting Surah Fatihah behind the Imam in congregational prayer is an approved practice and is better than not reciting.Regarding the question where the hands should be placed while standing in prayer, the Promised Messiah (as) said, “My own inclination is to hold them above the navel.” There is a Hadith supporting this view.In answer to the question as to why we raise the ring finger when reciting the Kalima Shahadat during prayer, the Promised Messiah (as) said, “In the age of ignorance, the disbelievers used to raise this finger when cursing. Allah corrected the Arabs in this and enjoined that the finger be raised when professing the Oneness of God so that this former connotation is negated.”Reciting Bismillah bil jahar (out loud) before reciting the Surah in Salat was not practiced by the Promised Messiah (as).Reciting Qur’anic prayers in ruku and sajdah was not the practice of the Holy Prophet (saw) as these are positions of extreme humility, and Qur’anic verses have an exalted status.If the Imam is leading Asr Salat and a person comes in who has not yet offered Zuhr Salat, then he should first offer Zuhr Salat – meaning it is preferable to keep the order of prayers. If the follower does not know which prayer is being led, then he should join in and his prayer would be that of the Imam. He should offer his own missed prayer afterwards. In other words, if he unknowingly offers Asr prayer first with the Imam without having yet offered Zuhr, then he should offer Zuhr prayer afterwards.


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Sunnat prayers are mandatory. The Promised Messiah (as) used to offer Sunnat prayers at home and so some people assumed they were not mandatory. Hazrat Khalifatul Masih I (ra) clarified this matter and bore witness that the Promised Messiah (as) offered Sunnat at home. The Promised Messiah (as) forbade offering Salat behind any person who declares the Promised Messiah (as) to be a kafir (disbeliever), or a liar. Your Imam should be from amongst yourselves. It is also forbidden to pray behind a person who stays quiet in this regard, meaning he neither believes in the Promised Messiah (as) nor declares him false.

GENERAL ETIQUETTES FOR CONGREGATIONAL SALAT

Before Salat:Perform wudhu (ablution) carefully in accordance with the instructions of the Holy Qur'an (5:7) and the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet (saw). It is important not only for cleanliness, but also helps to clear the mind and make us more aware that we are about to present ourselves to Allah.As soon as you hear the Adhan, stop what you are doing and go into the prayer area and form lines for Salat in silence.Do not wait until Iqamat is said to join in the prayer lines.In the time between Adhan and Iqamat, remain sitting in the prayer lines to be occupied in Zikre-Illahi and Istighfar. The Holy Prophet (saw) said that a supplication made between Adhan and Iqamat is not rejected.Worshippers do not stand until the Imam stands and requests the Iqamat be recited

Proper Attire for Salat:Make sure that you are dressed properly for SalatThe head and all hair, front and back, must be fully covered with a scarf or dupatta, which should not be see-through. Long hair should be tucked inside, not visible hanging below the head covering. Cover your arms to the elbow; if you are wearing short sleeves then keep your coat on during Salat. Legs must be covered to the ankles.Shirts worn over pants must be long enough so that when you perform sajdah, the back of the shirt comes down far enough to cover your whole posterior. T-shirts or hip-length shirts are not long enough and should not be worn.

Salat Rows:Start the rows for Salat from the middle, (behind the Imam), and begin a new row when the previous row is filled. Stand close together so that you are “shoulder to shoulder”. Do not put purses, bags or small children in-between worshippers, as that creates gaps.Keep your rows straight. Many prayer halls have carpeting with marked Salat lines and, in order to keep “shoulder to shoulder”, stand with your heels on the line.


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Do not stand alone in a line in Congregational Salat. At least two people are needed to make a new line.

Chair Etiquette:Sisters on chairs must remain seated during the entire Farz (obligatory) Salat to maintain unity and the integrity of the row. You may stand for Qiyam in Sunnah or nawafil, if desired.Place chairs in rows in a separate section from the worshippers on the floor at the side.Single chairs should not be placed among worshippers on the floor as this disrupts the unity of the row.There should be no gaps between worshippers on the chairs; sisters should sit “shoulder to shoulder” on the chairs. If you wish to sit on a chair during the sermon, but pray on the floor, sit at the end of the row so a gap is not left when you get up.

Mothers with Young Children:If you have young children, please stand in the last rows, close to the end of the row, and make sure your children are with you throughout the Salat. Practice this with children at home prior to coming to the MosqueChildren must not be allowed to run in the rows, or in any part of the prayer area.If your child is noisy during Salat, whether he/she is laughing or crying, please take your child out of the prayer area immediately. You may complete your prayer later but do not allow the Salat of others to be disturbed.

After SalatWhen you have completed your Salat, please remain occupied in Zikre-Ilahi until everyone has finished. Do not greet and start talking to sisters while others are still praying. Leave the prayer area and talk outside quietly so as not to disturb those who are still praying.

SECTION II ACTIVITY

Pay special attention to Salat in congregation during the month of Ramadan. Learn and practice the etiquette of Salat and gently remind others to do the same.


Review all of Salat in Arabic and its translation with your family. Take turns demonstrating proper performance of wudhu.Offer at least one or two Salat in congregation in the home every day, even if it is only with children.Improve your offering of Tahajjud Salat.


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SECTION III – SALAT

EXTRACT FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 1/20/2017 – VIRTUES OF CONGREGATIONAL SALAT

… Congregational Salat will save believers from sins and incline them towards performing good deeds. Similarly, according to the Holy Prophet (saw) congregational Salat rewards a believer 27 times more than a prayer offered alone.

The Promised Messiah (as), while explaining the importance of congregational Salat to theJama‘at, says: "The rationale behind putting more reward in congregational Salat is that it creates unity. The instructions to practically implement unity are so meticulous that even the feet are required to be aligned." This means that while offering Salat in rows, feet should also be brought into line for which heels must be aligned. He further says, "and the rows must be straight, and (worshippers) should be standing connected to each other. It means that they must act like one being so that one's illumination can permeate into others. The disparity that gives birth to ego and selfishness does not last (in such setting)."

Standing in rows will transform believers into one being, meaning there will be a dynamism between them. It means regardless of being rich or poor, everyone will be standing in one row. Some people are egocentric or have selfishness in their hearts and this is rooted out with congregational Salat. The Promised Messiah (as) said, "Bear in mind that human beings have the capacity to absorb another person's illuminations." One may be influenced more by good deeds and achieve a higher status (of spirituality), through congregational Salat. Therefore, congregational Salat is essential to accept the stimulus of piety.

Thus, on the one hand, the unity that Allah wishes to create among His Community is expressed in congregational Salat and on the other hand, people get influenced by each other's good deeds. When more pious and spiritually advanced people are standing in one row, they will have an effect on weaker ones. Consequently, the weak ones will also excel in performing good deeds and will advance spiritually. When this unity is established and spirituality advances, satanic forces are weakened and diminished.

… In reality, we will only be able to fulfill the duty of being an Ahmadi when, while safeguarding our Salat, we are able to attain spiritual pleasure from it. When we start achieving spiritual pleasure and delight from our Salat, then we will automatically be inclined towards offering it. So every Ahmadi must offer Salat in a manner that facilitates attaining spiritual pleasure and delight.

While drawing our attention towards offering Salat, the Promised Messiah (as) explains how this pleasure can be attained from Salat. He said, "I notice that until an addict or an alcoholic getsintoxicated, he keeps on drinking, so much so that he gets drunk. A wise and shrewd person can take advantage from this example." This means that a wise person can benefit from this example in order to advance in spirituality. The Promised Messiah (as) continues, "He can do so by being steadfast and punctual in Salat and by never abandoning it. He should keep offering Salat until he


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attains pleasure in the same way as an alcoholic has a desired pleasure in his mind which he is bent upon achieving."

When an alcoholic person drinks, he wants to achieve a certain level of pleasure. The Promised Messiah (as) says "just like an alcoholic achieves a desired level of intoxication, a spiritual man, a true believer should also set a spiritual standard that he must achieve." So, a person can attain pleasure from Salat if he keeps on trying with consistency. The Promised Messiah (as) says, "In this way, the mind and all physical power are inclined towards achieving pleasure in Salat."

A worshipper should engage all his efforts, perceptual and physical, towards achieving the goal of attaining pleasure in Salat when offering Salat. This requires stronger will power and only thencan consistency be achieved. The Promised Messiah (as) says, "Then with sincerity and passion, at least to the extent of the restlessness and pain of an alcoholic, a person indulging in Salat will definitely attain pleasure. After this there will be constant pain, anxiety, aching and a restlessness to achieve pleasure in Salat." If a person expresses his pain before Allah while praying, thePromised Messiah (as) says, "He will definitely achieve that pleasure." So, the determined effort of attaining pleasure in Salat can at last soften the heart and give pleasure.

The Promised Messiah (as) also explained that "Allah Almighty says that Salat keeps a person away from evil deeds." Despite that, the question arises that some people still engage in foul behavior even though they offer Salat. According to the Promised Messiah (as), the answer to this is that "they don't offer Salat with heart and truthfulness. Instead, they just perform physical actions as a custom or as a habit." So we should always remember that since Allah says that Salat savesus from foul deeds, then it must be true. Allah's word cannot be false. Those who still do evil deeds despite offering Salat do not understand the spirit of Salat and their Salat is superficial. Therefore, this is an extremely disturbing issue. Each one of us should examine our (spiritual) conditions.

If we achieve pleasure and delight from our Salat or we set out to achieve this delight with full conviction, then how is it possible that any one of us is not punctual in Salat? Everyone gets a taste of this pleasure once in a while and this must have happened to all of us. When people go through hardships and adversities, we see that they cry and weep in their Salat. They pray to Allah even while carrying out their daily tasks and are always inclined towards Him. Because of this, they are mindful of offering Salat as well. They are consistently engaged in Salat because of the suffering in their hearts. But many become sluggish in their Salat and their humble pleadings to Allah when their desires are fulfilled and their trouble is over. Therefore, the Promised Messiah (as) has directed us to always keep trying to achieve an intoxicating pleasure and delight in Salat, regardless of the situation of hardship or prosperity.

… These days generally, not only in Pakistan, the affairs of the world are making the danger of war and destruction more and more inevitable. Governments have also started to express their concern and to some extent, they have started taking steps towards it. Under such conditions, only taking refuge with Allah Almighty can save us. Several people ask what will happen if war begins.How should we proceed? My only response is that if you want to be saved from such calamities,then as the Promised Messiah (as) has said, we will have to fall in love with Allah who is the


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Master of all affairs. And there is only one way to show this love, and that is by trying to attain pleasure and delight through establishing our Salat according to His desires.

People often forget Allah after experiencing prosperity in Western countries. They think that theyhave achieved prosperity because of the advancement of these countries and that their people(Westerners) have advanced without any Salat and good deeds. Some of them also think that theyare better than them as they offer at least two or three Salat. We should bear in mind that those who forget Allah are destined for torment. Therefore, do not follow these people. If we want to be saved from Allah's wrath and want to save our future generations, let us not look at these people's outward condition. Follow the Qur’anic teachings that Allah desires us to follow. Allah Almighty has commanded us to establish Salat second only to His command of belief in Him.

So, every Ahmadi Muslim man and woman should pay attention towards offering Salat and Ahmadi men should specifically pay attention to offering congregational Salat.

ACHIEVING CONCENTRATION IN SALAT

The following points are based on advice given by Hazrat Khalifatul Masih II (ra) as presented in his book “Remembrance of Allah:”

Ablution breaks the string of extraneous thoughts and creates tranquility and comfort. This, in turn, helps in concentrating. When you perform ablution, resolve firmly that with it you are going to banish all stray thoughts.Offer congregational Prayers at the mosque.The instruction to face towards the Ka’aba (the first house of God built in Mecca) also helps in achieving concentration.Calling of Adhan (call to Prayer) and Iqamat also help concentration. The Holy Prophet(saw) says that Iqamat puts Satan to flight, meaning that Iqamat removes evil inclinations and promotes concentration in worship.Stand in straight rows for Salat. When the rows are physically formed for Prayer, deeper thoughts are also lined up.Say Niyyat (intention) because when you command your mind to do something, it attends to it.Offer Salat in congregation. In congregational Salat the Imam repeats words which create the fear of Allah. Anybody who becomes distracted is thus nudged and reminded.Different positions in Salat help in concentration. If someone gets absorbed in other thoughts, his going in Ruku (bowing), Sajdah (prostration) reminds him. Even if someone moves to these postures as a habit, the simple act of making the movements keeps the mind alert.Performance of Sunnah before and after obligatory Prayers also helps achieve concentration, especially during the obligatory Prayers.


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If you are unable to concentrate, recite the words slowly. The human brain instantly recalls things which it has observed often, but it has difficulty in recalling things which it has rarely observed.The Holy Prophet (saw) has instructed that the eyes should be open and be focused on the place of prostration during Salat.Concentrate on one posture at a time.If you confront your thoughts and resolve not to let them disturb you, they will stop.When you offer Nawafil at home, recite the words loud enough to hear them.The Holy Prophet (saw) instructed that no unnecessary movement should be made during Salat.The Holy Prophet (saw) said, “Pray to Allah as if you are seeing Him; but as a minimum be aware that He is seeing you.”

SECTION III ACTIVITY


What are the benefits of congregational Salat?Why is congregational Salat so important for safeguarding our future generations?Discuss some practical ways to achieve “pleasure and delight” in our Salat.


Before going to sleep each night, reflect on the condition of the Salat you offered that day and resolve to improve the next day.Hold a Darsul Qur'an or Darsul Hadith with your family after a congregational prayer at least once a day.

My Lord, make me observe prayer and my children too. Our Lord, accept my prayer. Our Lord, grant forgiveness to me and my parents and to the believers on the day when

the reckoning will take place. (Holy Qur'an 14: 41-42)


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QUARTER 6: JULY – AUGUST – SEPTEMBER 2018


CURRENT FRIDAY SERMONS: JULY, AUGUST, SEPTEMBER 2018 SECTION I: STEADFASTNESS

II: LIFE HEREAFTERIII: MARRIAGE AND MATCHMAKING (COMPULSORY)

SECTION I – STEADFASTNESS

EXCERPT FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 03/05/2010 - Sufficient for us is Allah, and an excellent Guardian is He.

People of Divine communities have the same responsibilities as the Prophets of God who establish them, i.e. summon people to God and, having pointed out misleading thoughts and practices that get set in with the passage of time, show them the way of truth. The history of religion tells us that each time the followers of a Prophet of God did this they received overwhelming opposition, especially at the time when they were small in number. Pharaoh-like people tried their best to obliterate Prophets of God and their followers. This happened with each religion as long as they stayed firm on the original message. Likewise, the Holy Prophet (saw) was treated in similar manner although he was the most beloved of God. The troubles, difficulties, wars etc. that he had to endure were indeed more than the earlier Prophets. However, his steadfastness was resolute and he inculcated this spirit in his Companions as well. Lack of numbers and weapons etc. did not ever shake the resoluteness of his Companions. The Holy Qur’an states:‘As to those who answered the call of Allah and the Messenger after they had received an injury — such of them as do good and act righteously shall have a great reward; Those to whom men said, ‘People have mustered against you, therefore fear them,’ but this only increased their faith,and they said, ‘Sufficient for us is Allah, and an excellent Guardian is He.’ (3:173-4).This strength of faith and spirit to sacrifice one’s life in the cause of God can be seen in the account of the Battle of Uhud.

… Huzoor (aba) said the history of Islam is full of incidents where the scare-mongering of the enemy did not work. Today, the believers should respond in the very same manner. Today the followers of the Promised Messiah respond in the same vein when efforts are made to scare them. True believers are not frightened of the scare-mongering of any group, any legislative body or any organization. They are always steadfast and firm on faith. They are beaten up, abused and their lives are taken, but they are never in awe of anyone save God, their response is always: ‘Sufficient for us is Allah, and an excellent Guardian is He.’ The more the enemy tries the more they turn to their Lord.


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… The Promised Messiah (as) said, ‘These verses illustrate that true courage derives from steadfastness. To be steadfast against every personal passion or against any calamity that attacks like an enemy and not to run away out of cowardice is true courage.’ (The Philosophy of the Teachings of Islam’ p. 77). Huzoor (aba) explained that the Promised Messiah (as) unfolds a different perspective for us here, that aside from an apparent enemy, passions of the self can also be aggressive, like an enemy. To overcome passions of the self also enables one to contend withan apparent enemy. Therefore, one has to submit oneself completely to God and it is then that one experiences the manifestations of the Divine attribute of Al Hasib (The Reckoner) beyond one’s imagination. The Promised Messiah (as) also said that joining his community entailed following its teaching in the face of all opposition.

EXCERPT FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 10/02/2009 - Believers remain steadfast in face of trials and tribulations.

“O ye who believe! seek help with patience and Prayer; surely, Allah is with the steadfast. And say not of those who are killed in the cause of Allah that they are dead; nay, they are living; only you perceive not. And We will try you with something of fear and hunger, and loss of wealth and lives, and fruits; but give glad tidings to the patient, Who, when a misfortune overtakes them, say, ‘Surely, to Allah we belong and to Him shall we return.’ It is these on whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy, and it is these who are rightly guided.” [2:154-158]

Huzoor (aba) recited the verses 154-158 of Surah Al Baqarah from the Holy Qur’an which refer to those qualities of the believers which they should exhibit when they are faced with any kind of tribulations, i.e. they meet such situations with patience and steadfastness and in fact, such trials are a source of greater strength in their faith.

The first verse describes two key characteristics of a believer: they exhibit patience and seek help with prayer at the time of adversity. Patience implies several meanings – firstly, it means that one should refrain from whining and complaining when faced with any kind of hardship. One should endure the difficulty with fortitude. Lamenting a difficulty can sometimes result in the expression of such emotions which are unbecoming for a believer. Secondly, patience means to remain steadfast and resolute. Thirdly, it means to remain firmly grounded in the commandments of God. Patience also means that one should make every effort to shield oneself from what God has forbidden. In a nutshell, steadfastness entails that one has the quality to face any kind of trials and tribulations with strength, courage and resilience and that one prostrates towards God with absolute conviction and firm faith.

The second quality mentioned in this verse is that one should seek help with Prayer and supplication. What this signifies is that one increases one’s fervor in the ritual daily prayers, increases one’s supplications, pays closer attention to one’s duties to faith, remains ever occupied in “Istighfar” (seeking repentance) and remembrance of Allah, offers Durud and Hamd (invocations on the Prophet (saw) and praise of Allah). Hence, a believer should exhibit complete


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patience and tolerance. One should not refrain from doing good deeds, and should in fact, intensify one’s supplications, etc. When one offers supplications before God with such an attitude, along with the practical demonstration of the above, one will meet with success. One should remember that all types of adversities are temporary. When a believer hands over his complete trust and faith to God and relies solely on His existence, then in the face of every trial he shall meet with success and his relationship with God will keep increasing, and God will come to the succor of His servant as a mother tries to help her child in any way that she can. The pre-requisite, however, is that one should truly discharge one’s duties in the way of Allah and express absolute submission to His Will and exhibit all the qualities of steadfastness and perseverance.

EXCERPT FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 10/02/2015 - The Essence of Trials and Tribulations.

The Promised Messiah (as) has said that those who are patient are blessed. Patience does not mean one is not saddened at a loss. It means one does not let it get the better of one and lose one's senses in the process. It is alright to be saddened but this should be followed by a renewed resolve to improve one's practices more than ever. It should also be remembered that only those who are patient know the realities of prayer. They understand that sometimes prayer is accepted quickly and at other times due to expediency, it is not accepted at once. True believers should always submit to the will of God; this is real patience and it is very well-rewarded by God.

The Promised Messiah (as) has said that the true servants of God experience pleasure even at times of loss because they can perceive the continuous and limitless bounties of God. He explained that believers do not go through difficulties because of sin, in fact, difficult times are a trial for them from God so that the world can see that these people are content in every situation.

… So, the Promised Messiah (as) said not to contravene God's laws. Troubles befall believers and then pass; what is needed is to seek God's grace with patience and prayers and be of those who say: 'Surely, to Allah we belong and to Him shall we return' when faced with tribulations. When we say: 'Surely, to Allah we belong and to Him shall we return' it means that we are from God and to utter this in times of difficulty signifies that we are from God and He will not ruin us. When we face tribulations, perhaps God wants to prepare us more than ever to receive His blessings. By saying 'Surely, to Allah we belong and to Him shall we return' we turn to God and hope that there is no impediment on our part to garner greater blessings in the future.

SECTION I ACTIVITY

Conduct an interactive activity to explore:

The different ways in which believers can be tried and the possible reasons why they encounter these trials.The attitude of believers when they are tried and tested.


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When a difficulty or something unpleasant happens, recite ‘Surely, to Allah we belong and to Him shall we return' and increase your recitation of Zikre-Illahi (remembrance of Allah) Before sleeping, reflect on any adversities you have encountered during the day and then think of all the blessings that you have received.

SECTION II – THE LIFE HEREAFTEREXCERPTS FROM ADDRESS TO LAJNA KARACHI DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH II (RA) 03/18/1948

… Not a single example exists that proves that a person can escape death. However, I see that people in general do not think about or care about this matter. It is the only thing which is certain and inevitable, but people prepare not the least for this. Ladies prepare evening meals, they plan for the morning breakfast, but neither the eater knows nor the woman who cooks knows whether they will still be alive by late afternoon. With a vague notion that she will be alive by Asr prayer, she prepares for the evening meal, and with the same vague notion she prepares the morning breakfast. With the same vague notion that they will be alive for the next year, they begin to gather clothes for the winter and summer. These actions show that no one knows when death will meet them.

… Days go by, weeks go by, years go by and then the day comes when the angel of death comes and the person goes empty-handed to Allah. There are two kinds of people who pass away: thosewho are loved by Allah and the others who are far from Allah. The Holy Qur’an says that for some people at the time of death, an angel comes and says “give me your life so that we can put you in hell”; and for some an angel comes and says “Allah your Creator sends you glad tidings of‘Assalamo-Alaikum’ and has opened the doors of Heaven for you.” In short, death is an inevitable certainty. It is beyond any creed and credence. Death is a universal truth, and religious peoplebelieve in a new life after death where they will be rewarded according to their good and bad deeds. All three religions, Hinduism, Christianity, and Islam, believe in the concept of reward [and punishment] in the new life (life Hereafter).

Right now, I am addressing Ahmadi Muslim women specifically, and I know that some Muslim women from different sects of Islam are attending this Jalsa also. We share the same belief system, as far as the Islamic fundamentals are concerned; they believe in the Holy Qur’an just like we do.The Qur’an emphasizes that real life will begin after death and this present life is just a preparation for the next one. Just as when we put a child in a school, it does not mean that he will be in the school for the rest of his life, or that he will not work after he finishes his school. It gets him ready for the real life to come, to become a successful person in general. In the same sense, we must


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recognize with conscious certainty that our present life is a school where we are being taught forthe life to come after death, just as we know for sure that a boy’s real-world life starts after he finishes school.

… If Islam is a true religion and there is life after death, and if it is also true that the believers will be in the Gardens of Eternity; then why does a believer not work a thousand times harder for the life Hereafter than he works for fifty to sixty years of life? If one has to bear hardship in this life to make one’s life Hereafter better, it bears no real value in comparison to the value of the next life.

The life Hereafter is an eternal life. This world’s life is fifty to sixty years long, or if stretched,seventy to eighty years. This life has no value in comparison to the next; fifty to sixty years of this life might be a minute long in value compared to the next life. Is there anyone in the world who would feel disturbed by one minute’s hardship, especially if he has the perception that after this one minute’s difficulty the rest of his life will be pain free? Can you imagine that such a person would ignore the significance of the next life and still value and prefer the pains of this life?

… Many Muslims do not reflect on the Holy Qur’an and consequently do not have full understanding of the next life. They offer mere talk, while their actions disqualify their statementsand they definitely do not have faith in the life Hereafter. Practicing the basics of Islam (to be righteous) is of no value to them, they think it is alright if they do any good act by chance, otherwise God is the most Forgiving, and He will forgive them. Of course, without a doubt, our God is the most Forgiving God, but by the same token, our God has not made our faith a meaningless concept. When we do not carry out the commandments of God but do believe firmly in His forgiveness, it is tantamount to saying that faith is a meaningless concept.

The Holy Qur’an explicitly says that true believers will see Allah Almighty after death. But to be able to see Him they need to prepare their eyes right here in this world, meaning that the righteous deeds of this life will enable them to see Him in the next life. So the question of forgiveness is not the point, rather the question is how can we achieve the kind of eyes that can see Allah? If one does not have those eyes, then how will one see Allah? Allah says in the Holy Qur'an: “But whoso is blind in this world will be blind in the Hereafter, and even more astray from the way.” (17:73)

It does not mean a person who is actually blind in this life will be blind in the next life also. It simply means that one who develops his vision through the practice of Islamic commandments will achieve the ability to see Allah. To see Allah is so momentous, so much so that if Allah says to a true believer that I (Allah) usher you into Heaven but you are not permitted to see my face or meet me, the believer would not want that Heaven. To gain sight of Allah is better than ten thousand Heavens; a believer would not enjoy a Heaven where he could not meet Allah. The final aim is to meet the Beloved; if he fails to achieve the meeting with his Beloved, then grand palaces with soft beds are not desirable even for a minute. The parallel is that of a woman who is told that her child is going to be killed but she will be provided with a grand palace as an abode. Will she accept that for the death of her child? No woman will exchange her child’s death for a grand palace.


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Then what kind of a true believer is he who says that I prefer Heaven to meeting with my Allah?Personally, I think Heaven is not the place of choice, even if he is placed at the highest rung of the ladder in the highest Heaven. He (a true believer) will say that he wants to be with his God, even if it is in hell.

EXTRACT FROM “THE PHILOSOPHY OF THE TEACHINGS OF ISLAM” BY THE PROMISED MESSIAH (AS)

According to the Holy Qur’an, there are three states of existence. The first is the world, which is the first creation and is the state of effort. In this world, a person earns good or ill. There is progress in good in the Hereafter, but that is through the pure grace of God. It has nothing to do with a person's effort.

The second state of existence is called barzukh (Purgatory). In Arabic idiom barzukh is that which is situated between two things. As this state of existence lies between the first creation and the resurrection, it is called barzukh. This expression has always been used for the intervening state. It is thus a great testimony in support of the existence of the intervening state....

Barzukh is the state when the temporary human formation is dissolved and the soul and the body are separated from each other....

… Though this mortal body is separated from the soul after death, yet in the intervening state every soul is temporarily invested with a body so that it might experience the result of its actions. That body is not like the earthly body, but is prepared from light or darkness according to the actions of each person. It might be said that in that state a person's actions serve as his body. In the Word of God, this is mentioned several times and some bodies are described as bright and some as dark, which are prepared from the light or from the darkness of actions. This is a mystery but is not beyond reason. A perfect person can acquire a bright body in this very life, apart from his earthly body, and there are many illustrations of it in the state of visions. It is difficult to explain this to a person whose mind is not keen, but those who have some experience of the state of visions would not look upon a body which is prepared from actions with wonder or incredulity, but will appreciate this explanation.

This body which is created from actions becomes a source of the recompense of good and evil in the state of barzukh. I have experience of this matter. I have often, in a state of complete wakefulness, met some dead persons in a vision and I have observed the bodies of some wicked and misguided persons which were so dark as if they had been compounded of smoke. I am personally acquainted with this condition and I affirm emphatically that as God Almighty has said, everyone is bestowed a body after death, which is either bright or dark. It would be a mistake to seek to prove these fine truths through the agency of reason alone. It should be realized that as the eye cannot demonstrate the taste of something sweet and the tongue cannot see anything, in the same way, the knowledge of the Hereafter which is gained through visions cannot be tested by


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reason. God Almighty has appointed separate means for the perception of that which is hidden. Then seek everything through its proper means and you will find it.

It should be remembered that in His Word, God has described as dead those who are involved in vice and misguidance and has described the virtuous as alive. The means of life of those who are heedless of God, for instance, eating and drinking and following their passions, are cut off and they do not partake of spiritual sustenance. Thus, they are truly dead and will be alive only to suffer punishment. This is indicated in the verse: The portion of him who comes to his Lord a sinner is hell; he shall neither die therein nor live (20:75). But those who love God Almighty do not die indeath as they carry their sustenance with them.

Barzukh is followed by a state of existence which is called resurrection. At that stage every soul, good or bad, righteous or disobedient, will be bestowed a body. That day has been appointed for the perfect manifestation of God when every person shall become acquainted fully with the existence of his Lord and shall arrive at the extreme point of his recompense. No one need wonder how God will accomplish this for He has power and does whatever He wills, as He has said:Does not man know that We have created him from a mere sperm- drop? Then he becomes a persistent disputer; He invents explanations concerning Us and he forgets the process of his own creation. He asks: Who will quicken the bones when they are decayed? Tell them: He Who created them the first time will quicken them. He knows well every type of creation.... Has not He Who created the Heavens and the earth the power to create the like of them? Yea, and He is indeed the Supreme Creator, the All-Knowing. His power is such that when He intends a thing, He says concerning it: 'Be'; and it is. Thus, Holy is He in Whose hand is the kingdom over all things. To Him will you all be brought back (36: 78-84)(Islami Usul ki Philosophy; Ruhani Khazain (London, 1984), Vol. 10, pp. 88-93).

SECTION II ACTIVITY

Conduct an interactive activity to discuss the following:Hazrat Khalifatul Masih II (ra) says “the question is how can we achieve the kind of eyes that can see Allah?” What is the meaning of ‘eyes that can see Allah’ and how can we develop such eyes?The first state of existence i.e. daily life of this world, often becomes the primary focus of life for many people. Suggest some practical ways which can help us to keep the importance of the second and third states in mind while carrying out our daily business.


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Engage in constant prayer for ‘anjaam bakhair’ (a good ending) and recite the prayer given at the end of section III frequently.

SECTION III – MARRIAGE AND MATCHMAKING (Compulsoryin general meeting)

POINTS FROM FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 12/24/2004

Taqwa should be a part of the mix even before a marriage takes place. Huzoor (aba) said special attention needs to be paid to this point, because when two people are getting married and laying the foundation of a family, they are actually laying the foundation for the whole society. It is important to remember that in the Jama’at, any man an Ahmadi Muslim girl wishes to marry has to be Ahmadi Muslim. The reason for this is to safeguard a righteous society, promote virtues and to have righteous offspring. If Ahmadi Muslim boys reject Ahmadi Muslim girls and Ahmadi Muslim girls refuse Ahmadi Muslim boys in order to marry others [non-Ahmadis] there is a grave danger of disruption in families and in the Jama’at. Their children will be in danger of going astray from faith. Therefore, there should be compatibility in religion as well as compatibility in worldly matters. So, the Holy Prophet (saw) has emphasized that if a man is righteous, his proposal should be accepted even if he is not well off. It is Allah Almighty’s promise that He will increasea person’s means if he is steadfast in his faith. Therefore, when proposals are received for daughters the response should not be delayed. In fact, if the righteousness of the person is satisfactory, the proposal should be accepted. Similarly, the Holy Prophet (saw) instructed men that a woman’s physical and material assets should not be considered but it is her righteousness that should be considered.Hazrat Abu Hurairah (ra) related that the Holy Prophet (saw) said, “There are four reasons for which a man marries a woman; her wealth, her family background, her beauty, or her righteousness. You should however prefer a righteous woman. May Allah bless you with a righteous wife.”In this manner, he actually directed attention to the means of attaining righteous progeny and a harmonious home. If a mother is righteous, then usually the children are righteous. There is no wealth greater than the peace of mind that comes from virtuous and righteous children. Only righteous progeny can bring honor for parents in an Ahmadi society, so every Ahmadi should pay attention to this.This is why the Holy Prophet (saw) said that if you wish to safeguard your next generation then pay attention to righteousness. If you prefer a righteous girl, then you will be the inheritors of the prayers of the Holy Prophet (saw) and you will see your next generation treading on the path of righteousness.


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The complaints that are now received more frequently are that a girl is righteous, pious, with good morals and is educated and she participates in Jama’at activities; however, she is a little compromised on her beauty or stature. People come to visit her and go away. Once before I have brought this to your attention that since facial beauty and stature are apparent in pictures, why do you need to visit her home and see her in person to bother the family? It is the commandment of Allah Almighty that you should not pay attention to these minor details and instead look at her righteousness. Some people, while looking for a match, examine a girl in such a way as they would examine a goat before its sacrifice. Marriage is a contract. It does not mean that one party is to be sacrificed; rather it is in the name of sacrifices made by both for each other’s sake. This is the relationship referred to by the Holy Prophet (saw), as narrated by Hazrat Abdullah Bin Umro (ra) when he said: “This world is a provision for life and there is no better provision for life than a pious wife.”So, people who conduct materialistic calculations should keep this Hadith in mind - that there is no better provision for life or for a materialistic world than a righteous woman. A righteous woman will safeguard your home and she will raise your children with high morals. As a result, you will inherit the blessings of both the religion and the world.….. It is related by Hazrat Mugheera (ra) that he sent a proposal for marriage to a family. The Holy Prophet (saw) said: “You should see the girl because after seeing her, there is a better chance that you will develop understanding and affection between each other.”Nowadays this permission is interpreted in the wrong way by society. It is being interpreted as allowing the boy and girl to be alone together or go out together so that they can develop a relationship. Even going together to a different city or sitting together alone for hours in the home is considered to be permissible, but this is not right. The reason for making this allowance is that seeing each other face to face makes it easier to form an opinion of each other. Some characteristics become apparent while talking to someone and thus there is no harm in sitting together with the family for a meal. Many traits and behaviors become noticeable during the sharing of a meal. In case there is some behavior which a person may dislike, it is better to find out before marriage rather than have problems afterwards. If good qualities are seen, then a better understanding and liking can develop for that proposal and sometimes a bond with the proposed person can develop before the wedding.

POINTS FROM ADDRESS TO LAJNA AT JALSA SALANA UK DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 07/23/2011

The second verse read at the time of Nikah, which the Holy Prophet (saw) chose, states that Taqwa is in saying what is right and clear. Some things are certainly true at times, but they can have many meanings, which can be both positive and negative. Some very clever people say what suits them and then say they meant such and such, and what they say is


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also correct, but everyone else has another understanding of it. It is stated here; say Qaul-e-Sadid [the straightforward word], and Qaul-e-Sadid means to say what is exceptionally clear and true.It is stated that, primarily, say everything truthfully when arranging matrimonial matches. If a proposal comes for a girl, her health, age, height, etc., whatever it may be, should be told very clearly. All the information should be given to the boy.However, after receiving the information, it is the obligation of the boys not to turn up simply to look at the girl. Rather, after receiving the information, they should pray and then only go with the intention of arranging a match. If they go with this intention, a pure society will be created. When matches are sought with Taqwa, girls will not experience the anxieties that they do. Similarly, boys should very clearly tell about their education, health, etc., and if they have any shortcomings, these should be communicated very clearly. Because Qaul-e-Sadid entails that everything should be clearly explained before a match is arranged. In some matches where girls come from Pakistan, India or other countries, matters are not disclosed correctly and clearly and people tell lies. As a result, when the girls arrive here, within a short period the situation ends up in Khula, or divorce, which is an extremely abhorrent act in the sight of God, although it is not Haram (forbidden) and is permissible, it is considered extremely abhorrent and should be avoided.Sometimes girls and boys wish to get married elsewhere but agree to go with the choice of their parents, wherever the parents insist on. These marriages break up after a short while. Parents should also employ Qaul-e-Sadid, which is clear communication and should tell the family with whom they are arranging a match that they have pressured their son or daughter into the match so that the other party can make their decision judiciously.

SECTION III ACTIVITY – (Compulsory in general meeting)

Select a panel of 3 Lajna members consisting of: an unmarried Lajna 15-25, a Lajna member married 5-7 years, and a Lajna member married 15-20 plus years. Hold a panel discussion to explain the following terms specifically in relation to matchmaking / seeking spouse: Qaul-e-sadid; Taqwa; Allah Tawakkul (trust in Allah).

The moderator (e.g. Tarbiyyat secretary) can explain the meaning of each while the panel members share their own experience of how these were of significance in their arranged marriage/ how the unmarried member expects them to be of significance. Examples of questions to ask:

What are/were your expectations about a marriage partner before marriage?Why did you agree to your husband’s proposal?Were your expectations realized? If not, how did that affect your marriage and how did you deal with it?


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Re-read the Nikah sermon (with your spouse if you are married) and reflect on how far you are truly implementing its commandments/teachings in your marriageRead and reflect on the guidelines for Rishta Nata given in the workbook.Resolve to offer sincere prayers for all the unmarried men and women in the Jama ‘at worldwide that Allah will enable them all to find pious and loving spouses, Insha’Allah.

Our Lord, grant us good in this world and good in the world hereafter and protect us from the torment of the fire. (Holy Qur'an 2:202)


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QUARTER 7: OCTOBER – NOVEMBER – DECEMBER 2018


CURRENT FRIDAY SERMONS: OCTOBER, NOVEMBER, DECEMBER 2018SECTION I: OBEDIENCE TO ALLAH AND HIS MESSENGER (SAW) II: HEAVENLY DEEDS III: TARBIYAT OF CHILDREN (COMPULSORY)

SECTION I - OBEDIENCE

EXCERPTS FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 12/05/2014 - Essence of Obedience and Submission

‘O ye who believe! Obey Allah, and obey His Messenger and those who are in authority over you. And if you differ in anything among yourselves, refer it to Allah and His Messenger if you are believers in Allah and the Last Day. That is best and most commendable in the end.’ (Holy Qur'an 4:60)

This verse cites a principle for true believers to follow, that is, they have to lay emphasis on being obedient and must excel at it - be it obedience to God, His Messenger or those in authority. If those in authority or government direct you to do something which is against a clear commandment of God and His Messenger, then the commandment of God and His Messenger takes precedence. However, if there is freedom of religion then those in authority, whether Muslim or non-Muslim, are to be obeyed.

… The Promised Messiah (as) said something which is most important: ‘If obedience is adopted with sincerity, the heart finds luminosity and the soul finds bliss and light.’ Certainly, this means obedience in a spiritual system and also a way to measure individual obedience. Do you experience the light and bliss mentioned here? Reflect over your own standard of obedience and assess how much obedience you yourself have for God, His Messenger and the Khilafat established by the Promised Messiah (as). Obedience of government brings peace and tranquility but obedience inspiritual life brings peace and bliss.

The Promised Messiah (as) also said: ‘Spiritual exercise is not needed as much as obedience is needed…’ i.e. without obedience one cannot experience spiritual bliss and luminosity or peace in one’s life. People who feel very assured about their Salat and worship of God but do not practice obedience cannot be the recipients of God’s blessings. Another aspect of attaining a good standard of obedience as told by the Promised Messiah (as) is: ‘It becomes necessary to crush your self-centeredness in obedience…’ One has to bring one’s wishes in line with what God and His Messenger said in order to be obedient. The Promised Messiah (as) said that idols can be created even in hearts of staunch adherents of Unity of God which can make a person incapable obeying


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even on a small level. The Promised Messiah (as) said that the Companions (ra) only attained high standards of worship of God after practicing total obedience.

Indeed, a Hadith relates that even if a slave of the lowest caste is your leader you have to obey him. In another version, it is stated that even if your leader has low intelligence you must obey him. The Promised Messiah (as) correlated national/communal advancement to obedience and said that a nation/community cannot be formed unless people adopt compliance and obedience for therein lies advancement. The Holy Prophet (saw) said that advancement is in staying connected to one’s community, in listening to the discourses of Imam of the age and in obedience. If only the Muslim world were to understand this, they would become a great force, which no one on earth could contend with! We Ahmadis have to attain high standards of obedience. God has stated that for spiritual communities, obedience is most excellent in terms of achievement. However, obedience demonstrates amazing results even in worldly communities.

… We should always keep the words of the Promised Messiah (as) in mind that it is most important to have unity and obedience in order to become a nation or community. Without it there can only be decline and deterioration. The Holy Qur’an states in this regard: ‘And hold fast, all together, by the rope of Allah and be not divided; and remember the favor of Allah which He bestowed upon you when you were enemies and He united your hearts in love, so that by His grace you became as brothers; and you were on the brink of a pit of fire and He saved you from it. Thus does Allah explain to you His commandments that you may be guided’ (3:104)

… The responsibility on Ahmadis is very great, we have to demonstrate an example of ‘…obey Allah, and obey His Messenger and those who are in authority over you…’ which will draw the world to us. This is the only way we can show the world how [following] the footsteps of God and His Messenger can guide the world. This is the way we can end disorder in the world. We have the commandments of the Holy Qur’an, which are worthy of being practiced and worthy of being obeyed. We have the blessed model of the Prophet and it is our obligation to obey it. And we also have the spiritual system of ‘ulul amr’ (who are in authority) over us which constantly draws our attention to the commandments of God and His Messenger. There is no reason we cannot generate a clear distinction between us and the others. May God enable all of us to do so and may we always fulfill the expectations of the Promised Messiah (as), Ameen.

SECTION I ACTIVITYConduct an interactive activity to discuss the following:

What is the difference between obedience in a spiritual system and obedience in a worldly system?Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (aba) says that by demonstrating “an example of ‘…obey Allah, and obey His Messenger and those who are in authority over you…” we can end disorder in the world. Explain and elaborate on this statement.


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Reflect on commands that you find difficult to obey. Write down the reasons why they seem difficult for you to obey. Pray sincerely to Allah that He makes it easier for you to obey those commandments and helps you to find answers to your objections or softens your heart.

SECTION II – HEAVENLY DEEDS

EXCERPTS FROM ADDRESS TO LAJNA AT JALSA SALANA RABWAH, DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH III (RH) 12/20/1965

… Now I will briefly draw your attention to the kind of matters towards which an Ahmadi woman should focus her attention. The first is related to the upbringing of children. In my opinion the term tarbiyyat-e-awlaad (upbringing and moral training of children) includes all the adults of a household, that is, it is a responsibility not confined to the father and mother alone but extends to every individual living in the house. It is his (the resident’s) duty to pay attention to the upbringing of young children and to do so with a specific goal in mind. You should bear in mind that the children you bring up should have love for God Almighty as expansive as the ocean in their hearts and that they should be always ready to make every sacrifice for the sake of the religion of Islam. It has actually been observed in some homes that mothers scold and curse the child instead of praying for him while putting on his or her clothes. That is very bad. It takes only two minutes, or five, or ten minutes, to dress a child and it does not cost you money or cause pain. You can spend this two, five or ten minutes in praying for your children. And while you are putting on his or her clothes, you can simultaneously be praying that he or she may grow up to be pious and a servant of Islam, that Allah Almighty may bestow His Love and Grace on him or her, and make him or her be a recipient of His Mercy. Besides these, there are thousands of other prayers that you can beseech [Allah] for your children. Allah Almighty will answer your prayers perceiving how earnest you are and your children will be a source of happiness for you. They will [in turn] be a source of joy for Muhammad, the Messenger of Allah (saw) and the Promised Messiah (as). So pray a lot for your children and be very careful regarding their proper upbringing. My sisters, thisis a heavy responsibility that rests on your shoulders.

The other thing I want to draw your attention to is the spiritual welfare of your homes. Try to create such an atmosphere in your homes that it is conducive to spiritual health; so that when your relatives return home from work, they may spontaneously begin to praise God Almighty for enabling their wives, mothers, sisters, daughters and other women relatives to turn their home into an example of Paradise and thus enable (the men) to devote their entire time to the service of Islam.

The third thing I want to draw your attention to is to concentrate a great deal on prayer. I have already mentioned it in connection with the bringing up of your children but now I am urging an emphasis on prayer in routine matters.


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…. If you always maintain the thought that each and every moment of your life should be spent in utmost humility and submission to your Lord, then you too can practice it without neglecting the task at hand at all. While cooking, you can stir with the spoon in the pan in order to brown spices and recite, “Holy is Allah with all His Praise; Holy is Allah the Great”, to the rhythm of your hands’ movement. Likewise, you can recite the ‘Darood Sharif’ too. The food prepared in this manner will not only fill the stomach and provide material nutrition to the body but also provide its consumers with some spiritual sustenance as a consequence of your prayers. In other words, they will be getting spiritual as well as material nourishment and your prayers will become part of them.

In short, while you are dressing your children or washing your children’s clothes, or those of your husband, parent and other relatives, cleaning your house or other household chores, you can also pray along with performing these chores. Aside from this, you should also put emphasis on prayer at other particular times. Most men and women fix a time for nawafil (non-obligatory prayer).They spend time in remembrance and praise of Allah Almighty and recite ‘Darood’, invoking Allah’s favors and blessings on the Holy Prophet (saw) and this becomes a habit. So it is important that we devote all our time to supplicating and worship. Sisters, if you do this, then from the moment of waking up in the morning to the moment you go back to sleep at night, you can spend most of your time in prayer. What a great act of virtue this is, of which you would be otherwise deprived. Therefore, I emphasize again and again and again and with great humility and draw the attention of sisters to it: concentrate on praying, concentrate on praying, concentrate on praying and devote every part of your life and every moment of your time praying so that it may become impossible for Satan to interfere or disrupt your routine. May Allah Almighty grant you, and me too, the ability to do so, Ameen.

EXCERPTS FROM “REMEMBRANCE OF ALLAH” BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH II (RA)

There is a Hadith in which the Holy Prophet (saw) says that when people gather together for the remembrance of Allah they are surrounded by angels and are covered by mercy from their Lord. This is why I have selected this subject for the annual conference. Thousands of you have come from great distances to attend this gathering. When I speak on this subject, the angels will shower Allah’s Blessings upon all of you. When you return home, and repeat what you have heard, your listeners will receive the blessings. Thus, the blessings will be widely shared by the whole Community…

The Hadith which I mentioned earlier shows that remembrance of Allah in a gathering is a blessed event. It attracts angels who bring with them the blessings and mercy of Allah. The importance of Zikr should therefore, be evident. Obviously, the angels will honor a person who, by performingZikr, attracts their company often. The more time he spends in the remembrance of Allah, the more will he attract the company of angels and they will constantly remind him to perform good deeds.


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… The Holy Prophet (saw) has stressed the importance of Zikr in his Hadith. Hazrat Abu Musa Ash’arira relates that the Holy Prophet (saw) said, “The comparison between a person who remembers his Lord and the one who does not do so, is like that of the living and the dead.” That is, he who remembers Allah is alive and he who does not is dead. This clearly shows how important remembrance of Allah is.

EXCERPTS FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 09/23/2016

The Holy Prophet (saw) said on one occasion that a true believer is the one who wants the same thing for others that he wants for himself. What a guiding principle this is - that lays the foundation of love and conciliation at all levels from home to international relations. It ends conflicts, mellowshearts and draws attention to granting the rights of others. On many occasions, when I put forth this matter before others (non-Muslims), they are very impressed. Our purpose is not only to impress them by relating a great principle but also to prove the beauty of every Islamic commandment through our deeds. They can bring up the question that it is a good teaching but how many of you actually do act on it and not show selfishness when tested. The beauty of a teaching reveals itself only when a person displays it through his own action.

… Nobody can deny what the Holy Prophet (saw) said about establishing the high moral conduct of the believers, that they will only be recognized as true believers when they display high morals and elevated standards of empathy and sentiments. What are those standards? That what you like for yourself, you like it for others too. Not that you clamor for justice for yourself but show a negative attitude towards giving rights to others. So, when we become anxious to obtain our rights, we should establish the same standards of giving rights to others. When we do something wrong, we want to be forgiven and we do not want to be punished. So, when someone else commits the same offense and is not a habitual offender, then we should adopt the same behavior as we want for ourselves and forgive him.

EXCERPT FROM FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 01/23/2004

If your behavior does not match up to high standards of moral conduct, then you may be wasting your acts of worship. And what are the standards that Allah wants us to uphold? He says that standard requires that you show kind treatment to your close relatives. Married men and married women have close relatives through their wives and husbands. Close relatives of married men are the relatives of their wives, and close relatives of married women are the relatives of their husbands. Both women and men are commanded to show good treatment toward these relatives; both have been given the same commandment. When husbands and wives are treating each other’s blood relatives kindly, when they are being good to the near and dear ones of each other, when they are striving to fulfill their responsibilities toward them, it is quite obvious that this in itself will increase love and affection between the husband and wife. When they make their best efforts


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to fulfill each other's rights, Allah says that then you will become those who safeguard the ties of kinship, that is, the bond of blood relations, and thus you will become My favored ones.

SECTION II ACTIVITY


Huzoor (aba) says “when we become anxious to obtain our rights, we should establish the same standards of giving rights to others.” Explain and elaborate on this statement by discussing how to achieve this in different spheres of our lives e.g. marriage, family, Jama'at, school, work etc.Discuss the importance and role of prayer and Zikr in achieving any goal.


Resolve to pray for your children while performing small chores for them.Fix a time to offer nawafil (voluntary Salat) for your children and other family members.When you feel inclined to relate someone’s faults, remind yourself of your own.

SECTION III – TARBIYYAT OF CHILDREN (Compulsory in general meeting)

EXTRACTS FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 04/24/2015

A question which is raised these days perhaps more than ever before by the young, especially those who have not had proper guidance and those who do not follow religion, is that since worldly education leads to good morals - what is the point of abiding by religion? It is said that morals can be instilled without any religious education, in fact it is claimed that people who do not follow religion have better morals than religious people. In particular, this allegation is levelled at followers of Islam. Adherents of other faiths have distanced themselves from their beliefs but even non-practicing Muslims associate themselves with the faith they were born into, therefore in reality, this allegation is aimed at Muslims.

Efforts are made to influence our youth against religion. A good aspect of Western education is that it emphasizes research and exploration but this needs to be done methodically. Parents are not able to answer adolescents when they question them on these issues, either due to lack of time owing to societal or economic pressures, or because they simply do not have the knowledge. Many a time, rather than answer the adolescents, parents suppress them. This leads the adolescents to assume that although Islam claims to be the true faith with all the resolutions to problems, it does not have the answers in practical terms and in keeping with the times.


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Youngsters take all this in quietly but when they have the freedom to do so they distance themselves from religion. As a result, in spite of Islam being a living faith we find people among Muslims who reject religion and the existence of God. In light of this we all need to reflect as to how we should practice our faith and also inspire our youngsters to practice.

Most certainly Islam is a perfect religion and the Holy Qur'an is a complete Book and the blessed model of the Holy Prophet (saw), an embodiment of the Qur'an, is before us. It was his blessed model that generated a revolutionary change in his Companions (ra), to where they understood faith, they understood morality and they also progressed in the material sense. They kept all three aspects within their perspective.

Youngsters should try, and in fact so should adults, to understand correct morals, material success and spirituality, and then put them all in practice. When youngsters understand this point, it will open up avenues of success for them and they will realize how beautiful the teaching of Islam is and they will recognize the lies of Islam's detractors. Questions that are raised today are not something new; this has been going on in the past because people do not try to understand religion in its correct form. So-called religious scholars present fictitious, erroneous solutions to people and plunge the educated people in further confusion about religion. At times, people themselves make incorrect inferences about religion.

… There are different ways to attain moral, spiritual and material success but there is also a mutual way and that is to forge a perfect connection with God. Morality is attained by trying for it and material success is attained by trying for it, but the results of both these efforts are limited within their own sphere. However, those who strive to attain spirituality are granted everything. The Companions of the Holy Prophet (saw) did not take his Bai'at because they wanted to make wide streets or wanted to have cleanliness around, rather, they recited 'There is none worthy of worship save Allah and Muhammad is His Messenger' and this reformed their morals and also their worldly matters.

EXCERPTS FROM ADDRESS TO LAJNA AT JALSA SALANA CANADA DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 10/08/2016

Hazrat Musleh Maoud (ra) narrated an incident from the time of the Promised Messiah (as):

Once a woman brought her sick child to the Promised Messiah (as) and said that the doctors have exhausted all their efforts treating his illness. She further said that her child was born a Muslim however now he is under the influence of Christianity and is practicing Christianity. She would like him (the Promised Messiah) to treat his illness; however, what this unlettered woman said with great emphasis was that he should make him say the Kalima (proclaim the Oneness of God) once again. She said she did not care if he dies after that. The Promised Messiah (as) sent him to the first Khalifa (ra) for the treatment of his illness and to do some preaching. We cannot force religion on anyone, so just preach to him and it is possible that he will become a Muslim again. However, that boy was also very firm in his Christian faith, so he quit his treatment and left Qadian during the night to avoid saying the Kalima. The mother came to know about it the same night, so


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she also ran after him and caught him near Batala. She was not very knowledgeable about religion,however she had firm belief in Allah so she was praying as well. Allah accepted her prayers. Her son became Muslim again, although he died soon after. However, the mother said that she feltpeace in her heart because he recited the Kalima happily from his heart without any compulsionbefore dying. Hazrat Musleh Maood (ra) said, “This is the real training and the true spirit that Islam would like to kindle in women.”

Thus, those women who would like to see their children pious and well-trained are not only benefitting themselves, they are not only adorning their life and the Hereafter but also benefitting their nation and their community. Many Waqifeen-e-Nau are in their mothers’ laps right now. Their upbringing is their mother’s responsibility. Once these children grow up they get occupied in their own fields of interest. They are however still considered as Waqf-e-Nau. Some of them even refused to continue their Waqf. Had they been raised with good religious training they would never have developed this thinking. You, the mothers, dedicated them after a lot of prayers. Thus you have to work very hard in this matter. A mere promise is not enough. Any person, who acquires a high status in this world religiously or worldly, his mother’s efforts are part of it.

Mothers who have worldly focus, or any ordinary women, might say that if they get occupied with their children’s (religious) upbringing, how would they complete their education? Or acquire a high status? Have they earned so many degrees and so many medals? Islam, however, says that once you acquire higher education and reach the highest level in your religious education, rear your child and nurture him so he would become a professional expert and achieve a high status.Once he becomes a good scientist, a good research scholar, a good lawyer who helps humanity, a good doctor who helps people to become healthy, a good leader and politician who tries to bring about peace in the world, his mother will also have a share in the rewards of his good deeds.

A true believing woman is preparing a heaven for her child in this world and the Hereafter. Think how many great rewards Allah must have for her who has a status of preparing a paradise? So your thought should be focused on attaining the pleasure of Allah the Almighty. Our education should be the means to acquire the pleasure of Allah. Our knowledge should be the means to acquire the pleasure of Allah. Therefore, there is a great difference in the thinking of a believing mother and a worldly mother.

Some girls pass on some good marriage proposals just because they want to acquire highereducation. No doubt, higher education is a good thing but I have seen that very well-educated women who are doctors and other high professionals now, did get married when a suitable matchcame and they developed a good understanding with their husbands. Once their children passed the stage of training, they resumed their own education and fulfilled their desire to enhance their skills.

Again, no doubt that higher education is a very good thing. However, even better is that we prepare an army of Ahmadi children who are well trained in formal and religious education. These children would vouchsafe and protect their future generations from the attacks of Satan. Training of the mothers should be such that our next generation will raise such mothers who would be the best


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wives, who would be the best mothers-in-law, who would be best sisters-in-law and who would be the best wives to your brothers. They are enabled to raise such boys who would become the best husbands, the best fathers, the best fathers-in-law and the best sons.

Once this is achieved then no in-laws will be oppressing their daughters-in-law. The biggest reason for oppression is ignorance. Hence if the upbringing were better, then no girl would ever be oppressed by her in-laws. No wife would be deprived of the love of her husband. No mother -in -law would be complaining against her daughter-in-law. This would make this world likeParadise. It will curb all the disorders. Most of the domestic conflicts arise when the mothers-in-law forget about their own time and start oppressing the daughters-in-law. The daughters-in-laware so cautious lest they be oppressed; they start asserting their authority from the very first day. They both should understand each other. Even though such families are few and far between in our Jama’at, however they are on the rise. Therefore, it is worrisome. We do have good mothers, good mothers-in-law and good daughters-in-law. With the blessings of Allah Almighty they are living peacefully in their homes. These mothers-in-law have been treating their daughters-in-lawjust like their own daughters. Yet there are some who corrupt the society with such treatment that we are perplexed that how could a true believing Ahmadi mother do such a thing?

Therefore, if this world needs to be turned into a paradise, it has to be done by mothers. If we wantto end the problems, they have to be ended by mothers and girls who have to do it. It is what is expected from a true Ahmadi Muslim believing woman.

SECTION III ACTIVITY (Compulsory in general meeting)Conduct a workshop to discuss tarbiyyat of children. After presenting the main points of the extracts given, divide your membership into 2 groups by age: 15-35 years and 35 plus.

1. Questions for 15-35 year old group:Huzoor (aba) says that often adolescents move away from religion due to lack of knowledge which leads them to think that religion does not have the answers which are practical and in keeping with the times.

Identify some of the areas of religious knowledge in which younger members may be lacking and would like to have more guidance.Suggest some ways that would help younger members communicate better with their parents/elders and vice versa in order to help them understand the guidance that Islam provides for these times.

2. Questions for 35 plus years’ group:

Suggest some ways that can help young girls understand and accept the importance of the status that Islam gives mothers who raise righteous children.How can Ahmadi women balance the desire for higher education and a career with the responsibilities of Islamic marriage and raising righteous children?


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Discuss careers and marriage with your teenage children. Listen to their views and guide them according to Islamic teaching. Create a ‘mothers group’ for mothers with school age children to meet and discuss tarbiyyat of children.Read the mothers’ handbook “Paradise under your Feet” by Lajna Ima'illah USA.

Our Lord, we have wronged ourselves, and if you forgive us not and have not mercy on us, we shall surely be of the lost. (Holy Qur'an 7:24)


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QUARTER 8: JANUARY – FEBRUARY – MARCH 2019


CURRENT FRIDAY SERMONS: JANUARY, FEBRUARY, MARCH 2019SECTION I: ZAKAT AND WASIYYAT II: AVOIDING DIVORCE III: TRUTHFULNESS (COMPULSORY)

SECTION I – ZAKAT AND WASIYYAT

EXCERPTS FROM THE WRITINGS OF THE PROMISED MESSIAH (AS) ON ZAKAT:

"What is Zakat? It is that which is taken from the rich and given to the poor. It teaches the highest level of human sympathy. Thus by the coming together of the rich and the poor, the Muslims gain strength. It is necessary for the rich to help the poor, and even if it were not so it is a demand of human sympathy to do so. But nowadays, I see that people care the least even if their neighbor is starving to death, so engrossed are they with their own comfort and enjoyment. I cannot hold back what Allah has told me. Sympathy is a very precious gem that a man has. Allah Almighty says: "You cannot achieve virtue until you spend out of that which you love." The way to please God is not, for instance, for a Hindu to present a cow which has become ill as mans (charity). There are many who give rotten crumbs which are of no use to anyone to the poor, and they imagine that they have given charity. Allah does not accept such things, nor is such charity acceptable. He clearly says that you cannot achieve virtue until you spend out of that which you love. Virtue cannot be called virtue until you spend out of your precious possessions for propagation of the faith and sympathy for mankind." A brother asked: "Huzoor, some of the beggars ask for old bread and clothes themselves." Huzoor (as) said: "Will you give them new ones? What else can they do? They ask for that because they know that no one is willing to give them anything new. We must, as far as it is in our power, sympathize with and provide for Allah’s creatures." (Al-Badr Qadian, October 1908)

"O ye people who consider themselves among my Jama'at, heaven will only count you in my Jama’at when you truly strive in the path of Taqwa. So observe your five daily prayers with such fear and concentration as if you actually see Allah. Complete your fasts only for the sake of Allah with sincerity. Whoever of you is capable to pay Zakat should do so. And whoever can perform the Hajj, and there is no obstacle in his way, he should perform it." (Kashti Nuh, Ruhani Khaza’in, Volume 19, p15)

"… Every person should avoid extravagance and spend his money in this cause. He should show steadfastness in all events, so that he is rewarded with blessings and the Holy Spirit. Because this is a gift which is specially meant for people who join this Movement." (Kashti Nuh, Ruhani Khaza’in, Volume 19, p.83)


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PRAYERS OF THE PROMISED MESSIAH (AS) FOR WASIYYAT HOLDERS:

"I was shown a place which was named Bahishti Maqbarah (heavenly graveyard) and it was conveyed to me that it contained the graves of such selected members of the community who are destined for heaven. Since then I have always been concerned that a piece of land should be bought for the Jama'at for the purposes of the graveyard”….

"Hence I have proposed (to donate) a piece of land for this purpose. It is my own property which is adjacent to our orchard and the price of which is no less than a thousand rupees. And I pray that God may bless it and that He may make this very piece of land Bahishti Maqbarah; and make it the resting place of those members of the Jama‘at who are pure of heart and who have in reality given precedence to faith over the world and who have renounced the love of the world and submitted themselves to God and who have brought about in themselves a holy change and who have, like the disciples of the Holy Prophet (saw) set the example of faithfulness and truthfulness, Amin, O Lord of the world".

"I pray again: O my Mighty God, make this piece of land fit for the graves of those of my Jama‘at who are pure of heart and who have in reality become solely for you and in their works there is no adulteration of the worldly objectives, Amin, O Lord of the world."

"Again for the third time I pray: O my Mighty and my Benevolent! O God who is Forgiving and Merciful! Give a piece for graves in this land only to those who truly believe in this chosen one of Yours and who have no trace of hypocrisy, of selfish desires and of unfounded suspicions in their hearts; and as faith and obedience deserve to be followed and observed, they follow and observe it for Your sake; and the condition of their heart is such that, while alive, they have sacrificed their lives for You and in Your path; and with whom You are pleased; and about whom You know that they are totally lost in their love for You; and those who have a relationship of love for Your chosen one and have such devotion for him as they would not hesitate to shed their lives for him—a relationship based on loyalty, total respect and veneration and a relationship based on the fact that their hearts embrace faith with open bosom without feeling any constraint, Amin, O Lord of the world." (Risala Al-Wasiyyat, Ruhani Khaza’in Volume 20, pp. 316-317)

CONDITIONS OF WASIYYAT:

"God has inclined my mind through His Wahi-e Khafi (a non-verbal revelation) towards the ideathat for the burial in the graveyard some conditions should be prescribed and only those would be admissible who, because of their truthfulness and their perfect righteousness, comply with them. They are three conditions and are binding on all.

1. I have donated the present plot of land as a contribution from myself. ………Thus the first condition is that whoever desires to be buried in this graveyard should contribute towards the expenses of its maintenance according to his/her capacity. Such contributions are demanded only from people who desire to be buried herein, and not from others…2. The second condition is that from among the Jama’at only those will be buried in this graveyard who make a testamentary disposition that one tenth of his/her entire property shall, under the


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directions of the Movement, be devoted to the propagation of Islam and carrying out of the teachings of the Qur’an. It will be open to every righteous person whose faith is perfect to provide for this purpose in his Will more than one tenth, but it shall not be less… 3. The third condition is that every such person shall lead a righteous life and abstain from all that is prohibited and shall not do anything that amounts to association of something with God or to an innovation in the faith. He should be a true and sincere Muslim. Every righteous person who owns no property and is unable to render any financial service (to the community) can be buried in this graveyard, provided that it is established that, while alive, he continued to serve the faith with dedication and was righteous." (Risala Al-Wasiyyat, Ruhani Khaza’in Volume 20, pp. 318-320)

Then Huzoor (as) said: "Let it be made clear that it is the will of Allah that such as have the perfect faith should all be buried in one place, so that the future generations, having seen them all buried in one place, should rejuvenate their own faith and so that their (that of deceased) great achievements—that is the deeds which they performed for the sake of Allah—always remain in the knowledge of the people. At the end, I pray that Allah may help every sincere person in this matter and that He may kindle the fire of faith in his heart and that they may meet their death when Allah is pleased with them. Amin."(Risala Al-Wasiyyat, Ruhani Khaza’in Volume 20, p. 321)

EXCERPT FROM NIZAM-E-NAU BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH II (RA) "When the system of Wasiyyat attains maturity, it will provide not only for missionary work, but will also help to abolish need and suffering by making adequate provision for the needs of all individuals as told by Islam. No orphan shall have to beg, nor shall a widow have to ask for charity, nor shall a needy person suffer anxiety. Because the system of Wasiyyat will be a mother to children, a father to youth and a source of security for women. A brother will help another willingly and with love without any coercion, nor will he go unrewarded, for he shall receive the best reward from Allah. Neither the rich nor the poor shall be the loser. No nation shall fight another, and its blessing shall encompass the whole world." (Nizam-e-Nau, p.131)

SECTION I ACTIVITYConduct an interactive activity to cover the following:

What are the benefits of Zakat for the individual and for the community?What are the benefits of Wasiyyat for the individual and for the community?What is the long-term goal of the Wasiyyat Scheme?Ask one or more sisters who are Moosiya to share how/why they became Moosiya and the immediate and long-term effects on their life.


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Assess your level of materialism e.g. desire for possessions, and resolve to do with less.Increase your level of financial sacrifice.

SECTION II – AVOIDING DIVORCE EXCERPT FROM FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 05/15/2009Allah says that a believing man and a believing woman could be considered to be following the path of righteousness if they are trying their best to live amicably with love and respect. If, in spite of these efforts, the relationship is still unsuccessful, then they should get separated in a dignified manner. He should part from her in the best manner, after fulfilling all her rights. This is the man’s duty and the woman’s right. Allah says that His limitless bounties and His mercy will create better arrangements for them afterwards. Allah will look after their needs and make them prosperous.

According to one Hadith, divorce is a most unpleasant act in the sight of God. (Abu Dawood Kitabul Talaq Chapter Al Talaq Hadith # 2178) However, if a relationship is based on Taqwa and all the efforts to continue the relationship fail, then Allah knows what is in their hearts. If separation is sought while inclined to Him, Allah Almighty makes bountiful arrangements for all concerned. Since Allah possesses the attribute of Al-Hakeem, the Wise, those decisions which are taken with the help of Allah are based on wisdom and are full of guidance directly from Allah Almighty.

This verse ‘And if they separate, Allah will make both independent, out of His abundance; and Allah is Bountiful, Wise’ (4:131) also establishes the principle that matrimonial relationships should not be based (solely) on emotions. There should not be any emotions involved in making those decisions, neither from the parent’s side nor from the husband or wife’s side; they should be made after careful consideration instead. People should pray to Allah and seek the guidance of Allah Almighty, who is All-Embracing. Matches made in this manner are blessed by God and Hegraces them with great scope. Allah states that if decisions are made in such a manner, then He will make them prosper and expand the couple’s provisions and He will bless their relationship.

I will mention another point about divorce, that at times, men make matters of divorce drag on and try to prolong it. There are clear and distinct commandments regarding the rights of the wife after a marriage which has lasted a period of time, and also where there are children. When the relationship finally ends up in divorce, the rights of the wife are quite clear. Haq mehr and child-support should be paid by the men. Moreover, Allah has commanded a man to fulfil the rights ofa wife in the instance of a divorce, even when the ‘going away’ ceremony has not taken place and the marriage has not been consummated.

EXCERPT FROM FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 11/10/2006:Another trend that is on the rise is that as soon as the marriage takes place, feelings of hatred begin. In some cases, hatred begins at the time of the marriage. Why do they get married in the first place?


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Unfortunately, this is on the rise in these countries. It seems that Ahmadis are being influenced by others, even though Allah Almighty has enabled Ahmadis to join the Jama’at of the Promised Messiah (as) and come under the influence of His pure religion. If the marriage is not to one’s liking, then one still needs to stay together and try to understand each other, according to the pledge of the Nikah; one ought to abide by Taqwa. However, if feelings of dislike continue to develop, before taking an extreme step, both are commanded to appoint mediators, ponder over it all and reflect over it. There are separate commandments for both parties.

Sometimes boys who come from Asian countries like Pakistan divorce their wives after a few days of marriage saying they do not like their wives. Similarly, there are boys who bring wives from other countries and then divorce them right away, making the petty excuse that they just do not like them. They say, “We only married them because our parents forced us to do so.” These boys should analyze themselves.

As I said the boys who create these problems are of two types. One type of boy lives in the Western countries and brings his wife from an Asian country and then assesses whether there is compatibility. Under the influence of society, they decide that if there is compatibility between them then they will continue this relationship; otherwise they will kick the girls out of their homes. Such boys do not register their marriages after Nikah in those countries, so that they are not liable for giving any legal protection to the girls and nobody can take any legal action against them. Their actions show that they have no right to remain in this Jama’at and that even their parents are equally involved in these matters. However, the Jama’at protects those girls. The other type of boy comes from outside the country (UK/US), marries a girl and tries to register their marriage immediately. Once the marriage is registered and they get their immigration visa, they begin to find weaknesses in their wives and divorce them. Then they remarry with their own choice. So, both types of boy are deviating from the path of Taqwa or righteousness.

Another malady which is destroying homes after marriage and causing fights and unrest in homes, is that despite the capacity to live independently, young men stay in their parents’ home along with their other siblings. If the parents are elderly and there is no one to help them or they cannot move around or help themselves, then it is the son’s duty and obligation to stay with them and serve them. However, if there are other siblings who live with them, then there is no harm in living separately. Nowadays, there are many problems that arise from these matters. It is not a noble act and they are not showing any kindness to the parents, rather they are committing more sins by doing that.

EXCERPT FROM FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 11/16/2007Sometimes cases are reported to me where I am amazed to see that parents are destroying their own daughters’ homes due to their false sense of honor. Some girls write letters to me that we(husband and wife), want to live together, but our parents have made it an issue because of their egos. So, Allah says that the relatives should not become a hindrance in re-establishment of this union. If a man has realized his mistake, then the girl’s home should not be destroyed only because


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of a false sense of honor. Thus, by safeguarding the rights of women, Allah establishes the rule that women have the same rights over men as men have over them.

…….. Thus, a man should not be hasty in his decisions. He should remember that Allah has the power to lead this to a good end. These days, divorces are very common. That is why men should take their time before making such decisions. They should keep in mind that sometimes pettyissues lead to huge problems. It is possible that you may not like something in your marriage, but Allah might have placed benefit in it for you.

EXCERPT FROM FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 04/04/2008:I have observed that it is arrogance, lack of kindness and forbearance that have become the basis of most conflicts. If one party says something, the other party, replies back with more aggressioninstead of ending the conflict by showing forbearance. As a result, conflicts become lengthy. Islahi(counseling) committees are unable to resolve the matter and then it is sent to Qadha (judiciary department of the Jama’at). Then if someone refuses to accept the decision of the Qadha, we have to expel such a person from the Jama’at, even though it is against our own wish.

EXCERPT FROM FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 03/27/2009:It has been narrated in a Hadith that the Holy Prophet (saw) said: “Anyone who shields the honor of a believing woman, Allah will protect him from the fire.” (Majma‘al-Zawa’id, Volume 6, Page 268. Kitabul-Hudud’ Hadith # 10477)I have chosen this Hadith especially for those people, husbands and wives, who start making allegations against each other in the event of a conflict. Furthermore, their relatives get involved and make unwarranted accusations, especially the boy’s family about the girl and the girl’s family about the boy. Allah has admonished us to conceal each other’s faults. Some allegations have truth in them, but some are completely unfounded. In some cases, the boy or his family make such allegations against the girl in Qadha (department of justice within the Jama’at) that one is embarrassed to hear them. The Holy Prophet (saw) stated that if one shields the honor of a believing woman, then Allah will protect him from the fire. In some cases, separation of the couple takes place. A couple is free to be separated for whatsoever reasons but this can be achieved without making baseless allegations against each other. Thus, an Ahmadi should avoid such things, no matter which side it is.

EXCERPT FROM FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 04/03/2009:At times, some young married couples say that there is no mutual compatibility between them. On further investigation, it comes to light that neither of them had tried to understand their relationshipseriously. They did not try to achieve the real purpose of marriage for which Allah has commanded His servants to get married. At times, it appears that they get married simply as a pastime. There is a tremendous lack of tolerance, and mountains are made out of mole-hills over petty matters. This leads to a critical situation between them.


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….. So, both the husbands and wives should create the quality of tolerance in themselves. Sometimes, marriages break up in the beginning because of petty little matters. There are instances where only a few days after the wedding, the couple decides that there is no mutual compatibility between them, even though, the engagement had taken place a long time ago. They are not discreet about private matters concerning each other and disclose their secrets in public. Some of their close friends like to give counsel just to enjoy the situation, and some, due to their habit of giving wrong advice, give erroneous suggestions. As a consequence, some marriages break up. Giving counsel or advice is a trust. So if those couples, young or old, seek guidance from somebody, then it is the responsibility of an Ahmadi Muslim to give advice that builds a home, not one that breaks a home. SECTION II ACTIVITY Conduct a panel discussion or workshop to cover the following questions:

What are the behaviors exhibited by women that may lead to problems in marriage or divorce?What are the behaviors exhibited by men that may lead to problems in marriage or divorce?What role should parents play if their son or daughter is having problems in their marriage?If a marriage is having problems, what is the best step that a couple can take? What is the worst?


If married, strive to overlook a fault in your spouse that you dislike.Appreciate the things your spouse does and verbalize your appreciation often. Be mindful of your family’s health by ensuring healthy eating habits.

SECTION III – TRUTHFULNESS (Compulsory in general meeting)

EXCERPT FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 02/05/2016 - Truth and Falsehood

The Holy Qur'an states: 'And those who bear not false witness…' (25:73) Shirk (associating partners with God) and falsehood have also been mentioned together in the Holy Qur'an as if falsehood is as big a sin as shirk is! The Arabic word 'zoor' is used in the aforementioned verse to denote falsehood. It means lying, associating partners with God, assemblies or places where falsehood is rampant, gatherings of song and idle, frivolous pursuits etc. People of God do not tell lies and do not attend places where falsehood and frivolity is common, nor do they go to


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places where idolatrous practices are pursued and they do not give false testimonies. Those who avoid all these situations are true believers.…. People think nothing of giving false testimonies in court cases in exchange for a small amount of money. Can lawyers say that all witnesses they present in court cases are truthful? The situation is very fragile in this regard. Not only are false witnesses produced and false court cases brought in but even false documents are created and the truth is avoided in everything. Could those, who argue that this mission (of the Promised Messiah (as)) was not needed, say that this is the teaching that the Holy Prophet (saw) brought? God has described falsehood as something foul and has likened it to idolatry. It is stated: '…Shun therefore the abomination of idols, and shun false speech.' (22:31) Just as the foolish leave God and turn to idolatry, similarly, those who shun truth rely on falsehood and this is why God had made the association between idolatry and falsehood. Just as an idolater seeks salvation from idols, one who relies on falsehood also seeks solutions therein. People say how can we leave falsehood; it is simply not possible to get by without it. But the Promised Messiah (as) said truth alone leads to success.

… Every Ahmadi should self-reflect and see how much they match up to what is expected of them. Do we use falsehood in court cases, or tell lies for monetary gain? Do we speak the truth when arranging matrimonial matches, and follow qaul-e-sadeed (the right word)? Do we use falsehood to extract social or welfare allowances from the state? Many people fall under a negative light in this regard. Income is also not disclosed to gain state benefits and this in turn becomes tax evasion/fraud. It is clear that every government is experiencing problems due to general downward financial trends and even if any government might not be in such a situation right now, it will be in the future. Therefore, governments are scrutinizing matters of welfare and benefits very closely. Anything negative in this regard not only creates personal difficulties but can also be a cause of disgrace for Ahmadiyyat. Those who use falsehood for such purposes should not keep worldly advantage in view but should try and please God by avoiding falsehood and by living on lessermeans. Be mindful that falsehood is not used in political asylum applications. Certainly, lawyers have always incited such practices, as the Promised Messiah (as) also said. Office-holders should also self-reflect whether they report falsely. They may not be telling lies but are they abiding by qaul-e-sadeed and reporting the unambiguous truth? All matters should be dealt withrighteousness. Each person should deal with matters without thought of personal gain, withoutegotism and with only fear of God in view. If this is not the case, then as the Promised Messiah (as) said everything is but an expression of love of the world. And this leads to divisions and discord, and the unity and accord of the community or at least in a specific section of the community is lost. And the unity that the Promised Messiah (as) came to establish is lost. Islam was split into sects due to love of the world and this could also lead to further divide. Thus, one evil gives rise to many. We have great responsibilities as Ahmadis and true Ahmadis are those who try to follow the blessed model of the Holy Prophet (saw).


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EXCERPTS FROM SUMMARY OF FRIDAY SERMON DELIVERED BY HAZRAT KHALIFATUL MASIH V (ABA) 09/09/2011

… Just as the Holy Prophet (saw) witnessed the world in great disorder, he removed the disorder with the light of truth and he made the world into a people of God. Those who set up partners with Allah became those who established the Unity of Allah. The arrogance and the falsehood of the disbelievers of Makkah were completely crushed by the truthfulness of Allah and His promises.

Today, those same promises are associated with the Promised Messiah (as), and as I explained, it is the promise of Allah that through the Promised Messiah (as), the victory of Islam will be attained. However, we need to become those who are the people of Allah. We need to make truthfulness a part and parcel of our lives and whilst remaining firm on the truth, we need to enhance and strengthen our faith so we can witness these manifestations. We alone are those people who have performed the Bai’at at the hand of Promised Messiah (as), pledging that we will alwaysgive precedence to faith over the world and will establish the truth and exterminate falsehood and shirk (associating partners with God).

Today, the expression of truthfulness and establishing honesty is the work of an Ahmadi because we are those people who have taken the Bai'at of that ardent devotee of the most perfect truthful person; we have pledged to establish truthfulness in the world. And regarding fulfilling our pledges, Allah Almighty says that in accordance with His commands, He will question us about this. Thus, this is something we need to deeply reflect on and we should be frightened and worried about. We should always remember that if we make ourselves to be models of truthfulness, we can then become those who establish the Unity of Allah and convey the truth to the world, for which purpose the Promised Messiah (as) came; the truthfulness which the Holy Prophet (saw) hadestablished 1400 years before. However, because of the erroneous ways of the Muslims, that truthfulness has vanished from the world today. The world has become the example of ‘when the land and the sea become immersed in corruption and disorder’ (Holy Qur'an 30:42). But Allah Almighty bestowed an immense favor and sent the Promised Messiah(as). He provided the means of removing this corruption and disorder by forming this Jama’at.

He also gave us the hope and expectation of establishing truthfulness through Khilafat and through establishing the Jama’at so that truthfulness can replace disorder at every level. It is the responsibility of every single Ahmadi who associates himself with this Jama’at to strive to achieve this. We need to remove falsehood and disorder from our homes, which is becoming the means of agitation in our households. We need to remove disorder and falsehood from our neighborhoods as well. We need to remove this falsehood and disorder from our cities and we need to remove this falsehood and disorder from the entire world, so that an atmosphere of love, peace and reconciliation can be established in the world.


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Conduct a workshop to examine truthfulness in different aspects of our lives. Divide the membership into groups and assign one or more of the following areas to each group:

Spiritual life Marriage Raising children School/WorkAsk each group to:

Identify the problems that are caused by falsehood and dishonesty in the area of lifeassigned to them.How can these problems be avoided and how can peace and harmony be established?In what ways will removing disorder and falsehood establish the Unity of Allah?


Before sleeping, reflect on how truthful you have been during the day. Resolve to improve the next day.Resolve to avoid the company of people who you know are prone to exaggeration and embroidering the truth.

Our Lord, let not our hearts become perverse after You have guided us; and bestow

upon us mercy from Yourself, surely You alone are the Bestower. (Holy Qur'an 3:9)

Lajna Ima'illah USA Tarbiyyat Program Taleem & Tarbiyyat Workbook Etiquettes and Guidelines 2017 - 2019

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ETIQUETTES AND GUIDELINES

ETIQUETTES OF SALAT

Before Salat:Perform wudhu (ablution) carefully in accordance with the instructions of the Holy Qur'an (5:7) and the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet (saw). It is important not only for cleanliness, but also helps to clear the mind and make us more aware that we are about to present ourselves to Allah.As soon as you hear the Adhan, stop what you are doing and go into the prayer area and form lines for Salat in silence Do not wait until Iqamat is said to join in the prayer.In the time between Adhan and Iqamat, remain sitting in the prayer lines to be occupied in Zikre-Illahiand Istighfar. The Holy Prophet (saw) said that a supplication made between Adhan and Iqamat is not rejected.Worshippers do not stand until the Imam stands and requests the Iqamat be recited

Proper Attire for Salat:Make sure that you are dressed properly for SalatHead and hair must be fully covered with a scarf or dupatta, which should not be see-through. Long hair should be tucked inside, not visible hanging below the head covering. Cover your arms to the elbow; if you are wearing short sleeves then keep your coat on during Salat. Legs must be covered to the ankles.Shirts worn over pants must be long enough so that when you perform sajdah, the back of the shirt comes down far enough to cover your whole posterior. T-shirts or hip-length shirts are not long enough and should not be worn.

Salat Rows:Start the rows for Salat from the middle, (behind the Imam) and begin a new row when the previous row is filled. Stand close together so that you are “shoulder to shoulder”. Do not put purses and bags in-between sisters, as that creates gaps.Keep your rows straight. Many prayer halls have carpeting with marked Salat lines and in order to keep “shoulder to shoulder”, stand with your heels on the line. Do not stand alone in a line in Congregational Salat. At least two people are needed to make a new line.

Chair Etiquette:Sisters on chairs must remain seated during the entire Farz (obligatory) Salat to maintain unity and the integrity of the row. You may stand for qiyam in Sunnah or nawafil, if you wish.Place chairs in rows in a separate section from the worshippers on the floor, either at the side or in the back. Single chairs should not be placed among worshippers on the floor as this disrupts the unity of the row.There should be no gaps on the chairs; sisters should sit “shoulder to shoulder” on the chairs. If you wish to sit on a chair during the sermon, but pray on the floor, sit at the end so a gap is not left when you get up.

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Children must not be allowed to run in the rows, or in any part of the prayer area.If your child is noisy during Salat, whether he/she is laughing or crying, please take your child out of the prayer area immediately. You may complete your prayer later but do not allow the prayers of others to be disturbed

After SalatWhen you have completed your Salat, please remain occupied in Zikre-Ilahi until everyone has finished. When Zikre-ilahi is completed, and you wish to talk to someone, leave the prayer area so as not to disturb those who are still praying.

GUIDELINES FOR PURDAH AND MODESTY

Purdah Is:For both men and women.To keep one’s gaze lowered.To avoid watching inappropriate programs on TV or live on the stage.To avoid listening to foul language, inappropriate music, and refrain from idle conversation.To not attract the opposite gender by looks, conversation, and tone.To protect and respect women and not to oppress them.

Purdah outside/ at work/ at schoolLajna members should avoid double standards: observe the same levels of purdah in public whether going to the Mosque or somewhere else. Minimum Purdah means:

A secure scarf with a long coat should always be worn when going outside; the scarf alone is not enough. This is the recommended minimum purdah and no one should make his/her own definition of purdah.The coat should be loose fitting, knee-length or longer with full-sleevesThe head covering should cover forehead, chin and hair, front and back.No make-up should be worn. If make-up is worn, then the lower face must also be covered.The coat and head coverings should not be decorative, embroidered or transparent. A dupatta may not be substituted for a scarf.

Immodest fashions should be avoided: e.g. tight or form-fitting clothes, skinny jeans with short tops, capris, tight pants, or leggings worn under dresses with high side slits; dresses with see-through sleeves or deep necklines. T-shirts, blouses or short tops with pants should not be worn even in the home.Showing-off fashions should not be for routine trips out of the home; it should only be in family gatherings or in women-only functions.Hats as part of a uniform are only permitted if worn over scarf/hijab, otherwise Ahmadi Muslim women should not work at places where hats only are permitted.Students in school should keep a a little separate from the opposite gender, not be involved in personal discussions or exchange contact information with each other to stay in touch.If girls are not allowed to wear a scarf in the classroom, they should cover their heads as soon as they come out of the classroom.


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Video chatting, sharing pictures on social networks, and chatting with an unknown person is very harmful and must be avoided.Boys and girls should not shake hands with each other.

Jama’at GatheringsIn Jama’at meetings where men are also present, Lajna members should not recite poems, do speeches or engage in lengthy discussions, even if they are in a separate hall.Lajna members can give presentations in Lajna meetings.There should be separate seating arrangements for men and women in Jama’at tabligh events, including AMSA, AMSAW etc. If for some reason they have to be in the same hall, separate areas for refreshments must be provided.

General RecommendationsHusbands should not ask their wives to relax their purdah or wear immodest clothes. If they do ask, respectfully take a stand for your religious right because this demand is against the teachings of the Holy Qur’an.Men and women should not sit together when visiting each other’s houses even if women are wearing coat and hijab. Office-holders must be more careful about this. Ahmadi Muslim women should join women-only gyms or health clubs. Wear modest, loose fitting clothing with full-sleeves and a scarf. Dancing in the name of exercise should be avoided.Mothers should teach their daughters to wear modest clothes in front of their father and brothers. Also teach your sons about modest dress and respect for sister’s modesty.Mothers should dress children from 3-4 years old modestly, so that the whole body is covered so that they can be used to modest clothing. Only real brothers are your brothers, there is no concept of “considering someone like a brother” in Islam, so purdah should be observed from all non-family men.Ahmadi Muslim women should also avoid keeping company with immodest women.Women who are office-holders must observe purdah in line with the teachings of the Holy Qur'an. The office-holder‘s forehead and hair from the back should be completely covered as is the commandment of the Holy Qur'an. Her body should not be on display. If she is acting on this then fine; if not, then no matter how efficient she is, if her purdah is not up to standard, she cannot be appointed an office-holder.

[Guidelines taken from the Sermons of Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (aba)]

ETIQUETTE FOR RISHTA NA’ATA (SPOUSE SELECTION PROCESS) IN ISLAM- A GUIDE FOR PARENTS

Begin with absolute trust in Allah, sincere prayer & an open heart; start praying for the blessings of a good match from when children are born. As Hazrat Mir Nasir Nawwab (ra) [father of Hazrat Amman Jan (ra)] said: …“since this daughter of mine was born, I have never missed a namaz (prayer) in which I have not prayed: O Allah Almighty, whichever man is most agreeable and suitable in Your eyes, make my daughter’s marriage knot with him.’”Gently introduce the concept of the Islamic marriage system to children as they approach adolescence, encouraging them to pray for themselves. Keep discussions open so that when the time comes, they are clear on what to expect, i.e. consent of both parties, no option of courtship prior to marriage, strong communication & trust between parents & children, marriage is a lifetime commitment….


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Remind children often of these Ahadith: Marriage is my precept and my practice. Those who do not follow my practice are not of me. (Ibn Majah) When a man has married he has completed one half of his religion. (Mishkat)Go into the process with a clear & correct intention- fully immersed in Taqwa. Remember “deeds are judged by motives” marriage is no exception.Have “tawaqul-Allah” (trust in Allah Ta'ala). Maintain Islamic boundaries of modesty, respect & confidentiality throughout the process (& beyond)Do not assume you know every single like or dislike of your child; ask, listen carefully, guide patientlyPresent your child in an accurate, positive light – this goes for everything from appearance to speech. Be real & sincere, never misleading, about family, education, finances, health etc.Remember, your child is marrying a person, not a set of data, so learn about others in a way that ispersonable, not mechanical. This is easier sometimes in a group setting, with trusted & sensitive familymembers present who can advise as needed.Don’t rely on one pre-conceived ideal for a spouse. Be open to different people & don’t refuse to meetor talk with someone simply because they don’t fit your image of the “perfect partner” for your child.Perhaps a candidate isn’t as tall/thin/ fair/smart/rich as you envisioned. No human being is perfect.Look at piety, modesty & the habits of his/her family; his/her employment and place of abode are less important factors.Remind your child that physical appearance, including theirs, changes over time. If a person’s Taqwa& good character are predominant over physical attributes, have faith that an attraction can developwithout one even realizing it; thus appearance becomes much less important.Be kind, not over-judgmental; the blessings of time & maturity can, and do, bring about self-improvement. After all, your child is probably not perfect either!Deciding whom to marry is not a decision to be rushed. It doesn’t always have to take a long time(though procrastination is unfair to the other party) but due diligence is needed to investigatethoroughly, to engage your brain fully in the decision & to pray sincerely for guidance.The Holy Prophet (saw) taught his companions to seek counsel with Allah when making a decision-Salatul Istikhara is invaluable. Pre-marital counseling is also required for the prospective couple(available through Jama'at Rishta Nata Department).Post-marriage- it’s easy to criticize & judge; put yourself in your new daughter’s/ son’s place & refrainfrom constantly voicing your opinion. Remind yourself you were once that newly-wed, nervous person.In essence, treat your new daughter / son the exact same way you want others to treat your childIslam advocates simplicity in all gatherings; weddings are no exception.Please see ‘Wedding Celebration Guidelines’ at link below:http://a.lajnausa.net/web/webfiles/tarbiyat/Wedding%20Celebration%20guidelines%20Final.pdfVisit www.rishtanata.us for more information about this department that was initiated by the PromisedMessiah(as)

GUIDELINES FOR MARRIAGE IN ISLAM

All marriages require vast stores of patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, hard work, and endless prayers! Give it your best-it’s well worth the investment!

Pray together at every possible opportunity. Pray sincerely for one another; remind each other oftenthat the goal, individually and together, is to win Allah’s pleasure.


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Be ever mindful of the comfort, the health and the feelings of your spouse; smile often.Safeguard the respect and honor of your spouse at all times; careless lapses in speech or action could affect your marriage adversely in the long run. Maintain behavior that is conducive to household peace and tranquility; learn to compromise, show tolerance and how to express yourself- don’t expect mind reading skills from your spouse.Act as guardians of one another’s property; be content and grateful for all Allah’s bounties – as long as your spouse is providing for all reasonable needs according to his means, do not make excessive demands on him.Whether both spouses are working outside the home or not, each should be fully aware of the household finances.Make your spouse your main confidante, rather than your friends. Mutual trust is crucial in building a secure relationship. Be a good listener; give the most honest advice.Consult one another in all important family matters and handle the outcome graciously, even if you have to agree to disagree. Whatever is best for your marriage and for the family unit is what is most important, not the need to be right.No one likes to feel taken for granted or dismissed. Take time to show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Make time for each other, even with hectic schedules.Try not to allow the luxury of familiarity over time make you lazy about your physical appearance in front of your spouse; the effort will not go unnoticed.Always be inclined to overlook the minor shortcomings of your spouse and be generous in forgiving and forgetting- re-examine your own weaknesses first. Aim to resolve conflicts quickly; do not let negativity fester. Once resolved, do not regurgitate past problems.Treat relatives of both sides equally, no matter how different their ways may be to yours; your efforts will strengthen mutual respect and affection.Getting married should mean something, primarily that you are willing to do whatever it takes to ensure spending the rest of your lives together. Don’t start packing bags at the first sign of discord; view marriage as a lifelong, sacred relationship & you’ll feel more committed to making it work. Don’t let trifles lead to situations where tempers are lost and threats of divorce are pronounced. Put issues into perspective realistically, and pray; if major conflict still exists, seek confidential professional / spiritual guidance from reliable sources.In essence, dispense with selfishness, and always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. Follow this rule & your marriage will have a greater chance for success. Ignore this rule & turmoil or even, God Forbid, permanent failure, could be around the corner

References / Sources for Marriage and Rishta Na’ataalislam.orgaskislam.orgrishtanata.usGarments for Each Other – Collection of sermons on Marital Harmony by Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V(aba)Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) - An Inspiration for Us All-Munavara GhauriPower point of Rishta Na’ata program, Detroit, MI, April 20, 2014https://a.alislam.org/library/links/00000137.html-from Review of Religions, Nov. 1992


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ETIQUETTE OF WEDDING CELEBRATIONSMehndi

Mehndi function can be held if desired but is not obligatory. It should be held in the bride’s home and be limited to bride’s female relatives and close friends. If the home is very small, permission may be requested to rent a space.Mehndi function should be kept simple and money should not be wasted on:

Celebrations held on several days well before the wedding day.Different decoration of stage and bride’s seating for each day.A large variety of foods.Printed invitation cards just for Mehndi party.Expensive and excessive clothing for the bride, groom, and other family members.

Only female members of groom’s family may be invited.The selection of songs to be sung by the bride’s friends should be decent and avoid coarse language. The songs should not promote concept of “shirk” (association of someone with Allah) or concepts of other religions. Similar functions in the name of ‘ronaq’ from the groom’s side are very strongly discouraged.

The bride’s family provides the mehndi. The bringing of mehndi by the groom’s family is a Hindu custom and should be avoided.Absolutely no dancing is allowed in any function.

Rukhsati (Wedding reception)Purdah must be strictly observed with separate seating areas for men and women.Money should NOT be wasted on:

Expensive and fancy bridal dresses for the purpose of showing off or to impress others.Expensive wedding invitations, excessive decoration of the house, stage, and bride’s seating.Large variety of foods.

Playing songs or music is not permitted.Any ring given to groom should not be made of gold.Giving milk to drink to the groom and hiding his shoes to demand money from him should be avoided; this is a Hindu custom.Only a female photographer/videographer is permitted on the women’s side. Men should not come to the women’s side for this purpose if non-family women are present.Non-family men are not allowed to videotape at family events.The groom and his male friends/relatives should not be called to the women’s side when purdah-observing women are present. An announcement should be made so they can put on their purdah.Women servers only should be used on women’s side. This arrangement can be done before hand when the caterer is being selected.At the time of Rukhsati (the bride departs with the groom) prayers should be offered instead of songs.The bride should observe purdah when she arrives and when she leaves with her husband. A large chador can be used for coverage.The Holy Qur’an should never be held over bride’s head to have her walk under it at the time of Rukhsati.Money should not be wasted on rental of expensive cars or limousines.


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Showing off the Jahaiz (things given to the bride by her parents) should not be practiced.Gifts, money, or any form of Jahaiz from bride’s family should not be expected or demanded by groom’s familyGiving gifts to the groom’s family or relatives from bride’s family just to follow a custom should not be practiced.

WalimahThe same guidelines as for wedding reception should be followed.Mixed gatherings are never allowed.It is a Sunnah (practice) of the Holy Prophet (saw) to serve food at the Walimah, but it is not necessary that it should be a lavish feast or on a large scale.The scale of the Walimah should be according to one’s own means.The bride’s family should not be asked to contribute to the Walimah as it is responsibility of the groom’s family.

General Recommendations for WeddingsWedding is a time of happiness thus appropriate celebration is recommended but no ostentationPrayers should be offered more than anything for the new couple.Taqwa and simplicity should be the top priority. Wastage of money on any occasion for the purpose of showing off or to impress others should be avoided in every event.Bid’at (innovations) from non-Islamic cultures must be avoided. These include:

Gift registryBridal showersRequesting “no boxed” gifts i.e. requesting monetary gifts onlyFather walking bride into women’s side or bridegroom receiving bride in women’s side when non-family women are presentBride and groom cutting cake together when non-family women are present.

Mixed gatherings are never permitted in any function. Purdah should always be observed. Dancing in any event is not allowed.

[Guidelines taken from the Sermons of Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (aba)]

GUIDELINES FOR TARBIYYAT OF CHILDREN

1. Remember that a child is a gift from Allah Ta'ala who is in your care. Show your gratitude to Him by doing your utmost to raise the child with love for Allah. If you give your child a deep and abiding faith in Allah, it will be his strength and his light when all else fails.

2. Be regular in your Salat and offer tahajjud to pray for your child. Pray for your child in every Salat, asking Allah constantly for His help in guiding and protecting your child.

3. Teach your child to love Allah Ta'ala, the Holy Prophet (saw), and the Promised Messiah (as), Khalifatul Masih and also to love his fellow beings.

4. Teach your child to be regular in Salat. Strive to offer each Salat in congregation; if not then offer at least two Salat every day in congregation.


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5. Always remember that children learn by example. Telling a child something is not teaching him. Keep in mind that children are great imitators, so give them something great to imitate.

6. Do not admonish a child all the time. The Promised Messiah (as) would advise his children about righteous ways and would keep a watchful eye on them, but would abstain from petty criticism and constant snubbing. Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) also followed this approach. She expressed this attitude in the wise words; "Do not say to a child “listen” all the time, but then when you do say it, then enforce what you say so the child develops the habit of obedience. However, do not bother him all the time."

7. Discipline your child with gentleness and reason. Don't let anger throw you off balance. If he knows you are fair, you will not lose his respect or his love. And make sure the punishment fits the crime. Even the youngest child has a keen sense of justice.

8. Address your child politely and courteously, for a child is a great mimic. If you address it rudely, it will return the compliment in kind.

9. Show your child that you have trust in him. The Promised Messiah (as) had great confidence in his children and never expressed any doubts about them. Consequently, the Promised Messiah’s children always felt too ashamed to ever do anything contrary to his will. More importantly, they never concealed anything from their parents.

10. Teach your child to abhor lying. Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) did not stress anything more in her children than “developing a repulsion for deceit”. She insisted that her children must never lie despite fearing the worst consequences. She taught that falsehood is indeed a form of "shirk" (idolatry), because the perpetrator does it out of fear of an individual or punishments, which they perceive as greater than Allah Ta'ala.

11. Remember that a child needs two parents. Present a united front for successful implementation of training your child.

12. Tell the child that it is nice and good. The Holy Prophet -- on him be peace-said: Do not curse a child for when you curse, angels add: Let it be like that; and like that he becomes. Incidentally, this also means that angels are responsible for the consequences of actions. When you tell a child it is bad, it draws an imaginary picture in which it figures itself out as bad and does in fact become bad. Therefore, do not abuse a child. Praise it and teach it to be good. A child should not be allowed to become obstinate. If it persists in being stubborn, its attention should be diverted to something else.

13. Teach your child to admit his mistakes, as a matter of habit. Do not try to hide your own mistakes before your child; be sympathetic when he commits a mistake; let him feel that the mistake is a kind of loss he has suffered.

14. If you need to reprimand your child, do not do it before others; speak to him in private.15. A child should not be over-indulged. Too much petting or caressing leads to many vices. Do not smother

your child with superficial manifestations of "love." The purest and healthiest love expresses itself in day-in, day-out training, which breeds self-confidence and independence.

16. Do not hand your child everything he wants. Teach him the importance of earning a reward; encourage achievement and accomplishment.

17. Teach your child the value of hard work. Let him know a useful life is a blessed one and a life of ease and pleasure-seeking is empty and meaningless.

18. Constantly guide your child in matters of etiquettes.19. Respect your children. The Promised Messiah (as) would listen to his children as attentively as if they

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20. Pray continuously. Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) emphasized the importance of prayer. She prayed continuously, day and night. Almost every utterance and action became a prayer on Hazrat Amman Jan’s lips. For example, whilst eating with any of her grandchildren she would put a morsel of food in their mouth uttering; "Oh Allah Almighty, make his/her fortune good”. Also, if one of the children was leaving the house Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) would bid farewell with a prayer; "Go, and may Allah Almighty be your Protector and Helper". She also instructed them to offer the greeting of "Salam", as they entered and left the house

[References: “Way of the Seekers” by Hazrat Khalifatul Masih II; “Hazrat Amman Jan” by Munavara Ghauri; “Wake up and Smell the Coffee” by Ann Landers]

GUIDELINES FOR TRAINING TODDLERS TO SIT QUIETLY AND BEHAVE IN THE MOSQUE / AT MEETINGS

Training a toddler to sit still and behave in public begins at home. Remember that you are in charge of your child, you make the rules; not the other way around! Practice the following at home when your child is a year old: Sit with your child in your lap. When he starts to wriggle and wants to get down, restrain him gently and keep holding him while talking to him gently. After a few minutes, allow him to get down. Do this regularly, increasing the time before you allow him to get down. Praise him for listening to you and baby will soon understand the concept that he can get down only when you want, not when he wants.It is harder to control children when other children are not behaving, but do not give up. Advise other mothers to join you in efforts to maintain discipline.If your child begins to scream or cry, take him outside. Calm him down and return to the meeting.

If you allow him to remain outside and play, he will repeat the behavior again.Hold infants and toddlers in your arms during Salat. If necessary, leave the prayer area with the child and offer your Salat afterwards.When child is two to three years old, teach them what a mosque is and why quiet behavior is important. Make sure you are setting a good example yourself.Keep your children next to you at all times. It is your duty to watch them.When on the way to the mosque or meeting, remind your child of how you expect him to behave and what the consequences for good or bad behavior will be. Follow through and always reward good behavior when you get home from a meeting.A ‘quiet’ bag can be helpful. Have a bag with coloring book, crayons or small books to keep a preschooler busy, but no musical or noisy toys.Pray for your child and for all the children of the Jama'at.

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