Look Hot This Summer Try These Great Skincare Products Click Here to Learn More SHOULD A WOMAN BE ALLOWED TO HIRE A SURROGATE BECAUSE SHE FEARS PREGNANCY WILL HURT HER CAREER? Or "ruin" her body? What if she's just afraid of giving birth? A special report from ELLE's May issue delves into the controversial world of so- called social surrogacy. ELLE › LIFE & LOVE › SOCIETY, CAREER & POWER ELLE EVERYWHERE Surrogacy For HIV+ Men growinggenerations.com/Surrogacy Agency With Unparalleled Expertise. Become A Parent, Free Consultation! BE AN INSIDER From our editors to your inbox. Sign up for our newsletter today. MUST READS 1 40 Wedges Guaranteed to Make Your Summer Easier 2 The Best Dresses to Wear This Season 3 10 Bags to Invest In This Joakim Sundström/Getty Images By Sarah Elizabeth Richards Society, Career & Power April 17, 2014 About three years after they got married, in 2007, wedding photographer Mari Smith* and her husband began batting around the question of when to have kids. “We gotta get started on this,” he’d say. “I know,” she’d reply. “Just not now.” A few months shy of Smith’s thirty-seventh birthday, Your Email Address Teenage Spirit Kendall Jenner debuts punky look at Chanel show Eau Natural Test driving chemical-free deodorant in 90-degree heat Click Starter Remote-control operated birth control is now a thing FASHION BEAUTY ACCESSORIES STREET CULTURE LIFE & LOVE NEWS HOROSCOPES Subscribe
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782014 Reasons For Surrogacy - Choosing Surrogacy To Maintain A Career - Elle
Look Hot This SummerTry These Great Skincare Products
Click Here to Learn More
SHOULD A WOMAN BE ALLOWEDTO HIRE A SURROGATE BECAUSESHE FEARS PREGNANCY WILL HURTHER CAREEROr ruin her body What if shes just afraid of giving birth A special
report from ELLEs May issue delves into the controversial world of so-
called social surrogacy
ELLE rsaquo LIFE amp LOVE rsaquo SOCIETY CAREER amp POWER
ELLE EVERYWHERE
Surrogacy For HIV+Men
growinggenerationscomSurrogacy
Agency With Unparalleled Expertise
Become A Parent Free
Consultation
BE AN INSIDERFrom our editors to your inbox Sign up for
our newsletter today
MUST READS
140 Wedges Guaranteed to
Make Your Summer
Easier
2The Best Dresses to Wear
This Season
310 Bags to Invest In This
Joakim SundstroumlmGetty Images
By Sarah Elizabeth
Richards
Society Career amp
Power
April 17 2014
About three years after they got married in 2007 wedding
photographer Mari Smith and her husband began batting
around the question of when to have kids ldquoWe gotta get
started on thisrdquo hersquod say
ldquoI knowrdquo shersquod reply ldquoJust not nowrdquo
A few months shy of Smithrsquos thirty-seventh birthday
Your Email Address
Teenage SpiritKendall Jenner debuts punky
look at Chanel show
Eau NaturalTest driving chemical-free
deodorant in 90-degree heat
Click StarterRemote-control operated
birth control is now a thing
FASHION BEAUTY ACCESSORIES STREET CULTURE LIFE amp LOVE NEWS HOROSCOPES Subscribe
782014 Reasons For Surrogacy - Choosing Surrogacy To Maintain A Career - Elle
Jhutty ldquoThis is not right I thought only people who canrsquot
have kids do this But not wanting to do it because of work
Who does thatrdquo
Related Why Im Okay With Having Only One Child
NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGED
5
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Say to Rant Chic
Eat THIS Daily amp
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Chic
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Add a comment
Alex Chard middot Top Commenter middot Packer at New Moon Kitchen
I get it Pregnancy is scary and we live in a day and age where people are fighting tooth and nail fortheir careers but if you cant dedicate 9 months to grow your child I feel like I would question whetheror not I could dedicate the next 18 years of my life to raise it I dont understand Mrs Smiths thinkingwhen she believes that the pregnancy will affect her career so much when as soon as the babyarrives it will affect her life far more than the pregnacy even with hired help because I would hope thatshe would want to be with her child as much as possible Do you really think it will be so easy to leavebehind your family to fly off too photoshoots Obviously plenty of women have careers such as this andhave families but lyour world gets more complicated when another human depends on you in their lifeWomen have See More
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Tiffany Thompson middot San Francisco State University
ldquoHow many women would really choose to be surrogates if they had less emotionally complicatedways to earn the same kind of moneyrdquo
Is this woman familiar with surrogacy at all With the entire process taking more than a year andnetting about $30000 I could make more at McDonalds But I choose to do surrogacy because I havethe ability to make far more impact on peoples lives than a couple of Big Macs might
782014 Reasons For Surrogacy - Choosing Surrogacy To Maintain A Career - Elle
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the ability to make far more impact on peoples lives than a couple of Big Macs might
Reply middot Like middot middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 1045pm1
Rachele Bartlett middot Lead Sales Service Associate at Pier One Imports
After reading the article and others comments I did a bit of reflecting and came to a few conclusions Ithink that our western society in general has the idea of motherhood amp pregnancy on a pedestal but inactuality fails to honor real motherhood and pregnancy as valuable at all This applies to the subject athand because the reactions of the people stems from this social grooming All of us in the surrogacycommunity have heard it every mother has heard it every woman every girl even men Weve allheard it in some form or another How could you give away a baby youve carried for nine monthsShe must be doing it for the money how can she let another woman carry her baby doesnt sheworry the surrogate will keep her kid all intended mothers are jealous of their surrogates becausethey cant carry their See More
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 21 at 442pm
Laura Barnett middot Recruiter at Vms Biomarketing
Uh sorry there author but depression IS a medical issue
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 631pm
Cristina Gloria Lopez middot middot Top Commenter middot Data mining at Facebook
Should a Woman Be Allowed to The beginning of this question itself wake up old fears in me Awoman should be allowed to do anything she wants as long as she does not hurt anybody with itjust exactly like a man And NO nobody has the right nor the ability to judge if you are going to be agood parent or not Should convicted people be allowed to have babies Should alcoholics be allowedto have babies Who would be the one deciding if someone can have a baby or not There arethousands of parents who had children in the most traditional way and are terrible terrible parentsand there are parents who had not planned babies at the most inconvenient times in their lives andare the best parents
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 234pm
RELATED LINKSAlaska Puts Free Pregnancy Tests in Bars
Laverne Cox on Why Orange Is the New Black Is a Revolutionary Show for Women
Top 10 Fit and Flare Dresses
Passenger on Let Her Go and the Pitfalls of Sudden Fame
How an ELLE Editor Biked to Work for a Week and Looked Good Doing It
782014 Reasons For Surrogacy - Choosing Surrogacy To Maintain A Career - Elle
Jhutty ldquoThis is not right I thought only people who canrsquot
have kids do this But not wanting to do it because of work
Who does thatrdquo
Related Why Im Okay With Having Only One Child
NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGED
5
DONT MISS
Check out the 20
Things Wed Like to
Say to Rant Chic
Eat THIS Daily amp
Never Diet AgainHealthy Consumer Tips
Trend to Try Lobster
Chic
The Cara Effect
Eyebrow Surgery is
on the Rise
Sponsored Content by nRelate
Also post on Facebook Posting as New York Fertility Services (Not you) Comment
Add a comment
Alex Chard middot Top Commenter middot Packer at New Moon Kitchen
I get it Pregnancy is scary and we live in a day and age where people are fighting tooth and nail fortheir careers but if you cant dedicate 9 months to grow your child I feel like I would question whetheror not I could dedicate the next 18 years of my life to raise it I dont understand Mrs Smiths thinkingwhen she believes that the pregnancy will affect her career so much when as soon as the babyarrives it will affect her life far more than the pregnacy even with hired help because I would hope thatshe would want to be with her child as much as possible Do you really think it will be so easy to leavebehind your family to fly off too photoshoots Obviously plenty of women have careers such as this andhave families but lyour world gets more complicated when another human depends on you in their lifeWomen have See More
Reply middot Like middot middot Follow Post middot April 18 at 904am1
Tiffany Thompson middot San Francisco State University
ldquoHow many women would really choose to be surrogates if they had less emotionally complicatedways to earn the same kind of moneyrdquo
Is this woman familiar with surrogacy at all With the entire process taking more than a year andnetting about $30000 I could make more at McDonalds But I choose to do surrogacy because I havethe ability to make far more impact on peoples lives than a couple of Big Macs might
782014 Reasons For Surrogacy - Choosing Surrogacy To Maintain A Career - Elle
20 Wedding Hairstyles Eye Creams 30 Short Haircuts Top 2014 Hairstyles Summer Fashion Coconut Oil
MORE FROM ELLE
Eye Makeup Tips Free CosmeticSamples
10 Best WrinkleCreams
Latest Spring Dresses Lose Weight Quickly
Facebook social plugin
the ability to make far more impact on peoples lives than a couple of Big Macs might
Reply middot Like middot middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 1045pm1
Rachele Bartlett middot Lead Sales Service Associate at Pier One Imports
After reading the article and others comments I did a bit of reflecting and came to a few conclusions Ithink that our western society in general has the idea of motherhood amp pregnancy on a pedestal but inactuality fails to honor real motherhood and pregnancy as valuable at all This applies to the subject athand because the reactions of the people stems from this social grooming All of us in the surrogacycommunity have heard it every mother has heard it every woman every girl even men Weve allheard it in some form or another How could you give away a baby youve carried for nine monthsShe must be doing it for the money how can she let another woman carry her baby doesnt sheworry the surrogate will keep her kid all intended mothers are jealous of their surrogates becausethey cant carry their See More
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 21 at 442pm
Laura Barnett middot Recruiter at Vms Biomarketing
Uh sorry there author but depression IS a medical issue
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 631pm
Cristina Gloria Lopez middot middot Top Commenter middot Data mining at Facebook
Should a Woman Be Allowed to The beginning of this question itself wake up old fears in me Awoman should be allowed to do anything she wants as long as she does not hurt anybody with itjust exactly like a man And NO nobody has the right nor the ability to judge if you are going to be agood parent or not Should convicted people be allowed to have babies Should alcoholics be allowedto have babies Who would be the one deciding if someone can have a baby or not There arethousands of parents who had children in the most traditional way and are terrible terrible parentsand there are parents who had not planned babies at the most inconvenient times in their lives andare the best parents
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 234pm
RELATED LINKSAlaska Puts Free Pregnancy Tests in Bars
Laverne Cox on Why Orange Is the New Black Is a Revolutionary Show for Women
Top 10 Fit and Flare Dresses
Passenger on Let Her Go and the Pitfalls of Sudden Fame
How an ELLE Editor Biked to Work for a Week and Looked Good Doing It
782014 Reasons For Surrogacy - Choosing Surrogacy To Maintain A Career - Elle
Jhutty ldquoThis is not right I thought only people who canrsquot
have kids do this But not wanting to do it because of work
Who does thatrdquo
Related Why Im Okay With Having Only One Child
NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGED
5
DONT MISS
Check out the 20
Things Wed Like to
Say to Rant Chic
Eat THIS Daily amp
Never Diet AgainHealthy Consumer Tips
Trend to Try Lobster
Chic
The Cara Effect
Eyebrow Surgery is
on the Rise
Sponsored Content by nRelate
Also post on Facebook Posting as New York Fertility Services (Not you) Comment
Add a comment
Alex Chard middot Top Commenter middot Packer at New Moon Kitchen
I get it Pregnancy is scary and we live in a day and age where people are fighting tooth and nail fortheir careers but if you cant dedicate 9 months to grow your child I feel like I would question whetheror not I could dedicate the next 18 years of my life to raise it I dont understand Mrs Smiths thinkingwhen she believes that the pregnancy will affect her career so much when as soon as the babyarrives it will affect her life far more than the pregnacy even with hired help because I would hope thatshe would want to be with her child as much as possible Do you really think it will be so easy to leavebehind your family to fly off too photoshoots Obviously plenty of women have careers such as this andhave families but lyour world gets more complicated when another human depends on you in their lifeWomen have See More
Reply middot Like middot middot Follow Post middot April 18 at 904am1
Tiffany Thompson middot San Francisco State University
ldquoHow many women would really choose to be surrogates if they had less emotionally complicatedways to earn the same kind of moneyrdquo
Is this woman familiar with surrogacy at all With the entire process taking more than a year andnetting about $30000 I could make more at McDonalds But I choose to do surrogacy because I havethe ability to make far more impact on peoples lives than a couple of Big Macs might
782014 Reasons For Surrogacy - Choosing Surrogacy To Maintain A Career - Elle
20 Wedding Hairstyles Eye Creams 30 Short Haircuts Top 2014 Hairstyles Summer Fashion Coconut Oil
MORE FROM ELLE
Eye Makeup Tips Free CosmeticSamples
10 Best WrinkleCreams
Latest Spring Dresses Lose Weight Quickly
Facebook social plugin
the ability to make far more impact on peoples lives than a couple of Big Macs might
Reply middot Like middot middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 1045pm1
Rachele Bartlett middot Lead Sales Service Associate at Pier One Imports
After reading the article and others comments I did a bit of reflecting and came to a few conclusions Ithink that our western society in general has the idea of motherhood amp pregnancy on a pedestal but inactuality fails to honor real motherhood and pregnancy as valuable at all This applies to the subject athand because the reactions of the people stems from this social grooming All of us in the surrogacycommunity have heard it every mother has heard it every woman every girl even men Weve allheard it in some form or another How could you give away a baby youve carried for nine monthsShe must be doing it for the money how can she let another woman carry her baby doesnt sheworry the surrogate will keep her kid all intended mothers are jealous of their surrogates becausethey cant carry their See More
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 21 at 442pm
Laura Barnett middot Recruiter at Vms Biomarketing
Uh sorry there author but depression IS a medical issue
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 631pm
Cristina Gloria Lopez middot middot Top Commenter middot Data mining at Facebook
Should a Woman Be Allowed to The beginning of this question itself wake up old fears in me Awoman should be allowed to do anything she wants as long as she does not hurt anybody with itjust exactly like a man And NO nobody has the right nor the ability to judge if you are going to be agood parent or not Should convicted people be allowed to have babies Should alcoholics be allowedto have babies Who would be the one deciding if someone can have a baby or not There arethousands of parents who had children in the most traditional way and are terrible terrible parentsand there are parents who had not planned babies at the most inconvenient times in their lives andare the best parents
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 234pm
RELATED LINKSAlaska Puts Free Pregnancy Tests in Bars
Laverne Cox on Why Orange Is the New Black Is a Revolutionary Show for Women
Top 10 Fit and Flare Dresses
Passenger on Let Her Go and the Pitfalls of Sudden Fame
How an ELLE Editor Biked to Work for a Week and Looked Good Doing It
782014 Reasons For Surrogacy - Choosing Surrogacy To Maintain A Career - Elle
Jhutty ldquoThis is not right I thought only people who canrsquot
have kids do this But not wanting to do it because of work
Who does thatrdquo
Related Why Im Okay With Having Only One Child
NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGED
5
DONT MISS
Check out the 20
Things Wed Like to
Say to Rant Chic
Eat THIS Daily amp
Never Diet AgainHealthy Consumer Tips
Trend to Try Lobster
Chic
The Cara Effect
Eyebrow Surgery is
on the Rise
Sponsored Content by nRelate
Also post on Facebook Posting as New York Fertility Services (Not you) Comment
Add a comment
Alex Chard middot Top Commenter middot Packer at New Moon Kitchen
I get it Pregnancy is scary and we live in a day and age where people are fighting tooth and nail fortheir careers but if you cant dedicate 9 months to grow your child I feel like I would question whetheror not I could dedicate the next 18 years of my life to raise it I dont understand Mrs Smiths thinkingwhen she believes that the pregnancy will affect her career so much when as soon as the babyarrives it will affect her life far more than the pregnacy even with hired help because I would hope thatshe would want to be with her child as much as possible Do you really think it will be so easy to leavebehind your family to fly off too photoshoots Obviously plenty of women have careers such as this andhave families but lyour world gets more complicated when another human depends on you in their lifeWomen have See More
Reply middot Like middot middot Follow Post middot April 18 at 904am1
Tiffany Thompson middot San Francisco State University
ldquoHow many women would really choose to be surrogates if they had less emotionally complicatedways to earn the same kind of moneyrdquo
Is this woman familiar with surrogacy at all With the entire process taking more than a year andnetting about $30000 I could make more at McDonalds But I choose to do surrogacy because I havethe ability to make far more impact on peoples lives than a couple of Big Macs might
782014 Reasons For Surrogacy - Choosing Surrogacy To Maintain A Career - Elle
20 Wedding Hairstyles Eye Creams 30 Short Haircuts Top 2014 Hairstyles Summer Fashion Coconut Oil
MORE FROM ELLE
Eye Makeup Tips Free CosmeticSamples
10 Best WrinkleCreams
Latest Spring Dresses Lose Weight Quickly
Facebook social plugin
the ability to make far more impact on peoples lives than a couple of Big Macs might
Reply middot Like middot middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 1045pm1
Rachele Bartlett middot Lead Sales Service Associate at Pier One Imports
After reading the article and others comments I did a bit of reflecting and came to a few conclusions Ithink that our western society in general has the idea of motherhood amp pregnancy on a pedestal but inactuality fails to honor real motherhood and pregnancy as valuable at all This applies to the subject athand because the reactions of the people stems from this social grooming All of us in the surrogacycommunity have heard it every mother has heard it every woman every girl even men Weve allheard it in some form or another How could you give away a baby youve carried for nine monthsShe must be doing it for the money how can she let another woman carry her baby doesnt sheworry the surrogate will keep her kid all intended mothers are jealous of their surrogates becausethey cant carry their See More
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 21 at 442pm
Laura Barnett middot Recruiter at Vms Biomarketing
Uh sorry there author but depression IS a medical issue
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 631pm
Cristina Gloria Lopez middot middot Top Commenter middot Data mining at Facebook
Should a Woman Be Allowed to The beginning of this question itself wake up old fears in me Awoman should be allowed to do anything she wants as long as she does not hurt anybody with itjust exactly like a man And NO nobody has the right nor the ability to judge if you are going to be agood parent or not Should convicted people be allowed to have babies Should alcoholics be allowedto have babies Who would be the one deciding if someone can have a baby or not There arethousands of parents who had children in the most traditional way and are terrible terrible parentsand there are parents who had not planned babies at the most inconvenient times in their lives andare the best parents
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 234pm
RELATED LINKSAlaska Puts Free Pregnancy Tests in Bars
Laverne Cox on Why Orange Is the New Black Is a Revolutionary Show for Women
Top 10 Fit and Flare Dresses
Passenger on Let Her Go and the Pitfalls of Sudden Fame
How an ELLE Editor Biked to Work for a Week and Looked Good Doing It
782014 Reasons For Surrogacy - Choosing Surrogacy To Maintain A Career - Elle
20 Wedding Hairstyles Eye Creams 30 Short Haircuts Top 2014 Hairstyles Summer Fashion Coconut Oil
MORE FROM ELLE
Eye Makeup Tips Free CosmeticSamples
10 Best WrinkleCreams
Latest Spring Dresses Lose Weight Quickly
Facebook social plugin
the ability to make far more impact on peoples lives than a couple of Big Macs might
Reply middot Like middot middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 1045pm1
Rachele Bartlett middot Lead Sales Service Associate at Pier One Imports
After reading the article and others comments I did a bit of reflecting and came to a few conclusions Ithink that our western society in general has the idea of motherhood amp pregnancy on a pedestal but inactuality fails to honor real motherhood and pregnancy as valuable at all This applies to the subject athand because the reactions of the people stems from this social grooming All of us in the surrogacycommunity have heard it every mother has heard it every woman every girl even men Weve allheard it in some form or another How could you give away a baby youve carried for nine monthsShe must be doing it for the money how can she let another woman carry her baby doesnt sheworry the surrogate will keep her kid all intended mothers are jealous of their surrogates becausethey cant carry their See More
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 21 at 442pm
Laura Barnett middot Recruiter at Vms Biomarketing
Uh sorry there author but depression IS a medical issue
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 631pm
Cristina Gloria Lopez middot middot Top Commenter middot Data mining at Facebook
Should a Woman Be Allowed to The beginning of this question itself wake up old fears in me Awoman should be allowed to do anything she wants as long as she does not hurt anybody with itjust exactly like a man And NO nobody has the right nor the ability to judge if you are going to be agood parent or not Should convicted people be allowed to have babies Should alcoholics be allowedto have babies Who would be the one deciding if someone can have a baby or not There arethousands of parents who had children in the most traditional way and are terrible terrible parentsand there are parents who had not planned babies at the most inconvenient times in their lives andare the best parents
Reply middot Like middot Follow Post middot April 17 at 234pm
RELATED LINKSAlaska Puts Free Pregnancy Tests in Bars
Laverne Cox on Why Orange Is the New Black Is a Revolutionary Show for Women
Top 10 Fit and Flare Dresses
Passenger on Let Her Go and the Pitfalls of Sudden Fame
How an ELLE Editor Biked to Work for a Week and Looked Good Doing It
782014 Reasons For Surrogacy - Choosing Surrogacy To Maintain A Career - Elle