Stop & Think Parenting: A Guide to Children’s Good Behavior A Project ACHIEVE Component from the State Improvement Grant Arkansas Department of Education, Special Education Unit Marcia Harding Howard M. Knoff Associate Director Project Director Special Education Unit State
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Stop & Think Parenting:
A Guide to Children’s Good Behavior
A Project ACHIEVE Component from the
State Improvement GrantArkansas Department of Education,
Special Education Unit
Marcia Harding Howard M. Knoff Associate Director Project Director Special Education Unit State Improvement Grant
The Stop & Think Social Skills Program (within Project ACHIEVE)
An Evidence-Based National Model Prevention Program through the
U.S. Department of Health & Human Service’s Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services
Administration (SAMHSA)
and
U.S. Department of Justice’s Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention (OJJDP)
Character is doing the right thing. .
. . . when no one is watching.. . . when no one is watching.
J. C. Watts
Choice,Choice, not chance,not chance, determinesdetermines one’s destiny.one’s destiny. UnknownUnknown
The Goal of the Stop & Think Social Skills Program
TO:
Teach Children Interpersonal, Problem-Solving, and Conflict Resolution Skills
That facilitate their Social-Emotional/ Behavioral Development, and
Help them develop Self-Management Skills
The “BIG THREE” Interdependent Positive
Behavioral Support Components
Skill (Interpersonal, Problem-Solving, Conflict Resolution Social Skills)
Accountability
Consistency
The Definition of “Skill Mastery”
Skills are mastered when they are successfully
performed under conditions of emotionality
“Special Situations”— Dealing with Emotions
Skills:
The Emotional Reaction Paradigm:
Prevention Triggers Cues Behavior
Prepare
Skills can be demonstrated as long as a person is not past the “Physiological Point of No Return”
STOPSTOP
THINK
ANDAND
STEP 1:STEP 1:
Time to calm down and think about how to handle the situation.
Good Good ChoiceChoice
Bad Choice?
OR A
Do You Want to Make aDo You Want to Make aSTEP 2:STEP 2:
Opportunity to decide what kind of choice to make?
Child reinforces self for making a good choice then doing a good job.
THE STOP & THINK SOCIAL SKILLSUNIVERSAL LANGUAGE
1. ________, you need to Stop & Think.
2. Are you going to make a Good Choice or a Bad Choice?
You need to make a Good Choice.
3. What are your (Good) Choices or Steps?[Tell/Guide your student here using a specific
“Skill Script”]
4. All right, now let me see you Just Do It ! ! !
5. Great job! ! ! Tell yourself you did a great job ! ! !
Preschool to Early Elementary SchoolStop & Think Social Skills
At the preschool to the early elementary school level, the ten primary skills are:
Listening Asking for Help Following Directions Asking for Permission
(May I?)Using a Friendly Voice Dealing with Being Bothered
Waiting for Your Turn ApologizingHow to Interrupt Dealing with Losing
At the preschool to early elementary school level, the ten advanced skills are:
Sharing Planning What to do Next Joining an Activity Deciding How You Feel Dealing with Being Left Out Dealing with Anger Dealing with Teasing Dealing with Being Blamed Dealing with Consequences Deciding with Being Afraid
Middle to Late Elementary SchoolStop & Think Social Skills
At the middle to late elementary school level, the ten primary skills are:
Listening ApologizingFollowing Directions Dealing with ConsequencesAsking for Help Dealing with Teasing Taking Turns/Interrupting Dealing with AngerIgnoring Distractions Walking Away from a Fight
At the middle to late elementary school level, the ten advanced skills are:
Setting a Goal Understanding Your/Others’ FeelingsEvaluating Yourself Dealing with Being Rejected or
Left OutResponding to Failure Dealing with AccusationsBeginning/Ending a Conversation Dealing with FearGiving/Accepting a Compliment Dealing with Peer Pressure
Teaching Social Skills: The Importance of Skills & Script
“Stop & Think” “I’m going to make a Good Choice!” “What are my Choices or Steps?”
“Now, I’m ready to ‘Just do it!’” “Great! I did a Great Job!”
THE SKILL BOX: GO TO SKILL SCRIPT
““Skills and Scripts”--Skills and Scripts”-- In Step 3’s “Skill Box”In Step 3’s “Skill Box”
Listening:(For Younger Students)
1. Eyes are forward.2. Hands are quiet.3. Mouth is closed.4. Ears are open.5. “Show me Listening!”
Prompt: “Show me listening.”
Following Directions:
[“Show Me Listening”– Get into the Listening position]
1. Listen to the entire direction.2. Repeat the direction to yourself or
out loud.3. Ask a question if needed or if you
don't understand.4. Get ready to follow the direction.
REMEMBER:
“Bad Choices” are not failures; They are opportunities to teach, reteach, reinforce, and demonstrate consistency with children and adolescents.
The “BIG THREE” Interdependent Positive
Behavioral Support Components
Skill
Accountability(Incentives, Consequences)
Consistency
Necessary Components of an Effective Discipline/Behavior Management
Program
Accountability:
Children make “good choices” because they are either motivated toward incentives and/or motivated to avoid consequences.
Implication:
We need to identify meaningful, developmentally-appropriate incentives and consequences for children/adolescents
Some Basic Principles of Accountability
1. A positive home environment occurs when children experience FIVE positive interactions for every ONE negative interaction.
2. Incentives and consequences impact only after a child has learned and mastered specific social skills (Think about the non-swimmer).
Implication:When incentives and consequences are
used too early in connection with skill mastery, frustration (emotionality) results.
TO
Some Basic Principles of Accountability
3. When consequences are needed, the mildest possible consequence needed to motivate a student’s “good choice” should be used.
4. Even when used correctly, as consequences get more negative or intense, some children need at least the same level of intensity in order for them to maintain their “meaningfulness” over time.
Implication:This can result in a “death spiral” where
parents are continually increasing the intensity of their consequences in order to get their children to respond.
Some Basic Principles of Accountability
5. Punishment may immediately stop behavior but it does not change behavior;
Consequences: Communicate. . . and Motivate.
BUT. . . .
“If you consequate, you must educate!”
Implication: Once the consequence is over, the child needs to understand and practice the appropriate action to change the behavior.
Positive Home Behavior Matrix
Positive Home Behaviors
ListensFollows Directions (Cleans room,
makes bed, puts clothes/toys away, gets ready for bed easily, good personal hygiene, ____________________)
Uses a friendly voice (not angry, loud, whiny, __________)
Waits their turn (when you are on the phone, visiting with a friend, busy cooking, ____________________)
Walks away from a fight (when hit by younger sibling, when being bullied or teased, ______________)
Tells the truthShares, Shows kindness________________________
Incentives – (What does your child like?)
1. Tell child “Thank you”
2. Special privileges (Play with computer or Playstation, extra TV time, outside play)
3. Have a snack
4. Smile and affirmation (“Good Work” “Good job” “I appreciate you/what you did” )
5. Say, “I love you”
6. Spend extra time together (Story time, Cooking, Wal-Mart)
7. Hug, high five, or a loving pat
8. ______________________
Level 1 Mild Inappropriate Behaviors
Does not listen (TV watching, you are reading a story, giving directions, or helping with homework, _____________)
Does not follow directions (Delays going to bed or bathing, leaves toys or clothes on floor, slams door, _______)
Uses a loud voice, makes loud noises, or has an attitude (when asking for help, interacting with others, frustrated, _______________)
Interrupts your phone call or interrupts you when you are busy
Teases a sibling or friend
Corrective Responses (Organized along a Continuum)