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BRIDGES TO INTIMACYI’m so glad you decided to register for the workshop Secrets of Intimacy! In today’s crazy world of technology, high-speed jobs, and overstimulation, we are so stressed out that our relationships tend to suffer. We for-get that superficial conversations and min-imal contact don’t contribute to intimacy. If you registered for the workshop, I’m en-couraged to think that you value your re-lationship and want to find better ways to connect.

While you wait for the date of the workshop to come, don’t panic! I know relationships can be difficult, but don’t give up, there is light at the end of this tunnel, and great joy on the other side. To start walking in the right direction, start building a bridge of trust that reaches out to your partner and says: We can do this! I’m willing to take the first steps to bring intimacy back into our relationship.

Before you attend the webinar, I want you to do two things. First, go to our FaceBook page and register to become part of the community. Second, be sure to watch this video:

I have designed three simple steps that can get you started in the road to intimacy. Start practicing them before the seminar and see what happens.

Press the button above to begin your journey into true intimacy.

Press the button above to find a way into a new love connection

Press the button above to find ways to share your love

Plan your actions and keep track of the results

Intimate conversation is not about constant headlong plunges into touchy subjects - a behavior which has the potential to tear you and your partner apart.

Intimate conversation is about sharing closeness and just talking with your loved one.

Start by sharing everyday a few minutes of “how was our day?” chat to reconnect.

1Put your feelings into words. If you are not sure how to describe your feelings, try several words until you hit on the one that “feels right.” (practice by writing down your feelings below)

2Ask open-ended questions. Avoid questions that can be answered with yes or no. Replace “Did you have a good day at work?” with “What was it like at work today.” (write down sample questions)

3Follow up with statements that deepen the connection. Don’t put words in your partner’s mouth. Check if you understood the mean-ing and don’t assume anything. (write down your own ideas below)

4Express compassion and empathy. Don’t try to “fix” anything, or try to “reason.” Just let the other know that you are with him or her and accept his or her emotions as valid. Be an ally more than a problem solver. Listen with your heart! (write down how you feel about this)

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Create Meaningful Conversation

Create a Love ConnectionDr. Gottman, from the Gotten Institute, who has done considerable research on what makes relationships work has some very practical suggestions that can help you protect and develop your intimacy. His studies have shown that a little bit every day goes a long way. If both partners build habits of turning towards each other in simple everyday moments, they build bridges of affection and admiration that lead to intimacy.

Think of the ideas below as materials for building that bridge. Remember that every relationship is different. Whether you prefer to reach out by build-ing bridges, carving intricate tunnels, or sending messages in bottles towards each other, what is important is the connections you create. You can start practicing affection, and intimacy tends to naturally follow. Use the suggestions below to jump start your imagination for things you can do to start connecting in your journey back to intimacy.

Things You Can Do For Your SpouseFix coffee, a snack, or a meal for your partner.

Wait on your partner when he or she is ill.

Compliment your partner, say thank you, praise his or her efforts around the house.

Listen. Listen. Listen.

Buy a silly gift. Buy something inexpensive. Make it an inside joke.

Do something kind for your partner’s friends or family.

Run errands for your partner.

Call or send an email during the workday. Ask how it’s going.

Put a loving note into your partner’s lunch or briefcase.

Draw a funny picture or write a sweet note. Hide it in your partner’s coat pocket.

Hug, Kiss, Hold hands, Cuddle.

Reminisce.

Take a walk together.

Volunteer together.

Talk over drinks, or coffee, or tea.

Philosophize.

Wash the dishes: you wash, they dry.

Go do something fun together.

Create artwork together.

Help to take care of an aging relative.

Take a shower or a bath together.

Fold laundry. (It can be fun if done together!)

Take a spontaneous trip to somewhere beautiful.

Plan your future. Dream.

Things You Can Do With Your Spouse

Modern communication technology offers many opportunities for building intimacy throughout the day. Try some of the ideas below and see how both you and your partner start looking forward to seeing each other at the end of the work day.

Create Positive Expectations

Plan your communication ideas step-by-step

Share interesting things with each other. Insightful articles you loved in the news.

A piece of great writing that has been cir-culating through the office. A set of pho-tographs someone found on BuzzFeed or StumbleUpon, whatever you think your partner would appreciate!

Check in regularly with your partner via text message. Show your interest in their daily activities and life. How did that presentation go? What did he/she have for lunch? Let him/her know how excit-ed you are to share a 6-second kiss with them later!

1 2 3Send small, meaningful messages to cheer each other up, especially if your partner is having a hard day. Share fun-ny text, pictures, videos and make each other laugh. Send an inside joke. Send a funny video from Youtube. Send a quick message on chat.

Make sure you start applying some of these ideas TODAY. Go to our FB page and share with our community what are you doing and what results are you finding. I look forward to sharing more ideas with you in the upcoming workshop Secrets of Intimacy!

What’s going on in your partner’s life? Messages to cheer up my partner My partner’s interests

Plan & JournalToday’s Date

1 Put your feelings into words.

2 Ask open-ended questions.

3 Follow up with statements that deepen the connection.

4 Express compassion and empathy.

Create a Meaningful Conversation

Create a Love ConnectionThings you can do with your spouse

Create Positive ExpectationsWhat’s going on in your partner’s life?

Messages to cheer up my partner

My partner’s interests

What Was Your Partner’s Response?

Journal About It...

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Things you can do with your spouse

Plan & JournalToday’s Date

1 Put your feelings into words.

2 Ask open-ended questions.

3 Follow up with statements that deepen the connection.

4 Express compassion and empathy.

Create a Meaningful Conversation

Create a Love ConnectionThings you can do with your spouse

Create Positive ExpectationsWhat’s going on in your partner’s life?

Messages to cheer up my partner

My partner’s interests

What Was Your Partner’s Response?

Journal About It...

DAY - 2

Things you can do with your spouse

Plan & JournalToday’s Date

1 Put your feelings into words.

2 Ask open-ended questions.

3 Follow up with statements that deepen the connection.

4 Express compassion and empathy.

Create a Meaningful Conversation

Create a Love ConnectionThings you can do with your spouse

Create Positive ExpectationsWhat’s going on in your partner’s life?

Messages to cheer up my partner

My partner’s interests

What Was Your Partner’s Response?

Journal About It...

DAY - 3

Things you can do with your spouse

Plan & JournalToday’s Date

1 Put your feelings into words.

2 Ask open-ended questions.

3 Follow up with statements that deepen the connection.

4 Express compassion and empathy.

Create a Meaningful Conversation

Create a Love ConnectionThings you can do with your spouse

Create Positive ExpectationsWhat’s going on in your partner’s life?

Messages to cheer up my partner

My partner’s interests

What Was Your Partner’s Response?

Journal About It...

DAY - 4

Things you can do with your spouse

Plan & JournalToday’s Date

1 Put your feelings into words.

2 Ask open-ended questions.

3 Follow up with statements that deepen the connection.

4 Express compassion and empathy.

Create a Meaningful Conversation

Create a Love ConnectionThings you can do with your spouse

Create Positive ExpectationsWhat’s going on in your partner’s life?

Messages to cheer up my partner

My partner’s interests

What Was Your Partner’s Response?

Journal About It...

DAY - 5

Things you can do with your spouse

Plan & JournalToday’s Date

1 Put your feelings into words.

2 Ask open-ended questions.

3 Follow up with statements that deepen the connection.

4 Express compassion and empathy.

Create a Meaningful Conversation

Create a Love ConnectionThings you can do with your spouse

Create Positive ExpectationsWhat’s going on in your partner’s life?

Messages to cheer up my partner

My partner’s interests

What Was Your Partner’s Response?

Journal About It...

DAY - 6

Things you can do with your spouse

Plan & JournalToday’s Date

1 Put your feelings into words.

2 Ask open-ended questions.

3 Follow up with statements that deepen the connection.

4 Express compassion and empathy.

Create a Meaningful Conversation

Create a Love ConnectionThings you can do with your spouse

Create Positive ExpectationsWhat’s going on in your partner’s life?

Messages to cheer up my partner

My partner’s interests

What Was Your Partner’s Response?

Journal About It...

DAY - 7

Things you can do with your spouse

Plan & JournalToday’s Date

1 Put your feelings into words.

2 Ask open-ended questions.

3 Follow up with statements that deepen the connection.

4 Express compassion and empathy.

Create a Meaningful Conversation

Create a Love ConnectionThings you can do with your spouse

Create Positive ExpectationsWhat’s going on in your partner’s life?

Messages to cheer up my partner

My partner’s interests

What Was Your Partner’s Response?

Journal About It...

DAY - 8

Things you can do with your spouse

Plan & JournalToday’s Date

1 Put your feelings into words.

2 Ask open-ended questions.

3 Follow up with statements that deepen the connection.

4 Express compassion and empathy.

Create a Meaningful Conversation

Create a Love ConnectionThings you can do with your spouse

Create Positive ExpectationsWhat’s going on in your partner’s life?

Messages to cheer up my partner

My partner’s interests

What Was Your Partner’s Response?

Journal About It...

DAY - 9

Things you can do with your spouse

Plan & JournalToday’s Date

1 Put your feelings into words.

2 Ask open-ended questions.

3 Follow up with statements that deepen the connection.

4 Express compassion and empathy.

Create a Meaningful Conversation

Create a Love ConnectionThings you can do with your spouse

Create Positive ExpectationsWhat’s going on in your partner’s life?

Messages to cheer up my partner

My partner’s interests

What Was Your Partner’s Response?

Journal About It...

DAY - 10

Things you can do with your spouse