Session 3 Parent Lesson 8: Parenting Styles
Dec 28, 2015
Objectives
Participants will:
• Explore four common parenting styles
• Identify your parenting style
• Gain skills in using a democratic style of parenting that is firm but fair
Dominating
• Threatens, intimidates, commands
• Rigid and controlling
• Offers very little affection, warmth, encouragement or praise
• Enforces a clear set of expectations and monitors children’s activities carefully
Possible Child Outcomes
• Rebellious or submissive
• Manipulative and sneaky
• Power struggles with parents
• Only follow rules when parent is present
• Become power-oriented with peers (the bully)
• Have difficulty making decisions
• Act distrustful
Permissive
• Tries to be child’s friend
• Too busy or distracted
• Substitutes “things” for time or commitment
• Rescues
• Offers few guidelines
• Inconsistent
• Does too much for the child
Possible Child Outcomes
• Insecure
• Searching for boundaries
• Little respect for authority
• Poor self-control
• Self-indulging
• Doesn’t understand cause and effect
• Doesn’t follow rules
• Irresponsible
Unengaged
• Inconsistent
• Little nurturing
• No expectations
• Selfish
• Not emotionally or mentally engaged
• Little respect for children and others
Possible Child Outcomes
• Little respect for others
• No responsibility or may be too responsible for their age if expected to raise themselves and siblings
• High anxiety
Positive Parenting Style
• Firm but loving
• Sets clear boundaries
• Follows through with appropriate consequences
• Reasonable expectations
Positive Parenting Style
• Allow for learning from mistakes
• Model expected behaviors
• Are confident, flexible, respectful
• Model teamwork, give and take, and share the power
Possible Child Outcomes
• Confident
• Secure
• Respects self and others
• Responsible
• Self-disciplined
• Inner motivation
• Closer family relationships
What will you work on?
• Be firm but loving
• Set clear boundaries
• Follow through with appropriate consequences
• Set reasonable expectations
• Allow for learning from mistakes
• Model expected behaviors
• Be confident, flexible, respectful
• Model teamwork, give and take, share the power
When Parents Disagree
“Out of balance” happens when one parent becomes
more strict or lenient in response to the other
parent’s style.
Out of Balance BalanceBalance happens when parents agree on the
issues and consequences, consider the outcomes
and support one another.
Gearing Up for Middle School
• Discoveries? • Questions? • Stories?
Thank you for participating!
See you next session.