Self esteem

SELF-ESTEEM

Characteristics of Good Mental/Emotional Health

• Sense of belonging• Feeling close to those who provide you with

support.• Sense of purpose

• Recognizing you have value and importance as a person lets you set and reach goals.

• Positive outlook• Seeing the bright side of life reduces stress and

increases your chances of success.• Self-sufficiency

• Having the confidence to make responsible decisions promotes your sense of independence and self-assurance.

• Healthy self-esteem• Having healthy self-esteem helps you accept

and recover from difficulties and failures.

Mental & Emotional Health•Mental/emotional health: the ability to accept yourself and others, express and manage emotions, and deal with the demands and challenges you meet in your life.

• Resilient: the ability to adapt effectively and recover from disappointment, difficulty, or crisis.

Bell-Ringer“Our deepest fear is not that

we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are

powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that

frightens us most.”What does this statement mean to you?Do you know where this statement comes from?

Self WorthSelf-worth is the inherent value that everyone is born with.

• We are all human beings, we all have worth.

• Everyone has the same amount of worth.

• Can’t be taken from you.

• You cannot lose your worth, but you can lose sight of your worth.

• We are all unique individuals with unique talents.

• We all have something to contribute and we all have faults.

Getting to Know Me•Worksheet + Discussion (10 minutes)

Self-EsteemSelf-esteem is how much you value, respect and feel confident about

yourself.Self-esteem is the opinion you have of yourself. a combination of self-

image, ideal-self, and Pygmalion-self.

Self-Image: what we perceive ourselves to beIdeal-Self: how we want to be

• Hero identification

Pygmalion-Self: our perception of what we believe other people think of us.

I am not what I think I am I am not what you think I amI am what I think you think I am

• The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.

• Steven Furtick

Amy Video (1 minute)Social Mirror Activity• Completion + Discussion (10-15 minutes)

• http://youtu.be/LbBniswx5Ys• <iframe width="420" height="345" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/gUsKIApTewQ" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>

Problems with the SOCIAL MIRROR• The Social Mirror is UNREALISTIC• Somehow the media has sold everyone that the lie looks are

everything….and be have BOUGHT it!

The Social accurate ISN’T ACCURATEyou are so much more than the opinions of others!!!

• The Social Mirror is always CHANGING• Opinions, fads and fashion are always changing• “Who are you?” said the caterpillar. Alice replied, rather shyly. “I hardly

know, Sir, just at present-at least I know who I was when I got up this morning, but I think I must have changed several times since then.”

Self-TalkSelf-talk is the encouragement or criticism that you give yourself.

The Law of Positive Self-Talk states:  "You can change who you are by changing what you say when you talk to your mind.”

Self Talk:•Normal•Emotional reactions•Affects Self-Esteem•Positive or Negative•Replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts.•Be optimistic about yourself, rather than pessimistic!

Factors Affecting Your Self Esteem• Media (Dove Evolution Video) (10 minutes)• Goal Setting• Self-Talk• Definition of Success• Accomplishment• Expectations • (Realistic vs. Unrealistic)•Work Ethic• Attitude• Family• Friends

•What messages is the media sending to men?

•What effect do these messages have?

•What messages is the media sending to women?

•What effect do these messages have?

Ultimately,

self-esteem is a choice.

Improving Your Self-Esteem• Choose friends who value and respect you.• Focus on positive aspects about yourself.• Replace negative self-talk with supportive self-talk.• Act in accordance with your values.•Work toward accomplishments rather than perfection.• Consider your mistakes learning opportunities.• Try new activities to discover your talents.•Write down your goals and the steps you will take to achieve them.• Exercise regularly to feel more energized.• Volunteer to help someone.• Accept the things you can’t change, and focus your energy on changing the things you can.

Paper on Back Activity• Completion + Reading + Discussion (15-20 minutes)• REMEMBER TO HAND OUT AND EXPLAIN THE COLOR TEST ASSIGNMENT!!