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Sara Hay, School Counselor Kelly Blair, Counseling Intern
Bullying: What Parents Need to Know
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Agenda Introduction What is Bullying/Types Girl vs. Boy
Bullying Why do students bully? Signs that watch out for What can
you do to help? What is A.G. Bell doing? Resources!
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Post-it Question: What is one thing you would like to know
about bullying?
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Case Study #1: Each day, 10-year-old Seth asked his mom for
more and more lunch money. Yet he seemed skinnier than ever and
came home from school hungry. It turned out that Seth was handing
his lunch money to a fifth-grader, who was threatening to beat him
up if he didn't pay. Pretend for a minute that you are the parent
of this child: How would you respond? What would you say to your
child? What could you do to help?
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Case Study #2 Kayla, 13, thought things were going well at her
new school, since all the popular girls were being so nice to her.
But then she found out that one of them had posted mean rumors
about her on a website. Kayla cried herself to sleep that night and
started going to the nurse's office complaining of a stomachache to
avoid the girls in study hall. Pretend for a minute that you are
the parent of this child: How would you respond? What would you say
to your child? What could you do to help?
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What is Bullying? Bullying is unfair and one-sided. It happens
when someone keeps hurting, frightening, threatening, or leaving
someone out on purpose. (Steps to Respect, 2001)
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Types of Bullying Verbal: (Name-calling, teasing) Physical:
(Hitting, punching, shoving) Social: (Spreading rumors, leaving
people out on purpose, breaking up friendships) Cyberbullying:
(Using the Internet, mobile phones or other digital technologies to
harm others)
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Girl Bullying vs. Boy Bullying How girls bully and boys
bullying is very different Boys tend to get physical, threatening
bodily harm to their victims. (face to face bullying) Easier to
recognize and defuse Girls tend to go for the emotions. By socially
isolating or ostracizing, calling names, spreading rumors, and
humiliating their victims. (behind the back bullying) Harder to
recognize and stop
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Why Does Bullying Occur? Establish a social order
Dominance/power Control resources Keep others way
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Children who are bullied tend to: Experience further rejection
from peers. Have lower self-esteem than other children. Feel more
lonely, anxious, and insecure. Avoid and dislike school. (Steps to
Respect, 2001)
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Signs that your student might be getting bullied: Complains
frequently of headaches, stomachaches, or feeling sick Has changes
in eating habits/trouble sleeping Loses interest in visiting or
talking with friends Is afraid of going to school or other
activities with peers Loses interest or begins to do poorly in
school Appears sad, moody, angry, anxious or depressed Talks about
suicide/hurts themselves Feels helpless Often feels like they are
not good enough Blames themselves for their problems Avoids certain
places (Stopbullying.gov)
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Signs that your student might be bullying others: Becomes
violent with others Gets into physical or verbal fights with others
Gets sent to the principals office or detention a lot Has extra
money or new belongings that cannot be explained Is quick to blame
others Will not accept responsibility for their actions Has friends
who bully others Needs to win or be best at everything
(Stopbullying.gov)
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What can you do to help? Research shows that when adults become
actively involved in handling bullying situations, bullying
behaviors decrease. CNN Video (Steps to Respect, 2001)
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What can you do if your student is being bullied? Never tell
your student to ignore the bullying. Dont blame your student for
the bullying. Talk with your student. Empathize with your student.
If you disagree with how your student handled the bullying
situation, dont criticize him or her. Document ongoing bullying. Do
not encourage physical retaliation. Work together to find
solutions.
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What can you do if your student is being bullied? (CONT) Check
your emotions. Contact a teacher, school counselor, or principal at
your school immediately. Encourage your student to make contact
with friendly students in his or her class. Help your student
develop strategies and skills for handling bullying. (Ways to
respond to bullying to follow). If you or your student need
additional help, seek help from a school counselor and/or mental
health professional. (United States Department of Health and Human
Services, 2011)
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Ways a student can respond to bullying? Speak up against
bullying: Say something like, stop it. Avoid the bully and use the
buddy system: Staying with a group might help. Hold the anger: use
cool down strategies like counting to 10, taking breaths or walking
away Act brave, walk away, and ignore the bully: firmly and clearly
tell the bully to stop, then walk away. Act like you do not care,
even if you really do. Tell an adult you trust: They may have ideas
about what you can do. Remove the incentives: If someone is taking
their money, start bringing lunch. Remind them: They are not alone.
(United States Department of Health and Human Services, 2011)
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LWSD/A.G. Bell School Policy Harassment, intimidation, or
bullying means any intentional electronic, written, verbal, or
physical act, including but not limited to one shown to be
motivated because of his/her perceptions of the victims race,
color, religion, ancestry, national origin, gender, sexual
orientation, or mental, physical, or sensory handicap or other
distinguishing characteristics, when the intentional electronic,
written, verbal, or physical act: Physically harms a student or
damages the students property Has the effect of substantially
interfering with a students education Is so severe, persistent, or
pervasive that it creates an intimidating or threatening
educational environment Has the effect of substantially disrupting
the orderly operation of the school
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How Do We Identify & Respond to Bullying in Our School?
Bullying is often identified at A.G. Bell through student, parent,
or teacher report When bullying is reported, Mr. Madsen and/or Mrs.
Hay will start an investigation. Depending on the severity of the
situation, different types of conflict resolution may happen. 1.
Conflict Mediation 2. Loss of recess 3. Phone call home to parents
4. In school suspension 5. Out of school suspension
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Our goal is to make A.G. Bell a bully-free zone! We do this by:
Teaching students to recognize, refuse, and report bullying. KELSO
Recognizing students through our Living the Bulldog Way
program.
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Resources: Books and websites to learn more about Bullying
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Websites to Check Out: Stopbullying.gov A website that provides
information how kids, teens, adults, educators, and community
members can prevent or stop bullying. Bullying.org A project for
kids by kids. Youth can contribute their personal reflections,
poems, music, drawings, photographs, and even films. Finding Kind,
findingkind.indieflix.com A documentary about girl bullying. Click
on the link above to find a screening near you.
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Children's Books We Recommend: Stop Picking on Me: A first look
at bullying, by Pat Thomas Howard B. Wigglebottom Learns about
Bullies, by Howard Binkow Simons Hook: A story about teases and
put-downs, by Karen G. Burnett Say Something, by Peggy Moss Enemy
Pie, by Derek Munson The Recess Queen, by Alexis ONeill & Laura
Huliska-Beith
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Informational Books about Bullying Queen Bees & Wannabees,
by: Rosalind Wiseman The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, by
Barbara Coloroso Odd Girl Out: The hidden culture of aggression in
girls, by Rachel Simmons Little Girls Can Be Mean: Four steps to
bully-proof girls in the early grades, by Michelle Anthony &
Reyna Lindert
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Wrap-up Question: What is one thing you will take home with you
today and use with your children?