the Catalyst 1 March 2017 Vol. 1 In This Issue March’s Theme: Respect Mar. 5: Sonora Service: Respect & Non-Violent Communication Mar. 9: Social Justice meeting Mar. 10: Movie Night at Fellowship House 5:30 Mar. 12: Douglas Flat Service- Non-violent confrontation Mar. 17: Skyline Discussion – Respect: Gainful Bickering Mar. 18: Listening Hearts – FSH 11:30-1:30 Mar. 18: Spiritual Tools for Activists- a workshop Mar. 19: Sonora Service and Pledge Kickoff – Sonora Hills Mar. 28: No Guilt Book Club April 14: Chocolate Seder Respect and Non-Violent Communication Sunday Service March 5th, 10:00 at Sonora Library With Lisette Sweetland from the Center For A Non Violent Community Lisette Sweetland from the Center For A Non Violent Community (CNVC) will speak on Respect and Non- violent Communication, with emphasis on healthy ways for people to communicate their needs to one another. CNVC focuses on assisting people who are experiencing intimate partner violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking in Tuolumne County. The center also offers services in prevention. Lysette Sweetland came to CVNC just over a year ago after nearly a decade in professional theatre administration. However, as a child of abuse, she is grateful to have a platform in which to share with people that life after domestic violence is more than possible. Practice Respect Rev. Tom Owen-Towle How can Unitarian Universalist …[congregations] foster right relationships? First, they need to learn how to embrace conflict as inevitable, even desirable. Every viable organization ...both yearns for stability and pushes for achievement. ...Progress is both expansive and disruptive: progress spells change, change causes anxiety, and anxiety precipitates conflict. But conflict is not only unavoidable, it’s beneficial. Hearty turmoil elicits new ideas and understandings.
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the Catalyst 1 March 2017 Vol. 1
In This Issue March’s Theme: Respect
Mar. 5: Sonora Service:
Respect & Non-Violent
Communication
Mar. 9: Social Justice meeting
Mar. 10: Movie Night at
Fellowship House 5:30
Mar. 12: Douglas Flat Service-
Non-violent confrontation
Mar. 17: Skyline Discussion –
Respect: Gainful Bickering
Mar. 18: Listening Hearts –
FSH 11:30-1:30
Mar. 18: Spiritual Tools for
Activists- a workshop
Mar. 19: Sonora Service and
Pledge Kickoff – Sonora Hills
Mar. 28: No Guilt Book Club
April 14: Chocolate Seder
Respect and Non-Violent Communication
Sunday Service March 5th, 10:00 at Sonora Library
With Lisette Sweetland from the Center For A Non
Violent Community
Lisette Sweetland from the Center For A Non Violent
Community (CNVC) will speak on Respect and Non-
violent Communication, with emphasis on healthy
ways for people to communicate their needs to one
another.
CNVC focuses on assisting people who are
experiencing intimate partner violence, sexual assault,
and human trafficking in Tuolumne County. The center
also offers services in prevention.
Lysette Sweetland came to CVNC just over a year ago
after nearly a decade in professional theatre
administration. However, as a child of abuse, she is
grateful to have a platform in which to share with
people that life after domestic violence is more than
possible.
Practice Respect
Rev. Tom Owen-Towle
How can Unitarian Universalist …[congregations] foster right relationships? First, they need
to learn how to embrace conflict as inevitable, even desirable. Every viable organization ...both
yearns for stability and pushes for achievement. ...Progress is both expansive and disruptive:
progress spells change, change causes anxiety, and anxiety precipitates conflict. But conflict is not
only unavoidable, it’s beneficial. Hearty turmoil elicits new ideas and understandings.
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…Ironically, genuine conflict frequently emerges in eras of strength, when a community is
swelling in a size or morale and is strong enough to tackle the problem. A healthy church learns
to integrate the forces of stability with the forces of change. It can bicker gainfully. Opposing
opinions can actually create a golden opportunity—that is, for a church equipped with goodwill
…[in order to turn] conflict into growth.
…Healthy churches heed what Native American activist Catherine Attla calls “the big law of
respect.” A respectful church is one where boundaries are kept, saboteurs are confronted, and
crises are faced. Good behavior is expected and rewarded. Parishioners are urged ...to engage one
another with an active gaze and a level glance.
...Respect must be evident in the details of church organization and programming from the
moment a newcomer crosses the threshold. ...Members are always asking, “What does it mean to
practice a kinder regard…?”
…To be respectful literally means “to look at something or someone again.” The Buddhists call
this process “seeing with unfurnished eyes”—that is, eyes empty of mental clutter and inherited
furniture. Respectful persons are those who look again at what is readily ignored or missed.
Source: from Growing a Beloved Community: twelve hallmarks of a healthy congregation by Tom
Owen-Towle, 2004, Skinner House Books, Boston, MA.
From Touchstones Journal on Respect
SOCIAL JUSTICE MEETING
Our UUFTC Social Justice Committee is looking forward to some changes this New Year. We
welcome anyone who would like to become a member. Meetings are on the second Thursday of
the month, 4:00 at Schnoogs. Next meeting March 9th.
Douglas Flat Service – March 12th, 10:30
Douglas Flat Schoolhouse, 1358 Main St.
Nonviolent Confrontation - Marcus Collogne from the Catholic Workers Farm will talk about his
experiences and training in non-violent action related to nuclear protests and other social justice
issues.
Dear Green Baggers,
Another good haul: 3865 lbs. and $75 in cash donations.
Sincere thanks for your great effort.
Next green bag collection day: April 8 (the 5th anniversary of the Mother Lode Food Project)
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Respect: Gainful Bickering - March 17th 3:30 pm Skyline Place
Rev. Tom Owen-Towle writes, “…Ironically, genuine conflict frequently emerges in eras of
strength, when a community is swelling in a size or morale and is strong enough to tackle the
problem. A healthy church learns to integrate the forces of stability with the forces of change. It
can bicker gainfully. Opposing opinions can actually create a golden opportunity—that is, for a
church equipped with goodwill … [in order to turn] conflict into growth.” Rev. Sonya Sukalski
of the Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Tuolumne County meets monthly with Skyline
residents and all who wish to join to talk about pertinent subjects of the day. She especially
enjoys the remembrances Skyline residents share as memories are triggered of times that can
shed light on today’s affairs.
Spiritual Tools for Activists Saturday, March 18, 6:30-8:30 pm Fellowship House
Following up to the skills and tools shared in January which hopefully were useful in “letting
there be peace on earth, and letting it begin with me,” as Jim Cherry is fond of saying, we will
offer tools for mediation and understanding between us and people in our community. This
workshop will take a look at framing discussions as well as non-judgmental listening to
understand. Cheryll Giles retired to the foothills after a career as an ombudsman, and Jim Cherry
is a lawyer by training and a mediator in heart and spirit. Drawing from her MS in Adult Health
and Wellness, and tools honed while developing the Spiritual Activist Leadership Training
(SALT) for the California UU Justice Ministry for young adults, Rev. Sonya Sukalski, Jim Cherry
and Cheryll Giles will offer a workshop on branching out from contemplative tools for people
wanting to step up involvement in justice oriented work. People of all faiths and no faith are
welcome.
I don’t have to agree with you to like you or respect you. Anthony Bourdain
Tolerance isn’t about not having beliefs. It’s about how your beliefs lead you to treat people who disagree
with you. Timothy J. Keller
Michael Strange * Joanne Rovno * Bob Hornauer
Peggy Day * Starla Nelson * Marilyn Stith
Anne Berner-Calderwood
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Sonora Sunday Service and Pledge Drive Kickoff
Seeing Ourselves with Unfurnished Eyes March 19th, 10 am Sonora Hills – note we will meet in
a space that can allow for a dessert buffet to celebrate our pledge kick-off!
Tom Owen-Towle says, “To be respectful literally means “to look at something or someone
again.” The Buddhists call this process “seeing with unfurnished eyes”—that is, eyes empty of
mental clutter and inherited furniture. Respectful persons are those who look again at what is
readily ignored or missed.” As we begin our pledge drive, looking at our common endeavors
with respect, as well as an eye toward what is yet undone that we would like to reach for, we will
discuss questions about what is sustained in our personal and community lives by involvement
in UUFTC, and what breaks our hearts about the world that we can address together. Rev. Sonya
Sukalski and the Pledge Drive Task Force will preside.
The No Guilt Book Club
Tuesday, March 28th - 7:00 p.m. at the Fellowship House
(meets the fourth Tuesday of each month except December)
This month’s selection is The Burgess Boys by Elizabeth Strout