Relationships 4 prov 18 21 slides 032711

1. All vehicles have the potential to end up in the breakdown lane, on the shoulder of the highway

1. All vehicles have the potential to end up in the breakdown lane, on the shoulder of the highway

2. We got there because we were not paying attention, and to get going again we need to add some fuel to the vehicle

2. We got there because we were not paying attention, and to get going again we need to add some fuel to the vehicle

3. All relationships are fueled by time, shared experiences, and communication

• Communication is not an exact science but an art.

1. Build trust, Matt 5:37

• To destroy communication, all you have to do is inject misinformation.

Matthew 5:37 But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay:

for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.

A. Deception

A. DeceptionB. Flattery, Psalm 12:3

Psalm 12:3 The LORD shall cut off all flattering lips, and the tongue that

speaketh proud things:

A. DeceptionB. Flattery, Psalm 12:3C. Broken promisesD. Silence

• Trust has to be earned—one declaration, one deed, one day at a time.

1. Build trust, Matt 5:372. Guard your thoughts, Matt

12:34

Matthew 12:34 O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak

good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.

• It’s your head that’s filling your heart, and your heart that’s filling your mouth, so transform your life by renewing your mind with the thoughts of God in his word.Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to

this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind,

1. Build trust, Matt 5:372. Guard your thoughts, Matt 12:343. Use your ears, Psalm 116:1; Prov

18:13; 21:23;10:19

Psalm 116:1 I love the LORD, because he hath heard my voice and

my supplications.

• Learn to listen and you will change the lives of people you

relate to.

L—Look at themI —Invest in themS—Stop everything elseT—Think about what is being

saidE—Empathize with themN —Notice body language

1. Build trust, Matt 5:372. Guard your thoughts, Matt 12:343. Use your ears, Psalm 116:1; Prov

18:134. Empower your words, Prov 18:21

A. Be honest, Prov 24:26; Eph 4:15

Eph. 4:15 But speaking the truth in love, [we] may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:

A. Be honest, Prov 24:26; Eph 4:15

B. Use touch, Luke 5:13Luke 5:13 And [Jesus] put forth his

hand, and touched [the leper], saying, I will: be thou clean. And immediately

the leprosy departed from him.

A. Be honest, Prov 24:26; Eph 4:15

B. Use touch, Luke 5:13C. Ask questions, Mark 8:29

Mark 8:29 And [Jesus] saith unto [his disciples], But whom say ye that I am?

And Peter answereth and saith unto him, Thou art the Christ.

A. Be honest, Prov 24:26; Eph 4:15

B. Use touch, Luke 5:13C. Ask questions, Mark 8:29D. Give pictures, John 3:3ff

John 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee,

Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.