Rachel Greenwald a dating coach, interviewed 1,000 men after “unsuccessful” first dates in attempt to find out what went wrong. Greenwald categorizes.

Rachel Greenwald a dating coach, interviewed 1,000 men after “unsuccessful” first dates in attempt to find out what went wrong. Greenwald categorizes women into “types” and request women to identify some personality traits found within each “type”. She states that readers aren’t supposed to change themselves but just become more “aware” of signals they may be sending that could impede upon their dating successes. This book gives an insight on how men think and what they want. It’s a helpful guide for women on what they can do to up their chances on getting a second date.

What makes men fall in love...or Never call back!!!

She contacted a wide range of single, educated men in a variety of professions (from teaching to investment banking):

Phone InterviewsSpeed-dating eventsMatch making servicesOnline postingsRandom visits to Starbucks, bookstores, and airport lounges

Age Group (21-35:35%; 36-49:42%; 50 + 23%)

Geography (East Coast: 32%, West Coast: 26%, West/Midwest: 26%, South 14%, International 2%)

Ethnicity (Caucasian: 76%; African-American: 12%; Hispanic:8%; Asian: 3%; Other:1%)

Marital Status (Never Married: 67%; Divorced: 22%; Separated: 6%; Widowed: 5%)

Marriage-minded (Yes: 78%; No: 12%; No answer/not polled: 10%)

“What was the main reason you didn’t call her back?”

#1 “date-breaker” for men was “The Boss Lady”. This was mentioned 443 times out of 4,152 “date-breakers” listed.44% of the men she polled on a separate online survey (2008) stated that their first-choice profession for a woman they’d like to marry is “schoolteacher”.

What other career options were given in this online survey?

78% of women believed that a man hadn’t called them back for reasons beyond their control, yet only 15% of men agreed with that assertion ABOUT THE BOSS-LADY:

“It felt more like a business dinner than a date” Carl, 28, Philadelphia, PA“I get enough aggression at work all day. When I come home, I wan to be with someone softer, more nurturing” Jacob, 31, NY, NY“Her attitude was like, ‘this is how it’s going to be’ instead of ‘this is what I’m thinking but I’d like to hear your thoughts too.” Kiran, 52, Seattle, WA

The Boss Lady has six categories of behavior:

ArgumentativeCompetitiveControllingNot FeminineToo IndependentNot Nurturing

Here is an example of what Greenwald truly feels the “boss lady” is like:

http://www.yourtango.com/200924756/number-one-reason-why-he-didnt-call-back

WHAT’S HOT:

Feminine SkirtsFlirtatious Banter“Thanks for helping me!”“What do you think”

WHAT’S NOT HOT: Professional Pantsuits

Shop Talk“Do it this way!”“When I want your opinion, I’ll tell you what

it is.”

Rachel Greenwald graduated with an MBA from Harvard Business School this is when she learned how to perform her “exit interviews”. Her training for these interviews was based on reasons that employees left companies (basically a HR manager)

Rachel claims that she is a “professional dating coach” however, she has no professional training that would give her qualification for this title.

While she may have had some training on how to perform professional interviews, she has no formal training on the subject she is basing the interviews.

The book was somewhat reliable because the information was taken directly from 1000 males after their first dates with women. However there were a number of limitations in the information including:

Doesn’t explore cultural/religious diversityDoesn’t state previous/current married statusAuthor qualified? Socio/economic status of dates/daters

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Results:

Both women and men say they want a mate who is kind, understand- ing, dependable, sociable, stable, and intelligent. (Botwin, Buss, & Shackelford, 1997)

“Despite their movement into paid work and widespread normative acceptance of shared marital roles, married women continue to do much more housework compared with married men.” (Sayer, & Fine, 2011)

Married women have increased their participation in market labor as well, and they are providing a larger portion of family income now than in the past. (Corrigall, & Konrad, 2007)

The Smart Women Myths:successful

women were less likely to marry and much less likely to have children

Among 35- to 39-year-old women living in medium-size cities, who earn more than $75,000 a year and have a master's degree, 92% are married. By contrast, among less-educated, lower-earning women--women of the same age, in the same size city, who earn $30,000 to $35,000 a year and have attended some college--87% are married.

Women make up more than half of college graduates and are reaching parity in most professional schools as well. And this generation of men is thrilled with the idea that they can share financial responsibilities with equally capable women.

The truth is that smart, successful women marry at the same rates as all other women, and once married, they have children at the same rates as well.

(Forbes, 2006)

http://www.free-tv-video-online.me/player/novamov.php?id=4be5b310b2ea0

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References

Botwin, M.D., Buss, D.M., & Shackelford, T.K. (1997). Personality and mate preferences: five factors in mate selection and marital satisfaction. Journal of Personality , 65(1), 107-136.

Corrigall, E., & Konrad, A. (2007). Gender role attitudes and careers: a longitudinal study. Sex Roles, 56, 847-855.

Sayer, L., & Fine, L. (2011). Racial ethnic differences in us married women’s and men’s housework. Social Indicators Research , 101(2), 259.

Whelan, C. (2006). The smart women myth. Forbes, 178(10), 58-5.

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Exam Questions

1. According to Rachel Greenwalds book “Have Him at Hello” a boss lady would most likely be considered?

 a. Augmentativeb. Competitive c. Controlling d. All of the above ANSWER D

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2. 44% of the men she polled on a separate online survey (2008) stated that their first-choice profession for a woman they’d like to marry is?

 a. Lawyer b. Police Officer c. School Teacher d. DoctorANSWER C 1

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3.) 78% of women believed that a man hadn’t called them back for reasons beyond their control, yet of men agreed with that assertion.

 a. 60%b. 45%c. 25%d. 15%ANSWER D 2

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