Public vs. Private Self
Public vs. Private Self
INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATIONS – SPC2140-‐O
By: Jeff Houchens
My Private Self
My Public Self
Distant Cold
I look angry
All Business
Analy:cal
Differences Between my Public and Private Self
SimilariOes Between my Public and Private Self
• Responsible behavior is a high priority on both sides. • Although I don’t show as much emo:on with my public self, I s:ll care a lot
about what I’m doing at work or in public and what’s going on around me. • I communicate effec:vely to others on both sides. • If I get to know someone, say at work, I normally remove my “work” face and
transi:on to a “friend” face and share more personal informa:on. They are geIng to know my private self a liJle more and the same can be said for me. I also get to know them a liJle beJer because they also start to share more personal informa:on.
• My private self and public self is s:ll just me. It all makes up who I am as a person.
• My public and private communica:on both keep the same respect for other people when they’re talking. When they talk I face them and listen instead of trying to think of the next thing I’m going to say.
• I try to have fun no maJer what face I’m wearing • For my internal private and personal public self at home, I get frustrated at my
girlfriends daughter quite oPen, but I keep it inside. Publically, I just con:nue to try and be a good roll model, hoping it will one day sink in. For both, my goal is the same, which is to develop her into a beJer person.
Discrepancies In My Self
• Some:mes, I let my private self feelings leak out into my pubic self when I get aggravated
• I don’t appear approachable in public
• I could have more meaningful conversa:ons with co-‐workers and people I don’t know very well
Ac:on Plan
1. Get Botox to remove the angry marks between my eyes!
2. Think about what I’m going to say before I say it
3. Consider conversa:on starters for people I don’t really know
4. Con:nue to analyze the differences and similari:es of my private and public self
5. Listen to how other people communicate to determine their different faces
6. Smile more in public 7. Loosen up a bit more in public and
stop being all business all the :me 8. Instead of being blue and green, try
to be a liJle more orange: take risks and be a direct communicator