Philosophical Approaches to Self-Care Joani Mortenson, MSW, RSW, RYT November 11, 2011 To pay attention, that is our endless and proper work. ~ Mary Oliver
Philosophical
Approaches to
Self-Care Joani Mortenson, MSW, RSW, RYT
November 11, 2011
To pay attention, that is our
endless and proper work.
~ Mary Oliver
Presence & Inquiry
Show Up, Be Present, Tell Your Truth
~ Susan Armstrong
Be curious, not certain
~ Tokla Shaw
Overview
• Introduction to Mindfulness
• Review of Social Work Ethics
• Introduction to Yoga Philosophy
• Exploration and Inquiry
• Boundaries
• Tyranny of Niceness
• Integrative Nutrition
• Self-Care as Ethical Practice
• Exploration and Inquiry
Mindfulness & the Body
Mindfulness
• Jon Kabat-Zinn (Wherever you go, there you are)
• Attention, Present Moment Awareness, Attunement
• Breath & Breathing
• Creates changes in brain structure
• Increase immunity, mediates autonomic CNS response
• Emotional, Psychological Hygiene
• Wise Belly Breathing
• Mindfulness Practice
Ethics: Personal & Professional Boundaries
• Ethics are subjective
• Ethics inform decisions (as well as indecision)
• Tend towards meeting needs
• What are your unmet needs?
• Social Workers:
• Instrument of Practice
• Renewable Resource
• Codes of Conduct, Rules of Engagement, Terms of
Reference
BCASW Social Work Code of Ethics
1. Best interest of the client
2. Respect intrinsic worth
3. Integrity and objectivity
4. Maintain competence
5. No exploitation
6. Protect confidentiality
7, 8, 9, 10, & 11
Integrity: social congruence, promote excellence
Advocacy: promote social justice & personal agency
Yoga Theory
8 limbs of Ashtanga Yoga
• Samadhi ~ Absorption
• Dhyana ~ Meditation
• Dharana ~ Concentration
• Pratyahara ~ Sense Withdrawal
• Pranayama ~ Breath Control
• Asana ~ Postures
• Yama ~ Restraints
• Niyama ~ Observances
Yamas: Restraints
• Restraints in times of Unrestraint
• The richest 20% of the world now receives 150 times the
income of the poorest 20%
• Yamas are not about what not to do, but rather what to
do
• Commodification of improvement
• Never “Good” Enough
Yamas
Social Ethics guidelines which mediate/determine attitude,
behaviour.
• Ahimsa: non-injustice, non-violence, right action,
kindness, thoughtfulness
• Satya: truthfulness, non-lying, personal integrity
• Asteya: non-stealing, not-overindulging desires
• Brahmacharya: moderation, conscious use of energy
• Aparagraha: non-possessiveness, greedlessness, non-
coveting, charity, cultivate simplicity
Niyamas
Personal Ethics which mediate/determine self-purification,
self-regulation, and how we relate inwardly.
• Saucha: purity, cleanliness, internal purity, rest,
meditate
• Santosha: contentment, non-attachment, gratitude,
acceptance of how things actually are
• Tapas: austerity, discipline, self-control, orderly life,
purification
• Svadhyaya: self-study, self-inquiry, contemplation, inner
knowing
• Ishvara Pranidhana: devotion to Creation, natural world
alignment, dedication and service
Boundaries:
• Why do we need them?
• Who do they serve?
• Boundary setting is a critical part of compassion
• Cultivate radical self-acceptance vs judgement
• What informs your boundaries?
What informs my boundaries?
• Feelings
• Attitudes and Beliefs
• Behaviours
• Choices
• Values
• Limits
• Talents
• Thoughts
• Desire
• Love
Presence
• Presence is the stability of our body-mindfulness
• How to be fully present?
• Breathe
• Relax
• Feel
• Watch
• Allow
Tyranny of Niceness
• “Nice”: What does „nice‟ look like?
• Nice is not...
• “Nice”: Latin necius, “ignorant”, French nescire, “not to
know”
• Nice is „silencing‟ oneself, colluding with „ignorance and
not knowing‟
• Opposite of truth-telling
• Social construction of femininity, gender roles
• Social Work as nurturing vs nice
Motivations of “Niceness”
• Protection from outside threats
• Fear of non-acceptance or abandonment
• Fear of being seen as inadequate
• Fear of giving offence
• Fear of retribution
• Protection from inside threats
• Guilt
• Shame
• Self-hatred
The Language of Niceness
• Saying Yes, Feeling No
• Saying No, Feeling Yes
• Accepting responsibility or blame that isn‟t yours
• Giving away responsibility that is yours
• Making oneself small
• Offering too much
• Acts of kindness
• “Deep down in every human heart, there is mercy and
generousity” ~ Nelson Mandela
Paradox of Niceness
• Save Time
• Avoid Conflict
• Mitigate Confrontation
• Crave:
• Ease
• Harmony
• Congruence
Antidote for „niceness‟:Holding Space
• What does “Holding Space” mean?
• Creating safety
• Trust
• Empathy
• Acceptance
• Faith
• Willingness
• Welcoming the „whole self‟
• Comfort with messy-ness
Boundaries and Courage
• Ordinary Courage vs Extraordinary Courage
• That still small voice that says, I will try again tomorrow.
• Courage comes through acting courageous
• Swimming, Courag-ing
• Caveat: Safety
• Brene Brown, Social Worker: vulnerability
• http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.
html
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Primary and Secondary Nutrition
• Health is a long-term
journey
• Integrative Nutrition
• Primary Nutrition
• Cravings
• Crowding: One Thing
• Balance
Integration: Self-Care as Ethical Practice
• How to take what you know and apply it
• Creating a personal & professional toolkit
• Transformational Questions to ask yourself:
• What nourishes you in your practice and your life?
• How can you get more of that?
• What are you willing to commit to in order to be more
nourished? Who can you ask for help?
Thank you…
…for Showing Up, Being Present & for Telling Your Truth
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http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html
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