ONE-to-ONE Relational Meeting Defined

ONE-to-ONERelational Meeting Defined

A natural but uncommon conversation with someone you want to know (or know better), about their values, vision, life and motivations.

ONE-to-ONE Goals

•connect with people in your community

•learn ways you can walk with people in their daily lives

…living out Jesus’ commandment to “love your neighbor as yourself”

ONE-to-ONE Objectives

•to build a relationship•to uncover person’s values, vision, life, motivations, passions, etc.•to help person gain some clarity about his/her own life•to find partners for future opportunity•to gain information

One-to-Ones in TM 2.0• We learn the hopes, needs, and

dreams of people from our congregation and community context

• We are attentive to themes, issues, & concerns revealed through the conversations

• This information will inform the evolving purpose and missional plan of the congregation

Biblical Grounding

• Moses & Aaron• Ruth & Naomi• Esther & Mordecai• Samuel & Eli• God & Jonah• Mary & Elizabeth• Paul & Timothy

• Paul & Barnabas• Paul & Onesimus• Paul & Lydia• Jesus & the

woman at the well

• Jesus & Zacchaeus

Jesus interacted with people wherever he went

Jesus engaged people and taught his disciples in and through those

interactions

Getting Started•Pray•Discern who you are called to engage in

One-to-One conversation •Schedule a meeting •Identify the most helpful questions•Be open to where the Spirit &

conversation lead

The One-to-One Conversation•Listen actively•Display genuine curiosity and concern•Pay attention to cues: body language, intonation, and setting•Probe with open-ended questions:

“Tell me more about” or “what was that like?”

•Withhold judgment•If appropriate, ask if you can pray for the person•Take notes afterward

WHY SHOULD I (WE) CARE ABOUT THESE THINGS?

“God has given us the task of reconciling people to him. For God was in Christ, reconciling the world to himself, no longer counting people’s sins against them. This is the wonderful message he has given us to tell others.” 2 Cor 5:18-19 Msg

“We are well known by God, and I hope that in your heart we are well known by you as well.”

2 Cor 5:11b CEV

We participate in God’s reconciling mission by first

listening to what most needs to be reconciled

•We don’t know where any conversation will lead•We listen for God speaking to us in conversation with our neighbors•Intentional encounters help us identify what needs/partners are in our congregation & community