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Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life

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Chapter 5EMPLOYING INTERDEPENDENCE


EMPLOYING INTERDEPENDENCE

• Struggling students have a hard time building mutually supportive relationships. What are three mistakes that struggling students often make in their relationships?

They remain dependent, codependent or independent in relation to others.

They listen poorly, demonstrating little desire to understand another person’s perspective.

They judge others who are different as inappropriate, wrong or bad.


EMPLOYING INTERDEPENDENCE

I can’t do this by myself.

I have to help others before I can help myself.

I can do this all by myself, I don’t need anyone's help.

I can do some of this alone, but I will accomplish more with the help of others.

Dependent

Codependent

Independent

Interdependent

• Identify the following as Dependent, Codependent, Independent or Interdependent statements.


CREATING A SUPPORT SYSTEM

• Strong individualistic cultures have an “I/me” orientation, and independence is highly regarded.

• Strong collectivistic cultures have a “we/us” orientation and interdependence is highly regarded.

If “1” is strong individualistic culture and “10” is a strong collectivistic culture, where do you see yourself on this continuum?


CREATING A SUPPORT SYSTEM

My household consists of my spouse and our children.

Getting along with others is extremely important to me.

I will be a veterinarian because I have always loved animals.

My religious beliefs are very different from the rest of my family.

I give my paycheck to my mother to help support the household.

Individualistic

Collectivistic

Individualistic

Individualistic

Identify the following statements as representing either an Individualistic or a Collectivistic culture.

Collectivistic


QUOTATION REFLECTION

• “For every one of us that succeeds, it’s because there’s somebody there to show you the way out. The light doesn’t always necessarily have to be in your family, for me it was teachers and school.” ~Oprah WinfreyHow could your instructors help you to be more

successful?

How could your school help you to be more successful?

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STARTING A STUDY GROUP

• Imagine that you plan to start a study group for a challenging course?

What criteria will you have for choosing group members?

What goals will you want the group to have?

What rules will you want the group to have?

• Why is it important to...

Choose only Creators?

Choose group goals?

Choose group rules?


LISTENING ACTIVELY

Listen to understand.

Clear your mind and remain silent.

Ask the person to expand or clarify.

Reflect the other person's thoughts and feelings.

• Which of the following listening skills do you think is the most important? Why?

• Which listening skill do you think will be the most challenging for you? Why?


HOW TO LISTEN ACTIVELY

Don’t assume you understand. In your own words, restate what you heard, both the ideas and the emotions.

Don’t make assumptions or fill in the blanks with your own experiences. Invite the speaker to share additional information and feelings.

Don’t be distracted by your own inner chatter. Stay focused and stay quiet.

Focus on the speaker, activate empathy and listen with the intention of fully understanding what the other person thinks and feels.

Clear your mind & remain silent

Listen to understand

Reflect the other person’s

thoughts and feelings

Ask the person to expand or clarify

Match each terms with their correct description.


SHOWING RESPECT

• How could you make a conscious effort to show respect to someone in a culture different from your own?

Learn to pronounce names correctly.

Use preferred term for a person’s cultural group.

Learn non-verbal behaviors of the other culture.

Avoid ethnocentrism (thinking my way is “right”).

Avoid microaggressions.

Advocate for respect.


According to psychologist Virginia Satir, what are the two most common patterns of ineffective communication?

INEFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION STYLES

Placating

Blaming

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INEFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Placating Its okay if you don’t help with our

project in sociology. I’ll just do the work myself.

Please don’t be upset with me. I'll drive your friends to the airport and study for my math test later.

I'm sorry. I should have cleaned up the mess from our party last night. I’ll do it right now.


INEFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Blaming You never do anything to help our

study team. You’re just lazy! This room is a mess! When do

you plan to start doing your share of work around here?

My sociology instructor gives unfair tests! He thinks he can ask questions about anything that we were supposed to read for homework.


BELIEVING IN YOURSELF: BE ASSERTIVE

• What is the communication style of Creators? Leveling.

• What are the 3 strategies that promote leveling? Communicate purposefully. Communicate honestly. Communicate responsibly.


EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Leveling I know you've got a lot of work to

do tonight. Could we spend just ten minutes cleaning up this mess together?

Before I can help you with your paper, I need to finish studying for a test. How about if you help me review tonight, and I'll work with you on your paper tomorrow afternoon?


BELIEVING IN YOURSELF: BE ASSERTIVE

Decide which communication style is being used in the following statements.

Oh, don’t worry that you didn’t study with me. I know you have a lot on your mind. I probably would have failed the test anyway.

You’re the lousiest friend I’ve ever had! After making me fail that test, you have some nerve even talking to me now!

I'm angry that you didn’t call. I realize that I could have called you, but I thought I could count on you to keep your word. If we’re going to be friends, I need to know if you're going to keep your promises to me in the future. Will you?

Placating

Blaming

Leveling

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