November 12 2015 1 Bex Lewis @drbexl Friendship in a Digital Age Are you really my friend? Exploring digital relationships Dr Bex Lewis [email protected]
Jan 18, 2016
November 12 2015 1Bex Lewis @drbexl
Friendship in a Digital Age
Are you really my friend? Exploring digital
relationships
Dr Bex Lewis
Bex Lewis @drbexl 2
• Lion Hudson, February 2014
• 3,500+ sold• Translated into
Chinese/Italian• Strongly
featured in the media
• http://drbexl.co.uk/writer/books/book-raising-children-in-a-digital-age/
“If we want resilient kids we need to understand what young people’s experiences are online, listen to their concerns, and intervene with their best interests in mind.”Jane Tallim, Co-Executive Director, MediaSmarts, Canada, January 2015 http://mediasmarts.ca/research-policy/young-canadians-wired-world-phase-iii-trends-recommendations
Understand!
Bex Lewis @drbexlImage Source: Purple Clover, Facebook
Online/Offline?
• Children interviewed felt ... the online world is no more dangerous or exposed than the real world, and some believe that the virtual world is actually more secure and private, because there is more control over what they choose to put onto the Internet.
• CHILDWISE ‘Digital Lives’ Report (2010) Bex Lewis @drbexl 4Image Source: Stockfresh
Even though in practice, face-to-face communication can, of course, be angry, negligent, resistant, deceitful and inflexible, somehow it remains the ideal against which mediated communication is judged as flawed.Prof Sonia Livingstone, Children and the Internet: Great Expectations and Challenging Realities. 2009, p26
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Children’s Friendships• Larger numbers than in the past• Across diverse and widespread
networks• Concerns:
– Whose friend requests should be accepted?
– How many friends is ‘too many’?– What are the offline impacts of refusing
connection?– Does everyone have to be given the
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Meaningful Friendships?“Social media can be used more as an address book, with privacy settings allowing access to different levels of information, while the public parade of connections offers social identity and status.”
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Meeting Strangers?Parents must teach their children to safely negotiate a modern world where many people meet and interact online before meeting in person. A blanket “never meet” rule is just astoundingly silly in an age where the parents of these children themselves may well have met online.‘Sanya2135’, Comment, Washington Post
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Digital Savviness?“They monitored friends’ pages to ensure that they were being represented fairly, and trusted each other not to expose silly or embarrassing pictures. Those that were on the phone were considered to be private and not for sharing without agreement, although children should still consider what might happen to those photos if the friendship were to fall apart.”
(Raising Children, p.108)
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Disability Access• I’m a sufferer of Asperger’s syndrome, and
video games may have realistically saved my life. I’ve always had problems talking to people face to face, and was never able to make friends at school. If it weren’t for the relationships I formed online through my first games, I honestly can’t be sure that I would be here today [...] they’re obviously a great pastime, which helps me nurture the better side of my syndrome, thinking and responding logically. As with video gaming, the Internet helped me form relationships that I couldn’t in real life.
• Children’s Call for Evidence, 2008 Byron ReviewImage Source: RGBStock Bex Lewis @drbexl 10
Cyber-Bullying?
• The Bullied• The Bully• The Bystander• http://www.slideshare.net/dr
bexl/bullying-for-yc14 Image Source: RGBStock Bex Lewis @drbexl 11
Concluding Thoughts
• Understand digital culture• Move away from online/offline• Question ‘meaningfulness’ &
digital savviness• Nature of friendships (longer-
term)• Authenticity = sustainable?
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