Non Verbal Script Messages
May 12, 2015
Non Verbal Script Messages
Prepared By Manu Melwin JoyResearch Scholar
School of Management StudiesCUSAT, Kerala, India.Phone – 9744551114
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Non Verbal Messages• Before the infant has
words, he interprets other people’s messages in terms of their non verbal signals.
• The young baby has acute perception of expressions, body tensions, movements, tones and smells.
Non Verbal Messages• If mother holds him close
and warm, letting him mould to the shape of her body, he is likely to perceive her message to him as “I accept and love you!”.
• But if she tenses up and holds him stiffly a little away from her, he may read her as conveying : “ I reject you and don’t want you close!”
Non Verbal Messages• Sometimes, the infant may
construe script messages from events around her that are not of the parent’s making.
• Loud noises, sudden movements, separation from the parents such as stay in the hospital, may all appear to the bay as life threatening.
• Because she assumes that her parents are in charge of the reality, she may conclude that the threats also come from them.
Non Verbal Messages• Later in childhood , when
the child understands language, non verbal communication is still important as a component of script messages.
• Physical abuse or the treat of it, may mean to the child that his parents reject him or possibly want him dead.
Non Verbal Messages• When parents speak to
the child, he will interpret the script meaning of what they say according to the non verbal that go with it.
• Recall Berne’s Third rule of communication : When the transaction are ulterior, the significant message is on the psychological level.
Non Verbal Messages• Picture a school child coming
home with the new reading book she is just been given by the teacher.
• She starts reading it to her parents and stumbles over a word she hasn’t met before.
• Father says : “ You got that word wrong”.
• With those words could go many different sets of non verbal messages.
• Each of these would carry its own meaning to the child in terms of possible script decision.
Non Verbal Messages• Father might speak in a harsh, loud voice, while curling
his lip and screwing his face up. • At the same time, he might knock the book out of her
hand or even deal her a blow.• To the child, his message reads: “I don’t want you around
and would prefer you dead.”
Non Verbal Messages• He might say the word
in flat voice, without looking up from the newspaper he himself is reading.
• Reading the non verbal, his daughter interprets his message as: “ You are not important to me.”
Non Verbal Messages• He might accompany his
words with a wink and a giggle.
• Using little professor strategy, the little girl tests out giggling back.
• Sure enough, father smiles even more.
• She reads his message: “ To please me, you have to act stupid.”
Non Verbal Messages
• Father might say the word in
even voice, while sitting
beside her pointing the
words out in her book.
• He then gives her time to
look at the word again.
• His Martian conveys to the
child: “It is OK for you to
think.”
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