Motivating Yourself and Others Motivating Yourself and Others with Paul Clayton with Paul Clayton
Mar 26, 2015
Motivating Yourself and OthersMotivating Yourself and Otherswith Paul Claytonwith Paul Clayton
Motivation takes Motivation takes place with the place with the perception of perception of
control.control.
Motivation stops when we useMotivation stops when we use
HAVE TOHAVE TOGives the perception of Gives the perception of
non-controlnon-control
Avoid the words HAVE Avoid the words HAVE TO and use.TO and use.
You have a choice. When You have a choice. When speaking to others.speaking to others.
It would be in my best It would be in my best interest. When dealing interest. When dealing with yourself.with yourself.
Do it NowDo it Now
Thinking causes in activity.Thinking causes in activity. What ever you focus on expands.What ever you focus on expands.
Daily To-Do ListDaily To-Do List Prioritize tasks on your daily Prioritize tasks on your daily
list.list.
””1” = Top priority items1” = Top priority items
““2” = Important things but 2” = Important things but don’t have to get done don’t have to get done today.today.
““3” = Nice if they got done 3” = Nice if they got done but could be put off but could be put off indefinitelyindefinitely
Number them in order of Number them in order of priority with #1 as most priority with #1 as most important.important.
Group Like Things togetherGroup Like Things together
Connected Energy ChartConnected Energy ChartHigh NegativeHigh Negative
1.1. AngryAngry2.2. FearfulFearful3.3. AnxiousAnxious4.4. Defensive Defensive 5.5. ResentfulResentful
Low NegativeLow Negative1.1. DepressedDepressed2.2. ExhaustedExhausted3.3. Burned OutBurned Out4.4. HopelessHopeless5.5. DefeatedDefeated
High PositiveHigh Positive1.1. InvigoratedInvigorated2.2. ConfidentConfident3.3. ChallengedChallenged4.4. JoyfulJoyful5.5. ConnectedConnected
Low PositiveLow Positive1.1. RelaxedRelaxed2.2. MellowMellow3.3. PeacefulPeaceful4.4. TranquilTranquil5.5. Serene Serene
Emotions Emotions
In order to perform at our best we must In order to perform at our best we must access pleasant and positive emotions: access pleasant and positive emotions: enjoyment, challenge, adventure and enjoyment, challenge, adventure and opportunity. opportunity.
Negative emotions drain you Negative emotions drain you
A few thoughts about EmotionsA few thoughts about Emotions
Some emotions are caused by a chemical Some emotions are caused by a chemical imbalance in the system.imbalance in the system.
1.1. HormonesHormones2.2. DrugsDrugs3.3. Alcohol Alcohol 4.4. Other issues e.g. lack of sleep, wrong foods Other issues e.g. lack of sleep, wrong foods
Where Do Where Do Emotions Come From?Emotions Come From?
Who Controls Your Who Controls Your Emotions?Emotions?
Quick ReviewQuick Review
Your Mind Is The Control Tower Of All Your Mind Is The Control Tower Of All You Do.You Do.
Every Word You Use TranslatesEvery Word You Use Translates
1.1. Into an Action Into an Action
2.2. A feeling or emotionA feeling or emotion
3.3. Or BothOr Both
What is What is Happiness?Happiness?
Our happiness is Our happiness is the distance the distance between our between our expectations of expectations of ourselves, others ourselves, others and and realityreality..
HappinessHappinessRealityReality+ Belief System + Belief System (B.S.)(B.S.)
= Happiness Level= Happiness Level
Happiness LevelHappiness LevelReality
Above Expectations
At Your Expectations
Below Your Expectations
Very Happy
Happy
Unhappy
Your Happiness is based on your expectations
You have Several Choices You have Several Choices
Reality
Accept the Things you cannot change
Change the things you can
Try and Change something
you cannot change
Happy
Upset Unhappy
Angry
EmotionsEmotions
SituationBelief
SystemFeelings
Our Belief SystemOur Belief SystemWhat we expect or think What we expect or think
that we should or must that we should or must have from reality and have from reality and
ourselves.ourselves.
Avoids WordsAvoids WordsSHOULDSHOULD
MUSTMUSTHAVE TOHAVE TO
Replace them with Replace them with
Desirable Desirable
What are your expectations of?What are your expectations of?
FamilyFamilyClientClientChildrenChildrenWorkWork
Negative EmotionsNegative EmotionsTHE SITUATION +THE SITUATION +
IRRATIONAL THOUGHTIRRATIONAL THOUGHT ==
A NEGATIVE FEELINGA NEGATIVE FEELING
Anger Or Annoyed Anger Or Annoyed
Situation
Should-Must-Have To Desirable
Anger Annoyed
General Irrational General Irrational ThoughtsThoughts
There must be justice all of the There must be justice all of the time.time.
Everyone must be nice to me.Everyone must be nice to me.Things must always go my way.Things must always go my way.Everyone must understand me.Everyone must understand me.
When You Are UpsetWhen You Are Upset.. Breathe DeeplyBreathe Deeply Write Down What Your expectations Were.Write Down What Your expectations Were. Ask Yourself Why People, Places and Things have to follow Ask Yourself Why People, Places and Things have to follow
your expectations.your expectations. AcceptAccept RenewRenew Grant me the serenity to accept the Grant me the serenity to accept the
things that I can not change, the things that I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the differencethe wisdom to know the difference ..
StressStress
Stress Takes place in the mind of the Stress Takes place in the mind of the beholder.beholder.
Stress does not come from what you are Stress does not come from what you are doing but rather you are saying you are doing but rather you are saying you are doing.doing.
Burnout Burnout
Lack of positive feed back. Lack of positive feed back. Lack of trying new things.Lack of trying new things. Lack of a purpose greater then the job. Lack of a purpose greater then the job.