Slide 1 Balancing the Power Beyond the bullying hype Steve Heron i1 Slide 2 Workshop notes www.buildupzone.com Downloads page - misc downloads Slide 3 MYTH: “A bully is a bad person that picks on you.” There is no such thing as a 'bully'! Don’t get me wrong, people do bullying things. Slide 4 BULLY Have black hair Slide 5 5 Slide 6 BULLY Could look like anyone Slide 7 7 “Everyone has the right to feel safe and be respected” Slide 8 “A repeated, persistent or systematic action by one or more people that violates another’s rights to feel safe and be respected.” Definition of Bullying: Slide 9 A person who commits a bullying act is hurting as much as a person who is the recipient of this form of disrespect. 9 Slide 10 Hurt people ... hurt people 10 Slide 11 11 BULLY violent evil VICTIM innocent faultless Slide 12 12 wrong relationships
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Slide 1 Balancing the
Power
Beyond the bullying hype
Steve Heron
i1
Slide 2 Workshop noteswww.buildupzone.com
Downloads page - misc downloads
Slide 3 MYTH:
“A bully is a bad person that
picks on you.”There is no such thing as a 'bully'!Don’t get me wrong,
people do bullying things.
Slide 4
BULLY
Have black hair
Slide 5
5
Slide 6
BULLYCould look like anyone
Slide 7
7
“Everyone has the right to
feel safe and be respected”
Slide 8 “A repeated, persistent or
systematic action by one or
more people that violates
another’s rights to feel safe and be respected.”
Definition of Bullying:
Slide 9 A person who
commits a bullying act is
hurting as much as a person who is the recipient of
this form of disrespect. 9
Slide 10
Hurt people ...
hurt people10
Slide 11
11
BULLYviolent
evilVICTIM
innocentfaultless
Slide 12
12
wrong
relationships
Slide 13 Izzy Kalman defines
bullying as:
Wrong Relationshipswww.bullies2buddies.com
“The modern world failed to teach
morality, kindness and love.”
Slide 14 BULLYING IS ALL ABOUT POWER IMBALANCE
Slide 15
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Cutting a cake with a hammer
Slide 16 Zero Tolerance
The Bullying Triangle
BULLY
RESCUER VICTIM
Slide 17
If we bully the bullies ...
It will only make more bullies
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Slide 18
Punishment is a poor method of teaching right from wrong
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Slide 19
Punishment looks like it works...but it doesn't.
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Slide 20 Bullying is mostly
about a shift in power associated with a change in each person's life
stance.20
Slide 21
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The Compass of Shame
Donald Nathanson
Slide 22
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If it ain't broke - don't fix it!
Slide 23 It makes more sense to prevent bullying by empowering those who are hurting to handle their hurt before they hurt others.
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Slide 24 It also makes more sense to prevent bullying by empowering those who are hurting to handle their hurt before it sucks the social confidence out of them and they allow others to treat them with no respect.
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Slide 25 “If you want to
decrease bullying in schools, don’t pay a
lot of attention to it!”
Slide 26
NO
BULLYING
NO PUTDOWNS
Slide 27 Bully Proofing
THE BUZ Approach:
◦ Create communities of respect
◦ Connectedness
◦ Positivity
◦ Restorative Practice
◦ Relational and emotional skills learning
Slide 28
MORE
= LESS BULLYING
Slide 29 “We all have the tendency to feel bullied when we feel powerless or when we are in conflict with someone and we don’t know what to do about it.”
Slide 30 ◦ Much bullying
happens between children who used to be friends
Much bullying stems from unresolved conflict between children
Slide 31 One of the most effective tools against bullying is the skill of conflict resolution.
Slide 32 The BUZ Hopscotch Method of Conflict Resolution
Emotional competence
Self control (Regulation)
Empathy
Using I Messages
Communication
Assertiveness
Problem Solving
Negotiation
Creative Thinking
Compromise
Collaboration
Party Skills
Slide 33
Bully-proofing is about balancing the power.
Slide 34 What do kids say?
MEANWhat does
MEAN mean?
Slide 35 Bully Proofing
Bully-proofing is helping a child to learn the social skills to handle a situation where they feel that their right to feel safe and be respected
has been abused.
In simplified language;
When I feel picked on.
Slide 36
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Cutting a steak with a feather
Slide 37 Common School Bullying policies - strategies
Tell them to STOPStop it!
I don't like it.
Slide 38 Common School Bullying policies - strategies
WALK away
Slide 39 Common School Bullying policies - strategies
TELL a teacher
Slide 40
What can Star Trek teach us about bully proofing
Slide 41
Fly away
Slide 42
Open communications
Slide 43
Fire back
Slide 44
Get reinforcements
Slide 45
Deploy the deflector shields
Slide 46 The BUZ Gimme 5 Bully-proofing Strategies
1. WALKThe walk tactics
A quick eye contact
Keep your head up
Walk away the cool way
Don’t say anything back
Say something positive to yourself
“If you're not there, they can’t pick on you.”
Slide 47 The BUZ Gimme 5 Bully-proofing Strategies
2. TALKThe talk tactics
Say how you feel
Say why you feel that way
Say what you want (be positive)
Slide 48
Slide 49 The BUZ Gimme 5 Bully-proofing Strategies
2. TALKThe talk tactics
Say how you feel
Say why you feel that way
Say what you want (be positive)
Ask if you have done anything to make them treat you this way
Say sorry if you have done something to them
“Be firm but friendly with your words.”
Slide 50 The BUZ Gimme 5 Bully-proofing Strategies
3. BOUNCEThe bounce tactics
Humour
Compliment
Invite
Agree
Deflect“Be clever but friendly with your words.”
Slide 51 The BUZ Gimme 5 Bully-proofing Strategies
4. GET HELPThe get help tactics
Find someone you trust
Ask them if they can help you
Tell them what happened
Tell them how you feel about what happened
Tell them what you have tried so far
“Getting help is a sign of strength, not weakness.”
Slide 52 The BUZ Gimme 5 Bully-proofing Strategies
5. BULLY SHIELDSThe bully shields tactics
Build up your confidence
Have a group of supportive friends
Handle your feelings
Change negatives to positives
Treat others as you want them to treat you“When people are cruel, it makes all the
difference to know where you’re going and where you come from.”
Stephen Fischbacher
Slide 53
“Bully shields
are really
about your
self
confidence.”
Slide 54
“I know
who I
am!”
Slide 55
Slide 56
All power to the shields
Slide 57
Cyber Bullying?The acts of 'wrong relationships' have spilled over
to the social networking of our younger generation.