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LOVING YOURSELF TO SUCCESS: Finding your place yourself
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We are all seekers because that was
part of our make-up
So we grew up seeking because finding
what we seek is part of life’s
satisfaction.
There are so many things that we seek
daily, such as .........
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KNOWLEGDE
WEALTH
SUCCESS
HAPPINESS
RECOGNITION
POWER
And the big one ...... LOVE
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Life will have or make no meaning if LOVE
is withdrawn from man
A loveless man is a life-less man
Just two days ago (Valentine’s day)........
Several youths were out there seeking what
they called LOVE from OTHER PEOPLE.
Several of these young people live in
misconception and fall into so many mistakes
Because more often than not, instead of
finding love, we end up finding pains
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Is that people think that they can be happy
only because someone else says ‘I LOVE YOU’
to them.
However, the question is.....
‘how can you feel or receive love from PEOPLE
out there when you feel REJECTION for
yourself from within?’
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Sometimes, you do not think it is RIGHT or
IMPORTANT to feel LOVE for YOURSELF
Because every one of us deal or struggle with
one kind of REJECTION....
- from the society
- from our family
- from our contemporaries
- from our SELF
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A MAN must value HIMSELF first or his
emotional DEFICIENCIES will manifest
themselves in his BEHAVIOUR and his
RELATIONSHIPS with others....
Subsequently, he will be looking to others to
meet NEEDS (EMOTIONAL, MATERIAL,
PHYSICAL, SPIRITUAL) that only him can
meet or that he can only experience in his
relationship with God
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It is one big pain a thing to be rejected by
others, but it is much a worse situation if I
feel SELF REJECTION (lack of acceptance of
ME and WHO I AM)
Until I CONQUER self rejection, I cannot
achieve acceptance from my SOCIETY, FAMILY
AND CONTEMPORARIES
And until I love ME, I cannot accept ME and
they cannot accept me until I accept ME
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It is primarily how I PERCEIVE myself (ME) that
others will automatically perceive me.
I LOVE ME I ACCEPT ME THEY ACCEPT
AND APPRECIATE ME
What makes you attractive is the way you think of
yourself, not necessarily the way you look at first
instance
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You must know that it is not wrong for you to
LOVE YOURSELF because it is....
1. GOD’S DESIRE
2. GOD’S COMMANDMENT
for you to LOVE YOURSELF so you can love others
"You shall love your neighbour as yourself."
Romans 13:9b
So any discouragement for self-love is anti-God
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When you see people who show love to
others and do not love themselves, you know
1. That may either be pleasing people or
living a life of pretence (they are dying
inside of them and cannot say it to other
OR
2. That they are not living according to God’s
complete command of LOVE YOURSELF so
you can love your neighbour
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Finding a place for yourself
in the realm of LOVE is
the first key to SUCCESS
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It is very easy to lose love for one’s self under
the following circumstances.....
Failing to meet MY undue expectation placed
on ME by ME
Failing to meet up with people pleasing
Failing to accept God’s best for WHO I AM
Having an EMPTY EMOTIONAL TANK
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When people know that you do not
LOVE YOURSELF, all they will do is to
take advantage of you, prey on you
and violate you
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Out of pride over a thing about you
Out of any personal achievement
Out of people views or opinion about you
Out of people liking you
Out of pressure to belong to a class
But should come from God’s view of you as a
popular Jewish King once said .....
I will give thanks to you, For I am fearfully and
wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful. My soul
knows that very well....Psalms 139:14
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- It will be morally UNJUSTIFIED and emotionally
CATASTROPHIC to seek love from people and
demand SUCCESS from life if you do not first have
love for yourself
- Until you first love yourself, you cannot love
others "Love brings you face to face with yourself. It`s impossible to love others if
you don’t love yourself." – John Pierrkos
When you see abusers, they are generally people who don’t
feel good about themselves, they are people with
distorted SELF-IMAGE and EMOTIONAL DEFICIENCIES (full
of anger, disappointment, shame and contempt)
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What you have FAITH for will not work
except through LOVE which begins
with you....
....but faith working through love.
Galatians 5:6b
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Finding your place in life (purpose, success, destiny,
calling, passion) inherently relates to who you are and
how well you know yourself (SELF-AWARENESS)
How well you know yourself depends on how much
time you spend with yourself
How much time you spend with yourself is inherently
related to how much you LOVE YOURSELF
The more you love yourself, the ,ore time you spend
with yourself (because you enjot yourself), the more
you know who you are, the easier it becomes to find
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“YOU CANNOT BE A SUCCESS IF YOU DO NOT
KNOW WHO YOU ARE, AND YOU CANNOT
KNOW EHO YOU ARE UNTIL YOU BEGIN TO
LOVE YOURSELF”
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Until I recognise, accept and
APPROPRIATE God’s love for
me, I cannot love me
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~YOU ARE ACTUALLY THE ONLY HUMAN BEING
WHO CAN LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU ARE AND
HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE LOVED’
~LOVING YOURSELF IS THE KEY TO
CELEBRATING AND MAXIMIZING YOUR
UNIQUENESS
Uniqueness = who I am in the eyes of God and
what He will have me do that only me can
do
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1. Loving WHERE I AM FROM (from
God - my source)
When I love WHERE I AM FROM, I live daily the
BEST and make my SOURCE proud, being a
good ambassador at all times
Question is
Do you know you are from God?
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2. Loving WHO I AM (a child of God,
a member of a family)
When I love WHO I AM, I am not able to DESIRE
to be like others because I love me
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3. Loving WHAT I HAVE (my gifts and
talents)
THE STORY OF THE MASTER, HIS SERVANTS AND HIS TALENTS
“He also who had received the one talent came and said, 'Lord, I knew
you that you are a hard man, reaping where you did not sow, and
gathering where you did not scatter. I was afraid, and went away and
hid your talent in the earth. Behold, you have what is yours.”
Matthew 25:24-25
When I love WHAT I HAVE, I am not ashamed
nor afraid to use and deploy my gifts and
talents daily; and I do not envy others for
their gifts and talents
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4. Loving WHAT I AM HERE FOR (My
purpose)
Truth is God does not need you to be
anything else more than what He has
called you to be. So keep FOCUS on what
you are here for and love it.
When I love WHAT I AM HERE FOR, I am able to
FOCUS on it without distractions from what
others are doing that they are here for
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5. Loving WHAT I REPRESENT (my
convictions, values, ideals and
philosophy)
Anything should not just go for you. Stand for
something or fall for everything. And those
who fall for everything never succeed in life
When I love WHAT I REPRESENT so long as it
agrees with the TRUTH, I am able to live by
CONVICTION and form decisions that can
translate into PRODUCTIVE PLANS and
ACTIONS
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6. Loving the WAY I AM (my looks and
personal disposition)
You are not too tall, too short, too fat, too slim, too fair,
too dark, too incapable, too dull or whatever; you are
just on POINT! Anyone who thinks otherwise is the
person who needs a change of mindset
When I love the WAY I AM, I live in PEACE with
myself, such that nothing else can give and I am
not pressured to belong; I appreciate God for it
because everything has a PURPOSE. I
understand that my look is part of my UNIQUE
PERSONALITY.
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7. Loving to TAKE GOOD CARE OF
MYSELF (my body, spirit and soul)
When I love to TAKE GOOD CARE OF MYSELF,
people will not treat ME like I am nobody
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Love for me does not allow me to engage is
SELF-DESTRUCTIVE habits (smoking, drinking,
sexual perversion, etc)
Love for me does not allow me to engage is
SELF-DEFEATING habits (talking down on
myself, belittling myself, etc)
Love for me allows me to engage in SELF-
DEVELOPING habits (reading, learning daily,
thinking, skills development, etc)
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You are a
-God’s artistic masterpiece
-An epitome of His excellence in creativity
-A reflection of His glory
-A perfection of His beauty
-A showpiece of His majesty
-An object of His love
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Success begins for you the day you realise
how much you love yourself
It is not how people love or do not love you,
it is how you love yourself
The love of people for us does not determine
our destiny, only God’s love does
“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You
really have to love yourself to get anything done in this
world”
Lucille Ball
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Then......take the first success step
Believe that Jesus Christ died for you
and rose from dead so you can live
eternal life with God in Heaven