LOVE AND LUST WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE?
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LOVE AND LU
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WHAT IS
THE D
IFFERENCE?
LOVE IS AN INTENSE FEELING OF AFFECTION AND CARE TOWARDS ANOTHER PERSON… A PROFOUND AND CARING ATTRACTION.
LUST IS A STRONG DESIRE OF A SEXUAL NATURE.
PSYCHOPHYSIOLOGICAL ASPECT
An intense feeling of deep affection.
Any intense desire or craving for gratif ication.
Lust usually means sexual desire.
DEFINITION
Faithfulness, loyalty, confidence. Wil l ingness to make sacrif ices for another. Working at sett l ing differences. Able to compromise so that either both win or at least give the other person's opinion a chance.
Desire, passion, acquisit iveness, intense emotions.
SYMPTOMS
Commitment to another. Genuine intentions. Think about the other person's feelings before acting.
Enjoyment of a short-term, mutually pleasurable relationship.
PERSON TO PERSON
A deep affection, contentment, confidence. Partners communicate and negotiate appropriate expectations. Requires a lot of self lessness and polite assertiveness. You are loving your best fr iend.
Passion, joyousness, strong desire, intense and sometimes diff icult feel ings of need.
FEELS LIKE…
Security, peace, a solid partnership which can provide the ideal atmosphere to raise confident, secure children.
Unsatisfied lust results in sexual frustration, increased rel igiosity and superstit ion, emotional r igidity. Lust satisf ied in a mutually beneficial way results in pleasure, creativity, passion, zest for l i fe.
RESULT
Contentment, stabil ity.
Fire, drive, activeness.
EFFECT
Partnership. Can lead to codependency if not tempered with self -awareness and self -guidedness.
Sometimes can be the f irst stage of love, and can lead to lasting friendships, romantic or otherwise. When not tempered with compassion and empathy, however, i t can lead to emotionally damaging behavior.
INTERDEPENDENCY
It wil l deepen with the passage of t ime.
Highly variable –
it may deepen or dissipate with the passage of t ime.
TIME PERIOD
This is permanent commitment and stays throughout l ife.
Temporary commitment that lasts only long enough to fulf i l l desire.
COMMITMENT
Love is unconditional and the real deal.
Interested in only what can be done for self-pleasure; lust may develop into love, but it is lust until that time.
Bottomline
LOVE AND LU
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HOW TO RECOGNIZE TRUE LOVE
1. Examine whether you treat the object of your interest as a person or a thing. RESPECT. COMMITMENT.
HOW TO RECOGNIZE TRUE LOVE
2. Evaluate how secure you feel. MUTUAL TRUST.
HOW TO RECOGNIZE TRUE LOVE
3. Think about how long you've been in the relationship.TIME… QUANTITY AND QUALITY.
HOW TO RECOGNIZE TRUE LOVE
4. Analyze the way that you're thinking about the other person. MUTUAL RESPECT.
HOW TO RECOGNIZE TRUE LOVE
5. Look at how you handle confl ict. FINDING COMMON GROUND.
HOW TO RECOGNIZE TRUE LOVE
6. Consider your feel ings about moving the relationship forward. MARRIAGE?
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE INFATUATED
1. Examine whether you treat the object of your interest as a person or a thing. IDEALIZED VISION.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE INFATUATED
2. Evaluate how secure you feel. HOW TO IMPRESS.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE INFATUATED
3. Think about how long you've been in the relationship. NEW RELATIONSHIP; LACKS CONFIDENCE.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE INFATUATED
4. Analyze the way that you're thinking about the other person. OBSESSION WITH DETAILS.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE INFATUATED
5. Look at how you handle confl ict. SENSITIVITY.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE INFATUATED
6. Consider your feelings about moving the relationship forward. UNCERTAINTY AND TIMIDITY.
HOW DO I KNOW IT’S LUST
1. Examine if you're looking to catch someone as a prize.IT’S ALL A GAME!
HOW DO I KNOW IT’S LUST
2. After you get what you want, you can take or leave the other person. SECURITY ISN’T IMPORTANT.
HOW DO I KNOW IT’S LUST
3. Analyze the way that you're thinking about the other person. OBSESSION: PHYSICAL.
HOW DO I KNOW IT’S LUST
4. Look at how you handle confl ict. BYE AND FIND SOMEONE NEW!
FOUR NEGATIVE GUT FEELINGS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS
1. A l i tt le voice in your gut says "danger" or "beware.”
2. You have a sense of depression, discomfort or feel ing drained after you're together.
3. Your attraction feels destructive or dark.
4. You're uncomfortable with how this person is treating you, but you're afraid that i f you mention it , you'l l push him or her away.
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