Living Your Life Powerfully And Living A Life You Love! Tandy Elisala Registrar/Associate VP, Record Integrity & Compliance University of Phoenix AACRAO.

Living Your Life Living Your Life PowerfullyPowerfully

And Living A Life You And Living A Life You Love!Love!

Tandy ElisalaTandy ElisalaRegistrar/Associate VP, Record Integrity & ComplianceRegistrar/Associate VP, Record Integrity & Compliance

University of PhoenixUniversity of Phoenix

AACRAO | March 30, 2005 | 1:00-2:00 (W3.318)AACRAO | March 30, 2005 | 1:00-2:00 (W3.318)

This Session Is About:This Session Is About:

Personal PowerPersonal Power

PerspectivePerspective

AttitudeAttitude

OverviewOverview

ExercisesExercises Perspective & Self TalkPerspective & Self Talk MistakesMistakes Tips To A Happier & Positive YouTips To A Happier & Positive You Tips For A More Powerful & Tips For A More Powerful &

Peaceful LifePeaceful Life Focusing On The PositiveFocusing On The Positive AttitudeAttitude

•Lemon ExerciseLemon Exercise

The mind is a powerful thing!The mind is a powerful thing!

Anger Exercise

Complete These SentencesComplete These Sentences

Write what first comes to mind:Write what first comes to mind:

People are __________________.People are __________________.People are __________________.People are __________________.People are __________________.People are __________________.

I can’t _____________________.I can’t _____________________.I can’t _____________________.I can’t _____________________.I can’t _____________________.I can’t _____________________.

Complete These SentencesComplete These Sentences

_________ makes me ______________._________ makes me ______________._________ makes me ______________._________ makes me ______________._________ makes me ______________._________ makes me ______________.

NobodyNobody makes you feel anything!

It is ALL a matter of choice.

PerspectivePerspective

““The subconscious mind can’t tell The subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between what is the difference between what is happening and what it thinks is happening and what it thinks is

happening!”happening!”

““Our life is what our thoughts make it.”Our life is what our thoughts make it.”

~Marcus Aurelius Antonius~Marcus Aurelius Antonius

Negative Self-TalkNegative Self-Talk

Negative

Thoughts

Leads to:

Developing a limiting or negative belief that does

not support you!

Which leads to: A limiting or negative

habit

Which: Creates similar experiences to further reinforce the

cycle

Which creates:

More experiences which reinforce the negative thoughts

““We are what we We are what we repeatedly do.”repeatedly do.”

~Aristotle~Aristotle

MistakesMistakes

• Why they are good!Why they are good!

• Look for the Look for the learninglearning & & opportunityopportunity!!

• Each perceived “failure” takes you Each perceived “failure” takes you that must closer to success!that must closer to success!

How long would you give the average How long would you give the average baby to learn how to walk before you baby to learn how to walk before you didn’t let him try any more?didn’t let him try any more?

Why wouldn’t you apply this to Why wouldn’t you apply this to yourself?yourself?

““AllAll changes are created in a moment changes are created in a moment—it’s just that most of us wait until —it’s just that most of us wait until certain things happen before we certain things happen before we finally decide to make a shift.”finally decide to make a shift.”

~Anthony Robbins~Anthony Robbins

7 Tips To A Happier You!7 Tips To A Happier You!

1.1. Enjoy getting up in the morning!Enjoy getting up in the morning!2.2. Be an optimist.Be an optimist.3.3. Laugh at your own mistakes!Laugh at your own mistakes!4.4. Be energetic!Be energetic!5.5. Be in a good mood!Be in a good mood!6.6. Graciously accept compliments.Graciously accept compliments.7.7. Be your own best friend.Be your own best friend.

10 Ways For A More Peaceful & 10 Ways For A More Peaceful & Powerful LifePowerful Life

• Do it! Avoid “need to’s” and Do it! Avoid “need to’s” and “should’ves.”“should’ves.”

• Listen—both to yourself and others.Listen—both to yourself and others.

• Recognize that “here” is all there is. By Recognize that “here” is all there is. By focusing on the next thing to “do,” we focusing on the next thing to “do,” we create tension.create tension.

• Eliminate fear and worry; know that Eliminate fear and worry; know that everything happens for a reason.everything happens for a reason.

• Sit somewhere and watch nature or Sit somewhere and watch nature or children—see the purpose of life in children—see the purpose of life in everything and everyone.everything and everyone.

10 Ways For A More Peaceful & 10 Ways For A More Peaceful & Powerful LifePowerful Life

• Pretend that today is all we have.Pretend that today is all we have.• Say “I love you” to yourself.Say “I love you” to yourself.• Positive affirmations.Positive affirmations.• Take deep breaths.Take deep breaths.• Give thanks for all you are and have. Give thanks for all you are and have.

Giving thanks is perhaps one of the most Giving thanks is perhaps one of the most powerful ways to be present and powerful ways to be present and manifest abundance in our lives.manifest abundance in our lives.

We are remembered more for our We are remembered more for our relationships than for how many emails relationships than for how many emails we answered or dishes we did.we answered or dishes we did.

7 Steps To Be More Positive!7 Steps To Be More Positive!

1.1. Live consistently with your values.Live consistently with your values.2.2. Focus on your future.Focus on your future.3.3. Forgive yourself.Forgive yourself.4.4. Focus on solutions.Focus on solutions.5.5. Separate personal worth from performanceSeparate personal worth from performance

—you are —you are notnot what you do or your title. what you do or your title.6.6. Positive self-talk.Positive self-talk.7.7. Look for the good in all situations—Look for the good in all situations—

remember: there is a reason for remember: there is a reason for everything!everything!

The magic word: AttitudeThe magic word: Attitude

• It is our ATTITUDE at the beginning of a task that, more than anything else, will It is our ATTITUDE at the beginning of a task that, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome.affect its successful outcome.

• It is our ATTITUDE toward life that determines life’s ATTITUDE toward us.It is our ATTITUDE toward life that determines life’s ATTITUDE toward us.

• We are interdependent. It is impossible to succeed without others, and it is our We are interdependent. It is impossible to succeed without others, and it is our ATTITUDE towards others that will determine their ATTITUDE toward us.ATTITUDE towards others that will determine their ATTITUDE toward us.

• The higher you go in any organization of value, the better the ATTITUDE you The higher you go in any organization of value, the better the ATTITUDE you will find.will find.

• You mind can hold only one thought at a time and, since there is nothing at all You mind can hold only one thought at a time and, since there is nothing at all to be gained by being negative, be positive.to be gained by being negative, be positive.

• Success or failure in any undertaking is caused more by the mental ATTITUDE Success or failure in any undertaking is caused more by the mental ATTITUDE even than by the mental capacities.even than by the mental capacities.

Attitude (Continued)Attitude (Continued)

• The deepest craving of human beings is to be needed, to feel important, to The deepest craving of human beings is to be needed, to feel important, to be appreciated. Give it to them, and they’ll return it to you.be appreciated. Give it to them, and they’ll return it to you.

• Look for the best in new ideas. As someone said, “I never met a person Look for the best in new ideas. As someone said, “I never met a person that I couldn’t learn something from.”that I couldn’t learn something from.”

• Don’t waste valuable time broadcasting personal problems. It probably Don’t waste valuable time broadcasting personal problems. It probably won’t help you – it cannot help others.won’t help you – it cannot help others.

• Radiate the ATTITUDE of well being, of confidence, of a person that knows Radiate the ATTITUDE of well being, of confidence, of a person that knows where s/he is going. This will inspire others around you, and you’ll find where s/he is going. This will inspire others around you, and you’ll find good things will begin happening to you.good things will begin happening to you.

• For the next seven days, treat everyone with whom you come in contact as For the next seven days, treat everyone with whom you come in contact as the most important person on earth. If you do it for thirty days, you’ll do it the most important person on earth. If you do it for thirty days, you’ll do it for the rest of your life.for the rest of your life.

““What you get by achieving your What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as goals is not as important as what you become by achieving what you become by achieving your goals.”your goals.”

~Zig Ziglar~Zig Ziglar

ConclusionConclusion

Whatever we focus on consistently Whatever we focus on consistently is what we manifest in our lives!!!is what we manifest in our lives!!!

Thank YouThank You

• Questions?Questions?

• Contact InformationContact Information

Tandy ElisalaTandy Elisala

Phone: (480) 377-3301Phone: (480) 377-3301

Email: Email: [email protected]@phoenix.edu