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What are some of the major threats to a oneness marriage?

Ephesians 6:12 (NLT)For we are not fighting

against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of

the unseen world, against mighty powers in this

dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly

places.

oneness:

Main Threats to

1. An unawareness of God’s design for marriage

2. Unfulfilled expectations3. An unintentional marriage.4. Extramarital affairs.5. An unhealthy handling of conflict 6. Poor communication7. Inevitable difficulties

Psalm 127:1 (NKJV)Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it.

1. An unawareness of God’s design for marriage

A main threat to Oneness:

1. An unawareness of God’s design for marriage

A main threat to Oneness:

Satan has convinced people that marriage is all about

self-fulfillment.

2. Unfulfilled expectations

A main threat to Oneness:

Expectations,

even the seemingly insignificant ones, lead to problems

when they are continually unfilled

yet continually held tight.

2. Unfulfilled expectations

A main threat to Oneness:

Make decisions as if Your spouse is more important than Live to please Your spouse instead

of your self.Look for the interests of your spouse.

You.

2. Unfulfilled expectations

A main threat to Oneness:

Are we expecting our partners to think, feel, and behave the way we want them to –

not being willing to change our high expectations?

2. Unfulfilled expectations

A main threat to Oneness:

Expectations both big and small,both realistic and unreasonable, can plague our marriage.

3. An unintentional marriage

A main threat to Oneness:

Proverbs 14:15 (NKJV)

The simple believes every word, but the prudent

considers well his steps.

3. An unintentional marriage

A main threat to Oneness:

Our busyness leads to irritability and fatigue that destroys oneness in the marriage relationship. Things which matter most

must never be at the mercy of things which

matter least.

3. An unintentional marriage

A main threat to Oneness:

every day in every marriage,

choices are made that keep couples headed where

they want to go or lead them to

places they dread.

3. An unintentional marriage

A main threat to Oneness:

Where does your marriage rank on your

priority list?

4. Extramarital affairs

A main threat to Oneness:

Malachi 2:13-16 (NLT)Here is another thing you do. You cover the Lord’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he pays no attention to your

offerings and doesn’t accept them with

pleasure. 14 You cry out, “Why doesn’t

the Lord accept my worship?”

4. Extramarital affairs

A main threat to Oneness:

I’ll tell you why! Because the Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were

young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though

she remained your faithful partner,

the wife of your marriage vows.

4. Extramarital affairs

A main threat to Oneness:

Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children

from your union. So guard your heart;

remain loyal to the wife of your

youth. 

4. Extramarital affairs

A main threat to Oneness:

 16 “For I hate divorce!” says the Lord, the God of Israel. “To divorce your

wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says

the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your

heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife.”

4. Extramarital affairs

A main threat to Oneness:

An Extramarital Affair:

An escape from reality or a search for fulfillment outside of marriage.

4. Extramarital affairs – activity affair

A main threat to Oneness:

When our activities supersede our relationship

to our spouse, we’re having an

activity affair.

4. Extramarital affairs – materialism affair

A main threat to Oneness:

People work to afford a lifestyle-their time and money

go to their affair with stuff instead

of marriage.

4. Extramarital affairs – career affair

A main threat to Oneness:

Is your career your real

spouse?

4. Extramarital affairs – family affair

A main threat to Oneness:

As parents we can get so wrapped up in

our children’s needs, programs, school, and

social life, that our marriage gets little time and energy.

4. Extramarital affairs – fantasy affair

A main threat to Oneness:

More money is spent on pornography in this country every year than on rock music, country music, jazz, and classical music put together. More money is spent on pornography than pro baseball, basketball, and football combined. Last year it grossed more than ABC, NBC, CBS, and FOX combined. It’s an industry worth more than ten billion dollars annually.

- Kyle Idleman

4. Extramarital affairs – fantasy affair

A main threat to Oneness:

Lust can cause us to become less and less content with our spouse, which takes us down the path of isolation in our marriage instead of oneness.

4. Extramarital affairs – love affair

A main threat to Oneness:

subtly.

Entering into a love affair can happen so

It is a slow fade.

Which kind of extramarital affair is most tempting to you?

Activities, materialism,

career, family, fantasy, or love?

What will you put in place to protect your marriage from disaster?

boundaries

oneness:

Main Threats to

1. An unawareness

of God’s design for marriage 2. Unfulfilled3. An unintentional marriage.4. Extramarital affairs.

expectations