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Lead The Change
Leadership AcademyCreate Your Career Roadmap
Session One, April 22, 2015
Start With Why: Know Yourself,
Grow Yourself, Be Yourself
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Between stimulus and response
there is a space.
In that space is our power to
choose our response.
In our response lies our growth
and our freedom.
- Viktor E. Frankl
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I Believe that…
1. We all exert influence
2. We can make conscious choices
that will increase our influence
3. We can learn to make choices
more consciously and consistently
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I Believe that…
Higher emotional and social
intelligence correlates with our
ability to have positive influence
in the world and…
These competencies
can be developed.
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Think about someone
who’s made a difference
in your life…
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Emotional and Social Intelligence
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SELF SOCIAL
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Emotional and Social Intelligence
• Accurate Self-awareness
• Owns personal power
• Self-Confident
• Self-deprecating humor
• Empathetic
• Service Ethic
• Organizational awareness
• Good Listener
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• Acts with Integrity/Intention
• Resilient and Optimistic
• Emotionally Balanced
• Adaptable
• Builds Trust
• Develops Others
• Communicates Effectively
• Collaborates
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Repeated studies have
demonstrated
that meditation can
rewire how the brain
responds to stress. -Wired Magazine-www.wired.com/business/2013/06/meditation-mindfulness-silicon-valley/
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Attention training
helps you pay close,
nonjudgmental
attention
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What do an axe and a bowl of soup have to
do with each other?
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Research from Jonathan Haidt, author of The Righteous Mind:
Why Good People are Divided by Politics and Religion
suggests that…
Relationship
Trumps
Reason
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Trust is the conduit
for influence. It’s the medium
through which ideas travel.
If they don’t trust you, your ideas are just
dead in the water. Having the best idea
is worth nothing if people don’t trust you.
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Actions
Wants
(Preferred
Reality)
Perception
of what isThe Gap
Relationship Among Perceptions, Wants, Actions
Based on The Triangle of Choice, in Leadership Simple by Steve and Jill Morris
KEY INSIGHT:
The gap between what
we perceive and what
we want creates
energy which can
lead to action.
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Actions
Wants
(Preferred
Reality)
Perception
of what isThe Gap
Relationship Among Perceptions, Wants, Actions
Based on The Triangle of Choice, in Leadership Simple by Steve and Jill Morris
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Actions
Wants
(Preferred
Reality)
Perception
of what isThe Gap
Relationship Among Perceptions, Wants, Actions
Based on The Triangle of Choice, in Leadership Simple by Steve and Jill Morris
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Coaching = Awareness Action
Assess what is, then ask…
1.What do you want?
2. What have you tried?
3. What was the result?
4. What else can you do?
5. What WILL you do?
Modified from Steve and Jill Morris’ Leadership Simple
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Coaching = Awareness Action
Assess what is, then ask…
1.What do you want?
2. What have you tried?
3. What was the result?
4. What else can you do?
5. What WILL you do?
Modified from Steve and Jill Morris’ Leadership Simple
Accountability
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Resourcefulness
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Intentional Change Model
1. Identify Ideal Self
2. Identify Real Self
3. Create a Learning Agenda
4. Practice New Behaviors
5. Cultivate Resonant Relationships
Developed by Dr. Richard Boyatzis, Case Western Reserve University, et al.
For more information, see book, Becoming a Resonant Leader (Boyatzis, McKee,
Johnston, 2008) and articles on “Intentional Change Theory.”
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Me at My Best 360
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“Choosing to act on ‘what matters’
is the choice to live a
passionate existence…
Acting on what matters is a stance
whereby we declare we are
accountable for the world around us
and are willing to pursue
what we define as important.
- Peter Block
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It’s Not About Being Nice
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It’s not what
they call you,
it’s what you
answer to.
-W.C. Fields
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Happiness Research
“When you are experiencing positive
emotions like joy, contentment, and
love, you will see more possibilities
in your life.
These findings were among the first
that suggested positive emotions
broaden your sense of possibility and
open your mind up to more options.”
The Science of Positive Thinking: How Positive Thoughts Build Your Skills, Boost Your Health, and Improve Your Work
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/james-clear/positive-thinking_b_3512202.html
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Leadership is…
The alignment of our energy and the
energies of others towards the
manifestation of a
mutually enriching future state.
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To build trust…
You must have congruence
between words and actions.
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Where are attention goes, our energy goes
Where our energy goes, action follows
Where actions are taken, results follow
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It all starts with Attention
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