“ “ Kids These Kids These Days!” Days!” Connecting with and Preparing At-Risk Youth for Workplace Success A 2-part webinar A 2-part webinar series hosted by series hosted by OH Dept of Jobs & OH Dept of Jobs & Family Services Family Services With Dr. Steve Parese Danbury, NC
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““Kids These Kids These Days!”Days!”Connecting with and Preparing At-Risk Youth for Workplace Success
A 2-part webinar A 2-part webinar series hosted by series hosted by OH Dept of Jobs & OH Dept of Jobs & Family ServicesFamily Services
With Dr. Steve Parese Danbury, NC
““Leave Me Leave Me Alone!Alone!””
“Wait! Don’t Go...”
“Wait! Don’t Go...”
Dr. Steve Parese Danbury, NCInsights into the Psychological World of Emotionally Troubled YouthInsights into the Psychological World of Emotionally Troubled Youth
A webinar hosted by OH Dept of Jobs & Family ServicesA webinar hosted by OH Dept of Jobs & Family Services
Dr. Steve Parese Danbury, NCInsights into the Psychological World of Emotionally Troubled YouthInsights into the Psychological World of Emotionally Troubled Youth
Part 2:Part 2:How can we How can we
improve improve relationships byrelationships by
avoiding power avoiding power struggles?struggles?
Part 3:Part 3:How can we How can we
improve improve relationships by relationships by using listening using listening
skills with skills with troubled youth?troubled youth?
Dr. Steve Parese Danbury, NCInsights into the Psychological World of Emotionally Troubled YouthInsights into the Psychological World of Emotionally Troubled Youth
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Wilderness SurvivalWilderness Survival
What does it take to What does it take to survive through hard survive through hard
times?times?
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1. How to escape a mountain lion attack
Worst Case Scenario SURVIVAL QUIZ
a. Open your coat, making yourself bigger and more threatening.
b. Run away as quickly as possible in a zigzag pattern.
c. Mutter “Nice kitty, nice kitty” while slowly backing away!
Dr. Steve Parese Danbury, NCInsights into the Psychological World of Emotionally Troubled YouthInsights into the Psychological World of Emotionally Troubled Youth
Self Defeating Self Defeating PatternsPatterns
Troubled youth see themselves and the world from a
fundamentally different perspective, one which creates
a self-fulfilling prophesy of failure and rejection.
For many, PREDICTABLE FAILURE is better than unpredictable
success.
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Most of us want our lives Most of us want our lives to be to be PREDICTABLE.PREDICTABLE.
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Even if theyEven if they’’re justre just
PREDICTABLY PREDICTABLY BAD.BAD.
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Do you remember theDo you remember the Break Up Break Up
Conversation? Conversation?
Psychological DynamicsPsychological Dynamics
1. AGGRESSION
FEELING: Anger
World is DANGEROUS.
To survive, always strike first.
BEHAVIOR: Fight, threaten, yell, control or intimidate others, damage property.
BEHAVIOR: Whine, cling to adults, demand help, do anything for friends.
Which pattern do you see?Which pattern do you see?
Avoidant Dependent
Perry: “I tell you what bud, I got no clue. Guess you think I’m stupid now, right? It’s not like YOU’RE Mr. Perfect. I’ve seen your desk, and CLEARLY you have some organizational issues...”
Four youth are going through a practice job interview. Each reaches a question which s/he cannot answer, and feels
stressed.
Passive Aggressive
AggressiveAggressive
2. PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE
Which pattern do you see?Which pattern do you see?
Avoidant Dependent
DJ: “Can you give me a hint? I really need to get this job. If I don’t, my parents said they’re gonna kick me out. Maybe just a little hint? Pleeeeease?”
Four youth are going through a practice job interview. Each reaches a question which s/he cannot answer, and feels
stressed.
Passive Aggressive
AggressiveAggressive
4. DEPENDENT
Which pattern do you see?Which pattern do you see?
Avoidant Dependent
Andy: “Smart @$$ people like you are always tryin ’ me. I’m @#$% sick of it, let me tell you. One of these days I’m gonna to slap you upside the head, then we’ll see how smart you are.”
Four youth are going through a practice job interview. Each reaches a question which s/he cannot answer, and feels
stressed.
Passive Aggressive
Aggressive
1. AGGRESSIVE
Which pattern do you see?Which pattern do you see?
Avoidant Dependent
Adrian: “Can we take a quick break? I had a lot of coffee this morning and just need to use the restroom. Don’t go anywhere... I’ll be right back!”
Adrian walks out the door, and never returns.
Four youth are going through a practice job interview. Each reaches a question which s/he cannot answer, and feels
stressed.
Passive Aggressive
Aggressive
3. AVOIDANT
Key Point #1Key Point #1Key Point #1At-risk children and youth often adopt negative mindsets which let them predict how people will react to them.
Aggression, passive aggression, avoidance and dependency are examples of these self-defeating cognitive behavioral patterns which lead youth to fail, but on their own terms.