June 2014

Creating Jewish Memories at the Jersey Shore

KOLENU June 2014 Sivan/Tammuz 5774

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BOARD OF DIRECTORS 2014-2015

MAZEL TOV

Clergy Rabbi Ellen S. Wolintz-Fields [email protected]

Hazzan Steven Walvick [email protected]

Rabbi Richard Hammerman, D.D. Rabbi Emeritus

Cantor Daniel Green, D. Mus. Cantor Emeritus

[email protected]

Staff Administrator Mitch Herskowitz [email protected]

Administrative Assistant Christine Greenwood [email protected]

Bookkeeper Laurie Smiley [email protected]

Officers President Philip I. Brilliant [email protected]

1st Vice President Marc Bunis [email protected]

2nd Vice President Michele Pardes [email protected]

Treasurer Bob Van Bochove [email protected]

Financial Secretary [email protected]

Recording Secretary Muriel Levine [email protected]

Corresponding Secretary Dr. Shira Meyer [email protected]

Congregation B’nai Israel 1488 Old Freehold Road

Toms River, New Jersey 08753 732-349-1244 Fax: 732-349-3003 www.cbitr.org

Synagogue Funds

Arielle Eytan Memorial Fund: Provides materials for the Nursery School Program.

Mitzvah Care Fund: Helps needy families and individuals within our Congregation.

Educational Endowment Fund: Perpetual support for our Talmud Torah educational programs.

Esther and Frank Simon Youth Lounge: Provides and maintains items and furnishings in our Youth Lounge.

Harry and Molly Garson Fund: Used for special annual programs for the children of Congregation B’nai Israel Talmud

Torah.

General Fund: Used to support the ongoing needs of Congregation B’nai Israel.

Goldsmith Endowment Fund: Used for the education of our youth.

Memorial Plaques: Installed in the Sanctuary to memorialize dear ones who are deceased.

Music Fund: Provides for musical programs and ongoing musical needs for Congregation B’nai Israel.

Prayer Book Fund: Used to purchase Chumashim and weekly Sabbath and High Holy Days prayer books.

Books may be dedicated to specific individuals.

Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund: Used for needy individuals and causes.

Ramah-Youth Scholarship Fund: Provides scholarships for summer educational and cultural programs for our

youngsters (Camp Ramah, USY on Wheels, Israel Pilgrimage, etc.)

Ritual Fund: Used to purchase new siddurim, tallitot and other ritual items needed to benefit and assist the

Congregation.

Rosen Adult Education Fund: Perpetual support for Adult Education.

Talmud Torah Fund: Used to support the Religious Schools of B’nai Israel and to enhance our educational program.

Tree of Life: Leaves may be purchased in honor of special occasions and family simchas.

USY Fund: Used for scholarships toward regional or national events and programs for the youth of our synagogue.

Yahrzeit Fund: Supports Talmud Torah in memory of dear ones.

Yizkor Fund: Memorializes dear ones who are deceased.

Shalom B’nai Israel Family,

We know exactly what to do when children do not respond to what we are saying: we

stand in front of them and motion for them to take off the headphones or to remove

the buds from their ears, or turn off the television, or the electronic device they may

be using. We hear from their friends that the scene is much the same in other homes.

With humorous irony, it might be pointed out that the same parents who complain

that their children never listen might also complain that their children are always listening, and hear what they are

not supposed to hear!

Jewish Heritage is based on the ability to listen: SH’MA YISRA-EL— Listen, People Israel! At the foot of Mount

Sinai, God asks B’nai Israel, the children of Israel, if they are ready to accept the Torah. Their response is

succinct: NA’ASEH v’NEESH-MA—We accept it with the promise to listen!

The Torah very wisely teaches us that listening does not necessarily involve noise, or even sounds. After promising

to listen, they declare to Moses that they are not capable of hearing anything more from God. The Rabbis of the

Talmud ask: What made them change their mind? They answer that the people were overwhelmed when they heard

the first letter of the first word in the first commandment: the silent letter, Alef.

One of the most significantly silent moments in Jewish religious life comes on Rosh ha-Shanah when the karyan,

the person who reads out the Shofar notes, calls the signal for the Shofar to be sounded: T’ki-a! In the split second

between that call and the sounding of the Shofar, there is a quiet in the sanctuary that is as deep and deafening as

the silence at Sinai.

A student recently asked me, “How can we listen to what God says if God doesn’t have a mouth?” I shared with

this child the story of Elijah who understood that God does not speak with us through the rumbling of an

earthquake or the crash of lightening, but through Kol D’Mama Daka: the still small Voice within us. If we want to

hear the Voice of God, then we must listen to the inner talk that takes place between the mind and the heart. We

must be open to hearing the Voice of Conscience within us. Rabbi David Wolpe translates Kol D’Mama Daka not

as the still small Voice, but as the thin Voice of Silence.

We must take the time to turn off our stream of rationalizations, our thoughts of everything we need to do, and our

blaming others for our lot in life, and then to listen to what we know is good and right. Perhaps that is why a major

observance of Shavuot is the study of Torah late at night when we are more likely to hear the conversation that took

place between God and the Jewish People, and the continuation of that conversation taking place within our own

souls today.

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WWF—Wise Words from Wolintz-Fields

Listening

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WWF—Wise Words from Wolintz-Fields

On Passover we were freed from slavery in Egypt and we walked into the Wilderness; on Shavuot we were given the

Ten Commandments with its opening silent Alef, “I am your Eternal God who brought you out of the land of Egypt.”

At Sinai we promised Neeshma—we will listen—and the rest is history as we set out for the Promised Land. Each

Shavuot we repeat that promise as we joyfully carry the responsibility of Torah on our journey forward through life.

Enjoy that journey, with Torah in your life every day, filled with great joy, health, and happiness!

L’Shalom,

Rabbi Ellen S. Wolintz-Fields

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Talmud Torah Awards As chosen by each Teacher

Kitah Gan - Morah Judy Kessler

Olivia Devorah Babinski - Most enthusiastic

Sammy Shmuel Peretz Fields - Shabbat excellence

Caroline Chaya Miriam Small - Kindest

Mia Malka Beracha Sullivan - Bible knowledge excellence

Madelyn Tzvia Sara Wiko - Hebrew excellence

Kitah Alef – Morah Judy Kessler

Emily Etel Bloom - Most participative

Sophia Tzipora Bloom – Most cooperative

Daniel Daniel Josovitz - Best attendance; most helpful

Jacob Y aakov Kassenoff - Best attitude

Shoshana Shoshana Meyer - Hebrew excellence

Jake Y aakov Nadell - Holiday knowledge excellence

Danielle Daniel Touitou - Hebrew excellence

Kitah Bet – Morah Ingrid Nadell

Coby Dov Chayim Fields - Most Enthusiastic

Learner (he is always so eager to start each

assignment)

Lilly Shoshana Fried - Most helpful (to her Morah

and her fellow classmates)

Jeffrey Paltiel Chayim Small - Kindest to his

classmates and teacher (he never argues or fights

with his classmates and he never gives me any cause

to reprimand him)

Natalie Netanya Ariel Small - Most Artistic/Creative

(her attention to detail is excellent, particularly when

we are doing craft projects related to the lessons)

Mycah Michah Subai - Most curious (he asks the

most questions and will keep asking questions until

he is satisfied that he fully understands the topic)

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April 2014

Kitah Alef Daniel Josovitz Shoshana Meyer

Kitah Gimmel Julianne Geffner Kitah Dalet Jillian Weintraub

May 2014

Kitah Gan Kitah Heh Mia Sullivan Cameron Fields Madelyn Wiko Jonathan Geffner Jillian Winderbaum Kitah Alef Kitah Gimmel Kitah Vav Daniel Josovitz Julianne Geffner Jason Lindenbaum Shoshana Meyer Holden Dempsey Jacob Marshall Jake Nadell Arielle Touitou Danielle Touitou Jessica Weintraub Kitah Bet Kitah Dalet Coby Dov Fields Jillian Weintraub Lilly Fried Brandon Wiko

Kitah Heh Mykala Brodzinski Hannah Repole

Kitah Vav Phillip Fried Jessica Weintraub

Kitah Zayin Jeremy Meyerberg

Please be reminded that this will be the last Kolenu Bulletin before the summer and we publish only one Kolenu for July and August. The next Kolenu will be

published mid-summer. Until then have a wonderful summer.

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A M e s s a g e F r o m O u r P r e s i d e n t … . The past three years as president have been fun, depressing, exciting, disappointing and encouraging, but never dull. I have so many ideas for this article, but as I have tried to do with my High Holiday Appeal addresses, I want to engage you, entertain you and thank you. First, it has been my pleasure to work with dedicated, diligent and compassionate individuals that make up our Board, Executive Board, Committee Chairs, Past President Leadership and other volunteers. Without them, we could not have achieved so much on a daily basis, to keep B’nai Israel strong. For example, at the May Board meeting the Board approved the following:

The 2014-2105 Budget with NO dues or tuition increase. For the second consecutive year, the Board is proposing to maintain dues and tuition charges to our members, while controlling spending, without reducing services and programing. But once again, we need all members to satisfy their financial obligations in a timely manner to succeed.

The Board approved the replacement of our irrigation well, that failed last year and must be operational before the summer. The cost of the well replacement is $5,000 and will be paid from the maintenance fee fund and not the operating account. The main reason for the $95/year maintenance fee – please pay it!

The Board approved the installation of a centralized intercom system, to be installed in all the classrooms and chapel, so that there can be communication to the main office for daily use and safety/security reasons. This is an essential tool in the security of our building and safety of our children. The total cost of this system is $2,600 and will be paid from the maintenance fee fund and not the operating account (unless a donation is received for the purchase). This is another reason why it is extremely important to pay the $95/year maintenance fee.

The Board approved the hiring of an assistant for the Principal (Rabbi) for the 2014-2015 school year and I am happy to say it is Max Silverstein, one of our own! Max will be graduating from Toms River North High School and our Hebrew High School this spring and has decided to stay local for college, so the Rabbi and Board of Education jumped at the opportunity to increase his role in the education of our children. Max has been working with the Talmud Torah this year, continues to tutor and is an asset to our program.

No decision at the Board meetings is not without discussion, controversy at times and understanding; so I am grateful for all of their hard work to keep B’nai Israel the gem of the Jersey Shore. It is always dangerous to thank individuals because you always forget someone, but I feel there are several people, I must recognize.

Glenn Jacobs, Ruth Gunzberger, Ruth Kerr, Dennis Lyons, Bob Foxman, and Steve Pardes – our active past presidents who had my back when I accepted the nomination as president and have been my guides over the past three years. B’nai Israel is extremely lucky to have such dedicated leaders, because even though they are past presidents, they are current leaders.

Allysa Weintraub who reluctantly assumed the role of Board of Education Chairperson and who took the lead in recreating our education system – one of my major initiatives.

Marc Bunis, Michele Pardes, Shira Meyer, Fred Weil, Muriel Levine, Allen Schecter and Joel Kurtz who served on the Executive Board during my 3 years and supported me every step of the way. We are lucky to have their dedication and I hope to sit on the “couch” as they continue to lead B’nai Israel.

Joanne Gethard, Jonathan Fields and Lauren Rosen – As I attended USCJ events as president and other synagogue leaders saw I was from Toms River, they all would comment on the strength of our youth programming. When I told them we do it all with volunteer leadership, they became extremely jealous. If you don’t realize the hard work, dedication and selflessness of our youth leadership, then you don’t know our leaders and programing. My huge thank you to Joanne and Jonathan, who give up their time and sanity, to be with our kids, keep our kids safe and run fantastic programs – Thank you!

Mitch, Christine, Laurie and James keep our building standing, food in our bellies and have brought a large amount of organization into our office. I am also very proud to say “they do it with a smile.”

Rabbi and Hazzan – I am grouping you together, only because this article is getting too long, but together and separately, you are B’nai Israel. I continue to say that as president, you see the “behind the scenes” of synagogue life and maybe it takes a little away from sitting in the pews, similar to working behind the scenes of a play; but you have educated me every step of the way. I have enjoyed our frequent meetings, but more importantly, I have enjoyed you sharing your bema with me.

There are so many other names going through my head, so please if I did not name you, I did not forget you – thank you! Last but not least, Bob Van Bochove who will be the next president and I am confident, will be a great leader. I am so excited that Bob agreed to be president and I believe he will get the same support as I received and will continue the fiscal responsibility with a “Jewish” touch. The job is demanding, but getting to know Bob through the years, he has always tackled demanding jobs. I thank him, wish him the best of luck and he should know, “I have his back.”

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MESSAGE FROM MEN’S CLUB

As warm summer months arrive at the Jersey Shore, Men’s Club is busy arranging activities and events for the 2014-2015 year. Although our Calendar-of-Events may slow down a bit for a short time during July and August, have no fear, ‘cause we’re still here! And speaking of still being here: I have agreed to stay on for a third year--the good news that I have to announce is that Steve Pardes will be Men’s Club Co-President with me…I’m really looking forward to partnering with him for 2014-2015…thanks for your willingness to help, Steve! By now, you probably know the names of the CBI students who won Men’s Club’s “First Annual Student Essay Contest”… having read all of the entries, I must honestly say that I did not envy our vol-unteer judges the task of choosing Contest winners, because all of our participants did such a great job. Needless to say, we’re very proud of our students, each of whom was presented with a Certificate-of-Participation. Winners were presented with Barnes & Noble Gift Certificate prizes on Sunday, May 18, after Talmud Torah Final Assembly. Winners’ names, photos and winning essays will be published in the summer Kolenu issue—not to be missed! Many thanks go to Rabbi, Hazzan, Hebrew School teachers, and Contest judges (Sandy Welsher and Fran Kirschner)—your expertise and support for the Essay Contest are greatly appreciated! I also want to thank FJMC Regional Vice-President (and soon-to-be-President), Joel Kurtz for putting together May 5

th’s

“Students for Israel” seminar. The goal of this ongoing, yearly, program is to prepare our students to be proponents for Israel in situations where they may encounter anti-Semitism on campus and throughout their lives. We invite you to join us for these upcoming Men’s Club activities and events:

June 3 – (Tuesday @ 7:30) – Men’s Club and Sisterhood Officers Installation at Shavuot services, followed by a delicious Ice Cream Social

June 6th to 8

th – FJMC Regional Retreat, Waynesboro, Pennsylvania…if interested, contact Joel Kurtz ASAP

June 18 – (Wednesday @ 6:00 p.m.) – FJMC’s Presidents’ Dinner…see announcement and details in this issue.

P.S.: If you haven’t already done so, it’s not too late to make a contribution to Men’s Club’s “Yellow Candle Holocaust Project,” so please take a moment to send your check to the CBI office, attention: “Candle”…THANK YOU! I wish everyone a wonderful, fun-filled summer! Hy

A M e s s a g e F r o m O u r P r e s i d e n t … . C o n t i n u e d So as I close, I will tell all of you that the past three years have solidified one lesson in life we all should remember – “Life is precious.” I have said good-bye to many members and friends who left the world of the living and I have tried to comfort them. Each eulogy, each story, each memory, reminded me that we only get one shot at life and we should make the most of it. At the same time it reminded me to say “I Love You” to those closest to you. As I thank my family, including my fiancé Amie, my daughter Sara and my step-daughters Andrea and Jessica for their support and love, I leave you with a true story of how you must say “I love you” because you never know what God has in store for you. In April, 2005 I had the opportunity to travel to Florida with my best friend (since Gan), Jeff Kornblum and pick up his new car, and then drive back to New Jersey. I specifically remember driving through North Carolina on April 12

th and calling my

mom since she had been feeling under the weather. During our telephone conversation I learned that her doctor was treating her for the flu and that in a few days she should be better. Our call ended and we said good-bye. Jeff immediately “jumped down my throat” and said “why didn’t you say ‘I Love You?’” I responded, “I don’t know; I just didn’t.” He said, “You should always tell your mom you love her before you say good-bye.” So, I called back and told my mom “I loved her.” Little did I know that on April 14

th my mom would enter the hospital and pass away in 34 days of pancreatic cancer. Jeff was right,

we should always tell those we love and appreciate how we feel, because “Life is precious” and we do not know what plans God has for us. Please continue to reach out to me at home or via email at [email protected]. Thank you for your trust, support and patience. Philip I. Brilliant President

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Congregation B’nai Israel Hazak

Annual Deli Lunch

Sunday June 8, 2014 - 12 Noon

For you listening pleasure music by Ken Lipkowitz

Questions call Alice Pomaski 732-458-8025 or Sandy Ottenberg 732-505-5953

A Very Special Thank you…….

The Taff family would like to convey their most sincere thanks to our “CBI’ family” for the kind expressions of sympathy, cards of condolence and donations received during our recent sad bereavement- the loss of our beloved Morris (husband and father). We also send our gratitude and appreciation to Rabbi Ellen Wolintz-Fields and Hazzan Steven Walvick. Shirley, Robert, Nava, Larissa, Jessica, Lisa and Michael

MEN’S CLUB & SISTERHOOD INSTALLATIONS

(with Ice Cream Social) Tuesday, June 3 @ 7:30 p.m.

Please join us for Men’s Club and Sisterhood Officers Installation at this year’s Shavuot Services…this will be an opportunity to acknowledge and honor those who offer their time, energy and creativity to help make the “CBI Experience” something that all of us enjoy so much. Just as the festival of Shavuot celebrates the “giving

of the Torah,” on this evening, we get to celebrate those who give so much to our B’nai Israel family. After services we’ll all share the Shavuot tradition of consuming dairy products at our Ice Cream Social!

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Judaica Shop

The Sisterhood Judaica shop does not have any regular hours in the summer. If you need anything. please call Susan (279-0443) or Terri (864-1566) and we will be happy to help you.

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Poignant Points from the Principal

Shalom B'nai Israel Family, It is hard to believe that the Talmud Torah school year has come to completion, as has my first year as principal. It has been a very rewarding year. I want to thank several people who have made it a very meaningful and fulfilling school year. Allysa Weintraub, the chairperson of our Board of Education has been a huge help to me and our entire staff. She is a wonderful partner in creating a nurturing educational environment at our Congregation B'nai Israel Talmud Torah, Allysa was always available for me to talk to and bounce ideas off of, and to receive important feedback from. I look forward to working in partnership with Allysa for many years to come. Thank you to our entire Board of Education for all of their help, guidance and encouragement. Thank you to our phenomenal staff of teachers for their dedication, devotion, and time spent preparing lessons to educate our students and keep their interest and nurture their love of God, Torah, and Israel. I extend my gratitude to Morah Judy Kessler, our Gan and Alef teacher, Morah Ingrid Nadell, our Bet teacher and my Assistant - thank you for everything, to Morah Judy Rosenbloom, our Gimel and Dalet teacher, to Morah Hadar Lewis, our Heh teacher, to Morah Renee Kitay, our Vav teacher and Hebrew tutor, to Hazzan Steven Walvick, our Vav teacher, to Moreh Joel Weissglass, our Zayin teacher, and to Max Silverstein, our Hebrew tutor, and Rabbi Deborah Miller, our Junior Congregation Facilitator. In addition, thank you to our volunteers in the Talmud Torah - to Ilana Rotem, Russell Shapiro, Haley Wiko and Devon Shapiro. A special thank you to all of our Talmud Torah students for their enthusiasm and devotion to Talmud Torah and their adherence to my snack time guidelines. And special thank you to our snack providers - to Joanne Gethard for buying snacks for USY to sell and to Steven and Matthew Glassoff, Jarrett Weiss, Molly Berger and all the other USY’ers for coming to Talmud Torah to sell snack. A huge thank you to our parents for making sure your students arrived to Talmud Torah on time and stayed until the end of the day, and you made it a priority in their lives. This conscientiousness shows- our students learned this year. Our students know how to read. Their Hebrew reading skills have improved; attendance improved, and students had smiles on their faces during their time at Talmud Torah. If I forgot to thank you - I truly apologize - but thank you! I thank the Congregation B'nai Israel Board and the Congregation B'nai Israel Board of Education for putting your confidence in me to be the principal of the Congregation B'nai Israel Talmud Torah. It is a lot of work, but I love it. It is so fulfilling seeing the students each week. Hearing them read Hebrew, sing Hatikvah, and instill in them the love of God, Torah and Israel. And working with our wonderful Board of Education - a group of incredibly dedicated volunteers and our amazing teachers and devoted teenage volunteers, our energetic students- it doesn't get better than this! I look forward to many more years of living Jewish values, loving Israel, learning Hebrew. I look forward to the next Talmud Torah school year and seeing you over the summer Kayitz Nayim - A pleasant summer to all Rabbi Ellen S. Wolintz-Fields

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Talmud Torah Awards As chosen by each Teacher

Kitah Gimmel – Morah Judy Rosenbloom

Holden Y onah Dempsey – Improved reader

Julianne Chava Sara Geffner – Improved reader; great

penmanship

Jordyn Y arden Touitou – Improved reader

Kitah Dalet – Morah Judy Rosenbloom

Emma Esther Sara Grunin – Outstanding reader

Jill Rachel Weintraub – Outstanding reader

Brandon Y itchak Aharon Wiko – Well behaved in class

Kitah Heh – Morah Hadar Lewis

Amanda Chana Basha Brodsky - Enthusiasm and high accomplishments (she is all around a great student behavior

and grades)

Lauren Esther Chaya Brodsky - Most respectful (and well behaved)

Mykala Michaela Brodzinski - Most improved Hebrew reader

Ryan Ronen Moshe Manus Dean - Most devoted Hebrew school attendee as he comes on his own free will

Cameron Ahuva Tzvia Fields - Most thoughtful and humble

Eddy Feivel Fried - Best sense of humor

Jonathan Dov Geffner - Most improved reader (and very articulate)

Rebecca Rivka Miriam Grunin - Being terrific reader

Hannah Chana Fruma Kaufman - Most motivated and helpful student

Hannah Pesha Ita Repole - All around mensch

Ian Y itzchak Chayim Singer – Enthusiasm and Menschlicht

Rachel Rikva Freida Singer - Creativity

Jillian Reizel Winderbaum - Most respectful (and easy-going)

Kitah Vav – Morah Renee Kitay / Hazzan Steven Walvick

Rachel Rachel Dispoto - Most Cooperative

Phillip Feivel Fried - Most Reliable

Victoria Y a’akova Geffner - Most Considerate

Kayla Kayla Aura Landesberg - Most Energetic

Jason Aryeh Lindenbaum - Calmest Presence

Jacob Y osef Marshall - Most Dedicated

Arielle Sheindel Touitou - Most Steadfast Learner

Jessica Malka Weintraub - Most Enthusiastic

Sarah Sarah Rachel Werner - Most Improved

Kitah Zayin – will be listed in the next Kolenu, after Zayin graduation takes place

TALMUD TORAH CLOSING CEREMONIES

SUNDAY MAY 18, 2014

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MEN’S CLUB CONGREGATION B’NAI ISRAEL PRESENTS “STAND-FOR-ISRAEL” SEMINAR By Megina Mittleberg

“At B’nai Israel, we take our commitment to CBI’s young adults and our commitment to Israel very seriously.” The CBI’s Men’s Club’s yearly “Stand-for-Israel” seminar, held on May 5

th, is one of the ways in

which we reinforce a strong bond between our Hebrew School students and Israel” says Regional Federation of Jewish Men’s Club’s President, Joel Kurtz. The focus of the “Stand-for-Israel” seminar is to foster love for Israel and emphasize its importance in Jewish life, to raise students’ awareness, and to facilitate their ability to deal with anti-Semitism, especially as it presently exists on college campuses. The film, “Israel Inside,” which follows the transformation of the State of Israel from its origins to its present status as world leader in cutting-edge technology “really impressed and amazed me and my classmates,” according to one student. Guest speaker, Ferne Hassan, Associate Director of the “Stand With Us…Supporting Israel Around The World,” Philadelphia Chapter, spoke to students, their families and CBI members about the groundbreaking work her organization is doing. “This innovative program provides our young adults with the support and resources they need in order to handle difficult situations they may encounter at school, which is especially important for Hebrew High graduates who are going off to college,” says CBI Men’s Club President, Hy Mittleberg.

Penat Ivrit – Hebrew Corner פינת עברית

Vegetables

beet selek סלק

tomatoes agvaneeyot עגבניות

parsley petrozeelya פטרוזיליה

mushrooms peetreeyot פטריות

pepper pilpel ל פלפ

squash keeshu׳eem קשואים

garlic shum שום

dill shameer שמיר

beans shu׳eet שעועית

corn teeras תירס

potato tapu׳ach adama תפוח אדמה

spinach tered תרד

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EREV SHAVUOT, Tuesday evening, June 3, 2014 FIRST DAY OF SHAVUOT , Wednesday, June 4, 2014 SECOND DAY OF SHAVUOT , Thursday, June 5, 2014

SHAVUOT SCHEDULE 5774

Tuesday, June 3, 2014 Erev Shavuot Services 7:30pm Men’s Club and Sisterhood Officers Installations during Evening Services Shavuot Ice Cream Social Reception in the Social Hall followed by Tikkun Leyl Shavuot Discussion facilitated by Rabbi Ellen S. Wolintz-Fields and Hazzan Steven Walvick—”Sacred Texts We Struggle With and Why?”

If you would like to bring a sacred text (ex: Biblical or Talmudic passage, prayer, saying, poem, song, story etc.) that you struggle with, and Would like to present and discuss with the group the night of Shavuot Study Group (the Tikkun Leyl Shavuot) please contact Rabbi Wolintz-Fields before noon on Tuesday, June 3. ([email protected])

Wednesday, June 4, 2014 First Day Shavuot Services 9:00am Hebrew High School and Kitah Zayin Graduation 7:30pm followed by an Ice Cream and Cheesecake Dessert Reception

Thursday, June 5, 2014 Second Day Shavuot Services 9:00am YIZKOR- Memorial Services 10:30am

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SHAVUOT 5774 HISTORICAL BACKGROUND

A Pilgrim Festival Shavuot, the Feast of Weeks (Chag Ha-Shavuot in Hebrew), is so called because it is celebrated seven weeks (Shavuot) and one day after the second day of Passover. The seven weeks between Passover and Shavuot are known as the Omer. Various alternative names for Shavuot are Chag Hakatzir (Harvest Festival), and Yom Habikkurim (Day of the First Fruits). Shavuot, along with Passover and Sukkot, is one of the three major Pilgrimage Festivals in the Jewish calendar. The pilgrims who came to Jerusalem on Shavuot in Temple times brought with them the first Fruits of the wheat crop that was harvested at that time of year (May-June). Loaves of bread were made from the wheat, and two loaves were offered as a sacrifice on the altar. Pentecost Because Shavuot is celebrated on the fiftieth day after the advent of Passover, it has been called Pentecost, a Greek word meaning A fiftieth (day) after Passover. The Hebrew date is the sixth of Sivan. A Two-day Diaspora Holiday The Bible calls for the observance of Shavuot as a one-day holiday, but because notification that the New Moon had been sighted did not always reach the far-flung Diaspora communities on time, a second day was added to Shavuot (and the other major festivals) to avoid the possibility of celebrating the holiday on the wrong day. Akdamut and Azharot Akdamut, meaning Introduction, is an Aramaic poetic prayer (piyut) read on Shavuot as an introduction to the Torah reading of the day, which describes the events that transpired from the Exodus to the giving of the Torah on Mount Sinai. Only Ashkenazim recite Akdamut. To honor the Torah on Shavuot, Sephardim recite a piyut entitled Azharot, which includes a listing of the 613 positive and negative commandments (mitzvot) of the Torah. Shavuot and Revelation Although in Biblical times Shavuot was an agricultural holiday, in Talmudic times it became associated with the Revelation on Mount Sinai. The Rabbis noted that the agricultural holiday of Shavuot and the events that took place on Mount Sinai occurred in the same season of the year. Torah-study sessions were inaugurated, and Shavuot became a holiday on which to affirm ones loyalty to the Torah and the Jewish way of life. Time of the Giving of the Torah The third-century C.E. talmudic scholar Rabbi Eleazar was probably the first to refer to Shavuot as Zeman Matan Toratenu, A Time of the Giving of the Torah. He noted that on Shavuot it is important to rejoice with good wine and food in celebration of the Revelation on Mount Sinai.

Shavuot Study Period—Tikkun Leyl Shavuot The Zohar, written by the second-century mystic Rabbi Simon bar Yochai, says that it behooves a person to study Torah on the night that Israel received the Torah. In the 16

th century Solomon Alkabetz of Safed introduced the custom of preparing to

celebrate Shavuot by staying up all night to study Torah. The tradition of studying in preparation for the holiday, known as Tikkun Shavuot (Preparing for Shavuot), is still observed in synagogues in a variety of forms, but a few people do stay up for the entire night. One of the books used on this night, known as Tikkun Leyl Shavuot, is an anthology of readings assembled from Biblical, Talmudic, and Kabbalistic sources. This year at Congregation B’nai Israel our Tikkun Leyl Shavuot with an Ice Cream Social will take place on Tuesday, June 3, 2014, immediately following Erev Shavuot Services, which begin at 7:30pm, and will include Men’s Club and Sisterhood Officers Installation. A Jerusalem Tradition In Jerusalem today it is customary for those who have spent the night of Shavuot studying in the local synagogue or other places of assembly to go to the Kotel, the Western Wall, at sunrise for the morning (Shacharit) prayers. Book of Ruth The Book of Ruth is read in the synagogue on Shavuot - the holiday of the giving of the Torah - because Ruth showed her loyalty to the Torah by accepting Judaism. In some synagogues it is read before the Torah reading; in others it is read before the afternoon (Minchah) service.

King David and Ruth According to legend, King David was born and died on the same day, the 6

th of Sivan, which is Shavuot. Ruth is a direct ancestor

of David, and this is another reason, some say, for reading the Book of Ruth on Shavuot.

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SHAVUOT FOODS

Dairy Foods on Shavuot It is traditional to serve dairy foods and honey on Shavuot because of the phrase “honey and milk under their lips,” found in the Song of Songs (4:11), which implies that the words of the Torah energize our spirits as honey and milk do our bodies.

Two Special Challot Two special Challot (“Challahs”) are baked for Shavuot. As there were two breads offered in the Temple, so Jews eat two Challot. It is a special feature of Shavuot to place a braid in the shape of a ladder on top of the bread. In Hebrew, letters all have numerical values assigned to them; the word for ladder in Hebrew, “Sulam,” adds up to the same numbers as “Sinai.”

Cheese Blintzes and Kreplach Two cheese blintzes, representing the two tablets of the Ten Commandments received by Moses on Mount Sinai, are traditionally eaten on Shavuot. Triangular cheese-filled kreplach are also a favorite Shavuot delicacy. The triangle shape represents the three parts of the Bible - Torah, Prophets, and Holy Writings. Borekes Borekes, cheese-filled pastries, are a favorite Sephardic Shavuot treat, particularly among Jews of Turkish origin.

SOME SUGGESTIONS FOR MAKING SHAVUOT MEANINGFUL 1. This is an appropriate season for you and your family to begin reading the Bible on a weekly schedule. 2. This is also the time to begin thinking seriously about registering for a course in Hebrew and/or the Bible for the coming Fall. 3. On Shavuot, one should make every attempt to attend Synagogue Services. 4. Read the story of Ruth from the Bible to your family as part of the Shavuot Eve dinner. 5. You might encourage the children in your family to plant a garden or even a window box plant. 6. To enjoy the festival spirit, you should do all your shopping before the onset of the holiday. 7. Decorate your table with a Shavuot motif, such as summery flowers, a lovely tablecloth and your best silverware. Bring out your polished silver Kiddush cups. 8. Here are some suggestions for a table centerpiece: Arrangement of greens around a Torah scroll. Individual baskets of fruit. Small books between bookends. 9. Like Shabbat, you should light the candles, recite the Kiddush, say the Hamotzi, and chant the Grace After Meals (Birkat Hamazon). 10. It is customary, just before lighting the candles for the holiday, to put some coins in a Tzedakah (charity) box. The children should be invited to participate in this philanthropic experience. 11. The blessings over the holiday candles are: Baruch Attah Adonai, Elohenu Melech HaOlam, Asher Kid-Shanu B’mitzvotav V’tzivanu L’hadlik Ner Shel Yom Tov. Blessed are you, Lord our God, Ruler of the Universe, Who has sanctified us with Your commandments, and commanded us to kindle the lights of the Festival of Shavuot. Baruch Attah Adonai, Elohenu Melech HaOlam, She-He-Che-Yanu, V’key’manu V’hi-Gi-Anu, Lazman Hazeh . Blessed are you, Lord our God, Ruler of the Universe, Who has blessed us with life and enabled us to celebrate this Festival Season. 12.Traditional Shavuot foods should be served. This would be delicacies like blintzes, noodle pudding and cheesecake. 13. The proper greeting for the festival is Chag Sameach, which means "A Happy Holiday," or in Yiddush, Gut Yontof, which means "Good Day."

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Mazel Tov on your Graduation!!!

Our Kitah Zayin Class Our Hebrew High 12th Grade Class

*********************************

If you, your child or grandchild

has a graduation this Spring/Summer, please send an email to Christine at

[email protected] with graduate’s name, school, and their

relationship to you so that we can wish them Mazel Tov.

Date to Remember….. Wednesday, June 4

Shavuot Services 7:30pm Kitah Zayin and Hebrew High School Graduations

Ice Cream/Cheesecake Reception

BE A PATRON ONEG OR KIDDUSH SPONSOR!

Celebrating? Any occasion – be it important events in your child’s life, your work life, or your home life; a graduation, anniversary, anniversary of your Bar/Bat Mitzvah, birthday, engagement, retirement…. A Patron sponsorship is designed to allow you, the congregant, to celebrate special occasions with your congregation family when you are not inviting many outside guests. The food provided by a Patron sponsorship will be ample for the usual number of congregants attending Shabbat Services plus a few invited guests. Consider becoming a Patron sponsor of a Friday night Oneg Shabbat or a Saturday morning Kiddush. Just contact the Synagogue Office to make arrangements for sharing your simcha with our whole Congregation! Thank you to Men’s Club for sponsoring our Kiddush in honor of Men’s Club Shabbat. Thank you to Peter and Alyce Weiss for sponsoring our Oneg and Kiddush in honor of their daughter Dahra marking her Bat Mitzvah. Thank you to the Rosen Family for sponsoring our Oneg and Kiddush Luncheon in honor of The Rosen Shabbaton. Thank you to the Drs. Ariel & Shira Meyer, Marc & Dr. Lisa Kassenoff, Richard & Dr. Deborah Bloom. Michael & Jacey Touitou and Rabbi Ellen & Jonathan Fields for sponsoring our Kiddush in honor of Gan/Alef Kabbalat Siddur.

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YOM HASHOAH 2014 5774

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GUEST SPEAKER RUTH ADLER

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Mazel Tov to…….. - To all those who are celebrating an anniversary this month. - To all those celebrating a birthday this month. - Dr. Steven and Shari Morgan on their daughter Claudia marking her Bat Mitzvah. - Jerry & Tammy Fried on their daughter Aleene marking her Bat Mitzvah. - The Fried, Gethard and Cabey Families on their niece Aleene marking her Bat Mitzvah. - The incoming and outgoing CBI Board of Directors. - The incoming and outgoing Men’s Club Board of Officers. - The incoming and outgoing Sisterhood Board of Officers. - Bert & Corinne Natelson on the birth of their great granddaughter. - Edward & Dina Abramson on the birth of their daughter. - Bob & Bonnie Van Bochove on the marriage of their son Joel to Jessica. - Rabbi Richard & Sharon Hammerman on their daughter Yael Hammerman Rabin’s Rabbinic Ordination from the Rabbinic Theological Seminary.

Samuel Glassoff Doralee Herman Wendy Ehrlich Joshua Grunin Gabriel Whiteman Janett Rotem Raquel Rotem Jean Bonus Jacob Kassenoff Victoria Kaufman Stanley Brown Kurt Kohn Irving Nierenberg Matthew Pelcman Joseph Schwartz Michael Collins Sidney Kassenoff Malwina Rozyn Holden Dempsey Regina Sachs Barry Levine Mitchel Pardes Noel Leifer Eli Rosen Eta Estomin Elaine Isaacson Toby Schier Eric Sambol

Tobias Namenson Morris Spector David Waldman Richard Bolotsky Linda Mauel Adina Steele Ruth Feinstein Dr. David Kleinman Joseph Cabey Aleene Fried Megina Mittleberg Dr. Steven Morgan Bertram Natelson David Pelcman Carol Wolintz Sylvia Davis Cassandra Babcock Frances Kirschner Allysa Weintraub Bradley Collier Hirsz Rozyn Sheryle Mallen Philip Brilliant Nicole Constandaki Sharon Hammerman Susan Jacobs Franklin Lewinson Nikki Meyerberg

May 19 June 1 June 2 June 2 June 2 June 3 June 4 June 6 June 6 June 6 June 7 June 7 June 7 June 7 June 7 June 8 June 8 June 8 June 9 June 9 June 10 June 10 June 11 June 11 June 12 June 13 June 13 June 14

June 15 June 16 June 16 June 17 June 17 June 18 June 19 June 19 June 21 June 21 June 21 June 21 June 21 June 21 June 21 June 23 June 25 June 27 June 27 June 28 June 28 June 29 June 30 June 30 June 30 June 30 June 30 June 30

June Birthdays

A special Yom Huledet Sameach to the following Synagogue members who are celebrating birthdays during the month of June.

Birthday Shabbat for the month of June 14, 2014 at 9:00 am.

DONATED BY Marilyn Gitlin The Eichenwald Family Mr. & Mrs. Kenneth Yodowitz Elaine Meshell Debby Leitstein Joseph Deutschman Joseph Duetschman Barbara Stone Alfred Ornstein Alfred Ornstein Bob & Fran Kirschner Harry & Lillian Greenbaum Lillian Levine Steve & Sharon Lieberman Ruth Guenzburger Nettie Hurdus Harriet Schneider Elaine Isaacson Marty & Lee Sher Niles & Donna Spier Bob & Judy Cook Elaine Caplan Linda Sclarow Irving Davis Linda Umansky Carol Schlesinger Faye Boico

IN MEMORY OF Dr. Milton Gitlin Fritz Eichenwald Jerry Fruchter Eva Kantor Ruth Spedler Lilian Bloom Hyman Greenhouse Neil Stone Paula Ornstein Emil Ornstein Jean Kirschner Arthur Greenbaum Dinah Levine Gertrude Silverman Hilde Guenzburger Hannah N. Wallach Shirley Shaw Frieda Schulman Annie Sher Minnie Spier Sarah Gordon Peterman Israel Caplan Richard Sclarow Harry Davidowitz Morris Umansky Sylvia Oberman Edith Slowatek

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YAHRZEIT FUND

DONATED BY The Brilliant Family Murray Peters Evelyn Shulman Shirley Taff Lillian Sokolow Lillian Sokolow Bob & Donna Foxman Jack & Lenore Matin Jack & Lenore Matin Jack & Lenore Matin Evelyn Tomarin Samurin Evelyn Tomarin Samurin Robert Slotnick Hal & Diane Halvorsen Marty & Irene Goldstein Arthur & Sherry Stein Jerry & Sharon Berkowitz Herbert Katz Stanley & Anita Tutnauer Ruth Shapiro Eugene Bard Mr. & Mrs. J. Nisman Margot Mayer Dr. & Mrs. Ross Schwartz Bea Lieberman Sandra Gottesman Ken & Sylvia Davis Ken & Sylvia Davis Robert & Michele Pardes & Family

IN MEMORY OF Marilyn D. Brilliant Ida Peterkofsky Esther Miller Tessie Yoskowitz Irving Mintz Helena Trust Leo Foxman Harry Petashnick Sylvia Sidell Lena Matin Celia Tomarin Gilbert Samurin Marilyn Slotnick Stephen Follick Henrietta Goldstein Sylvia Federman Minnie Berkowitz Norman Katz Morris Tutnauer Bert Trachtenberg Irving & Sally Bard Allan Nisman Lina Pfaelzer Jack Lieberman Jack Lieberman Anna Cohen Ruth Davis Sarah Morris Richard S. Pardes

Yahrzeit Notifications Do we have all the Yahrzeit dates for your family members?

If you do not get a letter from us for a Yahrzeit, please send the name, English date of death and relationship of person to you. You can call the Synagogue Office 732-349-1244 or email to [email protected]

Congregation B’nai Israel Extends our Deepest Condolences to…. Shirley Taff , Robert and Nava Taff on the passing of her husband and father and our congregant Morris Taff. Roslyn Sherman on the passing of her husband and our congregant Daniel Sherman. Harriet Wolf on the passing of her husband and our congregant Henry Wolf. Lillian Sokolow and Family on the passing of her brother Herman Mintz. Ellyn & Dr. Dennis Lyons on the passing of her step-father Jack Shein. Dr. Allen & Denise Gertner and Lauren, Robert, Jeffrey, Natalie and Caroline Small, on the passing of his mother, her grandmother and their great-grandmother, Helen Gertner.

Now that Ocean County is your home, Why not make it your permanent home?

Reserve a plot in our beautiful and well-maintained Jewish cemetery. Administered for over 50 years by dedicated volunteers with neshama (soul).

B’nai Israel Memorial Park

West Whitty Road at Old Freehold Road, Toms River Under the auspices of Congregation B’nai Israel

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RABBI’S DISCRETIONARY FUND In honor of: My birthday Aliyah Betty Richman My Aliyah Barbara Stone The wedding of James & Emily Kirzot Kurt & Suzanne Kohn In appreciation for: Birthday wishes Evelyn Samurin The Holocaust Memorial Service Gela Buchbinder A Mishaberach Lillian Levine In memory of: Phyllis Cooperman Robert & Fran Kirschner Gregory Heidelberger Neal & Beth Appel Gideon Steele Henry Shery Carol Oppenheim Gus Yacker Sandy Welsher Robert & Fran Kirschner Richard & Jeanette Schatzman Dr. Harold & Elaine Isaacson Martin & Hannah Litowitz Kurt & Suzanne Kohn Miriam Bleznick Henry & Harriet Wolf Dr. Glenn & Susan Jacobs Myra Drozdoff David & Elaine Yelner Hy & Megina Mittleberg Mona Ginsburg Neal & Beth Appel Michael & Elaine Collins Elaine Caplan David & Lauren Rosen Leslie B. Port Aaron Jablon Kurt & Suzanne Kohn Edith Strauss Senior Women’s Club of Beachwood Edith Digiesi Leslie B. Port

RABBI DISCRETIONARY FUND Continued Morris Taff Ridge Realty Rosenberg, Kirby, Cahill, Stankowitz & Richardson Dr. John & Sara Sundheim Dr. Glenn & Susan Jacobs Richard & Jeanette Schatzman Dr. Harold & Elaine Isaacson Margot Mayer C. Nathaniel Bell Bob & Rita Rosenthal Marvin & Phyllis Kerr Leslie B. Port Elaine Meshell

USY FUND In memory of: Gideon Steele Judge Milton & Janice Gelzer Morris Taff Judge Milton & Janice Gelzer Irving Smith Judge Milton & Janice Gelzer

GENERAL FUND In honor of: The baby naming of Willow Marie Richelson Eileen Palmeri In appreciation for: Ruth Guenzburger and Alice Pomaski, doing Religious Services Green Acres Manor

MUSIC FUND In honor of: Hazzan Walvick, thank you Carol Oppenheim Refuah Shelema for Hazzan’s Leg Toby Schier In appreciation for: Mishaberach said for Robert Bryson Sandi Sosinski

EDUCATIONAL ENDOWMENT FUND In honor of: Bert & Corinne Natelson birth of Granddaughter Herb Bunis Edward & Dina and Martin Abramson on birth of daughter and granddaughter Fred & Evelyn Weil My Aliyah Irene Wolinsky In memory of: Sam Buczek Irene Wolinsky Edith Strauss Kelly Josberger, Toms River Administrative and Supervisory Council Gideon Steele Elaine Meshell

MITZVAH CARE FUND In appreciation for: Sending Susan Jacobs to take me to doctors Doris Wichnovitz In memory of: Phyllis Cooperman Marilyn Gitlin RITUAL FUND In appreciation for: Prayers said for my friend Maryann Doris Wichnovitz JNF TREES In honor of: Barry Levine’s 70th birthday Adina Steele

From Generation to Generation

Congregation B’nai Israel Gratefully

Acknowledges the Following Contributions

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Wedding Anniversaries

A special MAZEL TOV to the following synagogue members who are celebrating anniversaries during the month of June

Anniversary Shabbat for the month of June will be Friday, June 13, 2014 at 7:30 PM.

Thank you to the following people who have donated to the Kiddush Fund in honor of their anniversary: Murray & Penny Peters in honor of their 68th anniversary

Fred & Evelyn Weil in honor of their 37th anniversary

1 Jay & Aileen Stone 3 Wayne & Diane Jarrett 6 Lawrence & Robin Silvers 7 Michael & Chris Fried 9 Mitchell & Mimi Erlitz 10 Sydney & Charlotte Krupnick 13 Samuel & Elsa Abrahamovic 14 Steven & Marion Pardes 15 Jarrod & Rachael Kaufman 16 Stanley & Anita Tutnauer

IT IS A TREE OF LIFE TO THOSE WHO UPHOLD IT

You can give an exceptional gift by sharing your simcha. Add a leaf to our Tree of Life OR reserve some for the future. Please call me, Arlene Neugarten at 732-929-0545 or call the Office, 732- 349-1244 for more information. You can also chip in with friends to share a special birthday, marriage, anniversary, bar/bat mitzvah, graduation, birth of a child or grandchild, etc. June is usually the months for graduations, weddings, and anniversaries. Hoping to hear from you.

Your check for $150.00 each is made payable to Congregation B’nai Israel. You get 4 lines and 29 spaces per Leaf. Wishing you and yours good health and all that you wish for and a wonderful summer. Shalom, Arlene

RABBI YAEL ORA HAMMERMAN JTS ORDINATION—MAY 22, 2014 ABBA-IMA-LEAH-JOSH-HANNAH

EYTAN-REBECCA-ARY-RENA-LANI

TO THE BOARD & VOLUNTEERS THANKS FOR YOUR HARD WORK &

DEVOTION DURING MY PRESIDENCY PHILIP I. BRILLIANT 2011-2014

17 Richard & Sharon Hammerman 17 Harry & Margaret Pelcman 18 Neal & Beth Appel 18 Joel & Danielle Musicant 19 Evan & Monica Winderbaum 21 Avrum & Joanne Glassoff 24 Eric & Cynthia Sambol 24 Allen & Nancy Shechter 25 Albert & Elaine Perdeck 26 Allan & Ardis Cohen

27 Ernest & Lore Feldman 27 Jack & Susan Schwartz 27 John & Sara Sundheim 28 Jacob & Ruth Feinstein 29 Ari & Stacy Nisman 29 Robert & Gail Reichman 29 Samuel & Regina Sachs 30 Aaron & Elaine Jackson 30 Emanuel & Rhoda Kuflik 30 Arthur & Sherry Stein

Thank you to those who added the following to our Tree of Life:

TO RABBI, HAZZAN AND STAFF THANKS FOR YOUR SUPPORT &

SERVICE DURING MY PRESIDENCY

ALEENE MARCELLA FRIED BAT MITZVAH 6-28-14

ALL OUR LOVE, MOM, DAD MATTHEW, EDWARD & LILLIAN

B’not Mitzvah Spotlight

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Claudia Danielle Morgan

Bat Mitzvah

6/7/2014

Claudia was born May 18th, 2001 shortly after her family moved to Toms River. She is the youngest of 3, with an older brother Jake and older sister Lexi Claudia has been a student of Congregation B'nai Israel's Hebrew School program since she was 3 years old. Through these past 10 years she has learned so much and is very excited to mark her Bat Mitzvah this June. Besides her Hebrew studies Claudia has been an Honor student the last two years in Toms River Intermediate North School. She enjoys Dance class and competitions, snowboarding, going to the beach in the summer and spending time with her family and friends. We are very proud of her ! Mazel Tov! We Love you Claudia, Mom, Dad, Jacob and Alexis

Aleene Marcella Fried

Bat Mitzvah

6/28/2014

Aleene Marcella Fried is a seventh grade student at Intermediate North. She is in the Kitah Zayin class and is also involved in Kadima. Aleene has been studying very hard for her Bat Mitzvah over the past months, but in her free time she enjoys playing volleyball for her school team, singing in chorus, and spending time with her friends and family. She loves playing with her two dogs, Triton and Keepah, and her many bunnies. Some of her favorite memories are of her family vacations to the Atlantis, playing under the hot sun with all of her cousins, brothers and sister. Aleene’s dream career is to become a fashion designer, creating new styles of clothing for doctors and nurses. The Fried family is very proud of Aleene for all of the dedication she had put into her Bat Mitzvah and we look forward to celebrating with her on this special day. Congratulations Aleene!!!!! With all our love, Mom, Dad, Matthew, Edward and Lillian

Congregation B’nai Israel

We are looking for volunteers to deliver meals to homebound seniors in the Toms River area.

Meal pick up is at Congregation B’nai Israel around 11:30 am. Delivery is mainly in the senior communities in the area. It takes less than two hours to pack the meals and deliver them. Training will be held for the volunteers that have not delivered before. Directions are given to all the homes. The homebound seniors that receive these meals look forward to seeing you come with their meal. This is more fun if done with two persons. For more information call: Christine @ CBI 732-349-1244 or Sandy Ottenberg @ 732-505-5953

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MEMBERSHIP MOMENT We’re happy to announce that the following members have recently formed a new CBI Membership Committee: Megina Mittleberg Membership Chair Bob Foxman Irwin Natter Terri Gibbor Michael Perks Alice Pomaski Hy Mittleberg Sandi Shapiro As regards membership, the group has decided to not focus on “the numbers,” (although important), but to, instead, focus on “R & R,” Recruitment & Retention, which we’ve learned much about from our mentor, Phil Brilliant; these aspects of Membership relate more appropriately to the ACTUAL FUNCTION of the Membership Committee than do numbers. There was much to discuss at the Committee’s first meeting on May 21 and appointment of various Committee Chairs was not one of the topics the Committee was able to address at this time, but will be handled at the next Membership meeting. The Committee plans to be proactive and energetic in both its pursuit of increasing membership and in enhancing the “CBI experience” for new members. The new Membership Committee hopes to receive the cooperation, help and support of both CBI leadership and congregants.

Join us as we Honor the Outgoing and Incoming Board of CBI

with a Shabbat Dinner on

Friday, June 13 at 6pm.

Shabbat services/Anniversary Shabbat and installation will follow at 7:30. Reservations required by Monday, June 9th. $18/person or $36/household.

__________________________________________________________________________________________ Outgoing and Incoming Board of CBI Shabbat Dinner

Friday, June 13, 2014 at 6:00pm $18 per person or $36 per household

Name___________________________________________________________________________________________________ Adults________________ Children_________________ Amount Paid______________________________________ Please send in Reservation with payment to CBI * 1488 Old Freehold Road * Toms River * NJ 08753 NO LATER than Monday, June 9, 2014.

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A Note from the Library….

Thank you for your donations of used books. We do appreciate them. However, we have a limited amount of space in our Library.

Please call Jeanne Littman at 732 657 5619, to make arrangements to bring your books to the Synagogue. Dropping off your books without pre arrangements makes it very difficult

to organize the limited space in our Library. We hope you take full advantage of the wonderful collection of books we have accumulated over the years in our Library

****Bar/Bat Mitzvah****

We will feature an article about each child who will be marking a Bar or Bat Mitzvah. We ask that you email a recent photograph (wallet size)

to the Synagogue Office, of your child, as well as a short bio.

The information must be emailed to Christine at [email protected], no later than the first Friday of the month prior to the month that your child will be marking his/her Bar/Bat Mitzvah.

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Contact the Synagogue Office if you need the password information.

Congregation B’nai Israel Memorial Park

We never know when the end of life will come. The only thing for sure is that it will be at a very inconvenient time. Why should your family members have to quickly decide where you are to be buried? Why should they have to quickly choose a funeral home for you?

You should have the honor of a funeral service in the synagogue or in a chapel, where those who knew you will accord you the dignity you deserve. But if you do not arrange for this during your lifetime, maybe your family members will say “Let’s do a graveside service—it’s cheaper.” And then, what if the day of your funeral is very rainy or hot or cold? Then they will say “Hurry up and get it over with.” Is that what you would want? Certainly not.

End-of-life decisions should be for you to make—not anyone else. You deserve to choose your own burial place and funeral arrangements. Don’t put this off and leave it to others after you are gone. Contact Fred Weil, our Cemetery Chairman, who will give you guidance in making these decisions for yourself. Your family will be eternally grateful.

Fred M. Weil, Cemetery Chairman

Phone: 732-797-0197 Email: [email protected]

PJ LIBRARY IS A JEWISH FAMILY ENGAGEMENT program implemented on a local level throughout North America. We mail, high-quality Jewish children's literature and music to families across the continent on a monthly basis.

PJ Library is a program of the Harold Grinspoon Foundation, made possible through partnerships with philanthropists and local Jewish organizations. Today, families in hundreds of communities across the United States and Canada are able to explore the timeless core values of Judaism through books and music. The Jewish Federation of Ocean County is the local funder for this program.

All families raising Jewish children from six months up to six years old are welcome to sign up. Grandparents and other relatives can buy subscriptions on line for children who do not live in our community and do not have a sponsor in the child’s

families community. http://www.pjlibrary.org/

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We are working towards bringing more information to the

Congregation via e-mail

and Constant Contact. Please be sure to give us

your e-mail address! Send them to:

[email protected] or call the Synagogue Office at 732-349-1244

We want to be confident that all of our members are being informed with the Shabbat Weekly Bulletin and other important email notifications of

events that are happening here at Congregation B’nai Israel.

Have you “LIKED” us yet on Facebook?

Go to Congregation B’nai Israel, Toms River, NJ’s page and like us today!

follow us on Twitter @CBITOmSRIVER

Before shopping on the internet, have you remembered to list Congregation B’nai Israel Toms River, NJ as your chosen charity??

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Jewish Family & Children’s Service of the Jewish Federation of Ocean County

In conjunction with Congregation B’nai Israel Is pleased to announce the continuation of:

“Grief After Loss” Every Monday, 1:00 PM—2:30 PM,

At Congregation B’nai Israel For more information, or to register, contact:

Jewish Family & Children’s Service 732-363-8010

BE A LAY CHAPLAIN VOLUNTEER Generosity + Gratitude = Fullness of Spirit

One day per month, bring a little Shabbat to a local Nursing Home.

Materials supplied or design your own Ritual

The feeling of giving, of helping, of bringing something Jewish to a person who is unable to come to Services or light their own Shabbat Candles or say Kiddush, fills the hearts of all.

BE A LAY CHAPLAN

Joanne Lancin can answer questions. Please call: 732-270-5403

Help a low-income family achieve and sustain independence…..

BE A MENTOR

Make a Difference—Be a Family Mentor Your encouragement and support can make a real difference in the life of a low-income, formerly homeless family that is struggling to become more self-reliant. The IHN PLUS Mentoring Program, developed to extend the services of The Interfaith Hospitality Network, connects volunteer mentors with families who are trying to create more positive futures. 1-2 hours per week for one year plus initial training class is required. To learn more, contact IHN AT 732-736-1550 or [email protected].

Interfaith Hospitality Network of Ocean County Phone (732) 736-1550 Website: www.ihnoc.com

Are you looking for something to do with your family ?? What about doing a good deed for someone in need?

Perhaps shopping for an elderly person that is no longer able to drive? Or maybe a visit to a Senior Citizen who doesn’t have any family close by?

Become a volunteer for Caregiver Volunteers of Central Jersey.

There are many ways you can help. Here are a few:

Transportation to medical visits, grocery shopping, friendly phone calls and visits, and more…

All our Services are free for our seniors and volunteers receive a rewarding experience while making a difference in someone’s life!

For more information: www.caregivervolunteers.org or call (732) 505-2273

CONGREGATION B’NAI ISRAEL

Rabbi Ellen S. Wolintz-Fields Hazzan Steven Walvick Rabbi Emeritus Richard Hammerman Cantor Emeritus Daniel Green

SERVICE SCHEDULE Friday Services: 7:30 PM Sunday Morning Services: 9:00 AM Saturday Morning Services: 9:00 AM Monday through Friday Services: 7:45 AM Friday Junior Congregation 7:30 PM Saturday Junior Congregation 10:15 AM

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Sunday, June 1, 2014 - Morning Minyan 9:00am - USY/Kadima/Tzofim Trip/Hershey Park Monday, June 2, 2014 - Morning Minyan for Bat Mitzvah of Claudia Morgan 7:45am Tuesday, June 3, 2014 - Candle Lighting 8:04pm Erev Shavuot - - Men’s Club/Sisterhood Installation 7:30pm - Tikkun Leyle Shavuot - Ice Cream Social Wednesday, June 4, 2014 - Shavuot - Office Closed - Morning Services 9:00am - Hebrew High School Graduation/Kitah Zayin Graduation 7:30pm - Ice Cream/Cheesecake Reception Thursday, June 5, 2014 -Shavuot/Yizkor - Office Closed - Morning Services 9:00am - Yizkor 10:30am Friday, June 6, 2014 - Evening Services - Candle Lighting 8:06pm Saturday, June 7, 2014 - The Bat Mitzvah of Claudia Morgan 9:00am - Parashat Beha’alotecha

Sunday, June 8, 2014 - Morning Minyan 9:00am Friday, June 13, 2014 - Evening Services 7:30pm - CBI Board of Officers Installation 7:30pm - Anniversary Shabbat 7:30pm - Candle Lighting 8:10pm Saturday, June 14, 2014 - Birthday Shabbat 9:00am - Parashat Shelach Sunday, June 15, 2014 - Morning Minyan 9:00am Friday, June 20, 2014 - Musical Shabbat (tentative date) - Evening Services 7:30pm - Candle Lighting 8:12pm Saturday, June 21, 2014 - Shabbat Morning Services 9:00am - Parashat Korach Sunday, June 22, 2014 - Morning Minyan 9:00am Friday, June 27, 2014 - Evening Services 7:30pm - Candle Lighting 8:13pm Saturday, June 28, 2014 - The Bat Mitzvah of Aleene Fried 9:00am - Parashat Chukat/Rosh Chodesh

Sunday, June 29, 2014 - Rosh Chodesh - Morning Minyan 9:00am Friday, July 4, 2014 - Independence Day - Office Closed - Morning Minyan 9:00am - Evening Services 7:30pm - Candle Lighting 8:12pm Saturday, July 5, 2014 - Shabbat Morning Services 9:00am - Parashat Balak Sunday, July 6, 2014 - Morning Minyan 9:00am Friday, July 11, 2014 - Musical Shabbat (tentative date) - Anniversary Shabbat 7:30pm - Candle Lighting 8:09pm Saturday, July 12, 2014 - Birthday Shabbat 9:00am - Parashat Pinchas Sunday, July 13, 2014 - Morning Minyan 9:00am Friday, July 18, 2014 - Evening Services 7:30pm - Candle Lighting 8:05pm Saturday, July 19, 2014 - Shabbat Morning Services 9:00am - Parashat Matot

TRANSPORTATION The Mitzvah Care Fund of Congregation B'nai Israel provides transportation for Congregation members

to all Services as well as any other Synagogue Event. Please call Sandy Welsher at (732) 505-1417 to make arrangements.

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June 2014

Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat

1 USY/Kadima/

Tzofim trip/

Hershey Park

2 Morning Minyan

for Bat Mitzvah

Claudia Morgan

7:45 am

3

Sisterhood/Men’s

Club Installation

7:30pm

Ice Cream Social

Tikkun Leyl Shavuot

Erev Shavuot

4

Kitah Zayin/

Hebrew High

School

Graduation

7:30pm

Shavuot

5 AM Services

9:00am

Yizkor 10:30am

Shavuot

6 Evening Services

7:30pm

Candle Lighting 8:06pm

7 Bat Mitzvah of

Claudia Morgan

9am

Beha’alotecha

8 TT

Men’s Club

Exercise 9:30am

Hazak 1pm

9

10

CBI Board Mtg

7:30pm

11

Calendar Mtg.

7pm

12 13

Board Installation

Dinner 6:00pm

Anniversary

Shabbat 7:30pm

Candle Lighting

8:10pm

14 Birthday Shabbat

9am

Shelach

15

Fathers Day

16

17

18

NNJR Men’s

Club President

Dinner

19

20 Musical Shabbat

(tentative date)

Evening Services

7:30pm

Candle Lighting

8:12pm

21

Shabbat Services

9am

Korach

22

23

24

25

26

27

Evening Services

7:30pm

Candle Lighting

28

Bat Mitzvah of

Aleene Fried

9:00am

Chukat

Rosh Chodesh

29

Rosh Chodesh

30

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2

3

4 Morning Minyan

9am

Office Closed

Evening Services

7:30pm

Candle Lighting

8:12pm

5

Shabbat Services

9am

Balak

6 7

8

9

10

11

Musical Shabbat

(tentative date)

Anniversary

Shabbat 7:30pm

Candle Lighting

8:09pm

12 Birthday Shabbat

9am

Pinchas

13

14

15 Sheva Asar

B’Tammuz

Fast Day

16

17

18

Evening Services

7:30pm

Candle Lighting

8:05pm

19

Shabbat Services

9am

Matot

20

21

22

23

24

25

Evening Services

7:30pm

Candle Lighting 8:00pm

26

Masei

27

28

Rosh Chodesh

29

30 31

Tammuz/Av

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